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How To Master The ULTIMATE Orgasm!

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An orgasm gives some men the impression that the women should be responsible for stimulating themselves. This has always seemed a bit unfair to me, since the woman is providing him with the stimulation he needs to reach orgasm. So shouldn’t he do the same to give her an orgasm? However, when handled appropriately, having a woman stimulate herself can be a pleasurable experience for both her and her partner.

Be A Multi-Tasker

Multi-tasking basically means the man does more than one thing at the same time. For example, he may be penetrating the vagina while also stimulating the clitoris by pressing his pubic bone against, also called “grinding.” This is a great method for the woman to reach orgasm.

If the couple wants to achieve orgasm at or near the same time, this is clearly the best option. Other couples I’ve met with have resorted to taking turns, meaning one partner will climax first, then the other. Depending on how each person best reaches orgasm, this may be a possibility, but for couples that enjoy climaxing together, this may not be a satisfactory option.

Experiment With Her Orgasm

The best thing about clitoral orgasms is that they can be achieved in many different ways. Because the entire area is highly sensitive, experimenting with these types of orgasms can also add some interest and spice to sexual relationships, which may have become routine and boring over time.

The main benefit of experimenting is that you’ll learn just what makes your woman tick—sexually speaking, of course. While some women prefer direct stimulation, others find it uncomfortable and prefer to have the area around the clitoris stimulated instead. Women who have learned how to have an orgasm through masturbation will generally have a much better idea of what type of stimulation they prefer than women who have not.

Know Her Orgasm

As I mentioned above, the clitoris fills up with blood and becomes erect like a penis. This means it’s much more noticeable when a woman is aroused. Because the clitoris does not need to be erect for sexual intercourse to occur, clitoral orgasms will only happen if the woman is properly aroused.

That means some type of foreplay is generally a requirement. With continuous stimulation of the clitoris, it becomes more engorged with blood and this further heightens its sensitivity. As stimulation continues, a point is reached when all of the tension in the area must be released—the point in which an orgasm is experienced.

Cure Premature Ejaculation With These 2 EASY Tips!

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Premature ejaculation is an issue that affects a lot of men. Are you sick and tired of super quick sex? Are you worried that your inability to last is making your woman think twice about making out with you? Are you finally ready to take control of your sex life, supercharge your stamina, and give her hot sex to boot even if you’ve never been able to last beyond 2 minutes in bed?

If you are anything like the men reading this, I am sure your answers are a resounding “YES!”. Here’s a simple fact: over 70% of men surveyed said their biggest fear in the bedroom is not being able to last (so take comfort that you are not alone). Not only that, the majority of women also want their men to last long enough to give them orgasms.

So what are the most effective ways to improve your endurance in bed and become a phenomenal lover who can please any woman at will? Plenty! But for the brevity of this article, let us look at two proven and very popular tactics to improve your “staying power” in the sack.

1. Unload Before Reloading

Take advantage of your refractory period. This is the time frame between the first and second orgasm. Simply put, if you masturbate or gratify yourself an hour or two before you have sex, it will take you much longer to achieve the same levels of sexual stimulation. This can work wonders for your premature ejaculation.

In order words, the first climax helps to “desensitize” your penis glans and can give you up to three times the endurance in bed. You don’t have to feel funny or embarrassed to have to do this – it is a completely natural and proven way to last longer while combating premature ejaculation.

In fact many sexual therapists and medical professionals recommend masturbation as an effective “first line of defense” to prevent an early climax and increase your stamina in bed!

2. Call Me PC For Short

In your pelvis area, there exists a set of muscles, known as the PC muscle. Most men do not know this, but you can fortify these muscles and make them more resilient through simple pelvic contraction exercises that have been proven to transform your sexual stamina.

Exercises like Kegel are super easy to do and does NOT require you to handle your genitals. These simple routines take up no more than a couple of minutes each day, and can easily give you extraordinary stamina to even outlast your woman in bed and I’m pretty sure she won’t be complaining about it either!

5 Rear Entry Positions For Better Sex TONIGHT!

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Sex positions can keep your bedroom activities fresh. Here are 5 rear entry positions for better sex tonight!

