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How To Prep Him For Amazing Head

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Blowjob tips are often for you, but there are many blowjob tips apply to guys. Here’s what to do to him before you head south to make sure he’s clean and ready!

It’s unarguable that it’s essential for a man to have excellent hygiene if he wants to get good head. It’s much more difficult for a woman to give, let alone enjoy, a great blowjob if he’s filthy downstairs! There are a few things that cause a man to have poor genital hygiene, and these are the things he needs to pay attention to before you go south.

Pubic Hair

Long pubic hair can really get in the way during fellatio. It’s easy for a woman to get hair in her teeth or on her tongue while she’s going down on him, causing her to stop the action to try to get the hair out before it lodges itself in her throat. This is not only a huge mood killer, it can also trigger her gag reflex. Not to mention that when she stops the action to remove the hair, it will nix his arousal and if he was even remotely close to orgasm, he wouldn’t be afterwards.

Long pubic hair will also trap sweat and bacteria, causing the odor of a man’s genitals to become quite pungent and overwhelming. There are many girls who won’t even go down there because they’ve had a bad experience with a man’s genital odor! Needless to say, long and unkempt pubic hair can wreak havoc on good head!

Sweat

Sweat hangs on to long pubic hair better than it does short pubic hair or shaved skin, but that doesn’t mean that men who groom their pubes suddenly don’t have sweat problems down there. Even with regular showering, if a man has a very physical job, he’s naturally going to sweat more down there, causing bacteria and odor to go haywire. A little baby powder goes a long way here, as does a shower right before oral sex. If a man doesn’t make an effort to control his sweat down south, he’s not going to be on the receiving end of a blowjob anytime soon.

Clean Underwear

For women, fresh, clean underwear is a must right before oral sex, even if they’re just going to come off again in ten minutes. Dirty underwear can again, hang on to odor, and let’s just say that some men aren’t all that great at wiping since they only have to do it every once in awhile. You’d think that changing into clean boxers or briefs would be part of a man’s pre-oral sex routine, but it’s not always. Just imagine how horrifying it can be when a woman slides down her lover’s underwear, only to be slapped in the face with his “manly” scent before she lays eyes on a skid mark?

She will never want to go down on him again! If you want your man to have clean underwear on before you go down on him, simply gift him with a new pair of sexy boxers or briefs. No, you can’t pull a pair out of a Hanes package and call it a “gift.” Make sure they’re something to write home about. Pair that with a shower before sex as part of foreplay and you’ve got a fresh, clean man who has no idea you’re fixing him up so you can suck him off!

His hygiene is extremely important before oral sex, but unfortunately, many guys just don’t consider the need for it. They never have to put their face down there, so they just don’t get it. Other men are super clean, so you don’t have to worry about it. If your man struggles keeping his undercarriage clean and fresh, there are some ways you can skirt around his bad hygiene without telling him that he needs to take a bath or change his underwear.

10 Advanced Tools For Incredible Handjobs

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A handjob doesn’t have to be any old handjob. These simple but effective accessories can turn something “ho hum” into something absolutely orgasmic!

While your hands (and some lube) are really all that is needed for a great hand job, some variety makes it more fun for you and him. Here are some ideas on elements that can be used to add some zest and excitement to your repertoire.

1. Candle Wax

You can buy candles that are specifically designed for body massages. As the candle burns and the wax is melted, you can pour the melted wax on your lovers body. It should be safe to pour on his shaft and testicles. His glans (head) might be too sensitive to the heat. Do a test drop first. I loved it when my wife did this for me but not something I’d want every time. I personally think warm oil/lube is better for a handjob overall but for a man, the smell, sight and feeling of the candle wax being lovingly poured on your penis is special indeed and worth doing now and again.

2. Scarf Or Tie

Take some of your silk scarves or his old ties and put them to good use. Drape the over his body, wrap them around his rod and pass them between his legs. He’ll go crazy from the soft, silky, breezy fabrics touching his sensitive spots. Do this BEFORE you get out the lube to keep them from getting soiled. If you want to get real kinky, use them to “tie him up” while you give him an exciting handjob experience. And while you are at it you can also use them to blindfold him. That adds another very interesting dimension to a handjob. It puts all his energy on assessing the pleasure of your touch.

3. Silk Or Satin Lingerie

Taking off your lingerie will certainly get his blood pumping and you can do one better. Rub your silky nightie or underwear around his shaft and balls. He’ll go nuts. This is what it did for one of my subscribers: “My favorite hand-job spin is this: my girl will take her satin Nighty, turn it inside out, and rub my hard-on with the silky material…WOW I throb big-time! She may add a vibe to tingle my balls with her other hand. Sometimes I can’t hold back and I’ll jizz now.”

