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How To Prolong Ejaculation During Sex (Are You Overlooking This One Thing?)

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Premature ejaculation is embarrassing for all parties involved. If you are truly serious about becoming a better lover and giving your woman the best sex possible, you will want to keep reading this article.

You see, most men want to know how to last longer in bed. Yet very few guys actually achieve it. Let’s face it. Premature ejaculation is something that millions of men around the world have to grapple with. But only a handful really knows how to permanently deal with it, and it all boils down to one specific difference.

The Law Of The Numbers

It is no secret that most men come to an orgasm BEFORE women during sex. Studies have shown that women on average need 11 minutes to be able to reach an orgasm during intercourse. For guys, it is just a short 3 minutes! And it is clear why the vast majority of women remain unsatisfied during sex.

The Principle Of Outlasting Women

Many men continue to put their trust on pills, sprays and creams to improve their sexual stamina. The simple truth is that these “band-aids” do NOT provide a permanent solution to premature ejaculation. The key to having total ejaculatory control is in re-conditioning and re-training your mind so that you can significantly delay the “point of no return”, or the point where a male orgasm becomes imminent.

“Re-conditioning” simply requires you to reverse the negative thoughts that cause you to climax early. For instance, many men subconsciously “will” themselves to ejaculate early simply because they entertain thoughts such as:

“Am I really good enough to satisfy her?”
“Will I climax early again?”
“What if she thinks I’m really BAD in bed?”

Does This All Sound Familiar To You?

If it does, the first step to fixing premature ejaculation is to replace those negative thoughts with positive affirmations, such as:

“I can completely satisfy any woman”
“I am sexually confident”
“I can last all night”

The human mind is a very powerful thing. Repetitive affirmations can subconsciously induce the mind to believe the things it can do and more importantly… to eventually act out that way.

So if you are not lasting long enough, start replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, and your ability to enjoy longer-lasting sex will increase multiple folds!

3 Seated Sex Positions To Give Your Girl AMAZING Orgasms

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Sex positions offer a lot of flexibility and comfort in a couple’s repertoire. They allow for (at least) one partner to relax and sit up comfortably, and can offer tremendous clitoral stimulation for your wife as well.

The first time I ever came during intercourse, my partner and I used a seated position that offered both clitoral and internal G-Spot stimulation like no other, and it’s still my go-to position when I want to orgasm quickly while looking in my lover’s eyes. Every woman is different so why not try some of the under-appreciated seated positions to see if any can offer up just what you’re both after.

1. Hot Tub Squat

This position is best in a hot tub or pool with a seated ledge, although it’s possible to perform in a comfy, firm, high-backed chair. Try to keep your genitals out of the water if possible, as chlorine in the vagina can lead to a nasty infection. Get into the tub (or the chair) and sit comfortably with legs bent and your feet flat on the floor.

Have the girl squat on top of you with her knees bent and tucked under your armpits. Plant her feet on the seat beside you and ask your girl to hold onto your shoulders or the back of the chair for support. The movement of the water will determine how frenzied of a sex session you’ll have, but that’s not a bad thing since most women prefer a little bit of a slower experience while building to climax anyway.

CLIMAX CUE

In this position, she can control the speed and depth of penetration, and has lots of leverage to grind her clitoral head into you. If she wants more of a thrill, get your girl to tilt her pelvis towards you, and she’ll feel the G-Spot stimulation almost immediately. Or, turn on the water jets in the hot tub and sit on one, spreading your legs.

The flow will hit every girl right where she needs it, like a makeshift water vibrator. Avoid grabbing the hips and trying to push/pull. Trying to control the thrusting from this position will just be plain annoying, so don’t bother.

2. Lotus

Sit down with your legs crossed in the middle of a bed or on the floor. Your partner straddles your lap so that the girl’s legs wrap around your back and she supports herself with your arms, shoulders and torso.