1. Backwards Beauty

Sit up on a firm surface with your legs straight out in front of you, knees slightly bent, and your spine erect. Get your partner to sit on your lap, straddling your thighs, with her back to you. Insert your penis into her vagina, and then gently push her forward so that she’s lying face down along your legs, with her legs out straight behind her.

Move her along your penis by pushing her hips and getting her to pull on your ankles in a rhythmic motion. For more clitoral stimulation, get her to rotate her pelvis from forward to backwards, arching her back the entire time.

CLIMAX CUE

There’s a lot of friction for your partner in this position; not only does she get her clitoris rubbed by your balls and root, but she can control the amount and depth of penetration too.

If she finds she’s not getting enough clitoral stimulation, have her raise her rear slightly and arch her back, then pull her further back into you snugly. Sex toys work beautifully here as well, since it’ll get trapped between your bodies without a lot of wiggle room.

2. Closed Legs

If your partner faces down with her legs straight and spread only a little bit, with her bottom tilted up slightly, you can put your legs on either side of hers, and enter her from behind. Once settled in, ask her to close her legs and cross her ankles so you’re really trapped inside her all snug and tight.

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She’ll feel every inch of you as you pull in and out of her – a plus since there isn’t a lot of room for movement with this position. As an added bonus, you can easily reach under her and play with her breasts or clitoris, and still have the right angle to whisper sweet nothings in her ear, or kiss and nibble at her neck. Really, there isn’t much you can do wrong with this position, especially if you’re both a fan of rear entry.

3. Doggy Walking

Before trying this position, I didn’t enjoy doggy style sex much at all. I found it difficult to orgasm, felt disconnected from my partner, and way too exposed to the elements. It took me several years to find a rear-entry position that worked well for me, and this is definitely my current favorite.

Why? Because I’m in control, receive both G-Spot and clitoral stimulation, and feel very grounded while performing it. My partner doesn’t complain either, as he’s got fantastic view of the action. Here’s how to try doggy.

Walking and get the most out of the position’s angle. Set yourselves up in standard doggy position. Enter your partner, and then lean back with your hands on the floor to stabilize.

She should move back a bit to tuck her bum right up against your pelvis, and straddle one or both of your thighs with her clitoral area flush and snug against your leg(s). Move by thrusting your hips up or have her push her hips back against you. Alternatively, she can grind into you to control clitoral stimulation.

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Because you’re entering her from the rear, you’ll be stimulating her G-Spot nicely. Play on the sensation by thrusting up instead of across her body like you normally would, and see if you can feel the G-Spot’s spongy mass increase in size as she gets more into it.

Use both your arms and legs to really push yourself into her, but try and keep your pelvic areas meshed with one another the entire time. It wouldn’t hurt if she wiggled her buttocks from side to side, intertwining your squishy bits all the more. Let her choose the tempo of your movements, and try lifting one of your legs a bit to see if it helps rub her nub even more.

4. Chair Over

Get a sturdy chair with no arms and ask your partner to lie down on it, so that her legs and arms are touching the ground and her belly is on the seat. If she can’t reach the floor with both her hands and her feet, then have her hang her legs down. Try to get her pubic mound in line with the edge of the chair.

Kneel behind her and put your penis inside of her, then thrust a few times until you get a rhythm going. Hold on to her legs if you’d like, or get her to push back against your legs with her feet. Let her breasts dangle over the edge of the chair, so they don’t get squished.

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This position is guaranteed to get her blood really pumping hard, which might make her a bit light headed. On top of all that, she can rub up against the chair with her pelvis, getting some extra stimulation (and maybe even clitoral stimulation depending on your angle and height).

The feeling of weightlessness with you behind her will surely make her feel amazing; you can even try pulling her hair gently and see how she reacts!

5. The Wheelbarrow

Get your partner to bend over the side of a bed or sturdy couch with her body pressed against it and her legs on the floor. As you enter her from behind and between her legs, hold her legs just above the knees and lift. Her body should still be partially on the bed, but she’ll literally be suspended on your penis.

Encourage her to keep her legs straight, as it makes the position a lot easier to hold. If she gets tired she can bend her knees and place her ankles on the bed for support. Use her hands to push back against her and thrust into her while holding her hips firmly. She won’t get to move around much, but the angle is one of the best available for G-Spot stimulation, so it may not take long for her to climax.

What Your Partner REALLY Wants During Phone Sex!

