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How To Tease Your Girl Into An Orgasmic FRENZY!

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Foreplay is essential every time you have sex! You want to tease and play with your lover as much as possible before getting down to business – here’s how!

Ever since she experienced it from the boys on the playground, a woman relishes the thought of being teased. That tension between bad boy and innocent girl was challenging and it was exciting! And, although she may not readily admit it, it was kind of fun. Looking back, she realizes that she loved it.

What took place at the playground must also unfold in the bedroom – the adult playground.

Thwarting Her Power Over You

Women, especially the desirable ones, often find that they can easily manipulate guys into doing anything, absolutely anything they want. What she wants, she gets – immediately and without question. – without her working for it. If she wants a kiss, boy-toy here would only be too happy to comply. Why would he wait, he’s only been waiting for that moment for like 2 months! Guess who’s the doggy and who’s the master in this dynamic?

It’s very important that you not only learn what women want, but HOW NOT TO GIVE IT TO THEM IMMEDIATELY!

That’s teasing!

Teasing During Oral Sex

In oral sex for example, don’t immediately dive and spar with her clitoris. That’s what most guys do during foreplay, but you’re not most guys. Start with her inner thighs, before moving to the general area of the vulva, accidentally touching the clitoris a few times. Eventually, zero in on the clitoris. During the build-up phase, you can even STEP BACK and leave it for a while and get busy with something else. Then later, come back. It’s a back & forth, push-pull technique.

The same thing happens with stuff like kissing, massages, penetration etc. Don’t jump to the good stuff, delay the good stuff. The sensual man doesn’t see this as delayed gratification – it is prolonged pleasure.

But why do we tease in the first place?

Why It’s Important To Do It EVERY TIME

Let me make this very clear. We do not tease because we can, we tease because we should. It’s not an ego-tripping power play used to punish a girl. We employ it for effect. If you want incredible sex, you cannot afford to miss on teasing.

We make women wait so they will come to appreciate what we give, when we give it. And this thing goes beyond sex, by the way. For example, how do you make house guests appreciate the dinner you serve? You make them sit & sit & wait so long ‘til they get so hungry they’ll literally harvest what you set on the table.

Teasing raises the value of what you offer, by setting it temporarily & slightly out of reach, you increase wanting. People don’t desire what comes easily. Anything that comes effortlessly is easily taken for granted. People want what they can’t have – this is the basic law of human nature.

When It Goes Overboard

But here’s a warning: Extended foreplay is great, up to a point. There’s a calibrated point where it ceases to become motivational and instead becomes punitive. It needs to be operated on an optimum level, going beyond that simply decreases effectiveness and produces a negative result. One has to strike balance to the art.

There comes a point when she knows, for her ego’s sake, the begging has to stop and she won’t play the game anymore. You’ve proven to be so much work, and you ain’t worth it. You’ve gone overboard, little fella. Use push and pull properly. If the lady sees she’s going to be denied everything anyway, she will stop asking.

Be Good At What You Do

The counterpoint for teasing is the PLEASING. You have to give her MORE than she bargained for, especially if she has proven herself to you. If you love foreplay, and are quite effective at it, you better be great with the actual pleasing part.

You can’t have her hang in there waiting for a kiss, only to get the sloppiest smooch ever! When you make her wait, you better make sure you’re worth it. Otherwise she’d think, “What?! That’s it?!”

You master the PLEASING by continually learning. Keep learning about your woman and make your game tight by understanding her preferences. I guarantee that you’ll be making tons of mistakes. Who cares?! Soon enough, you’ll be so good she’ll do anything just to be with you. Perhaps initially, like with a new partner, you won’t have much leverage with teasing. That’s normal, she is not yet aware of what you’re made of. But over time, when she sees your mettle, she’ll move heaven and earth just to experience you. I’m serious, please prepare for this eventuality.

When To Do What She Asks

One last thing, when she’s barking instructions like “Faster! Faster!”“Harder! Harder!”or “a little bit to the left” – it’s better to simply heed the request. There’s no point in delaying these kind of things. This usually happens during clitoral stimulation, penetration or when she’s about to have an orgasm.

For example, if she asks you for a massage, you may playfully give her a hard time initially. But when you’re already 15 minutes into it and she asks you to go “lower baby”, there’s no point in making her whine for this. You simply proceed.

The man who knows how to tease and please? Well, he becomes the go-to-guy.

3 Things NOT To Do After Sex

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Sex is fun, but what do you do when you’re done getting it on? Roll over and go to sleep? Talk? Cuddle? Run for the hills? Here’s what NOT to do after nookie!

