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How To Thrust The Right Way

By loveandsex

Sex tips can help you sharpen your game so you’re always getting better at sex. Check out how to penetrate correctly and give your girl incredible orgasms!

There many variations to penetration, thing, but all strokes hang on 3 basic elements of style.

  • Speed
  • Angle
  • Depth

1. Your Speed

Speed, which is very much related to power, is prime consideration for the male orgasm. Going at it hard and fast is the standard masturbating procedure – probably the only pace most men have been working with all their lives. It has been proven to work and many will find it awfully hard to operate any other way.

But since we are not unwitting agents to this whole thing, we can choose to dial the speed up or down. Speed doesn’t control you, you control it.

There are reasons, as you already know, why it’s good to give that “fast” button a rest once in a while. Again, if you don’t pace yourself, you’ll burn out too early or finish with a prematurely blown load. How can you hold off ejaculating when you’re stroking her like there’s no tomorrow?! Be realistic.

Instead, add variety to your style by patterning into different thrusting speeds.

For example, you can do 5 quick strokes followed a slow & deep one. Or 3 slow ones followed by 5 quick dips. Have fun and play around with a variety of speeds, mix it up. Slow it down and speed it up. Create an amusing rhythm or thump to the beat of your booty-music.

2. Your Angle

Stroking isn’t a straight in & out affair, another way of adding sexual variation is through the angle of your penetration. There may be just one point of entry, but there can be different angles of thrust.

Those different sex positions are ultimately about different angles. You’ll find for example, that Doggie is good for the G-spot because it allows you leg support and aim to thrust at the zone where it resides. Missionary Position, on the other hand, has difficulty fully engaging the spot, because in this configuration, the penis is usually angled down. The Woman-on-Top can be a good G-spot position as long as a woman angles her pelvis so you can stroke into it. Different angles of attack result in various sensations for the lusty pair.

When you stroke, you employ the combined efforts of your arms, hips, pelvis, knees and legs. Having physical endorsement as much as this allows you stuff other than simply dart in and out. Your hips and pelvis can do more than straight-up thrusting, and you might not be a great dancer, but you can definitely move those hips around. I’m sure that when you boogie on that dance floor, you also roll them to the sides and in circles.

So WORK IT! The bed is certainly not the place to go shy and timid. Grind into those hip and pelvic maneuvers as you stroke in – go left, right and round & round. And when you’re in deep – wiggle & grind some more, brushing your pubic bone against her clitoris. Try SCOOPING thrusts by pointing your pelvis up as you dive deeper into her. It’s playful, fun and a happy detour from the all too serious jackhammer classic.

3. Your Depth

This refers to how deep into her your equipment goes. Profound, isn’t it?

Women love “full and deep” – but it’s not the only thing they adore – they also love to be made wanting. You don’t need to fire everything all the time and be balls deep with every thump. Going in at various depths automatically creates variety.

You may start by thrusting just the head of your penis – then pull out. Kiss her. Caress or sweep the vulval area. Thrust the head, and pull out again. Do this several times. Go back in, and go deeper each time. Continue to progress until you’re all in. After which, you can really start pounding.

Get the idea? You don’t need to perform full strokes all the time.

Now, a shout out for those endowed with humongous equipment (say, anything 8” and longer). You’ll be lucky to find a woman who can take the fullness of you, your thing may simply not fit her. Don’t get me wrong, large penises rock, but paired with a petite and timid vagina, it’ll just be a waste of meat. She can’t take all of it in with pleasure. It’ll be like running an extra-large catheter up your thing.

So for guys who pack a horse of a penis: Make sure the lady is really aroused before you penetrate. Otherwise, you’ll just really wreck her cervix.

Remember the cervix? It’s the last point where penises go, a dead end of some sort. When a woman is highly aroused, her cervix will rise, giving your schlong more thrusting space. But when you start pounding before the arousal mechanisms kick in, there’s a good chance you’ll bump into her cervix.

It’ll hurt…a lot.

So give her arousal allowance so you’ll have more elbow room to play with. You feel me? OK. After these penetration details, we’ll look at the bigger picture and talk body arrangements. No erotic discourse will ever be adequate without venturing into the wonderful world of Sexual Positions. (Notice that sexual poses are considered primarily for their thrusting potential?) You’ll soon learn that there’s more to these anatomical configurations than meets the eye.

