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Q&A: I Can Only Orgasm Through Anal Masturbation! Please Help!

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Anal sex can produce intense orgasms – there are tons of nerves back there that produce pleasurable sensations when stimulated. The prostate gland in particular will produce what some men say are the most intense orgasms a man can ever experience. Having a climax through anal sex can be a fun addition to regular orgasms, but what do you do if going through the back door is the only way you can get off?

Question: I have a very serious question. My friend can only come when he anally masturbates – he can no longer come just using his penis. Can you explain this?

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What Is An Anal Orgasm?

An orgasm through anal sex is due to stimulation of the prostate gland in men. It is possible for women to have an anal orgasm as well, but it is much more common in guys. When the prostate gland is stimulated through penetration of the anus, it can produce intense, deeply pleasurable sensations. Often, this will contribute to a powerful orgasm or cause one in and of itself. Usually, you have to stimulate the penis as well, but in some cases, an orgasm can happen through anal stimulation alone.

It’s Easy To Get Stuck In An “Orgasm Rut”

When you masturbate, it’s easy for both men and women to get stuck in an “orgasm rut.” In women, this is usually due to the use of a vibrator. A woman gets used to using a vibrator may have difficulty reaching climax during sex or fingering, and a man who almost always uses anal stimulation to get himself off during masturbation may notice that he is unable to climax without it.

It’s easy to get yourself into a habit of masturbating a certain way, and it may seem impossible to break that habit. Anal orgasms in particular are very powerful, and you can definitely get “addicted” to the intense rush that an orgasm like that can give you. It may not feel as pleasurable to you to masturbate any other way.

Is The Situation Permanent?

It may be common for people to get stuck only being able to reach orgasm in one way, but does that mean that the situation will last forever? Will you ever be able to masturbate or have sex and reach climax again without anal stimulation?

Yes. It may be a difficult habit to break and it’s certainly not going to happen overnight – but it IS possible to train yourself to reach climax in other ways. You’re not going to be able to break the habit if you continue to use anal stimulation with masturbation – you actually have to give it up for awhile and re-teach yourself to climax through regular masturbation or sexual intercourse.

It is unlikely that you will be able to reach climax on the first try if you’re not using anal sex toys. You may, but give yourself plenty of time to get warmed up and tease yourself. Set aside a good chunk of time, lock the doors and turn off your phone. Resist the temptation to just do it the same way you did before – find new ways to pleasure yourself. If you stick with it, you’ll eventually train yourself to be able to climax without anal penetration. Once you do that, you’ll find that you can reach climax both ways!

If You Just Can’t Do It

It’s unlikely that with time, dedication and persistence that you can train yourself to orgasm with many different forms of stimulation. However, if you try it and you just don’t have the patience to stick with it, relax. Just let it go and have fun with it! There’s nothing wrong with wanting or needing anal stimulation to reach climax. If it’s pleasurable and not hurting you or doing damage in any way, there’s really no reason to stress out about having to “quit.”

Sex and masturbation is all about having fun and giving yourself pleasure. Many people, especially men, may not want to admit that they masturbate anally. They may want to try to find other ways to reach climax because they feel embarrassed about wanting or needing to masturbate with anal sex toys. There’s no reason to feel ashamed about it – everyone likes different things during sex and no two people’s sexual preferences are exactly the same. If you just can’t seem to do without it, don’t stress over it. Relax, have fun and enjoy your orgasm!

How To Win The Dating Game

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Dating doesn’t have to be impossible. It’s easy to get frustrated when dating, especially if you keep getting rejected or your relationships don’t last very long. Forget your dating troubles – here’s how you can actually come out ahead and win the girl of your dreams!

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There’s No Magic Formula

When it comes to dating or getting a girl to fall in love with you, there’s no magic formula that will garner you success every time. You’re going to strike out some of the time, and you’re probably not going to meet the girl you’re going to marry right away. However, there are some things you can do to tip the scales in your favor!

