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Sexting: How To Evolve From Dirty Texts To Pictures

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Sexting is a great turn on, but what do you do when you want MORE? Men enjoy visual stimulation as opposed to mental, which is why women love getting dirty texts but men want to actually see something sexy. Here’s how to get your partner interested in sending you something more visually engaging.

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Sexting Turns Her On – But What About Him?

Sexting is a great way to engage a woman and get her so turned on, she’s pouncing on you and ripping your clothes off as soon as you walk in the door. In fact, it’s one of the best foreplay techniques and you don’t even have to touch her to do it! Women respond very well to imaginative words, and when you send her naughty texts, you’re literally speaking her language. You’re bypassing her inhibitions and directly stimulating her mind – which is where arousal starts for a woman.

But where does it start for a guy?

Men are visual – meaning, words just don’t do that much for them. Sure, you’re going to love a text from your partner talking about how much they want to go down on you tonight, but is it going to make you crave her like a dirty text is going to make her crave you? Not exactly. But what if she sent you a picture of her breasts? Now THAT will turn you on! Problem is, what if she’s too shy to send you a picture or movie?

How do you get her to do it?

Slowly Introduce Your Partner To Sending Pictures/Videos

Just like with anything sexual that is new or that you and your lover have never tried before, it’s important to start slow and work your way up. You don’t want to approach your girl and ask her to send you a picture of her vagina if she’s never even sent you a dirty text before. So start with the basics!

Start by sending her flirty text messages. Tell her how pretty you think she looked before she left for work this morning, or let her know how much you can’t wait to see her when you get home. Once you’ve got her hooked to the surprise messages you’re sending to her, start sexting. Make your texts a little more naughtier each time. For example, tell her that you thought she looked great this morning and when she says “Thank you,” lead into telling her what she was wearing made you wish she wasn’t wearing it!

Don’t expect to get her texting you pictures and videos of her in just one day, especially if you and your partner have never sexted before. It’s going to take time to get her involved, and you want to make sure she enjoys it every step of the way. Make her feel cherished, sexy and beautiful first (both on the phone and in person) before you ever try to bring up her sending you pictures.

Once she’s responding well to your sexting, you can start thinking about taking it to the next level.

How To Get Your Lover To Send Naughty Pictures

A great way to introduce her to the idea of sending naughty pictures back and forth is to first send her a sensual picture of you! No, not a penis shot, because that will probably just offend her. You’re looking for a sensual picture. Something that gets your partner’s imagination working without showing too much. A woman isn’t going to be turned on by a picture of your cock erect and stark naked. Girls respond much better to sexual innuendo instead of porn. Instead, send her something like this:

  • A picture of your erection inside your jeans
  • A shot of your happy trail with your fly unzipped
  • A photo of your chest all wet and soapy in the shower

You get the idea. Send her something that intrigues her without showing her too much and possibly offending her. The great thing about sending her a sensual picture of yourself is that she will most likely respond with something sensual for you!

Introducing Your Partner To Sending Videos

Once you’re successfully sending sexy photos of yourselves back and forth, you may be chomping at the bit to see even more. You want to see your lover in action, but how do you get her to graduate from sending stills to sending something that you can actually masturbate to?

Start by letting her know how much her photos turn you on. Give her lots of encouragement and let her know that she looks beautiful and extremely sexy in every photo that she’s sent you. Tell her that you would love to see some of that in action!

You can also entice her with the idea of making a homemade porn for you by telling her how much it would turn you on to masturbate to HER instead of to some other random woman. Let her know that you care about her and she’s the one that turns you on the most – this may very well be all you need to convince her to make you a movie. She’ll love the idea that you’d rather be watching her than someone else.

You can start by making a movie of you both having fun together. If you’re both on film, she may not be as apprehensive about it. Make sure the lighting is flattering and tell her that she doesn’t have to get naked if she doesn’t want to. Sexy lingerie can be just as titillating as full nudity and sometimes even more so!

Giving Your Lover Positive Reinforcement

Make sure that you’re giving your partner encouragement and positive reinforcement when she does send you photos or makes a movie with you or for you. If she’s not getting any positive feedback, she’s not going to get into it and she’s certainly not going to keep doing it. Don’t be afraid to tell her just how much seeing her in photos or movies gets you hot!

