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8 Ways To Have “Vacation” Sex – TONIGHT!

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Sex is always better when you’re on a trip, right? Why. Several reasons actually – here’s how to re-create super hot vacay sex right now!

Clean Up The Bedroom – Or The Whole House

Hotels and vacation resorts are almost always clean – at least, cleaner than your house after the kids have ran through it. Stepping into a perfectly clean hotel room at the start of your vacation is always relaxing, and sets the mood for great nookie later. After all, it is hard to have erotic foreplay when someone steps on a Barbie.

Bring that feeling to your house by giving it a really good clean while your spouse is away at work. (Of course, it’s a lot of trouble taking off work yourself, but you take time off work for a vacation, don’t you?) When your lover walks in, it should look and smell clean and completely different than when they left. They’ll be amazed – and so glad that they don’t have to do it that they’ll be game for almost anything.

Wash The Sheets And Towels

Yes, this probably should go under “cleaning up.” However, washing the sheets (heck, even springing for new sheets if you’ve got the cash) and towels is so important that it deserves its own section. One of the reasons that hotel sex is so great is that the bed is clean – that is, if you’re in a good hotel. They smell clean, and the next day, they’re clean again. And again. No matter how many times you have sex in the bed, the sheets are always clean when you get in! That’s actually really erotic for a woman.

Eat At A Nice Restaurant First (Or Order In)

Think about what you do to eat on vacation that is different from how you eat at home. Are you always ordering out at home? Then dress up and go out for a nice meal at a romantic, sit down restaurant. Are you always going out to eat at home or cooking and cleaning up a huge mess in the kitchen? Order in. Do you go out on vacation but not at home? Go out. You get the picture.

Food is very sensual and plays a big part in the seduction process, especially if it’s really delicious and you get to enjoy it slowly, perhaps with your favorite drink. That is often what makes vacations so great is that there will usually be some new and exciting dining experiences. Plan a new and exciting dining experience at home, and you’re well on your way to re-creating the sexual magic.

Serve Champagne In An Ice Bucket

Room service is incredibly romantic if you can afford it – and a lot of people splurge on room service when they’re on a trip. There’s little more romantic than seeing your partner in a fluffy robe, opening a bottle of champagne and enjoying it. Serve strawberries or chocolate covered strawberries with it for an extra romantic touch.

The point is, you’re doing something that is usually reserved for special occasions, vacations and the like (when the sex is always better). Do you serve champagne in an ice bucket regularly at home? Probably not. If you have kids, Kool-Aid and sweet tea are the house wines.

Romantic Bubble Bath? Yes, Please!

Often, couples will take a romantic bubble bath at a hotel when on a trip, but not at home. Why is that? Is it because the hotel bathtub is a lot bigger? Possibly, but you probably still fit fine in your bathtub at home. Is it because there is new bubble bath in a pristine wrapper on the ledge of the tub just waiting for you to use it? In all actuality, that is very likely.

Splurge a little on a nice bubble bath and don’t open it – just set it on the ledge of the tub. Throw in some rose petals if you want, and bring the ice bucket with champagne over. Enjoy a romantic, sensual bubble bath with your lover at home! Want it to really feel like you’re away? Play some white noise – a fire crackling or the ocean with seagulls in the background. This will make you feel like you’ve been totally transported away! Don’t forget to have a quickie in the shower the next morning!

Do It In The Guest Room

Or anywhere besides your bed, really. If the sheets aren’t washed, or you just want the maximum “vacay” effect, get it on somewhere other than where you usually do – and for most couples, that is the bedroom. The guest bedroom is a great option, because most likely, the sheets in there are already clean.

Being somewhere other than your bed will make you feel like you’re somewhere else entirely – and that’s what turns the heat up! If you don’t have a guest room, there are lots of other great places to have sex in your house – almost anywhere!

Go Tropical – Or A Cozy Winter Theme

When you’re on a trip, the “theme” effect is in full swing. People usually either go to the beach or somewhere cold like a ski resort – and they often either go in the summer or winter to boot. Help recreate the vacation feel by going with a theme. If it’s warm outside, go with a beach theme.

Make margaritas or pina coladas, use coconut scented lotion after a bath and burn a tropical scented candle or incense. If you’re going for a winter theme, hot chocolate next to a fire (or a fake fire set up on your laptop) and cozy cuddling are definitely in order.

Wait, Doesn’t This Sound Like Any Old Regular Date Night?

