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Are YOU A Good Lover? Find Out NOW!

By davem

Better sex is completely reliant on you. Making the same mistakes that so many other men make is not going to help you. Learning how to separate yourself from the rest will give you the confidence you need when pleasing a woman. Here are some ways that you can immediately improve yourself in bed.

Don’t Put Too Much Focus On Intercourse

Being a great lover you is about being able to please a woman. It’s all about her orgasm first. You must be able to bring her to climax before you. Then she’s going to want to bring you to climax and the sex is going to be that much better.

Too many men focus on the intercourse. They’re all about being good in the intercourse part, you know, good in the dynamic part of sex. A lot of men spend too much time researching sexual positions: how to flip a woman over and how to do it from behind and what the best missionary positions are.

And that’s all great. Understanding all the different positions and different moves and how to stimulate the g-spot are all fantastic. These are all things that you need to know to be a dynamic lover.

It’s All About Mindset

If you haven’t figured out by now, life is 100% mindset. When a man meets a woman for the very first time and there’s sexual energy between the two of them, it’s not just about what you’re going to do with them physically, it’s all about the foreplay ahead of time that really drives a woman wild and actually drives the man wild too.

When you’ve got a lot of mental foreplay with somebody, it opens up a whole new world of sexuality. A lot of men and women don’t understand the art of talking dirty, or how important it is to really bring somebody to orgasm. But more important, a lot of men don’t realize the emotional connection that women need to have. Because men tend to think with their little head, and women, well, they have a little head too, but their little head is so small they don’t really think with it.

Use Her Emotion

In order to massage a woman, in order to get her to really open up sexually to you, you need to be able to understand the way that she is wired emotionally. I’ve said so many times that women are like giant a giant clitoris. If you go in for the kill right away, they’re basically going to be shut down.

You’ve got to learn how to open them up. You got to learn how to really become a dynamic lover, because that is what they’re looking for. It’s like licking an ice cream cone. Spend the time to savor each and every drop.

Becoming the most dynamic lover is not just about physical. It’s about understanding her emotional core for then seduction and teasing her. Learn how to control your mindset, learn how to influence hers, and you’re already on your way to becoming the best lover possible.

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice Tagged With: better sex, climax, foreplay, g spot, seduction, sex tips

How To Use The Search Bar On Dating Sites

By davem

Online dating allows you to weed out dates that you do not have anything in common with. One of the most important skills you will need when you’re inside is how to work the  search function. Here are some things I do to get the most results in the shortest  amount of time.

What’s Your Criteria?

There are a couple of different searches you want to do when online dating. The first thing you want to do is set up a search based on your criteria. For instance, if I’m only looking for girls who are 25 to 35, I’ll put that in my criteria. I’ll be as picky as I want and then I’m just going to save those searches so I can keep  going back to them over and over again every week in search of singles.

Keyword Search

If you’re into certain sports or hobbies and you want somebody who shares that interest, you can search by keyword. On Match.com you can pull up all the women in your area who have that keyword in their profiles. Using this method to meet women is a great way to find the ones that you will have something in common with quickly.

Hit On The Newbies

Do you remember when you were new and you’ve just received a bunch of emails? You’re stoked. You’re excited. You email back ASAP. The women who  join the site are the same. You search “New” members because you want to hit these women fast before a lot of other guys get a chance to e-mail them.  Think about it. If you’re the 800th guy that has e-mailed her, then odds are  she’s probably not going to read your e-mail because she has 799 e-mails in front of you. You have to strike fast if you want a first date. You have to e-mail the “New” members quickly.

Search By Activity Date

A lot of guys don’t do this, but this is one of the most effective ways to ask a girl out. The reason why is because you get to see the women who are actively looking for dates. The women who frequently do searches or browse profiles are hot leads. In a sales background, that’s like somebody coming in to your store or calling up your business and telling you they want to do business
with you.

