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Flirting Formula Review

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Flirting doesn’t have to be difficult. Most guys are intimidated when it comes to flirting, but YOU don’t have to be. The art of flirtation with a woman can be broken down into a science, and that’s precisely what Flirting Formula does. From the first contact to the first date and more, Flirting Formula will teach you how to work it! Game on!

The Good

The author seems to understand both men and women, and the natural desires that each have. Many people get so caught up in the modern day age that they seem to forget that we are all still ruled by our basic desires. Flirting Formula exposes what really drives a man and a woman, and how you can work these things to your advantage. From the fundamentals of flirting, to making an incredible first impression, to how to act on the phone and more, there’s really no stone left unturned here.

The Bad

Flirting Formula is definitely a heavy read. With very little in the way of visual stimulation, this is one of those books that you really want to sit down with. Fortunately, the content is valuable and spot on, so it’s definitely worth it. But some men who are looking for a “quick fix” are going to be a bit disappointed. But if you’re not really willing to put in the effort it takes to read a great flirting guide, are you really willing to put the effort into flirting itself (which is way harder than reading a book)?

The Bottom Line

Overall, Flirting Formula is a great go-to guide to learn the basics of flirting and a few building blocks. It won’t turn you into a dating Casanova overnight, but it will certainly help increase your self confidence around women and help you to take your game up a notch. You will, of course, want to adapt each suggestion to your own personal beliefs and motivations, but the tips contained in the guide are pretty much able to be used universally, with any woman, anywhere. A great investment in your dating life if you really enjoy being social, especially with women.

The Full Flirting Formula Review

Flirting Formula is one of the better guides on flirting, hands down. The author begins with the basics of flirting, which is essential if you really want to be good at it. To be good at it, you of course, have to understand it fully. Some men may be tempted to skip over the beginning, which includes lots of information about the differences between men and women and their basic needs in a partner, but if you’re one of those guys, buckle down and read the introduction. It may seem like it’s “under the radar” but it shouldn’t be. Every good flirting game needs to build on a solid foundation.

All In One Flirting Guide

The author covers everything from how women communicate, to how your voice and body language play a role in attracting women. Not only does the author discuss why these things are important and how they affect your ability to be successful when flirting with girls, but he also tells you what to do and how to do it. Many dating guides stress the importance of a certain thing, but fail to elaborate on what you need to do to make it actually happen. Not so with Flirting Formula. Everything you need to know is right here.

Talking To Women

A majority of the book is about how to talk to women in different scenarios, including on the phone, in intimate settings, etc. Though this may make the table of contents look a bit skimpy, don’t for a minute underestimate the value of learning how – just exactly how – to talk to women. The author elaborates each section in great detail throughout the book, so by the end, you compare what you’ve read with the table of contents and walk away feeling like you just got waaaaay more than you paid for.

One of the most helpful parts of Flirting Formula is all the different scenarios the author paints. It’s not just a book full of ho-hum, “Do this, do that” dating tips. Quite the opposite, in fact. Yes, it is a heavy read without anything visual to keep your mind occupied while you absorb the information, but you’ll just have to use your brain on this one. Use the scenarios and dialogue that the author has created to fuel your imagination. Although some of the back and forth dialogue used in the book (when re-enacting a scene that might take place when a man is flirting with a woman) isn’t ideal or necessarily exactly how a conversation will take place, but you’ll get the general idea of great back and forth banter between males and females.

What You’ll Learn In Flirting Formula

  • What women find irresistible in a man
  • 5 Must-Have qualities that a woman wants in a man
  • The fastest way to attract women
  • The simplest way to build sexual tension
  • The biggest conversation mistake you can make when talking to girls
  • Where to find women
  • How to leave a solid first impression
  • How to tease a woman
  • How to get a phone number
  • How to talk to women on the phone
  • How to set up the first date (and what to do once you’re on it!)
  • How to turn women on

All in all, you’re going to learn a lot from Flirting Formula. Pretty much everything you want to know about how to interact with a woman in a flirtatious way – from the very first time you introduce yourself to the time you become an “item” with this person (and even after) – then Flirting Formula is the guide you need.

