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What Your Girl REALLY Wants This Valentine’s Day

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Valentine’s Day comes with lots of expectations – you really need to perform well (this doesn’t mean spending a lot of money, but you should know that already) if you really want to make your woman feel special. But are dinner dates, flowers and jewelry all she wants? Not hardly! Find out what your partner TRULY wants this year.

For You To Not Ask Her What She Wants

She doesn’t want you to ask her what she wants for Valentine’s Day – that’s a huge faux pas. What that says to her is, “I don’t care to know enough about you to make an educated guess as to what you would like for a gift.” That is so lame! This is something you want to avoid at all costs. Don’t discuss Valentine’s Day with her. Don’t bring it up. Don’t ask her what she’s getting you. Let her think you’ve forgotten! Just whatever you do, plan your gift without her help!

If you’re really stuck on what to get your girl, ask her best friend for a hand instead. That’s what they’re for and when your partner finds out you enlisted the help of her BFF, that’s major brownie points for you. Just don’t be the one to tell her – let the friend tell her during a meaty gossip session. You can pretty much count on getting laid for awhile after that.

For You To Have More Than One Gift Planned

You do not have to spend a lot of money to make this happen! Most guys who don’t forget Valentine’s Day entirely will get one nice gift that will be graciously accepted. However, remember that part about how she doesn’t want you to ask her what she wants? How she wants you to already know what she wants? Apply that here – she wants you to know what she wants so much that you have multiple ideas and couldn’t settle on just one. Yes, that’s actually a secret fantasy of hers.

Again, this doesn’t have to be several gifts persay. It can be a love coupon book with a treasure hunt with sweet notes leading the way to find it, paired with a romantic home cooked candle lit dinner at home, an erotic massage and incredible sex. See? That’s like 7 presents and would easily take up the better part of the afternoon, evening and night. And it would cost you about $20. For all of that. Not even kidding. She wants you to be creative enough to plan not one, not two, but as many incredible, creative, sweet and romantic things you can think of. They can cost hundreds, or they can cost exactly zilch. 

No “Useful” Gifts

Yes, she may have been needing her brakes done for awhile or really needs a new electric mixer, but that does not mean that these are acceptable Valentine’s Day gifts. In fact, these are really bad ones! The entire point of Valentine’s Day is frivolity – meaning, that for this frivolous holiday, you need to choose frivolous gifts. Get it?

No Last Minute Gifts

Your partner also doesn’t want you to buy a gift last minute. Even if you think you totally slid by and got an awesome gift, she’ll be able to tell that you forgot about Valentine’s Day until the last possible moment. This screams irresponsible and inconsiderate to her! She’s likely been planning your present(s) for days or even weeks, so if you go out the day before and get her a stuffed animal and chocolates from Walgreens, you are most definitely going to insult her.

Take some time to plan nice gifts, or a romantic date. If you’re not creative and have difficulty coming up with something on your own, plan to have enough time to do a little research.

Chores!

Above all, your lady wants you to get up off your butt and help her out with cleaning the house! As in, right now. If you want to make your chore gifts into a coupon book, all the better. But this Valentine’s Day, make an effort to have the dishes done before she comes home from work, or take out the trash without her having to ask.

Better yet, call in sick for the day while she’s at work, and surprise her not only with a sparkling clean house and dinner, but decorated with balloons and candles. Believe it or not, this takes very little funds. You can have the house dripping with “Valentine’s Day” with $30 or less if you put in the effort.

And there it is, fellas. What does she really want for Valentine’s Day? For you to do something that makes her feel like she was totally worth the effort.

How To Touch A Woman & Make Her MELT!

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Foreplay allows you to really be creative with how you get your girl turned on. Use these suggestions to turn your lover into putty before you ever have sex!

Why A Girl Wants Your Hands All Over Her

Women want, long and crave to be touched. Where?

All over their bodies!

But this is not a simple case of hand-to-skin-contact. After all, women, specially the desirable ones, get harassed daily by touchy-feely dimwits with no concept of personal space. These guys love to get their hands on a woman – any woman – add alcohol to the mix and they’ll frisk anybody with the likeness of breasts.

Can you smell the restraining order my friend?

But just as terrible are blokes at the opposite end of the spectrum who only touch when they want something. “Touchy-feely is for girly men,” they’d say. They go tactile only when horny and good to go, and have packaged physical intimacy in such a way that sex becomes the only source for it.

The physical contact then has strings attached: SEX.

And this frustrates women who long for physical connection – but not necessarily intercourse. One wife’s problem, in fact, was that she happens to have a husband who only touches her when he fancies a roll in the sack. So she’s like, “Oh, he just grazed my thigh again, I know where this is going….”