A lot of this sounds like what you might do for any regular date night. A nice meal, a romantic bubble bath – yes, this all sounds very familiar, doesn’t it? Problem is that a lot of couples wait until they’re on a trip to actually have a date night! They may go six months without ever having a date, until freeing up their workload by going on vacation. That’s when the magic happens.

Instead, free up your workload for a day without planning on a trip. Make reservations at a brand new restaurant that you’ve never tried, and have Grandma babysit the kids. Make time for that date night – real, honest-to-goodness time and the sex will be explosive!

11 Surprising Ways To Have Incredible Sex

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Incredible sex doesn’t have to be something you once had at the beginning of your relationship. It’s common for sex to become blase as you and your partner become more comfortable with each other, however, that doesn’t mean you have to resign yourself to mediocre sex for the rest of your relationship. Here’s how you can make sex great with these unconventional techniques.

Experiment With Condoms

Condoms are essential if you and your partner aren’t monogamous with each other, aren’t sure of each other’s sexual pasts or haven’t been tested for STD’s. However, most couples who have been tested or are in a monogamous relationship forgo using condoms, especially if they’re using birth control to prevent unwanted pregnancy. But did you know that condoms can sometimes enhance your sex life, even if you don’t need them? Condoms are great for anal sex, because you can just slip it off before engaging in vaginal penetration. If you experiment with different brands and styles of condoms, like ribbed and studded or twisted, you may find something that actually helps stimulate your g-spot and makes it easier for you to have an orgasm!

Try Dirty Talk

A lot of women are too shy to try dirty talk, but there is definitely a correlation between dirty talk and absolutely explosive sex. If you’re not comfortable with dirty talk, start slow and work your way up to it. Start by simply vocalizing your pleasure when you feel something good, especially if your partner is doing something special to you like giving you oral sex. Next, start describing how much you like what he’s doing and then move on to telling him what you’d like to do next. Dirty talk doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to be vulgar – it can be as simple as tell your partner what you like and how much you like it.

Start Sexting

Like dirty talk, sexting can drastically improve the quality of your sex life with your partner. While you’re at work or school, send your lover a naughty text that describes what you want to do when you get home that night. It will spark their imagination and get them thinking about you all day. When you finally do get home, it’s going to be all you can do not to tear each other’s clothes off as soon as you walk through the door!

Learn To Striptease

Men are visual creatures. They love watching women, especially naked women. The love dancing naked women even more! There’s a reason that strip clubs are so popular, but most women don’t like their guys going out and ogling other women. You can solve that problem in a heartbeat by learning to perform a striptease yourself! Don’t worry about not being a good dancer or not knowing what you’re doing – your man doesn’t care. Slip on some really great lingerie (a garter belt with thigh highs is a must) and do a sexy little dance for him. Chances are, you won’t be dancing for that long anyway.

Eat Celery

You wouldn’t think that celery would boost your libido, but it most certainly does. Celery contains a steroid called androstenone, which is also found in human sweat. This is one of the components of human pheromones that help attract men and women to each other. Eating celery will increase the presence of the steroid in humans and increase pheromone production – making people much more attracted to each other. Not only will it increase pheromone production, celery will also increase the amount of ejaculatory fluids in both men and women so orgasms will be more powerful and more pleasurable.

Take The BSPI Test

The BSPI Test (called the Beiter Sexuality Preference Indicator) is a test that can accurately determine what your true sexual preferences are  through both direct questions and questions that are designed to access your subconscious. Knowing your sexual preferences – what you like and what you don’t like – can help you better communicate what you want in the bedroom to your partner. You can also have your partner take the test to see if you’re sexually compatible!

Wear Socks During Sex

Sure, socks aren’t sexy and most men and women only wear them to bed if they’re not planning on having sex that night. But did you know that if a woman’s feet are warm, she is 30% more likely to have an orgasm? Next time you get it on with your lover – especially if you have trouble reaching the big “O” – try donning a nice, plush pair of socks on your feet before you crawl in between the sheets. You might be surprised at how much better it can be!

Get Sexy

Women feel sexier when they get their bodies ready for sex. Sure, shaving may not seem like a very erotic act, but getting ready for sex by primping will actually make a woman feel more like getting busy than if she hadn’t done any primping at all. So next time you’re thinking about hitting the sheets with your partner, take twenty minutes to shave your legs (or other parts of your body if you like), put on a little lip gloss and fluff your hair. If you’re feeling like you’re looking good, you’re going to be much more receptive to having sex.

