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How To Delay Ejaculation – Naturally!

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Premature ejaculation will ruin your sex life completely if you don’t get control over it. Learn how to wait as long as possible before ejaculation now!

Are you sick and tired of not lasting long enough during sex? Is delaying ejaculation becoming an arduous thing to do, one that causes you great embarrassment in front of your lover? There are many forms of sexual dysfunction that occur among men, and nothing is more debilitating than premature ejaculation. Yet the good news is also that premature ejaculation is the easiest to treat among all male sexual problems.

Indeed, you can completely cure PE using natural, practical methods without making embarrassing trips to the doctor. These are the key techniques and strategies:

1. Understand Your Ejaculatory Process And Sexual Responses

Without a proper understanding of how your body responds to sexual stimulation, you will never be able to control how soon you ejaculate during sex. Arousal control is key to keep PE in check. And before you can control your arousal, you have to understand how it works. In a nutshell, your body goes through 4 key stages of response during sex. The first stage involves “excitement” when your penis starts to fill with blood and becomes erect.

The second stage occurs when your penis is fully erect and you feel relaxed and under control. Stage 3 is when intense sensations begin to envelop your penis and you are about to “pop.” This leads into the final stage where ejaculation takes place. The arousal and erection fade away soon after.

2. Develop Mental Control

Much of a man’s inability to hold ejaculation stems from psychological or confidence-related issues. The very thoughts that run though your mind during sex will affect your sexual endurance. Some guys allow the sensations of intercourse to rule over their head and that is a quick and surefire way to blow early.

You must learn how to control your arousal right from the beginning. This can be achieved by focusing NOT on intercourse but on the entire sexual experience. This is a huge difference. To develop mental or arousal control, you need to focus on the ALL the sensations you experience and GIVE during sex, and not just focusing on how you feel in your own nether regions.

3. Regain Physical Control

Adding physical control to mental control will allow you to totally re-wire your ejaculatory triggers so that you can decide when you want to ejaculate. Training your ejaculatory muscles is critical to developing physical control. You see, your pelvic or perineal muscles control when you ejaculate. By strengthening the proper set of muscles, you are able to keep them relaxed at all times even with the most intense sexual stimulation.

There is no better time to start than now!

Many guys just lament that they can’t last long enough, and never make the effort to address this problem. Others resort to short-term tactics like desensitizing sprays and lube which don’t address the root causes. But if you are willing to put in the effort to understand how you body responds and develop both mental and physical control over your ejaculatory reflexes, you will be able to completely TRANSFORM your sex life and enjoy sex to the fullest!

4 Erotic Places To Make Out

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Kissing can be a super hot prelude to sex, but you can’t make out on your couch all the time and expect it to be good. Move the party to one of these sexy places!

Making out on the bed is a top choice for most couples. It is convenient, offers plenty of privacy and makes cleaning up easy if the bathroom is just a few steps away. But if you want to enjoy truly mind-blowing, uninhibited sex, there is no better way than to let your imagination and creativity take over. If you need a little help, these are 4 of the best places to have sex – outside of your own home, no less! Push your boundaries and give your girl the most wondrous, passionate sex she has ever imagined!

1. In The Car

The back seat of the car isn’t the most comfortable place to make out. But it is nonetheless an ultra hot place for an afternoon (or night) of romp, simply because it gives a glimpse of the great outdoors while still offering a little privacy of sorts. Did I also mention car sex is one of the most sought-after sexual fantasies of women? Enough said.

Bonus Tip: The drive-in makes for a perfect excuse to get away for the night and have a good time right in your car. And you have plenty of time before the end credits start rolling, for sure!

2. The Great Outdoors

There is something about having sex outdoors that turns women on. It is the added thrill that someone else may just swing by and catch both of you in the act. Just make sure you are in a relatively secluded spot, where you can enjoy nature and the cool night sky in their splendor.

3. In The Pool

If you have a private swimming pool, great! Sex and water goes really well together. Water offers total freedom of movement and the added buoyancy can make kissing and sex a truly exhilarating and extremely sexy experience for her. And well, when both of you are in the pool, most of your clothes are already off!

4. A Date With The Movies

If you are a couple in a stable relationship, why not add some spice to your sex life by going out on a movie date and making out? Of course you should get into a theater that is NOT showing the latest blockbuster. You want some privacy, so choose one that is not crowded and find a place right at the back of the theater. And when the lights go dim, the action will start. Yours… not the movie.

2 Phenomenal Ways To Have EXPLOSIVE Sex!

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Sex can be boring or it can be incredible – and most people prefer the latter. Here are two simple suggestions to make sex absolutely UNFORGETTABLE!

Let’s face it. For most men, sex is something that can give him pleasure, anytime, anywhere. Men are just turned on visually and can head into intercourse right away. For women, it is a different proposition altogether. If you want to spice up your sex life and satisfy her, you need to fulfill her emotional needs first. It can be a challenge, but not exactly a tall order. You just need to do things a little differently to tease out the wild side in her. Keen to learn more? Great! Keep reading for 2 tips to take your sex life up a sexy notch!

