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Let Her Touch Your Most Sensitive Spot – And Win Her For Good

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The prostate is one of the most sensitive parts on a man. By letting your girl finger your prostate, she’ll blow your mind – and want to do it over and over!

How Adventurous Are You?

Most men would say “Adventure is my middle name” and “absolutely” with utmost confidence when it comes to sexual intercourse and experimenting with sex positions thanks to PORN and the Kama Sutra.

Women would and answer “it depends on my mood” to both questions. Get the hint? No? Are you retarded or something? Oh man! She needs motivation you dork!

Satisfying a woman entails a lot of time spent on initiating foreplay until her batteries are all charged up and her libido spiking up to the maximum level. I don’t mean just mediocre foreplay and hard slapping and pounding sexual intercourse after dude! It has to give her a very electrifying, explosive, intense and invigorating and masterfully orgasmic experience prior to getting your Jerky, Johnson, Willy, Junior or whatever you call your penis spit-fully satisfied inside her sweet, wet, warm vagina.

Men treat foreplay as just a waste of time and are oh so eager to just get it on. What most men don’t understand is that women who get enough foreplay can go the distance of attempting what only a handful of women would do for their man – and that is, to stimulate the male G-spot.

What Is The Male G-Spot?

“Eeewww!”, “You want me to do what???,”Yuck!”, ”That’s so disgusting! Are you gay?” – Typical reaction of women, who are deprived of enough foreplay, asked or, since we’re talking about sensitive and emotional women, I should say “requested” to stimulate the male G-spot.

For those of you who are clueless about what the hell I’m talking about, brace yourselves – get a cup of coffee, a cigarette, a bottle of beer or anything that could keep you glued to reading what I intend to reveal to the less fortunate ones.

Alright, the male G-spot is the prostate gland and not the head of your penis or your balls. It is located and can be stimulated from the anus. Yup! Don’t blame or question God for engineering it that way. There is a reason for its anatomical position. It is there because it is situated close to the so-called ejaculatory ducts. The term ejaculatory ducts are quite self-explanatory isn’t it? Get the logic?

Getting Her To Do It

This may be such a turn-off but if you give women the pampering and satisfaction she yearns and needs during foreplay, she will go the distance of allowing you to lay on your back with your legs spread apart like when a woman is about to give birth and best achieved when a pillow us under your hips aiding elevation and giving the appropriate angle. Applying pressure on the perineum or the surface of your anus would prep you up.

Stimulating the male G-spot or the prostate gland that resembles the shape of a chestnut requires gentle probing using the middle finger initially, to about 2 inches inside the anus. And the crowd went wild! Geez! Ever heard of a LUBRICANT you chicken? Your partner can make it even more interesting and exhilarating when coupled with fellatio while probing and applying different levels of pressure and intensity on your G-spot.

Trust this soon-to-be sex guru – after such an experience you would surely need to take a very cold shower to keep the conflagration under control because it is definitely illuminatingly hot when a woman does this to you in exchange for treating her like a queen during foreplay.

Auto Fellatio – Can Men Give Themselves A Blowjob?

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Auto fellatio may be something you’ve heard of – but then again, it’s fairly rare. Most often, auto fellatio crops up in fetish porn, but the term refers to the act of a man giving himself oral sex. Guys who are able to do this may enjoy giving themselves oral sex during masturbation. It seems impossible that a man can lick his own penis – but can guys really give a blowjob to THEMSELVES?

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What Is Auto Fellatio?

Auto fellatio is defined as the act of a man giving himself oral sex and licking his own penis as a form of masturbation. This may include manual masturbation or may just involve the mouth only. It may sound impossible for a man to do this, and the truth is, most guys can’t. However, if a man has a particularly large penis size or is very flexible, it is possible that it can be done.

Similarly, auto cunnilingus is where a woman bends forward and gives herself oral sex. However, it is much more difficult for a woman to give herself oral sex than it is for a man to give himself a blowjob. This is because women have a little farther to go to get their mouths in contact with their genitals. Although it is very rare to see either gender give themselves oral sex, it is far less common among women simply because it’s physically more difficult to do so.

Can Guys Really Stretch That Much?

The far majority of guys cannot stretch far enough down to actually get their mouth on the head of their penis. You have to be extremely flexible and fit to be able to do it! It is very difficult to actually stretch that much, and it is often painful or uncomfortable. It can cause muscles to pull and tear, because the body has to be in such an extreme position for auto fellatio to take place. Usually, guys who are able to perform auto fellatio have experience in gymnastics or have some type of gymnastics training. Another way this can be achieved is by having someone help push the body and head forward towards the penis.

