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Discover The One Powerful Skill That Will Turn You Into an Exceptional Lover

A true master in the art of making love knows that every woman has different wants and needs. Therefore, a lover a can only really become a masterful lover to the one woman he takes the time to learn.

A masterful lover realizes that each woman will have specific tastes in the bedroom. While one woman might like her man to be rough, another might prefer her man to take the more gentle approach.

The Sexual Uniqueness of Men and Women

Yes, like men, every woman will have the same basic likes and dislikes, but that is only on the surface. Think about it, while most of us like the taste of fruit, some of us prefer an orange over a banana.

This is what makes every man and woman unique. It is this uniqueness that a masterful lover will try to discover and appreciate in his partner, thus will take the necessary time needed in order to truly know what turns his woman on.

No matter what techniques you learn, none of them will really matter if you have no idea what your woman’s true desires are. Therefore, if you want to become an exceptional lover in your woman’s eyes, it is important that you learn one very important skill;

The Art of Paying Attention To Her

In order to master the “art of paying attention”, you need to learn to listen to every moan and groan your woman makes while you are making love with her. Now there is a difference between listening and really listening. I am talking about the type of listening that is able to interpret each moan and groan your woman makes.

You have to find out if a certain groan means that she likes what you are doing, or if it means that you should stop what you are doing. This takes time, concentration, and patience.

In order to successfully interpret every noise that your woman makes, you also need to learn to pay attention to every movement she makes during sex. Is she squirming her pelvis during a cunnilingus session because she is enjoying what you are doing, or is it because she is signaling you to stop as she is feeling uncomfortable with the type of stimulation you are applying?

By paying attention to both her movements and noises, you will soon be able to get an accurate interpretation what she is feeling, and what she would really like you to do to her.

The Importance of Verbal Communication During Lovemaking

Verbal communication also plays a big part in the “Art of Paying Attention”. I am talking about the type of communication that goes on during a love making session. This is where you really have to be careful. If you ask too many questions, you will simply annoy your partner.

In order to verbally communicate with her , you have to do it in such a way that it actually becomes part of the love making ritual. There are many ways to find out exactly what your woman likes or dislikes, while at the same time using the question and tone of your voice to turn her on and keep her on that “erotic high.”

An example of this would be to seductively ask your woman how she is feeling while you are stimulating any part of her hot zones.

Keep the questions short and make them sound sexy.

For example, the wrong way to do it would be to stop what you are doing and say something like this; “Now, when I move my finger up and down like this, does it make you feel excited, or should I rather move it in a circular motion.Really, which one is better; up and down like so, or circular like so …”. At this point you might as well put your clothes on, politely say goodbye to her, and show yourself out. Don’t forget to shut the door behind you.

Communicating the Right Way During Sex

The right way to verbally communicate with your woman during sex is by continuing to do what you are doing, and while you are doing it, say the following softly in the most sensual and sexiest voice you can muster; “does that feel good?”, or “do you like that?”.

Now, if you have “paid attention”, you will realize something very important. Not only are the questions short, but they also require a simple yes or no. This ensures that your woman does not have to strain her self too much by having to pull herself out of concentration to answer your long “philosophical” questions. She simply has to say yes, no, nod, shake her head, say “hmmm hmmm”, or “mhhhh mhhhh”.

Another thing to keep in mind, as short and sexy as these questions may seem, don’t ask them after every friggin move you try on your woman. That will also bug the hell out of her. The perfect balance is to verbally ask her a question now and then, while at the same time paying attention to every noise and movement she makes. Once you have accomplished that, you will be well on your way to becoming an exceptional lover.

Discover How The Foods You Eat Affect Your Performance In Bed!

By edwardwhite

What you eat at the dinner table has a massive effect on how well you perform in the sack, and that’s a fact.

The length of your performance, the quality of your sexual technique and even the strength and reliability of your erections are all, to some degree or another, controlled by the foods you eat on a daily basis.

I know that’s a bold statement. But think of the relationship between your food and your sexual performance like the fuel used by your car.