Don’t Make Him Lose His Orgasm Buzz

Everything that you do in bed, before, during and after intercourse, all matter and contribute to whether or not your man enjoyed himself to his fullest potential. If you even do something that turns him off in the slightest bit, chances are that is the only thing he is going to focus on. There could be a million positive things that you were able to achieve in the bedroom with him – like crazy awesome sex positions – but if you do one thing that rubs him the wrong way, that is going to be the one thing he remembers.

Why Acting Right When You’re Done Is CRUCIAL!

The turn offs that affect him the most usually come on after sex. After nookie is when women start winding down and maybe saying or doing stuff that they don’t mean. This is not a time to shut off the charm and shut down in the bedroom. What you do afterwards is important and affects your man tremendously. You don’t want to ruin the moment by doing something stupid do you? You don’t want to ruin his buzz by doing something that you are later going to regret do you? This is why you need to learn how to behave in the sexiest way possible to keep that orgasm buzz alive and well.

There is so much sexy stuff to do after getting it on that will help him to marinate in that moment and relish in it for just a little longer but that is not what we are focused on. You know what is sexy after sex but what you don’t know is what ISN’T. There are 3 rules for how NOT to behave after sex that all women must learn and you are going to get that insight right now.

1. Don’t Ask Him Questions

Right now, your man’s body and mind are starting to shut down. An orgasm takes a lot out of a man and leaves him feeling very weak. He is tired and starting to fall asleep. The last thing he wants or needs is you sitting beside him asking him a million questions. NEVER ask your man right after sex how it was for him or if he liked it. If he is lying beside you, breathing heavily and sweating then let that image speak for itself. Learn to garner some confidence within yourself and trust in your abilities to please your man. Trust in the fact that he did love it and don’t bother asking for reaffirmation. You know how annoying that is when he does it and how much of a buzz kill that is. Don’t do the same and follow suit. Instead, look over at your man in his sweaty glory and know that is all because of you.

2. Don’t Cuddle Immediately

Of course, it is natural for women to want to cuddle after sex and to feel that close bond intensified. However, men don’t feel the same way. Right now, his body temperature is off the charts and all he wants is to cool down. He doesn’t want your warm body on his warm body right way. He is going to need a minute to collect, maybe use the washroom, grab a drink and then he might want to cuddle, but it is okay if he doesn’t. Don’t take this personally if your man doesn’t want to cuddle after intercourse. You wouldn’t want someone as equally hot and sweaty to roll over on top of you if you were feeling light headed and out of breath, right? So, be a strong woman and don’t cuddle up to him right away. Stroke his thigh, or his chest and leave it at that until he makes the move to cuddle up to you.

3. Don’t Critique Him!

This is the biggest rule of them all that women need to learn in regards to behaving after sex. The last thing you want to do to your man is completely shatter his buzz. If he did something during sex that you didn’t like or that didn’t feel good, now is not the time to give him the rundown on what he did wrong. Leave this talk until the next time you both get intimate or sometime over the course of the following day.

Drop it for tonight and deal with it later. You don’t want to roll over when your man is in his glory, happy that he had an incredible orgasm and that you did too, and tell him everything he did wrong. Wouldn’t it make you feel terrible if he did that to you? Something’s are just better left unsaid at least for a little while. Granted, if he did something that made you feel really uncomfortable or went against a rule that you two had in the bedroom, you should bring it up. However, if it is something small and you are holding onto some sort of a grudge, leave it.

Learn to enjoy your man’s company in the moment of after sex and forget all of the little stuff. A lot can be said with a look or a kiss after sex so keep it simple and don’t carry baggage into the moment. Remember, how you act after sex is just as important as how you act during. Don’t be a buzz kill.

Do You Measure Up When It Comes To Sex?

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Sex is what some men are good at and some aren’t – but how do YOU stack up against the best lover your girl has ever had sex with? Can you hold a candle to him?

Women Love Making Comparisons

They compare things like diamond sizes, or this year’s sales with last season’s – wishing to see who’s got the biggest stone, or the more elegant product line. (I told you they’re into details.) Most of all, women love weighing guys against each other when it comes to sex. Some are blunt about it, others are more sophisticated and subtle, but when they compare, boy, do they compare! They’ll weigh a man with just about anybody & anything.

Through comparisons, a girl fishes out who she considers the “best.”

What She’s Looking At

She’ll measure you against her ideal man – that perfect gentleman she’s been fantasizing about since she was 14. She’ll compare how you move, with how he moves. How you do her, and how Mr. Perfect supposedly does it. She’ll note every aspect of you and weigh it against her ideal. This of course, includes your penis size as well. Very easily, you will lose – you are bound to lose. (But don’t worry, if she cares enough, she’ll turn you into a project and begin changing every detail of your soul so you approximate her dream guy. Good luck on that one.) She’ll compare you with all the guys she’s ever had sex with – well, at least those she remembers.

