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Can You Use Masturbation To Control Premature Ejaculation?

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Masturbation is something every guy does, but will doing it the right way and at the right times help you control premature ejaculation? Find out now!

Controlling premature ejaculation without relying on aids such as desensitizers or creams is totally possible. All you need is to learn how your body reacts prior to ejaculation and keep the stimulation in check before it tips over the “point of no return.” And one of the best ways to achieve this is through masturbation. Although masturbation is often cited as a contributory factor to premature ejaculation, you can turn this around and use it to your advantage.

1. Simulate Sex

Simulate the action of intercourse by stroking your penis up and down. Allow the physical sensations of stimulation to manifest. Pay attention to how your body responds and feels as the excitement piles up. You may not be able to prevent yourself from ejaculating. That is OK. The key is to recognize the point when you ejaculate and the sensations that accompany this stage.

2. Train Yourself To Stop

Perform the same routine again. Once you have an erection, stop the stimulation altogether for 15 seconds. Pay attention to how your body feels when the sensations of excitement subside. Then continue masturbating again, stopping and continuing the movements until you feel you are close to a peak. As soon as you sense you are very close to orgasm, stop all stimulation again until you regain control once more.

3. Get Close 3 Times

You may find yourself losing the erection when you discontinue the stimulation. Don’t worry. Just resume the stimulation again. Get yourself close to climaxing three times, and allow yourself to ejaculate on the forth time. This exercise may take some getting used to at first, but with some practice, you will notice 2 things happening between the stops: First, you will regain control much sooner; second, you will improve the time you take for the stimulation to reach a peak.

4. Get Close 6 Times

Increase the number of times that you stop the stimulation just to the “point of no return” from three to six. Once you can achieve this milestone, perform this routine daily.

5. Start Using Lube

Increase the challenge by using a lubricant to simulate penetration. Perform the same routine, that is, stopping three times before ejaculation and then increasing this to six times in between stops. If you have a partner, you can get her involved in this exercise.

This is an extremely useful exercise to improve your time to ejaculation. Of course, like all things worth doing, practice makes perfect. Don’t be discouraged if you ejaculate too soon on the first few attempts. With enough practice, your body will be able to endure increased levels of stimulation during masturbation, which of course you can carry over to the actual lovemaking!

5 Red Hot Rear Entry Sex Positions

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Sex positions are fun to play around with and many guys love rear entry sex positions. Here are five that are so hot, you’ll have to take a cold shower!

1. Rear In The Air

The rear entry position has long been heralded as one of the best positions to use to help a woman reach orgasm. However, you need to know the right positions to achieve maximum effectiveness. Here’s one way. Have your partner get in the “doggy style” position on the bed. You stand behind her.

Now before you begin, ask her to lower her top half and rise up her bottom so that her back is arched. When she’s comfortable, you can commence with penetration. In this position, you should be able to stimulate her G-spot (another sensitive area on a woman), plus you can reach below her and use your hand to massage her clitoris.

2. Fun In The Tub

If your foreplay began with you giving your partner a bath, then this may be a good way to take it to the next level when she’s ready. Keep the tub partially filled with warm water (and bubbles if you like). Your partner gets into the tub first and kneels down. She should be close to the faucet so you have plenty of room behind her.

When you get into the tub, you’ll kneel down behind her and penetrate her from behind. As you’re both enjoying this, you can use a showerhead to direct a stream of water directly on her clitoris or you can use a waterproof vibrator to stimulate her. Either method will work wonders, particularly if she has enjoyed masturbating in the tub before.

3. The Leg Clench

While most rear entry positions require the “doggy style” position, this one does not. In fact, if your partner is partial to the missionary position, this may be a good one to try. Your partner stretches out on the bed face down while you straddle her body from behind.

Once you’re deep inside her, ask her to clench her legs together and cross her ankles. This position will keep your bodies close together, which many women enjoy. Plus, she can add even greater pleasure for herself by clenching and unclenching her PC muscle in time with your thrusts. Another benefit of this position is that if you have difficulty preventing yourself from ejaculating before your partner climaxes this technique will slow you down and can buy you some extra time.

4. She’s In Control

One of the most erotic things for a woman to experience sometimes is being in complete control of the sex act during a session. This position can make that possible. In this technique, you sit down on the bed with your legs straight out in front of you. Your partner lowers herself down onto your penis by straddling your legs and facing away from you. You do not move; you allow her to move in the anyway she wants and to set her own rhythm. This gives her more control so she can determine what feels the best for her while you enjoy the view from your end.

5. One Leg Lifted

Women do tend to enjoy this particular position more than others in the “doggy style” category, so it’s definitely one you’ll want to try out. As usual, your partner will be down on all fours. However, one of her legs should be lifted up at angle. Since this position is difficult to hold for long, you should assist her by sliding some soft pillows under leg to prop it up. Instead of penetrating from straight on, you’ll want to position yourself at an angle to her body.

