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11 Surprising Ways To Have Incredible Sex

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Incredible sex doesn’t have to be something you once had at the beginning of your relationship. It’s common for sex to become blase as you and your partner become more comfortable with each other, however, that doesn’t mean you have to resign yourself to mediocre sex for the rest of your relationship. Here’s how you can make sex great with these unconventional techniques.

Experiment With Condoms

Condoms are essential if you and your partner aren’t monogamous with each other, aren’t sure of each other’s sexual pasts or haven’t been tested for STD’s. However, most couples who have been tested or are in a monogamous relationship forgo using condoms, especially if they’re using birth control to prevent unwanted pregnancy. But did you know that condoms can sometimes enhance your sex life, even if you don’t need them? Condoms are great for anal sex, because you can just slip it off before engaging in vaginal penetration. If you experiment with different brands and styles of condoms, like ribbed and studded or twisted, you may find something that actually helps stimulate your g-spot and makes it easier for you to have an orgasm!

Try Dirty Talk

A lot of women are too shy to try dirty talk, but there is definitely a correlation between dirty talk and absolutely explosive sex. If you’re not comfortable with dirty talk, start slow and work your way up to it. Start by simply vocalizing your pleasure when you feel something good, especially if your partner is doing something special to you like giving you oral sex. Next, start describing how much you like what he’s doing and then move on to telling him what you’d like to do next. Dirty talk doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to be vulgar – it can be as simple as tell your partner what you like and how much you like it.

Start Sexting

Like dirty talk, sexting can drastically improve the quality of your sex life with your partner. While you’re at work or school, send your lover a naughty text that describes what you want to do when you get home that night. It will spark their imagination and get them thinking about you all day. When you finally do get home, it’s going to be all you can do not to tear each other’s clothes off as soon as you walk through the door!

Learn To Striptease

Men are visual creatures. They love watching women, especially naked women. The love dancing naked women even more! There’s a reason that strip clubs are so popular, but most women don’t like their guys going out and ogling other women. You can solve that problem in a heartbeat by learning to perform a striptease yourself! Don’t worry about not being a good dancer or not knowing what you’re doing – your man doesn’t care. Slip on some really great lingerie (a garter belt with thigh highs is a must) and do a sexy little dance for him. Chances are, you won’t be dancing for that long anyway.

Eat Celery

You wouldn’t think that celery would boost your libido, but it most certainly does. Celery contains a steroid called androstenone, which is also found in human sweat. This is one of the components of human pheromones that help attract men and women to each other. Eating celery will increase the presence of the steroid in humans and increase pheromone production – making people much more attracted to each other. Not only will it increase pheromone production, celery will also increase the amount of ejaculatory fluids in both men and women so orgasms will be more powerful and more pleasurable.

Take The BSPI Test

The BSPI Test (called the Beiter Sexuality Preference Indicator) is a test that can accurately determine what your true sexual preferences are  through both direct questions and questions that are designed to access your subconscious. Knowing your sexual preferences – what you like and what you don’t like – can help you better communicate what you want in the bedroom to your partner. You can also have your partner take the test to see if you’re sexually compatible!

Wear Socks During Sex

Sure, socks aren’t sexy and most men and women only wear them to bed if they’re not planning on having sex that night. But did you know that if a woman’s feet are warm, she is 30% more likely to have an orgasm? Next time you get it on with your lover – especially if you have trouble reaching the big “O” – try donning a nice, plush pair of socks on your feet before you crawl in between the sheets. You might be surprised at how much better it can be!

Get Sexy

Women feel sexier when they get their bodies ready for sex. Sure, shaving may not seem like a very erotic act, but getting ready for sex by primping will actually make a woman feel more like getting busy than if she hadn’t done any primping at all. So next time you’re thinking about hitting the sheets with your partner, take twenty minutes to shave your legs (or other parts of your body if you like), put on a little lip gloss and fluff your hair. If you’re feeling like you’re looking good, you’re going to be much more receptive to having sex.

Bake A Pumpkin Pie (Or Burn A Lavender Candle)

We all know that scent plays a very powerful role in arousal, but many women (and men) aren’t sure what scents and aphrodisiacs will turn their partners on the most. Women respond best to the smells of vanilla and fresh cut grass, while men respond best to the smell of lavender or pumpkin pie. Next time you want to turn your man on, burn a lavender candle and slip into a bubble bath or bake a fresh pumpkin pie right before he comes home from work. He won’t know that the smell of pumpkin pie is what made him want to jump your bones as soon as he walked in the door, but you will!