So What About Sex?

There’s a hierarchy of guys in her head and if she’s been around the block more than once, she remembers the losers, the one-night stands and yes, even the breast masher. She’ll even compare her orgasms with you and those she gets via self-service – heck, she’ll even compare you with her sex toys. She won’t readily own up to these superficialities, she may not even notice she’s doing them.

But this does happen, and in this game of comparisons, it pays to be unique. The female brain is always on the prowl for something new, something different. The moment she realizes you’re just like the rest, she will brush you off. A girl can’t attend to every insignificant person that comes her way.

Her Emotions Are Involved Too (Of Course)

Her emotions will certainly command a big share of how she sees you as a bedmate. Everybody may see you as a pitiful excuse for a human being, and therefore a waste of skin, but if you’ve hostaged a woman’s emotions, everything and everybody else don’t matter. You may really lose all comparisons, but if she’s that into you, she’ll let you win! If she’s flushed with EMOTIONS, if she’s sooo head-over-heels, you could ooze with sexual lameness and she’ll still be adoring you.

Letting It Go And Being Confident

By the way, none of these comparisons and emotions thing is objective. They are never objective. Remember, people, especially women, are not logical creatures, although they’d like to think they are. You’re dealing here with judgments that can be muddled by her perceptions, expectations and preferences. (Come to think of it, who in this world is completely objective?)

Many guys ask me: Is it possible that one woman will judge you great in bed while another count you as average?

Of course! Knowing the nature of humans and sex, expect that. Nobody bats a perfect thousand. Accept that, have confidence in bed anyways and you’re golden.

How To Relax And Turn On Your Girl With A Tummy Massage

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Erotic massage can do wonders for a woman when getting her to think only about sex. Rub her belly like THIS to get her relaxed and HOT!

Why The Stomach?

The stomach is a very emotionally comforting place to rub gently and lightly. By lovingly stroking here, it will help her to feel nurtured, honored, and safe. And, because it can make such a deep and emotionally satisfying connection, it makes for a strong arousal point as well that can bring about sensual and sexual stimulation.

Make sure to be soft with your touch, as some women can be tender in this area. You always want to create pleasure, but if there is any sign of pain or discomfort, let up on the pressure you are giving with your hands, or discontinue massaging her here and move elsewhere.

How To Get Started

Start by placing both palms of your hands down over her belly. Begin the massage by using a sliding motion, alternating your hands across her stomach from side to side. Side to side is the best direction to go as up and down over the belly can sometimes create discomfort (another “going against the grain” situation). Continue this motion back and forth for quite a few minutes or as long as she is enjoying it.

You can extend your movement beyond her stomach area by reaching down over the sides of her body down towards the surface she is laying on when giving her an erotic massage. When you reach the bottom of this movement, wrap one or both hands underneath her back and then pull back up over her side and belly again, following through to her other side in the same way.

Another great movement for this area is to run your hands in circular clockwise motions around her belly. You can start at the center around her navel and then progressively begin making bigger and bigger circles around her entire belly until you reach the outside perimeters of it. Then, just continue massaging around and around in smooth, slow, soft circles. Doing this can be quite pleasurable for her and evoke many sweet and loving emotions.

Stretch Her Arms Too!

With your lover’s arms resting up over her head, place your hands on her arms just around the point where they connect to her chest muscles (just above her armpits). Next, move your hands up her arms all the way to her fingertips, and then lightly grab her hands and begin pulling her arms upward over the top of her body and then bring her arms back down to her sides and let them rest there. Continue with light strokes to her arms from your hands and fingertips.

Also, lightly stroking the sensitive skin on the insides of her arms where the elbows fold is another erogenous zone that women usually love and get turned on by (similar to the inside of knee fold area). Do a few sensual grazes with your fingertips to get her turned on.

Another way to stretch her arms is by holding one arm at a time in both of your hands while gently pulling and stroking upwards all the way to her hand. This will massage the long muscles in her arms as well as muscles in her shoulders and sides of her body. Remember to be gentle however, as you don’t want to pull so hard as to create discomfort.

You can reverse this move if you like and run your hand all the ways back down her arm again. Repeat this a few times and them move on the next arm and do the same.

An Extra Erotic Touch

A fun follow through to this as you end your arm massage stretch, is to pull her arm to one side so that you cause her body to twist slightly and expose her back. Once there, you can now massage her back in this nicely stretched position. Whenever you can stretch long muscles like this (such as the back muscles) it gives a more tension releasing experience to the receiver. Do a few strokes here onto her upper shoulders and middle back muscles in a vertical fashion (hands pulling upward with each stroke).

