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How To Set The Mood For Dirty Talk

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Dirty talk can revamp your sex life like nothing else – but you have to create a great mood first. Here’s how to introduce dirty talk into YOUR bedroom!

Using Your Voice

Dirty talk has to sound sexy. If you say “that feels great” in a very monotone, unexcited voice, then that is not very sexy. Put emotion into your dirty talk. Whispering and breathy comments can be quite sexy. Grunt, moan and make noises – varying the tone and the pitch occasionally so that it does not get monotonous. Scream or shout when you are really into it. Also, you aren’t giving commands like a Colonel or Major to his enlisted men.

The goal here is for both of you to be conveying to each other the passion and intensity of your encounter. It CAN and SHOULD be fun, not work. Imagine the basic tone of a football game. Everyone in the stadium has high expectations but as the game begins, as a sports fan, it starts out slow. We aren’t up off the couch screaming at the players at the top of our lungs from the coin toss.

Start dirty talk slowly – whispers and playful dialogue as you are kissing, and as you are face to face while first getting things warmed up. As the passion heats up you can change the tone and level of your voice to mimic the pace of what is happening in the room. If you’re further apart, or if he’s behind you, you’re going to need to be louder so that mid-stroke someone’s not saying “I’m sorry, honey what did you say??” That’s a sure fire way to break the momentum you have been building.

Another good example is a piece of symphony music. The first notes of the musical composition are not the loudest portions of the piece. The tempo starts out slower, building to the climatic heights in the middle, and then descending at the end.

Imagine your lovemaking as the same. A beautifully written musical form that should keep a pace that reflects the given situation. A lovemaking session where you have a whole night to play and explore would have a different tempo from one where you’re squeezing in a quickie between dinner and taking the kids to soccer practice.

Setting The Mood

Playing some music during dirty talk helps provide background noise that may make it easier so that you won’t feel so self conscious over the sound of your own voice. Some music also has great lyrics that will inspire you to pull them from the song and use them while using dirty talk with your partner. Have you ever known anyone to NOT be turned on while listening to Marvin Gaye, Barry White or Luther Vandross?

Songs like “Let’s Get It On,” “Sexual Healing,” “Got To Give It Up,” “If Only For One Night” and others are romantic, slow, sensual and have very erotic lyrics while providing great inspiration and setting the tone for a romantic night together.

Candles

Candles placed around the bedroom, living room, bathroom or any other room in your house only elevate the feeling of a close, private, safe haven for the two of you to explore each other.

Bubble Bath

Bubble baths are a great way to relax and spend a little more time with foreplay before hitting the sheets. Sitting in the tub together is a great way to start and work up some additional desire. By the time you have washed each others backs and played around in the bubbles, you maybe find yourself never even making it to the bed.

Aromatherapy

Perfumes and bed linen sprays are another way to set the mood for dirty talk in your bedroom. Spritz the pillow cases or the ceiling fan ahead of time so that the room takes on a special scent before it’s time to play. Once you’ve worn a special fragrance during an encounter and your lover smells it on you again, it will take you back to the moments you spent wrapped around each other in the heat of passion.

Wine, Or Your Drink Of Choice

Bring a bottle of wine to bed and poor some slowly into her belly button. Sip it out and then do the same to your partner. Ladies, when he’s going down on you, take a little wine and pour it into a shot glass. Pour it slowly from the top of your mound and it will drip down the inner creases of your thighs – ask him to lick it up. This is an excellent way to put a new twist on oral sex!

Deep Throat Techniques That Will Leave Him Breathless And Begging For More!

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Deep throat is a blowjob technique that many women can’t do – but every guy wishes they could. Learn how to deep throat and make his fantasies come true!

Okay, so you’ve been practicing your fellatio techniques and your partner loves it, but you’re ready to pull a few more tricks out of your bag. Not to worry – where there’s innovation, there’s an awesome fellatio session! You can use a variety of new techniques to create a fun and exciting session and if you get a little creative, you might discover a technique that both you and your partner go crazy for! Here, we’re going to give you a few ideas that you can bring with you into the bedroom – or elsewhere!

