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4 Fingering Methods That Will Get Your Girl Off Every Time

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Fingering your girlfriend will probably take you back to high school. However, fingering can be one of the most erotic ways to give your girlfriend or wife an orgasm. Sometimes using your fingers can make your girl orgasm even harder than using your penis or your mouth. If you have never been the best at fingering a girl, there are a few things that you can do to put a smile back on her face.

Knowing the right amount of tempo, speed and the amount of fingers to use while you are performing this act is essential to pleasure. While there are a lot of techniques that you can use there are five that are almost guaranteed to bring your girl to orgasm.

1. The Clitoral Rub

The clitoris is the main point of stimulation for every woman. The clitoris is located on the outside of the vagina at the upper part of the lips. The clitoris looks like a small bean and you may have to push back her lips in order to find it.  One of the biggest mistakes that guys make is giving her a dry rub.

Have you ever had a girl give you a dry hand job? How did it feel? More than likely you were begging the girl to stop within a couple of seconds. The same goes for women. Before you start to rub her clitoris, make sure that you wet your fingers. If she is already wet, you can use her natural lube. If not, use a little bit of your own spit. Rub it slowly to begin with and then work your way up to a quicker motion. Gauge her response and you will be in the clear.

2. The Standard

Fingering is typically two fingers inside of her vagina going in and out. While this isn’t the most creative way to get her off, this is a standard for a reason. Use your index and pointer fingers to enter her. Make sure that your fingers are wet and use lube if needed. Spit works well too, but lube is a great way to speed up the process of getting her wet, especially if you think that you’re going to have sex after you finger her.

Don’t shove your fingers all the way inside her. Make sure you are working your way inside and touching the top of her vagina. Curl your fingers inside her so that you are kind of scraping the top of her vagina. Do this about 3 inches in and you will be touching her G-spot. The G-spot is known to give women some of the deepest orgasms of their life. If you have never found the G-spot, it’s a fleshy patch of skin about 3 inches inside and on the top of her vagina. You will know when you start to touch it.

3. Two Hands

Using both of your hands to finger her is another method that works extremely well. This is basically the standard method while rubbing her clitoris with your other finger. This is going to take some practice. Knowing how to use both hands together is not something that you are going to get right off the bat.

It’s best to start out with the clitoral rub and then work your way up to the standard method of fingering her. You want to be careful when you are using this method. Some women will find that they love this amount of stimulation, however, other women will not like having this much stimulation to the vagina. Everyone is different and they like different things. Starting out slow will give you the ability to gauge how much stimulation your girlfriend actually likes.

The Two-Hand Alternative

The two-hand alternative can come in handy with women that feel too much stimulation from both hands being used on their vagina and the clitoris. The basic method of fingering with the two-hand alternative is to use your tongue on her clitoris. While this might be seem like oral sex, using your fingers on her vagina while licking her clitoris is still a method of fingering. Most women can reach orgasm through oral stimulation or vaginal stimulation alone.

However, some women need both to reach their orgasm. By giving them both of these methods you should have no problem getting your girlfriend off. The reason that you’re going to use your tongue instead of your hands for clitoral stimulation is that the tongue has a different texture and is not as hard as your finger.

Your tongue can easily feel much better to her without the hardness of your index finger. Lick the clitoris in circles while you make the “come here” sign with your fingers inside her gently brushing up against her G-spot.

How To EASILY Create Attraction Through A Dating Site

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Online dating is a lot like traditional dating. There’s always an occasion where a woman is with the guy because she feels attraction, no matter what he looks like. So how do you create this attraction? There are many different ways, but here are a just a few to get you started.

Being Attractive is Not All That

Let’s face it, in online dating, being attractive is cheap. Why? Because you have a photo and a bunch of text describing yourself, and people judge you based on that. Or rather, they form an impression inside their head based on what they see. Now, we all know that you’re not going to put up a photo that  doesn’t look good, right? Exactly.