Insider Internet Dating Review

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Insider Internet Dating will teach you the skills you need to be successful with women online. You might consider it as the “pick up artist guide” for the internet age. There’s even a warning label, “This product is only intended for men looking to hook up with a lot of women.”

The course is divided into four modules, plus bonus materials from other authors. Each module contains on average a dozen lessons in audio(mp3), video, or PDF format. This allows people to view the information in any format they find convenient and to use different formats if necessary.

The Good

Insider Internet Dating is very thorough in teaching you the initial stages of the dating process when using online dating websites. It offered mostly practical tips and advices that you can implement immediately to get more dates. Guys who want to see results NOW will truly enjoy Insider Internet Dating, because you can start using the tips and tricks you learn right away.

The Bad

Some of the material seems a bit dated. For example, Dave mentions how to meet women on MySpace. It would be beneficial if it were updated to “Facebook” instead, but many of the same principles still apply.  There are also odd obscure recommendations of websites such Yahoo Personal, AmerianSingle, MatchDoctor, and The Bottom Line. Aside from feeling a little dated, many guys who are looking on how to meet “Mrs. Right” aren’t going to enjoy the modules as well. Insider Internet Dating is about hooking up with women (plural) using the internet as a tool, not a guide on how to meet your future wife.

The Bottom Line

Insider Internet Dating provides a wealth of ideas on how to meet and get to know multiple women online.  It will boost your confidence and knowledge in attracting women online, and turn them into actual dates.  Even though the guide is written for players, or men who want to date a lot of women, it’s actually still useful to guys who are simply looking for a girlfriend – although if this is your angle, you may want to supplement this guide with something a little more relationship driven.

The Full Insider Internet Dating Review

Online dating has become more and more common. It’s a lot easier to meet a woman on the web than in person. Even if she says no, it’s not a big deal. It’s an impersonal way to get rejected, making it sting a lot less. You can meet a lot of women without actually approaching them. This cuts out a lot of awkwardness in asking someone out. The downside is that a million other guys are doing the same thing, so you really have to stand out.

What Insider Internet Dating Covers

  • How to make your profile magnetic
  • How to email women and successfully get their phone numbers
  • How to set up the first meeting via phone
  • How to set up a successful first meeting (and what to do once you meet)

Module By Module Breakdown

The first module of Insider Internet Dating provides some fascinating tips on the creation of your online profile. It covers self-esteem, reasons why women are using online dating, traits that you should display, best online sites (which are a little dated) tips that you can learn from adult escort sites, how to find the best photo of yourself, and finally how setup “magnetic” that will women to contact you.

The second module provides video instructions on email templates that cover various circumstances such as “first contact,” “no contact,” “no reply,” “phone number close,” “no number,” “subject line,” “no IM,” and even “when to email.” The author specifically warned that you should custom tailor the templates according to your own language. Basically don’t copy and paste, instead fully understand the concepts and make them your own.

The third module goes over how to make a date via phone, but many men who prefer to do this over email will find this portion of the module unnecessary. It also covers the best day in the week to have your date and where to go on the first date. The modules outline how the choices you make regarding the date send subtle signals of whether you are a doormat or a man with things happening in his life. There’s even a clever trick that will save you money without making you look cheap on the first date.

Module 4 is the crown jewel of the course. It covers a lot dating tips & tactics that happens on a first date. It even analyzes how women communicate, so you can begin to have a better understanding of how a woman’s mind works.

One controversial tip is to date multiple women at once. The idea is to have some emotional detachment and not to go overboard with any particular woman, kind of that like with the saying, “there’s plenty of fish in the sea.”

