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Overcoming Early Ejaculation And Making Sex Last Longer

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Premature ejaculation can happen to any guy – no matter whether they’re young or old. If you have premature ejaculation, you’re not alone. You probably feel some anxiety every time you have sex, worrying that you will blow it in double-quick time. While there are differing opinions on the definitions of premature ejaculation, it all boils down to the man ejaculating quicker than he or his partner wants.

The Numbers Don’t Lie

It is not a stretch to say that early ejaculation is by FAR the most prevalent sexual problem affecting men. If men were asked if they have ever had at least one experience of having an orgasm too soon, almost all would have their hands raised up high. Statistics from universal sexual surveys consistently show that at least 30 to 40% of men replied that ejaculating early was an issue.

Getting Over Premature Ejaculation

Learning to effectively overcome PE will depend on its contributory factors. For most men who have to deal with this embarrassing event in their sex lives, the presence of stress and tension in one’s body is a leading cause of PE.

Ever noticed the tension you feel in your body during sex? This can be attributed to various factors, including holding your breath, tightening the muscles in your abs, or certain sex positions where you need to support your weight (e.g. missionary). All these result in muscular tension and increase the potential for an early orgasm.

The male orgasm is basically a series of muscular contractions that release muscular tension. One of the best ways to overcome premature ejaculation is to work on your muscle tension levels. Simple activities such as meditation, stretching, and even basic exercises are very effective ways to reduce the tension in the core abdominal and pelvic areas, and help you gain those crucial minutes during sex.

Other Proven Strategies For Longer-Lasting Sex

Here are 2 specific tips that many guys find useful in getting over premature ejaculation and lasting longer in bed. And I think you’ll find them extremely helpful too.

Bolster Your Ejaculatory Muscles

Your pelvic floor muscles regulate how long you last. If you don’t know where these are, stop your urine midstream and sense the muscle that contracts, somewhere in between your scrotum and anus. That is the muscle that controls both urination and ejaculation. Most men don’t know this, but you can actually strengthen this set of muscles so that you are able to extend your orgasm and even last all night in bed. Simple PC Contraction exercises or Kegel workouts will boost the strength of these muscles and enhance your ejaculatory control.

Focus On “Position Divergence”

The positioning and movement of your penis inside the vagina also affects how long you last. It is very common for guys to penetrate in the standard in and out motion. This type of movement increases the sensations on the penis glans and makes it more difficult to manage your arousal. Instead, try moving your member in a circular motion during intercourse and at the same time, rub your pubic area against hers. Not only will this enhance your stamina, it will stimulate her clitoris better and give her an orgasm sooner. It’s a win-win for the both of you, I’m sure!

Develop An “Ejaculatory Compass”

In many cases, premature ejaculation is a “habit” that has been unwittingly cultivated from young. You see, when most young men masturbate, they tend to use quick strokes to ejaculate quickly so that they can achieve satisfaction without getting caught. If you are used to this quick-fire approach to self-stimulation, you will become accustomed to it even when you are having sex with a partner.

The good news is, such negative habits can be reversed or “un-learned”… simply by allowing yourself MORE time during masturbation. Use this time to get in tune with your sexual arousal; learn how your body responds to stimulation and then associate those sensations to specific benchmarks along your arousal curve. This will help you pinpoint your ejaculatory threshold so that you can take specific steps (e.g. adjust your movements, switch positions, etc) during sex to last longer.

How To Increase Sexual Endurance Dramatically

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Premature ejaculation can happen to anyone. PE is a real problem that affects 25 to 40 percent of men, which typically means they ejaculate in under 2 minutes during sexual intercourse. For many men, the real issue is the inability to handle the intense arousal that comes with sexual stimulation.

So what can you do to get a grip on your arousal and massively increase your sexual stamina? Check out these easy tips to increase your endurance and last longer in bed.

