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How To Get Him To Reign In His Pubic Hair

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Shaving for a guy can often be an afterthought, but if you’re giving him head, he needs to keep his pubic hair under control. Here’s how to get him to do it.

While being clean is the first step to preparing for a great blowjob, you don’t want to completely overlook pubic hair. Wild, unkempt pubic hair can ruin fabulous oral sex, so make sure you and your partner agree on what kind of down there grooming he needs to do.

While you don’t want to have a conversation about how much he stinks and needs to take a shower because this can put a big nick in his self esteem, the same is not true of the pubic hair conversation. It is perfectly appropriate to discuss how pubic hair affects you when you’re giving him head and your opinions on how he can handle his bush.

Talking To Him About It

Don’t broach the subject right before sex. Even though it’s fine to talk about what to do with his pubes, it’s still not a conversation you want to be having right before you’re about to get it on. So talk about it after sex, or while you’re having breakfast the next morning. Choose a benign time to bring it up and don’t be critical about it. Simply tell him that it would make giving oral sex easier for you if he had more control over the growth of his pubic hair.

Remember though, you’re only offering opinions on what he could do with it that would make giving him a blowjob better for you. You are not the decision maker, nor can you force him to shave or wax if he’d prefer to go au natural. The end decision is his, but you certainly have the right to weigh in, considering it’s your face down there, not his.

Trimming

Trimming is probably one of the most popular male pubic hair grooming options. Trimming is easy and fast, and makes a guy feel less vulnerable than shaving or waxing does. To be honest, most men trim. All he needs to do is take a beard trimmer (works better than a hair trimmer because it is smaller and can more accurately trim angled areas) and use an attachment that will trim the hair at the length he wants. If he likes a lot of hair, you can compromise by using a longer trimming attachment that still keeps his mane under control without making him feel like he’s getting ready to slide into a Speedo.

If you would like his penis completely bald but he says there’s no way he’s going there, compromise with a close trim. A close trim is actually a favorite among couples, because it’s virtually impossible for a woman to get a pube stuck in her teeth during oral sex if he’s trimmed almost down to the skin, and men like it because the closer the trim, the larger his penis looks. If you have trouble convincing him to groom, let him know that it’s a proven fact that a penis looks smaller when it’s drowning in pubic hair.

If he gets his bush under control, he could easily add 2” to his visible penis length. This is usually all it takes to sell a guy on keeping his pubic hair trimmed. While many men are going to prefer trimming themselves, there are going to be a few hard to reach places. Offer to trim for him, but don’t be surprised if he turns you down.

Shaving

Shaving is another option, one that many guys couple with trimming, depending on how they like their pubic hair to look. Shaving is totally up to him – because many guys don’t like it. Shaving can cause wicked shaving bumps (sound familiar?) and it can be super uncomfortable when it grows back. And no, men won’t consider what they prefer on a woman during cunnilingus when they’re taking their own pubic hair status into account. He’ll never sympathize with you on shaving bumps, razor burn and itchy regrowth. He’ll still want you to shave.

If your man does shave, it’s unlikely that he’ll shave it all off, although some guys do prefer to do that and like the completely bald look. Or, he may shave everywhere except for a patch of hair in the front, like a woman’s “landing strip.” Either way, shaving is a lot of upkeep for a guy and doesn’t make that much of an impact on giving head, unless you want to lick and suck him from top to bottom and plan putting everything from his cut lines to his anus in your mouth. Then, you might want him to shave. But it’s still his call.

Waxing

Almost no guy will wax his pubic hair. Guys aren’t usually into taking pain for the sake of perceived beauty the way women are. Women are raised to believe that if it makes you look better, it doesn’t matter if it hurts. Not so with guys – they’d rather look like Chewbacca than pull all their pubes out by the root in one fell swoop.

So don’t suggest waxing to your guy – just don’t. He’ll probably look at you like you’re nuts or think you get off on causing guys immeasurable pain. However, if you are with one of the few guys who do prefer waxing as their means of pubic hair grooming, good for you. Be thankful he cares that much.

Once your man has completed his grooming ritual, do not forget to let him know how much his newly manscaped genitals turn you on. Lavish them with lots of attention, and don’t skimp on the praise. And of course, make sure you’re groomed too when he goes to return the favor. If you want him to trim or shave, you’d better not look like you stepped out of a time machine from the 70’s when he takes your pants off.

Sex Tips: Grooming Your Pubic Hair The RIGHT Way!

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Sex tips do not only cover technique, they also extend to your grooming. Pubic hair can be one of the biggest turn-offs in the bedroom when not handled properly. Here are a few sex tips based on what real men and women are saying about how you keep yourself groomed.