Bake A Pumpkin Pie (Or Burn A Lavender Candle)

We all know that scent plays a very powerful role in arousal, but many women (and men) aren’t sure what scents and aphrodisiacs will turn their partners on the most. Women respond best to the smells of vanilla and fresh cut grass, while men respond best to the smell of lavender or pumpkin pie. Next time you want to turn your man on, burn a lavender candle and slip into a bubble bath or bake a fresh pumpkin pie right before he comes home from work. He won’t know that the smell of pumpkin pie is what made him want to jump your bones as soon as he walked in the door, but you will!

Assign Him Chores

While men get turned on by a naked woman, women actually get turned on when men do chores! A woman will get much more turned on by a man in a work uniform covered in grease who has just changed the oil in the car than she will by a man who is primped, shaven and naked. If you want to give your libido a boost and become more attracted to your man, ask him to do something really “manly” like fix the leaky pipe or lift something really, really heavy. Even if you can do these things yourself, you’ll be much more attracted to him if he does it.

Take Some Zinc

Zinc is a great supplement to take when you have a cold or the flu because it can help you get over it faster, but did you also know that zinc will help boost your man’s libido? Zinc is essential for testosterone health and will raise a man’s energy levels and increase their desire for sex. Oysters have gotten their reputation for being an aphrodisiac most likely because they are one of the foods that are highest in zinc! Next time you want your man to really want you, feed him some oysters or just have him take a zinc supplement!

10 Things That Will Make Your Breasts Look Fabulous!

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Seduction involves using your natural accessories – namely, your breasts. Make the most of your breasts (and get tons of male attention) with these ten tips.

Breasts are a natural accessory, much like a necklace. If you pick the right outfit (or even your birthday suit), your breasts can really put a nice bow on the package!

Go Braless During The Day

Your breasts deserve a break! Go braless for a day. Wear a soft t-shirt that doesn’t feel rough against your nipples and just lounge around. It’s even better if you can do this in front of your guy. Turn the air down a little so it gets just a tad bit chilly – and he’ll definitely notice that your girls are standing at attention.

Use Ice Cubes To Harden Your Nipples

Instead of buying nipple enhancers (yeah, those actually exist), just slip an ice cube under your bra and hold it on your nipple for just a few seconds. This will get them nice and hard, although you may end up getting your shirt a little wet. This is a great move if you want to surprise your lover by wearing nice lingerie, or want to parade around nude in front of him. Getting your girls to perk up first will make you look that much sexier. (Also try using ice on him or on your clitoris for even more fun!)

Play With Different Fabrics During Sex

Different fabrics can really feel great on your nipples and breasts. Have some scarves made of chiffon or silk, and see if you can’t get your hands on some velvet or leather. After the seduction and when you’ve already got him in bed, let your partner gently rub the fabrics against your breasts and enjoy the sensations!

Use A Nipple Stain

If you want your nipples to look absolutely divine as soon as you take your bra off, try using a nipple stain. Similar to a lip gloss, this is swiped over the nipples and adds just a hint of color and sheen. Some nipple stains even taste good, so your partner can tell you how sweet you are!

Forget Your Top At The Sauna

Next time you’re at the sauna, just drop your towel. Let your girls sweat too. This will help release toxins and give your chest a nice, sexy and healthy glow.

Use Shimmer Powder And A Low Cut Top

If you’re going somewhere that you really want to be noticed by guys (and possibly get asked out on a date) wear a low cut top. Don the double sided tape if you have to. Before heading out the door, sweep on some bronzer or shimmer powder to highlight your cleavage. The guys won’t be able to keep their eyes off you!

Use A Sports Bra That Separates

Say goodbye to “uni-boob” forever. A sports bra that smashes your girls together is less than flattering and even more uncomfortable. You can look sexy while working out by getting a sports bra that separates your breasts and creates cleavage.

Give Budoir Photos To Your Lover

Take some tasteful topless pics of yourself (or just pictures of your breasts by themselves) and give them to your partner as a gift. (Make sure you trust this person first!) You can also hire a professional if you really want to get some high quality, artistic nude photographs. This makes an excellent anniversary or Valentine’s Day gift!

Sleep Topless

Don’t always insist on going to bed in a bra, even if it’s a soft bra that you use specifically for sleep. Just let the girls go every once in awhile! It will turn your partner on beyond belief when he rolls over, slips his hand over you and feels your naked breasts in bed. You may very well be engaging in morning sex when the sun comes up!