The thing is, no matter how closely you resemble your photo, you will still  look slightly different offline. She will either notice this or she will ignore it completely. Here’s why. How attractive you are to the girl you’re meeting up with is going to depend on how much attraction you create. Don’t worry so much about your online dating picture when you ask a girl out.

Be Confident

Don’t use gimmicks when you meet the girl for the first time, use your own confidence. Get a list of pick up lines right now and you’ll see some that are so re-hashed that you KNOW girls have heard them all before. But you know what? Some guys still make these lines work for them. In fact, some guys can simply say  “hello” and they get the women’s attention.

It’s not what you say, but how you  say it. Confidence shows in the way you walk, the tone of voice you use and taking  control of the situation. In other words, instead of letting her decide where you’re  going to go, take control and you make the plans.

Use Humor

Women love funny men. Be funny, make jokes. When I’m with a girl, I always like to people watch. Women love doing this and you can always people watch and make funny comments about what other  people are wearing, how they’re walking or their voices and stuff like that, just between you two.

Remember to keep it light, so that she knows you’re kidding. And most important of all, don’t get all piqued when she turns the tables on you and puts  you at the receiving end of a joke. The best part of being funny is you draw out the funny side of the girl. When you’re laughing together, acting silly and exchanging pokes, you can bet she can feel the connection (and the attraction  for you).

Personality

One thing about a guy that will make a woman turn her head regardless of  how he looks is his personality. And “personality” has something to do with the way you set yourself apart from other men. Most dating tips will tell you to be yourself. This is a staple for a reason. When women finds a man who has a  great personality, they usually say he’s down-to-earth and easy to talk to.

What does these mean? Being down-to-earth simply means you’re not walking on eggshells around her, you’re not making her feel awkward by being awkward, and you’re not asking a question that could put her on edge. You can look her in the eye  and tell her you like her without making it seem like you’re desperate to have her to like you back.

Be a Challenge

Another thing to avoid is kissing her ass. I hate to say it, but women throw out tests. You’ve got to have confidence and bust on them with the fear of rejection. That’s the perfect time to tease a woman. If a woman says, “Do these pants make my ass look  big,” I might turn around and look and say, “Wow, really big. Whoa,” and smile because she knows you’re not being serious.

On the Internet, I might throw out something like, “Listen, I understand you’re not really attractive, guys can’t stand looking at you, they’re completely repulsed  by looking at you, you’re not intelligent and you can’t carry on a conversation, so why are you on the Internet?” I’ll say it in a bit of a humorous way. It’s great because they know that I’m teasing them and I’m not kissing their ass.

5 Female Orgasm Myths Men Believe That AREN’T True!

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Female orgasm myths are said time and time again. Some men think that there are women that simply can’t have one. Others believe that their penis size is the root cause. Here are 5 myths that simply aren’t true.

1. A Woman Can Reach Orgasm More Easily If Her Partner Has A Big Penis

If you think your penis size has something to do with a woman’s ability to climax, you need to think again. The truth is that size really doesn’t matter all that much. Look at it this way: just as large breasts may be fun to play with and look at, they really don’t have anything to do with whether or not you climax.

Just as they say “more than a mouthful is a waste,” the same holds true for penises, except our saying goes “more than a vagina full is a waste (and sometimes painful).” Since only the first two inches of a woman’s vagina are sensitive to stimulation, anything over that amount is kind of useless during intercourse, at least from a woman’s physical perspective.

2. A Woman Doesn’t Enjoy Sex Unless She Has An Orgasm

Listen up: NOTHING COULD BE MORE WRONG!!!! Although a majority of men believe that the only way a woman enjoys sex is if she orgasms, nothing could be farther from the truth.

For many couples, sex is generally a physical and emotional expression of love, intimacy, and trust. Because women thoroughly enjoy being close to their partners, many enjoy the physical aspect of feeling their partner’s naked body against theirs during sex, even when it is not accompanied by climax.

The physical touch of her partner helps satisfy a woman’s need for affection, so sex can be very satisfying both physically and emotionally even if she doesn’t climax. An orgasm is an intense pleasurable feeling but it is not the sole source of sexual pleasure for a woman.