Put the wrong type of gas in and, if you’re lucky, you’ll just about splutter a few feet, for a few seconds.

Eat the wrong foods and your sexual performance will be similarly impacted: you’ll conk out sooner and generally perform more poorly than if you were eating the best things, most of the time.

Okay, the question’s been posed: What can you eat to boost your sexual prowess? And how can the foods you consume improve your ability to put in, time and time again, a powerful and multi-orgasmic sexual performance for you and the woman you’re with?

First on the menu: Sexual Super-foods.

Sexual super-foods are the absolute best things you can eat to help you out in the bedroom, because they contain chemicals, fibers and vitamins that are all suited to boosting and improving your body in relation to love-making.

There are 7 different sexual super-foods, each containing a different selection of natural ingredients and therefore each targeting different areas of sexual skill. I’m going to tell you about one of them right now.

The blueberry is a sexual super-food often referred to as ‘nature’s little blue pill’ because of its remarkable similarities to the wonder drug ‘Viagra’. However, unlike ‘Viagra’, blueberries are cheap, readily available and able to be consumed in bulk!

The beauty of blueberries in regards to maximizing your sexual ability lies in what they contain. Firstly, they’re loaded with soluble fiber, which helps push excess cholesterol through your digestive system before it can be broken down, absorbed and deposited in your arteries.

They’re also packed with compounds that help relax your blood vessels and improve circulation throughout your body. The benefit of lower cholesterol and improved blood flow is more blood to you penis during sex and firmer erections as you get older. To harness the powers of this sexual super-food, which include stronger, longer lasting erections, pop a handful of blueberries into a fruit smoothie a couple of times a week.

Next on the menu: General nutrition and Health

To most people, eating the right foods at the right times is a boring, fairly unfulfilling prospect. I mean, we all know of the overall health benefits of eating right, but we don’t generally care very much about sticking to strict diets, especially considering the time and effort usually involved in doing so.

But if most men knew about how much their sexual ability and performance would improve if they simply improved their diets a little and upped their exercise just slightly, they’d be amazed.

It breaks down like this. Eating healthily improves your cardio-vascular fitness (your stamina) and helps maintain high levels of energy; both vital components of any impressive, lengthy sexual performance.

A secondary product of eating well, which stems from your high levels of energy and endurance, is a positive mental attitude. In essence, feeling happy and stress-free. These kinds of feelings come about naturally when you eat well because your body is chemically balanced and has high stores of usable energy.

You don’t need to go crazy when it comes to improving your diet to notice a big improvement in your sexual ability. A great place to start is by always, always eating breakfast. But not just any breakfast.

Eating cereal that is high in thiamine and riboflavin (check the label) helps your body store energy efficiently, which will come in really handy when you get down and dirty later in the day! Also, eat breads and cereals with lots of niacin in them (again, check the nutritional fact labels). Niacin is a vitamin that’s essential for the secretion of histamine. Your body needs histamine in order to control and trigger explosive orgasms!

Lastly, always get that minimum of 5 portions of fruit and vegetables in a day. You’ll really notice the difference eating them makes, in and out of the bedroom.

Okay, so there you have it. A good general diet can be used as a base, which gives you the fundamental levels of energy, fiber and vitamins needed to perform well in bed.

Then, the 7 sexual super-foods can be eaten to naturally boost specific chemical levels in your body and thereby further improve your body’s sexual capabilities. You’ve learned about one of those 7 sexual super-foods already.

The bottom-line? Eat better, perform better!

How to Intensify Your Woman’s Orgasms

By paultony

Ask any woman what she would prefer; multiple orgasms, or one extremely powerful orgasm? Most likely she will choose the second option.

Okay, now take it one step further; ask her if she would prefer multiple orgasms, or powerful mind blowing multiple orgasms.

Now that you see the bigger picture, let me show you some powerful techniques to intensify your woman’s orgasms to new heights;

Tease your Woman and Create anticipation

Most “sexperts” will tell you to take your time during foreplay, and they are right. However, there is more to it than just taking your time. Every bit of time spent must count. Pointlessly taking your time will only bore your woman.