If she indulges his caresses and light foreplay without the reward of sex, she’ll be labeled a “tease” – accused of causing him blue balls because she didn’t put out. She’ll be charged of leading him on. So women, who’ve learned their lessons, are careful because many guys present a take-it-or-leave-it attitude to touching.

But not surprisingly, the yearning for surface area contact can be so overwhelmingly strong that many women have, in one time or another, engaged in sex just to have someone close, just to have someone warm. Sex, in exchange for touch.

Do You Have Any Idea How Fulfilling Touch Is For A Lady?

One way of grasping this is by asking women what they miss most when they “aren’t getting any.” When women experience sexual droughts, what do they crave most? Look out for the answers on this one because it’ll provide you with a fundamental understanding of how women view sex. This is one of the most essential piece of the puzzle.

Women don’t sexually engage only because they get horny, for they can easily help themselves in the shower and harvest climaxes in the most intense and efficient manner. They don’t really miss sucking on your thing, or the fact that you blow your load after two minutes. They don’t mind doing without your masterful strokes or the “almost-kinda” orgasms you cause. A woman misses you for something else!

So what do women miss most when they don’t get laid?

They miss being cuddled, kissed, caressed and held!

They miss the feeling of excitement, fun, affection, closeness, togetherness, comfort, warmth and intimacy (or the illusion of it). Such are the premium benefits women get from sex, the VERY REASONS women jump to bed.

Without these, a woman feels isolated, rejected, undesirable, lonely, unneeded and unattractive.

This is interesting, because touch during foreplay, which is supposedly a physical implement, triggers in her an emotional and psychological satisfaction. When she says, “Sex feels so good,” it’s not only a comment on the physical; it’s a compliment on the emotional-psychological as well.

Orgasmic Sex Positions You Can Use To Excite Her G-Spot With EVERY Thrust!

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Still using the same old sex positions?

Did you know that almost 75% of women CAN’T have an orgasm just through intercourse?

WOW! That’s a lot of women! Chances are, your girl belongs to that 75%.

Did you also know that almost 67% of women FAKE their orgasms?

So even if you ARE giving your partner an orgasm, chances are you really AREN’T and she’s just faking it! OUCH!

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You can give your lover deep, g-spot orgasms that make her whole body shudder with gut wrenching pleasure by changing just 1 simple thing – without having to learn any oral sex or fingering techniques. In fact, you can give her the most incredible, earth shattering orgasms that are so hot you’ll want to put a towel down first (or you can just change the sheets afterwards, your call) with just your penis!

LIES You’ve Been Led To Believe

Most guys really want their partners to have an orgasm during sex. Most guys aren’t the “wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am” kind of guy. But they’ve been brainwashed to believe downright LIES about women and their pleasure. Here are some of the untruths that have been drilled into a man’s mind, even making him think that the problem is HER, not him:

  • That you’re a really bad lover if you can’t make your partner orgasm during sex (this has *some* truth to it, but it doesn’t mean you’re a bad lover – it simply means you’re uneducated! ANY man can become an INCREDIBLE lover if he just knows the right things to do!)
  • If she can’t have an orgasm just with a man’s penis inside her, something must be wrong with HER (this is SO untrue! A woman’s hot spots aren’t even really reachable through the regular sex positions that most guys have been taught or have read about)
  • If a woman can’t reach orgasm, you can’t do anything about it. She either can or she can’t. (NOT true! EVERY woman is built to reach orgasm. In fact, that’s what the clitoris is for and that’s the ONLY thing it’s for! If she can’t get off, something is wrong and it’s not her body)

Here’s a key principle:
Great sex can be boiled down into a CONCISE set of rules…
just as lousy sex is the result of a few simple mistakes!

There are a handful of sex positions that provide more intense & deeper stimulation for her than usual.

Not only do these sex positions provide the added rubbing motion needed to stimulate her intimate parts… they greatly increase her chances of actually having an orgasm!

Our good friend Gabrielle Moore has just released “Orgasmic Sex Positions!”: Advanced Positions For Better And More Intense Orgasms!

What Is “Orgasmic Sex Positions” All About?

Think of it as a modern, fully-illustrated Kama sutra for the 21st century. This is the complete graphical playbook both you and your lover can refer to… over and over again… each time you make love!

With Orgasmic Sex Positions, you will learn exactly what to do and how to do it so your girl will have an orgasm EVERY SINGLE TIME you have sex! Not to mention that her orgasms will be deeper, wetter, faster and HARDER than ever before?

You’ll find out so many things that you never knew before. These EXCLUSIVE tips & techniques are ones you won’t find ANYWHERE else!

You’ll find out how to instantly know if your partner is faking her orgasm! You’ll also learn the right sex positions to use to give your lover MULTIPLE orgasms!