Make sure that when you do have sex with your partner that you take the time to give her at least one good orgasm, if not more. If she’s sending you the photos and movies that you want to see, make sure that she’s getting what she wants as well.

Relationship Advice: How To Travel Together For The First Time

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In a relationship, you’re going to want to go places with your partner at some point. Here’s how to make sure your relationship survives the trip.

It can be very exciting when the time comes for you and your significant other to take your first vacation together. Time away from your everyday surroundings and obligations can make for a truly wonderful bonding experience. But travels don’t always go as planned, and you may find yourself encountering a side of your partner you don’t find very attractive. How can you make sure that your trip goes smoothly? Lots of advance planning helps, along with patience and a good sense of humor.

Plan Ahead!

It’s always important to have a rock solid plan when you’re traveling, but never more so than when it’s the first time in the relationship that you and your mate go away together. The better you plan, the less you’ll have to worry over during the trip. First and foremost, make sure to pick a place you’re both truly interested in visiting. Since it’s your first trip together, unless you’re both seasoned travelers, you should probably stay closer to home.

A domestic destination promises a shorter flight, no need for passports, and no language barrier to worry about. It can also make for a more affordable trip, which can help eliminate a common traveling worry—overspending. Minimizing stressors before you’ve even stepped into the airport can be very helpful. Speaking of airports, you’ll also need to decide on a mode of transportation. For a first trip, flying or taking a train is probably your best option.

Road trips are notorious for quickly going from great to terrible; you can get lost, your car can break down, etc. While flying and taking the train also have their drawbacks, at least neither of you will be directly to blame if something does go wrong. After settling on a destination and a mode of transportation, make sure to pick your accommodations together. Agree ahead of time on how you’ll pay for your lodgings, so you won’t have to worry about it later.

Allow For Extra Time & Plan What To Pack

A few days prior to your trip, plan how you’ll be getting to the airport or train station. Establish a meeting time and place that allows you both extra time to get there. If one of you cuts it too close and is late, you’ll be starting your romantic getaway with a guaranteed fight. Next, plan what to pack together. You want to make sure that both of you bring the right clothing for any activities that either of you have in mind, like a fancy dinner out, hiking, swimming, etc. That way, none of your plans will be ruined because someone doesn’t have the right clothing to participate.

You should also make sure you both pack a few things to keep you entertained on the journey. You’ll want to bring a couple of things you can enjoy together, like playing cards. However, you shouldn’t assume that your mate will stay awake and entertain you through the whole flight. Bring a book or an MP3 player in case your S.O. falls asleep while you’re en route.

Remember To Have Fun!

Once you’ve arrived, let the fun begin. Different people have different traveling styles, so you may discover that you’re more laidback, while the person you’re in a relationship with is a scheduler. If you two don’t see eye to eye on how to manage your daily activities, try to compromise. Block out half of the day to be spontaneous and the other half to stick to an itinerary. Being able to compromise during your vacation won’t just make your trip easier, but will also demonstrate that you are generally considerate.

What if you encounter a traveling disaster? How you handle little road bumps will say a lot about you as a person and a partner. Try not to panic or go into heavy complaint mode. Remain calm, help your mate calm down as well, and remind yourselves that you’re just on vacation. Don’t let someone’s lost wallet or an extreme flight delay ruin your entire trip. Showing some grace under pressure and keeping things light will turn you into a hero.

Don’t Let A Bad Vacation Ruin Your Relationship

What if the vacation disaster is that you really don’t like being with your boyfriend or girlfriend 24/7? The best thing you can do is suck it up and weather the trip, then get home and think about where your relationship is headed. Don’t do anything rash when you’re away from home. While a vacation together can teach you a lot about each other, you shouldn’t let one bad week in unfamiliar territory ruin your entire relationship. Of course, most vacations go wonderfully, and you may return more in love than ever before. Planning ahead and staying flexible once you arrive will certainly help toward getting that happy result.

 

 

10 Ways You Can Get Hurt During Sex – And How To Avoid It!

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Sex doesn’t always leave you feeling tired yet satisfied. It can leave you feeling sore, chafed or worse. Here are ten common sex injuries and how to avoid them.