1. Titillate Her Sensory Awareness

Women have this inherent ability to amp up their alternate sensory awareness when one of their senses is inhibited. For instance, when you blindfold her, her sense of touch, smell and hearing will suddenly become amplified. You can use this to your advantage and create a sensual build-up or anticipation during sex. She will try hard to hazard a guess what you are going to do next, or which part of her body you are going to venture upon. Her sense of touch will become doubly sensitive when she cannot see, so pay your attention to those sensuous spots where she normally loves to be touched. These will send her temperatures racing very quickly.

2. Ask And You Shall Be Given!

When it comes to sex, there are simply a thousand and one things you can try, but most men simply stick with doing what they THINK their women will like. Chances are, there is a lot more things she likes you to do to her that you are not even aware of. While most women are passive during sex and accepts whatever their partners serve up in bed, if you do make the effort to ASK her, you would be surprised by the things you will LEARN about her! When she knows that you care about what she truly wants and seek to deliver these, you would have fulfilled her key emotional needs.

This is what you can do: ask her to write down 3 things she would like you to do to her during sex. It can be the type of foreplay she wants; the position she prefers or the role play she fantasizes about. Then go down the list and grant her wishes. The freshness and excitement of what you are going to give her will make sex truly out-of-this-world for her, as it will for you!

The key to having great sex is to make time to learn new things to do with each other in bed. She will be erotically and emotionally fulfilled, and you will be amply rewarded with wondrous sex you never had imagined!

4 Ways To Prime Her For POWERFUL Orgasms

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The female orgasm is often considered the holy grail of sex – you want to give her a female orgasm that leaves her legs shaking. Here’s how to get her ready.

Many men fantasize about their women calling out their names during their private moments in bed. However, most guys are not aware of how to give women the ultimate sexual excitement and make them quiver in orgasmic ecstasy. Below I have 4 definite ways that will turn her on sexually and earn you the sound of her begging for (yet) another gratifying climax in bed. Let’s read on!

1. Touch Her Hands

Let your fingers run along her hands and wrists. A woman’s hands and wrists are very sensitive to touch. You may do an experiment by letting your fingertips cross the area of the skin of her palms, to her wrists, then towards her elbow. You will be surprised at how ecstatic she will be. You may expect this to create a sensual atmosphere for another wild moment in bed.

2. Whisper In Her Ear

It is a fact that the ears are more than just an organ for hearing because it is also one of many erogenous zones on a woman’s body. The ear is also the main bridge towards the body’s organ that is most sensitive to sexual stimulation – the brain. Now you can try speaking softly against her ears and let your breath tenderly touch her sensitive skin. This will allow her to feel a momentary sense of pleasure that will be heightened once you engage in a little dirty talk.

3. Don’t Forget The Neck

The most sensitive part of a woman’s neck is the contour where it meets the shoulder and the back. What you can do to excite her is to simultaneously give gentle touches along the surface of her neck while whispering into her ear all the pleasurable things that you will do only for her. Afterwards, you may allow your lips to work wonders on her neck.

4. Touch Your Lover’s Hair

The scalp of a woman is also highly-sensitive and each strand of her hair has a corresponding nerve ending attached to it. It means that once you touch her hair, you are already giving her thousands of sexual stimulation. Women enjoy the feeling when they touch and fix their hair. As a man, you love the way your woman’s hair smell after bath and the feel of her tresses draped all over the skin of your chest during or after a mind-blowing sex. And yes, she will truly appreciate it if you gently brush her hair with your fingertips. This will set her erotic passions on fire very quickly.

How To REALLY Please Her In Bed

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Orgasm is something every guy wants to give a girl. But is that all she wants? Find out how to go beyond a female orgasm and give it all to her.

There is more to becoming a better lover than just the mechanics of sex. A man needs to be both the bad boy as well as a sensitive man in order to please most women. There are techniques that will work in various circumstances that any man can use and will turn any guy into a Don Juan. If you are ready to be the type of man who can please any woman in bed and prime her for wild screaming orgasms, then read on!

“Seductive Orator”

Tell her you want her. Sounds simple enough, right? But so many men just jump right into sex without even saying these words. Women need to connect at an emotional level before they can truly get sexually aroused. Tune her in, get her into the mood. Words have an extremely powerful effect on women.

Tell her how much she turns you on, that you were thinking of her all day and how much you want to give her an amazing time in bed. Get into the head of a woman FIRST and you will be the lover she has always dreamed about!

“Sensual Kisser”

Most men do not kiss long enough. And many women complain that they receive too little kissing from their lovers. In order to be the man of her fantasies, make sure you do not neglect her in this department. Her lips and tongue have millions of sensitive endings waiting to be stimulated, so light up her erotic passions through these areas. Put your tongue to good use and give her long, lingering kisses!

Don’t just focus on her mouth. Kiss, lick and nibble on her neck and shoulders too. Kissing is a great prelude to sensational sex and can turn on the “orgasmic furnace” in a woman like nothing else can.

“Whimsical Lover”

Lovemaking can get mundane for both you and her after a while, especially when you are in a long term relationship. That is the last thing you want in bed. In order to keep sex exciting, you need to be a bit unpredictable in the bedroom. One way to do this is to break out of your routine and do something new.

A new position, a new place to have sex – anything to get out of the rut! No one wants the same old, same old when it comes to sex. And an unpredictable move on your part is bound to light her passions and orgasmic fire!