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Are You Embarrassed By Premature Ejaculation?

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Premature ejaculation doesn’t have to rule your sex life. If you’re embarrassed by premature ejaculation, check out these tips.

Are you struggling with issues of premature ejaculation? Sick and tired of NOT having enough stamina to last during sex? Are you looking for ways to improve your endurance in bed, but simply do not know where to begin? The simple truth is, while there is a myriad of ads, offers and products that promise you sensational improvements in your sexual stamina, the fact remains that the vast majority of them do not live up to the hype.

The great news?

There are time-proven tips, techniques and strategies that can help you beat premature ejaculation for good. These are safe, natural and can be practiced by any man to dramatically improve his stamina.

Let us explore two such simple strategies:

Reduce The Chances Of Premature Ejaculation

Many men suffer from PE due to the effects of stress as well as performance anxiety.

If this sounds like you, you can easily turn this problem around through simple dietary changes. For example, antioxidants-rich foods such as red grapes, acai and nuts are great for stamina and overall sexual health. Learning how to calm your sexual nerves before sex through specific breathing techniques is also a great way to boost your staying power when you make love.

For some other men, premature ejaculation is caused by poor masturbation habits. If you have been masturbating and getting off quickly, it conditions your mind and body for quick-fire sex as well. In this case, you can easily “re-train” your ejaculatory triggers by reserving MORE time during your acts of self-gratification and learning how your body responds to stimulation and arousal.

Stop It From Happening During Sex

Learning how to associate the sensations that precede an ejaculation is critical, because these are “markers” that give you an early warning that you are approaching the point of no return. It is a good practice to reserve a few lovemaking sessions simply to learn about your ejaculatory threshold and how to modulate your movements in order to keep your arousal within control.

From my experience, partner communication is absolutely vital in improving one’s sex life. Talk to your partner about specific verbal and non-verbal cues so that she knows when to stop providing the stimulus when your arousal is surging, and when to resume when you are able to regain control.

Key takeaway?

Don’t let premature ejaculation keep you down for a lifetime. As a matter of fact, the sooner you overcome it, the more fulfilling your sex life (and hers too) is going to be!

Cure Premature Ejaculation By Avoiding This Mistake

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Premature ejaculation doesn’t have to ruin your sex life – or your partner’s. Cure it for good by avoiding this one simple mistake.

When one talks about premature ejaculation, it is almost always about finding sex tips, techniques and products to last longer in bed. Rarely do men talk about what they should NOT do. You see, there are many mistakes that men make that hamper their progress in lasting longer. This article will reveal the number one mistake that most guys make.

It All Stems From What Premature Ejaculation Really Is

What do I mean? It begins with what you know as PE. Premature ejaculation occurs when a man ejaculates sooner than he or his partner feels is appropriate.

For some guys, this could be 30 seconds; for other men, even 10 minutes is considered premature. So there really are varying perspectives about what “premature” truly is. And if you cannot define it, there is no way you can put a stop to your problem.

So Do This Now

Take a moment and think about what it means to last longer for you and your partner; think about how long is “long enough” for the both of you to be truly satisfied, and for her to have an orgasm.

Most men skipped this altogether and it is little wonder that many failed to address their premature ejaculation problem. Simply put, if you are not specific about your desired OUTCOME, how would you know if you have succeeded?

That is the biggest mistake that most men make when trying to learn how to last longer without even realizing it!

So get this part of your bedroom problem sorted out right now. Decide on your desired outcome – how long you want to be able to last.

Tracking Your Progress

Once you get that sorted out, you need to track your progress. This is the only way to know if you will ever achieve your target. Those tips and tricks – however powerful they are – will all come to nothing if you have no way of knowing if you are improving at all!

Starting a journal to record your improvements in stamina is a smart thing to do. It doesn’t have to be drilled down exactly to the last second. I’m sure you can tell the difference between lasting a minute, 5 minutes or 10 minutes. Write that down.

Something magical happens when you do that and hold yourself accountable. As you see real, actual improvement, you will begin to feel much more motivated and rewarded. And your endurance will start to soar and so will your sexual confidence!

2 Ways To Make Foreplay Hotter

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Foreplay is incredibly important if you want a great sex session. Here are two easy ways to make foreplay even hotter, and you can use them tonight!

More Isn’t Better

How do you know the foreplay is enough and that it’s a perfect time to ride?

