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3 Common Dating Mistakes You’ll REGRET If You Make Them!

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Dating tips are commonly focused on the conversation, but the actions that you make can completely outweigh whatever conversational chemistry you have. These actions can also involve you self-image. Here are the 3 most common mistakes that ruin a date with a “10.”

1. Not Thinking About Style The Way Women Do

A lot of guys think that they are in-style because they are wearing something that their guy friends think is cool.  The truth is that most women do not have the same taste as your guy friends. For example, here’s a few things you should NEVER wear on a first date, or basically ever.

Affliction or Ed Hardy-style clothing (anything with dragons or skulls screams “douchebag” to a woman), athletic jerseys (unless you are actually AT the game), any type of MMA clothing (Hit Man Fight Gear, Tap Out, etc.), excessive jewelry (keep it to your watch and maybe ONE other tasteful piece), Tevas or, God forbid, Crocs. Wearing any one of these things will kill your chances with a fashion-conscious woman, which is what nearly all “10’s” are.

2. Not Making A Move

Listen up! As a man, it’s YOUR JOB to make the first move to get physical – and if you don’t – you will end up in the friend zone, for sure. And here’s something else you need to know: A woman would much rather you take the chance and go for a kiss at the wrong time then have you not go for it at all!

With that in mind though, the best time to go for a kiss is NOT necessarily at the end of a date.In fact, that’s often a BAD time for a couple reasons: It’s a “high pressure” moment, and all of that build-up can make things awkward If you start kissing her earlier in the night – the two of you can be kissing the entire time – not just once at the end! So when you are planning your date, think about a good way you could start kissing part-way through.

This is why I love taking girls out for a drink at intimate wine bars or cocktail lounges instead of restaurants. Find a place where the 2 of you are sitting close to each other, and when conversation is going great, lean in and go for it! You’ll be surprised at just how much more willing a girl is to kiss you in the middle of the date during some great conversation versus waiting until that awkward moment at the end like most guys do.

Bonus Tip:

As a good way did get things started, break up the conversation with a sincere compliment, then go for it. For example, after she finishing talking, say, “Wow, you look gorgeous right now” and maintain eye contact. Then lean in to kiss her. If she gives you the cheek, that’s totally fine… it’s all part of the game. You see, most 10’s aren’t gonna kiss a guy the first time he tries! (They don’t want to feel too easy.)

Don’t be afraid of rejection. If you get “the cheek”, go ahead and kiss her on the cheek, then pull back and keep the convo going strong like nothing happened. Then, give it another shot a little bit later. You’ll be surprised at how often you start kissing passionately on the 2nd try!

3. Not Taking Action

This is perhaps the BIGGEST mistake guys make when it comes to women and dating is not taking action to get that part of their lives handled. I know, because I used to be absolutely TERRIBLE with women. I was a virgin until I was 24 years old. You want to be an alpha male.

For a while there, I just accepted that as my fate, and figured things would always be that way. But then a few years ago, I made the decision to figure this stuff out once and for all. It took me a long time before I started dating the 10’s. I started by dating 3’s and 4’s! I then worked my way up to hotter girls. And it was then I found that the HOTTEST girls were totally different than all the rest.

And after a few more years of trial and error, I figured out how to land those ultra-hot model girls as well. I’m still just a regular dude. I live in 2 bedroom apartment that I share with a friend, I drive a 6 year old car, and I’m no Colin Farrell when it comes to my looks.  But these days, I’m able to get most any girl I want – and do it without rejection, and without wasting a lot of money or time. The difference is, I TOOK ACTION!

 

How To Get Your Girl To Literally BEG YOU To Have Sex With Her

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Sex with a 10 is something that every guy strives for. The thing that most guys fail at is getting a girl to chase them instead of the other way around. Most guys think that when things get physical is a done deal. But getting a girl to chase you doesn’t stop when when you have had sex! Don’t make the same mistakes that every other guy does. When you want a 10, you need to use the best methods possible to separate yourself from every other guy she has been with. Here are 3 steps to easily give your girl the best orgasm of her life.

1. Foreplay The Right Way

Kissing is the pretext to all sex. While kissing a Chump might keep kissing a girl until she pulls away. A Champ might kiss a girl, then pull away, then go to kiss again, then pull away RIGHT before. Women LOVE these little teases. Don’t be surprised if she grabs you and kisses you even harder when you do this one!

