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Dating Tips: What Are The Best Pick Up Lines?

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When dating, coming up with pick up lines isn’t always an easy thing to do. It can be extremely difficult to think of something when you’re trying to approach a woman, especially if you’re very nervous or jittery. You may be tempted to use a “canned” pick up line that you read on the Internet or heard from a friend, because it’s easier than coming up with something on your own when you’ve been put on the spot. However, those puick up lines rarely work and often serve to get you rejected by the girl you’re trying to ask out. Check out these great tips on the best pick up lines and how to successfully ask a girl out.

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Be In The Moment

The best pick up lines come naturally. They come from the heart and are sincere. They’re not canned statements that can be used on any girl – they’re intelligent statements about your surroundings, what is going on and who you’re with. Most women don’t respond to manufactured pick up lines when dating – and not to worry, a girl can smell a fake pick up line from across the room. Rest assured that any cheesy statements will get you rejected! Instead of using canned pick up lines when dating, be “in the moment” and talk to the girl you’re asking out about what is going on around you. Ask her a question, compliment her in a genuine and sincere way or tease her with a giant smile on your face. Avoid making a comment about her physical appearance, especially her body. Gorgeous women are told all the time that they are gorgeous – they want a guy to make an effort to get to know her and value her for her intelligence, not the way she looks.

Be Yourself

When dating, it is important (crucial, in fact) that you be yourself instead of trying to be someone else. Not only will trying to be someone you think girls will like make you feel uncomfortable and out of place, people are going to see it on you right away. If you’re not relaxed and “in your own skin,” you’re not going to look natural when you ask a girl out. You’re going to look nervous and cheesy, and it’s going to be completely obvious to the girl you’re talking to that you’re not being yourself. When talking to a woman, be honest about your hobbies, your work and your opinions about things. Don’t try to tell her what you think she wants to hear, because you’re most likely going to be wrong on that count. You should also make a point to ask her honest questions about her life, her interests and hobbies and her opinions about things. Listen to what she says and do your best to show her that you’re genuinely interested. Women want their voice to be heard and want a guy that will take and interest in what interests them!

Practice Makes Perfect

If you’re shy, dating definitely doesn’t come naturally to you. For shy guys, dating and talking to new people can be downright torturous. You can, however, learn how to get more comfortable with dating and meeting people. The best way to comfortable with meeting new people and talking to them is to get some practice at it. “Practicing” is actually a pretty simple concept, but the hard part comes when you have to actually get out of your comfort zone. Try going out and meeting people! Go to a bar, a bookstore, a fast food restaurant or the park – go anywhere where there are people and make a point to say hello to as many people as you can. Bonus points if you can actually strike up an interesting conversation with someone! When you practice meeting new people, you’ll be much more comfortable when asking a girl out. If you’re comfortable in new social situations, you’re not going to need pick up lines to meet women!

Have Confidence In Yourself

The best way to be successful in dating is to have self confidence. Being confident in yourself is something that shows through in the way you talk, the way you carry yourself and how you appear to other people. Women don’t generally gravitate towards men that are shy, that hang their head down and wait for someone to approach them. Women are attracted to men who are conversational, personable and who eminate self assurance and self confidence. Just be careful not to appear too cocky, because men who give off a “cocky vibe” will definitely not succeed in dating!

How To Have A Hot Sex Marathon

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Having a hot sex marathon with your partner is a great way to figure out what you both like, as well as seeing just how long you can really last or how many orgasms you can have! There are a few things to keep in mind when you’re having a lot of really, really hot sex – like eating foods that will give you energy and keeping enough lube on hand so things don’t get dried out. Follow these suggestions for a super fun, hot sex marathon that will last for hours – or more!

Eat Healthy, Vitamin Packed Foods

Having a lot of hot sex means you have to have enough energy to keep it going – something that doesn’t always happen on its own. Prepare yourself beforehand by eating healthy, vitamin packed foods that are designed to give your body the energy and nutrients it needs for physical activity such as trying different, physically demanding sex positions. Don’t overeat, but try a spinach salad for lunch and lean protein such as chicken or fish for dinner if you’re going to be having sex all night. You can also grab a low fat energy bar for a quick burst of fuel before you get started. Make sure to drink lots of water, because it’s bound to get sweaty and it’s easy to get dehydrated. Definitely keep a cold bottle of fresh water by the bedside!

