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3 Ways To Be An Unforgettable Boyfriend And Make Her Forget About Her Ex

By leejenkins

There are women who got burned so badly by their previous relationships that they don’t want to venture out into the ‘unknown’ anymore. These women are jaded, cynical about love, and think sex is overrated. When a guy finds a hot girl, who just happened to be afflicted by the “man hate” syndrome, what does he do? A guy can either look the other way or pursue her despite the slim chance of breaking through the thick barrier of barb that she put up. Some women are really impossible to ignore, they are mesmerizing, even if they give out a haunted (and hunted) vibe, like they are always on the lookout for men who are just waiting to prey on their vulnerability and use them for selfish carnal pleasures.

What To Do When She’s Been Burned

The primary thing to consider is that no matter how badly you want to know, the story behind her heartbreak should be left alone. However, building her life back and possibly sharing a future with you are definitely things that concern you. Tread carefully. Be as unobtrusive as possible, but always be within her reach just in case she feels like talking. It is possible to keep a person company from afar, particularly if you have already told her that you’re just there if she needs you.

When you finally get her to open up, this is your chance to show her that you are way better than her ex.

Of course, you cannot promise a bed of roses, but there are certainly some things that you can do to prove to her that you, as a man, operate on a higher level than the guy who broke her heart.

1. Love Her Back

This seems like a daunting feat for those who don’t know how. Return her calls, be emotionally available, and tell her that while you may be busy most of the time, she is always in your thoughts. Basically, not taking a woman for granted is the best way to win her over. Ask her opinion about where to go and what to do during your date. Staying open and extremely considerate is very important, particularly during the time when she’s still learning to trust you.

2. Be a Gentleman

You know those simple things like opening the door for her or pulling the chair? Those gestures are not lost on her. Of course, you have to be consistent and make these gallant gestures a habit. Doing these only during your initial dates will make her think that the gestures are a put on.

3. Make Her Orgasm During Sex

No amount of gallantry, gift-giving and mushy loving could make her consider you as a constant in her life if she discovers that you are not sexually compatible. The ability to give her the time of her life in bed will catapult you from “boyfriend material” to “The One”. If she has told you that she thinks “sex is overrated” more than a couple of times, there’s a big chance that she has never experienced an orgasm in the past.

Even if she did experience sensational sex with her ex, your knowledge of how to make her orgasm will stack nicely with the fact that you are the most gallant, most considerate guy she has ever met; and this will erase all notions of her past loves.

Filed Under: Relationship Advice Tagged With: dating advice, love, Relationship Advice, romance

How To Increase Sexual Attraction In An Existing Relationship Using Only Your Eyes

By leejenkins

When it comes to romantic relationships, one important aspect is to ensure that sexual attraction is always there.  The sexual desire in a relationship slowly fades over time,  and make a once hot, burning sex life into a dull, passionless one.

Don’t let this happen!  There are many ways to sustain sexual desire in a relationship and one of the most potent ways, yet often less used tactic, is proper eye contact.

Eye contact can means so many things, especially for women. For one, it can mean that you love looking at her, which softens the heart of most women I know! It can also mean that you’re self-confident. A man who looks straight into a woman’s eyes without any hesitation oozes self-confidence and many women like this in a man.

Deep and meaningful eye contact can also simply mean lust. For example, just when you have guests at home or out on a party, make eye contact with her from across the room.

Nothing shouts “I want to make love to you now” more than a hard look of longing from across a crowded room!

And the great thing about proper eye contact is that it is effective is building sexual tension and attraction no matter how long two people have been in a relationship.

Here’s how to do it:

Not-So-Open Eyes

Open your eyes till they’re only 75% open. You want to look like you’re looking lovingly at her, not mentally willing her to undress in front of you!

On the other hand, having your eyes open too slightly will make her think you’re probably sleepy and just about to doze off. 75% is the look you want to achieve.Eye contact at this rate will be the “come hither” look you see most often in the movies.

