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4 Kinky Rough Sex Ideas

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Rough sex can turn a boring bedroom experience into something that both you and your partner look forward to. Rough sex is kinky and fun, but safety has to be taken into consideration before anything can be implemented.

A relationship is about love, but your sex life should be full of lust. If you would like to use some kinky rough sex in your sex life, there are a few ways that you can implement it without spending your mortgage at an adult store.

1. Role-Play

Role-play is fun, kinky and it doesn’t have to cost you a dime. Everybody has a scenario in their head about role-playing that gets them going. Whether you have a fantasy about being dominated by a teacher or being the dominator in the relationship, role-playing can bring out the inner wild with any couple. Talk to your partner about implementing role-playing into your sex life.

In order for this to work, she has to be on-board. If she does not play her role the both of you could spend the night in laughter instead of having sex. Ask her what kind of role-playing she would be into. Every woman has a fantasy that they want to play out so be confident that she will not think you are strange for bringing this up.

2. Domination

Domination is another rough sex idea that you can bring into your sex life. Dominating your girlfriend or having her dominate you is a great way to keep the sex interesting. Pulling her hair can show that you’re in control of the sex. Again, she has to be comfortable with this situation in order for it to work.

Talk to her about how far she wants you to go or how far you are comfortable with her going. There is always a breaking point, but she might surprise you with how far she is willing to go with the situation. Most guys are not afraid to let their girlfriends dominate them to the fullest, but you should also express concerns of what you’re comfortable with her doing to you.

3. Spanking

Spanking is another rough sex idea that you can use. Spanking is usually done in doggy style or with the girl on top. Some girls are really into this, but others are not. Make sure that your girlfriend knows that you’re going to spank her before you do it.

Do not spank her so hard that you leave a hand print on her cheek. If she wants it harder she will tell you. You can also use a whip if she’s into it. This takes the experience to a whole different level while still keeping the eroticism present.

4. Bondage

One of the best kinky rough sex ideas out there is to have her tie you up or to tie her up. When you are tied up you give away control of the situation. You give her the ability to use you as her own sex toy. This can be very hot for any guy. If you are going to tie her up, there are a few things that you should know. First, teasing her is the best way to get her off when she’s tied up. Use a vibrator to tease her or run a piece of soft fabric down her body.

This will bring her to edge and make her beg for you to go further. Secondly, don’t give her what she wants until you are ready to. When you tie her up you are in control. You are the dominant one in the situation so you call the shots. If she wants you to do something, tease her for a couple of minutes before you give in. Make minutes seem like hours and she will never forget it.

Clitoris 101: 3 Things Men Need to Know about the Clitoris

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Would you like to be a master lover and bring your partner earth shattering orgasms in bed? It doesn’t even matter whether you have an average, below average or above average-sized penis. As long as you’re familiar with the female parts which are located down south, you will be able to keep women begging for more – because you’re that good in bed.

Why it’s Worth it to Pay Attention to the Clit

 

For men, the answer to the question about which part of the body can be considered as their most erogenous zone, the answer is easy: the penis. All the sexual sensations are concentrated to that area below the hips and above the legs. In the area of oral sex, as long as a woman agrees to go down on you, you’re bound to experience an orgasm no matter how long or short a time she’s willing to spend on giving you some oral love.

For women, however, the answer is a bit more complicated. First, when it comes to her erogenous zones, there are her breasts and her vagina that you can focus on. Second, the vagina, unlike the penis, can be considered as an unchartered territory for most men. This is because the vagina is composed of different parts: the inner and outer labia or lips, the clitoris, and the G-spot which is located about a couple of inches inside the vaginal opening.

But one thing’s for sure: if you want to give that special woman in your life an orgasm that she’s not bound to forget anytime soon, you can go for either the clitoris or the G-spot. Here, let us try to focus on learning about the clitoris.

The Top 3 Things that Men should Know about the Clitoris

Take a look at the top three things that men should know about the clitoris:

1. The ‘anatomy’ of a clitoris

Simply put, the clitoris is that tiny bud located just above the opening of her vagina, right at the top of her inner labia. Experts say that this is the only human organ which is solely dedicated for sexual pleasure. So just imagine just how mind blowing her orgasm will be if you target this spot.

The clitoris is as packed with sensitive nerve endings as the head of your penis and it becomes engorged when a woman is aroused. Don’t go heading immediately after her clit when you have sex, however. The clitoris can be extremely sensitive so she needs to be prepared to take it in, so to speak.

Another crucial information about the clitoris that every man should know about is this: most women do require clitoral stimulation – whether it’s orally or though penetration – in order to achieve an orgasm.

So if you seriously want to improve your skills as a lover, now is as good a time as any to learn everything that there is to know about the anatomy of a clitoris.

2. How to play with the clitoris

Before heading down south, remember that women need more than physical stimulation to be totally into the sexual act. Turn her on by using flirting glances, compliment her with your words and most importantly – never skip the foreplay. If you manage to get her as aroused as she can be before her clothes come off, the more intense things will be later on.

