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How To Get Your Girlfriend Or Wife To BEG You For Sex!

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Foreplay is essential to getting primed for sex. Even if you’re the best lover in the world, getting to a point where your girl is ready can be more erotic than the actual act. As a guy, we’re ready for the big show at any point. We go from limp to hard in a matter seconds. While this is great for a quickie, women typically want more than just a 5 second romp in the dressing room at Dillard’s.

Getting your girl to the edge before you start having sex will not only make her orgasm more intense, it can keep the sex fresh. Here are a few tips for making foreplay amazing.

Slow It Down

How long is your normal regiment of foreplay? 5-10 minutes? Do you remember in college when you would hook up with a girl and you weren’t too sure if she was going to let you go all the way? Remember how you would do everything possible to get the girl so turned on that she would not be able to say no?

This is the kind of foreplay that you want to implement with your girlfriend. Slow everything down to half time. If you normally went 5-10 minutes before sex, make it 20 minutes. There is no time limit on how much you need. Get your girl to the point where she is trying to put you inside of her and then stop. Go a little more and when she tries again, let your girl do what she wants.

Use Barriers

Foreplay is commonly started before intercourse is even an option. One of the best ways that you can get a woman begging you to have sex is to set up barriers. This is talked about a lot in pick up artist methods. Barriers are basically situations where you cannot have sex immediately. Getting started in public is one of the best methods.

When you’re out at a bar or a restaurant, start flirting early. Touch your girl in places that are socially acceptable while still being erotic. The small of the back, the stomach and the face work well. Brushing the hair out of your woman’s eyes works well too. Whisper things in her ear about how you can’t wait to go back home. This will start to get thing going and the fact that you can’t have sex right then and there will make it even more erotic.

Use More Kissing

Kissing is one of the best foreplay methods out there. While kissing is primarily done on the lips, you need to spread it out. Kiss the neck and ear lobes. Some women are really into having their ear lobes kissed and sucked while others will find that it tickles them. Kiss the side of the neck and collarbone and then move your way down to the chest.

Don’t go for breasts immediately. This is an amateur move.  Work your way down the chest and kiss the breasts in a fluid motion. Remember that you want to do this slowly. Make sure that you are not just focusing on the nipple. Kiss the area between the breasts to get your girl really turned on.

Implement Porn In Foreplay

While porn isn’t something that every girl is going to be into, it can make for some very hot foreplay. A lot of girls love porn and others hate it. Talk to your girlfriend before you toss on a porno movie. If you don’t have any porno movies, take a trip to your local adult store and buy one together.

You never know what you will find that can spice up the sex. Let your girl pick one out and then you pick one out. If you’re into something a little out there like fetishes or hardcore sex, make sure that she is going to be comfortable watching it. Turn on the porn before you start having sex to get things going. Kiss and finger your girlfriend during the movie to set the mood. Remember to be slow.

Use Her Favorite Toys

Sex toys are another way to get foreplay going easily. Most girls have a vibrator; however, if she doesn’t you can easily buy one online. Using a vibrator on your girlfriend or allowing her to use it on herself can be extremely erotic. Remember not to focus on just using the toy. Kiss and suck on her breasts.

Kiss her neck and stomach while you’re using the toy to enhance her experience. Most vibrators come with a clitoral stimulator. If the vibrator you have does not have a clitoral stimulator, pull it out and rub it on her clitoris to get her ready for you.

10 Anal Sex Rules You NEVER Want To Overlook!

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Anal sex can be a lot of fun for both a man and a woman. However, there are things that should not be overlooked. Here are 10 rules to live by when deciding on this particular sex act.

1. Never Do It While She’s Pregnant

Dr. Ruth Westheimer, sex therapist, media personality and author, points out that some men think that having vaginal intercourse during pregnancy will somehow hurt the baby, so they suggest anal intercourse instead, which is not true. Anal sex can be very dangerous during pregnancy, especially because of the risk of spreading bacteria from the anus and rectum to the vagina.

Vaginal infections during pregnancy can be both harder to treat and more serious. Moreover, it is more difficult to get in a comfortable position for anal stimulation while pregnant, which makes it least desired by women. Also, hemorrhoids are a common side effect of pregnancy and could make anal sex excruciatingly painful for her.

2. Don’t Do Her By Surprise

Word of advice: girls are not amused when boys slip their penises in the wrong hole “by mistake”. It doesn’t matter how turned on she is, she will feel the difference, and she won’t be very happy about it. The only way you’re getting in there is if she’s ready for it. And you’ve talked about it beforehand. And she’s agreed to give it a try. There are no other options. Everything else is a forced-sexual encounter, and you don’t want her to think that about you, do you?