Men Only: Don’t Get Too Close To Orgasm

Ladies, of course, can have multiple orgasms during a hot sex marathon, but many men aren’t capable of the same. While it is possible to orgasm, rest and go again, it’s more taxing and physically tiring than if you had just held out on having an orgasm in the first place. Try using different sex positions if you’re getting to close to orgasm in the position that you’re in, or try giving your partner oral sex and letting yourself rest for a little while. To avoid having an orgasm too soon during super hot sex, don’t allow yourself to get too close to the brink before stopping. If you do, you may end up climaxing anyways and it probably won’t be as good.

Use Lots And Lots Of Lube

It’s unlikely your partner is going to be able to manufacture enough natural body fluids to keep things going smoothly during the entire hot sex marathon. To keep her from getting dried out after hours of intercourse, make sure you have a good, water based lube on hand. Don’t be afraid to be generous when applying lube to yourself or your partner – you can always get more and nothing feels worse than dry sex (for a woman at least!) Using lube doesn’t have to be a mood killer either. Many lubes come with a handy pump handle for easier use. If you’re having a lot of anal sex, try using a thicker, silicone based lube that lasts longer. Also, flavored lubes taste and smell better than regular lubes and might be a good choice for you if you plan to go back and forth between oral sex and intercourse.

Experiment A Little

Having a hot sex marathon doesn’t mean that you have to have intercourse the entire time. Try experimenting a little with a sex fetish or two, whether it be something as simple as fuzzy handcuffs and licking chocolate sauce off each other or something more hardcore, such as spanking or BDSM. Do something fun and different together while you’re taking a break from intercourse or oral sex – choose something that will keep the mood sexy and sensual but allow you and your partner some time to rest. This is a great time for a giving a sensual massage, watching a porn flick or playing dress up with some fun and sexy costumes. Just use your imagination!

Avoid Excessive Alcohol Consumption

Alcohol can be a great way to ease your hot sex jitters (it’s perfectly normal to feel a little nervous before you have marathon sex) but drinking too much can actually put a damper on your night. First of all, too much alcohol can turn your “eased tension” into sleepiness, and if you are really drinking, it can make you pass out. Excessive alcohol consumption can also cause short term erectile dysfunction, where the alcohol has affected the body so much that a man cannot get or maintain an erection very well. If you plan on drinking before having wild, hot sex, keep it to a glass or two of wine or beer and skip the hard liquor.

Dating Tips – How To Have Multiple Girlfriends And Be Honest About It

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Having multiple girlfriends is something single guys (and even men in relationships) dream about. Unfortunately for them, dating more than one girlfriend isn’t something that is achieved easily. Most guys try to lie about it, but they always get found out – leaving them alone with no one to date at all. It is possible, however, to have more than one girlfriend at a time without lying or cheating – here’s how!

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Be Truthful With Each Girl

If you want to have multiple girlfriends, you’re going to have to be completely, 100% truthful with each girl that you’re seeing. Let each one know that you’re dating other people and you’re not going to be exclusive. That way, if she’s looking for an exclusive relationship, she can look for one elsewhere before you both have too much time and emotion invested into a relationship that really isn’t going to be a relationship at all. Yes, this is difficult to do because some women will look at you like you’ve grown feet on your head and others will walk right out on you. However, the right girls won’t mind that you’re looking for a casual relationship and are seeing other people. They’ll be interested in casual dating too and will truly appreciate that you were completely forthcoming about your other girlfriends from the get go.

Let Her Know That You Like Her

In addition to being open with each girlfriend that you have, another trick to seeing  more than one woman is to let each girl know that you really do like her or love her. It’s ok to like or love more than one girl at a time, so don’t be afraid to tell a woman that you love her if you also have romantic feelings for someone else that you’re dating. Women by nature want to feel loved and cherished, and if you make each girlfriend feel like they are important to you and mean something to you, they’ll be more apt to stick around, even if you are romancing more than one woman.

