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5 HOT Fingering Techniques

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Fingering isn’t as “old school” as you might think. If you do it the right way, you can bring your lover to incredible orgasmic heights!

There are some moves that just don’t work without a lot of lubrication, even if you aren’t penetrating her yet. A drop or two just won’t do and most women will appreciate a bit of extra lube for these techniques, even if she is already lubricating on her own.

1. The Electric Slide

Place the tip of your middle finger over her clitoris, then slide the entire length of your finger by, slowly, keeping constant contact with her little bud. Don’t move too fast. Keep a steady hand and don’t put too much pressure on her sensitive parts. She’ll let you know if she wants to go further.

You may want to separate her lips a bit to ensure more intense sensation, but remember that if you move your hand upward toward her during fingering, you will be pushing her clitoral hood out of the way. As you slide your hand back toward her feet, you will push the hood back in place, covering her up and allowing a relief from any intensity. Take your time learning which direction she loves best, and how heavy a hand she prefers.

2. The Tick-Tock Clit Clock

This fingering move is designed to give you a better idea of which sides or spots around her clitoris are the most sensitive to touch. Use a well-lubricated finger on a well-lubricated clitoris, holding her lips apart, exposing her most sensitive area. Imagining her clitoris is a clock face. Use your slick fingertip to trace a small circle around the outside of this clock, stopping and rubbing in even smaller circles at every hour. This will be a bit more difficult than with the previous exercise, working with such a small space, but you may be surprised at what you find.

3. Jack & Jill

Now don’t get me wrong here. I’m not trying to say that her clit is the same as a penis, but I am saying that you don’t have a monopoly on jerking off. Called “jacking” by a lot of men, modern day sexperts like to refer to this little move as “jilling off.” Welcome to a whole new world of clitoral stimulation! Give this a read, then go and welcome your wife.

The essential factor of jilling is to stimulate the clitoris by pumping it, through the protective sheath of the clitoral hood, which acts like a foreskin for the clit’s sensitive head. Use the outer edge of your hand, under your baby finger, to push up gently on the mons and expose the clit. From this position, you can use the thumb and forefinger from the same hand to feel for the clitoral shaft.

Probe around beneath her clitoral hood, where it begins from the crevice of her inner labia. You will be able to feel the stem protruding and should be able to gently grasp it between your fingers. From this position, massage it up and down in steady, rhythmic motions. Keep your fingers on the shaft and don’t pull the clitoral hood back too far. You may not feel like your movements are doing much, but you should be able to tell from her reaction how many nerve endings you are hitting with this one!

4. Knuckle Down

This second-last move is only for masters of jilling, really just a modification of that fingering technique. Having found that super-sensitive clitoral shaft, you have a variety of techniques available to you with this little nub in your hand. Instead of using your fingertips, this method uses the knuckles of your index and middle finger to grasp and stroke the shaft. Don’t forget to experiment during fingering! A change in speed or pressure could make all the difference in making this orgasmic.

5. Turning On

You might have a hard time jilling the shaft if her clitoris is small, or the hood is very tight, but don’t fret! Using either fingertips or knuckles, as in the last two fingering techniques, instead of pumping the shaft, you can turn it from side to side like a key in a lock. Keep your fingering rhythm and don’t try to go too hard or too fast.

This particular movement is probably the best way to mimic her masturbation technique, though you’ll certainly want to take a good look at it before you make a comparison. Either way, this kind of direct clitoral stimulation is definitely at the top of a short list of fingering moves that will let you make her come single-handedly.

How To Learn To Flirt Easily

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Learning to flirt can be easy when you look at the examples that other guys who are good at it have set. Here are some great ways to learn to flirt easily!

While it can be great to start off by using pick up lines, you want to eventually develop your own style. Here are some other ways to learn how to talk to women that work.

Irresistible Film Legends

Films can portray false realities that would never happen in real life, but there are some movies where men are doing exactly the right things to attract women. Here’s just a sample of the films you can check out to see men who know how to flirt with women.

The James Bond Series – Pierce Bronson, Sean Connery

Don Juan DeMarco – Johnny Depp

Indian Jones and the Temple of Doom – Harrison Ford

Big Personalities

Often times, telling men to just be normal isn’t enough. To the average shy man the term “normal” can mean staying home and playing video games. To “be normal” or to “be yourself” isn’t the right advice. We want men to develop big personalities.

Women are attracted to spontaneous, unpredictable, mysterious, funny and interesting men. While it’s virtually impossible to list certain qualities and expect men to act accordingly, it is possible to provide some places to help develop these qualities naturally.

Drama Groups

Drama students and actors alike are an interesting bunch. They possess most of the qualities above, including confidence. Joining a drama group that gets together regularly does wonders for a man’s confidence, if he can build up the courage to start.

It may seem silly and strange because it’s not within your comfort zone, but then again neither is talking to women. If you want more self-confidence, sign up for a theatre group today and let the actors’ optimism and quick-wit brush off onto you. Really consider looking up drama classes, it’s the best investment you’ll ever make.