The Head Tilt

During eye contact, lower your head slightly. This “look” or “pose” conveys that you’re sexually interested in her. Tilting your head upwards is a sign that you’re looking down or belittling her and she won’t like that. Tilting your head to low gives the impression that you’re not self-confident and she won’t like that either. So lower your head just a little for maximum sexual attraction effect.

Keep Your Blinking Frequency In Check

When making eye contact, don’t blink a lot. But if you must, try to blink slowly. Blinking too much means you’re nervous, or worse, she may think you have an eye muscle disorder, and that’s not really sexy is it?

Also, because you’re conveying nervousness from excessive blinking, that nervous feeling is going to be passed onto her and she’ll start to feel nervous too.

Don’t Lose The Staring Contest!

Ok, it’s really not a “staring contest” when it comes to building sexual attraction. But the idea is whenever your eyes meet, absolutely do not break eye contact until she initiates the break!

Three things here: one, subconsciously, she’ll get the impression that you’re a man who likes to be in control and so this will make her think that you’re “The Man”; two, maintaining sexual contact means you are REALLY into her; and three, long, hard, and deep eye contact conveys a certain “dark side” about you.

For some reason, many women love that.

Now that you know how to increase sexual attraction with eye contact, wouldn’t you like to take that to the next level?

Filed Under: Seduction Tips Tagged With: dating, love

How to Have Sex on an Airplane and Join the Mile High Club

By leejenkins

Flying can be a so-so affair. It’s pretty much the same event. The destination or meal might change, but in the end, it’s all the same.

Adding a little sexual activity to your flight might seem like an ideal way to pass the time, but convincing your lady it’s a good idea might be the first, and most difficult, challenge to overcome on your way to joining the popular ‘Mile High Club’.

How can you convince her that having sex on an airplane will be fun, exciting, and worth the risk (yes, it IS illegal to have sex in an airplane so do proceed at your own risk!) and possible discomfort?

Convincing your woman to have sex on an airplane is as simple as addressing her concerns, promising to deliver and knowing the limitations. Let’s look at each of these in detail.

What To Do Before You Board The Plane

If your woman is closed off to the idea of having sex on a plane, be sure you understand her concerns. If you can, start before you even board the plane. Tell her that you’re goal is simply to “spice up” your sex lives and that you have no underlying wish to end up in jail.

You already know her threshold for adventure. If she’s pretty adventurous, you already have an “in”. If she’s not, ask her what her concerns are. Let’s look at some common concerns, and what to do about it:

Concern #1: She’s Afraid Of Getting Caught

She’s afraid you’ll be found out. Tell her that airplane sex is common. It happens more than you realize. In fact, it might have happened near her on a flight. She just didn’t know. Besides, there are many things you can do to prevent being caught.

  • You can keep yourselves covered with a blanket.
  • You can head to the bathroom and do the deed there (we’ll look at this in a bit).
  • You can limit your sexual activities so they’re not so obvious.
  • You can save the activity for a red eye, or late night flight when people are asleep.

Concern #2: She’s Too Embarrassed To Do It

Again, if nobody knows, what’s there to be embarrassed about? You can tell her that the two of you can simply hold hands, and kiss a little. Then you can move onto more intimate activities. Only if she feels comfortable will you move on even more. You might suggest she order wine or another drink to help her relax.

Concern #3: She’s Too Shy

She has a general objection to PDAs (public displays of affection). In this case, maybe she’s never thought of herself as the “wild and adventurous” kind of girl. Let her get it in her head and mull it over a bit first. She may soon realize that she’s more interested than she thought she ever would be.

Whatever her concerns are, be certain to reassure her that you won’t do anything that violates appropriate behavior given the circumstances. Tell her that you’ll respect decorum. No matter how excited you are about the possibility of joining that elusive Mile High Club, tell her that you will be discreet, quiet and controlled.

Finally… Let her know that if a problem arises, you’ll take the blame, admit fault, do whatever you have to do to protect her. Once you have reassured your woman that you have a plan, that it will be fun, and that you’ll be the fall guy if you have to, you will likely succeed in convincing her to get busy with you at 30,000 feet.

Ideally, the above discussions should take place before you board the plane or before your trip. However, if you’re already onboard when it occurred to you to see if she’s interested in some “above the skies action“, simply discuss it with her…but respect her concerns.