Use Chicken Cutlets

Some women are naturally born with big breasts (or even medium breasts) but others are born with very small breasts. Instead of going for a radical breast augmentation, try using chicken cutlets first. If you’ve never heard of them, they’re silicone inserts that sit in your bra and make your breasts look bigger when you’re wearing a shirt. These can really enhance your look!

However, you want to be careful here, because if you do get a guy to ask you out, he may be disappointed when he realizes you were falsely advertising your goods.

Your breasts are an amazing accessory – show them off! Dress them up, let your partner kiss and stroke them and enhance them whenever you get the chance!

Orgasm Dilemma – What To Do If You Can’t Have One & Your Guy Gave Up

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An orgasm isn’t always easy for a man to give, and he can quickly get discouraged if he can’t find a “formula” to get you over the top in what he views as a reasonable period of time. But should you just forget about ever reaching orgasm during sex at all? And is it really only up to him to learn how to give you pleasure?

A Woman’s Orgasm

It’s not easy to make a woman orgasm, and unfortunately, many guys give up before they’ve ever learned how to make their partner climax. A woman requires a clear mind, a relaxed body, emotional immersion and the right physical stimulation to get over the top. Finding the right combination of these things (which could differ on any given day depending on the woman’s mood) can be daunting at best. Don’t put all the blame on your guy though – having an orgasm starts with YOU.

Start Masturbating

How can you expect your guy to learn what pleases you if you don’t even know? How can he learn how to bring you to an orgasm if you can’t even do it yourself? You know what gets you relaxed. When you touch down there, you know immediately if it feels good or if it doesn’t. Face it – he can’t tell what you like or don’t like unless YOU show him or tell him! It’s not like as soon as he touches you or licks you he knows whether that stroke worked or not.

Don’t turn your nose up at “clicking your own mouse” – there’s nothing wrong with female masturbation and it’s one of the only paths to supreme sexual bliss for a woman (that is, unless you’re with a total Casanova but even then, all women are different and he may not know how to please YOU). After masturbating a few times, you’re going to learn that you like it this way but not that way. You’ll figure out that you can reach orgasm faster if you do it like this, not like that. You’ll come away with a better understanding of your body and your sexuality, plus lots of new ways to play.

So grab a vibrator, use your fingers or whatever else you want and indulge in a explorative solo session. Do what feels good. Remember what it is. Do it again. Repeat.

Teach Your Man

When you find out what works, let your guy know. Don’t expect him to find out all on his own, that’s just cruel. He can’t – you don’t have a magic indicator that lets him know when he’s getting warmer or if he’s doing things the right way. If you prefer circles on your clitoris as opposed to an up and down motion, by all means tell the guy! He’ll appreciate it so much more than if you let him stumble around in the dark and get upset when he doesn’t do the right thing.

A lot of girls are too quiet during sex. They fail to let their man know what feels good during sex, so he never really knows. Many girls don’t make a peep, or much noise at all whether it feels incredible or whether it hurts like hell. So a guy will try and try and try, but will soon give up because he doesn’t feel like he’s getting anywhere. If this describes you, take a long look in the mirror if you want someone to blame for not getting off during sex. You cannot expect your guy to get it right if you don’t give him any feedback. Period.

How To Let Him Know What You Like

Dirty talk is an excellent way to not only let your lover know what really gets you going, but also to spice things up and add variety to your sex life. Dirty talk in and of itself can get you more turned on and closer to orgasm than ever before, not to mention its added use for communication of likes and dislikes.

Next time he makes a move that feels better than the rest, say “Oh yeah, just like that.” If he’s in the wrong place and suddenly moves to the right one, shout “Yes! Right there!” Don’t be afraid to get into it, he’ll think it’s hot. You can even use dirty talk to get really naughty if you want to. Tell him, “I want you to ____ my ____ right now until I ____ all over you!” Ad lib as necessary. After the initial shock and disbelief that these things are coming out of your mouth, you’ll love voicing what you want until you’re coming.

Overcoming Shyness

If you’re too shy to tell him outright what you want either during a normal dinner conversation (yes, it’s perfectly appropriate to say “Hey honey, I’d like to try ___ tonight” over braised chicken) or during sex, then you might think you’re out of luck and will never be able to communicate your desires to your lover. Wrong! You can, without using any words at all!

