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Got Porn? What Are Some Great Erotic Movies to Get HER in the Mood?

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Fact is most women aren’t turned on by the hard core stuff you see on Pay-Per-View and the Playboy channel…

The hard core stuff may work for the guys, but chances are it’ll do little or nothing for her. She most likely wants something with a little more warm up time and some intellectual stimulation, with a little slow seduction mixed in.

And I think most guys will agree that it’s well worth the extra time to get their partner as revved up as they are.

Certainly there’s lots of adult live video available online in every imaginable genre, much of it free on sites like Totally Free Cams and iFriends (warning: NSFW).

There’s something to be found for every imaginable sex fantasy and fetish out there.

But how about finding something different… some hot steamy sex movies that will get you both excited and ready for a memorable night of hot, passionate sexual adventure?

The Question

My wife had suggested watching porn together to get her excited before having sex. I thought it was a great idea, but I had a hard time selecting a video that isn’t too raunchy or distasteful… do you have any recommendations?

The Answer

Fact is hard core porn doesn’t really get women excited and in the mood. It’s just a little too over the top for most women. For this reason a lot of men think women don’t like watching sex movies. Nothing could be further from the truth – women just have slightly different tastes.

So why not try a different twist? How about some steamy erotic movies that will get you both excited and ready for a memorable night of hot, passionate sexual adventure?

Sexy, Erotic Thrillers

There are quite a few options in the erotic thriller category, many of which are truly good quality movies that include a real plot and real characters with depth – the kind you can actually relate to.

An erotic thriller should have the key ingredients to get you both going in the right direction: sexual attraction and lust, a little danger and excitement, sexual intrigue or forbidden passions, and slow seduction.

Here are some of our favorite hot erotic thrillers

Start with these and see what happens

Get a couple of these and plan to stay in for a hot movie date with your partner. See how you two feel when things start to get hot – and guys, when you start to get really excited, wait another 15 minutes to give her time to catch up…

P.S. – If anyone knows of any similar movies that we don’t have listed, add a comment and share you favorites. We’re always looking for new erotic movies to watch together.

But if you still find yourself looking for something more hard core, then check out some of the adult live streaming video sites like Totally Free Cams or iFriends (warning: NSFW).

What the World Needs Now, is Love, Sweet Love…

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Here’s a great article from one of our featured authors, Janet Landers.

Janet is an astrologer and life coach who uses Universal Laws, including the Law of Attraction, in her teaching.

For over twenty years, Janet has offered her wisdom in both workshop and personal settings coast-to-coast.

In this incredibly touching and heart felt article, “Sacred Relationship”, Janet tells us how to let go of our past and love ourselves first so that we might enjoy truly wonderful relationships with others.

Sacred Relationship

“What the World Needs Now, is Love, Sweet Love…”
by Janet Landers

The twenty-first century has born its own brand of relationships. Computer dating and internet porn sites offer a myriad of ways to entertain those seeking love. Love is in the process of being redefined, yet it is the eternal yardstick for happiness.

Sacred relationship begins with the self.

Where are you in this regard?

Begin by assessing your strengths and your weaknesses. Be as honest as you can realizing that to get more of what you want, you have to be clear where you are. The art of Recapitulation involves revisiting one’s past in order to get clarity and be able to reside in the present moment with peace.

Just as Don Juan Mateus guided Carlos Castaneda in this venture, begin by remembering all you can remember about yourself in the context of relationship. Do not judge, stay in the memory, remember how you were feeling. This may take several attempts, include journaling, scripting, or talking aloud……just remember it all.

When you arrive at the present with your past memories, you are allowed to let go, and make peace with it all. No matter how dark it may have been in your view, it can only be resolved by putting grace around the past and owning it as a human experience.

Only when you have been able to clear these triggers of your subconscious, is one able to create a new script with the expectation of total freedom.

Next…

Own your body, for it is sacred. We live in a world of judgments. Think about this, nearly any one of us could choose to focus on what might be “wrong”, and have a pretty comprehensive list. It won’t get better, as one gets older either.

So, choose right now to see your divine self with all the extraneous anomalies as being the perfect “you”. Love your hair, your skin, teeth, shape, posture, and color…….for it is a blessing to have a body and live in this world. Be willing to see these “imperfections” as part of the human experience. Let go of comparisons.

Yes, this takes some work, but what better investment?

As you relax into yourself, begin to focus more on the feelings of happiness, contentment and joy. Imagine sharing these feelings, staying in the moment. Begin to daydream that special other who responds with caring and sensitivity, and appreciation for what you bring to the experience.

Honor yourself, love yourself, and get good at it. Establish a value system that defines you and live by that code.

