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10 Things You Didn’t Know About Vaginas

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Sex is something lots of guys they think they know everything about. They assume they know everything there is to know not only about how to please a woman, but also about her anatomy and how it plays a role in sex.  You may think you know a lot about the body of a woman, but you probably didn’t know these ten things about a woman’s vagina!

An Orgasm Is An Excellent Pain Reliever

Next time your girl gives you the excuse that she doesn’t want to have sex with you because she has a headache, you can tell her she’s full of it. An orgasm is an excellent pain reliever, and can work as well as over the counter medicines or even some pharmaceutical grade pain relievers. You just have to actually make sure you give her a great orgasm!

The Vagina Cleans Itself

A woman’s genitals are designed to clean itself – meaning, douching is completely unnecessary and can actually do more harm than good. After menstruation, it cleans itself out and continues to do so throughout a woman’s monthly cycle. It also will clean itself out after sex! This helps prevent yeast or bacterial infections. However, if more bacteria or yeast are introduced than the body can handle, an overgrowth can occur. This usually can be easily treated with over the counter creams or doctor prescribed antibiotics.

It’s Not All About The G-Spot

The g-spot gets all the credit for giving women amazing orgasms, but there is another spot – called the A-Spot – that can be just as effective at giving a woman an earth shattering climax. The A-Spot is located deeper within the canal than the g-spot (right in front of the cervix) and it can be stimulated using the same “come hither” motion with your fingers that you would use if you were stimulating the g-spot. Just remember that since you’re going very deep inside a woman, you need plenty of good lubrication and you need her to be aroused first so it’s not painful or uncomfortable.

You Are What You Eat

A healthy vagina has an odor, but it is usually not very pungent. A yeast or bacterial infection can make it smell more pungent, but a funky smelling peach doesn’t always mean an infection. Many of the things a woman eats will affect the way her genitals taste and smell. For example, eating lots of pineapple and sweet fruits will make it taste and smell sweeter (which can be great for oral sex), but vegetables such as cabbage or asparagus can give it a more off putting scent.

The Vagina Can Actually Fall Out!

Vaginal prolapse is when the uterus, ovaries, fallopian tubes or vagina (or a combination of all of these) moves downward from its natural place in the body. This condition is common following surgeries such as hysterectomies, but can also happen without any prior event. In severe cases, this medical condition will cause the inner tissues to protrude through the vaginal opening.

Female Ejaculation Does Exist

Women – in addition to men – can ejaculate varying amounts of fluid during orgasm. Many women are able to produce very large amounds of fluid! Some skeptics report that the “ejaculate” that comes from a woman isn’t actually ejaculate at all, but urine. However, science has found that the components of female ejaculate are separate from the components of urine are very different and while the fluid does come from the paraurethral ducts, it does not come from the bladder.

The Vagina Can Double In Length When A Woman Is Aroused

How long a vagina is varies from woman to woman. Some women have very small, short canals while others have very long ones. The average size in an unaroused woman is 3-4 inches long, but during arousal, this number can increase and may even double! So guys, make sure your lady is aroused before penetration, because you’ll go a lot deeper and she’ll be a lot more comfortable during sex.

Having Sex Can Keep The Vagina Young And Healthy

Like the rest of your muscles, the vagina needs to be used and exercised or it will become weak and brittle. During prolonged periods of abstinence, especially when a woman goes through menopause or reaches old age, the delicate tissues inside will thin and can begin to break down. Regular sex, however, will help keep a woman’s genitals in peak form.

Vaginal Secretions Contain A Component Found In Shark Livers

Upon microscopic examination of the ingredients found in female vaginal secretions, scientists have noted that these secretions contain a component actually found in shark livers. This is called squalene, and can also be found in vegetable oils. It can be used in cosmetics, because it is an excellent moisturizer that doesn’t leave the skin feeling greasy! Squalene is most likely what makes natural secretions good for the health of the genitals, because it keeps the tissue moist and supple.