However, taking your time to tease your woman will drive her crazy and keep her on an “erotic high”. All she will care about is hoping that you will make her cum, because she has such an itch for it.

You can apply this technique even before you get under the covers with your woman. Begin by flirting with your partner during the day. This will give you a feel as to whether she is in the mood for a lovemaking session or not. Once you have confirmation that she is, move to the next step of teasing her.

At different intervals during the day, do something a little naughty to her. Start off lightly by whispering sexy words into her ears. Tell her what you are going to do to her later that day. Then walk away.

The next time you brush past your partner, kiss her lightly and seductively, and when you feel she is wanting to kiss you more, pull away, but do it with a mischievous smile. Once again, walk away. This will show her how much control you have over your desires.

At this point your woman will be feeling a little frustrated, and maybe even a little annoyed. However, she will most likely be hoping that you approach her again so that she can regain some control.

When you do walk past her again, grab her a little more passionately, and give up just a little more control, but just when your partner thinks she has regained control of the situation, pull away.

By doing this, you are teasing her and building anticipation into her mind. The anticipation in turn will put your woman in a higher state of arousal. She has an itch, and she is dying to get it scratched, and she wants you to scratch that itch real bad.

The Trick To Keeping Her On The Erotic High

The trick is to keep your woman on this “erotic high”.

Once you and your partner are finally under the covers, you can continue to tease her. If you are performing cunnilingus, tease her by going as close to her clitoris as possible without ever touching it. By the time you finally do, her “erotic high” will reach a new level.

At this point you can bring your woman close to orgasm, then stop and move away to stimulate another area on her body. Continue to do this until she can’t take it anymore. When she finally reaches orgasm, she will be in a state of bliss.

Amplified Trigger Response Technique

If you have being paying attention, you would have noticed something very important. You would have noticed that the techniques you are using to intensify your woman’s orgasms are by stimulating her mind. The amplified Trigger response is a more direct example of mind stimulation.

It is important to keep in mind that timing plays a crucial part when it comes to using this technique. The “amplified Trigger Response” has to be applied just before your woman reaches an orgasm, and must continue during her orgasmic state.

This technique can be approached in two ways; by direct touch, or by what she hears. However, both approaches have the same end goal of triggering a thought or feeling in her mind that amplifies her state of arousal just before she reaches the ultimate height of ecstasy. This in turn will escalate that height of ecstasy.

Amplified Trigger Response Technique Through Touch

This technique is especially effective when you are performing cunnilingus, or when you are fingering your partner. Before going down on your woman, mentally pick a part of your partner’s body ( preferably one of her erogenous zones) that you will avoid touching while performing cunnilingus on her.

In this example we will choose the nipples, and we will use cunnilingus as a method of stimulation.

Now tell your partner to lie back with her eyes closed and relax. During the cunnilingus session, you may let your hands freely explore your woman’s body. However, whatever you do, don’t go near her breasts and nipples. Keep doing this until you feel she is within seconds of reaching an orgasm.

When she reaches this point, begin lightly pulling on her nipples. Keep on doing this until she has completed her orgasm. The unexpected yet welcomed action will trigger some erotic feeling in her mind, thus intensifying her orgasm.

Amplified Trigger Response Technique Through Sound

This technique is effective through cunnilingus, fingering and intercourse. However, we will continue to use cunnilingus in order to show an example of this technique.

Let your partner lie back with her eyes closed. Feel free to explore her body with your hands. Yes, you may touch the breasts too. Once you feel she is within seconds of reaching an orgasm, start moaning and groaning until she has fully completed her orgasm.

Once again, the unexpected yet welcomed action will trigger some erotic feeling in her mind, thus intensifying her orgasm.

Now feel free to combine the two methods of this technique to create something new. Your imagination is a powerful sex toy. By using it correctly, you can come up with many new techniques to give your woman a good time.

Men, Do You Know the 3 Reasons She’s Unhappy With Your Sex Life?

By cynthiaperkins

Many women are not having a sex life that is as satisfying as they would like it to be, because their sexual needs are not being met adequately in their relationship.