3. There’s Nothing Wrong With Faking An Orgasm

A lot of women sincerely believe this myth, but the truth is that there’s A LOT wrong with a fake orgasm. Although faking an orgasm may benefit the woman in one way or another, it does absolutely nothing for her partner. Faking an orgasm is nothing more than a lie.

It doesn’t matter if her reason for doing so is to spare your feelings or to get the act of sex done and over with. Allowing you to believe something that isn’t true is lying. While faking an orgasm may help a man feel good about himself in terms of his ability to satisfy his partner, the truth of the matter is that he is not satisfying his partner.

4. Some Women Just Can’t Have An Orgasm

While there are a percentage of women who have never had one, there is no evidence to suggest that some women are physically incapable of climaxing. One of the reasons some women have never had the pleasure of experiencing an orgasm is because they just don’t know how.

While men have a lot of practice pleasing themselves through masturbation, many women lack the same experience. As a result, they don’t understand what the big deal is about sex and give up trying to learn how to reach climax. The main reason behind this failure to achieve an orgasm is improper genital stimulation.

Contrary to popular belief, a woman requires clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, not vaginal stimulation. Without proper stimulation of the clitoris, orgasm is unlikely for most women.

5. Women Take Longer To Orgasm Than Men

This is another common myth, which has not been supported by research. The reason many men and women believe this to be true is because of their lack of understanding sexual arousal.  A woman’s pattern of sexual arousal is much different than a man’s.

As a result, it takes women longer to “want” to have sex than it does men. Once a woman is fully aroused, she can have an orgasm just as fast, if not faster, than her male partner. But should she fail to reach that optimum level of sexual arousal, it can appear to take her longer to have an orgasm than a man.

The key is to learn how to get your partner hot and horny first. Because men often don’t know how to sexually arouse their partners, they often engage in sex sooner than their partner is ready for. As a result, achieving orgasm can be difficult for the woman, if not impossible. Not only will that help her to climax faster, it will also help her to climax more often.

Flirt Like An Alpha Male And Attract Women TODAY!

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Flirting and communicating with women, requires you first understand the fundamentals of attraction. Without this knowledge, the flirting formula and techniques you are about to learn won’t have any significant meaning to you. So spend some time now understanding these very core concepts to use natural seduction with women.

Use Sexual Evolution To Your Advantage

Have you ever wondered why men and women choose their particular partners? Women “say” they want men who are sweet, generous and caring – but rarely do they date this type of man.

Women stereotypically date football players, arrogant jerks and the “rebel without a cause” type. But to explain why this is so, we must first understand our instincts and how they influence our sex drive. After we understand that, everything else becomes clear.

Since the beginning of time men and women have carried out unique and completely different roles within their communities. In many primate species, 20 percent of the males mate with 80 percent of the females to make sure that the strongest genes survive. These male monkeys are also known as alpha males.

Survival Of The Fittest

This principle guarantees that only the strongest males pass on their superior genes, guaranteeing that the species continues to prosper, and to develop stronger and healthier offspring. This is why Mother Nature favors strong males, and is the reason “the hungry don’t get fed.”

So wouldn’t it be logical that you would want to display the attributes women are looking for in order to convince them that you would benefit their offspring?

A woman won’t find a man desirable because he wears nice clothes or has good looks. How would a well-dressed, handsome man benefit their offspring? When you think about it, attraction is a process that tricks a man and a woman into liking each other long enough for them to have sex.

Use Historical Perspectives

Back in primitive times the basic roles of men and women were as follows:

  • Men did the hunting, protecting and providing
  • Women did the nurturing, caring and raising of children

If men were the providers, and women were the child bearers, what differences would you expect of them?

Being the protectors, providers and hunters, men needed bigger bodies that were capable of quick bursts of energy to help them catch their prey, build shelters and protect their families from predators.

Being the nurturers and caretakers, women needed broader hips, breasts to feed their young, and slightly higher fat stores in their bodies to ensure their unborn children could survive harsh environments.