Assign Him Chores

While men get turned on by a naked woman, women actually get turned on when men do chores! A woman will get much more turned on by a man in a work uniform covered in grease who has just changed the oil in the car than she will by a man who is primped, shaven and naked. If you want to give your libido a boost and become more attracted to your man, ask him to do something really “manly” like fix the leaky pipe or lift something really, really heavy. Even if you can do these things yourself, you’ll be much more attracted to him if he does it.

Take Some Zinc

Zinc is a great supplement to take when you have a cold or the flu because it can help you get over it faster, but did you also know that zinc will help boost your man’s libido? Zinc is essential for testosterone health and will raise a man’s energy levels and increase their desire for sex. Oysters have gotten their reputation for being an aphrodisiac most likely because they are one of the foods that are highest in zinc! Next time you want your man to really want you, feed him some oysters or just have him take a zinc supplement!

9 Turn Ons You Haven’t Tried – But Should!

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Foreplay doesn’t just start in the bedroom. You can use foreplay anytime, whether it’s in the morning before he leaves for work (so he’s thinking about you all day) or just here and there to entice him out of the blue. Here are nine tips you can use anytime that you probably haven’t tried – and they’ll have your man begging for sex!

Follow Him Into The Shower – With A White T-Shirt On

The wet t-shirt is almost every man’s sex fantasy, but surprisingly enough, many women have never thought about throwing on a white t-shirt and stepping into the shower. However, this simple move will have your man hard in seconds and he probably won’t be able to keep his hands off you. Next time your man heads for the shower, give him a few minutes to get started and then surprise him by stepping in the shower with him, while wearing a white t-shirt. Thumbs up for shower sex!

Flash Him Out Of The Blue

Guys like to see nudity anytime and anywhere. Surprise him before he goes to work (or when he comes home, or in the car, or at dinner…you get the picture) by flashing him your breasts or even your butt. Do it quickly when he’s least expecting it, then go on about your business as though nothing happened. He’ll be thinking about it all day, or at least until he can’t stand it anymore and rips your clothes off!

Drink A Beer Before Making Out

Most girls pick something light or fruity when drinking, like a margarita or a cosmopolitan. He probably doesn’t mind, because he’s just looking forward to some hot sex once your inhibitions are down a little after a drink or two. But next time, surprise him and get a beer. Almost every guy appreciates a girl that can enjoy a good beer, especially if she has good taste in beer. Plan on a super hot make out session after you down your beer. The taste and smell it on your breath will be especially naughty.

Get A Pedicure

You probably never thought that indulging yourself in a pedicure could be a turn on for a guy, but it can – especially if your guy has a foot fetish. Even if he doesn’t have a fetish for feet persay, lots of guys still find well manicured feet and sexy shoes attractive. Get your toes done, then splurge on a cute ankle bracelet or toe ring. Walk around the house barefoot, or watch a movie with your guy and prop your feet up on the table or his lap. You might just get another foot rub out of the deal because he won’t be able to keep his hands off them!

Order A Steak At Dinner

Just like a guy appreciates a girl who can chug a beer, he also appreciates a girl who can actually eat. Sure, you’re probably ordering salads at dinner, but next time, order a steak – and don’t order it well done because you’re afraid of bacteria. Sit down in front of your man and cut into a thick, juicy, medium rare steak. Eat it slowly and enjoy it. Let him watch you eat it and offer him a bite. You may have to ask for a to-go box so you can get it on in the car.

Give Him An Impromptu Handjob – While Standing Behind Him

Impromptu foreplay is a huge turn on for a guy, but give him a different view by slipping your hands down his pants while standing behind him to give him a handjob. He won’t be able to see you, but he’ll be able to feel and see your hands when he looks down at his member. Stroke him lightly, teasing him until he can’t take it anymore. Bonus points if you’re both shirtless so he can feel your breasts on his back.

Buy A Bag Of Lollipops

Lollipops aren’t just for kids. Next time you’re at the store, pick up a bag of your favorite suckers and stash them somewhere in the house where your man won’t immediately find them. When you’re hankering for something sweet, break out a lollipop and enjoy it in front of your guy. The trick here is to enjoy it slowly, licking and sucking provocatively while he watches – it will instantly make him think of oral sex. If you can avoid being blatant about it while you’re doing it and convince him that you’re just really enjoying your lollipop, even better.

Rock Fire Engine Red Lipstick

This can work both if you’re donning your dressy work clothes, or if you’re dressing up to go out for dinner – especially if you’re wearing red or black. Next time you’re ready to go, don’t smooth on your traditional nude lipstick. Grab a stick of hot, fire engine red lipstick instead. Play down your eye makeup so you don’t look overdone and so your man will focus on your mouth. Of course, confidence is everything here. Smile big and watch as your man’s eyes never looks away from your mouth.

