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Blowjobs 101: What Your Man Secretly Wishes You Knew About Oral Sex… But Will Never, Ever Tell You To Your Face!

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Most women know that men love blowjobs. And many women can adequately please their partners orally, more or less anyway. But can YOU truly blow your partner’s mind when you give him head and have him absolutely begging for more?

Here are some surprising facts about blowjobs:

  • Did you know that your tongue is a muscle just like every other muscle in your body and exercising it will make it stronger and more powerful?
  • Did you know the tongue can put six to eight pounds of pressure on a man’s penis?
  • Did you know a great handjob can feel as good as a blowjob to a man if it’s done the right way?
  • Do you know that a string of pearls, a silk scarf and a bag of Skittles can make your man’s toes curl?

If you’ve ever wanted to give your partner the kind of blowjob you know he wants, then we have a little secret to share with you.

First, let’s talk about why you are not pleasing him through oral sex…

Three Mistakes that MOST Women Make Consistently and the One Killer Mistake that ALL Women Make When Giving Head

Mistake #1: Awkwardness and Feeling Tired After Just Several Minutes of Giving Head

Most women can start a blowjob right but never finish because of tongue muscle cramps and jaw locking. When these happen, men feel the tension (and more often than not, sharp teeth!) and get turned off.

Mistake #2: Seeing Blowjob as a Tedious Chore

You CAN learn to enjoy blowjob just by being adventurous and playful. If you can see blowjob as a way to express your sexuality, you will never have to feel tired or bored while giving head.

Mistake #3: Lack of Knowledge of the “Hot Spots: on the Penis and the Whole Gonad Area

There are specific areas on a man’s penis which increase the likelihood of orgasm, but a lot of women miss these completely.

And, finally, here’s the most common mistake that lead to annoyance, discomfort and relationship tension….

Mistake #4: Some Women Do NOT Develop a Fail-ProofSystem to Make Him Climax through Oral sex

To really learn the skills to make him climax through blowjob, you must develop a system to vary, combine and intensify the pleasurable sensations men feel while being blown… and they let their men confuse them even more with barely thought out instructions on where to lick, when to suck harder and when to speed up…

If no consistency is achieved, what results is a hit-and-miss blowjob style that only works at certain times. This lack of consistency makes women feel more inferior about their blowjob skills.

If you’re ready to take the plunge and start learning about how to really turn your partner on…

Our friend Jessica Perez just published an amazing guide called Blow His Mind Tonight which is all about the in-and-outs of giving your man the best blowjob of his life. Never before have we seen a book so loaded with useable blowjob tips and techniques as this one!

Not only is Jessica’s book great for beginners, it also contains a wealth of information for women who simply want to amp up their blowjob skills and increase their sexual skills.

Jessica’s Blow His Mind Tonight is not only a great place to get started with lots of exercises to help your mouth’s strength and stamina, but also a great place to get tons of ideas on what positions to use and what tongue techniques will work the best.

Check out the awesome information that Jessica has in her incredible book:

  • Learn correct tongue placement and easy tongue exercises that you can do anywhere, anytime to make your mouth a powerful pleasure deliverer!
  • Find out the right way to breathe during a blowjob
  • Learn how to make your hands baby bottom soft for that perfect handjob
  • Test your blowjob abilities with two fun, before and after quizzes to see how much you’ve improved your oral sex skills
  • The different parts of an orgasm, including arousal, ejaculation and recovery
  • Learn how to give your partner the holy grail of blowjobs – deep throating – without gagging
  • Learn dozens of different techniques to use during handjobs and blowjobs to give your man the ultimate pleasure

But hold on a second, there’s a catch.

Before you download Jessica Perez’s Blow His Mind Tonight, make sure you’re willing to put in the effort it takes to learn how to give your partner the ultimate head. While Jessica’s guide is practically bursting at the seams with information, it’s not going to guarantee that you instantly become an oral sex goddess. The tips and techniques included in her book are things you actually have to do to make work, so make sure you’re willing to invest your time into learning how to give your partner an amazing blowjob.