Mother Nature (or God, or however you view how life began) created men and women to be biologically and physically different and this helped to make them instinctively desire each other, and ultimately grow the population. Knowing these differences can help you become an alpha male that naturally attracts women.

Marriage Proposal Ideas: The Romantic’s Guide To Popping The Question Review

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If you’re looking for the perfect way to ask your girlfriend to marry you and be with you forever, you’ll find a ton of ideas (and more!) in Marriage Proposal Ideas: The Romantic’s Guide To Popping The Question. This book has compiled the best, most romantic ways to propose to a woman (real guys have used these exact scenarios to ask their girlfriends to marry them), so you have many different ideas to choose from – and almost all of them will put a smile on your face and warm your heart!

The Good

There is definitely not a shortage of marriage proposal ideas in Marriage Proposal Ideas: The Romantic’s Guide To Popping The Question, and they range from simple to creative and more. Many of them are incredibly unique and there are more than a few of them that you haven’t heard of before.

Although these are actually stories of how other men proposed to the women they love, most of them are so original that your girl will most likely think that you came up with it all by yourself! There are also small sections on now not to propose and other helpful sections such as timing and location which can be exceptionally helpful for the guy who wants to make sure all his i’s are dotted and his t’s are crossed.

The Bad

The proposal ideas are actually written as stories rather than suggestions on different ways to propose to a woman. The emotional stories and lack of a clear cut “how to” approach actually makes it more appealing to women than men – so some men are going to get rather bored of reading proposal story after proposal story. Also, the stories aren’t categorized or sectioned off at all in the book.

The table of contents does categorize the ideas somewhat, but lists which story numbers fit into a particular category – meaning that you’ll have to scroll through all the stories to find the number you want, say if you were looking for proposal ideas that take place in an airport or involve the help of police or firemen. The lack of organization in Marriage Proposal Ideas: The Romantic’s Guide To Popping The Question makes it somewhat difficult to find what you’re looking for.

The Bottom Line

A marriage proposal has to come from the heart, but if you want to find an original and unique way to ask your girlfriend to marry you, Marriage Proposal Ideas: The Romantic’s Guide To Popping The Question can definitely help you out. You’ll read through hundreds of incredible proposal stories and if you’re creative enough, you can piece together aspects of different proposals to make your own unique set up, personalized just for your girl. If you’re not that good at coming up with romantic stuff, any of the ideas contained in this book will make for an excellent proposal. Almost any of these ideas will make your girl’s face light up and they’re unique and romantic enough that you’ll have an awesome engagement story for years to come.

The Full Marriage Proposal Ideas Review

Marriage proposal ideas can be tough for a guy to come up with on his own, especially if he lacks creativity and imagination. (Hey, a lot of guys do!)

While the organization of this book could definitely use some work, the ideas themselves are fun, exciting and romantic. They range from sweet to exciting to downright over the top! Some of them involve minimal planning while others would require you to put a lot of effort into setting the whole thing up. (One guy had a scuba diving friend! Unless you know a lot of people who scuba dive, chances are, putting that particular engagement scenario together would be downright impossible).

Regardless, the ideas in Marriage Proposal Ideas: The Romantic’s Guide To Popping The Question will either give you everything you need to set up an incredible engagement or get the gears turning in your own head so you can come up with something as equally fun and romantic for your girlfriend.

Since the ideas are actually real life scenarios that other guys have used to propose to their girlfriends, it may be a little difficult for men to actually get through the book. Women are much more likely to enjoy the heartfelt tales of perfect proposals, while guys who read Marriage Proposal Ideas: The Romantic’s Guide To Popping The Question are going to be wishing for more of a step by step instruction manual. However, the limited table of contents will be of some help – you’ll at least be able to figure out which proposal stories will have you either using elements of nature, proposing during the holidays, using costumes and more.

Overall, Marriage Proposal Ideas: The Romantic’s Guide To Popping The Question is a great resource if you’re looking to ask that special woman to marry you and you just can’t think of a good enough way to do it. Most of the marriage proposal ideas you will find online are either overdone or chintzy – these are actually fun and unique!