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How To Flirt Once You’ve Got Her To Go Home With You

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To flirt is easy at a club, but how do you flirt when the girl you like is finally at your house? Here are several good ways to flirt intimately!

Different types and amounts of flirting are acceptable in different circumstances. The flirting you do around groups of people is much different than flirtatious acts around only one woman.

In isolated settings such as your place or her place, the rules change and you’re allowed to be more sexually flirtatious. Before we explore this type of intimate flirting, you must first understand how to successfully get there.

Touch Her!

Touching a woman is a great way to build trust. If you continue to go on dates and don’t even affectionately touch a woman’s arm, at some point it becomes harder and more awkward later on.

If you haven’t hugged, kissed or touched reasonable places such as her arm or hand, then you’ll have trouble making her feel comfortable in an intimate setting because she hasn’t felt any physical contact from you before.

If you watch a couple interacting from a distance, you can usually tell how close they are just by how far apart they stand. Most women only feel comfortable with men entering their personal space when they know them to a certain degree.

To ensure a woman will be comfortable when she’s having a date at your place, here’s a guideline for what flirtatious physical contact you can possibly do.

Create The Flirtatious Mood

The flirtatious mood incorporates the same flirting used during previous dates. This involves being playful, fun, teasing and confident. Here are some examples of fun things you can do in a secluded setting.

1. Bed Push

While the two of you are talking on your bed/couch subtly move over while performing a yawn or stretch to move her closer to the edge. Once she realizes what you are doing, she’ll try to move her way back on. Whether you decide to slowly push her completely onto the floor is your choice. Depending on the size of your bed/couch and whether this action can be done harmlessly or not is up to you.

2. Bed Hog

When she tries to get back on the bed/couch or even if she’s already lying with you roll over taking up most of the space. As she realizes you’re taking over she’ll try and win her share back. If she asks for you to move back onto your side you can say, “What’s in it for me?” or “Na, what are you talking about? I’m not taking up any room at all.” Be smiley and sarcastic when you say this comment, creating an “I’m hard-to-get vibe.”

3. Soft Tickle

If she’s comfortable lying next to you and being close, you should be able to tickle her gently to get a positive reaction. Tickling her hips, waist, feet or armpits work best. If she’s not ticklish or you don’t have the right touch to make her giggle, say something like, “I’m not trying to tickle you, really I’m not.” This saves you from looking like you’ve failed at tickling.

4. Pillow Fight

To increase the excitement, grab your pillow and start whacking her softly with it. If she joins in and gets more aggressive, turn up the pace but don’t use all your strength. If you’re looking for a great way to transition into a pillow fight throw your pillow at her when she’s across the room or on the bed with you. If she doesn’t throw it back tell her to throw it back. If she still doesn’t throw it back, get off the bed, grab the pillow, and throw it at her again. Eventually she’ll join in.

5 Weird But Awesome Sex Positions!

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Sex positions don’t have to be the same every single time you have sex. Here are five strange but totally erotic and orgasmic sex positions you can try tonight!

1. Comfy Cozy

Sit up with your legs straight while your partner lowers herself, facing you, onto your penis. Ask her to bend her knees so that her legs are tucked underneath and her ankles meet your hips, then sit up partially and hug her, slowly bending forward. As you move toward her she will naturally move back, arching her spine slowly so that her back rests comfortably on your legs.

Open up her chest even more to allow you breast access by putting her hands on your ankles and her elbows out to the side. Move by pulling her with your arms onto your penis, or bouncing slightly with your hips.

CLIMAX CUE

She is wide open and vulnerable in this position, while you act as the protector. Nurture her by showering her with kisses and telling her how amazing she looks impaled on your love-spear and you’ll get her even closer to orgasm. Slow and sensual is this position’s game, and the more you arch her back with your arms behind her, the more G-Spot action she’ll receive, along with plenty of clitoral coaxing.

2. The Creeping Spider

A challenging but intriguing position that plays on a man’s core strength and a woman’s sense of play, this move starts with you lying flat on your back and pressing your shoulders into the ground, arms at your side. Bend your knees as much as you can and place your feet firm and flat on the ground. Your partner should then squat down on top of you with her feet planted strong as well. Enter her while raising your hips off the ground so that you are in a straight plank position.