Sexting

Sexting is an excellent tool to for foreplay, but a lot of women think that guys won’t really get off on it. However, men like dirty talk and sexts just as much as women do – but you might want to be a little more explicit when it’s for a guy. Men aren’t going to enjoy a text that describes “smoldering desire” or “burning lust.” He’ll want to hear about the specifics. Send him a racy text while you’re both at work, telling him that you can’t wait to get home. Don’t be shy – describe what you plan on doing to him and how much you want it. You’ll be all he thinks about until he gets home!

5 Sexting Phrases That Will Make Him CRAZY!

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Sexting is an excellent way to initiate foreplay. With today’s technology, it’s easier than ever before to have a private conversation with your lover where you can say anything to each other – and it’s for your eyes only! While sexting is a great way for men to connect sexually with women (since women are language oriented and all), it’s also a great way for women to connect sexually with men. Sure, men are visual creatures and all, however, if you say the right things, you can get him lusting after you and thinking about boning you all night long by just pushing a few buttons.

1. “Thinking About You Makes Me So Wet!

This phrase is a great starting point when you are first introducing sexting to your lover. It’s seductive and sexual without being too kinky or over the top to start with. Guys need a little mental warm up time too, and just like a woman, your man might be taken aback and possibly a little turned off if you just jump right in instead of easing him into the conversation.

Using the word “wet” actually gets him thinking and visualizing you being wet. Since men are visual creatures, this works much better than saying something like, “Thinking about you gets me so hot!” He can’t visualize hot very well, but he can visualize you being dripping wet just for him perfectly!

2. “I Can’t Wait To Get My Lips Around Your….”

Insert your favorite name for his member here and you’ll instantly get him thinking about you giving him an incredible blowjob. In fact, he’ll probably mentally reference the best blowjob you’ve ever given him, because that’s the one he likely remembers the most.

When he responds to this (which he definitely will!) you can take it a step further and begin elaborating on your favorite blowjob techniques. Describe to him in detail what you want to do and you’ll drive him absolutely nuts! He’ll start imagining everything you’re describing and by the time you actually do get home and get your lips around his you-know-what, he will be so crazy with desire that he may just explode right away!

3. “I’m Such A Naughty Girl For Thinking About You Like This”

He loves imagining you as a naughty girl. Even if you’re pretty kinky, you can pretty much guarantee that he’s already imagined you doing naughtier stuff than you already have. If you’re very vanilla, it’s a sure bet that his fantasies include you shedding your good girl image just for him.

By telling him that you’re naughty for thinking about him “like this,” you plant the idea in his head that you’re thinking very very sexy things – but by not telling him exactly what, you’re allowing his imagination to take over. When his imagination takes over, he’ll get so worked up thinking about you thinking about him that he’ll pretty much rip your clothes off you as soon as you walk in the door.

4. “I Want To Be BAD Tonight!”

Again, this phrase gets him thinking about you being naughty and allows him to indulge in his deepest, darkest fantasies with you. You’re still not telling him exactly what you want to do or how “bad” you want to be, because you want his mind to fill in the blanks. You’ll leave him wondering about and anticipating what you have planned – just be sure not to let him down.

If you suggest that you are naughty or want to be bad, make sure you follow through on your sexting innuendo with the appropriate actions. You don’t necessarily have to get as freaky as he might like, but make sure you do something new that’s a little outside your box so he doesn’t feel let down.

5. “I Want To Take All Of You In Me”

When you use this phrase during sexting, you’re suggesting that he has a big penis, just not in so many words. This plays to his ego and makes him feel great about himself, and he’ll love the idea that you feel like he’s bigger too.

You’ll also get him thinking about penetrating you – which he thinks about all the time anyways – but you’ve just added a little more fuel to his thoughts. He’ll begin imagining having sex with you in tons of different ways and sex positions, effectively getting him wildly turned on by the time he gets home and slips in between the sheets with you!

Sexting: Why “Dirty Texts” Turn Women On Like Crazy

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Sexting your partner is one of the most powerful ways you can get her hot and ready for sex. Sexting is an easy way to speak the language of a woman, and it’s convenient because you can do it anywhere and anytime. Sending your lover a racy text takes very little effort on your part, but the results are absolutely astounding! Check out how you can send your girl a “racy text” and have her all over you by the time you walk through the front door after work.

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Women Are Wired Differently Than Men

It’s pretty obvious that women are wired differently than men, especially when it comes to what turns them on. Men are visual creatures and respond sexually to visual stimuli, including porn videos and pictures of naked women. However, a woman usually can’t look at a picture of a naked man with muscled arms and six pack abs. While looking great is always going to be a check in the plus column for you, it’s not going to be something that immediately turns your woman on. What will get a girl hot though is language. To effectively get a woman thinking about sex and nothing but sex, you’ve got to engage her brain. This is why sexting is so effective for women – it gets their imagination going. It’s like if she wore sexy lingerie for you – when you sext her, you speak her language. In the old days, to get a girl interested in him, guys had to write love letters and poetry for women. Now, we have technology that helps streamline communication between one person and another.