The Vaginal Muscles Are Extremely Powerful

All women have the ability to use their vaginal muscles – also called the PC muscles – during sex. These are also the same muscles a girl uses to stop the flow of urine, and they can be strengthened through exercises like Kegels. You might not think that these muscles would be very powerful, but they are! The world record holder for the strongest vagina is a Russian woman who was able to lift 31 pounds with her vaginal muscles only!

3 Tips for Keeping Rough Sex Unpredictable

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Rough sex can be lots of fun for both you and your partner, but even though you’re not necessarily having what is known as “vanilla sex” (you know, the plain, boring kind), it can get monotonous if you’re not careful to mix things up every now and then.

Some couples get bored of rough sex after awhile, but are afraid to take it any further because they aren’t comfortable with spanking harder or going too far outside their box. However, you can keep things interesting and exciting without pushing yourself or your partner too far past your comfort zone. Here are three ways to keep rough sex new and fun.

How Rough Sex Can Become Monotonous

Whether you’re talking about oral sex, rough sex or good old fashioned intercourse, if you and your lover do the same things over and over again, it’s going to get boring. You may think that just because you’re having “rough sex” that you’re keeping things fresh, but that isn’t always the case. It’s easy to get bored with biting, spanking and even a little bondage if that’s all you do.

The Key To Mixing It Up

The key to keep rough sex unpredictable is to mix it up with different styles of sex, specifically sweet, romantic, slow sex. Your partner won’t be expecting your next move if you switch from being soft and loving to giving her a quick smack and showing a little bit of domination and control. Going back and forth between the two different styles of sex will keep your partner guessing all night at what you’re going to do next!

Why You Need To Keep Her Guessing Your Next Move

Trying something new to spice up your sex life is one thing, but it still gives your partner an idea of what is to come when when she slides between the sheets at the end of the day. If you really want to make sex between you and your lover exciting and fresh, you want to make what you’re doing completely unpredictable. If you always slide your hands to her breasts after giving her a slow, deep kiss, she’ll learn to expect that you’re going to do that every time and she’ll know exactly what you’re going to do and when.

Instead, try giving her a firm pinch or slap on her rear after the deeply romantic kiss – and then switch right back to moves that are slow and sensual. If you keep alternating between rough sex and sweet and loving sex, she’ll never know what to expect and it will be like having sex for the first time all over again!

3 Ways To Make Rough Sex New & Exciting

1. Kiss the back of her neck softly and then suddenly give her a sharp spank.

The back of a woman’s neck is actually one of her more potent erogenous zones. Kissing her softly on the back of the neck is sure to give her goosebumps all over, but what she won’t be prepared for is the firm spank on her rear. Surprise her with a firm smack or two and gauge her reaction. You’ll see the surprise there, but you’ll definitely notice how much more turned on she is because you did something she didn’t see coming. She’ll be just as surprised when you switch to kissing her softly again!

2. Have rough, dominant doggy style sex, then suddenly switch to the missionary position and start slowly and gently making love to her.

If you and your lover are going at it doggy style, she’ll think that you’re going to finish that way and that will be that. Instead, flip her over and start to pleasure her with soft, slow sex. When she’s had an orgasm or two, switch back to rough sex and show her your dominant side!

3. Use a two-sided “flogger” (a sex toy with a hard surface on one side and a soft, tickly surface on the other) and gently tickle her body with the soft side and switch to spanking her firmly with the hard side.

When you alternate between two different touches – one hard and firm, and the other soft – you are sending two different sensations and emotions through your lover’s body. She’ll be incredibly turned on by feeling cherished while you tickle and stroke her, to feeling submissive while you dominate her with a firm touch. Alternating back and forth during foreplay (in a completely random way) will keep her guessing and what she’s going to feel next!

The REAL Way To Measure Your Penis

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Penis size is something almost every guy worries about. They think that the longer (or shorter) it is equates to how much pleasure they can give a girl. Wrong! There’s actually a lot more to penis size than just how long or short it is – in fact, that has absolutely nothing to do with it – except for if you have a very long penis, you may end up causing more pain than pleasure. Here is the REAL way to measure your penis!