Make Sex A “Connected Experience”

When it comes to lovemaking, women – even if they do not say it – prefer an intimate emotional connection, and not just physical intimacy. Your ability to warm her up with foreplay before starting intercourse will go a long way in satisfying her properly, as well as giving you the confidence needed to last longer.

To do this, you will need to focus on HER needs first. Make sure that you know where her hot spots are – the areas where she wants the most attention and likes to be touched. By learning all about her body and giving her lots of attention, she will not only find lovemaking more pleasurable, she will be able to achieve orgasm faster as well.

When you have the confidence in knowing her body and what she likes, it will make a big impact on your sex life. You will find that you have renewed confidence in yourself as a lover if you start by pleasing her BEFORE penetration.

Not only that, but by prolonging the prelude to intercourse and focusing on satisfying your partner’s needs first, you also slow down your own path to arousal and significantly increase your sexual endurance.

“Capricious Maneuvering”

This has worked very well for most men and is one of the simplest ways to delay an impending orgasm. Most men tend to orgasm early due to their inability to control their sexual arousal, and this technique will help you in that respect.

When you become too excited during sex and realize an orgasm is approaching, simply withdraw your penis and change to a position that is less stimulating for you.

For instance, switch to one where both of you are sitting down and you’re not getting as much friction on your penis. This helps to reduce the speed of penetration and gives you better control. Another great sex position is to simply lie down on your sides facing each either.

If you still find it hard to delay an ejaculation, withdraw your penis and stop penetration completely. This is the perfect time to continue pleasing her with your fingers or give her oral sex. Just make sure you do this a few minutes before you’re actually ready to climax. If you wait just until the brink of orgasm to withdraw, you will likely still have an orgasm – only it won’t be very good at all.

Most women find it much easier to achieve an orgasm through oral sex, so if you can give her one before resuming intercourse, it will satisfy her a lot better. Not only that, it will make it easier for her to achieve successive climaxes during intercourse, and also gives you that much needed confidence to keep going until the finishing line!

Relax And Have Fun

As you practice controlling your orgasm, you will feel more and more confident with your ability to last longer in bed. Even if you still have trouble controlling when you climax, if you’ve learned to please your partner sexually before penetration, she will still be satisfied even though you haven’t lasted very long during intercourse. The most important thing is to relax and remember that sex is all about having fun. If you put too much pressure on yourself not to ejaculate too early, it is likely going to backfire.

How To Sustain Sex Longer And Give Women Amazing Orgasms

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Giving an orgasm is at the top of the list for most guys, but many guys don’t know how. Here is a simple, powerful way to give an orgasm and sensational sex!

Emotional distress. Lower self-image. Relationship breakdown. Marriage on the rocks. Sexual infidelity. These are REAL problems that many men have to go through when they persistently suffer from premature ejaculation. And you know that if you can’t last long enough, you’re sure as heck not going to give her a great orgasm. While PE is twice as common as its other “cousin” – erectile dysfunction – it is FAR less understood by the majority of men. If you are keen to get a handle on your early ejaculation problem, you will want to read keep reading and learn one powerful way to delay YOUR orgasm so she can get hers.

The Preeminence Of Sexual Endurance

Many men equate sexual endurance as the prerequisite for giving women sensational sex. That is true to a large extent. In fact, many women complain that their partners aren’t lasting long enough to sexually fulfill them. And we probably know too well of relationships that have been torn apart because the man persistently ejaculates too early.

The Illusion Of The Magic Number

Premature ejaculation is when a man ejaculates earlier then desired. For 25 to 40 percent of men worldwide, this typically means a male orgasm occurs within 2 minutes during vaginal penetration. That said, many men focus too much on the specific duration they should last. They fret over the fact that they cannot last like porn actors do. The simple truth is, sex that lasts too long can be painful and uncomfortable for the woman! The lubrication in the vagina typically dries up from prolonged thrusting.

So what’s the magic number, you asked? Simple! In most cases, intercourse just needs to last as long as a You Tube clip to be satisfactory. That means 3-5 minutes on average, not including the amount of foreplay time. And studies have consistently shown that lovemaking that lasts 7 to 13 minutes is the most desirable.