Gently enter the vagina, rocking back and forth in slow motion to increase pleasure for both of you. If she finds this position to be filling her too deeply, get the girl to move back slightly on your upper thighs so she has more control over the penetration.

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Of all the positions in this eBook, this is the one that received the gross majority of the thumbs-up votes from sex experts and couples alike. In fact, most of the educators I spoke with suggested starting with this position before trying any others, as it’s almost guaranteed with enough time to get her in the right head space and body position to cum.

The rocking movement allows for long, gliding penetration, covering the entire length of the vagina. The G-Spot receives lots of attention too, as does her clitoral hood and head because of the angle and speed. She can also press her breasts up against your body to increase the heat, and make intimate eye contact for mind-blowing bliss.

This is one of the tamer positions in this eBook, but don’t let it fool you can hold this position for hours if need be, and it’ll provide most of the stimulation she craves to get off.

3. Lie Back Lotus

Yoga aficionados will appreciate this intricate sex position. Find a comfortable spot on the floor and sit down with your legs crossed. Invite your lover to sit on your lap with her legs wrapped around your body and have her lay back on the ground, supporting her with your crossed legs.

Penetrate her, making sure that your pelvises are tightly pressed against one another, and your bodies are snug in an embrace. Grasp each other’s wrists and arch both of your backs slowly, leaning back until both of your heads touch the ground. If your penis falls out (and it may if you weren’t tightly enmeshed before you moved backwards) scoot your bum forward and slowly sit up.

Put yourself back inside her, and slowly lie back again. Your knees should prop her up mid-back, and hers should do the same for you. Move with gentle thrusts toward each other, with pelvic lifts, or subtle leg movements.

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It might not seem like a doozie of a sex position, but this little number is something that especially that comes to mind when tantra or yoga fans talk about ‘yoking’. No, that’s not the yellow part of an egg, but rather the word that yoga aficionados use to describe an inseparable connection between two things.

In yoga this refers to the spirit and the body, but in tantra it refers to two people coming together. By lying in this position, you’re choosing to connect with your partner on a higher, more spiritual plane which for some women is crucial to sexual release.

If she tells you she doesn’t feel connected to you or that the spark is somehow lacking, try this position and see if she feels the same way afterward. My guess is that you’ll be coming together in more ways than one!

3 Rear Entry Sex Positions To Make Her Orgasm FASTER!

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Sex positions offer a lot of benefits for you and your wife to make the Big O all that much easier to achieve: G-Spot stimulation, easy access to both partner’s genitals, and the possibility of great body contact depending on the position and angle of penetration.

Most men don’t need a lot of convincing to try doggy style sex, but some women require a bit of encouragement because of the lack of face-to-face contact which can, at times, lead to a disconcerting disconnected feeling. Try out some of these rear-entry positions that will allow your lady lots of body contact, some unusual positioning, and a little extra bang for her buck!

1. Superwoman

If your partner has ever expressed an interest in flying, this might be a go-to position in the near future! To get into it, seat yourself on the edge of your bed with your feet planted firmly on the floor. Ask your partner to sit down on your lap with her back to you, straddle your legs with her knees on the bed.

Enter her, making sure that she’s flush up against your pubic region, then put your arms around her firmly and push her gently forward. Her legs should kick back so that they lay straight on the bed, with your arms stopping her from falling on her face. If either of you struggle to get into sex positions, try having her in doggy position at the edge of the bed, and then crouch down behind her before entering her.

It shouldn’t be too hard from that angle for you to sit down, put yourself into her, and then encourage your lover to stretch her legs out behind her. Movement occurs both with her toes pushing back against the bed to thrust, and your hands pulling her into you with your arms either around her waist or grasping tightly to her upper arms, just above the elbow.

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There’s a lot of friction inherent in this position because of her body position and the angle of penetration. As well, you’ll have a front row seat to massage her G-Spot, and could even attempt anal sex in this position if either of you so desired. To ensure she experiences enough tension to climax, get her to grind her pelvis into your penis, and squeeze her legs around your torso.