Be Discreet About Your Dating Habits

When you have multiple girlfriends, it’s important that you keep your dating habits to yourself. Yes, you’ve been genuine with each woman that you date that you’re not in an exclusive relationship with them, but that doesn’t mean that any of the girls you’re dating want to see evidence of your relationships with other women. Don’t have pictures of you and your multiple girlfriends in your home (that is, if you bring any of your dates to your house) and don’t post pictures on social websites such as Facebook or MySpace. This will only lead to trouble and more trouble! Even if you do have multiple girlfriends, if you make each woman feel as though she is your only girl (even though they know it’s not true), you will have much more success than if you make them feel as though they’re not the only one. This truly is the key to seeing more than one woman at a time – if you can make each one feel special, loved and important, you’re in the clear.

What To Do If You Want To Become Exclusive

If you decide that you want to have an exclusive relationship with one of the women you’re dating, it’s important that you let each one of your multiple girlfriends know immediately. Don’t wait, and don’t continue dating them if you truly just want to be in a relationship with only one of them. It may be difficult to let your girlfriends know that you don’t want to see them anymore, but it will allow them to move on with their own lives and search out relationships of their own. It will also help you to be frank with the girl that you’ve chosen to be with, so you can let her know that you’ve decided you want to be with her and only her. A break up is a difficult thing and you’ll have more than one on your hands, but that’s one of the caveats of having multiple girlfriends. You may also want to give yourself some time apart from your chosen significant other – if you had any emotional attachments to the other women you were with, you’re going to have some post-break up blues for a little while. You don’t want to let your significant other see the emotions you have about breaking up with the other women because she may doubt that you made the right choice and that you want to be with her and only her.

Porn Moves Men Shouldn’t Use – Are You Guilty?

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While porn is a great way to check out your favorite sex fantasies being acted out, there are some things that happen in a porn movie that you don’t want to re-enact with your partner regardless of how adventurous you think she is. These are moves that most ladies will find offensive at best and may even leave you on the front porch with your bag in hand. Here’s what you need to avoid, no matter how much the idea turns you on – leave it to the professionals.

Deep Throating Without Telling Her First

In a porn movie blowjob, the object is not to give the man the best orgasm, but rather to put the woman in a submissive position and the man in a dominant one during sex. Often, the man will deep throat the woman during a blowjob, but will shove his penis as far down her throat as he can. He will usually do this without telling the woman first, surprising her by gagging her and making her eyes water. While many guys enjoy watching this in a porn because of the strong S&M factor, it’s probably not something you want to try at home with your girlfriend or wife. Not only will you piss her off, you may also get a lap full of vomit.

Anal Sex Without Lube

Porn does a great job of making anal sex look super easy. He just slips his penis in her anus and thrusts away, without worrying about a thing. And the best part is that the woman looks like she’s enjoying it, right? The reason that this works in porn but not in real life is that porn actresses are more accustomed to anal sex and large objects in the anus than your average girl off the street. If you want to try anal sex with your partner, start small (like with a finger or a small butt plug) and use lots and lots of good, water based lube. Anal sex without lube can hurt your partner, tear the anal tissues and may even cause an injury serious enough to win you both a visit to the emergency room.

Giving Her A “Facial”

Anyone who has watched porn knows about the “money shot.” When a man is ready to have an orgasm, he pulls his penis out and allows the camera to see him ejaculate on his partner – usually the vagina, thighs or butt. When a woman is giving a man a blowjob in a porn, he may pull his penis out and ejaculate on her face (thus, giving it the name a “facial.”) Some girls do enjoy being ejaculated on (and may even enjoy it in the face) but the far majority of real ladies will consider this demeaning and upsetting. If you want to give your girl a facial, talk to her about it beforehand and see if she’s down with it. If not, find somewhere else to finish the job.

Slapping Her With Your Penis

Guys in porn videos also have a bad habit of “slapping” their partners with their penises when having sex. This may be to help keep his penis hard, but it works the same way as deep throating – it’s another way to make a man appear dominant the woman submissive. Your lover may not mind having her butt slapped with your penis during anal sex or vaginal intercourse, but may get offended if you slap her in the face with it during a blowjob. If you want to smack your girl a little with your penis during sex, talk to her first and let her know that you’d love to try it. She may surprise you with her answer!