The answer is you don’t, even a woman doesn’t really know. This isn’t a simple inquiry about time or quantity. With foreplay, more is not necessarily better. If it’s a long and lame one, then it’s a long and lame foreplay. You’re merely prolonging the agony of what could have been short anguish. It’s unnecessary and worse than no foreplay at all!

But even amazing foreplay will eventually reach a point of diminishing returns. Stay too long with it and it ceases to be great – that’s reality and you have to forge ahead before it gets stale. (But something tells me that stalling the foreplay isn’t the biggest issue with most guys. I have yet to hear a woman complain that her man gives too much.)

But Is Less More?

On the other hand, less is more doesn’t hold. It may be true for things like make-up or dancing, but sex is a different ballgame altogether. Sometimes less is just that less. You have to let things heat up, and when it’s hot, make it even hotter and allow a woman to really get the hang of things.

So where do balance and the optimum point lie? The fact that women are not a homogenous group, doesn’t make it any easier. So what can you do?

Look at your lover, read her. She will tell you stuff she doesn’t even have the audacity to verbalize – open your eyes and witness what she’s screaming without words. Only then would you see the glaring window to transition from foreplay to play. Only then would you know the most opportune time for it. (Do you see how calibration works at the advantage of long term partners over one-night stands?)

To help you decide whether or not she’s ready for your penis, check on two things you should have achieved:

An Extended Make Out And Foreplay Session

This includes all the works – kissing, caressing, hugging, even dirty talking and sex games – all those things men tag as preliminaries to the real thing. Add 5-15 extra minutes  to your usual. This way, you’re giving her plenty of time to catch up and really rev up her engines.

Give Her An Orgasm Or Two

Follow the “ladies first” rule. A lot of seasoned guys make it a rule to never ride unless she cums once or twice via manual/oral work. They let the lady have hers first, before they mount away. Stimulate her all the way to orgasm and don’t leave her hanging, hoping that penetration will finish the job. Penetration is one of the most ineffective ways of making women orgasm.

Anal Fisting – To Try Or Not To Try

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Anal fisting is definitely an extreme form of anal sex, and it’s not for the faint of heart. Before you try anal fisting, read this first!

What Is Anal Fisting?

During anal fisting, your entire hand is placed in your partner’s rectum. I know, it sounds scary and impossible. With the right instructions though, lots of care and well mastered skills this practice can become a highly erotic and pleasurable part of your anal routine. As Gayle Rubin notes in reference to anal fisting, “it is an art that involves seducing one of the jumpiest and tightest muscles in the body.”

The first thing you need to know is that anal fisting does NOT mean that you clench your fist and try to squeeze it by all means possible inside your partner’s rectum. Instead, all five fingers are held stretched and really really closed together and only then the insertion can begin.

Also, a latex glove and lube are vital. Apply large quantities of water based lubricants on both her anus and your hand, without worrying about the mess. Oil and fat-based lubes are a no-go, since they can literally cut up holes into the latex glove, easing the transfer of bacteria. Moreover, they are bad for mucous membranes such as the one inside the anus and rectum.

The most important thing however is to start really slow, take your time and advance only when she agrees to. It should not hurt her and she should be in charge, although you’re the one handling her literally. Let her set the pace and tell her to say when she wants you to stay still, come forward, back off or back out completely. Whatever indication she gives you, follow it accordingly.

Before you start, read this set of instructions carefully, even learn it by heart, if necessary.

How To Get Started

  1. Find a comfortable spot for your partner. She should be able to have enough room to stretch as much as she needs and wants.
  2. Now that she’s relaxed and comfortable, it’s time for you to get her turned on. If you want her anus to open up, she needs to be as aroused as ever. Use your best techniques for this one, her favorite sex toy, her most desired cunnilingus session, whatever you know really works in her case.
  3. Coat your entire hand with water based lubricant, after you’ve put the latex glove on. Go very, very slowly. One finger, then two, then three, etc. Now that we’re on the topic of fingers, your fingernails should be short and smooth, even if you’re wearing a glove.
  4. Try and minimize the space that your hand takes as much as you can. Tuck your thumb and group the rest of the fingers close to one another.
  5. The most difficult part is to move past the knuckles so push gently and slowly. Slowly rotate your hand to gain more space and open her up bit by bit. While you’re doing this, talk to her, let her know that everything is ok and that she is doing great. A few words of comfort and encouragement will relax her.
  6. Once you’re all in, don’t move. Give her a few moments to get used to the pressure. After she gives you the green light, you can start moving your hand as you please: up and down, left and right, in circles, etc.
  7. When she’s ready to let you go, the removal procedure should be just as careful and slowly maneuvered. Even though she’s more aroused and enlarged now, that doesn’t mean you should just stick it out like nothing happened. You can cause her pain and serious injuries.