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Phone sex can be a great way to keep your relationship interesting if you have distance issues. Even if you live in the same city, this dirty deed can be a mood killer if not handled properly. Here is what real men and women are saying about it.

What She Said:

Imagination And Tone

Phone sex is all about imagination and your tone of voice. This is much different than sexting. There is nothing you cannot talk about! Since guys are super visual and you are miles away, a great idea is to describe to your guy what you are wearing. After he has a nice visual describe to him what you are doing to yourself. Keep your voice low and sultry.

To help get yourself in the mood, you should put on something sexy that feels good on your skin, light a few candles to set the mood and keep any toys and lubes near by. Another hot tip is to describe a sex romp you two had in the past! Describe what you two did and then tell him how hot you feel thinking about it.

You can also describe in details what you would do to him if you had him with you.  There are no rules or boundaries and when you trust your partner you can let your inhibitions run wild. And if you are unsure of what to say, a deep low moan escaping your lips is worth a thousand words!

What He Said:

Be Specific And Be Slow

Tell your partner what you would like to do to them, in great detail. Let the story build. I also think it’s great to be naked when you talk dirty to your partner. It’s best to have access to your naughty bits with your dirty talk and just the fact that you’re naked, helps set the mood. It will really help you fall into that world.

Realize that phone sex is fantasy based, so feel free to let your mind wander and imagine yourself having the best sex you and your partner have ever had in a dream location. Maybe it’s about you two having sex on the beach, maybe it’s about the two of you having sex in public.

Maybe it’s slow and sensual love making, may it’s about hard and nasty fucking. Maybe he wants to do you and your best girlfriend, maybe you want to fuck him in the ass with a strap on. Or maybe it’s about trying an orgy for the first time. From straight sex to swinger sex, let your imagination go wild!

Then let your fingers do the walking. If you’re on the subway, it’s maybe a bit different, but if your alone at home, and you and your partner both don’t orgasm, what’s the point? Get your lover hot and bothered, and make sure you cum loudly for them, and they of course need to return the favor. Tease, please and play all you like, but make sure you end it with a bang.

And above all, have fun. Dirty talk is a skill and it takes practice, but what’s the downside of that? Phone sex is fun and should be enjoyable. It’s not rocket science and it’s not hard labor (unless of course, those happen to be sexual fantasies of yours). So relax, un wind and get your rocks (and other things) off!

Everything You NEED To Know About The Clitoris

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A female orgasm is a mystifying even to a lot of men. By far the most common way for a woman to achieve an orgasm is through direct or indirect clitoral stimulation. To understand why, you must first understand the clitoris.

Just WHAT Is It?

The clitoris is located just above the entrance to the vagina and behind the labia minora. In most women, it is a small nub of flesh that contains a high concentration of nerve endings.

A clitoral hood often covers it. Many men and women mistake the hood for the clitoris itself. But what most people don’t know is that only a small portion of this is actually visible. The remainder of the organ is surrounded by the rest of the reproductive system and extends all the way to the bottom of the pubic bone.

Why Is It So Darn Important?

Two things are particularly interesting about this sex organ. First, all female mammals have one. This is interesting because according to biologist, the sole purpose of this organ is sexual pleasure. That would seem to mean that humans aren’t the only ones who enjoy the way sex feels. And if you’ve ever seen two animals mate, you might agree.

Second, it is made from the same material as the the male genitals. In fact, in men this organ becomes a fullfledged penis after the embryo is exposed to testosterone in the womb. Just like the male organ, the female organ fills with blood and becomes erect during sexual arousal. The clitoral hood is essentially the same as the foreskin.

It’s The Same As A Penis…Say What?

The only real difference between the two —besides location in the body—seems to be that the males use their organ for urination, while the clitoris is not. With that said, it is important to realize that the clitoris is really similar in size to the penis, even though most of it cannot be seen.

Vibrations through the pelvic region caused by intercourse can stimulate the nerve endings in the unseen part of the clitoris, as well, and this can also lead to an orgasm. What many people don’t realize about the clitoris is that the penis alone usually can’t stimulate it. This is due its position within the woman’s body. This makes it extremely difficult for the penis to provide rhythmic stimulation to the clitoris. That means traditional intercourse usually needs to be coupled with clitoral stimulation.