Be The Best “You” That You Can Possibly Be

Many guys focus too much on “getting the right girl” or even just getting a girl to give out a phone number that they forget that girls are actually looking at what they’re bringing to the table. You may have the smoothest pick up lines, but if it’s all a front and you’re faking it, you’re not going to get very far at all. You have to be real and genuine, and have enough confidence to know that you’re a catch.

If you’re not a catch, work on improving yourself. Look at what you’re bringing to the table and see if it needs improvement. Do you have a crappy job that you hate or no job at all? Try to find a job that utilizes your skills and that you love. Go back to school if you need to.

Look at your physical health as well. Are you healthy? Do you need to lose weight or tone up? Would you feel better if you did? What about your mental health? Are you in a positive place in your life? Do what you can to make your body and mind healthy – not only will you look better to women, you’ll feel better too and that will come off in your attitude and demeanor.

Instead of trying to convince a girl to go out with you when dating, approach it a little differently. Be the best possible “you” that you can be, whether it’s finding a new job that makes you happy, taking up hobbies that relieve stress or losing weight and getting fit, moving towards the positive in life will put you in the perfect place to meet the right woman.

Never Give Up Your Values

Too many guys try to be the person they think a girl wants – and they change it up depending on what type of girl they’re dating. These guys almost never get women! First of all, a girl can’t tell who a man really is and what he stands for if he’s always changing it – because let’s face it, if a man is always changing his values, attitude and standards, it’s not likely he even knows who he is and what he stands for.
Develop your own morals and values, and stick to them throughout your dating experiences. You will attract women who are compatible with the real you, instead of women who you have to “make” yourself be compatible with. Learn to love yourself for who you really are, and let that confidence in yourself show through.

Don’t Play Games With Women

Have enough respect for a woman – and yourself – to be real with her. Be yourself. Take the risk and put yourself out there – because ultimately, that’s what you want. You want to meet a woman who is your true match and who you are compatible with. If you’re not putting the real you out there and are playing games, you’re either going to meet someone you’re really not compatible with or you’re going to meet a woman who is playing games with you.

Have A Magnetic, Positive Energy

Girls are attracted to men who are positive, magnetic, confident and fun to be around. Guys who are down in the dumps all the time aren’t going to get very many girls. Make sure that when you meet a girl, you’re putting off the right vibe. Be positive, tell funny jokes and listen to what she has to say. Get her laughing and make sure you yourself are laughing. Women will flock to you if you put off that magnetic energy.

Treat A Woman Well

While some girls like the the “bad boy type” type, that usually never lasts very long. If you want to snag the girl of your dreams, you need to learn to treat women well. Treat all women with respect – if you’re with her, support her and encourage her to do the things she loves to do and is passionate about. Don’t criticize women or cut them down. Make her feel great about herself and she’ll fall for you!

Compliment her and build up her self-esteem. Don’t assume that because you told her she’s beautiful one time that she knows you think she’s beautiful and you never have to say it again. If you’re thinking it, say it! Compliment her skills and things that she’s accomplished. Be proud of her.

Make Her Feel Like The Only Girl In The World For You!

All women want to feel loved and feel special to their partners. They also want to feel like they’re the only girl who can ever make you feel the way she makes you feel. So make sure she believes it! Make her feel like she’s the only one for you and you’ll have her falling head over heels.

Learn To Be A More Charismatic Person

Technique is important – and technique is learned, it’s not something that comes naturally. Take some time to learn how to be a more magnetic, charismatic person. Get out there and practice meeting women. Consider working with a dating coach. You’re not going to be completely comfortable introducing yourself and talking to women the first few times you do it, but the more you practice, the better you’ll get.

Even getting out there and just developing friendships with other people will help a man get comfortable talking to women – often, men who are uncomfortable talking to women are actually uncomfortable talking to people in general.

Are You Pulling The Weight In Your Relationship?