You can also do horizontal strokes starting from her lower back on up to her shoulders by mostly using the heel of your hand to massage with. Be creative and have fun with this one, but remember some people may have lower back issues and may not like this much twisting and stretching to their body. Check in and ask first before you try during an erotic massage.

How To Spice Up A Blowjob

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A blowjob is great in and of itself, but what if you could make it even better? Check out these blowjob tips and you’ll soon be a PRO at giving your man head!

There are many ways that you can enhance a blowjob – it’s not all about tips, tricks and location! Use of external stimulants (the details of which we will go into) can make your partner feel divine and give things a spin when fellatio begins to get boring. In this department, imagination can take you anywhere!

Ice It Up!

The cold receptors in his genital area react greatly to ice or a cool touch. If you’re not careful, however, too much cold can cause his penis to shrivel up and disappear! Just enough cold though, and you can send your partner into oblivion! The best way to incorporate a touch of cold into your blowjob routine is to put either a small piece of ice in your mouth while you suck him, or drink something ice-cold before you do. The combination of the cold along with the anticipation of stopping and starting while you take sips of your cool mixture will send your partner over the edge.

Use Menthol

This will create a similar sensation to the use of cold drinks or ice, but without the fear of your partner losing his erection due to excessive chilliness. You can suck your partner off with a mint in your mouth or you can use crème de menthe. Anything that has menthol in it will create this wonderful effect. Altoids and York Peppermint Patties are great for popping in your mouth and working on the head of your man’s penis. Also, if you will use a toothpaste with a strong mint flavor, brush not only your teeth, but the entire length of your tongue, inside of your cheeks and the roof of your mouth. He WILL be able to feel the minty sensation on his penis.

Get Warm!

Get warm, but not too hot! Drink some warm tea or hot cocoa before you put your partner’s penis in your mouth. The added heat will drive him wild! If you really want to throw your partner a curveball, alternate between hot and cold drinks or throw a mint in the hot cocoa. The different sensations will give your partner a fellatio session to remember.

Get Saucy!

You may have heard of using things like chocolate sauce or whipped cream when fellating your partner – and this is a great idea if you want to make fellatio fun for both you and your partner! You can use a variety of things here – but make sure if you are using anything with sugar that you aren’t planning to have intercourse later. Sugary substances can change the delicate pH of the vagina and cause a yeast infection. If you’re just planning for fellatio, adding some fun “toppings” can make the night a lot more interesting! You can use whipped cream (topped with a cherry) and chocolate sauce – but don’t buy any bananas, your partner’s penis will suffice! You can also use peanut butter or caramel sauce and even ice cream! Ice cream will combine this technique with the cold technique for added fun.

For those of you who prefer to not consume the sugar, try using flavored yogurts or sugar free pudding! Not only can you use it in foreplay to paint his body with, there’s no calorie guilt!

Get Tipsy

Okay, maybe just a little tipsy. If you like liquor, you can do body shots off your partner or for a little more fun, fellate him while drinking your favorite liquor. The “burn” of a strong liquor (like vodka or rum) will warm up his penis and your night! Just make sure that you don’t overdo it – getting sick could ruin all the fun. You can also do this with beer to give your partner a tingly sensation (or soda if you prefer not to drink alcoholic beverages). For a fun trick, you can use your partner’s penis to stir your drink of choice (be it alcoholic or not) and then suck it all off! With all the flavors of liquors and schnapps, you’re sure to have fun finding some to try out on his swizzle stick!

Give Him A Hummer

No, not the car! Give him some feel-good vibrations by humming a catchy tune while going down on him. The humming actually creates minute vibrations that travel through his entire groin – bringing your blow job “full circle.” Don’t be shy – he probably won’t hear the tune you’re humming (so humming “The Wheels on The Bus” won’t be an issue) and he certainly won’t be judging how in tune you are!

Two Words: Pop Rocks

Using pop rocks during a blowjob is probably one of the best fun tricks that you can use! You know the tingling feeling you get in your mouth when you eat Pop rocks? Imagine your partner feeling that on his penis! Use only a few pop rocks at a time – the sensation will be lost if you have a huge glob of them in your mouth. You will also want to fellate him lightly while the pop rocks are in your mouth. They don’t call them rocks for nothing! Pressing down on your partner’s penis while Pop rocks are in your mouth can push them into his penis and cause him to be uncomfortable. If you do it right though, Pop rocks can be a lot of fun!