The Art Of The Deep Throat

The deep throat is possibly one of the best oral sex techniques that you can have in your repertoire – but it’s not for everybody! You will take your partner’s penis into your mouth completely – all the way down to the base. A good portion of your partner’s penis will end up past your gag reflex and into your throat, hence the name “deep throating.” Some women cannot perform deep throat fellatio due to large glands, tonsils or a particularly strong gag reflex. Some women make excellent deep throaters by nature – there are some women that do not have a gag reflex at all! If you are like most women, however, and are in the middle of the deep-throating road (you can deep throat, but your gag reflex sometimes prevents you from doing it as much or as well as you or your partner would like during fellatio), not to worry. These types of women can end up being great deep throaters with practice, practice, practice!

Oral Sex Positions For Deep Throat

Having the proper positioning during deep throating can make all the difference in the world. Remember, the biggest hindrance to deep throating is your gag reflex. Taking your partner’s penis into your throat in a standard fellatio position (any position in which your head is not facing your partner’s feet) will put your partner’s penis right in the line of fire of your gag reflex.

In these oral sex positions, your partner’s penis will directly hit the back of your throat and you will most likely gag, making your eyes water and probably turning off your partner in the process! If you want to have deep throat success, you will need to position yourself properly. You can be creative, but any position in which your head is facing your partner’s feet will allow his penis to go more smoothly down your throat and avoid hitting your gag reflex directly. Even if you utilize this positioning during deep throating, you will still need lots of practice to get it down pat.

Practice Makes Perfect!

Try just doing a few deep throat strokes per fellatio session or for a designated number of minutes and then increase the time spent deep throating during each fellatio session until you have built up a good tolerance for it. Once you have done this, you may even begin to enjoy deep throating and the wonderful sensations it gives your partner. You can work on your natural gag reflex by practicing on a dildo that is the same size as your mate.

Without the pressure of the moment, some women can train themselves to not gag by utilizing a sex toy. For some women, it’s worth time to master the ability! Your man will thank you!

Get Yourself Out Of The Friend Zone – STAT!

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Dating tips can help you meet girls, but what if you’ve landed yourself in the “just friends” category? Can you dig your way out? Here’s how to do it, ASAP!

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Be The Kind Of Guy Who Never Gets In The Friend Zone In The First Place

The best “dating tips” you could ever get about staying out of the friend zone is to never be the kind of guy who gets put in it in the first place. These guys are wimpy and weak, where guys who don’t get put on the “friends only” list are strong and confident – the alpha male type. The trick is to not be afraid to make women feel beautiful and sexy, and to not be afraid of showing a girl that you like her – like really like her. Don’t pretend that you don’t have a sexual or romantic connection to a girl – instead, just tell her! Be honest and confident about your feelings. Don’t apologize for who you are, and don’t act like her best girlfriend.

Show Interest In Her

If you like a girl, the best way not to get on her “friends only” list is to show that you’re interested in her from the get go. Don’t be too scared to admit that you have a sexual attraction to this girl – and be okay with that. If you think that it’s wrong somehow, or you’re not supposed to like her “that way,” you’re paving your own road to the friend zone! It’s normal and perfectly okay to be sexually attracted to a woman and for her to know that! In fact, it’s perfectly normal and okay that she be sexually attracted to you too – but she won’t be if you’re hiding the fact that you even want to be more than friends.

Make A Move

Don’t just wait and sit on the sidelines like a “best friend” when you could be out there with the girl you want to be with. Take that first step and make that move! Whether it’s to let her know that you exist (that’s a great first step), to start flirting with her or even a bolder move like leaning in for the first kiss, you need to go ahead and do it. Stop thinking about doing it, planning to do it or making excuses as to why now isn’t the right time. Just put yourself out there, take the risk and make a first move!

The Importance Of Building Sexual Tension

When a girl starts to think of you as more than just a buddy is when she begins to feel that undeniable sexual tension between the two of you. To get girls, you have to become a master at creating, shaping and using sexual tension. While some guys don’t find this difficult at all, other more “left brained” guys (you know, scientists, engineers, accountants, etc.) have a more difficult time accessing their more creative side to build sexual tension.

You can get more in touch with the right side of your brain, take up poetry or an art class – anything that engages your right brain. Do something creative that allows you to think differently than you normally do.