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A relationship should be equal, but once you’ve settled in, it can be easy to let things slide. Whether you’re the one who has stopped putting effort into your partnership, or your partner’s gotten lazy, it’s important to keep things in check. Don’t let your partnership get too one-sided. If it is, you may need to question why you’re both still together.

In general, we like to think that relationships become easier the longer we’re with the same person. In some ways that’s true. The more time you’re with someone, the better you know them. That level of intimacy can make your interactions much simpler. It can also make things predictable, which can lead to laziness.

What Is A One-Sided Relationship?

Just because you know someone really well and have settled into a sort of routine, doesn’t mean that you no longer have to put effort into your relationship. That kind of complacency can harm even the strongest relationship. It’s particularly detrimental, however, when one person in the partnership has become lazy, and the other is doing all of the work. A one-sided relationship like that creates resentment on the part of the person who is still carrying their weight. It also causes them to question (rightfully so) whether the lazier party is still in love with them.

How Can You Tell?

So how can you tell if your relationship has become one-sided? Think back over the last few months of your partnership and consider a few different aspects of it. Who typically suggests going out for a date night? Is it always you, always your partner, or a fairly even mix?

Let’s say that you typically suggest going out on dates and your mate doesn’t. If your significant other is more of a homebody, while you’re someone who likes to go out all the time, then you’re probably okay. It could just be that your mate prefers to spend more time with you in the comfort of your own home, whereas you like to get out of the house.

Therefore, you naturally tend to suggest going out more than he or she would. If your S.O. isn’t a homebody, though, you might very well have a problem. Does he or she often cook up ideas to go out with friends, but not with you? That’s a strong indicator that your partner is becoming lazy within your relationship.

Other Signs Of A One-Sided Partnership

You should also examine random acts of thoughtfulness. When was the last time you or your mate did something nice for the other one, just for the heck of it? If your S.O. is always doing kind things for you, and you’re not returning the favor, you might want to question why you’re not putting more effort into your relationship. Maybe your partner always lets you pick where to eat. Perhaps your mate sits through movies that you want to watch but he/she isn’t really interested in without a single complaint.

Is it part of your routine that you always get your way and your partner doesn’t? That’s a sign of total one-sidedness. Even if your partner is the most easy-going person in the world, you should still be making a point to give him or her their way on a regular basis. If you happily get your pick without even considering the fact that your mate is giving up theirs for you, you’re being pretty awful. If you don’t feel any appreciation or gratefulness for it—if you just expect it– then you’re being a jerk. Why are you even with this person if you don’t appreciate what they do for you?

What Can You Do?

What can you do if your relationship is one-sided? You need to sit down and get introspective about your situation. If your partner isn’t carrying their weight, do you feel that they may no longer care about you? Pull him or her aside and have a serious discussion about it. Maybe there’s a good reason that they’re not being as participative as normal.

Perhaps they’re overwhelmed with problems in some other area in their life and haven’t even realized they’re being so distant. In a situation like that, just talking about the problem and working toward a solution together could get you back on track. On the other hand, they may not be putting in any effort because they seriously don’t care.

Some people are so bad at breaking up, that they elect to behave poorly in the hopes that their S.O. will do the dumping for them. If you’re the one who’s slacking off in your partnership, check in with your gut and be honest with yourself. Are you really just bringing your relationship to an ending, albeit in a slow, drawn out fashion?

Whether you or your mate has grown complacent, it’s important to determine whether you want the relationship to continue or not. If you do, you and your partner need to have a good long talk. Then you both need to be more conscious about putting effort into your relationship. If you really care about each other, your mutual happiness and the success of your coupledom will be well worth the work.

Top 10 Best Places To Have Sex While Shopping

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Sex while shopping can be lots of fun! Give yourself a break from the grind by getting it on with these ten super steamy ideas.