What She Said:

Hair Down There

I’ll never forget when I was 7 yrs old and found my parents’ 1969 Joy of Sex book.  Till this day, I can still vividly picture the naked hippies and the massive amounts of hair that surrounded their genitals. I still have nightmares.

In this day and age we have come a long way with lasers, razors and waxes. For girls, there is no fun way to remove hair. Lasers can sting and be costly. Razors, although cheap, can be dangerous. One wrong wrist movement and bits can be cut.

And with razors there is always the grown in hairs, thicker hairs etc. That being said, maintenance is totally worth it! Not only does it look better, but also less hair makes it easier for your lover to find your clitoris.

And you and your lover can play the game of “Landing Strip” or “Tortilla chip” depending on the shape you want to leave your hair in. Going full on hairless is also sexy; there is something erotic and naughty about it.

Guys need to do their part in the manscaping department too. They don’t need to go bare, but for the love of God please keep it under control! No woman wants to end up flossing with your hair! And besides, a trim can make your penis appear bigger!

What He Said:

A Little Maintenance Won’t Hurt

I know there’s a lot of weight behind this “pro-bush” movement these days, but I’m just going to say it: only terrorists and weirdos are in favor of hairy lady parts. Yes, terrorists. If you don’t go bare, the terrorists win. True story.

Seriously, though, all women should be totally hairless from the scalp down. There is no logical reason to have any hair down their except that you’re part of Al Queda. I’m sure Oprah will tell you that all women are beautiful exactly as they are, but that’s simply not true. 70’s bush is just not sexy.

It wasn’t even sexy in the 70’s, but guys were given that to have sex and they didn’t really want to, but they did want to have sex, and everyone had fros back then. Girls even had fros covering their naughty bits, and men had fros surrounding their wedding tackle.

Ladies should be bald down there. It’s just plain hot. I can’t tell you why, but who cares? It’s wrong and it’s naughty and it makes us guys want to spend lots of time down there. And isn’t that what women want?

Yes, the landing strip is nice and slutty too. And who doesn’t like women being slutty? Nobody. That’s who.  Still, I vote full commando, instead of the landing strip. I mean, if you’re going to do it, why not do it right?

Manscaping is all the rage and frankly I rage against that machine. Men are supposed to be smelly and hair and dirty. The way God intended. Sure you get a few hair balls when you give us a blowjob, but that’s just part of the battle scars that come with performing oral sex on a man properly. Wear those hair balls in your teeth with pride knowing you did a job well done.

Though a little scissoring down there never hurt anyone. As long as you do it right. Sharp objects and the male genitalia generally don’t go together. I know women will say men are wusses for being afraid of this, but who the hell are you? You have an innie, we have an outie! Totally different ball game. Literally.

Be careful when you prune, or trim or whatever you want to call it, but never ever go full commando. It’s just not hot. I don’t know why it’s hot when women do it and not guys, but it’s just one of those things we can’t pull off. Maybe because it’s attached! Zing. Seriously though, trim but don’t shave it all of. It just isn’t right.

Ladies – What To Do With Your Pubic Hair Before Oral Sex

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Oral sex is super pleasurable – but not if your man is wading through a forest to get there. Take care of your pubes first with these simple suggestions.

You no doubt know that showering is an important part of cunnilingus. It does two things – it makes you feel fresher and more comfortable with your body and it helps a man to enjoy your light, natural scent without feeling overpowered. Some couples more comfortable with each other may elect not to shower directly beforehand while others may consider it a rigorous part of the routine. Whichever you and your partner decide on is up to you – just make sure it is something that will make you both interested in and receptive to cunnilingus.

Discussing Pubic Hair Before Oral Sex

An overgrown forest is probably not the best venue for a cunnilingus session. Not to say that the vulva has to be completely bare either. This is another aspect of cunnilingus that must be discussed with your partner beforehand if you’re both going to enjoy it. If you feel that being too bare and exposed with very little or no pubic hair on your vulva is uncomfortable, you will not be receptive to cunnilingus and may be too preoccupied worrying about your lack of hair to enjoy it.

Similarly, a man that is choking on massive amounts of pubic hair will not find cunnilingus enjoyable either. One thing that is important to note here is that an overgrowth of pubic hair will actually impede a woman’s ability to feel a warm, wet tongue on her vulva to the fullest extent. A good trim (or shave if you desire) is an excellent way to open up your vulva so that you can experience more of your partner’s efforts during cunnilingus.

Trimming Instead Of Shaving

If you are apprehensive about shaving your pubic hair, you can certainly try trimming it closely to the skin. Surprisingly, a good tool to use for this job is a man’s electric shaver. You can experiment with different lengths to find which one suits you best. You may find that pubic hair closely shorn to the skin is more comfortable and may give you a light, airy and clean feeling.