If you think you have what it takes to learn tongue exercises, handjob techniques, blowjob techniques and the ultimate deep throating techniques to really blow your partner’s mind, download Blow His Mind Tonight and get started!

Still not sure? Read Our Review of Blow His Mind Tonight.

4 Incredibly Naughty Rear Entry Sex Positions

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Sex positions are a great way to spice up your sex life. If you want to add a naughty element, try these 4 super hot rear entry sex positions tonight!

1. The Partial Wheelbarrow

Ask your partner to bend at the waist in front of a chair or bed, and get her to rest her head and forearms there comfortably. Stand behind her and grab onto one of her ankles, pulling her leg off the floor so that it’s close to your hip. Tell her to keep her knee bent and limp in your hand, so that you can push against it when thrusting so as not to hurt her. Then enter her from behind, making sure she’s still got one foot on the floor and she’s using her head and arms to balance herself. Put your free hand on her opposite hip, and move inside her using her hips as the pivot point.

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You get to thrust to your heart’s content and get an amazing view of her jewels, while she gets the head rush of being face down, with all the G-Spot stimulation she craves. She can also create a lot of tension using her arms, and the angle from keeping one leg up in the air changes the feeling in an oh-so-orgasmic way. Vary things up a bit by bending your knees slightly for a slightly different angle. Whoever is able to reach can tickle her clitoris for extra sensory pleasure.

2. The Rocking Wheelbarrow

Get your gal into a push up position with her arms outstretched and her body off the ground. While standing behind her, lift one of her legs onto a rocking chair, while you hold her other bent leg just below the knee. Ask her to keep the leg on the chair as straight as possible while you enter her. She’ll be able to push back against the rocking chair for leverage, and you’ll be able to hold most of her weight. Use the chair to determine the rhythm, or have her push back with her arms and chair-bound foot. You’ll definitely want to have your knees bent for this position, and try to focus your thrusting upwards instead of into her body.

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We’re relying on her feeling of weightlessness again to help her along the orgasmic process, but this time she’s got a bit of extra help with the rocking chair. The chair helps with rhythm, helping to hold her steady while you have sex, and gives her something to help create tension, which we both know is incredibly important for a woman to reach an impending orgasm. Although she won’t be able to finger herself, she will get ample G-Spot stimulation along with a definite fun factor. This isn’t a position either of you will be able to hold for long, so try it out when she’s nearing her explosion stage, or when you’ve both got energy to spare.

3. Flying Doggy Style

Have your lover lie down on her stomach and do a push up, keeping her body straight and her legs bent. Come up behind her on your knees and grip her outer thighs as you slide into her. As you lift her pelvis, get her to wrap her legs around your back, while bending her knees even more and putting her calves behind your lower back or buttocks. If she’s in the correct position, her feet will face the ceiling and her bum will be flush up against the base of your penis. Support her weight with your hands, or place a large stack of pillows under her hips to help keep her in the right position  Glide your bodies back and forth in unison, but not too vigorously or she’ll lose her balance. The higher you’re able to hold her up off the bed, the more G-Spot stimulation she’ll receive.

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There’s nothing like doggy style sex for deep penetration, but the flying doggy takes deep to a whole new level. Play around with how you move inside of her, since only subtle movements are possible here. Try short, quick strokes to massage the area where her G-Spot sits, or try long, slow, languishing strokes where she uses her feet to pull you back inside of her. If she gets tired as she nears climax, have her tilt her head down while she props herself up on her forearms. This way she’ll still be suspended in air, but she’ll have better balance and less back strain.

4. Over And Under

Have your partner position herself in doggy position on the floor with a small table, chair or even a few pillows next to one of her legs. Get her to put one leg up on the support next to her, so that her leg is perpendicular to the floor and completely straight. Come at her from behind, placing one of your legs inside hers, the other outside her straight and propped-up leg. Kneel down with the majority of your weight between her legs and enter her. Your leg on the outside will likely only drape over hers without touching the ground, and that’s just what you want.