Concussions

Believe it or not, you can get a concussion during sex if you end up banging your head hard enough on something. This isn’t uncommon – having vigorous sex can lead to a concussion if one or both partners get going fast enough and bang their head on the headboard or wall. Also, slipping in the shower during sex is also common and can lead to concussions or even more serious injuries.

How To Stay Safe

Consider purchasing a padded headboard if you’ve knocked your noggin against it more than once or twice. You can also try different sex positions that don’t involve your head being so close to the headboard or wall. If you’re having sex in the shower, make sure you’ve put down slip resistant pads or a temporary, suction-cupped mat that will prevent slipping.

Chafing

Chafing is a common sex injury when a woman isn’t lubed up enough. This can happen with vaginal or anal sex, however, chafing during anal sex can be a lot more painful because without enough lube, the anus can actually tear and bleed. Many women assume that their own natural lubrication is enough, but during vigorous sex, it might not be. A man can also experience chafing on his penis if there’s too much friction during intercourse and not enough lubrication.

How To Stay Safe

Use lube! A bottle of good, water based lube is cheap and you can even get it from the grocery store or supermarket. Plus, sex feels a lot better with lubrication!

Raw Knees And Elbows

Carpet burn, anyone? When having sex doggy style or giving a blowjob, women can often experience raw knees and elbows from rubbing against the carpet. This isn’t limited to women though – men in certain sex positions may find that they get raw knees or elbows as well. It’s pretty obvious what you’ve been doing if you walk into work the next day with cherry-red knees and elbows.

How To Stay Safe

Ladies, put a pillow on the floor to give a blowjob. Guys, if she doesn’t do it, insist! You’ll get a longer blowjob this way. If you’re doing it doggy style and don’t want to do it on the bed or couch, lay a blanket on the floor to protect from carpet burn.

Chapped Lips

Giving oral sex might seem that it makes your lips smoother to start out with, but after a few hours, your lips may feel dry and uncomfortable. Even though oral sex is supposed to be a “wet” activity, you may not have enough saliva to keep it going smoothly. Chapped lips, if not treated, will feel really uncomfortable and may crack and bleed.

How To Stay Safe

Don’t think you have to suck back in all your saliva during sex. Let it drip over your partner’s genitals and use it to lubricate the area well. Don’t be afraid to let things get a little “wet and wild” because it’s just better that way! Use flavored lube during oral sex if you can’t produce enough saliva. Also, keep a good lip balm on hand to use afterwards.

Vaginal Soreness

Most women who are sexually active have experienced soreness in the vagina after sex at some point or another. Women who are exceptionally small may experience it more often, especially if their partners are particularly well endowed. Soreness can come from one of two things – not using enough lube or rough sex that goes a little too far. Vaginal soreness may be mild, or it may feel like your partner was trying to shish-ka-bob you with his penis.

How To Stay Safe

Again, use lube. There’s no reason not to. It will just feel better. If your partner is large and you’re very small, try different sex positions that don’t allow him to penetrate your vagina so deeply. If you’re always experiencing soreness after sex, see your doctor. There may be more than meets the eye – and more than you’re equipped to deal with alone.

Pulled Muscles

A pulled muscle is probably the most common sex injury on the planet. It can happen from vigorous sex, but most often happens from trying to get into sex positions that you’re just not flexible enough for. Most of the time, a pulled muscle will stop hurting a few hours after sex if it’s mild, however, a pulled muscle that doesn’t stop hurting may require medical attention.

How To Stay Safe

Don’t try any really wacky sex positions unless you’re positive you and your partner can pull them off without hurting yourselves. If you do pull a muscle, use the RICE method – rest, ice, compression and elevation. If this doesn’t help and the pain doesn’t go away in a few hours, you may want to make an appointment with your doctor.

Handprints On Your Rear

Spanking and slapping can be fun, but sometimes it leaves you with blaring red evidence and a sore bum. Depending on how wild you got, it may even hurt to sit down for long periods of time! Masochists will enjoy this pain while others may just wish they wouldn’t have gotten so rough.

How To Stay Safe

Always get consent from your partner before doing anything like spanking, slapping or biting. Not everyone is into BDSM. Also, use a safe word. If things get too out of control, use the safe word and agree that all activity stops when someone uses it.  If you’re using a paddle, try using a padded one that is designed specifically for spanking and BDSM.