If you thought your sex life was over and it was time to order a tombstone, you’re WRONG!

Your sex life can become better than ever, no matter how old you are or how long you and your partner have been together!

Plain and simple, the Orgasmic Sex Positions system WORKS!

The secret is 68 mind-bending sex positions that you haven’t tried (no, these aren’t the ones that you’ve read about in magazines!). These are the ones that have been PROVEN time and again to give a woman earth shattering orgasms! She will be begging, gasping and moaning for you to thrust harder, deeper and faster!

What You’ll Learn In Orgasmic Sex Positions

  • Why using the same sex positions over and over will DESTROY your sex life
  • The SHOCKING truth about the missionary position!
  • One simple way to have better sex STARTING TONIGHT!
  • Why sex positions on the Internet aren’t going to get you anywhere (and how they can actually hurt your sex life)
  • What “bad boys” do in bed that gets girls so CRAZY and how you can do it too!
  • How improving your sex life doesn’t mean buying a bunch of sex toys or lingerie

Great Sex Is The Foundation For A Happy Relationship!

If you’re not having great sex with your partner, you’re in for a downhill ride when it comes to your relationship. Sure, lots of people have “happy” relationships without great sex, but they honestly don’t know what they’re missing.

Great sex increases the bond between two people, making them feel more loving and more forgiving of each other. It allows them to connect on an emotional and physical level in a way that NOTHING ELSE CAN. That’s right – nothing else can help you connect to your partner the way great sex can.

Think about it this way:

Have you ever noticed that your partner becomes more grouchy after a sex session where she didn’t reach orgasm?

She’s sexually frustrated and taking it out on you! 

Chances are, she got aroused but didn’t quite make it over the edge. So she’s going to gripe more about you not taking the trash out or whatever else she can think of, because you DIDN’T satisfy her in the bedroom!

You mean, giving her better sex will make her stop bitching at you?

YES!

Don’t Learn The Hard Way

Even more than creating a happier relationship, great sex is the KEY to keep a woman from cheating on you. Women have sexual needs and if YOU aren’t meeting them, someone else will. Too many guys who have downloaded Orgasmic Sex Positions only found this out AFTER their wife or girlfriend had already cheated on them.

You don’t want to be that guy!

Orgasmic Sex Positions will teach you how to stimulate your partner the RIGHT way during sex, so the chances of her actually having an orgasm increase every time you have sex! If you’re pleasing her during intercourse and making sure she’s getting off on it just as much as you, she won’t have the desire to cheat on you! However, if you are ignoring her needs and only caring about your own pleasure, she will find someone else who DOES care about her pleasure – and it won’t be YOU!

If you get it TODAY, you’re going to start seeing results TONIGHT! It’s that easy!

Are you ready for the BEST SEX OF YOUR LIFE? And the best sex of HERS?

Get your copy of Orgasmic Sex Positions NOW! Don’t wait! Your girl is counting on you!

How To Write Sultry Valentine’s Day Poems (And Get Her In Your Bed)

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Valentine’s Day poems don’t have to be sweet all the time! While a poem full of romance is perfect for the 14th, sometimes that’s just not where you want to go with it. If you want to write something for your lover’s gift, but you also want to have some great sex, here’s how you can make it so hot, you’ll get laid (and she’ll still think it’s romantic!)

Write What You Mean And Mean What You Write

Don’t write something just to write it. Don’t do it because you think you should, or because you think love poems have to be a certain way. Start with your feelings. Write what you mean. If you write it, mean it. Don’t inject fake emotions into the poem because you think they should be there or because you think it sounds better if you do.

Your girl will easily be able to tell if you’re just giving her lines, so writing a super fancy love poem with words she knows you don’t fully understand (and using language that you would never use in a hundred years) isn’t going to get you very far. In fact, you’ll put a lot more effort into it than you’ll get out.

Here’s a hint: When you stay true to yourself and your feelings, it doesn’t feel like it takes much effort at all and the rewards are great.

Go “Sensual,” Not “Sexual”

This Valentine’s Day, you want to have incredible sex. You also want to try your hand at seducing your lover with poetry. If this is your goal, you don’t want to go with anything “sexual.” Talking about how hot she is, how hard she makes you or how horny you are isn’t going to do much in the way of getting her to go to bed with you. This is not what is going to get her to respond.

Instead, go “sensual.” Talk about her curves, how supple her skin looks in the moonlight and how you love kissing her soft lips. Compare parts of her to things you can find in nature – eyes the precise color of a sparkling river, lips like rose petals, etc. Use words like “wet, hard, delicious, supple, dirty, etc.” but not to describe her. She’ll get the underlying meaning. If you think of something sexual to write, just stop and think of how a woman might right that same thing. Would she say, “Your hot body makes me so hard,” or would she say, “Your sensuous curves set me on fire!” Think about it!