Now, there are two ways for you to stimulate her clitoris. You can either use your tongue and mouth, or your fingers. When deciding to use the latter, start by caressing her legs while working your way towards her inner thighs. Then, touch her outer vaginal lips before making contact with the area just above her clitoris, since direct stimulation might be painful for her.

The second method, you are probably already familiar with: cunnilingus. Using your mouth and your tongue, you can bring her to a mind blowing orgasm by eating her out. Enough said.

3. How to bring sexual fulfillment through clitoral stimulation

At the end of the day, it all boils down to the fact that vaginal intercourse alone is about as exciting for a woman as a bumpy ride on a beat up car. If you want to take her to new sexual heights, never take the clit for granted. Try to communicate or learn her body language so that you’ll know when to go faster or harder, when to stop or not stop.

Through clitoral stimulation, you will be able to send that special woman in your life to greater sexual heights and give her the best ‘ride’ of her life.

Penis Size – And 4 Other Things He’s Secretly Self Conscious About

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Penis size is only one of the things guys are secretly self conscious about. What else is he worrying about that he’s not telling you?

There are a lot of things that women are self conscious about. Having smaller breasts or a little extra weight is enough to send some women over the edge. But there are a lot of things that men are self conscious about. Men are just as insecure about certain aspects of their body; they’re just a little better at hiding it.

Men have a way of showing confidence even when they are not confident. A guy can know that he’s not the smartest, tallest or most well endowed guy in the room, but he can still make women swoon. Here are some of the things that he’s secretly self-conscious about.

1. Height

Hollywood has trained women to think that a guy is not worth it unless he’s 6’1. If you have ever heard of the Napoleon Complex, then you know the kind of guy that is secretly self-conscious about his height. Height is a sign of dominance. When a guy is taller than other men, there is a perception that he is better than other men.

While most women know that this simply isn’t true, guys can be very self-conscious about their height. A guy that is not even average height certainly will not have any problems finding a girl that is shorter than him, but he might find it hard to have the confidence to approach her. Most women are between 5’3 and 5’7. This leaves a lot of options to guys that are 5’7-5’8 and even guys that are only 5’5, but height is a key factor to confidence.

2. Hairlines

While height is an indication of dominance, hair can be an indication of youth. When a guy starts to lose his hair, it’s a sign that he’s getting older. This symptom of mortality is enough to send any guy into a tailspin. If you have ever met a guy with a receding hairline, you probably know the self-conscious means of hiding it.

Hats are fairly common with guys who are losing their hair. Wacky haircuts to hide the fact that they are going bald are also a key factor. If the guy is loosing his hair and he’s in his 20’s, you are going to find him extra sensitive about this subject. If you ever meet a guy that is losing his hair, try to stay off the subject.

3. Weight

Weight can be a factor for guys, but it’s much more a factor for women. Although guys have been romanticized with six pack abs and bulging muscles, a little weight might not affect them that much. If the guy is very overweight he could be self conscious about it. Weight is such an issue with all people that it can negatively affect confidence levels and self-image.

If your last boyfriend was in great shape and your new boyfriend has a little pudge, it’s only natural for him to feel self conscious about it. Talk to your guy about his weight and see if there is something that you can to help him out. Simple diets and exercise can go a long way in transforming a body.

4. Body Hair

Excessive hair is an extreme turn off to most women. Having a hairy back is not something that screams sex appeal. Most guys that have hairy backs suck it up and head to a salon to have it waxed off. When the summer hits everybody likes to head to the pool, beach or lake to relax. This can be a nightmare for guys that have hair in places that it shouldn’t be. If you have ever met a guy with a hairy back, you probably know the signs. He is hesitant to take his shirt off or avoids situations where a shirt should not be present.

5. Penis Size

By far the most common thing that men are self conscious about is their penis size. The penis is not like other organs. Although there are pills, exercises and ridiculous penis pumps, most men fret over their penis even when it is of average penis size. The signs are fairly clear. Most men will avoid sexual contact with women if they have small penis or constantly bombard them with questions about previous lovers.

One way to reassure a man is to tell them that the sex is good – even great. We all know that you don’t have to have a huge penis size to satisfy a woman and there are positions that will give deeper penetration for smaller penises. Informing your partner that you are happy with them and your sex life is essential to instilling confidence in their abilities and penis size.

Are These 4 Things RUINING Your Orgasm?

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An orgasm is the icing on the cake when it comes to sex, but many girls can’t get there. It’s not always easy to reach orgasm, especially if your guy doesn’t have a clue what he’s doing down there. But men aren’t the only culprits here – there are plenty of other factors that contribute to a woman losing out on reaching orgasm during sex. Are these three issues to blame for you not reaching climax?

1. Obsessing Over The Way Your Body Looks

Almost all girls obsess over the way their bodies look, especially naked. This is generally due to social conditioning – from the time a girl is a child, well into her adult years, she is conditioned that “beautiful” is being thin, tan, having perfectly straight and white teeth and wearing sexy clothes. Cellulite is a “no-no” for women, even though it’s a completely natural and normal thing to have.