Width vs. Length

In reality, it’s not the length of a man’s penis that makes a difference to a girl – it’s the width. A very long penis isn’t going to be effective if it’s very thin, even if it’s a foot long. However, a short 4-5″ penis can give women waves of orgasms if it’s as thick as a soda can.

Why A Thick Penis Is So Much More Effective

  • Puts pressure on the nerve-packed vaginal opening
  • Gives a woman the sensation of fullness
  • Tugs on the labia and the clitoris giving pleasurable sensations
  • Puts pressure on all sides of the vagina
  • Stimulates the perineum

How To Use A Thick Penis To Your Advantage

If you have a thick penis size, you’re already a leg up on the competition so to speak. If you have a thick penis that is a little longer, good for you! However, if your penis is shorter, you can still use your thickness to your advantage.

  • Make sure you use plenty of lube. Without proper lubrication, a thick penis can be uncomfortable or painful!
  • Get her aroused first. This will make her vagina more elastic and will help her accommodate your thickness pleasurably.
  • Choose a larger condom so there is less constriction and more pleasure for you.
  • Go slow. Allow her time to get used to how big you are around.
  • Start by fingering her first. Start with one lubed finger and work your way up to two or three as you lick or rub her clitoris. This will help her become more aroused and help stretch her vagina to get it ready for you. Remember that women are designed to pass babies through there, so she can definitely accommodate you! She just needs a little (or a lot) of foreplay first!
  • Take your time with intercourse and allow her to fully feel every inch of you that she’s stretched around. The feeling of fullness combined with all the other benefits of a thick penis will bring her to a powerful, sheet soaking orgasm.

How To Help A Thin Penis

If you have a thinner penis, you’ve either already had trouble giving girls vaginal orgasms or you expect that you will in the future. It’s not the end of the world though – there are lots of ways to work with what you’ve got.

  • Consider using sex toys to your advantage. Many companies make a silicone or latex sleeve that fits over the penis and is designed to be used during penetration and intercourse. A sleeve will make you feel thicker to her, and the ribs and nubs can help give her higher concentrations of pleasure. The downside? Less sensation for you – which can actually be a plus if you have problems with premature ejaculations.
  • Thrust in circles. Move your hips in a somewhat circular motion so your penis comes into contact with all surfaces of her vaginal canal. This also helps give more friction to her clitoris.

Other Ways Of Giving Pleasure

If you struggle with giving your partner a vaginal or g-spot orgasm with your penis, don’t worry. There are so many different ways to give your partner sexual pleasure (and give yourself pleasure) that you can definitely continue to stay intimate and sexually connected with your partner without a vaginal orgasm.

  • Give her oral sex before penetration. This will either give her an orgasm before you get started, or make it more likely for her to have an orgasm while you are inside her. Or both!
  • Bring a vibrator to bed. A We-Vibe II is an excellent choice since it is made to slip inside the vagina and rest on the clitoris. Not only will the We-Vibe II make you feel bigger inside her, she’ll also get some much needed clitoral vibrations.
  • Finger her while you lick her clitoris. Even though your finger is slender, it can be angled in a “come hither” motion and put direct pressure on her g-spot. A g-spot and clitoral orgasm at the same time (called a blended orgasm) will rock her world so much it wouldn’t matter if you had a 2″ penis.

10 Blowjob Mistakes You DON’T Want To Make!

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A blowjob can be incredible pleasure for a man – sometimes, it can be even better than traditional intercourse. But you don’t want it to turn into an epic fail and even if you think you know it all when it comes to oral sex, you could still probably use to learn a few things. Just follow these simple blow job “do nots” and he’ll be wild with passion instead of cringing in discomfort!

1. Using Your Teeth

Using your teeth is probably the worst blowjob faux pas you could make. This always hurts and never, ever feels good. Even under the “right” circumstances. There’s no way to make your teeth an acceptable oral sex tool, so tuck those pearly whites under your lips for a smooth ride down his shaft.