Hot Leads

The best search that you can do, the one that’s going to get you the highest quality women who are interested is what I call “hot leads.” These are the women who have searched your profile. On Match.com and PlentyOfFish.com, you can actually go into the site and check who has searched you. You want to e-mail these women because these are the women who have checked you out and sometimes they have e-mailed you.

Filed Under: Online Dating Tips & Advice Tagged With: dating sites, Dating Tips, meet women, online dating, online dating sites

4 Things To Know Before You Email A Girl

By davem

Online dating doesn’t have to be as scary as it seems. Keep these things in mind before you send a message to a woman you’re interested in if you want success!

Your message box is where you’ll be spending most of your time in a dating site because once your profile is set up, all you’re going to be doing is searching for women, e-mailing them and replying to women’s emails.

A lot of guys can’t bridge the gap between talking and writing letters. They try to do things like they do in real life, but unfortunately that doesn’t translate well to the Internet. As a result, they don’t get replies from women and they quit.

Here’s how I was when I started:

I would read these women’s profiles and I thought that every e-mail I would send out was really unique and funny and interesting and everything that I thought she was looking for based on reading her profile. I would spend 15 to 20 minutes on each e-mail and I would send out dozens of these and dozens more.

I would spend hours and hours sending out e-mails thinking I’m going to get a ton of response. Unfortunately, no e-mails came. If you’ve ever been on a dating site and sent off e-mails, this has probably happened to you. It doesn’t take a genius to realize that when you don’t get a response to your e-mail it’s a long way from getting a date and further away than that from having sex with a woman.

Don’t quit. I didn’t, and the patience paid off.

1. Copy The Best

I didn’t know what kind of e-mails I should write that women would respond to. What happened was I would write these long e-mails that would take 15 minutes to write. It would contain all these great things about her online dating profile that I really liked, and what things we have in common. The problem was I would never hear back from these women.

Let’s say you have an account in one of the sites and you got several e-mails coming in from guys who were interested in this woman. You can shut the profile off after a day or two and read through everything that the account received.

Here’s what I do. I would look at the e-mails, take the best ones, tweak them for myself and then send them out. I call this system “Copy the Best,” for obvious reasons. One thing that’s great about this technique is you know what your competition is doing, how they land dates, and how they write good emails.

Of course, it wouldn’t do to just copy. Inject your personality in these emails. It’s the same as writing your own, but now you have some good “email templates” you can use.

2. Watch Your Subject Line

Your subject line is important, obviously, because if you don’t want your mail buried in those 30 to 100 e-mails she has received that day. If you’ve spent a lot of time creating your email, you don’t want it deleted or thrown in an archive unopened. Your subject line plays a crucial role when sending a message to a girl who doesn’t know you yet.

Here are some suggestions on how to write a subject line that gets her curious enough to open your mail:

  • No generic greetings. Whatever you do, never put a generic greeting like “hello” or “hi” on the subject line. What I’ve discovered is that 80% to 90% of the time men send out emails that have “Hi!” or “Hello” as subject lines. To a woman, one message that has this as a subject is like all the rest of the emails she received the past week.
  • Use a cliffhanger. You could say something like, “Hey, I read your profile but….” which will instantly get her thinking “but what?” The element of doubt at the end of the subject line will get her clicking to find out what you mean with “but.”
  • Use subjects that the dating site sends you. You’re going to notice that every dating site that you sign up to will have their own e-mails they send you. You know what these are – “you have mail,” or “your newest match.” One of my favorite subject lines is, “This member might be interested in you…” That subject line right there is one of the best ever, especially if you get a woman who checks you out or winks at you.
  • Include her name. Look at her profile and figure out if she’s using her first name or an alias. If she uses her name in the profile, you can definitely use that in the subject line.
  • Use “Re:” What this does is creates curiosity like they might have already e-mailed or spoken to you. Remember, because they’re getting e-mailed so many times per day, they might not even remember if they did or didn’t.
  • If she sent you a wink and you want to e-mail her back, you can use a subject line that says “this member is also interested in you.” Or, you can say “thanks for the wink. I’m looking forward to your e-mail.”