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice Tagged With: better sex, penetration, sex tips

4 Ways To Make Tonight SIZZLE

By loveandsex

Sex tips can help you liven up your sex life and make it hotter than ever! Check out these four sex tips that will turn the heat up on your love life.

Tonight is the night! Well, maybe not, but you and your partner want to make tonight a hot, sweaty, erotic good time! How do you fan the flames of passion and make tonight really, truly hot? You’ll be surprised to learn it takes a lot less than you think.

1. Make Plans For Sex

If you’ve been together for any decent amount of time, you know the “relationships take work” saying. It’s like being young. When you’re a teenager, you can eat whatever you want, barely exercise and you’ll still be in good shape, limber and virile. In your fifties, if you so much as look at a donut, it will make your ass expand like the national debt.

Same is true for relationships. When you first start dating, she’s always ready to go and he’s harder than Chinese arithmetic. The sex flows like wine. Every little thing she does is magic, every move he makes make her feel like he’s a god.

Then reality sets in. You move in, you get jobs, a mortgage, kids, and then you only see your partner at dinner or communicate via the occasional text message. She becomes the one who doesn’t appreciate him, to her he’s just the schmuck who pays the bills.

Maybe it doesn’t get to that extreme, but you see the point. It’s different, the longer you are with someone. The relationship will need more TLC as time goes by. Give it that TLC.

That starts with planning. If you want to make tonight super sexy, you need to set up a plan of attack to make that happen. Single people who just started dating can leave things to chance. People who are married (with or without kids) or people in long term relationships can not.

2. Go On Dates

I know there are tons of studies that say married people have more sex than single people. This is a crock. Married people may have it more regularly, but single people more of it, and it’s usually way hotter. Why? Because they’re dating. People who are dating usually date because they want to get laid. It’s that simple. People who date and get laid usually stop getting laid when they get married. Why? Because they aren’t dating. I’m not saying don’t get married, I’m saying don’t stop dating. If you do tonight won’t be hot or tomorrow.

3. Have Naked Sunday (Or Any Other Day)

Nothing says “make tonight amazing” like easy access. Nothing says easy access like “naked Sunday.” It’s pretty simple. You and your significant other stay home, and stay naked the whole time, whether or not you’re doing anything sexual.

It’s funny how just being naked makes the most innocuous, non-sexual activity go from mundane to fun and flirty to hot and sweaty naughty couple time. You obviously can’t have sex the whole day, Viagra or not, but it will make you and your partner flirt more, touch each other more, snuggle and cuddle more. It’s really good for helping you and your partner embrace your bodies, but the really benefit is the sizzle factor.

So how do you use “naked Sunday” to make tonight incredible? Instead of making it just a date night, make it a ‘naked date night.’ Order takeout, or make dinner at home (an apron is required for cooking. Yes, it’s not ‘naked date night’ 100% but it does prevent burns in highly sensitive places) and rent a movie, or Netflix it. Sit their on the couch, cuddle, play words with friends, or whatever else you two do. But do it naked. That’s hot. You know what’s even hotter? Having other couples over for naked date night. That’s another column.

4. Give A 60 Second Kiss

Start your night with a 60 second kiss. It’s only a minute, which seems like a short, maybe insignificant amount of time. Until you try making out for that amount of time. Trust me. It’s longer than you think, and that’s a good thing. You’ll be making out like teenagers, and that always leads somewhere, and that place is usually deliciously naughty and well worth it.

I recommend starting your night off with the sixty second kiss, especially if you have an evening’s worth of events planned. Why? Because it’s going to be so hot to make out for sixty seconds, and then you can stoke the flames of passion all night long, letting it build over the course of the evening. The anticipation will act like gasoline on the fire and if you feed it just right, that fire will last all night long and well into the morning, and beyond.

I’m all about the sixty second kiss, and I recommend it be done on a daily basis. Doing so keeps the passion going, and builds a reserve tank full of passion and heat, which will not only make tonight size, but many nights in your forseeable future.

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice Tagged With: better sex, sex tips

The Right Way To Give Her A Sex Toy

By loveandsex

Sex toys can make an excellent gift for special occasions like anniversaries or for Valentine’s Day, but getting the right thing can be trickier than you originally anticipated. It’s easy to select something that your girl wouldn’t like, or even something that would upset her or offend her. This is even easier to do if you and your lover don’t communicate regularly about what she does and doesn’t like during sex.