Your lover should still be squatting on your manhood. Once you find your balance, lift one leg so the ball of your foot faces the ceiling, and get your partner to hold onto it like she’s driving a stick shift. Movement occurs when she subtly bounces on you, with the tension and pressure flexing back from your hips, thighs and core.

CLIMAX CUE

If you can get the hang of it, this is a deeply penetrating position, and one that offers a lot of leverage for your woman to really grind into. It will be a lot easier for you if you keep your spine as straight as possible, and bounce only slightly during sex. She can hold onto your leg for balance, and grind herself into you as she feels necessary to get off. The lady is definitely in control here, so let her show you what works.

3. Choker

In my opinion, this is one of the most unusual sex positions I’ve found. I hadn’t heard of it before researching sex positions for this series, but as soon as I saw it I immediately had to try it – and with great results, believe me! Still, it’s a bit tricky to get into position correctly and then to find a rhythm that works well for both of you, but well worth the added time.

Sit down with your legs slightly bent and ask your partner to straddle your hips, facing away from you. Slide into her, pushing her forward onto your knees if need be. Have her pull her arms back and hold onto your shoulders or the back of your neck, whichever is more comfortable. She may need your help to get her arms back far enough, while leaning further forward to reach.

Get her to lift her feet at the knees so you can hold onto them for leverage, and you are in position! Move with her pulling on the back of your neck while you raise and lower your thighs, or have her push against your hands with her feet. It will be a subtle movement, but highly effective if she’s positioned correctly.

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You are at a prime angle for deep penetration, G-Spot stimulation and symphysis friction: all three in one position is rare. Moving your legs will allow her different angles for clitoris pressure, so play around to see what direction she likes most. Giving her the ability to do most of the movement might tire her out, but she’ll get to choose the tempo and speed with which you have sex. If she needs a break, she can lean forward and put her hands on the ground instead, which may give her enough balance and strength to release.

4. Comfy Corner

Place a chair without arms perpendicular to the edge of a bed. Lie down so that your waist is at the edge of the bed and your calves and feet lie comfortably on the chair. Tilt your body to one side and lift a knee high along your body so that it faces the ceiling. Bend your lower leg so that calf and foot are flat on their side on the chair. Your hips and upper legs should lie free of the bed and chair, suspended in air. Have your partner straddle one of your hips and the leg that sits on the chair, facing away from you.

Both her legs should bend slightly so that her feet are on the floor, or prop up against the bottom of the bed with only her toes flat on the ground. Put your penis inside her vagina. Lean her forward so that she’s lying along the leg on the chair, with one breast on either side of your leg. Use her arms above her head as a pillow and to prop herself up so her back remains straight. Get her to push herself back and forth against your groin and watch her masturbate with your body.

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An excellent, relaxing position for both of you to get exactly what you want: she gets tons of stimulation between her legs and there is a great view available for you. If the bed and chair are positioned close enough to one another, you should be able to sustain sex for an extended period of time. Moving the leg she’s draped over will help her grind against you, and may even enable her to find a sweet spot for clitoral and symphisis stimulation. Use this when both of you are tired and want a slow, comforting session together, or when she’s perfected her pelvic thrusting technique and wants to try it out for a mind-blowing release.

5. Sitting Pretty

Have your partner lie down on her stomach with a pillow wedged firmly under her hips. Get her to prop her upper body up with her forearms so she’s looking forward comfortably and only her breasts remain on the floor. Walk up behind her and sit down so that your bums touch. Straddle her body with your legs, your feet up against her elbows. Use your hands to put your penis inside her; she may need to move forward somewhat to angle her buttocks back and up for you to fit.

Once you’ve penetrated, lean back and put your hands on the floor, outside of her feet, and push your backside up against hers snugly. Move by rocking your body slightly and very slowly back and forth, thrusting from both your arms and feet; if you don’t go slow and gentle, you’ll likely fall out. She can help by arching her back and using her forearms to push back against you, and by opening her legs slightly so that her mons pubis gets some contact friction from the pillow.

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Because you can’t take advantage of any symphysis in this sex position, you’ll want to use your hips to push her down into the pillow to creating a similar sensation to pelvic thrusting. Keep your penetration deep, yet your movements shallow, and you’ll play with her G-Spot and the most sensitive parts of her vaginal opening nicely. Tilting her pelvis will help with both penetration and arousal foreplay for her. Lying on a waterbed or soft, bouncy bed will add to the thrill.