Popular Hosts

Television and radio hosts are paid for their big personalities. Next time you listen to live radio or live TV shows, pay attention to the attitudes, expressions and tone of voice of the host, rather than what they actually say. The reason for listening and watching live broadcasts is because these people need to think on the spot; they naturally have these high social skills.

Watch Real Guys Flirt!

Although the above methods can help, there is nothing better than watching guys in the real world talking to women. While reading information gives you a better understanding, nothing can take the place of real experience. Here are some of the best ways to start observing other experts.

Friends

If any of your friends are great at dating and attracting women, watch them carefully from now on. Watch what they say and how the women react. Go out with them to clubs and bars, parties and social events. If they have girlfriends, watch how they interact together. You’ll notice a lot of their behavior is similar to what you’ve just learned.

Guys In Bars And Clubs

If none of your friends are successful with women, then watch guys in bars and clubs. While it might be difficult to listen in on their conversations, watch the body language these men present while they walk through the clubs. Watch how they interact with women and how the women react. How do you find the most successful men in the club?

Look for men that are already talking to women. Most men never even build up the nerve to approach a single woman the entire night. Men who start conversations effortlessly are the men you want to watch. Also look for self-confident men who have strong posture, direct eye contact and calm movements.

Crazy Starfish Sex Position

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Sex Positions: Crazy StarfishFor a super exotic sex position that you can add to your “we tried” list, the Crazy Starfish sex position is fun yet very challenging for both partners.

How To Do It

Both partners will lie on their sides facing the same way, but head to toe with each other. The female partner will lower herself onto him  with her legs wrapped around his waist, and he will in turn wrap his own legs around her waist. He can brace his hands on her thighs to help facilitate thrusting, and she can support her weight with her arms behind her.

Where To Do It

The bed – this one requires a good deal of space. The floor works too, but carpet burn hurts! This is definitely not one you can do in a narrow space like the couch or the backseat of a car. Too many limbs everywhere!

Props You’ll Need

None.

Difficulty Level

4

Her O-Meter

3

She doesn’t have a whole lot of clitoral contact here from the Crazy Starfish sex position alone, but the g-spot stimulation helps make up for it.

His O-Meter

4

He absolutely loves the view he gets in the Crazy Starfish sex position, and he loves to watch the action. Bonus points for the “exotic” factor here! The only caveat for him is that his penis is bent slightly at an awkward angle, but it’s likely not enough for him to be uncomfortable.

XXX Tip

He can make the Crazy Starfish sex position way hotter for her by using his hands or a sex toy to play with her clitoris. She is at a perfect angle for him to do this, so he really needs to be doing it so both partners can get off! If she wants to give him something even more to look at, she can, of course, take her pleasure into her own hands.

Get Ready For Hot Sex TONIGHT!

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Sex involves some preparation first if you want it to be really good. Here’s how you can get ready for hotter sex tonight!

Cleanliness Is Next To Sexiness

A big turnoff for a woman is a guy with bad hygiene. You need not just be neat and tidy to keep her interested, but also to prevent infection from bacteria and foreign materials, as you are going to be putting fingers in some of her most sensitive places.

Shower and shave or wash your facial hair thoroughly. Brush your teeth, put on some clean clothes, use deodorant. Trim your fingernails the day before, so you have a chance to wear down any sharp edges. Clean under your nails and, most importantly, wash your hands! Use soap and water, and if you have rough spots or calluses, use a pumice stone to soften these areas. Dab on just the slightest hint of a cologne you know she loves, or an aphrodisiac scent like sandalwood or vanilla, and then get ready to set the mood.

Figure Out Your Sex Routine

You don’t want to walk into the bedroom, spread her legs and lay out a set list of all the moves you want to try on her tonight. Not only will she think you’ve gone nuts, but you’ll be too distracted trying to figure out what comes next to focus on what’s happening right now. Take your time to practice a couple of the simpler moves from each chapter, some labia and clitoral stimulation, and some penetration.

Plan to spend at least an hour, from foreplay to finish, especially if you are exploring the possibilities of G-Spot orgasm. Don’t cut corners, and do remember to take your time on every step, from desire, to arousal, to orgasm and back again. Be calm and confident, and if you stumble on something she doesn’t like, just move on to the next thing you had in mind. If you run out of ideas, ask her to show you or, better yet, improvise!

Create A Sex Playlist

One of the best ways to create a setting for love is through the use of music. Rhythm is super important to the female orgasm, so pop in some tunes before the big event. Try to mix it up, with slow and sensual, get-down groovy and fast-paced frenetic in a cyclical manner. This will allow you to work up to arousal and orgasm slowly, reach a climax (hopefully in more ways than one!) and start all over again at the buildup.

Set The Scene

While music is a great start to setting the scene, think about how your wife described her “ideal erotic experience” and see what you can do to turn your bedroom – or living room, or kitchen, or back yard – into the place in her dreams. What was it about this dream world that you can recreate here and now?