You can have a low, quiet conversation about things while on the plane. (Tip: Make sure it’s a long fight, so there is time to convince her!)

Now, let’s say you’ve convinced her. Great! Now what? Follow these tips to make your airplane sex fantasy come true.

Get An Aisle Seat

Make sure one of you has an aisle seat. In some cases, you can choose your seat after you buy your ticket.  I always select an aisle seat.  Nothing is worse than having to crawl over people to head to the bathroom to complete the deed. If one of you is on the aisle, you have an easy way to get to the bathroom with a minimum of fuss.

Do It At The Right Time

Go to the bathroom at times that are not busy. This might include meal or snack service, or right before the captain says it’s OK to move about the cabin. (This is when the flight attendants begin getting ready for service but before us regular folk are told it’s fine to start walking around.)

Quick Wipe Down

When you get to the bathroom, try and wipe down any surfaces that might need wiping; if you have any sanitized wipes, even those designed for hands, use them. Then proceed with your hot and illicit lovemaking!

Tell your woman that you’ll make sure she’s good and ready (perhaps some dirty talk beforehand in your seats, or even a little bit of subtle foreplay?) so things go well for her and not just you.

Make It Quick and Quiet

Be prepared for a quiet quickie. This isn’t the time to try out new positions or have all night honeymoon-sex where you moan at the top of your lungs. It’s the time to have fun quickly, quietly and, let’s face it, be proud of the accomplishment.

Another reason to make it quick and quiet is other people may be waiting to use the lavatory.  If they’re standing outside waiting for you two to finish, and they hear some familiar sounds that shouldn’t be heard on board an aircraft, it may give them some suspicion about what you’re doing in there…

How To Exit The Lavatory After Sex

Finally, when it’s time to leave the bathroom, do it in a subtle way. If someone sees you leaving together, say that one of you (decide who ahead of time) was sick and the other was there for comfort and support. (Hey, it will be hard for anyone to prove otherwise.)

Filed Under: Best Sex Positions For... Tagged With: mile-high-club, quickie, sex tips

Top 10 Things Women Wish Men Would Do Before, During and After Sex

By leejenkins

These days it should come as no surprise that women enjoy sex just as much as men do, but one thing that has stayed the same is that they would like men to ‘just know’ what they want without having to break down and tell them!

This article should make sex a real no-brainer for you from here on thanks to these ten things that women admit to wanting even if they don’t necessarily admit it to you!

Before Sex She Wants You To…

1. Kiss Her

It seems that kissing has become a bit of a lost art in this day and age and this is especially the case when a couple has been together for a long time. Spend a few minutes just kissing (a.k.a. making out) the way you did when you were a teenager. You’d be surprised at how hot kissing can really be!

2. Indulge in Some Foreplay

Women need a little more than guys do in order to get really turned in and primed for action. By treating them to more foreplay, not only do you increase their chances of an orgasm, but you’re also setting yourself up for some very hot sex to follow!

3. Be Romantic

This should come as no shocker to anyone as it has been a problem since the beginning of man! While women enjoy a hard sexy throw down on occasion, they still want to be pampered and romanced a little.

Take some time to light a candle or two or just say something romantic. It doesn’t take a bed sprinkled with rose petals to make a woman happy-though that would be great too.

During  Sex She Wants You To…

4. Look Into Her Eyes

You can’t even begin to imagine how incredibly arousing it can be to keep your eyes focused on each other during sex.

It creates an intimacy like nothing else which most women crave from their partners and it can really help you get in tune with each other so you’re better able to know what feels good to them and what could use a little work; all without having to say a word.

5. Be A Little Rough

Yes, women want romance and tenderness, but most often before sex. During sex a woman wants to feel the passion and the urgency that comes from being wanted and desired.

Men are often afraid to be too rough, but the truth is that many women want to be handled a little harder during sex. Note: Tip #5 is a great one to help gauge just how rough you should be with her.