How To Look Really Good Without Your Clothes

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Sex tips aren’t always what to do during sex. Here are some excellent sex tips that show you how to look AH-mazing in your birthday suit before getting it on!

When you look good without your clothes you feel sexy, but the actual process of looking good butt ass naked is anything but. That’s the number one reason people fail on their quest to look good naked. Everyone wants to be rich, but who really is willing to spend less than they make, and invest or save the rest? Not that many.

You Must Pay The Cost To Be The Boss

I myself used to be quite heavy, and I’ve lost a lot of weight. How much weight? Like two or three of those starving kids in Africa. People used to ask me how I did it, many of them looking to look great naked themselves. I would always ask them “are you prepared to go to the gym at 10:30 PM on a Friday night?” Every one of them would say no.

That told me they didn’t want to pay the price. I’ve been to the gym at 11PM on a Friday and Saturday because those were the only times I could fit the gym in and I refused to be derailed from my goals. If you want to get a sexy body that stops traffic you must have that level of dedication, even though I wouldn’t recommend actually doing that.

Have you ever wanted to look like a bodybuilder, fitness model, yoga instructor or your favorite celebrity? Can you imagine how good they look without their clothes? You probably have wanted that body and you can imagine them naked if you haven’t seen them that way in TV and film already.

Do a little research. It’s not hard to find out their fitness programs. Often they will discuss them in an interview or magazine article. Read the article. Then pick your jaw up off the floor. Still sure you want this?

Funny how things work.

There Are No Short Cuts Or Secrets

How do you look good without your clothes? Simple. If you want a great ass, you need to work the one you have off. Literally. You won’t get the ass you want by sitting on the one you have, someone once said. It’s true. If you want to look amazing naked, there is no way around hard, hard work. And most importantly, it must be consistent. There’s no point in going super hardcore in the gym once a month. Or training like a bodybuilder but eating like a sumo wrestler. You don’t have to be perfect, but you’d better be like clock work.

Most people never even make it this far, so if you’re still with me here, then it means you truly are committed to learning how to look good without your clothes and you have a great chance of actually pulling it off. You’re already ahead of like 90% of the population. Believe it or not, most of the people who have made it this far still fail. Why?

Take Action Immediately. Something Is Always Better Than Nothing

There are so many options out there. Yoga, crossfit, P90x, insanity, zumba, bodybuilding, swimming, you name it. We have two political parties in America, and yet 200000 kinds of orange juice in the grocery store. The sheer volume of choices can paralyze even the most dedicated person, because they are trying to find the program that “works.”

Here’s the hint. They all work. The trick is to find the one that works for you. This will require trial and error. Get a personal trainer if you need one. If you don’t, you don’t. Find what works for you by figuring out which type of diet and exercise program is up your alley. Do that. Do it a lot. You will have set backs, you will be subject to the learning curve, which is simply:

At first you suck, then you get better.

But if you are serious about looking good without clothes and you use these three action items, you will be successful. How fast is determined largely by how well you apply them. You will get there, you just don’t know when.

How To Play With Her Breasts

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Foreplay can be anything you want it to be, but must guys go after a woman’s breasts. Here’s how to do it so you turn your lover on even more!

Guys Love Breasts!

Call them boobs, knockers, tits, titties, jugs, rack, the twins, juggies, hooters, bazookas or bazongas – call them anything you want – they all refer to the magical pair of breasts that has an enthralling effect in every straight male. Who can fathom their mystery? Who can unveil the allure behind those twin peaks? They take our breaths away – and why can’t we stop talking to them?

Perhaps because they were once a source of life at a young and innocent past, breast obsession could just be a misunderstood homage to childhood. Well, perhaps not. I know of guys who were never breastfed as babies but still spend their evenings waiting for that 2-second breast exposure in those late night TV specials.

Breasts remain hot even when there’s a baby sucking and having a meal off it!

What’s up with that? What’s this fixation with bodacious peaks?

Even women don’t know why. “They’re just mammalian protuberances! Every human being has them, and ultimately, they’re just a lump of fat. So what’s the fuss,” they’ll say. However, it’s interesting to note that this hasn’t stop many of them ladies to visit their friendly doctor and have some work done – making breast augmentation a multi-billion dollar industry.