If she gets tired, have her lean forward to prop herself up with her hands on the ground or your thighs, and use that leverage to pump into her with even more force. This position is all about rhythm, so find the right position and you’ll find her sweet spot. Just don’t go so far overboard that you launch her off the bed and flat on her face!

2. Let’s Do The Twist

Best performed on the floor, or near a couch / sturdy chair, this half twist, half hitch rear-entry position works well for women who like to grind themselves into their partner for clitoral stimulation, and for men who don’t mind lending a helping hand.
To get into position, start in standard doggy with both of your knees on the ground and her bum flush up against your genitals.

Get her to raise one of her legs with her knee bent, and stick your leg on the same side of your body underneath it to prop her leg up. She’ll need to lean over to get to the right angle, so have her bend forward slightly at the waist and hold onto whatever nearby stable piece of furniture there is.

Your partner should then scoot back so that you can enter her easily. Pull her leg back as far as it can go with your arm, so she’s really snug. Using your arm and leg as leverage, she can now rock herself on your penis and stimulate her clitoris with your leg, her free hand, or both.

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There may not be a lot of thrusting inherent in this movement, but it will certainly set off most of her orgasmic triggers. You have G-Spot action, ample clitoral stimulation, plus an added bonus of putting her in a position that feels restrictive. This is definitely a great pose for women with submissive tendencies, maximizing the the chance of orgasm.

Holding this position for any length of time shouldn’t be too difficult for either of you, so it’s a great go-to when you want a bit of a change from normal doggy, plus it’ll give her more of what she needs to climax.

3. The Rear Snuggle

Lay down on your back with your entire body relaxed and your arms loose at your sides. Have your wife come over to you and gently lay on top of the length of your body, with her back to your stomach. Get her to bend one of her knees so that it’s off to the side, with her ankle touching your hip area, while leaving her other leg straight and ready to use as leverage. She should be resting comfortably against your torso.

Next, slide yourself into her and have her lean further back until your heads are side-by-side, cuddling into each other. Her arms should reach around the back of your head for more support, which will also arch her back in turn, giving both of you a better angle for penetration and G-Spot stimulation. With your right hand, reach over her body and stimulate her clitoral head. Once she’s really excited, start rocking back and forth in a relaxed manner to increase the friction.

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There won’t be a lot of movement with this sex position, but that’s okay because she won’t need it. Keep yourself fully inserted into her as much as possible. If you fall out, simply ask her to arch her back more, or push against her bent leg to find a better angle. Gently stroke toward you, or have her show you with her own hand how she likes to have her clitoris stroked, and you’ll both be rocketing to orgasm in no time.

3 Oral Sex Tips To Drive Her Wild With Razor Sharp Female Orgasms

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Oral sex is one of the best ways to give your girlfriend or wife intense orgasms. And the most wonderful way for her to experience the ultimate excitement is by making her feel you will do anything for her without asking anything in return.

Cunnilingus, in simple terms, is oral sex for women. Cunnilingus gives a heightened sexual excitation in women. If you don’t know how to do this, then it will turn out to be just another forgettable experience for her.

But with these 3 tips below, you will certainly triumph in bed and give her a truly memorable erotic adventure – complete with powerful orgasms, no less!

1. The Art Of Moving Your Tongue!

This can actually be compared to how a cat or a dog drinks from a bowl of water. Try observing these animals when they drink; you will see how their tongues move in and out of their mouths at a really fast pace.

This is exactly what your tongue should do when performing oral sex on a woman and put her in the mood quickly. To bring this intimate mood to the next level, get creative and try out various tonguing strokes (hint: circular strokes produce a tantalizing effect on most women).

2. Humming

To give your tongue some needed rest in between strokes, and to spice things up a little, try the “humming” technique. Make use of any melody that you can think of and hum it, with the position of your head remaining unchanged.

