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Reverse Cowgirl Sex Position

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Sex Positions: Reverse CowgirlThe Reverse Cowgirl sex position is one of the best sex positions for guy, because he gets quite the view while she rides him up and down. It’s not quite as orgasmic as the Cowgirl is for a woman, but it’s a little more kinky and can be a lot of fun for both partners.

How To Do It

This is a good “Woman On Top” sex position and it’s almost identical to the Cowgirl with one exception. Instead of straddling her lover facing him, the female partner straddles him facing his feet, again with one leg on either side of him with her weight resting on her knees. This position is also known as the “Rodeo.”

Where To Do It

Bed, couch, floor, backseat of the car, anywhere you have space to lie down!

Props You’ll Need

None

Difficulty Level

2

Her O-Meter

3

The Reverse Cowgirl sex position isn’t as powerful for a woman as the Cowgirl is. While she still gets to control the speed, depth and angle of penetration, because she’s facing her lover’s feet, his anatomy doesn’t line up to her hot spots as well. It’s still possible for her to get g-spot stimulation from his penis, but not as easily because the penis is rubbing the wall of her vagina that her g-spot isn’t on. She can also get some clitoral stimulation if she leans forward far enough to rest her clitoris against his scrotum, but he may not like intense grinding against his tender bits.

His O-Meter

5

Men really love the Reverse Cowgirl sex position. It gives them as much visual stimulation as many rear entry sex positions do, but it combines the excitement of her controlling the action. If a woman wants to surprise her man with a super hot sex position, the Reverse Cowgirl is the way to go.

XXX Tip

Ladies, lean forward quite a bit and let your rear take center stage here. He’ll still dig it if you’re sitting straight up, but he won’t get as good a view. If you’re embarrassed about him getting to see you that up close and personal, don’t be. Give yourself a good trim or shave, and make sure you’re clean and smelling nice. Other than that, there’s really nothing to be worried about. He’ll really enjoy getting to see all the action as you’re riding him and he’s not really going to care if you missed a few hairs here or there.

5 Places Never To Miss When Giving A Handjob

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A handjob is an incredible way to give your lover an orgasm without getting anything but – well, your hands – involved. Here’s how to give a great handjob!

First, let’s explore some of the places on a man’s genitals that are great for a massage. The more you know your man between his legs, the better your handjob will be.

1. His Scrotum

The scrotum (the sac where his balls are held) is a great place to hold, tug lightly and massage lightly. Cupping his scrotum with one hand can give your partner excellent sensations while you do the dirty work with your other hand! Just be careful not to massage your partner’s scrotum too hard – this is a very sensitive area and a rough approach just won’t work here. Think of his testicles as eyeballs.

You can actually massage your eyeballs, but if you poke or press too hard it hurts. The same with his balls. Try pumping up and down on his shaft, then giving a light squeeze every third or fourth stroke release. A feather to the balls is also very, very delightful.

2. The Perineum

This is probably the area that gives you the most advantage during a genital massage. Why, you ask? When pressure is put on the perineum, it stimulates a man’s sensitive prostate gland. Men love having their prostate gland stimulated (it is like a man’s G-spot) but not all of them know they do. That’s because other than the perineum, the only other way to gain access to the prostate gland is through the anus and there are more men that don’t like going that route than there are that do.

Pressing or rubbing on the perineum (the spot between his scrotum and his anus) during a genital massage can give your partner the thrill of a lifetime. Just make sure that your partner is comfortable with your hand in that spot and make sure he lets you know how low is too low if he is uncomfortable with your hand near his anus. And don’t be afraid to throw some lube down there first! Things will slide right along!

3. His Inner Thighs And Lower Abs

These areas are secondary to the others during a genital massage and you may want to use them just to help warm your partner up – but if he really likes it, feel free to use these areas during the handjob to give your partner more of an “all over” feeling. These spots can take a little more of a rough touch, so they are great to squeeze, press and manipulate when you are really ravaging your partner during a genital massage. Be careful not to do this too hard, your partner is not Play-Doh! If you prefer to go the softer route, these places are very responsive to light touching (such as running your fingers up and down them) or to tickling. Light touches in these areas are best for teasing.

Let your hair caress his thighs while your face is close to his penis and you are fondling and rubbing his erection.