3. Take Note of Patterns

What you do next is set up different two different e-mails, maybe you have one of your own, maybe you have an idea for something you think is going to work. So take two of them and start sending out mail to the different women.

Divide it up. If you send out 20 emails, send 10 from one address and 10 from the other.

What you’ll discover is one of these is going to get more responses than the other. Once you have the “winner” (basically the email address that gets more replies), start carpet bombing the whole site because then you have an e-mail that produces great results.

There’s another thing that happens when you use only one email. You’re going to burn through your list of “possible dates” (meaning, these girls live nearby and there’s a big chance that you can meet ASAP) if you send mail from only one address. This means if the girl did not reply, or she deleted your first mail, you’re not going to get a chance to e-mail again.

So, use separate emails and test them out.

4. The Best Day To Send Emails

If there’s a “good time to call,” there’s also a “good time to send emails.” I kept track of the emails that got the best responses, and guess what? There are three days in a week that worked better for sending out e-mails. Those three days are Friday, Saturday and Sunday.

Why Friday, Saturday and Sunday?

Friday in the late afternoon, anywhere from 2:00 to 5:00 pm is an ideal window for you to send out your e-mails. This day, for a lot of people, is just a slack. Maybe some industries aren’t that busy and maybe some people just slack off in the later part of the day. On this day, a lot of women will be on the Internet checking their emails, just basically waiting until they get out of there so they can go home.

Send out your mail on a Saturday morning from about 10:00 am to 1:00 pm.

These girls go out on Friday night and they’re looking to meet somebody but most of the time, they don’t. The guys they want to meet don’t go up and approach them. If they do, it’s using some corny pick-up line that just doesn’t work. The frustrated women wake up on a Saturday and check their e-mails like normal people do on a Saturday morning and poof! There’s your e-mail.

For the same reason, Sunday morning to mid-afternoon from 10:00 am to 2:00 pm is ideal for sending out emails. Let’s suppose these ladies went out on Saturday night and didn’t meet anyone. That’s two days in a row and you can bet they’re feeling a bit more frustrated. Finding your email at that point would be most welcome!

Filed Under: Online Dating Tips & Advice Tagged With: confidence, Dating Tips, flirting, online dating

What You Need To Know About Social Media Dating

By davem

Online dating usually involves using special websites – but can you utilize dating tips for popular social media sites such as Facebook?

I had a lot of guys interested in online dating asking me when MySpace was hot, “How do I meet women on MySpace?” Now that Facebook is hot, it’s “How do I meet women on Facebook?”

The reality is I use online social networking sites for that—social networking. Not online dating. I use them to build up a connection with just guys and girls for when I want to throw parties. I don’t really use these sites exclusively for dating because when I’m on Match.com and PlentyOfFish.com I meet more women who are on the lookout for dates.

Why Social Media Sites Aren’t Your Best Option

The other thing is I always look for is the low-hanging fruit, the path of least resistance. What does this mean? A woman on a social network is there because everyone else is. It’s free. She doesn’t have to pay a membership fee to put up a profile and idly browse her friends list for photos or anything else that might interest her. On the other hand, a woman who’s paying $25 a month to receive e-mails from guys is definitely looking to date. Who do you think will be more receptive to my advances? The second one, obviously.

“But Dave, I REALLY want to date girls on Facebook and MySpace!” Alright, I hear you. And, I can’t say I haven’t tried it. In fact, I got dates through social networks frequently enough to develop a good strategy for it.

Social Media vs. Online Dating Websites

The big difference between these sites and dating sites is they’re not really traditional dating sites, so some of the rules don’t apply. For example, a good-looking girl on Facebook may not be looking for a boyfriend right now, which means she might freak or “unfriend” you if you try to pick her up the way you would in a traditional dating site. The trick: be discreet.

