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Sex Tips: The TRUTH About How Women Look At Men Sexually

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Sex tips will get you only so far – understanding the way girls see guys sexually will give you the foundation for a great sex life.

Gorgeous Girls With Ugly Guys?

I’m sure you’ve seen it a million times: the most beautiful woman you’ve seen in years on the arm of the ugliest/nerdiest/oldest man you’ve ever seen. I’m sure your first thought was, “Wow, that guy must be filthy freakin’ rich!” Well, maybe. Maybe not. Either way, that’s probably not the whole story.

The Difference Between Guys And Girls

Men and women become sexually aroused for different reasons. Men are visual, and women are multisensory. While men can get turned on by even a hint of naked flesh, women incorporate all their senses and feelings into arousal. So even if the man isn’t the most visually appealing, he could be brilliant with a wicked sense of humor and smells nice and tastes like chocolate mousse, and, yes, maybe he pays for dinner. One thing you can guarantee, he has admitted to goals outside getting that woman into bed.

When It Comes To Having Sex

Women look at the whole package, or at least aspects of the package you don’t. When men see a beautiful woman, they are physically capable of having sex with her in a matter of seconds, and probably able to finish not long after that. (This is part of the reason Playboy has remained one of the most successful publications in American history, and why Playgirl tanked when gay men got their own porn.) Women, however, need to have other senses satisfied. A good conversation is as erotic to a woman as her low-cut blouse is to you.

Sex And Emotion

This brings us to the next point: to a woman, sex and emotion are not mutually exclusive. A woman has to feel an emotional connection to her partner in order to enjoy the sex. This does not mean that a woman cannot have casual sex. It simply means that there must be an understanding of mutual respect between partners for a woman to be satisfied.

All that requires is for the man to be aware of the fact that there is a living, breathing, responsive human under him. Stated as such, that may be obvious, but it is quite overlooked. While you’re hoping you don’t have premature ejaculation, she is feeling every moment of the process and evaluating it. If you’re ignoring her while you’re inside her, she can sense it, and may see it as a form of rejection. This will not make her want to have sex with you again.

If You Can Make Her Orgasm

So there you go, if the ugly/nerdy/old guy can get a supermodel (and make her orgasm), then by all means you should be able to get the cute girl two cubes down from you. Just appeal to all her senses. And throw on some Barry White. That never hurt anyone.

Blowjob Tips For Guys – Do You Put Your Hands On Her Head Or Not?

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Blowjob tips aren’t always for the ladies. Men – should you be putting your hands on your partner’s head while she’s going down on you or not?

Holding Her The Right Way

Believe it or not, this can be a big issue for both women and men when it comes to fellatio. It is important to discuss this aspect of fellatio with your partner before embarking on a fellatio session both partners will know what to expect. Remember guys, every woman is different and it is important to know what your partner prefers during fellatio – having hands on her neck while she is going down on you might make her uncomfortable and may even gag or choke her.

Make sure you know what she prefers and also keep in mind that her mood may change and one night she may be feeling particularly turned on and like the sensation of her face and mouth being guided or pushed down on your penis and another night she may be completely turned off or even repulsed by the idea.

Communicate Beforehand!

This is why it is so important to talk to your partner about this before each oral sex session! If talking about this particular aspect of fellatio before the session seems like a killjoy or ruins the spontaneity of fellatio, you and your partner may want to decide on some kind of hand signal or the like for your partner to let you know whether it is okay for your hands to be on her like that or if she dislikes the feeling at that particular moment.

A Secret “Signal”

One of the best blowjob tips to help you handle the “hands on the head” situation because a woman’s mood may change at any given moment during fellatio and if she is okay with your hands being on her neck at first but wants you to remove them later; she can do so without breaking her rhythm.

This is also great if a man begins to push her down on his penis a little too roughly – which can happen in the heat of the moment. A hand signal gives a woman the option to let her partner know if he is restricting her breathing, going too hard or gagging her. Many women will just take their partner’s hands off of them and some will even put them on if they are feeling that this would turn them on.