4. The Anus

Obviously this area can be a big no-no spot for men. But the anus has a lot of pleasure points. Some men are fine with you massaging the outside of the anus and that is it. Others have discovered the incredible pleasure of having their prostate massaged via the anus. Insert your pointer or middle finger (after he has been well lubed of course) and find a spongy area the size of a walnut maybe 3 or 4 inches in and begin to stroke it. Do this when you think he is close to coming and it will most likely give him the explosion of his lifetime.

Here is how one of my readers described it:

“She would lube up her middle finger insert it in my ass and massage my prostate. Well you orgasm very quick and when she is massaging the walnut you darn near levitate!! Very powerful!”

And another one of my reader’s says this about the anus:

“Most guys will not admit it but a man’s anal area adds great sensations.”

5. His Penis

Well, of course the penis is the main area on your partner’s body that you want to pay attention to when giving a genital massage. None of the other areas have the capacity to bring your partner to orgasm – but it is important to note that concentrating on massaging the penis only during a genital massage can make it slow work for you. Accessing and utilizing massage techniques on the other areas of your partner’s groin area can make things go more quickly and actually, it will make the genital massage more exciting, pleasurable and satisfying to him.

Reverse Face Straddle Sex Position

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Sex Positions: Reverse Face StraddleOne of the more “kinky” oral sex positions for her, the Reverse Face Straddle sex position is not for the shy or timid woman. Because it involves her partner’s face and nose so close to her backdoor, she needs to be super comfortable with her partner. But it’s an excellent position for couples who enjoy anal sex play!

How To Do It

This is an oral sex position for her that requires quite a bit of confidence on her part and both partners definitely need to be comfortable with each other. A sexy shower beforehand is also a must! As with the forward facing version of this oral sex position, the male partner lies on a bed, couch or the floor (any flat surface will do) and the female partner straddles his face, with one leg on either side of his head, resting her weight on her knees.

The difference with this position is that she’s not facing his head, she’s facing his feet, as in the “Reverse Cowgirl” sex position. He is able to perform oral sex on her from behind, and this is actually an excellent oral sex position for couples who enjoy analingus. Because her rear is right in his face, she’s going to feel much better if she’s doing it with a man she feels comfortable with, as well as if she’s clean and trimmed or shaved. He’s going to feel better about it too!

Where To Do It

Bed, couch, backseat of the car, floor, any flat surface

Props You’ll Need

Pillow or rolled up towel to support the male partner’s neck

Difficulty Level

3

Her O-Meter

3

This is an oral sex position that really kinky women enjoy! Because she’s so exposed to him, she’s definitely got to have some confidence – and they both need to be comfortable with each other. If she’s shy or doesn’t feel clean down there, this position could really backfire. But for women who want oral sex that is a little naughty, this position is a great one to use!

His O-Meter

3

Men who like to be dominated (and men who like things a little kinky, or have a butt fetish) will really enjoy this oral sex position. Guys, you can up the pleasure factor for yourself by reaching down and masturbating while you’re giving her oral sex. Since she’s facing your feet, she’ll be able to see you touch yourself and it will turn her on like you wouldn’t believe!

XXX Tip

If you’re into analingus, this is definitely the time to try it. Use a dental dam for ultimate safety. Definitely discuss this beforehand though – guys, you don’t want to surprise her with a tongue up her bum if she hasn’t agreed to it first!

Why Your Attitude Is KEY When Giving A Blowjob

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Blowjob tips aren’t all about how to suck and lick your partner. It’s also about your state of mind when going down on him. Here’s how to improve your blowjob skills.

The most important aspect of giving your lover an incredible blowjob is your attitude. If you have a bad attitude about it, the activity isn’t going to be enjoyable for either you or your partner. However, if you have a good attitude about the blowjob, it will really turn your lover on and get him into it.

Acting Like The Blowjob Is A Chore

Think about the situation in reverse – what if he were giving you oral sex? How would it make you feel if he acted like giving you oral sex were a chore? How would you like it if he acted like he’d rather be doing anything else than have his head between your legs? (You might already have a man that does this – if so, then you definitely have some perspective here.) It wouldn’t make you feel very sexy, would it? You wouldn’t feel desired, or that your lover cared at all about your pleasure. You would probably feel intensely rejected and you would take a huge blow to your ego.