2. Not Acting Excited Enough

Have you ever gotten oral sex from a guy who was less than thrilled to be down there? Was he silent, or even worse, begrudging? Did he act like it was a chore, or even act like impassive? It probably wasn’t very good then. Guess what? The same applies to oral sex for him. He wants you to be excited about giving him head. He wants you to love fellatio as much – or nearly as much – as he does. Bonus points for you if you love it MORE than he does! So don a smile, tell him how much you love sucking him off and act as though you’d rather not be anywhere else.

3. Sucking Too Hard At First

Sucking is awesome, but if you do it too hard at first – before he’s fully warmed up – can have the same effect as him rubbing your clitoris with a dry finger when you’re not turned on. It hurts! Suck gently until you’re sure he’s absolutely aroused and begging for more. Gradually build your way up to sucking harder, gauging his reactions the whole way. Use his body language as your cues to keep doing what you’re doing, suck harder or go softer.

4. Gagging (Or Worse, Vomiting)

If you can’t deep throat, that’s okay. But if you can’t, don’t try – at least, don’t try on him. Gagging really isn’t attractive, and vomiting on him is even worse. If you want to learn how to deep throat, practice on a peeled banana to learn how to control your gag reflex. Don’t try it on your man unless you’re absolutely sure you won’t gag – and if you’re not entirely sure of that, be certain you won’t at least vomit.

5. Doing It Too Soft

You know not to suck too hard when giving a blowjob, but did you also know that having too soft a mouth is equally as frustrating for a man? You don’t want to give head like a pansy, do you? Feel free to start out with soft licking and sucking at first to get him erect and turned on, but that phase shouldn’t last much longer past the initial erection phase. Get busy, girl!

6. Not Discussing Semen First

He probably wants you to swallow. He may want to ejaculate all over your breasts. You may not desire either of those things, but if you don’t discuss it first, you may end up with semen in your mouth and he may get offended at your spitting it out immediately and dousing your mouth with any liquid you can find within reach. So discuss where the semen is going to go before you start giving head. Surely you and your partner can find a compromise.

7. Not Keeping It Wet Enough

You’d think it’s impossible to have a dry blowjob, but it is. Of course things are always going to be damp (that is the nature of oral sex, after all) but it feels much better if it’s really, really wet. So don’t suck all your saliva back in. If you don’t have enough saliva, use flavored lube. Either way, make sure there’s plenty of moisture to keep things going smoothly (wet n’ nasty is preferred, however).

8. Not Using Your Hand

During masturbation, he usually will stroke his shaft and may play with his balls. So leaving these parts unattended can leave your guy feeling pretty neglected. If you can’t bring your mouth all the way down to the base of his shaft, try using your hand instead. Using your hand on the shaft of his penis and his scrotum while sucking on the head can multiply how much pleasure you give him by quite a bit.

9. Keeping Just The Head In Your Mouth

Although you definitely don’t want to shove his penis so far down your throat that you gag or vomit, you also don’t want to stay focus solely on the head. You want to at least go partway down his shaft with your mouth, if you can’t get it down all the way. If you can’t, again, use your hand to stimulate the base of his penis while your mouth works on the head and upper part of the shaft.

10. Playing With His Anus If He’s Not Okay With It

Some guys like anal stimulation during a blowjob while others really, really don’t. And there are usually no grey areas here, so if you aren’t sure where he stands on anal play, definitely skip it. The last thing you want to do is shove a lubed finger up his ass without his prior consent and ruining the blowjob – and possibly your relationship. If you want to experiment with his anus while giving him head, make sure you talk about it first and get the green light from him.

What To Do When HE Is Lazy In Bed!

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Sex tips can often help you get out of a rut, especially when you’re putting more effort in than your lover. Many times in a relationship, the sex gets boring because one or both partners get comfortable and start doing the same thing over and over. If you want a super hot sex life, you have to bring variety to the table! Use these sex tips to get him trying new things!

Normal Sexual Progression In A Relationship

Often, sex can get pretty lame when you’re in a relationship – especially if your relationship is long term and you and your partner are monogamous. Many times what will happen in situations like these is that one or both partners start getting comfortable with the relationship and the sex, and don’t bother to use their imagination to come up with new things. It often happens to guys because once they figure out the “secret formula” to getting their girl to reach orgasm, they stick with it! They don’t want to go trying different strokes, techniques or sex positions because they found what works. If it’s not broken, why fix it, right?