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You’re coming at her from an odd angle in this position, yet both partners have leverage to push back or thrust deeper. You’ll be a little off balance too, which might give her a rush from the unusual rhythm and thrusting, especially if she’s nearing the pre-orgasm phase. Because your body is propped up against the length of hers, you may be able to take one of your hands and sneak it underneath her for some clitoral action. If you can’t reach around, try pushing firmly on her mons pubis and see if you can feel your penis moving inside her. If you can, apply more pressure to sandwich those special G-Spot area nerve endings, and see if it brings her closer to orgasm even faster.

99% Of Women DON’T Know How To Give A Blowjob – Are YOU One Of Them?

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Almost any guy can get a blowjob and ejaculate. But does that mean the blowjob was great, or even mediocre? Not hardly!

In fact, chances are, almost EVERY blowjob that your guy has gotten has sucked – and not in the good way! (And this includes the blowjobs he’s gotten from YOU)

Why?

A recent study from Men’s Health magazine shows 44% of men would leave you for some other random chick with better blowjob skills. This actually happens.

You may have a great personality and looks, but when your man discovers another woman who sucks like an angel from heaven, your relationship may collapse worse than a house of cards in a thunderstorm!

Why Is Giving Great Head So Important?

You might think that this is shallow – that guys should be more interested in the mutual love and trust that comes from a great relationship, not how good the sex or oral sex is. But studies and polls show that almost half of guys who are dissatisfied with their sex lives are unhappy because their partners either don’t give them head at all, don’t give them enough head, or are so bad at it that he’d just rather her not do it at all.

Are YOU one of those women?

Listen, finding a woman who can give an intensely satisfying blowjob is a rare find indeed. She is one in a million – a guy who finds a girl who can suck him off and actually ENJOYS doing it will get a ring on her finger in no time. In fact, he may not even get his pants zipped up before he’s running off to the jewelry store. Yes, learning how to give incredible oral sex is the KEY to snagging the man of your dreams.

Then keep reading. We found an incredible resource that will teach you not only the basics of giving a guy head, but tips, tricks and techniques that he’s NEVER had any other girl use on him – guaranteed! He’ll be so surprised when you give him a blowjob like this that he’ll brag about you to all his guy friends – and his guy friends will want you to teach THEIR girlfriends how to give head that good!

Jack’s Blowjob Lessons will teach you how to be the one that every man will actually want to keep and truly fall in love with! (Yes, your oral sex skills are that important!)

WARNING: It’s only fair that we warn you that these tips and tricks are SO HOT that your fella will be begging for you to go down on him ALL the time. If you don’t want to unleash the beast and make him think that you’re a complete and total sex goddess, then don’t read this book. But if you’re ready to see how hot things can really get, Jack’s Blowjob Lessons will show you how to work your man’s member in a way that will make his knees weak, make his legs shake, and make him say your name over and over!

What You’ll Learn In Jack’s Blowjob Lessons

  • Attitude. This is essential. If you have the wrong attitude when you start going down on him, you’ll be lucky if he can even get it up. This guide will teach just how important attitude is and how to come across the right way. You’ll also learn little tricks and techniques that help him to pick up on your attitude so you KNOW you’re conveying the right thing.
  • Blowjob Positions. Positioning yourself for comfort is also incredibly important – a huge reason that girls don’t enjoy giving head or don’t do it very well is that they’re uncomfortable. So they suck on it for a bit and then move on to having sex, because hey, who wants a crick in their neck? But there ARE blowjob positions that will keep you comfortable for hours while you give your man the greatest pleasure he’s EVER experienced!
  • How to set the atmosphere and how to engage in foreplay. Foreplay isn’t just for women. Sure, men can get hard in a few seconds and get it on, but does that mean it’s really GOOD? This guide will show you how setting the right atmosphere and engaging in plenty of foreplay will get your man so hot, he’s trembling before you even put your lips on his penis.
  • Blowjob Techniques. What would a guide about how to give head be without several specific techniques you can use? These are easy to learn and easy to follow, but your man will wonder where you picked them up and just how you got to be so darn good at giving head! (This includes deep-throating – if you can learn how to deep throat during oral sex, he’ll be yours forever.)
  • Dirty Talk. Guys want to hear how much you love sucking them off. Jack’s Blowjob Lessons will give you specific examples of things you can say that will get your man so turned on, he’s gasping for you to finish him!
  • Spitting vs. Swallowing. Semen is one of the biggest reasons that women avoid blowjobs. They think it’s “yucky” and sometimes it is. But this guide will teach you how to swallow or discreetly spit in a way that still makes your man think that you LOVE it when he ejaculates after a blowjob.