2. Don’t Go Straight For It

So while a Chump might be so happy to be having sex with a woman that he goes straight for it, a Champ gets his girl so hot and turned on first that she is literally BEGGING! After she gets down to just her underwear and you are in yours, take your soldier, put it on the “area” and begin SLOWLY going up and down. Do this while kissing and alternating between her lips and her neck

Keep doing this for AT LEAST 10 MINUTES! Add to the tension with dirty talk. I know it sounds like a lot, but she will LOVE this and it will get her super turned on. Take off her panties, and take off yours. Put a condom on, but don’t go straight for sex! Keep doing what you were doing, but do not enter her! At this point she’ll probably start grabbing at you. Smile and say “not yet!” then keep doing what you are doing. Then, after she is bucking her hips and DYING to have you, put in just the tip. Take it out and go back to dry humping.

Do this a couple more times and then, put just the tip inside.

3. Count Your Strokes

Okay, now what you’re going to do is count your strokes. Give 9 really shallow stroke and then one REALLY DEEP ONE! Go to 8 shallow strokes, and 2 really deep strokes. Then 7 shallow strokes, and 3 really deep strokes. By this point she’s going to be going CRAZY. She will be begging you to give it harder! But don’t give in. Give  6 shallow strokes, and 4 really deep strokes. Keep doing this until you are all the way to 1 shallow one and 9 deep. Then, count backwards! 8 deep strokes and 2 really shallow strokes. 7 deep strokes and 3 really shallow ones. You get the picture.

When you get back to the beginning, it’s time to give hard! She will have the best orgasm of her life!

Women LOVE this teasing method. It’s one of my best secrets and I wanted to share it with you because the secrets to getting and keeping a 10 don’t stop when you get into the bedroom. If you end up being one of the 200 guys who get a spot in my Get The 10 program, you’re going to be finding yourself in the bedroom with some VERY hot girls.

5 Ways NOT To Be A Chump With Women

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Dating tips will often prepare you for what to do, but what about things you want to avoid? Here’s how to keep from coming across as a jerk with girls.

1. Asking A Girl Out

What The Idiot Would Say

“You are really beautiful – I’ve love to take you out sometime.”

What The Champ Would Say

“You seem like you might be a lot of fun. We should grab a drink sometime.”

See the difference??

The idiot is letting her know that he is SOLD on her. He already thinks she’s beautiful, and then, by asking her out, it makes it look like she would be doing him a favor if she said yes!

Not good.

But the champ, well he hasn’t quite made up his mind yet. He says she seems like she MIGHT be fun and wants to grab a drink with her to find out.

This laid back, low pressure approach is one of the best dating tips out there. It not only lets a woman know that it’s gonna take more than her looks to impress you, but also that you’re not quite sold on her. Which in turn will make her much more likely to want to hang out with you so she can CONVINCE you that she is fun!

Get it?

2. Talking On The Phone

In these days where everyone is text messaging, I’ve found it very effective to call a girl on the phone and have a great conversation with her.

There are plenty of tricks for making phone convos great, but for now, let’s just talk about a little thing champs do at the end of a call that idiots don’t.

They hang up!

I don’t mean literally hanging up a girl. But a lot of stupid guys will keep on talking to a girl until SHE has to go.

But a champ will always end the call first, showing that he has a life and is a busy guy with things to do.

Most importantly, it leaves her wanting MORE.

What An Idiot Would Say

“Well, it was good talking to you. I’ll give you a call this weekend and we’ll see what’s going on.”

What A Champ Would Say

“Well it was good talking to you. I’ll talk to you later.”

See the difference?

These are one of the more subtle dating tips, but it’s really HUGE.

You in the first example, when you end a phone call with, “I’ll call you this weekend” you are saying two things:

  • That you are interested in her, and want to talk to her again to make plans
  • That YOU are going to be the one to call to initiate these plans

But by saying these two things, you are creating two problems:

You are showing too much interest! What kind of challenge does it create if she KNOWS you are going to call her that weekend to make plans? The answer: None!

By telling her you are going to call her, you are essentially rendering her UNABLE to call YOU!

You see, since you said YOU’D be calling, now if she calls you she’ll feel like she looks desperate.

On the other hand, if you end the conversation with a simple, “talk to you later,” then she is free to call you as she wishes, and you are also free to call her as you wish.

Perhaps best of all, this removes the PREDICTABILITY from the situation – as if you tell her you’re going to call that weekend, then she knows you’re going to and it’s not a fun surprise.