How To Build Sexual Tension And Get Her To Think Of You As More Than Just A “Buddy”

  1. Start slowly – you don’t want to rush in too quickly and blindside her. Compliment her, tell her that she looks beautiful or stunning – don’t say “hot,” or “sexy” because this will turn her OFF immediately.
  2. Get in her space. Touch her and when you do, let the touch linger just a little too long. Don’t be creepy about it, but you don’t want to end it until just after it becomes slightly awkward. Flirt with her.
  3. Move at her pace, but take it just a little farther. This allows you to push her limits a little bit, but not way past where her limits usually are. You’re just going slightly outside of her comfort zone.

Show A Side Of Yourself That She Hasn’t Seen Before

If you’re already in the friend zone, these dating tips can be particularly useful if you want to get yourself out of it.

Show the girl you like a side of yourself that she’s never seen before. You’re an interesting guy, with passions and hobbies too, right? Don’t always be talking about her and what she likes or wants to do. Show her your motivation, drive and passion. Let her know that you’re a guy she could be with and have fun with!

Also, you want to make her laugh and feel happy. This is a huge deal, because women remember the way you make them feel more than they remember your name, what you do for a living or even what you look like (although she’ll probably remember all three if you make her feel absolutely amazing).

Erotic Massage: How To Take It To The Next Level

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Erotic massage is an excellent prelude to sex, but here’s how to go from just erotic massage to something much, much more!

Whether it’s before or after your lover has experience an orgasm (or two), there will come a point when she will be very receptive to your penetrating her vagina with your hard penis—and believe me when I say, it will be very hard at this point!

She’ll Want To Engage In Sex

Although you can expect her to pull you into her and gyrate around until you experience the same orgasmic pleasure, keep in mind that this might not be all she’s willing to do. Being in a highly sexually aroused state, she may want to take you in her mouth or use the oil to give you the best handjob you’ve ever had.

How you get your pleasure at this point isn’t what’s important. What’s most important is that through the art of sensual and erotic massage, you were able to meet both the emotional and sexual needs of your partner and provide her with a highly intimate experience that will surely make her long for more of the same.

Don’t Focus Only On One Area – Involve All Her Erogenous Zones

When you continue on to lovemaking, keep in mind that while there are fairly obvious pleasure zones, women have other body parts that are very sensitive to caresses, strokes and kisses that can increase their desire for sex and intensify their orgasms. These areas vary from woman to woman, but it’s definitely worth paying attention to the ears, neck, back, arms and other less obvious places to see what she likes. When you find those magic spots, spend some extra time stimulating those areas both during and after your massage. Don’t just focus strictly on her vagina to keep her going. Pay attention to her entire body. This will help to intensify her desire for sex and provide a more intense love making session.

Be sure to spend adequate time playing with your lover’s breasts, as well. If you’re lady is a size DD, paying attention to her breasts probably isn’t a problem for you. But if your woman has small breasts, you might be like some men and bypass them on your way to what you might perceive as what matters most—her vagina. For most women, however, both big breasted and small, their breasts are highly erotic zones and a vital part when it comes to stimulating her sexually.

How To Play With Her Breasts

Explore her breasts by sucking, licking, stroking, nibbling, and gently squeezing them. Although the nipples and areola (the pinkish-brown circles around her nipples) are known to be sensitive, so are the undersides of her breasts just under the areola. Some women don’t feel a thing when their nipples are touched. But stroke or lick just under her areola and, zing, the nipples instantly harden. Be sure to use your fingers, tongue, lips, hand, and even the head of your hardened penis to explore and stimulate her breasts.

Some women enjoy having their nipples pinched, bitten or flicked. However, this depends on your lady’s personality, mood, where she is in her menstrual cycle, as well as how many glasses of wine she’s had! There might be times when just the pads of your fingertips feel to rough. Other times, she might beg you to bite her nipples harder and harder. There’s really no way to tell what she’s going to be up for from one day to the next, so be sure to ask her what feels good.

Oral Sex Techniques That Will Make Your Girl’s Legs Shake!

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Oral sex is a great way to give your partner an orgasm before sex. Here are easy to use tricks that will stroke and lick your lover into orgasm frenzy!