Try appealing to all her senses: soft lighting like candles or a crackling fire, something to drink like hot cocoa or wine, a light snack to nourish your bodies and make refueling sexy, like cherries and grapes, and soft comfortable surfaces like lambskin or soft sheets and warm blankets. If you don’t have a fireplace or a campfire roaring nearby for lighting, try adding a space heater or cranking up the furnace a bit for the experience. Your naked skin and hers will be grateful during this time of exploration.

Get Her Consent For New Activities

Informed consent is required if you’re going to try something new, and you’re not sure whether she would like it or not. Just being married does not give you the right to do whatever you want to your wife. There are some things that you just have to talk about before you do them, like anal sex. You can’t just put it in there and expect her to be cool with it. If you haven’t discussed anal play, you don’t have consent. If you don’t tell her that you want to make her squirt, she might feel like she doesn’t have your consent to ejaculate, especially if she is self-conscious about making a mess, (or worried about having to clean it up all by herself) so bring it up at your earlier discussions.

If you have an inspired idea in the heat of the moment, you don’t have to put it off for later, but you do need to approach her to make a decision about how far she is willing to go with you. If your finger slides a little too far south and she jumps, don’t just pretend that nothing has happened. Apologize for startling her and tell her you thought she might enjoy something new. If she isn’t interested, you will just as happily move on to something else. No pressure.

Why You Want To Use Sex Toys

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Sex toys can bring you and your partner much more satisfaction than plain sex alone. Here are more reasons to start using sex toys!

Why Use Sex Toys

  • Because they’re fun.
  • Because they provide you with a distinct type of pleasure, which would enrich the one you’re already enjoying.
  • Because sometimes, just sometimes, your girlfriend or wife needs a stronger and more consistent stimulation to get off, and some sex toys will provide this.
  • Because your ancestors couldn’t and you can. Wouldn’t it be a terrible waste if you denied yourself progress?
  • Because sharing this experience with your loved one is not risky, it is a sign of evolving.
  • Because sex toys are part of women’s deepest and hottest sexual fantasies, and unleashing that in your girlfriend or wife will definitely be to your own advantage.
  • Because the sight of them can instantly cure headaches!
  • Because they’re empowering.
  •  Because you have the right to ensure yourself as much pleasure as you can possibly carry.

Why Sex Toys Aren’t Taboo Anymore

Sex toys, just like anal sex, have been surrounded by a shadow of taboo until recently. Sex shops were only looked at with the corner of the eye and people hesitated about entering, fearing that someone might see them visit those shameful places.

Today the attitude toward toys that give you the much needed pleasure is much more liberal. According to adult novelty manufacturers, the business is nowadays ten times more profitable than a mere ten years ago. People all over the world are buying sex toys with much more frequency and a clearly intensified interest and curiosity.

Thank God for Sex And The City, I might add, because women became more actively involved in this phenomenon after the four naughty girls started talking about it freely and recommending it as something normal, that every woman should try without any regrets or fears.

Their newly acquired status as respectable merchandise unleashed a booming development of sex shops all over the countries, sex shops that, beside the more and more diversified models, were also selling sex education as part of the package.

Members of the staff are trained to help you choose the best products for your convenience, products that can satisfy all your desires and needs, as peculiar as they might be. Also, online shops are shipping products of the most exquisite quality all over the world, discreetly and safely. It’s up to you to choose the option that best suits your needs.

Becoming A Skilled Lover With Sex Toys

If you want to acquire the skilled lover status, you have to allow yourself to open up to a whole new world of playful possibility. Sex toys not only enhance your capacity to feel pleasure, but also offer variety in terms of the sensations you can experience. To top that, they can also help you solve the most intriguing sexual challenges that you might encounter.

For instance, if your girlfriend or wife is having trouble orgasming through vaginal (or anal) intercourse, using a sex toy (like a vibrator, for example) to stimulate her clitoris while your penetrating her can give her the much needed climax.

Anal beads, butt plugs, dildos, they all provide multiple points of stimulation, building extreme sensations throughout the body, not only in your intimate parts.

What Toys To Choose

Fortunately, you’re pretty much covered. There are sex toys especially designed for all kinds of pleasure. Number one rule in choosing a toy: figure out what both of you want and where she is lacking in ability to feel maximum of pleasure. A “full” sensation is what you’d want for your partner to experience, or do you think a vibrating tingling will put her in the mood more quickly? Discuss it together and, why not, try all there is in order to truly know what you want.

Never forget your best in this “business” – lube. As smooth and apparently easy to penetrate any orifice as your toys may seem, sensations are much better with lubrication. proper lubrication.

Condoms also facilitate the penetration, but the main reason you should not give them up even though we’re talking about a sex toy is convenience, actually. You’ll want to use that vibrator, for example, on her breasts, on her clitoris, inside her vagina, inside her anus, etc. If you don’t want to stop after every anal thrusting and go thoroughly clean your toy in order to go back to her other hot spots, using a condom saves you from that. Put it on when you want to penetrate her anally and take it off when she wants other areas playfully stimulated, to prevent the transfer of bacteria.