Just make more noise when he does the right thing. Body language is also a big indicator that he’s on the right track too. Gasp, moan, shout his name, buck your hips – do anything to let him know that you really LOVE what he’s doing. If he never gets this feedback from you, he’ll assume that every single thing he does is wrong – and then give up.

He may change his moves around and try to do something different, but he’ll figure out what you enjoy the most pretty quickly when you stop moaning when he does the wrong thing. That’s right – if he starts getting off course, you’re not going to be as vocal. He will automatically take that as a cue that he needs to go back to what he was doing before, when you were moaning, screaming and bucking wildly.

The icing on the cake? He’ll actually do what you want – meaning, you might actually get off.

4 Red Hot Hotel Sex Fantasies That Will Re-Ignite Your Sex Life!

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Hotel sex is always on fire! There’s just something about hotel sex that makes it hotter, naughtier and leaves you gasping for breath – a certain je ne sais quois. If sex with your lover has become boring and unfulfilling (for either of you), head to your nearest lodge to act out these incredibly juicy hotel sex fantasies tonight!

Honeymoon Sex

Imagine how great the sex was on your honeymoon. Wasn’t it fantastic? Re-create that by booking a room (preferably the honeymoon suite or similar) in a nice hotel in your town. Here are some great tips on how to bring the “honeymoon sex” fantasy alive.

  • Make sure the room has a Jacuzzi and have some nice bubble bath or salts on hand.
  • Have champagne and strawberries ready. Chill the champagne in a silver ice bucket. Sure, it seems cheesy and a little cliché, but this will really bring that “honeymoon romance” feeling out in you and your lover.
  • Engage in lots of foreplay. Take it slow and really savor the experience. Pretend you are on your honeymoon and it’s the first time you’ve had sex – enjoy every touch and every sensation.

Dirty, Raunchy Sex

For this hotel sex fantasy, you’re going to want to book a room in a seedier motel-style place. Of course, make sure it’s a fairly clean and safe facility (you don’t have to get that deep into the fantasy).

  • Dress for the occasion. Have your lover dress a little more provocatively than usual.
  • Book the room during the day and arrive separately. Make it feel a little more “naughty” by pretending you’re having an affair or that one partner is an “escort.”
  • You can really bring this fantasy to life by your attitude and with certain sex positions. Feel free to be a little rougher during sex, or to use the doggy style sex position.

Business Meeting Sex

Hotel sex often happens when one partner is away on business – and unfortunately, this often happens as affairs. Still, the sex is almost always incredibly intense! Forget the affair and re-enact this type of hotel sex with your partner. Here’s how:

  • Guys, you’re going to want to head to the hotel first, perhaps after dinner. If you can, try to plan it on a night where you actually have some kind of business engagement, such as a company party or dinner.
  • Ladies, you will arrive later, perhaps after a naughty phone call or a dirty text.
  • Draw the blinds. Make it seem as though you’re not supposed to be seen doing what you’re doing!
  • Ladies, if your men travel a lot for work, think about a way to surprise him at the hotel he’s staying at. It may or may not be possible, but if it is, you could surprise him when he finally heads back to his hotel after his business meetings wearing something super sexy!

Hotel Maid Sex

Another way to have really hot hotel sex is to explore the “maid” sex fantasy. This is easy enough to do, but does require a maid costume of some kind if you really want it to be effective.

  • Call your partner for “maid service” after you’ve checked into the room. They have to be in on it though, or you might end up offending them!
  • Ladies, don the maid costume under a trench coat and head to the hotel room. Knock, knock. “Housekeeping!”
  • Play out your maid fantasies together, getting as involved as you want.
  • If you want to keep the role play going, let her leave before he does. The exhilaration of a naughty maid meet up can be super exciting for a woman, and letting her go home alone will give her time to reflect on how hot what happened was. Later, snuggle up to her in bed and kiss her sweetly, letting her know how great you thought it was and how much you love her (this also works really well with the dirty, raunchy sex fantasy).

Whatever it is that makes hotel sex so much better than regular sex at your house – whether it’s the excitement of doing it somewhere else or living out a business affair, prostitute or maid sex fantasy – try to harness that and use it to make the mood come alive. Let yourself go and really get into it. Don’t worry about what your partner will think – chances are, if you’re really into it and put some good effort in setting the stage and the mood, they’ll be responsive and get into it as much as you do. Relaxing and having fun are keys to making hotel sex fantasies work!