Part of doing it is having women pursue you, doing a topsy turvy of the traditional courtship. Insider Internet Dating suggests for guys to stand out and not sweat on the conversation topics. In fact a great topic is telling funny stories about past dates. This puts you and the girl in the “us against them” mode.

The module provides more dating advice like what do to say when she accuses you of something, how to tell if she’s attracted, what to do if you’re not getting interest signals and more.

What Makes Insider Internet Dating Worthwhile

The author believes you should treat dating like a sales process, where you’re basically selling yourself as an awesome guy. One tip to add more familiarity is to go to multiple venues on the same date.

Since girls are subtle, the key is to see what she does, not what she says. There’s even advice on how to smoothly hold her hand and set up the first kiss. Finally, there’s a warning of what not to do at the end of the first date, and how long to wait before following up with her.

All in all, if you’re looking to get savvy about the online dating process or looking to meet multiple girls online, Insider Internet Dating is a great resource!

How To Tease Your Girl Into An Orgasmic FRENZY!

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Foreplay is essential every time you have sex! You want to tease and play with your lover as much as possible before getting down to business – here’s how!

Ever since she experienced it from the boys on the playground, a woman relishes the thought of being teased. That tension between bad boy and innocent girl was challenging and it was exciting! And, although she may not readily admit it, it was kind of fun. Looking back, she realizes that she loved it.

What took place at the playground must also unfold in the bedroom – the adult playground.

Thwarting Her Power Over You

Women, especially the desirable ones, often find that they can easily manipulate guys into doing anything, absolutely anything they want. What she wants, she gets – immediately and without question. – without her working for it. If she wants a kiss, boy-toy here would only be too happy to comply. Why would he wait, he’s only been waiting for that moment for like 2 months! Guess who’s the doggy and who’s the master in this dynamic?

It’s very important that you not only learn what women want, but HOW NOT TO GIVE IT TO THEM IMMEDIATELY!

That’s teasing!

Teasing During Oral Sex

In oral sex for example, don’t immediately dive and spar with her clitoris. That’s what most guys do during foreplay, but you’re not most guys. Start with her inner thighs, before moving to the general area of the vulva, accidentally touching the clitoris a few times. Eventually, zero in on the clitoris. During the build-up phase, you can even STEP BACK and leave it for a while and get busy with something else. Then later, come back. It’s a back & forth, push-pull technique.

The same thing happens with stuff like kissing, massages, penetration etc. Don’t jump to the good stuff, delay the good stuff. The sensual man doesn’t see this as delayed gratification – it is prolonged pleasure.

But why do we tease in the first place?

Why It’s Important To Do It EVERY TIME

Let me make this very clear. We do not tease because we can, we tease because we should. It’s not an ego-tripping power play used to punish a girl. We employ it for effect. If you want incredible sex, you cannot afford to miss on teasing.

We make women wait so they will come to appreciate what we give, when we give it. And this thing goes beyond sex, by the way. For example, how do you make house guests appreciate the dinner you serve? You make them sit & sit & wait so long ‘til they get so hungry they’ll literally harvest what you set on the table.

Teasing raises the value of what you offer, by setting it temporarily & slightly out of reach, you increase wanting. People don’t desire what comes easily. Anything that comes effortlessly is easily taken for granted. People want what they can’t have – this is the basic law of human nature.

When It Goes Overboard

But here’s a warning: Extended foreplay is great, up to a point. There’s a calibrated point where it ceases to become motivational and instead becomes punitive. It needs to be operated on an optimum level, going beyond that simply decreases effectiveness and produces a negative result. One has to strike balance to the art.

There comes a point when she knows, for her ego’s sake, the begging has to stop and she won’t play the game anymore. You’ve proven to be so much work, and you ain’t worth it. You’ve gone overboard, little fella. Use push and pull properly. If the lady sees she’s going to be denied everything anyway, she will stop asking.

Be Good At What You Do

The counterpoint for teasing is the PLEASING. You have to give her MORE than she bargained for, especially if she has proven herself to you. If you love foreplay, and are quite effective at it, you better be great with the actual pleasing part.