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While Apartment Hunting

Apartment hunting can be pretty intense if you don’t have something to distract you. Some apartment landlords will hand out the keys to the apartments without accompanying you to the place. This is a great time to break in a new place! Check out the floor plan and then do it on the floor – or do it doggy style in the tub. Make sure to bring a few tissues with you – the water may not be turned on to rinse away the evidence of your tryst.

While Test Driving A New Car

Test out the backseat in a new car when you’re test driving it. Park the car in an obscure location and get busy – you can do it the traditional way in the backseat, or you can use the front passenger side seat if it reclines back far enough. You can also have oral sex this way if you get into the sixty-nine position!

In A Public Restroom In A Department Store

If you want to have sex in a department store, the best place you’re going to find is the restroom or the dressing room. The restroom offers less privacy than a dressing room, which may be more fun for you and your partner depending on if you’re into public sex. Make sure you pick a clean restroom!

In A Dressing Room

If the restroom is occupied or you just want somewhere a little cleaner to go, try the dressing room of a department store. Some dressing rooms have attendants and others don’t, so you want to try to find one that doesn’t have an attendant if you don’t want to get caught. It’s more likely that you’ll find a dressing room that isn’t attended later in the evening or close to the time that the store will be closing. Of course, you don’t want to get caught after the store closes, so give yourself plenty of time!

In A Show Camper In A Sports Store

Whether you’re thinking of buying a camper or not, taking a “look” inside it can be incredibly fun! Many sports stores will have campers set up for customers to tour, especially if it is a very large sports store. If the store is rather empty, you can duck into the camper for a quickie before anyone notices! Have fun by doing it on the fold out table (make sure it can hold your weight!) or missionary style on the camper’s bed.

In A Mobile Home Demo

Like with an apartment, you can often get away for a few minutes under the premise of touring a mobile home. Again, you’ll have to find a mobile home dealer that doesn’t accompany each of his or her customers to the home. Although, you can always as for a few minutes to discuss it privately, at which point the salesperson will most likely head to the other side of the house or somewhere else out of the way. Just be quiet if you don’t want them suspecting what you’re doing!

Under The Holiday Display At The Mall

‘Tis the season for hot sex and you can add a little bit of holiday cheer to public sex by getting it on under or in a holiday display at the mall. Many of these displays have nooks or crannies that you can hide in, or large Christmas trees you can hide behind. Either way, just make sure you’re not doing it during the hours that small children are around, lining up to see Santa! You’d have some angry parents on your hands if you were to get caught. Instead, try waiting until late evening shortly before the mall closes when there aren’t as many customers walking around.

On A Sample Bed At The Mattress Store

This one pretty much guarantees you will get caught, but if you like the idea of getting busted getting your groove on or just really want to do it in a mattress store, you’ll enjoy this. You also aren’t really going to be able to get naked in a mattress store. A handjob might be an alternative, because it’s a little more difficult for the salesperson to spot what you’re doing.

In The Dressing Room At A Lingerie Store

While this is similar to having sex in the dressing room at a department store, it’s a little bit sexier doing it in a lingerie store. This is because not only is the lighting better and will make you and your partner look great doing it, but you’ll also have fun parading around in the lingerie before you get busy! Just be aware that if you do get caught having sex while wearing the lingerie, you’re probably going to have to pay for it.

In A Show Car In The Middle Of The Mall

Another great place to have sex in the mall is in a show car. Most of the time, the windows are tinted dark, so no one will be able to see what is going on inside the car unless they’re standing really close to it and looking in. Again, you have less of a chance of getting caught if you go at a time that there aren’t a lot of people in the mall, but be aware that the doors of the car may be locked and you may not be able to get in.

Penthouse Shots – Pleasure Shot & Per4mance Shot Review

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Penthouse Shots is an herbal formula that is designed to enhance sexual pleasure for both men and women. The Per4mance Shot is designed for men, while the Pleasure Shot is made specifically with a woman’s special sexual needs in mind. Similar to energy shots that are sold at drug stores and convenience stores, Penthouse Shots are small bottles of liquid that are consumed about 20-30 minutes before you plan on engaging in sexual activity.