6. Not Forget Her Clitoris

The clitoris is the female equivalent of the penis, meaning that it is full of pleasure-feeling nerve endings that need to be stimulated to achieve orgasm.  Most often a man will be so wrapped up in all the thrusting that he will neglect the most sensual part of her body. Spend some time on the clitoris and you’ll make her one happy camper!

After Sex She Wants You To…

7. Cuddle

Big surprise; a woman wants to be held a little after sex as opposed to having you roll over and fall asleep like she’s not even there. Put your arms around her, let her rest her head on you and try to stay awake for the next tip.

8. Say Something

Again, this one should come as no surprise. This is because women tend to feel more vulnerable after sex and by taking the time to listen and talk to her; you are making her feel more at ease and special.

9. Be Tender

Once the passionate, raw sex is done and over with, it’s time to treat her like a delicate little lady again.

And Finally…

10. Have sex with her again!

That’s right; while most men need to rest and regroup after they climax, women are usually good to go again rather quickly and would appreciate another round!

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice Tagged With: clitoral stimulation, foreplay, how to have sex, kissing, romance, sex tips

The Lazy Man’s Guide to Great Sex

By leejenkins

Everyone wants great sex, but because of a busy lifestyle that include kids, work, bills and a list of other everyday stresses we have to deal with, not everyone has the time or energy to give 100% during their lovemaking sessions.

Sometimes, we want to have mind blowing sex, but want to get it over with sooner than later, so we can get some sleep and get up for work the next morning!

Well, I’m here to tell you that you can have your cake and eat it too 🙂

The tips & techniques I’m about to show you are simple and energy-efficient. They’re great to use when you’re feeling tired, lack the physical stamina to do the karma sutra sex positions, don’t have the time to engage in all-night honeymoon-like sex, and most importantly, they are EFFECTIVE.

You’ll learn:

  • The best sex position for simultaneous orgasms
  • The best way to finger a girl
  • 1 simple ingredient you can add to oral sex that will give her goose bumps

Best Sex Position

Do you know what the best sex position is for giving you and your partner the feelings of intimacy? And at the same time, increasing your changes of simultaneous orgasms?

Before I share that with you, let me share something with you…

In many sex surveys, one of the most favorite sex position chosen by women is the missionary position.

At first I was a bit surprised to hear this; after all, there are other positions that can allow for greater feelings of physical pleasure. But after hearing the reason why women like this position, I can understand.

Here’s why: Women like the missionary position because of the face-to-face contact it provides. In other words, they liked the feeling of intimacy…

Even though this position isn’t ideal for female orgasms, it’s still a favorite among women.

Well, I’m sure you know exactly how to do the missionary mission, so I’m not going to teach you that 😛

But, the key idea here is this feeling of “Intimacy”.

Now, how can we better grasp this concept of “intimacy”? In other words, how can we increase the levels of intimacy, at the same time, increase the chances of female orgasms?

Enter the C.A.T

The Coital Alignment Technique (or CAT for short), is by far the best position for female orgasms.

Why?

Because this position is designed to maximize clitoral stimulation during intercourse…something that most other sex positions can’t!

The CAT position looks like the regular missionary position, but with a slight adjustment.

The main difference is that the male will penetrate from a higher angle (compared to the standard missionary position). And instead of thrusting in and out, the movement is more of a rocking or rubbing action.

Why The CAT Position Works

A woman can have an orgasm quickly and easily because the CAT position allows a woman’s clitoris to be stimulated. The stimulation from the base of the penis & pubic bone on the clitoris, combined with the rocking/rubbing action of the pelvis will allow a woman to reach orgasm. But it doesn’t end here… It’s a great sex position for men too. The woman’s legs are closer together, making the vagina feel “tighter”.

WARNING: The feeling of tightness might make men orgasm quicker than normal!

Combining the enhanced clitoral stimulation, tighter feel of the vagina, and face-to-face, body-pressed-on-body intimacy…achieving orgasms at the same time has never been easier!

How To Do The Coital Alignment Technique

Step 1: To get in the CAT position, slide your body 2-4 inches forward from the typical missionary position so that your pelvis is directly over hers.