Similarly, a man may come up with his own hand signal or the like to let his partner know if he would like to do this. Something such as stroking her hair or neck may let her know that he is feeling like putting his hands on her head would turn him on at that particular moment. Just discuss what the “hand signal” will be before the fellatio session so that she will know what that particular movement means.

One of the most important blowjob tips is to never do anything you haven’t asked about beforehand. So this is almost like an unspoken question and your partner will appreciate you “asking” her if it is okay to do it. If the idea of a hand signal to let her know you’d like to put your hands on her head doesn’t do it for you, you can always just ask! No matter what you do, just go with the flow and make sure to communicate with your partner!

Why Some Women Don’t Want You To Control Their Movements

Well, as we said earlier, a man that puts his hands on a woman’s head and either unknowingly or knowingly pushes her down on his penis too hard or too roughly can easily cause a woman discomfort (both physically and emotionally) and even though you may like deep throating, this may gag or choke her or restrict her breathing.  Although this is one of the blowjob tips to avoid, it generally is not dangerous if this happens – a woman will usually just discontinue performing fellatio if she begins to gag, choke or feel uncomfortable but it is important that you preempt any discomfort she may or may not have by being careful when putting your hands on her head.

Disrupting The Rhythm

Many women do not like having a man’s hands on them like this during fellatio because it disrupts their “rhythm” or their “flow.”  They’ve read plenty of blowjob tips and can definitely get the job done and done well. A woman that is skilled in fellatio will most certainly develop her own way of doing things (somewhat like a routine) and will not appreciate you disrupting that! If this is the case, just sit back and enjoy the ride to orgasm – if she’s good enough not to need your hands on her head to guide her to please you, then you certainly are in for a treat! On the other hand, some women enjoy having a partner’s hands on her head – it may make her feel like his “guiding” her makes her efforts in pleasing him during fellatio more accurate. Either way, it is really up to the woman as to what she prefers while she is performing fellatio.

(For The Ladies) Why He Likes It

A man will often want to put his hands in a woman’s hair so that he can enjoy the feel of it’s softness and then pull it back a little so that he has the added visual stimulation of the best view of her lips wrapped around his penis, not just a mass of hair blocking his sight. Tussled hair is very sexy and being willing to let him get his hands wrapped up in it shows that little “naughty” side in the bedroom and your willingness to get wild with him when the two of you are alone.

Ladies, a clear way for you to let him know you want his hands on your head is for you to take his hands and put them there. He’ll appreciate the eagerness you are showing in letting him know it’s okay for him to engage his hands on your head and in your hair and be an even bigger part of the blowjob.

Sex In The Shower – Dual Locking Suction Handle Review

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The Sex In The Shower Dual Locking Suction Handle makes sex in the shower easier and safer with a large handle with two lock-down suction areas to achieve perfect positions in your showers or bath.

The Good

  • Reasonably priced.
  • Each handle has two lock down suction areas, so they’re pretty sturdy.
  • Because they hold so well, my partner and I have found shower sex positions, that I never thought possible.

The Bad

  • Once locked in, they’re hard to move.
  • Only one per package, so you really should buy two (or more).
  • They’re pretty obvious, so I have to take them down and set them up again before each use, which eliminates the option of spontaneous shower sex (with handles).

The Bottom Line

The Sex In The Shower Dual Locking Suction Handle is THE product to get if you want sturdier shower sex. There are lots of similar products out there (even many of the same brand) but this product has been tried and tested, and the bottom line is that it WORKS! Get yours today and make the next shower you and your lover take together extraordinary! Better yet, get two – they work much better in tandem because they hold more weight and allow you to really get into some great sex positions! Your partner will have no trouble finding your sweet spot and giving you incredible orgasms in the shower if you’ve got the Dual Locking Suction Handle to help hold you up.

The Full Sex In The Shower Dual Locking Suction Handle Review

Sex in the shower is fun, but it can also turn into a slippery disaster! Use the Dual Locking Suction Handle to keep a grip and keep going!

Sex In The Shower Is So Much Fun!