As the product begins to work, you may notice an increase in sexual thoughts and a tingling in your genitals. It’s like foreplay starting without doing a single thing! As you get more involved with your partner sexually, you’ll notice that each sensation feels stronger and better than it ever has before. Oral sex will feel incredibly intense! Women will notice their inhibitions are down, and may be more willing to try things they never have before, like bondage or new sex positions. Men will feel like they could go all night long!

The Good

Penthouse Shots are formulated with all-natural ingredients including herbs and vitamins. They’re not formulated with chemicals or anything that could be considered a “drug” – and you’ll notice the effects of the ginseng and ginkgo biloba in more ways than just sexually. You may notice a decrease in fatigue and an increase in mental function!

The best thing about the Penthouse Shots is that they actually WORK! They’re made to enhance sexual pleasure and allow men and women to experience sex more fully, and they definitely get the job done. Many couples will be surprised at how well this product works, especially in comparison to other similar products on the market that just don’t work as well.

The Bad

While the Penthouse Shots do use an all natural formula, some of the herbs and vitamins contained within may not be suitable for everyone. It contains caffeine, so it’s definitely not something that can be used by anyone with a caffeine sensitivity. The bottle also warns against people with heart disease or high blood pressure using the product. Possible risks are listed as:

  • Heart attack
  • Stroke
  • Dizziness
  • Rapid heartbeat

While serious side effects from Penthouse Shots is rare because the ingredients are all-natural and relatively safe, you should consult your doctor before consuming. Don’t drink alcohol while using Penthouse Shots and don’t use more than two bottles per day.

The Bottom Line

Penthouse Shots is an excellent product that does exactly what it claims to do. The side effects are rare and many people won’t experience them, however, the majority of people who use the product will experience increased pleasure, more blood flow to the genitals, a higher libido, stronger, deeper orgasms and more stamina. A must for couples who have lost that “spark” in their sex lives!

The Full Penthouse Shots Review

Sex isn’t always amazing, especially if you and your partner have been monogamous for quite some time. Does that mean you’re doomed to have a boring sex life forever? Not hardly! Penthouse has created Penthouse Shots, a unique all-natural herbal formula that enhances sexual pleasure and orgasms for both men and women. This product is similar in concept to other products on the market that claim to boost sexual pleasure, with only one difference – Penthouse Shots WORK!

Penthouse Per4mance Shot

An herbal arousal formula made specifically for men, it uses all natural ingredients to enhance pleasure for men. Men who use this may notice a longer, harder erection and increased sensitivity during sex. He may also notice increased stamina and the ability to last longer or have multiple orgasms during sex! The Per4mance Shot is made with many herbal ingredients and vitamins, including:

  • Dong Quai, known to boost male fertility
  • Yohimbe Bark Extract, known world-wide as a powerful aphrodisiac
  • Damiana Leaf Extract
  • Horny Goat Weed, known to increase blood flow to the genitals
  • Vitamins B3, B6, B9, and B12

Penthouse Pleasure Shot

The companion to the Per4mance Shot, the Pleasure Shot is designed specifically for women. It is designed to help promote sexual relaxation, while increasing pleasurable sensations. Women who use this may notice reduced anxiety and more relaxation, less sexual inhibition, tingling in the genitals and increased sensation during sex and oral sex. Special ingredients that support sexual function in the Pleasure Shot include:

  • Passionflower Extract, known to reduce anxiety
  • Yohimbe Bark Extract
  • Damiana Leaf Extract
  • Siberian Ginseng, known to combat stress and fatigue
  • Horny Goat Weed

When used together by a male and female couple, the results can be absolutely incredible! Both partners will notice an increase in pleasurable sensations, a higher state of sexual arousal and more powerful, pleasurable orgasms. Single men and women can also use this product to heighten pleasure during a night of passion and incredible sex!