3. Never Skip Foreplay

Even if she’s the type that likes it rough, it’s different when it comes to anal intercourse. Foreplay is critical. She might like when you surprise her with sudden trysts, without any clitoral stimulation beforehand, but she might not like it when you do the same, but in her derriere.

4. Start Slow And Move Step By Step

The anal tightness takes time to ‘break’ into a state of relaxation, and until that happens, any attempt at thrusting is meant to cause pain of the worst kind. This pain is the worst for first time anal sex, so avoid it all costs.

5. Don’t Push It Too Soon

One of Murphy’s famous laws on sex goes something like this: “Anal sex is like snow. You never know how many inches you are going to get or how long it is going to last.” Always keep in mind that there is no sure thing when it comes to anal sex. She might not want to go through with it tonight, and that means you should always be prepared to back off whenever she asks you to. If you’re too insistent too soon, you might scare her for good.

6. Don’t Go Too Hard

Camille Paglia, feminist author, teacher and social critic said at one point: “You have to accept the fact that part of the sizzle of anal sex comes from the danger of it. You can be overpowered.” Though you can get over excited while you’re doing it, keep a lucid mind and think about the consequences that your roughness can produce. Keep your enthusiasm in your heart, not in your moves, otherwise you can end up hurting her.

7. Don’t Forget About Breathing

Deep inhaling and exhaling is very important during anal sex. Ask your partner to take relaxing breaths so that the anus doesn’t tighten up too soon. After you have inserted your finger or penis inside the anus, get her to exhale deeply so that the muscles relax. Yoga lessons can help her control her breathing, so it wouldn’t hurt if she took some.

There is no such thing as too much lube. People who like anal sex use to say that “too much lube is almost enough.” This is true. Don’t worry about the mess. As long as you’re using the right type (condom compatible), you have nothing to fear about. Lube her whole body if you want, from head to toe, whatever makes you two feel comfortable enough so that the experience is pleasurable.

8. Don’t Use Numbing Cream

Never use lubricants that contain numbing ingredients under the mistaken impression that it’s a good thing not to feel sore. Pain is a sign that your body should desist from what it is doing and this is not something you should ever overlook. She could get hurt really bad without either of you realizing it.

Also, you could get hurt just as well. Accept the fact that it is possible that it hurts in the beginning and move through to the pleasurable phase. That is the natural way of doing it and it saves you both from unneeded complications.

9. Use Protection

Even if you’re a solid couple and you trust each other, you should never do it without a condom. There a number of diseases that you can get and it’s not worth the trouble. However, if you’re dead set on not using, for whatever reason you may invoke, The American Medical Women’s Associations recommends that before safer sex protections are discontinued, both you and your partner be tested for HIV.

10. Don’t Switch Holes Without Switching Hats

There’s a reason women swipe their lady parts from You have to accept the fact that part of the sizzle of anal sex comes from the danger of it. You can be overpowered. The germs that exist in the fecal remains cause serious infections both to the
vagina and to the urinary tract. Either you switch condoms or you put on double hats and when the backdoor job is complete, you can take one off and continue to vaginal intercourse.

How To Introduce Your Girl To Your Smoking Fetish

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A smoking fetish can be a scary thing when your girl is not ready. A smoking fetish is probably one of the most daunting tasks to introduce into a relationship. Having a smoking fetish can make you feel ostracized from the rest of society, but it’s important to remember that there are a lot of people out there with the same fetish as you.

This is very common in the BDSM scene and it shouldn’t be hard to tell your girlfriend about it if she is open minded. Every relationship has conflict, but your partner should be open to your sexual desires and making you happy. Here is how you should introduce your fetish to your girlfriend.

Tell Her About It

Before you can introduce this to your girlfriend you will need to tell your partner about it. Chances are that if you have a smoking fetish you are probably already having pretty hot sex. If you are already using bondage or S&M in your sex life with your girlfriend then this will probably not bother your partner all that much.

There is a chance that she is not turned on by smoke so it’s important to consider if this fetish is a deal breaker for the relationship. Sit your girlfriend down and talk to her about it. Tell her why it turns you on and ask  if she would be willing to try it out with you. If she is open minded, she will probably want to make you happy.

What If She Doesn’t Smoke?