The vibration from the sound you are making will reach the vagina, providing additional stimulation to her clitoris.

3. Sex Toys Can Be Your Best Friends

Here’s a fact: No matter how good you are in bed, sometimes you need a little “help” to maximize her pleasure. Why not bring along something that can help you in bed, like a sex toy? You just need to know where and when you are going to use these.

I would recommend choosing a toy that is intended for anal stimulation. This is one of the most pleasurable sexual acts if done in a proper manner. Anal stimulation, together with clitoral stimulation with your tongue, can provide a deadly “combo” and trigger an intense female orgasm.

By giving your lady the satisfaction from oral sex, you can expect to be amply rewarded with something titillating in return… well, which hot-blooded man would refuse a fellatio (or male oral sex) in return? I bet you wouldn’t!

What Matters Most To Women During Sex

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Sex tips are essential for all guys to learn what matters most to women. Men are obsessed with the position you do it in, how long you last, or whether or not you give her an orgasm. What matters most to her is YOU! A woman’s relationship with her man is often times the main reason behind her lack of interest in sex and inability to achieve an orgasm.

Although she could be displeased with her man in the bedroom, her lack of sexual desire and orgasms is usually related to much more than his faulty techniques and inability to give her an orgasm.

The good news is that such problems can be resolved. But for that to happen, you must be willing and able. So if she does not have a desire for sex and ability to have an orgasm is lacking, take a deep breath, blow it out, and find comfort in knowing that this problem can be fixed. Neither of you are doomed to a sex life without pleasure.

In fact, if you follow all of the steps you will be able to provide her with what she needs to “want” to have sex and to achieve orgasm. The following sex tips are a few things you can do to help ease any tension that may exist between the two of you and open her mind to exploring new sexual terrain with you:

Don’t Be Negative

If you accuse your partner of being frigid or lying there like a cold, dead fish, you’ll cause her to retreat from sex even more. So do the opposite. Lift her self-esteem and shower her with compliments (sexual and otherwise). Help her to feel comfortable about talking about her sexual issues with you by sharing all of the positive thoughts you have about her.

Don’t Pressure Her Into Having An Orgasm

Pressuring your lady to have an orgasm when she doesn’t feel like it will only make her want to avoid it more. Remove the pressure by making it clear to her that you will never get upset with her or offended if she doesn’t have an orgasm or doesn’t feel like having sex. If pressuring her, sulking or getting angry is what you’ve typically done in the past, let her know those days are over and never do it again!

Discuss The Issue With Her

Find some quiet time to have a talk with your lady about her difficulty achieving an orgasm. Tell her you’ve noticed that she doesn’t seem to climax as often as you would like for her to. Ask her why, and be sure she knows you are only trying to get some answers, not make her feel bad. Ask her some pointed questions: Is she tired or do your methods need some improvement?

Does she want more foreplay? Would a sensual massage help? Provide her with support if her inability to orgasm is due to a painful past. Let your lady know you understand. Tell her you understand how painful it must be for her. Encourage her to talk to a counselor who specializes in sexual problems in women.

Be sure not to force her to tell you every sordid detail about her experience. But let her know that you are there for her if she wants to talk. Never judge her, and do your best to avoid offering her advice. Just listen and provide her with lots of nonsexual hugs.

Tell Her How Much You Love Her

A woman never tires of hearing her man say, “I love you.” And a woman who feels loved and secure will be more likely to relax and trust enough to allow you to satisfy her deepest desires. There’s a lot you can do to sexually arouse her and provide your girl with the stimulation she needs to have an orgasm.

Just keep in mind that it doesn’t happen overnight. If bringing her to a female orgasm has been a challenge in the past, then it’s going to take some time, effort, understanding, and practice before you are able to give her the Big O.

But that’s not all it’s going to take. It’s also going to take lots of KNOWLEDGE! And that’s exactly what you’re getting by reading this book. So keep reading—the best has yet to come (no pun intended)!