Something for you to remember – many women shave their pubic hair for the same reason they shave their armpits. Sweat sticks to thick, long hair and will begin to collect bacteria. Unfortunately, when this happens, a pungent and sometimes unpleasant odor will arise. For many women, keeping their pubic hair under control has become part of the daily beauty routine, as with the underarms.

Shaving Instead Of Trimming

For those who would like to shave, there are many options.  You can shave all your pubic hair off, or you can leave a small patch (sometimes called a “landing strip”) on the mons pubis. Shaving can sometimes be uncomfortable when it grows back, just like with shaving any other part of the body. Shaving bumps can occur and it can be itchy when growing back. Shaving, if done properly, however, can become a simple job. Here are some great tips if you choose to shave:

  • Soak in a warm bath for a few minutes before shaving to soften the hairs.
  • Conditioner can also be used on the hair to soften it – leave it on for several minutes.
  • Trim any long hair with scissors (or an electric shaver) before starting
  • Use disposable safety razors – never use a straight blade!
  • Use your hands to manipulate skin to stretch it out before shaving it (this will also keep important parts like the clitoris or your labia out of the way)
  • Use hypoallergenic, unscented soaps, shaving creams and lotions. It will cut down on irritation later.
  • Don’t use powder unless it’s cornstarch – studies show that talc leads to cervical cancer.
  • Use a mirror – a hand mirror works well. It’s easier if you can see what you’re doing!
  • Over-the-counter cortisone cream can help razor burn should it arise.

Easy Hygiene Changes Women LOVE

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Dating tips should always include hygiene – this is an important step that many men are too lazy for! These simple suggestions will have women ALL over you.

Hygiene is an essential part of the best dating tips. Most men pretty much sum up their hygiene regiment by taking a shower, shaving and brushing their teeth. Although these basic elements improve your personal image, there is always room for improvement. This alone isn’t going to be enough to approach women well. A rugged look can come off as attractive to women, but there is a fine line between a rugged look and the guy on the side of the street with a cardboard sign. All of these suggestions are very easy to implement into your morning routine and can yield exponentially positive results.

Tweezing

Most men are aware that a unibrow is a pretty unattractive feature on a man, however, having one or two eyebrow hairs that are sticking out from the pack can be just as annoying to a woman. Use your fingertip and go counterclockwise on your eyebrows to see the stragglers. Pull them out to give your eyebrows a more uniform look. Remove any eyebrows that are sticking out of the sides closest to your nose. Don’t overdo it, as your eyebrows are a big feature on your face. No woman is going to expect or want you to have perfectly shaped eyebrows, but a little maintenance can go a long way.

Body Wash

If you have always been a bar soap kind of guy, you may want to switch to a body wash. Bar soap works well with removing surface dirt but the problem lies with the scent. The scent on most bar soaps will wear off within an hour or so. If you use a body wash, you can have a customized scent that more reminiscent of a cologne without having to spray your penis with Drakkar Noir. Some body washes are designed to use as a shampoo also. In a market where most men’s shampoo is similar to women’s shampoo, this can give your hair a more manly scent.

Nails

Your nails are a detail that women look at constantly. If you bite your nails, chances are that your cuticles and nail tips look horrendous. One of the best ways to get your nails back into proper condition is to stop biting them. This can be easier said than done, but nail biting is an oral habit. Try chewing gum or playing with a pen to break the habit. If you pick at your nails with your other fingers, try to catch yourself doing it. Invest in a cheap nail file and give your nails a once over every couple of days. This isn’t the manicure that some guys have done, but it’s an easy and cheap way to get your nails looking presentable. As for toenails, keep them clean by removing the gunk every night or every morning before you jump in the shower. Clip them at least once a week.

Facial Skin

The face is a very important part of attraction so you want the skin to look soft. For men, this is not very easy. We shave and we sweat so the skin can easily look irritated without a regular regiment of skin softening. There are a lot of skin softening products out there for men’s faces. If you have oily skin, look for one that is non-oily. Its best to go with a product that unscented so you don’t mix the moisturizer’s scent with cologne or your body wash.

Nose Hair

Nose hair is disgusting. The last thing that you want is nose hair going in and out of your nostrils like a trombone. Nose hair trimmers are an essential for keeping the hair under control. There are a bunch of nose hair trimmers on the market, but some of them don’t work as well as others. It’s better to get a small electric razor and cycle it through your nose. This might feel strange, but it works well and the hairs will be gone in just a few seconds. These kinds of razors are generally marketed toward women’s eyebrows and can be found at any department store like Target or Kmart.