Using Sensual Language

When sexting your partner, you can use sensual language to get your partner horny with just the push of a few buttons – no matter where you are or what you’re doing! This is exactly what makes sexting so powerful. You can have your girl clawing at your clothes as soon as you walk in the door, all from the sensual sexts you sent her on her lunch break. Depending on how racy you want to be, you can send her texts that are sweet, sensual and full of romance or you can send her texts that tell her what exactly – word for word – you’re going to do to her when you get home. You can start sweet and gradually increase the raciness of your texts to sweep her off her feet and then get her so hot she won’t know what to do with herself.

She’ll Never Leave Home Without It

Think about it – a woman will rarely ever leave the house without two things – her lipgloss and her cell phone. These days, just about every girl uses a cell phone! Her cell phone is precious to her, because she keeps her most personal and private information in there including her friends, her family, her contacts and her pictures. By sexting her, you’re connecting with your partner in one of the most private ways. It creates a type of “secret” sexual connection that only you and her share. It blows through all of your lover’s defenses, hitting her right at the center. The majority of ladies really enjoy the idea of getting to be secretly naughty in public, especially when they’re supposed to be “proper” and “professional.” Sexting is also a great way to break the ice when getting into dirty talk in the bedroom. If you’ve never tried it before, sexting is a great way to introduce yourself!

Stop Texting And Start Sexting

To effectively create this “secret” sensual channel between you and your lover, you need to stop texting her completely and send only racy texts when you want to. Don’t text “to do” lists or what time the dog has an appointment at the vet’s the next day. This will actually ruin the whole stigma you’re trying to create with sexting. When you do this and she feels her phone vibrate for a message, she’ll already be expecting something exciting and titillating. She’ll know before she opens her phone that it’s from you and it’s something secretly kinky! She’ll start looking forward to it and start wondering when it’s going to happen and what the texts are going to say. She’ll also get better at sending you sexy texts back, telling you what she wants to do to you! This is such a super hot way to think about each other during a boring, monotonous work day. Try sexting your partner tonight and watch as the sparks fly!

What Your Partner REALLY Wants During Phone Sex!

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Phone sex can be a great way to keep your relationship interesting if you have distance issues. Even if you live in the same city, this dirty deed can be a mood killer if not handled properly. Here is what real men and women are saying about it.

What She Said:

Imagination And Tone

Phone sex is all about imagination and your tone of voice. This is much different than sexting. There is nothing you cannot talk about! Since guys are super visual and you are miles away, a great idea is to describe to your guy what you are wearing. After he has a nice visual describe to him what you are doing to yourself. Keep your voice low and sultry.

To help get yourself in the mood, you should put on something sexy that feels good on your skin, light a few candles to set the mood and keep any toys and lubes near by. Another hot tip is to describe a sex romp you two had in the past! Describe what you two did and then tell him how hot you feel thinking about it.

You can also describe in details what you would do to him if you had him with you.  There are no rules or boundaries and when you trust your partner you can let your inhibitions run wild. And if you are unsure of what to say, a deep low moan escaping your lips is worth a thousand words!

What He Said:

Be Specific And Be Slow

Tell your partner what you would like to do to them, in great detail. Let the story build. I also think it’s great to be naked when you talk dirty to your partner. It’s best to have access to your naughty bits with your dirty talk and just the fact that you’re naked, helps set the mood. It will really help you fall into that world.

Realize that phone sex is fantasy based, so feel free to let your mind wander and imagine yourself having the best sex you and your partner have ever had in a dream location. Maybe it’s about you two having sex on the beach, maybe it’s about the two of you having sex in public.

Maybe it’s slow and sensual love making, may it’s about hard and nasty fucking. Maybe he wants to do you and your best girlfriend, maybe you want to fuck him in the ass with a strap on. Or maybe it’s about trying an orgy for the first time. From straight sex to swinger sex, let your imagination go wild!

Then let your fingers do the walking. If you’re on the subway, it’s maybe a bit different, but if your alone at home, and you and your partner both don’t orgasm, what’s the point? Get your lover hot and bothered, and make sure you cum loudly for them, and they of course need to return the favor. Tease, please and play all you like, but make sure you end it with a bang.

And above all, have fun. Dirty talk is a skill and it takes practice, but what’s the downside of that? Phone sex is fun and should be enjoyable. It’s not rocket science and it’s not hard labor (unless of course, those happen to be sexual fantasies of yours). So relax, un wind and get your rocks (and other things) off!