Lost Sex Toys

Sex toys can’t get lost in the vagina, so guess where? Yes, you can lose a sex toy (or any other object, for that matter) up your bum and yes, you’ll need a doctor to get it out.

How To Stay Safe

NEVER use objects in the anus that aren’t designed for anal sex. Never use anything sharp that may cut or bleed  – sharp objects can be very dangerous and possibly even fatal if they cut the inside of the intestinal lining. Anything you use for anal sex must have a WIDE base that will prevent it from slipping inside the anus.

Penis Fracture

Penile fractures are rare, but they can happen, especially during vigorous sex and masturbation. A penile fracture is very painful! It is characterized by a loud “cracking” sound, immediately followed by intense pain and lots of sudden bruising on the penis.

How To Stay Safe

If you think you’ve had a penile fracture, seek medical attention immediately! It’s unlikely that permanent damage will be caused, but ONLY if you get medical help ASAP as soon as it happens. You can do serious damage to yourself if you hang out and “see if it gets better.” Don’t try sex positions that put your penis at an awkward angle and if you experience pain during sex or masturbation, try something different.

UTI’s And Vaginal Infections

It’s common for sex to cause urinary tract infections and vaginal infections. Ladies, you may try as hard as you can to keep from contracting an infection during sex, but it may happen anyways. UTI’s can be caused by the “pumping” action during sex literally pushing bacteria inside the urethra. Infections can cause burning during urination, lots of discharge that may or may not have an odor and vaginal soreness.

How To Stay Safe

First of all, use a condom during sex! This will help prevent sexually transmitted diseases and infections. Women that experience frequent UTI’s, especially after sex, will want to try different sex positions that don’t involve the urethra bumping up against the man’s penis or groin such as doggy style or reverse cowgirl.

How To Seduce Your Ex With A Kiss

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Kissing tips for your ex may seem like pointless since you broke up, but the right kissing tips can actually seduce them into wanting to get back with you! First, you’ve got her to agree to going on a make up date with you but you are both aware of the need to the trust between the two of you to be rebuilt. So it’s time to take it slow. Agree on the limitations between the two of you upfront so there is no misunderstanding because believe you me, when you have finished with your lips, she’ll be begging for it!

Start Off Slow

With agreement at hand, you have to respect the decision to take it slow! However taking it slow doesn’t necessarily mean just holding hands. You’d be surprised as to how erotic, exciting and anticipatory restricting your physical contact can actually be.

There are many types or sorts of kissing that dangle on a continuum that ranges from foreplay to after play like a g-string on a wash line. These kisses range from playful kisses like the chocolate kiss to the cold, peeled grapes kiss. Have I got your attention now?

Don’t Kiss Just Her Mouth

The Kama Sutra lists 19 different types of kisses, but now is your time to invent more! Pay attention to the areas of her body you have neglected before. Just because you are kissing her doesn’t mean you have to restrict yourself to her lips. Why don’t you pay lavish attention to her legs, working your way along her legs, always remembering your self-control. Start at her little toes, to the top of her leg, then back down to her ankles, knees and so on, occasionally blowing against the back of her legs, alternating between hard and lighter breaths. This technique is sure to leave her begging for more!

The Chocolate Kiss

There is also the Chocolate Kiss. What women wouldn’t enjoy this one? It’s always best to use a smooth, creamy chocolate that melts easily in your mouth. The smoother the better, obviously! Once the chocolate starts to melt, kiss her and twirl your tongues around hers.

One could also use hard but small pieces of candy, mix up the colors and try and guess at the different flavors, the fun part being trying to steal her bits of candy as she does yours.

Other creative contributors to “sweet kisses” are caramel, strawberries and cream, which involve the seductive licking of spoons, feeding one another strawberries, exchanging the strawberries with whipped cream between each other’s mouth.

The Champagne Kiss

Champagne or fizzy drink can provide a different sensation so the more fizz, the better. When you are ready to kiss her, take a sip and keep some in your mouth, dribble some into your partners’ mouth gently so that you share more than spill into one another’s mouth.

Use Your Teeth

Okay, so we’ve spoken about lips, but what’s inside the lips besides the tongue are the teeth. Now that’s an interesting thought. Starting slowly, simply graze parts of her body as you kiss her, using the edges of your teeth almost like fingernails, or as you would your tongue, lightly tickling her shoulders, arms and hands. Suck on each one of her fingers and, as you remove them from your mouth, softly apply pressure using your teeth.