I love having sex in the shower. There is something that is so extremely sexy about wet skin, steam, and lathered bodies. However, until recently, I’ve felt that my experiences with sex in the shower have been a bit hindered by the lack of positions my partner and I can achieve. I can’t tell you how many times the thought, “if I could only get the right leverage,” has crossed my mind.

How The Dual Locking Suction Handle Will Help You Get A Grip

The Dual Locking Suction Handle has changed getting it on in the shower for me forever. I have to admit, I first tried the Single Locking Foot Rest by the same company with results that were mediocre at best, but I didn’t want to give up on the idea of amazing new positions in the shower, so I decided to try the Sex In The Shower Dual Locking Suction Handle.

This handle is white and grey, 3 x 2 x 4.5 inches, it weighs less than 1 pound, and it offers two lock down suction areas per handle. I bought two handles, and all I can say is WOW!!! They really hold my weight. Granted, I’m not a big girl, but they hold my partner too, and he’s about 180 lbs. We have had an amazing time with this product. It took a little time, but now that we’ve gotten more comfortable with using the handles, and more trusting in their support, we have come up with some fantastic sex positions.

Get Yours Today!

If you love having sex in the shower but are worried about slipping, falling or just not being able to do it right, this product is right up your alley. It will give you the leverage you need and support you can trust so you can get in your favorite sex positions – and turn a morning shower into something so much more!

Fix Your Sexless Marriage Review

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Fix Your Sexless Marriage is a relationship advice based manual that will help revive your sex life and bring your relationship back up to speed. If your sex life is suffering because your relationship just isn’t what it was or where it should be, this guide will help you learn what the problem is and how to resolve it.

Unlike other sex tips guides out there, Fix Your Sexless Marriage does not focus on specific sexual techniques that will make your lover want to have sex with you more often. Instead, it is a set of books (one for him and one for her) that will allow you and your partner to discover what REALLY went wrong – anything other than finding the root cause for a boring sex life and eliminating it is just a band-aid fix on a bigger problem.

The Good

When it comes to figuring out WHY you’re in a sexless marriage (and what to do about it), Fix Your Sexless Marriage definitely delivers. This guide is perfect for couples who want to work together to nurture their relationship and get themselves back to the way it was when they first got together – hot sex and all. The author goes into a lot of detail in both guides, exploring almost all of the possibilities that sex might dwindle in a marriage or a long term relationship. Not surprisingly, the reasons for why the sex dies differ greatly.

The Bad

Fix Your Sexless Marriage is not a book on sex tips – in fact, there aren’t really any physical sex tips in it. For couples looking for a guide that contains specific tips to tease and pleasure your partner so you can have sex more often, this is definitely not the book you want to get. However, if you’re looking to find the root cause of why you’re not getting any sex in your marriage, Fix Your Sexless Marriage is actually exactly what you need!

Pretty much the only major issue here is that the books are difficult to get through due to the fact that they are not as visually engaging or as well organized as some of the other products out there. Some people may find that this guide is easier to read in small bits.

The Bottom Line

Overall, Fix Your Sexless Marriage is an excellent product if you want to get your marriage – and your sex life – back to the way it once was. Are these books that contain tons of sexual tips that will leave your partner writhing with pleasure? Nope – you’ll need another guide for that. However, if you’re looking to discover why your relationship isn’t satisfying you or your partner (both sexually and emotionally), Fix Your Sexless Marriage is what you need. If you’re checking these out by yourself and plan to buy only your copy (whether you’re the guy or the girl), go ahead and bite the bullet and get both guides. It’s more expensive, but these guides really work in tandem with each other.

Both you and your partner have to be on board with finding the root cause of your relationship and sexual problems, and you both have to work together to resolve the issues. Email your partner a copy and let them know you’re ready to have an awesome sex life – and marriage – again!

The Full Fix Your Sexless Marriage Review

“A sexless marriage isn’t a problem in and of itself – it’s a symptom of something much deeper.”