Don’t Be Afraid To “Get Inspired”

Guys look at porn. Women read romance and erotic novels. So if you’re going to try to seduce your lover on Valentine’s Day with poetry, why not go to the source of all women’s desire? Yes, it means you’ll have to read. Girly stuff. But it will be well worth it to understand a sexual situation from a woman’s perspective. Romance and erotic novels are nothing but situations in which a woman’s perfect scenario with someone is acted out word for word, play by play.

Google some short erotic stories – you’ll get to the good stuff a lot sooner than if you try to crack open a Harlequin. Take note of what the main woman in the story is seeing, feeling and thinking. Use this to inspire you to write your own story of sorts. Notice the slow buildup before anything erotic is introduced – this is definitely something you want your own poetry to reflect!

Play On Her Fantasies

Again, this is where either knowing your partner really well or knowing how women think about sexual situations well. Don’t think you’ll be able to write excellent Valentine’s Day poems without doing a little homework first. Think about what your lover likes in bed. Has she expressed to you what her desires or fantasies are? If so, you’re lucky! If you’re not quite sure, just write your poetry based on what you know she likes.

So to sum it all up, you want to be genuine when you write, get an idea of what to write from erotic or romance novels and choose topics that reflect your lover’s hidden desires. Be sensual and put some personality into it and you’re golden! Even if you’re not a brilliant author, your partner will know that you spent time and effort on her this Valentine’s Day. For a woman, that’s the best gift of all!

How To Ask A Girl Out For Valentine’s Day

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Valentine’s Day sucks if you’re single. You definitely don’t want to be alone, hanging out at your house like you normally do every other day, while everyone else goes out and has fun with their significant other (or just an “other”) This year, commit to going out! Ask out the woman you’ve had your eye on for Valentine’s Day and you won’t be alone! Here’s how to do it.

Leave Roses And A Note In Her Car

Grab a bouquet of roses and write a simple note with your phone number on it. Plainly state, “I would love to take you out for Valentine’s Day. Give me a call!” Don’t be too lovey dovey or pushy in your note, because the flowers add enough intensity to this scenario – too much and you’ll scare her off.

Also, meeting her at her car, say when she gets off work, with flowers and asking her out in person is also very sweet and acceptable. If you don’t want to get rejected in person and you think there’s a possibility of that, the note works well for that.

Send Flowers To Her Work

Flowers are an excellent way to get a lady to warm up to you, as long as they’re not too extravagant and obviously expensive. Bigger is not better here – however, taking note of her personal style and taste and selecting flowers that you genuinely believe she’ll like is. Take some time to select a nice bouquet with her favorite flowers and colors and have it delivered to her workplace.

You can put “from your secret admirer” if you like (this is almost always exciting for a woman, because in all honesty, it rarely ever happens for real) but make sure to include your phone number so she can get back to you. The great thing about sending it to work is that you’ll be making certain that all her work friends (and frienemies) see it. This will make her feel intensely special, and they’ll also put some good natured pressure on her to accept your offer.

Text Her To Meet You Somewhere Romantic

If you already have her phone number, this is an excellent way to meet her to ask her out in person. Send her a text asking her to meet you somewhere romantic – but not too romantic if you think it might scare her off. Meet at the park under your favorite tree, by a lake or river, or anywhere else nature can help you out a little.

If your local grocery store has a large Valentine’s Day section – may of them inflate balloons and let them float up to the ceiling, creating an entire section of surreal pink and red floating ribbon – you can meet there (this really only works if the atmosphere is super appealing).

In A Scavenger Hunt

Send your potential date on a scavenger hunt, with lots of little notes that lead either to another note with a big reveal or you, holding flowers. Make sure the “gold at the end of the rainbow” is fun and exciting enough to have made it worth the hunt. Just use your creativity for this one!

Use the notes to write fun clues as to where to find the next clues. With each note, include something small, like a rose petal (to indicate that the big reveal might include roses) or candy. When she reaches the reveal, either use a note to ask her out for Valentine’s Day, or do it in person. Again, don’t put too much pressure on her to respond. Have a card in your pocket with your phone number on it that you can pull out and say, “Think about it and call me if you’re interested” if she chokes.

Remember, if she seems uncomfortable or reluctant at all, you want to use the card. You may still get turned down, but there’s a good chance she was just nervous or didn’t know what to say or do when put on the spot like that. If you slip her your number and allow her some time to calm down and think about what happened, you give her a reprieve.

If you don’t, she is much more likely to turn you down because she felt uncomfortable. If you do, you’ll increase your chances of her calling you and letting you know that she really loved what you did, but was really nervous and shy while it was happening.