3. At The End Of A Date

Here’s another similar example, this time at the end of a first date.

What The Idiot Would Say

“We should do this again some time. How about this weekend?”

What A Champ Would Say

Nothing!

He’d wish her a good night, but make no mention of hanging out again, leaving her wondering if he was interested.

Now, let’s talk about the psychology of this one for a second. You see, a girl is so used a guy going for Date #2 at the end of Date #1 that when a guy leaves it open, she doesn’t know what to think!

Her first instinct is to worry that he didn’t have a good time, and isn’t interested in a second date! She’ll often worry about it for DAYS afterwards.

Then, when you DO call to ask her out again, she is so RELIEVED that she automatically says “YES!” and is super excited to see you again!

4. During A Date

Now let’s talk about DURING a date.

What An Idiot Would Say

Well, a dumb guy might say a bunch of things. A bunch of things about himself, maybe that aren’t true, in an attempt to impress the girl.

He might talk about his car, his job, or his exotic vacations. Or he might “name drop” or make things up in order to sound cooler than he really is. And let me tell you – NOTHING turns a girl off faster than a guy who is trying too hard to impress her.

Remember, attractive women have seen IT ALL. And when a guy brags and boasts, even if he does it in a subtle way, a woman sees this an INSECURITY. Worst of all, this lets her know that SHE is in control.

Think about it – if you’re trying to impress her, that tells her that you are already sold on her! Challenge over!

What A Champ Would Say

“So tell me about you. What’s your story?”

Then, he will ask questions to size HER up.

He might ask her what she wants to do with her life, the coolest place she’s ever been to in the world, where her dream vacation would be, and what she wants to do before she dies.

Not “job interview” style, but definitely a PERSONALITY INTERVIEW. A champ sets it up so HE is the “selector,” not her. And he needs to know that a woman has a good personality if he’s going to date her – her looks aren’t enough.

So he’s not afraid to ask questions that help him find out more about what’s going on with a woman below the surface. Women RESPECT that. A lot.

There is nothing a woman loves to talk about more than her dreams, hopes and desires, so not only does this set you up as the “selector” and as a challenge, it also makes for a really fun date!

3 Dating Pitfalls You Need To Avoid!

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Dating can turn hairy fast if you make one of these simple mistakes. Steer clear of these dating mishaps if you want to be successful!

1. Not Being A Gentleman

Another of the FASTEST ways a man can turn off a woman is by not being a gentleman.

Simply put, a woman sees a guy who isn’t a gentleman as NOT A REAL MAN. A woman is programmed to want a guy who can take care of her when the going gets tough – and you need to show her this in small ways when you are hanging out with her.

So open doors for her, walk on the street side of the curb, and pay the bill when it comes.

Make sure you are also polite to those you come in contact with. A woman WILL judge you on how you treat waiters, cab drivers, and everyone else.

I know of one super attractive girl who told me she broke up with a guy because of the way he treated his mom when they were out to dinner. She asked him nicely to stop cussing and he began cussing louder as if to spite her. She stopped dating him the next day and never looked back.

Some guys think it’s strange that a woman would judge them on what seems like small-time stuff, but I think it’s AWESOME! The reason why is because it’s a super easy way to score points and get an advantage over other guys!

So spend a few minutes reading up on chivalry and how to be a gentleman.

2. Not Taking Control

Another way guys either score easy points with a woman or LOSE points fast is by whether or not they take control of a situation.

A man should always choose the date spot, and when you get there, take the initiative. Ask her if there’s anything she doesn’t like, then tell her to “trust you” and order for both of you (avoiding anything she said she doesn’t like, of course).

Ask any woman and she’ll tell you, a girl LOVES a man who takes control! This applies to the date, having sex, you name it.

So have a plan, take control, and be the man!

It’s FAR better to take control and accidentally take her to a place she’s not super into than it is to keep asking her what she wants to do. In fact, if you ask a “10,” she’ll tell you, this is one of the BIGGEST things women hate!

3. Not Thinking About Your Hygiene The Way WOMEN Do!

You’d think having good hygiene would be common sense, but after talking to dozens of women and hearing them all complain about it. I’ve figured out the mistake most guys make in this area is not thinking about hygiene the way WOMEN do.

So think about it this way – when you are on a date with a woman, she is deciding whether or not she is going to get physical with you.