However, you needn’t shy away from gifting your girl a sex toy all together, because if you choose something she really likes, it can be key to jump starting your sex life! Here’s how to choose a sex toy that your girl will like, and how to give it to her as a gift without upsetting her.

Pay Attention To What She Likes During Sex

Think about what your girl likes when you have sex with her. Think about what brings her to orgasm the fastest, or makes her go completely wild! Does she like a lot of clitoral stimulation to take her over the edge? Does she like a “full” feeling in her vagina? Does she like both clitoral and g-spot stimulation at the same time? Decoding what she wants during sex is going to be your biggest clue to selecting a sex toy that meets her needs and satisfies her desires. It will also let you know what to stay away from.

If she doesn’t reach orgasm very well with vaginal stimulation alone, getting her a sex toy that doesn’t stimulate the clitoris (and only stimulates the vagina) is a bad idea. This will tell her that you a) don’t pay attention to what she likes during sex and b) that all you really want to do is shove stuff inside her. So think about what she really, really enjoys during sex and go for a sex toy that stimulates that area of her body. If she totally digs nipple stimulation when she’s ready to climax, gift her with a sweet pair of nipple clamps or nipple vibrators – but don’t go for the crazy, BDSM looking ones.

Go For High Quality, “Luxury” Toys

When giving a sex toy as a gift, a cheap rubber toy from that one store in the mall is just going to disappoint her. That’s honestly something she could have gotten herself if she wanted it. Many of those toys are cheaply made and can actually cause allergic reactions and can even increase the risk of cervical cancer due to the materials the toys are made out of. Many of those toys are also designed as “gag gifts” – so giving her a toy like this can only be bad news.

Instead, shop for a high end, quality luxury toy either online or in your local adult store. This is one of those times that name brand actually matters – most “name brand” sex toy manufacturers (for example, LELO or Jimmy Jane) make their toys out of body safe silicone or hard plastic, and they not only feel great, they look incredible. They’re sleek, chic and totally high end – which will impress any woman. Take the time to select something really nice and damn the cost. She’s worth it!

No Dildos, Period

No matter how close you are with your partner, gifting her a dildo in the shape of another man’s penis is just awkward. Besides, dildos don’t do much of anything for a woman who likes clitoral stimulation (which is just about every woman to be perfectly frank). You might consider the solution to that is one of those clone-your-own-penis kits, where you make a rubber dildo using a mold of your own penis. This can be a fun novelty activity for both of you to do together, but it does not make a nice gift. No dildo makes a nice gift. So stay away from those, period!

Skip Anal Toys Unless You KNOW She Digs Anal Stimulation

Gifting a woman an anal sex toy without knowing for sure whether she’s into the anal action or not is a huge mistake. She’ll assume all you’re trying to do is get busy with her back door and she’ll be offended. It’s almost like if you give her a fishing pole for her birthday – she knows it’s not for her, it’s really for you. And that’s just plain insulting. To be safe, steer clear of any anal stimulation toys unless you’re totally sure she likes it and you’ve had success with it before.

If you do decide to get her something for her bum, make sure it’s something very pretty and very nice. A gorgeous glass plug (on the smaller side, thank you!) is okay, but a huge black thing is totally not okay. Think demure, sweet and sensual. Not nasty and hardcore. This should help lead you in the right direction if you’re sure an anal toy is the right way to go. If you’re not sure, don’t do it.

A Clitoral Vibe Is Almost Always Safe

If you’re not really sure what she likes during sex and you’re nervous about getting her something she’ll like, go for a clitoral vibrator. This type of sex toy is designed only to stimulate the clitoris and doesn’t go in the vagina – it’s a safe bet for almost any woman. The clitoris is the most sensitive part of a woman’s anatomy, and it often doesn’t get enough love during sex. Many women can only reach orgasm with clitoral stimulation! Giving her a clitoral vibrator as a gift says “I care about your pleasure more than my own. I really want you to feel good!” This is a toy she can use during sex with you, or on her own.

Select something high end and discreet, that looks nice. An excellent choice is the LELO Nea! You pretty much can’t mess up if you select a gorgeous, luxury clitoral vibrator. She’s almost guaranteed to love it.