“Endurance Superiority” vs. “Female Orgasms”

Women are biologically wired to respond VERY slowly to physical sexual stimulation. That is why in general, your wife, girlfriend or partner needs at least 7 to 15 minutes of consistent stimulation during penetration to get aroused to the point of vaginal orgasm. Compare that with the short one to two minutes that bring most men from arousal to orgasm!

So, if you want to desirable sex, you should be lasting at least 7 minutes during sex… and this poses a REAL challenge for the vast majority of men.

The Trick To Overcoming Early Ejaculation And Triggering Faster Female Orgasms

Stop relying on your penis to stimulate and bring your woman to a climax. In fact, a man’s most prized member is the lousiest tool to help women achieve the big “O”! Besides thrusting in and out, what else can your penis do?

Instead, what you should do is to focus on giving your woman enough stimulation to her clitoris. It is difficult to do this with your penis, so use your fingers/thumb or your tongue instead. Pound for pound, the tongue has the strongest muscle on the human body, and is extremely powerful and flexible in stimulating the clitoris. Plus, since you are not using your penis, it helps you manage your arousal better and gives you more endurance in bed.

Proper clitoral stimulation will quicken her ability to enjoy an orgasm sooner. So give her one before you start having intercourse with her. The great thing is, when you’ve made her climax BEFORE penetrative sex, it becomes ten times easier for her to achieve a vaginal orgasm during intercourse… and in her eyes, you become the man with superior stamina that she has been dreaming of!

4 Tips To Drive Her Wild With Razor Sharp Female Orgasms

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Oral sex is a great way to give your lover a mind blowing orgasm. The fact is, what makes a perfect sexual life is when you give your woman the powerful orgasm she deserves. And the most wonderful way for your partner to experience the ultimate excitement is by making your woman feel you will do anything for her without asking anything in return.

Oral Sex Equals Orgasm!

Cunnilingus, in simple terms, is oral sex for women. Cunnilingus gives a heightened sexual excitation in women. If you don’t know how to do this, then it will turn out to be just another forgettable experience for your partner. But with these 4 tips below, you will certainly triumph in bed and give your lover a truly memorable erotic adventure – complete with powerful orgasms, no less!

Arousal Multiplier

Many men make the mistake of jumping right in and start stimulating their women with their tongue. While oral sex is usually considered as a form of foreplay to intercourse, you still need to get your partner warmed up first. Women are like analogs… you need to slowly turn the dial to heat it up. Take your time to playfully tease your partner; kiss on the neck and nibble on the ear lobes; gently stroke the inner thighs. All these little, sensuous gestures will turn a woman on quickly and get her ready before you start giving oral sex.

Oral Manifesto

The right way to use your tongue can be compared to how a cat or a dog drinks from a bowl of water. Try observing these animals when they drink; you will see how their tongues move in and out of their mouths at a really fast pace. This is exactly what your tongue should do when performing oral sex on a woman and licking the clitoris. Your tongue has one of the most powerful muscles in the human body. Put it to good use!

To bring this intimate mood to the next level, get creative and try out various tongue strokes (hint: circular strokes produce a tantalizing effect on most women). You can also use your tongue to spell different letters of the alphabet and see if she can guess what you are spelling. She will probably be squirming with ecstasy as she tries to figure out what you are going to do next. Go slow, use your tongue and tease your lover.

Pleasure Multiplier

When you are giving your partner oral sex, there is nothing to stop you from leveraging on the magic from your fingers. If you know how to use fingering and your tongue, you will exponentially intensify the pleasure she gets from you. Here’s the trick: when you are kissing the clitoris, use your thumb or index finger to rub it simultaneously. By giving sufficient stimulation to the clitoris, you will set up your partner for a really explosive orgasm, and make it happen in a hurry too.