You can’t have her hang in there waiting for a kiss, only to get the sloppiest smooch ever! When you make her wait, you better make sure you’re worth it. Otherwise she’d think, “What?! That’s it?!”

You master the PLEASING by continually learning. Keep learning about your woman and make your game tight by understanding her preferences. I guarantee that you’ll be making tons of mistakes. Who cares?! Soon enough, you’ll be so good she’ll do anything just to be with you. Perhaps initially, like with a new partner, you won’t have much leverage with teasing. That’s normal, she is not yet aware of what you’re made of. But over time, when she sees your mettle, she’ll move heaven and earth just to experience you. I’m serious, please prepare for this eventuality.

When To Do What She Asks

One last thing, when she’s barking instructions like “Faster! Faster!”“Harder! Harder!”or “a little bit to the left” – it’s better to simply heed the request. There’s no point in delaying these kind of things. This usually happens during clitoral stimulation, penetration or when she’s about to have an orgasm.

For example, if she asks you for a massage, you may playfully give her a hard time initially. But when you’re already 15 minutes into it and she asks you to go “lower baby”, there’s no point in making her whine for this. You simply proceed.

The man who knows how to tease and please? Well, he becomes the go-to-guy.

How To Meet Singles During The Day

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Singles usually gather at night, right? Wrong! You can meet some awesome singles by going places during the day – here’s how!

Nightclubs and bars are the most common places to meet singles, but what if you want to meet singles during the day? Meeting them during the day can feel more natural and build confidence. Most guys like meeting girls during the day because of the games that women play in nightclubs in bars. If you would like to meet singles during the day, there are a few places that you can check out. Having a routine and using a little bit of logic is the best way to accomplish the task at hand. Here are a few ways that you can meet singles during the day.

At Coffee Shops

Almost everybody has their favorite drink at Starbucks, Caribou Coffee or any other coffee shop around your town. The best time to meet singles is during the morning rush. People tend to stop by their favorite coffee shop before work. 7-8:30 is a great time to pop into a coffee shop because there will be a line.

If you have a traditional 9-5 job then you will be dressed in business attire, which makes you look like you have it together. Chat up a girl that is in line with you. If she likes you, she will probably show up the next day at the same time. Keep to this routine and you will start to see regulars at the coffee shop.

At Grocery Stores

Grocery stores are like a hub for singles. Everybody has to buy food and you can easily meet singles at grocery stores with just a bit of detective work. A lot of guys don’t like approaching girls during the day out of fear that they will have a boyfriend. Checking the items in their cart can usually be a telltale sign of whether or not they have a boyfriend.

Look for men’s products with a quick glance before you talk to them. Don’t scour through their stuff, but take a second to look for male shaving cream, face wash or something else that would indicate that they have a boyfriend. If you don’t see these items then she could still have a boyfriend, but if you do see them she definitely does. Approach her with ease and ask if she has used a product in the aisle. This is an easy icebreaker that can lead to a conversation.

At Gyms

Gyms can be a great place to meet singles. With all of the endorphins in the room you will find girls more open to talking. The best way to meet single women at the gym is to use a machine after them. The problem with trying to meet singles at the gym is that they usually have their iPod on. Smile at a girl as she’s getting off of a machine and simply say “hey.” If she doesn’t answer you then her music is too loud. If she does answer you back then you can start talking about the different machines in the gym. Wing it and you’ll find her more open to talking than you thought.

At The Bank

Almost everybody has to go to the bank now and again. Heading to the bank to deposit money or take money out can be a great way to meet singles during the day. If you’re single, it’s best to forgo the convenient services of online banking and get out into the world. It’s too easy to hide behind modern technology.

Instead of using the ATM, go inside and deposit your check with a teller. This will force you to get in line and you never know when another single will be in front or behind you. Say hello to any girl that is waiting with you. Not only could this lead to a potential date, it will help the time pass as you are both waiting.