The truth is, however, that even guys who are able to perform auto fellatio cannot go all the way down on their penises. Most of the time, the mouth can only reach the head of the penis or the top of the shaft. It is very rare for a man to be able to stretch enough to get his entire penis in his mouth. For this reason, it is common for men to masturbate  with their hand and stroke the shaft of their penis while performing auto fellatio. This is because they can only lick and suck the head of their penis, so they complement it with the movement of their hand on the shaft.

Can Auto Fellatio Be Learned?

While having a background in gymnastics or having exceptional flexibility is helpful when it comes to being able to perform oral sex on yourself, this activity can be learned. Even if you’ve never been very flexible before, you can learn to stretch your body into a position that makes it possible for you to connect your mouth with your genitals. It will definitely take time and patience to learn, and it’s not something that you’re going to be able to do overnight. You will need to practice stretching daily, going a little further each time.

You can also do this up against the wall for better stability. The wall allows you to lean your lower back against it and angle your penis closer to your mouth. Be aware that auto fellatio is not something that the body was naturally built to do – go slow and if you experience any pain, stop immediately! It’s easy to pull or tear muscles when stretching your body to such an extreme.

Is Ingesting Semen Harmful?

Many guys wonder what their own semen tastes like – and if ingesting it is harmful in any way. It’s not – in fact, women do it all the time! However, if the idea of tasting your own semen (or ejaculating in your own face) turns you off, auto fellatio is probably not something you want to try. It’s unlikely you’d be able to get out of the awkward position you put yourself in quickly enough to avoid ejaculating in your mouth or on your face. While the ability to “suck yourself off” sounds neat, it’s more of a novelty than anything else. You’re going to get much more pleasure from masturbation or a blowjob from your partner.

Dating Tips: Is It OK To Ask For A Phone Number At Work?

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Dating requires you to ask a woman out first – but how do you get a woman’s number? She may be a co-worker of yours, or you may see her often if she works at a place you frequent. You’d really like to be dating this girl, but is it okay to approach women at work?

Question: Hi Dan and Jenn. I’m a new subscriber. I’ve watched a few of your videos so far but haven’t found one that answers my specific question. I was wondering if it’s okay to ask for a womens number while they’re working? The specific place I’m curious about is Subway. I’ve heard it’s not kosher to do this. Thanks in advance and I hope to learn a lot!

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Dating Won’t Happen Unless You Ask First

The first thing that guys have to understand about the dating process is that it’s probably not going to happen unless YOU do the asking. So you’re pretty much guaranteed a “no” if you don’t ask a woman out. So gather up your courage, and get ready to make the first move!

If You Share A Workplace

When most guys think about asking a girl out at work, it usually means he’s romantically interested in a woman that he is employed with. Generally speaking, this is almost always a bad idea! If you get involved in a relationship with someone you are employed with and things end badly, it can definitely make for quite an awkward situation later. Also, some companies have strict policies against dating at work, and it could cause you to lose your job. It might also end well, so you never know until you try. Just be aware that you’re taking a risk when you consider dating someone that you’re employed with.

At Your Potential Date’s Workplace

The situation is a little different when you talk about how to approach women at their place of business. For example, if the woman you’re interested in works at a restaurant or a hotel that you frequent, there’s no reason not to ask her out there. However, there are some rules that you want to follow if you’re thinking about approaching a woman where she works to ask her out on a date.

Do Not Go At Peak Hours

Every place of business has peak hours, especially restaurants. Never try to ask a woman out at a time where she’s slammed with customers, the boss is watching or she is too busy with other things. This will get you brushed off immediately, even though she may actually be interested in dating you. Timing is everything in this type of situation and if you do it at the wrong time, you’re just not going to get anywhere. Wait until she’s not busy with customers or other things, so she actually has time to process what you’re saying.

Make Sure You’re Able To Get One On One Time

This really goes for when you ask anyone anything – you really want to be one one one with that person, rather than having a bunch of other people listening in on the conversation you’re trying to have. Have the confidence to approach the girl you like when she’s alone.

Establish A Vibe

Going up to a woman you like and asking for a phone number right off the bat probably isn’t going to end well, even if you are one on one with her and no one else is watching or listening. So start flirting with her a little first. Smile at her, joke a little and make eye contact. Establish a connection or vibe first, before you suggest taking her out on a date. It’s more likely that she’ll be interested in dating you if you flirt a little first.