When you act like sucking him off is a burden rather than something fun and enjoyable for you, it makes your partner feel exactly like that – unsexy, undesired and uncared about. This makes it very difficult for him to get lost in the pleasure, or really feel any pleasure at all. His mind will be preoccupied with trying to figure you out than being open to receiving intense pleasure and orgasms from oral sex. So no matter what your blowjob skill level is, it doesn’t matter if you don’t have a good attitude about giving head.

How Do They Do It In Porn?

Take porn for example. Although porn is probably the worst place you could possibly go to learn blowjob techniques, there is one thing you could pick up from the porn stars and use in your own oral sex repertoire – and that’s how great their attitude is. Men love it when the girls in porn get excited about going down on them. They love it when a woman is enthusiastic about doing such a naughty, pleasurable and submissive activity.

You’ll notice that in almost every blowjob porn, the girl on the giving end is just plain ecstatic about sucking her man off! Now you most certainly do not have to go to the extremes that these women do – or else it will probably come off as fake anyways – mimicking their willingness and enthusiasm about giving a blowjob will make you really good at it. A great attitude is even more important than learning great blowjob skills.

Smile, And Act Like It’s FUN!

So with a great attitude, you can give your lover the best blowjob of his life – even if you’re not that skilled at different techniques and moves you can do. Just act like you get really turned on by the idea of going down on him and giving him the ultimate pleasure. Bonus points if it’s less of an “act” and you really do get into it. If you can learn to really enjoy giving your lover fellatio, the activity can be super meaningful and super pleasurable for both of you.

How To Introduce Her To Kinky Sex

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Kinky sex can be lots of fun, but some girls have never tried it. Getting your lover into kinky sex isn’t difficult, but you want to approach it the right way.

The fashion of the more risqué among us has spilled out into everyday culture, with corsets and leather collars becoming almost mainstream. Having said that, most of my clients and friends are curious but aren’t sure how to incorporate a bit of ‘spice’ to their sex lives, even though we’re surrounded by sexy messages on a daily basis.

The Recipe

There are a variety of things to try when it comes to getting frisky with your partner: spanking, bondage, role-playing, or sensation play (like hot wax or ice cubes) are just a few. But the biggest difficulty isn’t in deciding what to do, but rather, how to broach it with your partner. Even if you’ve been together for a long time and trust each other, it’s a scary thing to suggest something new that may not go over well.

Before you broach the subject, applaud yourself for connecting with your sexual being and learning more about what turns you on. In today’s society, that’s a challenging thing in and of itself. Once you’ve patted yourself on the back, try these ideas to get going:

Talk It Out

You don’t need to make the conversation into ‘The Talk’ by blurting out you need to tell her some big secret. Instead, go about it gently, from a different angle. Share what turns you on with your partner on a regular basis. Tell her what makes you hot, and what it is she does that makes you dizzy with arousal. By chatting about sex more frequently, you’ll open the lines of communication so that when you are ready to take another step, you’ll feel more comfortable and at ease.

Dirty Minds Think Alike

Write down the craziest, funniest, sexiest things you’ve heard of, and then draw lines down the page for several categories, like “never in a million years,” or “maybe with some prodding,” or even “I’ve never thought of it, but sure, I’ll try it.” This is a fun game to discover lots of sexual interests you never knew you shared.

Media Sharing

Pick a storyline that explores something you’re curious about sharing with your partner, and be observant of her reaction. Sometimes it’s easier to broach the subject when it’s not coming right at you, and then you can discuss what you thought was hot, and a total turn off, in turn.

Create A Safeword

When folks in the kink community negotiate a spicy interaction, they create a safeword to be shared amongst the participants. Basically, a safeword is something that you wouldn’t normally say in a sexual encounter such as “purple elephant” that tells your partner you need to stop. Some folks just use colors to explain what they are feeling, such as red for stop and yellow for go slower or more gently please.

Start With Baby Steps

Even if what you have in mind is a huge production, and you’ve played out every variation for more than a decade in your mind, you don’t want to start with the whole shebang right away. Start simply, with just one aspect of the concept that gets you going. See how you both feel after, and then decide if you want to do it again, try something different, or incorporate more of the sexual fantasy into your playtime.