Get Her Another Gift Also

Even if you’ve chosen a really nice, high quality sex toy to give to her as a gift, consider getting her another gift as well. While a super luxury sex toy is nice enough to be the gift, if you’re not sure how she’ll react, give her another gift as well. Don’t make the sex toy her only gift. Get her something that isn’t sex related, such as jewelry. You really can’t go wrong with jewelry. Chocolates (of the high end variety) are an excellent choice as well, as are gift certificates to her favorite restaurant, or a gift certificate for a full body massage or a pedicure.

Giving her something that you know she’ll like in addition to the sex toy gives you a buffer if she ends up being disappointed. If she likes the toy – and you’ve gotten her something else she’s ecstatic about – she’ll be more inclined to feel like having sex with you (and using her new toy in your presence!)

Filed Under: Sex Toys Tagged With: better sex, dildo, sex tips, Sex Toys, vibrator

How To Get Him Clean Before Oral Sex – The SEXY Way

By loveandsex

Oral sex can be awesome, but it can also be gross if he’s not fresh down there. Here are some sexy ways to clean him up before oral sex without him knowing!

When you’re talking about hygiene, it’s easy to get too technical with it. You want to scrub him all over and make sure he’s clean around his scrotum, his perineum and underneath his foreskin if he’s uncircumcised. If your lover sees you washing him up like a doctor washes their hands before surgery, he’s not going to be very turned on and in fact, it might just offend him. You want to make the hygiene process as fun, relaxed and sexy as you can. So here are five things you can do tonight to get him clean and turned on!

1. Join Him In The Shower While Wearing A Wet T-Shirt

This is probably a favorite of most men. You can guarantee he’s had sexual fantasies about seeing half naked women wearing soaking wet white t-shirts, with their voluptuous breasts and erect nipples peeking out from underneath. Seriously, this fantasy rates just below the Princess-Leia-In-The-Gold-Bikini fantasy for most men.

Take advantage of this instant turn on and use it to get him squeaky clean before you go down on him, without him ever knowing. Next time he’s in the shower, get completely undressed, and then put on one of his white undershirts, or a white t-shirt of your own. No pockets, no designs, no nothing. Just white, with sleeves. As he’s washing his hair, slip into the shower with him, allowing the front of you to get soaking wet. When he turns around and sees you in all of your wet glory, don’t be surprised if his eyes pop out of his head!

When he’s had his visual fill, take the shirt off and allow him to feel you up and get your breasts all soapy. Then, take his hard penis in your hands and soap it up while he moans with delight! Congratulations, you’ve just killed two birds with one stone and he has no earthly clue what you were really doing.

2. Surprise Him With A Sexy Smelling New Shower Gel

Next time you go to the store, find a shower gel that you find utterly scrumptious and erotic. Don’t hesitate to buy one or two bottles, especially if it’s on sale. Again, surprise your man next time he’s in the shower by slipping in with him, bottle in hand. Smile sexily and say, “I got you a new shower gel. I think it smells really good. Can I rub it all over your naked, wet body?”

You probably won’t get a “no” and if it has a great scent, he’ll like it too. Once he’s clean and you’ve got him toweled off and in the bed, make a big deal of how awesome he smells before enveloping his penis in your mouth. You’ll probably find that he uses your new shower gel a lot more often!

3. Let Him Catch You Masturbating In The Shower

This one is fun, but can be difficult to do if you have a notoriously unobservant husband. Grab your fave sex toy (or use your fingers) and head for a wet and wild masturbation session. You’ll start out solo, but with any luck, your man will join you before too long. Don’t be afraid to drop subtle hints about where you’re going, what you’re doing and how hot it will be for him to take a peek.

Once you’re in, make a big but convincing show of how good what you’re doing feels. Make lots of sexy noises, but don’t go over the top. If you sound like the girl in the porn movie who gets banged from behind, you’re not doing a good job. Make it sound sexy, but totally natural. If you get into it, that shouldn’t be too hard to do. Just don’t stifle your moans of ecstasy – you definitely want them to reach his ears.

Once he drops in on you, look appropriately abashed but don’t immediately close your legs or stop what you’re doing. Let him get an eyeful of the action going on before you look deeply into his eyes and tell him how much you wish it was him doing it do you. It won’t take much convincing for him to de-robe and hop in the shower with you, giving you both the opportunity to soap each other up and get clean before oral sex. Who knows, he might go down on you too!