If She Rejects You

Depending on how you’ve set things up (and whether she’s really interested in you or not), you may very well get rejected. Don’t take it personally, especially if you’ve approached her at a bad time. You can always try again at another time. However, if she turns down your dating offer more than once, it’s safe to say that it’s not your timing that is the issue here. Remember that dating is all about having fun and meeting new people – so if you strike out more than once with one particular woman, remember that there are more out there that you could have an even better connection with. Don’t assume that if this one rejects you that it’s all over – because it’s not!

How To Turn Dating Your Crush Into Reality

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If dating the woman you really like seems out of reach, think again. With a few simple dating tips, you can make getting the girl you’ve had your eye on for awhile into something more than just a dream. Here’s how you can make dating the girl you like REAL, instead of just a fantasy!

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Let Her Know That You Exist

If you really like a woman, nothing is going to happen – ever – if she doesn’t know that you even exist. Bite the bullet, go up to the girl you like and introduce yourself! She’s never going to know who you are if you don’t introduce yourself, and of course, if she doesn’t know who you are, how can you date her?

Get To Know The Woman You Like

Most guys (and gals) that like someone end up fantasizing about who this woman is, what they like and what they don’t like. In reality, however, there’s no way to actually know what this woman is like without really getting to know them. So after you introduce yourself to the girl you like, take the time to get to know her. Talk to her, find out what her interests and disinterests are, as well as what passions drive her.

This will do one of two things – you’ll either get to know her and figure out that you don’t like who she really is and that you’d rather not start dating her, or you’ll like her even more than you already did. Just don’t assume that because you like this woman that you know everything there is to know about them – because your imagination is actually what fills in a lot of the blanks. You may think that you know something about a person, when in all actuality, your imagination came up with that particular characteristic.

How To Get The Woman You Like To Want To Start Dating YOU

To attract women, whether you like them or not, you have to be the kind of guy that attracts women. Be a strong, confident guy who has passions and a drive in life. Learn to love yourself and be happy about where your life is going, so you can then radiate that happiness and confidence outward to other people. THIS is what women are attracted to! They’re not interested in weak, wimpy guys that are desperate to get a girl. In fact, quite the opposite. They want to be dating a guy who is confident in himself, and is happy and fun to be around.

  • Be positive, optimistic and enthusiastic
  • Enjoy social situations and meeting new people
  • Be a part of the “fun” crowd
  • Have goals in life
  • Know where you are and where you want to be in life
  • Be fun to hang out with
  • Know how to have a great conversation

Access The Emotions That Make Her Addicted To Being Around You

A woman will remember you depending on the way you make her feel. If you don’t make her feel good, all the dating tips in the world aren’t going to help you. She’s either not going to remember you at all or you’ll leave her with a bad memory – which is the exact opposite of what you want to do! Instead, focus on making her feel great when she’s around you.

  • Have a good time with her
  • Make her feel incredibly sexy and beautiful
  • Do interesting, fun, exciting and memorable things together
  • Show that you’re interested in who she is
  • Pay attention and listen to her

Never Change Who You Are For A Girl

Remember to never change who you are for a girl. Learn to love yourself for who you are and allow that to shine through – never change yourself to act the way a particular girl wants you to act or look the way a girl wants you to look. Changing who you are to impress someone else is going to do nothing but make you look lame – and the woman you may actually want to be with might see this and count you out because you’re too wishy washy and don’t have that self-confidence.

If the girl you’re interested in isn’t responding well to your dating efforts, let it go. It may not be a good fit, and if you keep trying to make it work with someone it’s obviously not going to work with, you’re going to be making yourself unavailable for the right woman that might come along. If you have that self confidence, you’re going to be able to let it go and move on to another girl who will appreciate you for who you are.

Low Sex Drive – How Can A Woman Get Her Libido Back?

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The libido changes in lots of ways throughout life, for both men and women. A low sex drive can mean a lot of things for a woman, especially after giving birth. Here’s how to figure out why she has a low libido and how to revv up your partner’s libido again after the baby is born.

Question: My question is, since my wife gave birth 18 months ago she is never in the mood, EVER. Now I work midnights and take care of the baby during the day to save on daycare costs. During that time at home, I cook, I clean, I do laundry and of course take care of the baby. I do this because I know her job is stressful and she works hard and the last thing she wants to do when she comes home is cook and clean. I thought all of that might help, but it didn’t. How can I help her get her get her libido back??? Thanks for the help!