There are three main reasons that this occurs that both men and women should be aware of that will enable them to help her find more pleasurable sexual experiences.

1. She doesn’t know what those needs are

Sometimes women don’t really understand their own body and how it works. They don’t know what it is that will arouse them or bring them to orgasm.

They may have been brought up to believe it is shameful to explore their body and find out what is pleasurable for them or they don’t understand the necessity. Since she doesn’t know what her sexual needs are, she can’t communicate them to her lover or take the necessary steps to get them met herself.

She knows something is wrong in her sexual adventures, but can’t put her finger on it.

2. He has learned from the wrong sources.

Don’t believe what you hear in the locker room or the standard porn movies. Most men learn about sex from porn movies or from their buddies who are sharing misinformation they learned in porn movies. Traditional skin flicks do not portray realistic situations between people who care about one another.

First of all these types of adult movies are designed for the pleasure of men, not women. So most everything you’re seeing comes from the man’s point of view and what he fantasizes about, not the woman’s.

Contrary to what they teach, having a big penis and thrusting like an Olympic gold medalist is not going to make your woman squeal with multiple orgasms. It’s not likely to bring her to even one orgasm. Additionally, although a woman may allow her man to indulge once in a while, most women do not get off by having semen squirted all over their face.

If you watch standard porn movies, such as Debbie Does Dallas, you need to be aware that what you are watching is for entertainment purposes only. It is not the way things are in reality.

Not only do they portray inaccurate information for pleasuring a woman, but they also cause men to feel inadequate and wonder what’s wrong with them. You need to keep in mind that men in these movies are selectively chosen and are at the extreme end of the male spectrum.

Most men do not have a penis this size and most men do not have this kind of stamina and that is not what a woman is looking for.

In order to learn what a woman really enjoys sexually and have movies that simulate a realistic couple, you need to pick adult videos that were designed for that purpose. Movies made by someone like Candida Royalle are made specifically to be woman and couple friendly.

Additionally you should pick up videos and books that were made by sex experts for the purpose of education. Unfortunately, in our society, no one ever teaches any of us about sex. Most of us learn by trial and error.

With the help of a few high quality instructional videos and books, couples can dispel many sexual myths that may be preventing them from achieving the sexual satisfaction they desire and develop skills that enable them to meet their needs more effectively and become better lovers. Adult sexual education is a powerful tool for both men and women…

3. Lack of communication

Many couples find it very difficult to communicate with one another about their sexual needs or preferences and this is not only a leading contributor to her sexual needs going unmet, but the quality of the relationship overall.

A lot of women are uncomfortable or embarrassed to talk about their sexual needs. Sometimes they are afraid that their lover may perceive them as loose, easy or unlady like. Our society gives women a double message when it comes to sex, on one hand she’s supposed to be a hot little tiger in the sack, yet on the other hand she’s supposed to be pure and virgin like.

This creates an ideal that is impossible to live up to and creates a lot of inner conflict. Women need to know it’s okay to talk openly about what they need and men need to encourage them to do so with a non-judgmental, open and accepting attitude.

Sometimes the problem is that she doesn’t know how to express her needs to her lover. Both partners need to speak openly, directly and honestly.

Couples should be specific and detailed about things like where and how they need touched, how much pressure and speed is needed with each technique and what is the best timing. Share freely information about what techniques and positions are most pleasurable for you.

When something isn’t working or he is not meeting her needs, then she needs to speak up and let her lover know. Don’t suffer in silence.

If saying the words out loud is too uncomfortable, then guide him with your hands. Put his hands, mouth or hips where you need them to be and illustrate. Better yet, show him with your own hands. He’ll not only learn how to satisfy you better, but he’ll also be extremely turned on.

Men, you need to ask your woman what she needs. Don’t assume that everything is okay even if she doesn’t say anything.

Ask her what feels good, check in with her when you’re performing a technique and make sure it’s pleasurable. Ask her specific questions like, does that feel good, do you like to be touched here, is that too soft or too hard, how does that feel.