4. A Vibrator

As you just read, battery operated toys are not just for women. They work exceptionally well on men’s sensitive areas. Buzz his nipples, his sack, his rod. He’ll even like it if you touch his anus with it (you can put a condom over it if you want to keep it sanitary). If you don’t have a “dildo” on hand, simply use an old battery powered toothbrush. Just keep the bristles away from him.

5. Beads

No, not anal beads (although some men would really go for that too). I am talking about pearl necklaces. If you have a bead necklace that is smooth, wrap it around his shaft and pull it back and forth to massage his manhood. Just be aware that some lubes and oils might eventually break down the string so don’t use an expensive necklace.

6. Fruit

This is for the adventurous. Take a melon and cut a hole in it the size of his erect shaft (make it a little on the tight size. Slide it on his hard-on, then move the melon up and down to push his cock in and out. He’ll smell and taste wonderful. If the suction is too strong, cut a small hole in the opposite side of the melon. You can also use a banana. Cut the end off the banana and gently scoop out enough flesh so that his penis will fit in tight. You can also put the banana in the microwave for a few seconds to warm it up but be VERY CAREFUL to test it with your finger to make sure it is not too hot. If you like the taste of kiwi then cut the top and bottom off a kiwi fruit and take a little flesh out of the center and use the “sleeve” to masturbate your guy.

7. Vegetables

Same idea as above but use a zucchini, eggplant or cucumber. Instead of scooping out the flesh you can often press in a broom handle to create a hole deep and wide enough.

8. Condoms

Put lube on his member and them roll down a condom and use it as a sleeve to jerk off your guy. A nice side benefit is that clean up is a cinch. Also, try a “ribbed” condom and turn it inside out before putting it over his manhood. The ribs will give him lots of wonderful sensations all over. Here’s something else to try with a condom. Blow it up into a balloon, a little smaller than a bowling ball. Quickly insert his penis into the hole to seal it up. If air starts to leak hold it tight around his shaft (or ask him to hold it). You will both be able to see his penis inside the “balloon.” If you can manage it, get him to come and see him squirt all over the inside. Guys will really like this visual.

9. Plastic Baggies

Fill one zippered baggie with warm water and one with ice water. Use them at different intervals touching various parts of his body to bring your man different sensations.

10. Fan

You can use a hand fan or an electric fan to blow air over your man to create a slight breeze. It feels quite refreshing on the testicles which aren’t used to a lot of fresh air.

What To Do & Say After Anal Sex

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Anal sex is an incredibly intimate activity. If you’ve just done it with your lover, here are some things you want to do and say to follow up the act.

Things You WANT To Do Afterwards

Hug her from behind, in the spooning position, and gently kiss her neck. You don’t need to talk, I know you’re probably not the most talkative guy after sex, but you can send her a love message by just touching her skin gently, blowing the sweat off her shoulder or simply caressing her belly and breasts.

If it was your first time trying anal sex, she might be in quite a vulnerable position, because she’s not sure whether it was good or not, or if you’re satisfied with how things turned out. So if there’s something she did that drove you insane in a good way, now’s the best time to tell her.

After climaxing all your senses are heightened, so if you want to feel really good, light a scented candle that gives off a comforting aroma (for example vanilla or jasmine), and have the remote control to your stereo close buy so that you can press play at the right time.

She might want to take a shower afterwards, with all the lubricant flowing around all over her body. In order to show your care, join her and do the washing yourself. Gently shampoo her hair and her intimate areas, especially the back parts, which were most worked up. She’ll feel safe and she’ll know that you appreciate what she did and don’t think bad of her.

What NOT To Do After Anal Sex

Complain about anything, especially about the intercourse you just had. Especially since it’s anal sex we are talking about. Even though you didn’t like it that much, if you want her to give it a try again, a little white lie wouldn’t hurt.

Jump out of bed to hit the shower/grab a snack/smoke a cigarette/watch the remaining of the football game. She’ll feel like you might have thought about these activities while in bed with her, which means that you weren’t connected.

Evaluate her performance or compare her with other partners you’ve had. That’s just plain rude and inconsiderate.

What To Say Afterwards

“That was incredibly awesome.” You want to know a secret? Women are worried about how they performed just as much as you. Just like you need reassurance that you did good in the sack, she needs to know if she killed it, or ruined it.