If you’re thinking about looking “fat” or unattractive to your partner during sex, you’re most likely not going to be able to have an orgasm. Your brain is linked to your body in this way, and if you’re busy obsessing over finding the angle that you look the best in during sex (rather than the angle that feels the best), then you’re going to become frustrated when you can’t reach the peak.

2. Thinking About Your To-Do List

Again, a woman’s brain plays a very significant part in her arousal and ability to reach orgasm during sex. A woman must be completely and totally relaxed and be in the moment to be able to get over the “hump,” so to speak, and she simply can’t do that if she’s focused on other things. If you’re thinking about what you need to get at the grocery store instead of being in the moment with your partner and allowing yourself to be overcome with passion, then you’re not likely to even get close to orgasm city.

Spending a few minutes before sex relaxing and letting the stress of the day melt away is really worth it – and so is engaging in plenty of foreplay. Do something that you know totally relaxes you – like watching your favorite television show while drinking a glass of wine, or taking a warm bubble bath and meditating on positive things. Do whatever it is that you need to do to allow your brain to switch from thinking about all of your responsibilities to thinking about only pleasure.

When you’re in the right mind frame, sexual pleasure and orgasm will come much, much more easily.

3. Wondering Why You’re Taking Forever To Reach Orgasm

This is one of the biggest orgasm killers of all. You get going and it’s going pretty good, and then you start thinking about time. And how long you’re taking. And the longer you take, the more obsessed you get over how long you’re taking. It’s a vicious cycle that gets you nowhere close to climax.

If the sex is good, you’re going to forget about time all together. It could take you ten seconds, ten minutes or an hour to reach orgasm and you’d have no earthly idea. In fact, you may even forget where you are. If you are prone to thinking about how long it takes you to reach the big O, plan for you and your partner to have plenty of time to have sex. Instead of wondering when you’ll actually get there, focus on each sensation and how it feels in the moment.

4. Not Using Enough Lube

Some couples don’t think they need lube during sex. They may think it’s wet enough once they get turned on, or they think that saliva works just as well. This couldn’t be further from the truth! If you have trouble getting to orgasm often, consider investing in an inexpensive bottle of good quality lube. You can get all different kinds at supermarkets and drugstores, and you can even find some in specialty or novelty shops in the mall. Flavored lubes smell fantastic (but usually taste like liquid plastic), while higher quality lubes contain mostly natural ingredients.

Lube will reduce the friction between you and your partner, both in the vagina and outside on your vulva, where your clitoris is. If you’re slipping and sliding more, your going to become more aroused than if you have dry skin rubbing up against dry skin. Don’t be too proud to buy yourself a bottle of good lube – it is well worth the cost and you’ll be glad you did when you finally get that climax you’ve been craving!

Sex Tips – A Quick Lesson On Female Anatomy

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Intimate touching is more than just humping until you are done. You need to explore a woman’s body and find out which spots are most susceptible to kissing, licking and fondling. It’s not true that women need more to get aroused. In fact, women are more likely to get turned on faster than men. It’s difficult to believe, but it’s true. You just have to find her erogenous zones, and discover how to touch those areas properly.

Don’t rush touching your wife or girlfriend everywhere whenever you can. Sex starts by exploring with your hands, followed by your lips and tongue. You already know that a woman can orgasm just by touching her clitoris, vagina and nipples, but there are other parts of her body that contribute to her pleasure during sex. Here are some of the most sensitive parts of a woman’s anatomy.

The Nape Of Her Neck

As a rule, any part on a woman’s body that is often covered by thick hair is an erogenous zone. The nape of a woman’s neck is extremely sensitive because it is often hidden from the elements by her hair. Even if your girlfriend has short hair, it is guaranteed that kissing her on the nape will send shivers down her spine.

The Area Just Below Her Chin

When a woman lifts her head, like when you’re in bed and she’s throwing her head back in pleasure, she reveals the sensitive skin right below her jaw line. This skin connects her neck and her jaw and is very sensitive to touching. It takes so little effort to lean your head and kiss her gently on that spot.

The Inner Part Of Her Arm

Lift her arm to reveal the hairless inner part that is less tanned than the part of her arm with hair. The hairless area near her elbows is filled with nerves that send sensations of pleasure when touched.

Her Hip Bone

Just below her waist is her hipbone. The skin covering her hipbones is so thin that pressing on it will either cause pain or pleasure (depending on how skilfully you touch her there). When a woman is lying down, her hipbones are more evident, which should give you the opportunity to kiss and caress that part of her anatomy.

Perineum

The perineum is a sensitive spot in between the vagina and the anus. The skin is so thin that the woman can feel extreme pleasure if you touch her there with your mouth or with a wet finger. This is another hot erogenous zone you should know about if you want to learn how to please a woman sexually.