This is not at all uncommon, however, that doesn’t make it any less frustrating. Girls don’t always want “A + B + C = Orgasm” sex. They want passion and variety! They want to experiment. A girl can spice things up in the bedroom but she’s got to have a game plan first.

Stop Bitching

One of the biggest reasons guys get less interested in making sex adventurous over time is because their partners get more and more comfortable griping about this and that. Women often do this because as the “warm fuzzies” begin to wear off as the relationship gets older, annoying habits start becoming more and more apparent. Most of the time, they’re not make-or-break-the-relationship types of things – but as a girl gets more comfortable with her guy, she will often want to “fix” him. She’ll think that by telling him what she doesn’t like that he’ll stop and start doing things her way.

You may think your nagging is letting him know that you don’t like a certain behavior, but all it’s really doing is killing his sex drive. He doesn’t see it as you gently guiding him in the right direction – he sees it as nagging, bitching, griping, etc. He’ll still leave his dirty underwear on the floor but he won’t bother taking yours off and throwing them down next to his.

Make An Effort To Be Sexy

While he probably thinks you’re cute in your flannel pajamas, if that’s all you’re wearing, he’s going to start seeing you as non-sexual and just wonderfully cuddly. While this can be an advantage on those cold days when you just don’t feel like doing anything but snuggling up in your man’s arms, if this is all you’re getting, you’re going to wonder what happened to make your guy not want to have sex with you as much anymore, or just not care about trying new things.

The truth is, he wants BOTH sides of you. Sweet, cuddly and wearing flannels without makeup. But other times, he wants to be reminded that he’s with an incredible sex vixen who will ride him all night long! So make a point to wear lingerie to bed sometimes. And heels. When you look sexy, you feel sexy. When you feel sexy, you look sexy. Don’t forget that confidence is truly the sexiest thing you can wear. Rock it like a bombshell and he’ll be on fire!

Don’t Underestimate Sex Games

A fantasy box is an incredibly fun, non-threatening way to introduce your lover to new things and ideas when it comes giving him sex tips and letting him know what you want in bed. This can be as simple or as elaborate as you and your partner want it to be. You can indulge your crafty side and make a fun fantasy box, or use something you have around the house. The more you put into this fun sex game, the more you get out of it. That is, unless you have some damn good imagination. If you do though, it won’t matter one bit if all you have is bar napkins and a Styrofoam cup.

With the “fantasy box” sex game, you and your partner each get to write a secret fantasy that you’d like to try out. Write a few down, three from each of you is a fun number to start with. What you actually write down can range from tame to super kinky, but agree on how hot you’re going to get before you start – you can always start small and up the ante later. It will be pretty awkward if you write down “Spank my ass hard and call me your whore while having sex doggy style” and his says “french kiss for 10 minutes.”  Consider thinking of different “levels” of how hot you want it to be, and decide on a “level” before you start writing down your ideas.

Throw your slips of paper in the box, mix them up and take turns fishing them out. You will, of course, have much more fun trying them out! This is often all that is needed to rev up a “vanilla” guy – simply because they don’t see the fantasy box as a threat to their ego/manhood/pride like they would if you outright told him what he was doing wrong and gave him sex tips.

Reward Him

Men are awesome like puppies – loving, playful and in need of praise when they do something right. When your man does something especially hot that you’re totally into, make some noise! Do NOT let the opportunity slip away – if he doesn’t hear anything, he’s going to assume he’s done something you don’t like and move on to the next ideas or sex tips. So if you don’t let him know when he does something spot on, you’re really screwing yourself because he’ll never learn what you like!

Let him know how much it turns you on when he does something good. Also, reward him by doing something he really enjoys – like giving him an amazing blowjob. This doesn’t apply only to sex either. You can mix and match. Reward him for a sweet gesture like filling up your car with gas by giving him road head. Or taking him on an impromptu shopping spree at the manly store of his choice. Either way, so long as you reward him for anything he does that pleases you. Because when you do, he’ll want to do it again!