4. Draw A Romantic, Candle Lit Bath

After your man has had a long, hard day at work, draw him a hot bath with candles. You can do rose petals too, but depending on what kind of guy you’re dating or in a relationship with, that may be too over the top. But don’t assume that just because he’s a man that he can’t enjoy a nice bath.

Let him have a few minutes to relax, perhaps with a cold beer or a nice glass of wine. Come into the bathroom naked, holding a shower pouf and either some of your new sexy smelling shower gel or your normal soap. Offer to wash his back and his hair to relax him. As you’re massaging shampoo into his hair and working the lather down his back, he should become more and more relaxed. Allow your hands to drift to his penis, which will most likely already be hard and waiting for you.

Make washing his penis part of your erotic soap down. Allow him to finish his bath for as long as he wants and enter the bedroom to find you ready and waiting. This is an excellent time to give your man a blowjob while sitting on the edge of the bed with him standing!

5. Try Some Shower Only Sex Toys

This tactic is similar to the shower gel tactic, but you’re going to use some shower only sex toys instead. Splurge on a waterproof couples vibrator or some specially designed sex handles that help couples achieve different sex positions in the shower. Make sure you’re getting a toy that you both can use. It’s really no good if you get a waterproof rabbit vibe or a clitoris vibrator – it’s like him buying a fishing pole for you. He’ll know who the “gift” is really for.

You can suggest trying them out before he gets in the shower, or you can give them to him in the shower. Do whatever feels right at the moment. As you’re trying out the new toys, make sure to get nice and soapy. Rub him up and down while using the soap as a lubricant, thereby washing his penis thoroughly and making him hard and turned on at the same time.

You may want to give him head or have sex right there in the shower depending on what sex toy you chose, or you can finish off in the bedroom. Again, do what feels right when it feels right and both you and your partner will have a lot of fun!

Filed Under: Oral Sex Tagged With: blowjob, fellatio, oral sex, sex tips

2 Phenomenal Ways To Have EXPLOSIVE Sex!

By lloydlester

Sex can be boring or it can be incredible – and most people prefer the latter. Here are two simple suggestions to make sex absolutely UNFORGETTABLE!

Let’s face it. For most men, sex is something that can give him pleasure, anytime, anywhere. Men are just turned on visually and can head into intercourse right away. For women, it is a different proposition altogether. If you want to spice up your sex life and satisfy her, you need to fulfill her emotional needs first. It can be a challenge, but not exactly a tall order. You just need to do things a little differently to tease out the wild side in her. Keen to learn more? Great! Keep reading for 2 tips to take your sex life up a sexy notch!

1. Titillate Her Sensory Awareness

Women have this inherent ability to amp up their alternate sensory awareness when one of their senses is inhibited. For instance, when you blindfold her, her sense of touch, smell and hearing will suddenly become amplified. You can use this to your advantage and create a sensual build-up or anticipation during sex. She will try hard to hazard a guess what you are going to do next, or which part of her body you are going to venture upon. Her sense of touch will become doubly sensitive when she cannot see, so pay your attention to those sensuous spots where she normally loves to be touched. These will send her temperatures racing very quickly.

2. Ask And You Shall Be Given!

When it comes to sex, there are simply a thousand and one things you can try, but most men simply stick with doing what they THINK their women will like. Chances are, there is a lot more things she likes you to do to her that you are not even aware of. While most women are passive during sex and accepts whatever their partners serve up in bed, if you do make the effort to ASK her, you would be surprised by the things you will LEARN about her! When she knows that you care about what she truly wants and seek to deliver these, you would have fulfilled her key emotional needs.

This is what you can do: ask her to write down 3 things she would like you to do to her during sex. It can be the type of foreplay she wants; the position she prefers or the role play she fantasizes about. Then go down the list and grant her wishes. The freshness and excitement of what you are going to give her will make sex truly out-of-this-world for her, as it will for you!

The key to having great sex is to make time to learn new things to do with each other in bed. She will be erotically and emotionally fulfilled, and you will be amply rewarded with wondrous sex you never had imagined!

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice Tagged With: better sex, orgasm, sex, sex tips

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