A lot of women are on social networks and they might want to meet guys. However, they’re not going to blatantly come out and say, “I’m on here to date somebody!” You have to play the same game. When you’re emailing these women, and when you build your profile, be mindful not to be too obvious that you’re on there for hooking up.

How To Structure Your Profile

On your profile, remove anything that has to do with dating, and basically just talk about yourself—things you’re into and how great life is, etc.

Have some pictures of you and your friends. That’s what is important. If you just remove all the romantic stuff and all the needy type of stuff, you’ll do just fine with that.

Keep your profile description very short. Keep your e-mails friendly, but short. Here’s why. You don’t want to come off like you’re trying to pick them up initially.

One thing that works really well on social media websites is requesting to be included in a girl’s friends list before you e-mail her. This way, she’ll check out your profile first. Once you e-mail her a day later, she will already be a little bit more familiar with you so you’ll have a much better response.

Filed Under: Online Dating Tips & Advice Tagged With: confidence, dating sites, Dating Tips, flirting, online dating

What To Look For In An Online Dating Site

By davem

Online dating is becoming more and more popular – but is every dating site as good as it says? Of course not! Here’s what to keep in mind for success.

Popularity

My favorite paid dating site is Match.com. The reason why I like it is, first of all, it’s the biggest paid site on the Internet—period. If you’re going to go fishing, do you want to fish in a small pond or in a big pond with a lot of fish? If you’re going fishing, obviously you want to fish in a big pond that has a lot of fish. That’s what you’re doing when you join a site like Match.com. They have millions and millions of members all over the world.

Credibility

As far as credibility goes, a website that can stay in business for decades without losing its mass appeal and popularity is sound. A rule of thumb I live by is to join the biggest ones and avoid the smaller ones.

With smaller websites, there may be a lot of fake profiles there that only serve to keep you trudging on blindly with the hope that you’ll get these “fake” women to email you back. And, they probably will, when you’ve reached the end of your membership and they want you to upgrade.

Then, of course, if you renew, the emails will stop and you’ll get no response from the women who previously emailed you. This has probably happened to you. I know it’s happened to me. You’re not getting any messages on the sites and then you have like a week left and then all of the sudden as soon as your membership expires and you don’t renew it because you’re not getting any messages and that’s when you start getting a lot of messages from these women.

You kind of have an idea that something sketchy is going on there. What I’ve read online is that these sites will hire employees to pose as females and e-mail male members who have cancelled their subscriptions to try to get them to come back. That’s a trick that some of these lesser known sites use.

Number of Female Members

The worst thing that could happen to you online is paying for an expensive membership on a site that doesn’t have a lot of female members. That’s a situation that happens with guys all the time. Some sites will say that they have a lot of women and they’ll show you a lot of women but the women aren’t active on the site.

Sometimes they don’t let you see the exact number, or if they do let you see that, the numbers might not be accurate. That’s what they do to fool you as a consumer, as a guide to sign up. You see a lot of hot chicks and you think, “I’ll be able to e-mail all these girls,” when it’s just a bunch of BS. Stick with a popular site that you KNOW women are actually visiting.

Features For Men

Look for features that are set up for guys, such as searching using your mobile, and the really nice ones: the “who’s online” and the “who has viewed me” features. Some of the coolest features around are those that allow you to check on your results. You can see who checked out you and you can e-mail them.

What About “Winks?”

On Match.com, they call it a wink. Other sites have different names for this, such as flirts, teases, pokes or hellos. Whatever they’re called, they don’t work! A lot of guys try to do this and they wonder why they’re not getting any results. The reason why they’re giving them to you for free is because they have a proven low-response rate.

They know these things really don’t work but they’re going to appease you because you’re getting something for free. If they worked, believe me, they would charge you for it. So don’t send out the winks.

Filed Under: Online Dating Tips & Advice Tagged With: dating sites, Dating Tips, online dating

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