“You’ve got such a sexy body!” Even though she’s sweaty and red faced and tired, and maybe with a little mascara running in the corner of an eye, you need to praise the way she looks after sex. Women are incredibly impressionable and scared about the massive exposure they submitted their bodies to. Lean over to plant a smooch on her stomach and tell her how sexy it is. That’s the part of the body women crave most to receive compliments about.

“How are you feeling? Is everything ok?” This shows her that you care for her and your main concern is her state. She’ll feel more connected to you after she realizes that you put her needs first.

“Turn around for a second, otherwise I’ll want you for another round.” A sweet sexy joke like this will relieve all the tension and she’ll be her normal self again. Sometimes, right after sex, women tend to feel a little isolated, far away. Your cute line will bring her right back in your arms. Literally and metaphorically.

What To Do When She Won’t Talk To You About Sex

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Sex tips are thought of as a road map for sex, but they are more than that. It’s about communication, and here’s what to do when your partner won’t discuss it.

When it comes to sex, communicating with your partner is absolutely essential. You’re not a mind reader – unless you’ve been with your lover for many years, you just won’t automatically know what she wants or needs in bed. Even if you have been with your partner for a substantial amount of time, it’s still a bit of a guessing game because let’s face it – you’re not a mind reader.

You can’t know what she’s thinking about, or what she wants next or whether she wants you to move a little to the left or to the right. While some women are very up front and straight forward about what they want during sex, many women are not. This is because many women grow up believing that sex should only be pleasurable for the male partner, or that it’s “dirty” and “wrong” to derive any sort of pleasure from sex. Although this couldn’t be further from the truth, their belief systems lead them to never speaking up during lovemaking.

These women aren’t going to say, “That doesn’t feel good, here, I need you to do it like this.” They’re going to smile, act like they’re into it and possibly fake their orgasm. So because communication is so important for a healthy and mutually satisfying sex life, you may very well have to take the initiative in that department.

What Happens When You Don’t Communicate

When you and your partner don’t communicate about sex, it leads to one or both partners being unsatisfied. You’ve got to talk to each other about what you both want and need, and what you like when you’re in bed together! She won’t know what you like and you won’t know what she likes if you don’t talk about it, so you’ll both be a couple of bumbling idiots in the sack, stumbling around blindly, hoping you hit the jackpot and being disappointed when you don’t. Neither of you can expect the other to know exactly what you want and what turns you on, so you have to tell each other.

When you expect your partner to know what to do during sex and they inevitably don’t do it, you’re going to be left sexually frustrated and possibly orgasm-less. The same goes for her! If she expects you to know what to do (and you really don’t) and she doesn’t tell you, you aren’t going to give her the kind of pleasure she wants and needs.

This is going to leave her very unsatisfied and possibly resentful! The problem is, it’s partly her responsibility to communicate with her about what she likes and doesn’t like during sex. Unfortunately, for the reasons mentioned above (and many other reasons) she might not want to talk about it.

Why A Woman Might Not Want To Communicate With You About Sex

Many women don’t like to talk about sex. There are many reasons for this, and if your lover doesn’t want to communicate about intercourse, it may be more than one reason! This can leave a guy feeling confused and wondering what to do. First, take a few minutes to understand her point of view. You already know that some women grow up thinking sex is wrong and that they shouldn’t get pleasure out of sex. However, that’s not the only reason a woman might not want to discuss doing the nasty.

  • She’s never masturbated before and doesn’t know herself what feels good and what doesn’t, so she can’t very well tell you
  • She’s scared of being judged or criticized for what she likes or doesn’t like
  • She’s not confident enough in herself to assert what she wants and needs in the bedroom
  • She’s more worried about your pleasure and you getting off than she is about herself
  • She doesn’t know how to put into words what she wants (or is too shy to use the words that she will inevitably have to use when discussing this type of thing)
  • She has other emotional baggage

These aren’t all the reasons a woman might not want to talk about sex – in fact, since every woman is different and has lived different experiences, the possibilities of a woman being shy about discussing lovemaking are really endless! Take heart though, because even if your girl doesn’t take the initiative to tell you what to do or how to touch her just the right way, you can still glean the information in other ways.