Now slowly insert your penis into her vagina all the way. Don’t stop until your testicles brush against her bottom. Just as slowly, pull it out and repeat. You can speed up a little, but the idea with this technique is to use long, slow strokes. The deeper penetration gives you a better chance of stimulating her clitoris and/or her G-spot, plus most men get off on watching their penis slide inside their partners. Maybe it’s a little like watching a self-made adult movie.

How To Drive Her INSANE With Soft & Hardcore Dirty Talk!

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Dirty talk can be done anytime during the sexual dance, but we’ll discuss it here as part of sex talk before intercourse.

Dirty talk gives an expectation, an idea or a come-on for your partner. Its purpose is to create naughty pictures and generate dirty thoughts in your lover’s mind. And you do this through highly descriptive, highly sensual language.

Your job is to create a picture she can almost see, hear, feel, taste and smell.

Dirty talk provides an avenue for rush. Civil society has always had a rebellious streak and it is human nature to feel a high engaging in something naughty, prohibited or frowned upon. It makes us feel so alive doing something we’re not supposed to. And the very idea of getting away with it, makes us feel superior, which makes it even hotter!

Be warned though – many find dirty talk hot, but not everybody is a big fan. Some find it inappropriate, lewd and down right offensive – like listening to someone dragging fingernails on a chalkboard. This is very important as the same statement can be effective or offensive, depending on your skill, timing and the woman you’re with.

Sensual Softcore

It’s the world of Double Meanings & Sexual Innuendoes – a good set-up before the step up, perhaps something to get her warmed-up at the office, or even a few steps outside the bedroom door.

We know what a ‘banana’ is, but we also know it suggests things other than the fruit monkeys live for. She need not say: I wanna slide your cock in my mouth. She can just hint that she wants a taste of your banana. A woman may feel icky at the word “cock,” but she’ll have no qualms expressing desire for ‘banana.’ The resulting ambiguity serves as major turn-on.

Because of double meanings, hot dogs and buns become something else. Balls, First Base & Home Run put on meanings not even remotely related to sports.

And the thing is, the double meaning potential need not be obvious. In fact, it need not be there at all! Sexual innuendos prove that anything can be made “dirty.” Yes, anything! Even trivial stuff like can openers, catfish, toothpaste, and the moon & the stars – all these can be made dirty. Simply back them up with a sexy tone, lascivious look, heavy breathing, puckered lips, a mischievous wink, a knowing smile, a tongue sweeping across the lips etc. Anything you pair with these can become dirty. With softcore, it’s not so much the precise words as it is the manner you deliver them. Because you can scream “pussy” all day and your girl still thinks you’re referring to some cat.

Deliciously Naughty Hardcore

Softcore is suggestive, hardcore is explicit – it doesn’t say ‘banana,’ it says ‘dick’ or some other slang. It doesn’t hesitate, stall, or curtsy. It is often blunt, direct, and often carries the themes of dominance, authority, aggression and possession. It is declaring what you want and delivering it in the most evocative manner. Hardcore simply lets the listener deal with the real thing. This is not the time for rainbows, flowers and butterflies – it is speaking with license.

Banned from public discourse, hardcore dirty talk can make Grandma Lily faint. It’s very effective in that it lets you almost feel the words – therein lies its diabolical power. Because it is direct, hardcore gives a woman a more vivid picture.

Softcore and hardcore dirty talk have their parts to play in the sexual game. Just as hardcore is ineffective in the early goings, softcore  can be too wussy or even inappropriate in the heat of things.

3 Super HOT Techniques For Any Sex Position

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Sex positions are a great way to spice up your love life – but it’s time to go outside the “box.” Here are three tips you can use with any of the sex positions!

1. Angles & Reverses

Have you ever noticed that almost all sex positions have reverses? They’re not always performed face-to-face, they can also be done back-to-face or butt-to-face.

The Woman-On-Top for example, has the ‘Reverse Rider’ Position where the lady rides with her back to you. The Man-On-Top has two reverse versions, the male ‘Reverse Rider’ – where the gentleman rides with his back to the lady, albeit a difficult one. And of course, the classic ‘69’ Position.

Not all Side-by-Side Positions are executed face-to-face, one may penetrate coming from the back – which can also be classified under Rear Entry. (Like when it’s late in the evening and your lady is sleeping with her back to you, and you suddenly get the idea for a quickie. You simply slide her undies half-way and wiggle from behind – hoping she won’t wake-up before you’re done.)

These variations are not for aesthetic purposes. The feel for each is unique as the strokes come from unique angles – it’s a different set of sensual experience.

2. It’s All About Legs

Your hot rod hangs between the legs, the vagina resides between her legs – and the objective is to acquaint these two so they can do each other some good.

So guess what – those legs (yours and hers) play one of the most principal roles in determining variations. If you think about it, positions have a lot to do with how the limbs are configured. And it’s usually the woman who has legs shifting and flailing about. (Are they spread, crossed, raised, wrapped around your body?) The man, affecting the strokes, often needs leg support for balance and stability.

Changes in leg poses can create a variety of sex positions. One may not be aware of it, but a simple shift in limbs could result in many different configurations.