Teeth

A great smile is better than all the dating tips in the world and it can be all that you need to melt a woman’s heart. However, if you are coffee drinker or a smoker you might suffer from staining. There are a lot of whitening products on the market, but only a couple of them work properly. One of the easiest ways to brighten up your smile is to dip your toothbrush in some baking soda after your have started brushing. The baking soda will scrub away surface stains giving you a brighter smile. You can also mix one part water and one part hydrogen peroxide into a cup and swish it around in your mouth. This bleaches your teeth slightly and kills bacteria in your mouth causing bad breath.

Oral Sex – Getting Ready To Give Head

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Oral sex is very intimate – meaning, your face is right there in your man’s junk. Making sure it’s clean and well groomed is key to making it pleasurable.

Bringing your face and mouth so close to someone’s genitals can produce much anxiety. In this section we will explore how you and your partner can best prepare yourselves for a successful fellatio session.

Good, Clean Fun

Some women are turned on or aroused by a man’s natural smell and some aren’t – it really depends on the woman’s preference. You may or may not enjoy your partner’s natural smell and it may even depend on the partner – it is fine either way. We can generally come to a consensus however, in saying that most women are not terribly fond of the smell of an unwashed penis or groin or a groin that has been subjected to a hot and sweaty day in a tight pair of jeans (no matter how much some women might like how those tight jeans may look).

If you are one of the women that don’t particularly enjoy your partner’s smell or if your partner has had a gnarly day at work, you might want to incorporate a shower into your pre-oral sex routine. This may not need much effort on your part – some men will automatically feel the need (or want) to shower before having a woman put her face so near his genitals and backside, for that matter. Incorporating a shower into the pre-oral sex routine does not need to be approached gently as in the case of a woman. You don’t necessarily want to go advertising that he smells down there (don’t bruise the ego!) but you can generally suggest hot, soapy shower sex beforehand without the risk of your partner inferring that he smells.

To get things rolling, you can soap him up in the shower with a bit of handjob action to make it all the more exciting for him. He may not feel comfortable with you washing under his scrotum or in his anal area, so hand him a washcloth and let him do it himself if that’s the case. Just remember not to skip these parts, because the thicker pubic hairs in these areas cause odor molecules to cling to them like white on rice.

Shaving

Since we’ve established that odor lurks in places with thick, kinky hair (such as in the deep groin and anal area), shortening or removing the hair in these places may seem like a great idea. Theoretically, it is! Your partner may not take to the idea of a razor getting so close to his manly parts. If you feel that shortening, trimming or shaving some or all of the hair in his groin area might make fellatio more pleasurable for you, suggest this to him! There are several things you can point out to help sway him to see your point.

  • Everything looks bigger with less hair on it – chest muscles (also called Pecs) stand out more when a man has little or no chest hair and the same applies to penises!  It will look like he has a bigger penis with no hair. Not everyone likes a completely shaven member though and this includes both men and women.
  • If you or your partner feels uncomfortable around a completely bald penis, try just a close trim (try setting #3 on a beard trimmer to start). This too will achieve the desired illusion of a bigger manhood without making your partner look and feel like a ten year old boy again! Discuss with your partner which he feels would be better – a completely shaven member or a closely trimmed one? Let him choose. It will make him feel more in control over the situation you have suggested. He may even feel like it was his idea! Let him know that if he doesn’t like it, he can always grow it back – it doesn’t take long. That way, he feels like it isn’t something he has to be totally committed to.
  • Less sweating – less hair down there means less heat and less heat means less sweating. Really, less sweating means less smell and there it is all boiled down for you. But in this case, when presenting the idea to your partner, he may like the sound of not being so hot and sweaty down there when he is working or doing other chores that cause sweatiness. Be careful though with shaving in this respect as growing back, it may be itchy and any sweat can cause extreme discomfort. If this happens to a completely shaven man, baby powder can help alleviate it. Best bet is to give his groin a nice trim, fairly close to the skin.
  • Less hassle – although the trimming and shaving will take some effort, it is well worth it. Think, no pubic hairs caught in the zipper! Also, letting him know that being trimmed or shaven will make fellatio more enjoyable for you and you’ll be more likely to do it more often – this alone can make him ready to get out the trimmers!

If your partner does decide to try shaving, there are some very important tips that can help make the process (and the aftercare) a bit easier for him and a lot more manageable.

  • Soak in a warm bath for a few minutes before shaving to soften the hairs.
  • Conditioner can also be used on the hair to soften it – leave it on for several minutes.
  • Trim any long hair with scissors (or an electric shaver) before starting
  • Use disposable safety razors – never use a straight blade!
  • Use your hands to manipulate skin to stretch it out before shaving it
  • Use hypoallergenic, unscented soaps, shaving creams and lotions. It will cut down on irritation later.
  • Don’t use powder unless it’s cornstarch
  • Use a mirror – a hand mirror works well. It’s easier if you can see what you’re doing!
  • Over-the-counter cortisone cream can help razor burn should it arise.