If she doesn’t smoke there is a major issue. Asking your partner to take up a habit that could potentially be addicting and lead to cancer is not fair. Smoking a cigarette every once in awhile is not going to kill your girlfriend, but it could lead to regular use. It is never recommended to ask a partner to start a dangerous habit for your sexual desire.

There is a code in the BDSM scene called SSC (safe, sane and consensual). Smoking goes against the safe notion of this code so it’s important to realize that she probably will not go for it if she is not a smoker. If you are dating a smoker then she is going to be more opened minded about your fetish.

Establish The Ground Rules

Ground rules are essential for a smoking fetish. There are several varieties of a smoking fetish that are common in the scene, so it’s vital that you have some rules in place. For instance, many people who have a smoking fetish with BDSM like to use their partner as an ashtray.

While others don’t take it this far, some people even like to flick the ash onto their partner’s face. If you are going to be doing this then you need consent from your partner. The majority of guys get off on having a girl smoke while having sex or while giving a blowjob.

Talk to your partner about what she is willing to do and what is not willing to do. If you want to smoke while you are having sex with her, you need to make sure that she is going to be comfortable with this.

Be Safe

The problem with a smoking fetish is the chance that it could slip out of your hand or her hand. Make sure that you are being safe throughout the experience. There is always a chance that she could slip and burn you in a not so hardy area so be aware of this before you implement it into your sex life.

Have ashtrays and cups of water around the room. Open a window and use a fan if possible to get as much smoke out of the room. If you are smoking in a room that is carpeted you run the risk of the smell lingering.

Opening a window and using a fan can cut down on this immensely. Smoking involves fire and the heat of the moment could lead to drapes, carpeting or bed sheets getting burned.

Understand Breath Issues

Breath issues are always a concern with sex, but they are even more important with this fetish. Most guys are drawn to a woman inhaling and blowing out smoke instead of the smell on her breath.

Keep different forms of breath mints around the room for controlling cigarette breath. Listerine strips work the best because they dissolve instantly and kill bacteria in the mouth. This is will not get in the way as much as having to chew gum or suck on a mint.

Top 5 Erogenous Zones On Her Face

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Foreplay has a vital role in getting a woman primed for sex. Some of the most erogenous zones on a woman’s body are on her face and head. Here are some foreplay tips to help you master these zones.

Why The Face Is So Important

All women are beautiful in their own special way. And nothing expresses physical beauty as succinctly as the face. It plays primary role because of one very obvious reason: IT’S THE SEAT OF THE SENSES!

It houses the EYES (windows to the soul), the EARS (receptor of dirty talk), the NOSE (channel for scents), and the MOUTH (for spit-swapping, licking, sucking & biting) Capitalize on her senses. If you know anything about sex, you’ll realize how vital the senses are – it’s all about them.

1. The Nose

What can one do with a snout? A lot actually. For starters, you can make her close her eyes and give her a whiff of varied scents and aromas. Nothing strong, just something nice. Then initiate those playful nose rubs. Nuzzle each other. It’s mano-a-mano only with the snouts. Pinch that cute nose, cut air flow and then start kissing her.

Kiss her on the nose. You can even gently bite on it – just not on the bony part. Use your lips to shield teeth and bite through that. Bite and release immediately. Don’t hold the bite too long because it will get weird.

Tell her to close her eyes and trace her nose contours – the ridge and the sides. You may then give her a nose massage, this works best with lubricant or lotion. It’s very simple – with your thumb and forefinger, gently slide up and down the sides. Just slide up & down.

2. The Ears

In many countries, animal ears are considered a most sought-after delicacy.  Women have ticklish flaps, and going this route can be the beginning of something fun during foreplay. So nibble her ears. Since this is not a boxing match, don’t bite it off. Play with her ear lobes and curves, but don’t go deep. Make sure it never gets wet and sloppy – it’s not a nice feeling when things start getting slick.

Whisper sweet nothings. You don’t have to be poetic. Anything in a sexy tone will work. Since you’re so close, your utterance will be magnified several times, so don’t go drill sergeant on her. Banging the life out of her eardrum is not sensual. Instead, use your sexiest and most evocative voice. Whisper is the operative word.

You may, but very gently and not directly, blow her a warm breeze – it’s more like a sigh or moan really. This is a huge turn-on, especially when reinforced with a caress somewhere. An erotic massage works well with this method.

3. The Eyes

Bring your heads closer and get eye contact, this cheap psychological trick adds to the feeling of intimacy. As been said, gazing into each other increases attraction.

Try this – have some sweet things to say in your head, and then try communicating them through your eyes. Get to that point where you find it easier to talk through the eyes. The satisfaction of knowing what the other is thinking, without the exchange of words, is incomparable – it’s like an inside joke that strengthens your bond.