Side-To-Side

The obvious choice for licking the clitoris is vertical (top to bottom, or bottom to top), but side-to-side also has its advantages too. When you lick side-to-side, you’re moving your tongue in a way that you normally wouldn’t, and thus, it’ll take you a bit longer and it may even offer a bit more resistance than just vertically licking her. Because of this, side-to-side licks are best for when you want to arouse your partner quickly with a bit more pressure, as this will feel very different to her. Make sure there is adequate lubrication as well with side-to-side, as they can abrade a bit more because your tongue will hit angles on her Clitoral Hood that it normally wouldn’t find otherwise.

Diagonal

Licking a woman’s clitoris on the diagonal is more than just moving your tongue from one side to another on a slant; if you try, you’ll likely be able to do a few, but anything more than that will probably give you a kink in your tongue. Instead use leverage to get a good diagonal lick going, by cocking your head to one side and using her inner thigh as a place to rest your head. Then start at the bottom corner, and give her one full lick up and across the clitoris until it reaches the opposite, far corner.

Even with propping your head up during oral sex, you’ll find that this isn’t an easy position to keep for any length of time. Plus, it’s a bit challenging on the mouth as well, because you’re using the side of your tongue more than the flat top or tip as you would with the other tongue strokes. Use the diagonal lick judiciously, especially when you want to throw an element of unpredictability in cunnilingus, as well as a totally unique feeling for both of you.

The Precision Lick

This is a very pointed lick, where you’re licking a certain area repeatedly until a certain goal is achieved. Maybe it’s to inflame her sexually, or you want to create a bit of repetition so that her clitoris gets used to your tongue strokes. No matter what the reason, use this tongue stroke when you want to pay special attention to a certain area, and make the licks short and quick like you are devouring the best ice cream cone of your life. When you find a part of her anatomy that is particularly delectable, spend even more time in this area with these precise licks, adding pressure and speeding things up accordingly.

Shadow

In this tongue stroke, your finger follows your tongue wherever it goes, like a shadow. So if your tongue gives a long, wet, firm lick, then your finger should do the same thing. Quick, short and light? Keep the finger following with the same tempo and pressure. The difference between the soft wetness of your tongue and the firm give of your finger can really drive her wild, trying to predict what’s next, what will touch her, and how.

Using A Flat, Firm Tongue

A flat, still tongue is one of the most used tongue strokes in this series, yet most people upon reading it, scoff and think, “There’s no way not doing anything can actually do something.” And yet, if you’ve learned anything by now through this process, you’ve learned that sometimes taking a break is the best thing you can do.

When I say a flat tongue, I mean just that. Flat, firm, and as still as possible. It’s a pressing motion, like flattening a pancake. Stay still with flat tongued strokes, and let her build some resistance. Have her move below you, trying to get some more friction buildup. See what parts of her body undulate and contort to get more from you while you’re flat-tongued, and learn what she likes in turn. This is also an excellent tool to use when she’s feeling disconnected; just look up at her and make eye contact while still connected to her clitoris with your flat tongue, and give her a playful wink.

Spring Into Action

After you’ve teased her a bit with your flat, still tongue, do the exact opposite: spring into action like you’re a man gone wild, with light but pointed flicks around her clitoris that are completely unpredictable and as fast as you can possibly muster them. Then go back to the flat, still tongue routine and have her begging for more.

Hoover

So named after the vacuum – this tongue lick is meant to apply a gentle sucking pressure to her clitoris so that blood fills the clitoris and brings her closer to climax.

This technique is similar to a relatively expensive device on the market called the Eros, which uses suction to engorge the clitoris with blood while increasing lubrication and pleasurable sensations leading to orgasm. Small clinical trials found that none of its test subjects had less sensation, orgasms or lubrication after using the device, and all saw measurable increases in all three measures. Plus, the study found that 100% of the women in the study diagnosed with female sexual dysfunction felt more clitoral sensation after using the Eros.

Therefore, use a gentle Hoover-like technique when you want to increase blood flow, sensation and lubrication in your partner.

The ABC’s

You can also use an alphabet tongue stroke series to arouse your partner and enhance unpredictability, but at certain stages of female sexual response, you will want to offer some predictable rhythms with unpredictable accents or angles. That’s where the numbers tongue strokes come in; instead of using the whole alphabet, use just one letter over and over again, emphasizing one select part of the flow. Maybe “?” marks the spot for you, where you use several diagonal licks to get the point across, or “?” works even better by avoiding the clitoris completely and teasing around it instead.