What People Are Saying About Jack’s Blowjob Lessons:

“I tried it when my boyfriend came home, we had dinner, and then I said I wanted desert and he asked me what I wanted and I said, “I don’t know but I want this” touching his penis. He loved that, lol. I did the “smart housewife” and oh my! Lets just say last night was awesome! And the best thing about it is I enjoyed sucking my boyfriend’s d**k!” – Victoria

“Let me start by saying WOW!!!!!  We have been married 19 years and together 8 years before that.  My husband has always been good at letting me know what felt good and we often experiment new ways.  After a blowjob he would say “Oh that was great”  So as you said I thought I was doing a good job.  Bought your book last night browsed through it.  Last night I surprised him with a late evening blowjob. His reaction at the end game point “F**K OH F**K WOW, OH MY, WOW F**K, THAT WAS THE BEST EVER I MEAN EVER REALLY I MEAN EVER!” – Cliona

“Dude I just wanted to say thank you…my girlfriend bought your book and was telling me about it and then tried so much of that stuff on me. I really appreciate all that stuff you had the balls to write in your book. You are definitely one of my new heroes for sure. Thanks again man, also thank the ex porn star also, my girlfriend loved her advice!” – Brian

So are you ready to take the next step and become the BEST lover your man has ever had?

Are you ready to give your fella a blowjob so good, he’s dripping with sweat and can’t even stand up afterwards?

Do you want him to brag to his friends about how amazing HIS girlfriend is at giving head?

Get your copy of Jack’s Blowjob Lessons TODAY and give your guy head so incredible, he’ll never want another girl again!

2 Ways To Make Foreplay Hotter

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Foreplay is incredibly important if you want a great sex session. Here are two easy ways to make foreplay even hotter, and you can use them tonight!

More Isn’t Better

How do you know the foreplay is enough and that it’s a perfect time to ride?

The answer is you don’t, even a woman doesn’t really know. This isn’t a simple inquiry about time or quantity. With foreplay, more is not necessarily better. If it’s a long and lame one, then it’s a long and lame foreplay. You’re merely prolonging the agony of what could have been short anguish. It’s unnecessary and worse than no foreplay at all!

But even amazing foreplay will eventually reach a point of diminishing returns. Stay too long with it and it ceases to be great – that’s reality and you have to forge ahead before it gets stale. (But something tells me that stalling the foreplay isn’t the biggest issue with most guys. I have yet to hear a woman complain that her man gives too much.)

But Is Less More?

On the other hand, less is more doesn’t hold. It may be true for things like make-up or dancing, but sex is a different ballgame altogether. Sometimes less is just that less. You have to let things heat up, and when it’s hot, make it even hotter and allow a woman to really get the hang of things.

So where do balance and the optimum point lie? The fact that women are not a homogenous group, doesn’t make it any easier. So what can you do?

Look at your lover, read her. She will tell you stuff she doesn’t even have the audacity to verbalize – open your eyes and witness what she’s screaming without words. Only then would you see the glaring window to transition from foreplay to play. Only then would you know the most opportune time for it. (Do you see how calibration works at the advantage of long term partners over one-night stands?)