Non-Verbal Communication

Women will almost always give non-verbal cues about what they like and don’t like during sex. Unless you’re having sex with a statue, you’re bound to get some kind of non-verbal feedback on what you’re doing – you just have to be paying attention. Body movements are probably you’re biggest clue here, because even some women who are shy will be too shy to be very vocal during sex. But body movements are often involuntary, so you can use these as sort of a “compass” to tell you if you’re going the right way. Here is some body language that will tell you if you’re on the right track:

  • She bucks her hips towards you and grinds her pelvis against you (either against your face during oral sex or against your penis during intercourse)
  • She begins to breathe heavy and seems as though she is concentrating
  • Her skin turns pink and flushed, particularly in her face and neck
  • Her legs begin to shake
  • Her eyes close or roll back in her head

Her body will also tell you if you’re doing something wrong, or aren’t in the right place:

  • She’ll move slightly to help position you in the right spot (if she does this, go with it! Don’t fight it thinking you’re in the right spot, because you’re not! This movement is very different from what she will do if she’s enjoying it and bucking her hips)
  • She’ll shrink away from you (this usually happens if you’re hurting her in some way – for example, if your facial hair is chafing her or rubbing too hard against her sensitive clitoris)
  • She isn’t breathing heavy and can even talk or carry on a conversation
  • She doesn’t seem as though she’s concentrating or is very into it
  • Her eyes are open and she’s looking around, possibly watching television or checking out photos on the vanity

Apart from body movements, you can use her vocalizations as a clue, although many women won’t make any noise during sex whether they’re enjoying it or not. Here are some ways to tell if she’s enjoying it by listening to what comes out of her mouth:

  •  Again, breathing heavy is a big indicator of pleasure. This may be accompanied by sharp intakes of breath or moans and groans
  • She screams your name, or says, “Oh God!” (This is almost always a winner unless it sounds totally fake)
  • She says disjointed things like, “Yes, Yes!” or “Yeah….right…uh….good…yeah….”

You can also tell if you’re totally bombing it by what she’s saying or how she sounds:

  • She’s screaming your name or other things in a way that sounds less convincing than a porn star in a low budget film
  • Her breathing and vocalizations seem to be on an even keel. For example, a regular “Mmmm” sound that doesn’t seem to be at all connected with what you’re doing or how you’re changing your techniques

Also pay attention to your instincts! As naive as you may be about a woman’s pleasure, if your gut is telling you she’s just not into it, she’s probably not!

4 Secrets To Great Kissing

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Kissing tips are essential if you want to deliver a really excellent kiss. Here are the secrets you might be missing when it comes to kissing!

1. Women Love To Kiss

Certainly not the first time blokes heard of that one, women are nagging for it. But in spite of the flood of headlines for lip action, the response has come in short supply. Either that, or women just can’t get enough no matter what.

Get this. For the ladies, kissing is enough. While guys tend to see kisses as prelude to hot sex, women have no qualms seeing it as an end unto itself. For them, a kiss need not lead to anything, it doesn’t have to be foreplay. It can be a stand-alone, pleasurable, loving act unto itself.

Now, tell that to a horndog and he’ll bitch about how women are a bunch of tease. The XY brain has difficulty processing how women stay happy with simple lip locks when it knows that sex is up for grabs. “Let’s use the bed for goodnessakes!” When one already knows the ruckus of intercourse, kissing, by comparison, becomes lame.

2. Let Kissing Be Enough For You

But here’s the thing: To become a great kisser, accept the real possibility that tongue action may be all you’re getting in a given night.

Go kiss, but don’t expect clothes to come afalling every time. Relish the lip action, relax your jaws, lips & tongue, and don’t think of anything else. Avoid thoughts of sex. This alone already makes you a better kisser. When you’re not wondering where that last condom is, you do better.

3. Learn To Get Good If You Aren’t Already

To be a good kisser is an imperative, there is no other resort. When it comes to liplocks, a woman never excuses the lame ones. She believes she can find out everything just from the way a guy smooches. It’s crazy! She thinks she has this lip-guided intuition – and sloppy kissers always go down the drain. A terrible smooch can change her perception of you.

And guess what, women read something into good kissers – that they’re also studs between the sheets. When she thinks this, you’re making it easier for her to go va-voom with your flow. So read up on some kissing tips and don’t be shy about it!

4. Create Sexual Tension

Now, the secret to a great kiss is the psychological set-up. There has to be some sort of sexual tension‘ before your lips touch. Only dive when there’s enough tension.

Again, this entails teasing, you have to make her want it.

There are several ways to achieve this. You can for example gently caress her cheeks, chin, lips or hair before the kiss. Or look longingly into her eyes and survey her face. Lean in as if to kiss her, then stop a few centimeters before your lips touch, breathe deeply and give her a sigh. Or prelude it by rubbing noses. With eyes closed, you can also nuzzle around the cheekbone, neck and below the ear zone. Set the kiss right so she’ll appreciate it when you finally let her have it.