Nibble Her Skin

If she enjoyed this, try lightly biting the back of her neck or other body parts in between passionate kissing. Don’t overdo it and remember, when you feel you are going to lose control – STOP! Your agreement was to take it slow, to build trust and I can assure you, by the time the next date night arrives, she will be ready to jump your bones!

Dry Orgasms – Do You Suffer From Retrograde Ejaculation?

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An orgasm doesn’t always involve ejaculation. When most men climax, fluid is expelled from their penis. However, some men don’t always expel ejaculatory fluid when they climax. What happens when a man has a normal orgasm sometimes and doesn’t ejaculate at other times? Where does the semen go?

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Is There Such A Thing As A Dry Orgasm?

It is commonly thought that men will ejaculate every time they have an orgasm, but scientific studies and reports from men across the globe have proven otherwise. It is possible for a man to have an orgasm apart from ejaculation – meaning, that although a man has experienced a climax, no fluid is expelled from the penis during the orgasm.

This is especially true if a man is able to have multiple orgasms. Since it takes about fifteen to twenty minutes for a man to produce more ejaculatory fluid, if he has another orgasm within this time frame, it will most likely be “dry” or without semen.

What Is Retrograde Ejaculation?

A “dry” orgasm can mean that a man simply has not produced ejaculate during that particular climax, but it can also mean that a man did produce ejaculatory fluid during the orgasm and that it just didn’t end up coming out of the penis.

So where did it go?

With retrograde ejaculation, the semen is expelled from the testicles, but does not travel through the urethra and out the penis. Instead, the fluid goes up and into the bladder. For men who experience this problem, it’s not always consistent, so it’s a little harder to figure out what exactly is going on. For example, a man who experiences multiple orgasms and has a “dry” orgasm, he probably isn’t experiencing retrograde ejaculation. It is possible for no ejaculatory fluid to be released at all during climax. However, a man that is simply having normal sex and sometimes ejaculates and sometimes doesn’t probably is.

A urinalysis test is needed to confirm the presence of semen inside the bladder to determine whether or not a man is experiencing actual retrograde ejaculation.

What Causes Retrograde Ejaculation?

A common cause of this condition is when teenagers – hoping not to make a mess and get caught masturbating – pinch the tip of the penis and close off the urethra during orgasm. Also, some types of medications can cause retrograde ejaculation, including anti-depressant and anti-psychotic medications. Health conditions can also cause this condition, and rarely, an obstruction in the ejaculatory duct can prevent ejaculatory fluid from being released.

Although it isn’t technically harmful to pinch the tip of the penis right before ejaculation to prevent semen from being expelled, it can be uncomfortable and you may end up having a much less satisfying orgasm than if you had simply let it go. If you’re worried about making a mess, masturbate in the shower (it goes right down the drain) or use toilet paper or facial tissue to catch your semen when you ejaculate.

Is Retrograde Ejaculation Harmful?

When a man experiences retrograde ejaculation, it’s not going to harm his body at all. There is no damage done to the ejaculatory duct, the penis, the testicles or the bladder when this occurs. It’s not a dangerous condition to have, however, that doesn’t mean that men shouldn’t be concerned about it:

  • Many men who experience this condition report that orgasms are much less pleasurable when the semen is redirected to the bladder instead of being expelled from the penis. Sex is supposed to be pleasurable – and you want to make it as good as you can!
  • Men with retrograde ejaculation may become infertile – but whether that’s due to the fact that the semen simply doesn’t come out (after all, the sperm have to come out of the penis and travel up the vagina to fertilize an egg) or that the process of redirection into the bladder makes a man infertile over time is unknown.

What Should You Do If You Have Dry Orgasms?

If you experience a dry orgasm outside of having multiple orgasms, whether it happens seldom or frequently, seek the advice of your doctor. If you’re not comfortable enough with your current doctor to talk about this, find a new one! Your doctor is best equipped to deal with this sort of condition, and he or she has the tests available at hand to confirm whether you’re really experiencing retrograde ejaculation or not.

Once you get a confirmation on whether you have the condition or not, you can begin talking to your doctor about real options that are available to you.