To help you decide whether or not she’s ready for your penis, check on two things you should have achieved:

An Extended Make Out And Foreplay Session

This includes all the works – kissing, caressing, hugging, even dirty talking and sex games – all those things men tag as preliminaries to the real thing. Add 5-15 extra minutes  to your usual. This way, you’re giving her plenty of time to catch up and really rev up her engines.

Give Her An Orgasm Or Two

Follow the “ladies first” rule. A lot of seasoned guys make it a rule to never ride unless she cums once or twice via manual/oral work. They let the lady have hers first, before they mount away. Stimulate her all the way to orgasm and don’t leave her hanging, hoping that penetration will finish the job. Penetration is one of the most ineffective ways of making women orgasm.

Anal Fisting – To Try Or Not To Try

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Anal fisting is definitely an extreme form of anal sex, and it’s not for the faint of heart. Before you try anal fisting, read this first!

What Is Anal Fisting?

During anal fisting, your entire hand is placed in your partner’s rectum. I know, it sounds scary and impossible. With the right instructions though, lots of care and well mastered skills this practice can become a highly erotic and pleasurable part of your anal routine. As Gayle Rubin notes in reference to anal fisting, “it is an art that involves seducing one of the jumpiest and tightest muscles in the body.”

The first thing you need to know is that anal fisting does NOT mean that you clench your fist and try to squeeze it by all means possible inside your partner’s rectum. Instead, all five fingers are held stretched and really really closed together and only then the insertion can begin.

Also, a latex glove and lube are vital. Apply large quantities of water based lubricants on both her anus and your hand, without worrying about the mess. Oil and fat-based lubes are a no-go, since they can literally cut up holes into the latex glove, easing the transfer of bacteria. Moreover, they are bad for mucous membranes such as the one inside the anus and rectum.

The most important thing however is to start really slow, take your time and advance only when she agrees to. It should not hurt her and she should be in charge, although you’re the one handling her literally. Let her set the pace and tell her to say when she wants you to stay still, come forward, back off or back out completely. Whatever indication she gives you, follow it accordingly.

Before you start, read this set of instructions carefully, even learn it by heart, if necessary.

How To Get Started

  1. Find a comfortable spot for your partner. She should be able to have enough room to stretch as much as she needs and wants.
  2. Now that she’s relaxed and comfortable, it’s time for you to get her turned on. If you want her anus to open up, she needs to be as aroused as ever. Use your best techniques for this one, her favorite sex toy, her most desired cunnilingus session, whatever you know really works in her case.
  3. Coat your entire hand with water based lubricant, after you’ve put the latex glove on. Go very, very slowly. One finger, then two, then three, etc. Now that we’re on the topic of fingers, your fingernails should be short and smooth, even if you’re wearing a glove.
  4. Try and minimize the space that your hand takes as much as you can. Tuck your thumb and group the rest of the fingers close to one another.
  5. The most difficult part is to move past the knuckles so push gently and slowly. Slowly rotate your hand to gain more space and open her up bit by bit. While you’re doing this, talk to her, let her know that everything is ok and that she is doing great. A few words of comfort and encouragement will relax her.
  6. Once you’re all in, don’t move. Give her a few moments to get used to the pressure. After she gives you the green light, you can start moving your hand as you please: up and down, left and right, in circles, etc.
  7. When she’s ready to let you go, the removal procedure should be just as careful and slowly maneuvered. Even though she’s more aroused and enlarged now, that doesn’t mean you should just stick it out like nothing happened. You can cause her pain and serious injuries.

Health Concerns

Although it is generally thought of as carrying small risk as far the spread of sexually transmitted diseases is concerned, there are other more serious health risks that you should know about before engaging in it.

If you don’t follow the rules, if you don’t do it properly or don’t listen to her warning signs, you can cause her very serious injuries, like ruptured bowels, internal tears and lacerations, infections (either of the anus or the urinary tract), inflammations of the pelvis, bruising of the cervix, and even sterility. And be aware that overstretching her anal sphincters may cause them to lose some of their tone, which can lead to bowel and gas control problems.