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Why A Woman’s Libido Might Change

There are a million different reasons a girl might experience a change in your lover’s libido, whether it’s a decrease or an increase. Usually it boils down to hormones. Throughout a female’s life, the levels of hormones in the body, such as estrogen, differs greatly. She may have a rampant sex drive at a younger age, only to experience a drastic decrease in libido during the aging process and the levels of hormones in the body begin to change. This is especially true right after giving birth. The good majority of the time a female experiences a change in libido, a change in hormones is what is responsible.

Communication Is Key

Make sure that you actually have an open line of communication with your partner about what is going on in your relationship, especially when it comes to sex – or the lack of it. Your partner may have no clue how you feel about the situation if you’re not talking to her – so make sure you’re actually communicating about what is happening.

Physical Reasons A Female’s Sex Drive Can Decrease

If your partner just isn’t feeling good and isn’t feeling like having sex, it may be time to make an appointment with her doctor. There are several purely physical reasons that a girl might experience a decrease in libido, such as:

  • Changes in hormones
  • Having a baby, especially if it was a difficult birth
  • Significant weight gain
  • Taking certain medications, especially anti-depressants and anti-psychotics

Emotional Causes For A Reduced Libido

Aside from physical factors, there are also lots of emotional factors that you need to consider when trying to find the root of a female’s lack of libido.

  • Being tired or exhausted from work or taking care of kids
  • Lack of time together as a couple
  • Lack of emotional connection
  • Lack of confidence and feeling unattractive, especially after having a baby or gaining weight
  • Depression or anxiety

A Word On Postpartum Depression

Postpartum depression is a serious issue that can happen after a girl has a baby, but it can be difficult to spot, since it’s normal for women to feel a little down after giving birth – this is most commonly referred to as the “baby blues.” However, when it becomes serious, it can be dangerous to leave it untreated. If you suspect that your partner may have postpartum depression, don’t judge or criticize. Show your partner love and support, but make sure to see a doctor immediately. Serious postpartum depression can cause a woman to harm herself or the baby, which never ends well. Symptoms of postpartum depression can include:

  • Lower libido than before the baby
  • Loss of appetite
  • Insomnia
  • Intense irritability and anger
  • Overwhelming fatigue
  • Lack of joy in life
  • Feelings of shame, guilt or inadequacy
  • Severe mood swings
  • Difficulty bonding with the baby
  • Withdrawal from family and friends
  • Thoughts of harming herself or the baby

What You Can Do To Fire Up The Libido

If you’ve ruled out some of the more serious reasons that your partner might be experiencing a decrease in libido there are a few things you can do to try to get that spark back into your sex life.

Plan A Date Night

Often, after having a baby, everything becomes all about taking care of the baby. There’s very little time left for you and your partner to actually spend time together away from the baby and reconnect. You need to remember why you’re a couple in the first place! The baby will be just fine with a babysitter or grandma and grandpa while you and your partner go on a date. Stay in touch, but remember that you need to take some time for the two of you.

One of the most important aspects of planning a date night is that a girl doesn’t usually have the opportunity to dress up, do her hair, put on makeup and go somewhere when she’s a full time mother – especially if there’s a full time job involved. Giving your partner the opportunity to feel like a woman again can work wonders!

Romance Your Partner

You may just be missing that element of romance that used to exist in your relationship but doesn’t anymore. Most of a female’s arousal is actually mental, and for a girl to feel sexual, she must be completely relaxed. Draw a nice bubble bath and pour your partner a glass of wine (if the baby isn’t nursing). Give your partner a massage, or buy a gift certificate so she can go get one.

Focus Your Attention On Your Partner

Remember that for a woman to feel important to you and valued by you (which is necessary for a lady to want to be come sexual with you), she has to feel like you’re paying attention to her and value what she has to say. Talk to your partner one on one, with the television off. Ask questions about how she feels and what she thinks, and then actually listen to the answers!

When You Do Have Sex

When you and your partner actually do have sex, it’s very important that you focus on her pleasure – and make sure your lover has an orgasm too! Worship your lover’s body and make her feel sexy in the way you touch and look at her. Give your partner oral sex and let her have an orgasm first, and even more than once if you can!

If She’s Having Trouble Reaching Orgasm

Many women have trouble reaching orgasm, especially after having a baby. After giving birth, things may be a little sore, or may just feel a little different down there. Don’t be afraid to bring in some props like arousal gel or warming lube. Of course, lube is especially crucial for sex after having a baby, because you can really hurt the sensitive tissues down there if the vagina is dry – which is more likely after giving birth.