So, she’s sizing up:

  • Your Lips/Breath – if you have chapped lips get some lip balm! And it’s never a bad idea to carry Altoids or gum. Sometimes it’s hard to tell if your own breath is bad, and it’s not worth chancing it.
  • Your Hands – if you don’t have clean, well-manicured nails, she’s not gonna want your hands on her! Same with rough hands – women HATE calluses – get some of that apricot scrub and give your hands a good scrub before you go out with a girl.
  • Your Smell – a little cologne is a good thing, but too much will give a girl “grease ball” thoughts. Same goes for too much hair gel. Less is more.
  • Excessive Hair – shave or wax your back and unibrow! Not cool, and YES women notice, even if you’re wearing a shirt. And make sure you’re well-groomed “down there” if you plan on going further. Nothing brings a woman’s advances to a screeching halt faster than a jungle love afro in the wrong place!

Also, make sure during every bathroom trip you make sure nothing is in your teeth or your nose. You don’t want her staring at your face like a dart board all night.

4 Dating FAILS You Need To Avoid!

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Dating doesn’t come without its share of failures, but you want as few of them as possible! Steer clear of these dating mishaps for guaranteed success.

Mistake # 1 – Taking Her Out To A Fancy Dinner

Yes, you read that right. A lot of guys think you need to take a woman out to fancy dinner in order to woo her. But I’ve actually found that it’s a HUGE mistake!

It’s one of those things that SOUNDS good in theory, but if you think it all the way through, it doesn’t make a whole lot of sense. First off, women see dinner as a BIG time commitment. A super attractive woman leads a busy life. And it’s hard for her to justify giving up a night she could otherwise spend with her friends.

Because of this she is much more likely to say “No” when asked out to a dinner than she would be if you ask her out to lunch, or to grab a happy hour drink.

Or worse, she might say, “yes,” then flake on you the night of.

Why?

Well not only is it a night away from whatever else she could be doing, it’s also a lot of time to commit to spending with someone she barely knows. You see, since most guys are so LAME, she’s probably had a BAD dinner date in the past.

So when your date with her is coming up, she might remember a bad dinner date she had in the past, get cold feet and decide to flake on YOU! Ask any girl you know and she’ll tell you – this happens ALL THE TIME!

Also, if you offer to take her to a “name” restaurant, you look like you are trying to “lure” her into hanging out with you because of WHERE you are taking her, and not WHO she is going with! And yeah, some girls might say yes just because they want to get a free fancy meal, but is that what you really want?

So save the trendy restaurant for a night out with your friends, and offer to meet her for lunch, or for a quick drink at a cool, eclectic spot. You’ll not only save yourself from looking like you are trying too hard, you’ll also increase the chances of her saying yes, and the chances of her showing up! Not to mention saving some dough!

Mistake # 2 – Being Too Eager To Hang Out

There are few ways to turn a woman off faster than being TOO eager to hang out with her.

We’ve all seen the movie Swingers where the guy calls the girl the same night and leaves her 6 messages in a row (go see it if you haven’t!) but there are other less extreme ways guys do this that turn a woman off just as fast.

A few examples are:

  • Calling her or having a text conversation with her more than twice a week
  • Changing your plans around for her
  • Showing up at places where you know she’ll be (so many guys do this that women are totally on to it!)
  • Any type of behavior that says you will drop everything to hang out with a woman makes her see you as DESPERATE and turns her off instantly.

Mistake # 3 – Trying Too Hard Impress Her

Another MAJOR mistake men make that sends women running is when they try too hard to impress her.

Any type of bragging about your job, your car, your business, trips you’ve taken, or name-dropping just REEKS of insecurity. In fact, too much bragging can cause even a confident guy to look bad in a woman’s eyes! It makes her think that you don’t feel your personality is enough to attract her… which no matter how confident you are, makes you look absolutely not confident to her.

Not good!

Mistake # 4 – Being Too Friendly And Not Flirty!

We all know about the dreaded “friend zone,” but do you know what makes a woman put a guy there?

Well, it’s usually because he is too friendly and not FLIRTY! So avoiding it is simple – flirt whenever possible! The above example is a good one, and here’s a couple others:

  • If she asks you how your day is going, say, “Well it would be better if you and I were at a secret make out spot but other than that it’s okay.”
  • If she asks you what you are doing that night, say, “I’m going to XYZ restaurant – why, are you going to surprise me with flowers there?”

Don’t be afraid to be over-the-top! You’ll be amazed at just how much women love to play along with these flirty conversations – and best of all, you’re letting her know right away that she should see you as more than just a friend.