This is the theme that Fix Your Sexless Marriage explores – that simply trying to have “better sex” is just a band-aid fix for problems that run much deeper within your relationship. This book set explores the ideas that relationship problems and daily stresses contribute to less sex in a marriage or a long term relationship and it teaches you how to overcome these problems so you can once again have a hot, satisfying sex life with the love of your life.

Don’t assume that this set is just for guys and gals that have signed the papers either – anyone who is experiencing a lack of sex within a long term relationship will benefit greatly from reading (really reading) Fix Your Sexless Marriage.

What The Guys Will Learn:

  • How lack of sex affects your marriage
  • What the lack of sex in your marriage stems from
  • How pregnancy and children factor into a sexless marriage
  • How to make your wife feel desired
  • How to become more attractive to your lover even though your appearance is changing over time
  • Specific ways to rekindle the passion in your relationship
  • How to avoid the urge to have an affair

What The Girls Will Learn:

  • How every day stresses affect your man’s libido
  • How to get reacquainted with your lover and get to know him all over again
  • Why letting your appearance slip will destroy your sex life
  • How to get CREATIVE instead of MAD!
  • How to avoid playing the “victim” in a sexless marriage
  • Why getting back to relationship basics is key
  • How learning to love yourself first will help everything else to fall into place
  • How to get your lover involved without him ever knowing it

Really Reading

Fix Your Sexless Marriage isn’t a skim through guide. It’s not something you can pick up one day and suddenly have a perfect marriage and an even better sex life. Not hardly – you’re really going to have to read. That’s not to say that Fix Your Sexless Marriage can’t help – because it WILL. You just have to dive in feet first – you AND your partner.

Each version of the guide – the one for guys and the one for gals – is available for purchase separately, but it’s really much more beneficial to purchase them both in tandem. This can get a little pricey, but it is well worth it if your relationship is suffering and you not only want to have better sex with your lover, but you also want to get back the closeness and emotional intimacy that you used to have. A great marriage where both partners see eye to eye, support each other and have great sex together is priceless.

The Best Erogenous Zones Below The Belt

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Erogenous zones underneath the navel don’t just include the clitoris – there’s a lot more! Check out these erogenous zones you probably didn’t know about.

You probably think this is going to be a guide to the clitoris. Well, you’re wrong. There are other erogenous zones below the belt you can touch her besides between her legs. I will break it down into regions for you so it’ll be easier to comprehend.

The Booty

I’m sure that you go for the booty-grab at every moment you can sneak on in. She leans in for a kiss – grab the booty. She gives you a hug – grab the booty. She’s doing dishes – grab the booty. When you’re in bed, there’s also the booty smack. Before you incorporate this move, be sure she’ll be down for it. I don’t mean you should stop while you’re railing her from behind and say, “Excuse me, miss, would you mind so much if I smacked that booty?” You should be comfortable enough with her to know in advance how she’s going to react.

Then there’s the more sensual approach to touching her booty, and that is the tickle. You can use your fingers, a feather, or anything else lying around. Start with her back. Caress her so lightly that you hardly make contact with her skin. Move down toward her lower back. Hang out there for a while as her body relaxes. Trace the sides of her hips, and finally, right where the thigh and the buttocks meet. Move away, and come back every once and a while. It will send shivers through her whole body. Especially to the spot you want to stimulate.

The Knees

The knees are an often overlooked area when it comes to erogenous zones. You can give fluttery little kisses around the kneecaps, or tiny bites on the sides of the knee. The real pleasure center here, though, is the back of the knees. Now, most women are quite ticklish on the backs of their knees, but if she’s relaxed, it can give exciting sensations similar to when you tickle under her buttocks. Make sure you use only the lightest of touch, but caressing her behind her knees will give her a thrill even she’s not expecting!

The Feet

Never underestimate the power of the foot massage. It’s become a bit of a cliché, but its effectiveness has stood the test of time. Women typically wear all kinds of crazy shoes. If you give even five minutes of a good foot rub, it will ease the tension of the day. Use slow movements to make it a more erotic massage, and add some lotion to your palms to help glide along the foot. She will be so grateful, she’ll want to come up with some way special to thank you!