Rhythmic Consistency

To give your tongue some needed rest in between strokes, and to spice things up a little, try the “humming” technique. Make use of any melody that you can think of and hum it, with the position of your head remaining unchanged. The vibration from the sound you are making will reach the vagina, providing additional stimulation to the clitoris.

When you sense your lover’s orgasm approaching (e.g. when breathing quickens; and hands start gripping the sheets), keep a steady tempo as you continue to stimulate the clitoris. Refrain from changing what you are doing, as that might cut your partner out from the orgasm she’s yearning for. Once you find a rhythm that gets your lover going, stick with it… and keep at it until you bring your partner over the edge!

Your lips and tongue are your best “tools” to bring your lover to an orgasm. Science has proven it. Experience has confirmed it. More than intercourse, oral sex is craved by many women, but delivered by very FEW men. So give your partner the pleasure she deserves, and in return you will get more sex than you could probably handle!

How To Stop Ejaculating So Fast During Sex

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Is premature ejaculation making your sex life lousy because you cannot seem to stop ejaculating so fast during sex? Do you feel frustrated, embarrassed and depressed because you are unable to satisfy your partner sexually?

If it’s a one-stand stand, you can forget about the embarrassment of premature ejaculation (PE) and move on. But for men who are married or in a long-term committed relationship, the double whammy of having to deal with PE and the potential fallout in his relationship can be overbearing.

The Law Of Large Numbers

You are NOT suffering from premature ejaculation alone. Millions of men just like you have to put up with the embarrassment of having an orgasm too quickly during sex. It’s just that guys don’t usually talk about such things, and most don’t know how to deal with it properly.

Beware Of The “Trappings” On Offer

In their quest for a “quick fix” for their PE problem, many men choose to seek out products on the market that claim to help them last longer. You are probably well aware of stuff such as desensitizing lube, gels or in general – anesthetics that you can apply on your penis glans to help you last longer when you make out.

These products work to a certain extent, by reducing your level of sensitivity to stimulation. The downside is that these solutions are NOT permanent cures. Without relying on these products, you will be back to your usual short-lived stamina. This means you have to whip out that bottle of spray or that tube of gel every time you plan to have sex.

While there are many proven techniques and methods to deal with the problem of premature ejaculation. But too many men focus on these specific techniques instead of the ONE important fundamental that is holding them back from achieving the sensational stamina they yearn for. Let’s take a look at this vital fundamental.

Setting Realistic Goals

“I want to lose 10 pounds in a week!” Realistic? No. Safe? No.

“I want to run a triathlon, six weeks from now… but I’ve never ran one before.” Realistic? No. Smart? No.

Such goals will ultimately set you up for failure and disappointment, and perhaps even serious health impairment.

Setting realistic goals is the first important step towards achieving any self-improvement endeavor, and that includes overcoming premature ejaculation. Start by KNOWING your current benchmark. How long can you last right now? Based on this yardstick, set a number of short-term goals while you work towards the ultimate goal.

Take for instance, you want to be able to last 15 minutes during sexual intercourse. If you’re lasting just one minute now, your end goal may be way off; you may end up losing motivation and getting frustrated. Instead, try setting weekly goals of adding 2 minutes to your stamina, by working on specific, natural techniques that help improve your ejaculatory control.

Sounds easy and straightforward? It does…

But if you stay committed and work on your ejaculatory control every week for 8 weeks, you will have surpassed your original goal by going at least 16 minutes! That new benchmark will become PERMANENT. And your wife or long-term partner will be very thankful for it, I promise!

Permanent Solutions For Lasting Longer

The best way to overcome premature ejaculation is to first understand what causes it in the first place. For the vast majority of men, all they need is to simply re-train how their mind and body react during sexual stimulation. By practicing simple cognitive techniques and exercises to re-condition the ejaculatory reflex (usually through masturbation), you can increase the threshold or tipping point where ejaculation is imminent.

Many sexual therapists also recommend natural training and reconditioning as the first important step towards ridding yourself of premature ejaculation and lasting longer for your female partner.