Blowjob After Anal Sex

Many anal sex porn flicks will feature the woman giving a man a blowjob right after he’s had anal sex with her. While this may appear sexy to some, it’s actually a very dangerous activity. While you generally don’t see any feces on his penis before she puts her mouth on it (this is because porn actresses will usually go through a regimen of fasting and enemas before filming), it’s covered in bacteria that could make her sick. If you would rather keep your girl out of the hospital with a nasty bout of e-coli, wash your penis thoroughly with soap and hot water after anal sex before doing anything else, including vaginal intercourse. You can also wear a condom during anal sex and take it off before vaginal intercourse or oral sex if you’re with a monogamous partner without STD’s.

Top 10 First Date Ideas – Where To Go & What To Do

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Coming up with original first date ideas isn’t easy. You’re looking for something that isn’t cliche, something sweet and fun with just a hint of romance and sexual tension. You want everything to be perfect! Dinner and a movie is played out, so here are some amazing and unique first date ideas that you can use to “wow” your date and get a second date before the first one is even over!

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Take A Ride At The Amusement Park

Who doesn’t love the nostalgic feeling of eating cotton candy and riding the rides at an amusement park? This is an excellent opportunity for flirting like you’re both teenagers again. Bonus points if you win her a stuffed animal from one of the carnival games.

Have A Lunch Date

Dinner is cliche, but having a lunch date isn’t! It’s a casual way to get to know someone, without the pressures that an intimate, romantic dinner on a first date can bring. If there’s chemistry there, you can take a longer lunch or extend the date – but if there’s none, a quick lunch is a great excuse to keep it short and sweet.

Learning Something New Together

Taking a class with someone you’re interested in is a great first date idea. Learning something new together is a great way to bond emotionally and to discover the chemistry between you two.

The Beach Or Lake

A romantic walk on a moonlit beach is every girl’s fantasy, but make sure to keep your eyes on her and not on the other eye candy that might be strolling around on the sand. This is a great way to turn a simple date into something much, much more.

Pool, Golf, Or Game Of Your Choice

A little friendly, flirty competition may be exactly what you need to secure a second date. Don’t forget to make a wager – loser takes the winner out for dinner next time.

Wine Tasting

Going wine tasting gives you a legitimate reason to have a few drinks to help your first date nerves! It’s also a great way to experience and taste new wines and cheeses and is a great date for two people who truly enjoy wine. Bonus points for finding a special new wine that becomes “our wine.”

Take Her Bowling

Bowling is great way to check out just how competitive he is! Whether you are any good at it or not, it is a laid back activity that gives you a chance to have a laugh together and relax. It’s great for a bit of flirting and he can use his manly skills to show you just how it’s done.

Head Out For A Bike Ride

Free, fun activities are great first date ideas in the credit crunch and enjoying the outdoors is one of the best. Unlike going for a long walk, a bike ride means you don’t have the pressure of having to find constant conversation. Take a picnic and stop for some nice leisurely breaks together when you want to talk and get to know each other.

Go For Dessert

When money is tight, there should always still be room for dessert, so why not make it the highlight of the night? It is a bit more fun and quirky than going for dinner, it makes for a cheap first date, and there is less pressure to find enough conversation to fill three courses. It’s also super romantic and sexy because you can feed each other small bites of the most decadent pies and cakes!

Roller Skating Or Ice Skating

Roller skating or ice skating makes for an excellent first date, especially if one of you is better than the other at the activity. “Teach” your partner how to roller or ice skate, or let them teach you! This is a romantic way to bond and you’ll probably end up in each other’s arms (and on the ground) more than once!

Go Scuba Diving Or Snorkeling

Scuba diving or snorkeling is a completely unique first date idea. If you live nearby an ocean or beach, explore the fish, coral reefs and marine life together. You won’t have the pressure of making a ton of conversation (because you’ll be underwater most of the time), but there will be plenty of time to connect with each other before the swim and after. You’ll also get to check out each other in your bathing suits! Bring a picnic lunch or dinner just in case everything goes well – besides, you’ll both be hungry after the swim!