Tell her to close her eyes. Plant those gentle & dry kisses. Run your fingers over her eye brows, eye lashes and kiss them very gently. Watch her get dreamy with this. Caress the soft skin around, go gentle and sweet. This is something men rarely do nowadays.

4. The Mouth

Take licking, sucking, biting, making out and blowing to a new level. What else can you do with it? Feed her! Put something inside that mouth. Open your refrigerator, what’s inside that’s not past expiration date? You don’t need to go grocery shopping for this one.

Feed her. Kiss her. Don’t just spit swap, swap diets. Spread some on her cheeks and lick it off. Encourage her to do the same. Give her something to suck on – a chocolate-dipped finger, perhaps? Anything that’ll make her mouth and tongue move will do the trick.

You are scintillating her by offering an assortment of flavors. Don’t feed her to fullness though – that’ll just make her sleepy and bloated – not good for physical activity. Give her a tingling sampling, a taste to excite and awaken her drowsy existence.

5. The Hair

Unless your partner is G.I. Jane, I’m going to assume she’s got some. Blond, brunette, frizzy – doesn’t really matter, you can have fun with it. Smell her locks. Isn’t that already a treat? Instead of considering her locks as an annoyance guys should take advantage of her hair.

Hair is one of the best sex toys. Play with it. Use it to caress her body and yours. This will spring goosebumps on both. Run your palm over her head several times – like soothing a lost child. Then course your fingers through like a comb. Add appropriate eye contacts and you make her feel like she’s the most precious girl in the entire Universe.

Motion as if you’re tucking her bangs behind her ears.  It’s the same move as wiping the corner of her lips clean even when there’s no food there. These are cheap, ‘cheesy’ tricks, but she falls for them every time because they’re a sweet-kind-of-nothing that shows attention to details.

For ladies with long locks, take a fistful by sliding your hand from the back, through the neck and through her hair. Form a fist and grab a fistful near the roots then gently tug on it. Gently but firmly. Look at her longingly, survey her face and slowly descend your lips on hers and kiss her.

What Your Eyes Say To A Girl During Dating

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Dating is heavily reliant on eye contact. Many consider them as balls stuck in a socket, producing eye-crusts every freakin’ morning, and unable to modify shape. The eyes can’t even change color unless irritated. Far from being spectacular, they are simply there absorbing the scene.

But consider this – more than being instruments of vision, eyes have the ability to make somebody feel self-conscious and uncomfortable at a distance. Ever been slapped just by looking at a lady a certain way?

The Eyes Say It All

  • The eyes can betray a man’s lack of sexual confidence.
  • They reveal his cluelessness as to where her clitoris really is.
  • They can say, “Wow!” quicker than a dropped jaw can.
  • They reveal how his balls ascended up his throat after ejaculating inside fertile Amy.

Through the eyes, one can invoke serious sexual intent. You can gaze into her soul and proclaim the sensual pleasures about to envelop her body. Eyes reveal your ache for her breasts and curves, they announce your confidence, competence and awareness of what’s about to happen.

One woman required her partner to keep eye contact 85% of the time whenever they are having sex. That way, she doesn’t feel like a sex toy or a glorified giver of sexual favors. They want to be seen.

If you’ve ever been accused of being passionless, unaffected and indifferent in bed – simply increase the eye contact. There might be other goodies to scope on a naked woman, but looking at her eyeballs is just as important and pleasurable.

Increase Intimacy With Eye Contact

To increase and strengthen the bond between couples, there has to be an increase in the frequency and duration of eye contacts. Psychologists have learned that the more a couple gazes at each other, the more drawn and attracted they are to each other.

Moreover, closely acquainted individuals don’t talk through their mouths, but through their eyes. It’s the “I know what you’re thinking” bit. Through eye locks, you can actually be strangers but feel like you’ve been together forever.

Men who intuitively know the power of eye contact may have deliberately disconnected by avoiding them altogether. The absence of intimacy means less complications and an easy transition to the next one-night stand.

Increase Vulnerability With Eye Contact

Just as strong as the desire to be seen, is the fear of being fully known. Eye contacts make her very vulnerable. Actually, it makes both of you vulnerable) With deep eye locks, she’s not only exposing her face, pimples and everything, but her thoughts as well.

Her eyes will be screaming her thoughts. You can see through her, beyond the façade, and that makes her feel very vulnerable. But this is really good news. Believe it or not, vulnerability is an element of hot sex.