Health Concerns

Although it is generally thought of as carrying small risk as far the spread of sexually transmitted diseases is concerned, there are other more serious health risks that you should know about before engaging in it.

If you don’t follow the rules, if you don’t do it properly or don’t listen to her warning signs, you can cause her very serious injuries, like ruptured bowels, internal tears and lacerations, infections (either of the anus or the urinary tract), inflammations of the pelvis, bruising of the cervix, and even sterility. And be aware that overstretching her anal sphincters may cause them to lose some of their tone, which can lead to bowel and gas control problems.

The Female Orgasm Explained

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For a very long time, female orgasm was considered to be a myth. With nothing but personal accounts to go by, it was hard for male scientists to accept that there was a function and reason behind the elusive experience. Now scientists of both genders think they understand some of the purpose and evolutionary benefit of female orgasm.

We now know that the muscular “flutter” that occurs during female orgasm helps to encourage fertility. The strong muscle contractions in the pelvis, vagina and uterus occur rapidly at less than one second apart, allowing the cervix to open up for incoming sperm. The consequence of this is biologically significant and a verifiable physiological phenomena; couples who are able to have orgasms during penetrative sex are more likely to conceive.

A recent study found that when a woman reaches climax anytime from one minute before and 45 minutes after her partner’s ejaculation, her vagina takes up significantly more sperm than during sex when she does not orgasm. Even more surprising, a woman who orgasms before her lover by any more than one minute retains as little sperm as those who don’t have a female orgasm at all, making it necessary for her to either orgasm during PIV sex, or find a partner who will continue to stimulate her (with his dexterous hands!) after he has reached his own orgasm.

The Steps Of Female Orgasm

Orgasm is a three-step process, the culmination of a lengthy build up beginning with psychological desire, climbing through the various plateaus physiological arousal and peaking in the spasmodic release of orgasm. There are some times in a woman’s monthly cycle when she may be naturally aroused both psychologically and physiologically, depending on her libido type, but these days are few and far between. The rest of the time, you’re going to need to know how to really touch her, inside and out, to get things moving in the right direction.

1. Building Arousal

The signs of physiological arousal are obvious, if you know what you are looking for and are paying attention. Increased blood flow to the genitals caused by hot thoughts or stimulation results in swelling of the labia, clitoris and vagina. Increased lubrication helps make the peak experience of orgasm possible, opening a woman up for more intense activity.

This is prime time for using your ten best assets – your fingers! With such an incredible range of movement, those miraculous movers are exactly what you need to keep her going even when you can’t. And hey, your grandkids will secretly thank you for your Don Juan progeny.

2. Increasing Arousal

Sex educator and author Lou Paget points out in a Men’s Health article that too much repetitive sensation, especially in the early stages of arousal, can actually make the vagina numb. If you go ahead and plunge into intercourse before she is fully aroused and open, you aren’t just depriving her of the pleasure of your hands, but actually decreasing her chances of being able to have a female orgasm with you inside her! By “saving your energy” for the act of coitus itself, you are in fact ensuring that it doesn’t function properly.

3. Orgasmic Release

Female orgasm is an extreme sensual experience. The heart races, breath quickens, pupils dilate, skin flushes, lips and breasts swell with anticipation of the pelvic floor muscles contracting and sending out a ripple-effect that emanates through the rest of the body.

Each woman experiences this process differently, and for most women, every female orgasm is unique. Some may be the powerful, earth-shattering things we see in pornography or on television, but others are simpler, quieter and cascade like gentle waves along the body instead of a raging tsunami thrashing with ecstatic energy. They can be silent or deafening, or even both at the same time.

In her own medical practice, author Rachel Carleton Abrams M.D. explains that many women who come to her for help to reach female orgasm are in fact already experiencing them regularly during sex, albeit mildly. They just didn’t realize it, after the false expectations set by pornography and Hollywood’s over-the-top acting led them to believe that what they were feeling somehow wasn’t orgasmic enough.

Learning to experience several different kinds of orgasms by experimenting with stimulation involving a variety of techniques aimed at eliciting different but complimentary reactions is the best way to help a woman discover her orgasmic range, her preferences and desires, her favorite moves and, most importantly, the best combinations to ensure that sex satisfies both of your needs and desires every single time!