Don’t Ignore Her Breasts During Foreplay

A woman certainly doesn’t want to be man-handled by a sloppy and callused partner. They’re just breasts, but they’re HER breasts! So treat her knockers just like you want your balls treated – painlessly. She’ll cry foul if you get overly nasty with her tatas. Rummaging them like a pirate laying claim to some treasure, most guys immediately grab and suck – but believe you me, there many other ways of skinning the cat.

Pay attention to the areas around the breasts. Those zones ABOVE, BELOW & at the SIDES. Treat them as Base Camps. Begin your assault of the peak by giving them extensive amounts of oral and manual indulgence. Give them a breath of warm air, run your fingers around.

Why? Uhhh… Because it feels nice.

Here’s the thing. She knows where you’re going next – every man, after-all, wants to go on a nipple pilgrimage. But by kindling the areas around her knockers first, you’re not only signaling your intentions, you’re also heightening her awareness of it. She knows you’re going there, but she doesn’t know WHEN. And she can’t explain why the heck you’re not there yet. It’s a crafty tension building move.

Getting To The Nipples

There are several ways of doing this esteemed ascent to the nipple. You can choose to engage by licking or caressing in a spiraling course, imagining that her nipple is at the center of the spiral. You can execute backward and forward spirals, going back & forth, getting nearer each time.

You can also start from below the breast for example, and head in a straight line towards the peak, up to the Areolar Area (dark area surrounding the nipples), BARELY BUT PURPOSELY MISSING the nipple itself, and continuing up. Go very light, as if your lips/fingers are simply hovering over her areola. Do a reverse by plunging and barely missing the nipple once again as you continue downward. Well, you get the idea.

Details like this might make little sense to you, but to your lover, it’ll make for a wonderful foreplay experience. While others act like gluttonous babies diving for her nipples at first sight, it’s a little different with you, and a lot more exciting.

Every time you take a step back, you’re actually piggy-backing on what all the guys from her past failed to do, separating yourself from the rest. If she has given herself to several men prior to you she’ll be thinking, “Why isn’t my nipple in his mouth yet?”

Eventually, you’re going to have to ravage her nipple. You know you deserve to. So suck and lick it good. Suck and lick to your heart’s content. Flick it, go around and over. Bite it like marshmallow. Grab the other breast (there are TWO! Remember SYMMETRY?) and bring those raisins to a reunion. Lick between, suck them together, bite them both.

Kinky Things To Do With Your Fingers That She Will LOVE!

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Fingering can be hotter than it was in high school when you hadn’t yet reached third or fourth base. Here’s how to make using your hands sexier and more adult!

What other kinky things are fingers good for? If you and your wife are both up for something a bit more out-there, try turning up the kinky knob on your relationship and trying out a few new tricks. Bondage, discipline, dominance, submission and sadomasochism are all designed to lead to increased pleasure for both parties. If you or your wife might get off on the exchange of power or pain, why not take a stroll down a few new pathways?

BDSM

Whether you bind her wrists to give you the upper hand or simply to immobilize hers, bondage is a great way to use your hands to make her very conscious of what her hands can and can’t do. Add a blindfold, and she won’t have any idea what amazing new move is coming her way!

BDSM requires lots of discussion and decision making to reach informed consent. The use of a safe word is very important if you will be playing with any kind of bondage or pain play.

When it comes to pain play, your hands are really your best asset. There are lots of little devices you can buy, but if you are just getting to know her responses, you want the hands-on experience that comes from using your own skin. An over-the-knee bare hand spanking can be an incredible bonding experience, and depending on how much force is used, can be anything from energizing and stimulating to excruciatingly painful.

Walk the line carefully. You can also use the same technique to give a light “spank” to her vulva. Be very gentle here, in the facing-her-feet or spooning position, unless she asks you to go harder!

The other great thing your fingers can do to start off playing with pain is tweaking her nipples. What can easily be pleasurable with a gently touch can quickly turn to pain – sometimes, that delicious kind of pain – when it comes to pinching and twisting those sensitive little nubs.

Exhibitionism

In my opinion, that best kind of kink that comes from learning new hand tricks is a little bit of exhibitionism. If you can get her off without either of you having to get naked, it opens up a whole world of possibilities – literally!

With a skirt and skimpy (or no) panties, you have all the access you need to finger her under the dinner table, in a movie theatre, in the back seat of the car, in the bathroom, while she’s sitting on your lap at the club, in an elevator, or just about anywhere else you’ve ever dreamed of getting busy. Time to make a date!