“Love your neighbor as yourself.”

Begin with self.

Then let the real enjoyment of relationship begin!

Janet Landers is an astrologer and life coach who uses Universal Laws, including the Law of Attraction, in her teaching. For over twenty years, Janet has offered her wisdom in both workshop and personal settings coast-to-coast. For more information call 469-358-2595

Shocking Sex Poll Results – The Surprising Verdict on Swinging and Polyamory!

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Wow, what a ride…

Last week we took a poll to see exactly how our readers feel about Swinging and Polyamory.

We asked: "Would you ever consider swinging or polyamory?"

The conversation was heated and down right amazing. Readers left hundreds of comments all over Netscape.com and on the posts themselves.

So just what were the results of this controversial sex poll?

More than 3000 of our readers spoke out and the answers will surprise you…  

Here’s the breakdown as of 3/1/2007

(we’ll update this periodically as the number change)

  • 35% of our readers (1060 votes) said that they would be willing to try swinging with the right group of people
  • 20% of our readers (599 votes) said that monogamy is the only way to go
  • 16% of our readers (492 votes) were strongly against it
  • 16% of our readers (497 votes) are active in the swinger lifestyle and lovin’ it
  • 13% of our readers (392 votes) said it’s not for them , but they don’t have a problem if someone else does it

What was really interesting is that 51% of the people polled were either active in the swinging lifestyle or willing to try it while only 36% were stongly against it or said that monogamy is the only way to go. The other 13% of our readers said that it’s not for them, but they don’t have a problem if someone else does it..

Wow – don’t know about you, but we expected the numbers to be a little different ;-). 

It’s a close call but it looks like Swinging and Polyamory are in!

Take the poll

  1. If you’re one of the few who missed it, here’s the post that sparked so much conversation and controversy: My Best Friend’s a Swinger – Will She Burn in Hell?
  2. If you haven’t taken the poll yet, Take the Swinger / Polyamory Sex Poll to make your vote count on this incredibly controversial topic.
  3. And be sure you make yourself heard in the other hot poll of the week: Sex Poll – Is It OK to Have Sex During That Time of the Month?

Don’t forget to leave a comment below to let us know where you stand. 

Attract the Right Person to Your Online Dating Profile With a Great Headline

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It’s deceptively simple to sign up to an online dating site, but creating a profile that attracts the right kind of person to you can be a little tricky.

Does it seem like no matter what you do, the wrong people keep contacting you?

Does it really matter what you put in all of those little interest and hobby fields?

The answer is yes – sometimes.

What you say in your headline and in the details, and how you say it, can make all the difference.

The Question

Do a person’s hobbies attract a certain type of person? Do online daters even look at the hobbies and interest sections of your profile?

I have a problem with dating online. I spend a bunch of time making my profile “ME”. I let my potential daters know exactly what I am about, but I still get interested people that have nothing in common with me. I’m tired stressing that some of my hobbies are my life. They are who I am. In my case it’s playing my instruments and making records. My thoughts were that the ladies would see how much I stress those facts. I always get interest from ladies I have no interest in. This may sound crazy, but I can’t like someone that is into pop music and I like rock. How do a stress, even more, that I am my interest and I am not interested in any other type of lady?

The Answer

It can be very frustrating when the wrong people keep responding to your online profile.  You can use your headline to ‘qualify’ potential matches from beginning and further narrow it down in your detailed description.

A Great Headline

A great headline should sum up who you are and what you’re looking for in one short and witty sentence.

In this example, some good headlines might be:

“Music is my life. Want to share my life?”

“Let’s make great music together”

“Wanna rock? Only serious music lovers need apply”

“Hard core rocker looking for groupie”

The Devil is in the Details

My grandmother always said that the devil is in the details and I’ve always found that to be true. The details of your online profile should really identify what you’re all about and what you’re looking for in a relationship…

If there are certain types of people that you are absolutely not interested in, say it in your profile but try to keep it positive. If you don’t like pop music, you might say something like.

“Music is my life. To me there is only one great genre of music – ROCK. If you love rock music as much as I do, let’s meet. I do apologize, but if you like POP music, I’m not going to be a good match for you. Yes, I recognize how extreme this must sound, but making great rock music truly is my life and I’m looking for someone who can appreciate this lifestyle as much as I do. Are you the groupie that I’m searching for?”

As for all of those extra check boxes for hobbies and interests… I feel that those are less important unless the website has a matching algorithm that sends you potential matches based on your specific interests and hobbies. If that’s the case, make sure you fill out all of those fields so that you’ll get the best matches.

Some People Just Won’t Get It

Unfortunately, there are some people in this world who will never read the instructions no matter how clear you make them. For those people, you’ll just have to politely excuse yourself and move on to the next profile on your list.