There is not a one size fits all sexual technique for women. Each woman is unique and what is pleasurable for one woman may not be the case for another woman. Get to know your woman.

Sometimes I hear that women try and tell their lover that they are not as satisfied as they would like to be sexually, but he doesn’t really hear them or they are met with resistance or indifference. He sometimes gets angry, doesn’t take her seriously or dismisses it as not important. He feels threatened or inadequate and becomes defensive.

When this happens, then she shuts down and stops trying, eventually she grows resentful and your whole relationships suffers. If your woman tries to communicate her sexual needs to you, it is not a criticism of you, your manhood or your sexual skill. Don’t take it personally.

She’s trying to teach you about her body and sharing herself with you on the deepest level possible. She’s opening herself up to you and allowing herself to be vulnerable in the most ultimate sense. It is an honor that should be cherished. Take it as an opportunity to grow closer to your woman, enhance your relationship, learn and become a better lover.

Does Your Woman Have Trouble Reaching Orgasm? Try These 2 Powerful Tips…

By paultony

I think you will agree with me that there is nothing more frustrating and tiring when you know you have done everything right in helping your partner achieve an orgasm, yet she still never reaches it.

It is frustrating because you have no idea what you have done wrong in terms of technique, and it is tiring because your hands, jaw or any other part of your body is aching from the never ending rubbing, licking or sucking.

In the end, nobody is having fun, and the whole ordeal turns into a nightmare.

Here are two tips to help your woman achieve any type of orgasm without difficulty;

She Must Be In The Mood

This is one of the biggest obstacles that will stand between you and your woman when it comes to helping her easily achieve an orgasm. If she is not in the mood, and is only having sex to end your begging and moaning, helping her achieve any type of orgasm can become very difficult.

Your woman needs to be in the mood for sex. It should never be a chore for her. Think about it; if she gives in and says yes so that you can stop your whining, she will want to get it over with as soon as possible.

Because of this, your woman will be trying very hard to orgasm, hoping that she can satisfy you and get it over with as soon as possible. Unfortunately, the opposite effect occurs. Because your woman is trying so hard to orgasm, she develops a mental block, thus finds it difficult to orgasm. In the end, nobody wins.

How Do I Get Her In The Mood?

Well, you could try the “ seduce her during the day” routine. This can be achieved by spoiling and flirting with your woman. Take your woman out for a romantic dinner. Give her a romantic gift. Charm your woman by telling her how beautiful she is. All of this might or might not work , because at the end of the day, it is up to her whether she truly feels in the mood, or not.

The best way to get your woman in the mood is by letting it happen naturally. Unlike men who generally get horny at the snap of a finger, women get horny for sex at certain times of the month. These “In the mood” days usually occur between ovulation and menstruation. This is somewhere between the 14th and 28th day of their cycle.

Knowing When That Occurs

The trick is to find out when these days occur. The only way to know this is by waiting and watching. If you pay attention, you will soon notice when she is feeling hornier than usual. When these days occur, make a mental note of it.

Not every woman is the same. While some women admit that they feel horny just before their period starts, other’s report to feel at their horniest right after their period ends.

During the days when your woman is in the mood, it will be a lot easier for you to seduce and make love with her. She will become more sensitive and responsive to every type of touch, thus stimulating her hot- spots to reach orgasm becomes a lot easier as well.

Do Not Go Faster Or Change Direction Just Before She Orgasms

The reason many women fall short of having an orgasm is because their partners believe they should go faster or change the direction of movement when their woman is just about to orgasm. This is a big mistake.

If your woman signals you that she is about to orgasm by moaning or breathing faster, just keep doing what you were doing at that point to get her to this stage of arousal. Do not change a thing. Don’t go faster. Don’t change direction of movement, and for crying out loud, don’t friggin stop. Continue doing what ever you are doing until she has totally completed her orgasm.

By keeping these two powerful points in mind, helping your woman achieve an a-spot, g-spot or clitoral orgasm will be very easy task. Instead of your lovemaking sessions being frustrating and tiring, they will be a lot more enjoyable and satisfying for you and your partner.