But more than that, seemingly innocent limb placements do affect the dynamics of penetration, and therefore, the resulting sensations. Leg configurations affect how your penis approaches her vagina, even the nature of the stroke itself. It’s not just for the sake of pose variety; it carries consequences that modify shape, size, depth and tightness of the vaginal barrel because internal changes take place in consonance with those leg movements.

For example, every time a woman brings her legs together and brings both her knees to her chest, like in a fetal position, she’s actually shortening and tightening her vaginal barrel. Thrusting in this position results in maximum penetration. The position is therefore advised for gentlemen with tiny weiners. This way, his penis feels bigger and longer in a shortened, tightened and tensed vaginal barrel.

Conversely, the knees-to-the-chest thing is not prudent for men with a big penis. Theirs will just drive straight into her cervix, and that’s way too intense for comfort. Not good.

3. Pelvic Positioning

Just as minor shifts in limbs create different sensations, simple adjustments of the pelvis also bring distinct delights. This is caused by the change in how the penis approaches the vagina. As said before, the penis can penetrate the vagina in different angles and sexual variations align the thrusting & receiving pelvises in different ways.

In some sex positions, a woman’s pelvis is tilted up. But every time she raises or lowers her pelvis, she changes the angle of entry – causing different vaginal areas, such as the g-spot, to be targeted.

In the same manner, a man leaning backwards or forwards while inside a woman varies the tension between his erect penis and the vagina. (Twitching his rod while inside also has the same effect, but to a lesser degree.)

The idea here is for the couple to move their pelvises around, experiment, even gyrate them sideways or in circles, and find that specific angle that leads to greatest enjoyment.

Erotic Massage For Couples

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Erotic massage is not just a great way to transition into sexy time with your lover, because it helps to calm and relax her, to get her in the mood. Those same calming effects, applied to your body, can help you to take your time during lovemaking, and focus your intentions on pleasing your wife instead of hurrying to please yourself.

Before you dive right in to a sensual massage, take some time with your wife to decide what you want out of the experience. Do you have time for this to turn into sex? Do you want to make sure you both have a good massage before you take that next step?

Or is this just a brief interlude during a busy day, with the knowledge that you will come back together, more relaxed and in the mood, later on, when the rest of the day is complete? Perhaps this is just a chance for the two of you to connect on an intimate level when her libido is waning or you are saving your energy for a special weekend sex marathon!

The Extra Mile

No matter what the purpose, it’s nice to be clear with each other about what you expect. It will help you get a good idea of what to wear, how to set up the room, and what accessories or sex toys to bring along. Also, she is much more likely to enjoy the massage if she knows whether or not it is going to turn into steamy sex, so be sure to take the time to plan before you start working her muscles.

In Position

Start out with your wife lying face down on her stomach, with her head turned to one side. Have her lay her arms down by her side. She may want a small pillow or none at all, to be comfortable in this position, so let her find the spot that works for her. When she is ready, you have your choice of top positions.

Depending on the height and location of your bed, (or perhaps you’re very serious about massage and have acquired your own table!) you can decide what the best position is to enable you to reach the areas of her body that need the most attention. Move around a bit to be able to give her a full-body rub down.

Try kneeling and straddling her thighs, pressed up against her bum so you can reach her shoulders, back, hips and butt. You can also have her spread her legs while you kneel between them, or try kneeling at her side instead. If your bed is high enough, or she is on a table, you can stand next to her.

Just Breathe

The breath is incredibly important during this intimate experience, allowing you to connect with each other and helping you to stay focused on your partner. If you have a hard time focusing on her breath long enough to continue breathing with her the entire time that you are massaging, at least take a few moments before you begin and each time you switch positions to match her rate of respiration.

An alternate breath from Tantric methods that is supposed to aid in the exchange of energy between two partners is to breath alternately – in as she exhales, then out as she inhales. Start slow and deep, and if the rate builds to a crescendo, let it happen naturally. Bring it back down to a slow, deep, calming breath before you head back to the real world.

Rub Just Right

You’re right if you have already realized that a deep muscle massage or a stimulating surface rub are both very different from the kind of clitoris and vagina touching you’re probably used to.

If you are both naked enough to use massage oil or lube, it will help keep your hands slick and smooth for an easy glide on her skin. Be sure to use the whole palm and fingers of both hands for best results. First, put a bit of oil in your hands and rub them together to warm it. Using a flat hand spread out the oil in large, circular motions on her back, being careful not to press directly on the spine anywhere.

When she is well-covered in a natural massage oil, try locating and loosening her sore muscles with a gently squeeze. Use the heel of your thumb to gently press the muscles of her shoulders, back, butt and legs toward the cupped fingers of your hand. Again, avoid pressing directly on the spine.

Follow her lead and listen to her sounds for clues about which spots need more work.

When you have given her a thorough massage, ask her to do you too, lying face down as well. If you want to continue this massage into some sexy time, next have her lie face up, and take some time to massage and caress her face, neck and shoulders, breasts, hips, legs and feet before heading in for a vulva massage and finger play and hopefully an orgasm or two. After she has climaxed, suggest you switch again. Position yourself face up on the table, and let her decide how she wants to return the favor!