You don’t want to get too harsh in your profile, or you may drive away just the girl you’re looking for. Do make sure that you ask potential daters what kind of music they like and whether or not they would enjoy your lifestyle during your initial communications with them. That will at least save you a little time weeding through the one’s you’re not interested in…

Understanding the Law of Attraction

There is one other incredibly powerful tool that can help you in your search for the perfect match. It’s called the Law of Attraction. A really quick exercise that will help you find just the right person for you is to write down on a piece of paper exactly what you’re looking for in a partner. Try to focus more on how you feel when you’re with this person and less on their physical appearance. Having said that, if you love redheads, write that down too.

Imagine your perfect partner in every detail… (write it down)

Then, every night before your go to sleep, close you eyes and visualize, or imagine being with this person for at least 5 – 10 minutes. Really get into it. What are you doing together? How do you feel when you’re together? What do you hear? What do you smell?

This will get your message out to the Universe. Now it’s your job to act on any hunches, gut feelings, or intuitions that you get over the next few weeks. If you get a weird urge to stop by a store that you’ve never been in  – do it. If you have  a weird idea to go to a museum – do it. You never know who you might meet while following you intuition.

True love may be just around the corner…

Why You Should Stop Being the Backup Guy Before It’s Too Late

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So what does it mean to be “The Backup Guy”?

The backup guy is the one she calls to go out when no one else is around. He’s the one that’s always there for her just in case she needs him. He is not however, very high on her priority list and she will cancel plans, not show up, and otherwise treat him like a lower class citizen.

And she can get away with it because he REALLY likes HER.

So what should you do if you find yourself in this situation?

The Question

I have been asking out a woman for more than a month. She keeps saying yes, but then either has excuses or disappears. I know she was wrapping up with an ex-boyfriend and that was part of the problem. He is now out of the picture and she now says she doesn’t want to date till she’s past it. This again puts me on a back burner, where she still says she would like to go out sometime.

She says that I’m a NICE GUY, just the kind she probably needs. I told her she might not want a nice guy and she said I was wrong. In social situations, not dates because can’t get her to go on a real date, she is very flirty with everyone.

Normally I would bail out at this point, but when I do my phone rings off the hook she’s wondering why I’m ignoring her. I know she has others admirers, so what? I like her a lot and she knows it. It seems she is just trying to hang on for the comfort effect. I want to move forward or move on. Forward gets blocked. Moving on gets phone calls… Suggestions would be nice!!

The Answer

You’re absolutely right. She seems to be entertaining you so that she has a security blanket and doesn’t have to be alone.

It’s good that she wants to get past her previous relationship before dating again, but she seems a little flaky and it sounds like you’re not exactly her type, but you’re there when she is lonely.

The “Backup Guy”

To cut right to the chase – You’re the back up guy in case no one better shows up…

When I say ‘better’, I mean from her perspective… Don’t think that there’s anything wrong with you. This just doesn’t sound like a 2-way fit…

When she says that you’re the kind of guy that she probably needs. She’s really saying that you’re not the kind of guy she thinks she wants. She may be taking advantage, intentionally or not, of the fact that you do like her a lot so that she doesn’t have to deal with her break up and face being alone.

Don’t settle for someone who’s not equally crazy about you.

The chase can be a lot of fun but is has to be a two way chase. Have you ever seen two puppies chasing each other around the yard or kids playing tag? They take turns chasing and then being chased and everyone has a lot of fun in the process. That’s how a new (and seasoned) relationship should be – fun! It can however been incredibly frustrating when you’re the only one doing the chasing.

The Vacuum Law

There’s a Universal Law known as the Vacuum Law. Basically, what it tells us is that when we give up something that we don’t want, or that is not bringing us joy, it creates an empty space, or vacuum, that can then be filled with something that we do want and that will bring us joy.

Time to Move On

If I were you, I would go with my gut on this one and move on. Create a vacuum that can be filled by someone that is right for you. She’s never going to move forward and if she does, she’ll probably dump you as soon as she sees some one that she thinks she likes more. I personally feel that she needs to spend some alone time to figure out what she’s really looking for.

So how do you keep your phone from ringing off the hook?

The first thing that I would do is be honest with her and tell her that you don’t see the relationship going anywhere and that you’d like to just be friends. Make sure that she knows you’re no longer sitting around waiting for her – and stick to it!

And if that doesn’t work…

Do you have caller ID? If I were you I would screen my calls and stop answering her calls. You are under no obligation to answer your phone for anyone. It may sound harsh, but she’ll eventually get the message.

I would however try the honesty approach first.