At A Dog Park

This one only applies to guys that have dogs. It’s no secret that a dog park is a haven for singles. The best thing about a dog park is that you are standing around as your dog plays with the other dogs. This leaves you open to conversation. Chat up a girl that is in the park. A lot of girls go to dog parks in hopes of finding singles. They might never admit it, but it’s true.

Girls love guys who have dogs because it shows compassion. Dog parks allow people with something in common to have light conversations. Ask her about the kind of breed her dog is. Ask her about local pet services or different products that you have tried. This is an easy icebreaker that you can implement with little hassle.

5 Sexy Homemade Gift Ideas For Valentine’s Day

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Valentine’s Day is approaching, and if you’re short on cash, homemade gift ideas are your best bet. They’re sweet and romantic, without breaking the bank. Plus, a homemade gift is much more special than any store bought one. Here are five you don’t want to pass up on.

Chocolate Covered Strawberries

No, you don’t have to make a trip to your local gourmet chocolate store and spend a ton of money to get a nice box of chocolate covered strawberries. These are easy to make at home and can be easily dressed up for Valentine’s Day with an inexpensive box and some tissue paper.

If you do have some money to spend, you definitely want to go quality here. Get quality, organic strawberries and high quality melting chocolate. Simply dip the strawberries in the melted chocolate and set on a piece of wax paper. Refrigerate until they’re hardened and then arrange them in your decorative box. Voila! Way better than any box of chocolates you buy at the store.

If you want to get creative, look up some recipes on how to use white and milk chocolate together. When you gift them to your partner, make sure to include eating them sensually with a bottle of inexpensive champagne. That’s the best part of all!

Budoir Photos

Get your digital camera and take some sexy photos of yourself in lingerie and then again, in various stages of undress. If you have a friend that you trust to do this, employ them to help you so you can get some better quality photos. Upload them to a free online video editor (or a really good program if you happen to have one, but free editors are good too) and fix blemishes, add a filter if you like or even make it black and white for a really great look.

Once they’re done, print them out on a home photo printer (no, these aren’t ones you can send to your local photo developer) and either frame a few of your favorites or put them in a special book for your lover. If you don’t have a photo printer, make a digital collage and send it to him with a sexy email. He will love being able to look at you instead of porn when he’s feeling randy. Of course, he’ll still look at porn too, but your photos are likely going to be his special favorite.

Sex Coupons

Sex coupons are always in style and extremely easy and inexpensive to make for Valentine’s Day. You can grab some construction paper, markers and glitter from the store if you want to go all out, or you can simply type them out, throw a few cute clip art photos on there and print them. Either way, sex coupons are an excellent option if you don’t have a lot of funds for the big day. Just make sure you actually follow through whenever your man wants to redeem them.

If he wants to redeem a coupon for a 30 minute long blowjob and you say you’ve got a headache, it’s like you’ve taken his gift back to the store, just before he got to open it. So go through with whatever you put on your coupons, whenever your guy redeems them. Headache or not.

Cook A Delectable, Candlelit Dinner

You don’t have to go out to dinner on Valentine’s Day if you don’t want to brave the crowds or don’t have the cash for a decent reservation. Plan a meal that you can cook, and set the table. Most people actually don’t eat at the dining room table, so if you set the table with candles and everything, it’s going to seem almost – almost – like you’re at a restaurant. If you can’t cook, order out! Just make sure you’re sitting across the table from your beau without the distraction of the television, your phones, the computer, etc. To make it sexy, try cooking and eating while completely naked. Or, let him eat dinner off you.

A Sexy Treasure Hunt

Make your man go on a treasure hunt – with you as the treasure! Leave post-its with dirty messages on them, or rose petals leading from the door all the way to the bedroom. Use your creativity to come up with a fun way for him to find you, so long as you’re waiting for him either naked or dressed in something very, very sexy. He will love the suspense of looking for you, only to find you ready and waiting for him!