Step 2: Your body should fall flat on hers (make sure that you support your body enough so you don’t crush her!).

Step 3: Both of your spines should be straight, and your bodies should be parallel to each other.

Step 4: You can be in between her legs, with her ankles wrapped around your calves. However, I’ve found from my experience that if she keeps her legs close together and you place your legs OUTSIDE of hers, it will produce a better response.

Step 5: Instead of thrusting in and out hard and fast like you would in the regular missionary position, what you’ll do is slowly and gently rock your hips. The base of your penis and your pubic bone will naturally rub up against her clitoris. Also, because you’re moving in a rhythmic rocking motion, you won’t be stimulate your penis as much compared to a thrusting motion, allowing you to last longer during sex.

Tip:

  • The pleasure will build gradually, and the both of you will have orgasms that are much more intense and intimate compared to the missionary position.
  • As you sense an orgasm coming (from her or yourself), don’t speed up! Just maintain the gentle rocking motion and the orgasm will come naturally instead of being chased.
  • When you feel the sensations getting stronger, don’t speed up the rocking movement! What you want to do is continue at the same pace, and allow the orgasm to overtake you. I know this sounds hard to understand, but trust me on this one.

Best Way To Finger A Girl

I’m going to teach you an awesome way to ‘finger a girl’. Actually, this technique doesn’t involve vaginal penetration, so technically, it’s not fingering. But no matter, it still works pretty well 😉

It’s actually a “technique” that women use all the time. When masturbating, some women will start from the position of using her first and fourth fingers to spread open her labia, while the middle finger strokes her clitoris.

You can modify this for your purposes by using one hand to hold her open and the other hand (middle finger only) to tease and rub on her clitoris.

In the woman-on-top sex position, she can incorporate this technique by stimulating her own clitoris while you’re making love.

Here’s how to do it:

Step 1: Locate her vaginal opening with the tips of your index and pointer fingers

Step 2: Slide your fingers directly upward along and between the inner labia of her vagina until you find her clitoris

Step 3: Spread your fingers apart so that your index finger is holding her left inner labia and your small fingers are holding her right labia away from the clitoris

Step 4: Your middle finger should be directly over the clitoris or within easy reach

Step 5: Begin light but circular strokes on and around the surface of the clitoris

Step 6: You can also occasionally dip your fingers down to the vaginal opening and stroke upward from the opening to the base of the clitoris

Step 7: Pay attention to how the clitoris responds to your touch As the clitoris becomes more stimulated and aroused it will swell and become harder and harder

Step 8: Use your sense of touch to determine the best angle, stroke, Pressure and timing for your partner. Let her responding clitoris be your guide.

Chew On This Before You Eat A Girl Out

You can enhance the pleasure of just about any oral sex technique with this one ingredient.

For this one to work, you’ll need to buy a box of Altoids Peppermints.

After you’ve eaten her out for a while, put one in your mouth and crunch it, letting the peppermint get on your tongue.

Go back and give her a few long slow licks covering her entire vulva. You want to spread the peppermint oil on her genitals…this will give her a cool tingling sensation.

Now, combine this with a “Cool Breath” by gently blowing onto her vulva.

Alternatively, you can try using cough drops, or even an ice cube to produce a similar effect.

BONUS TIP: When she’s performing oral sex on you, have her crunch down on an Altoid before hand. Trust me; you’ll like it just as much as she did!

Here’s What To Do Next

There you have it; now you know how to have time-pressed, great sex with little effort!  However, although these techniques are effective and efficient, you shouldn’t be using them all the time.  Especially when you DO have time to devote 100% to lovemaking and have all-night, “honeymoon-like” sex.

To get you started, I’ve compiled a PDF preview copy of The Female Orgasm Black Book.  It’s filled with TONNES of techniques (oral, manual stimulation, positions etc) just to give you a small taste of what my book is about.

Also, it has pictures!

To see them, visit the The Female Orgasm Black Book, tell me where you want your PDF preview copy, and I’ll send it to you.

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice Tagged With: cunnilingus, female orgasm, fingering, have better sex, how to finger a girl, love, oral sex

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