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How To Be A Confident Lover

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Sex tips are what makes someone great in bed, right? Maybe not – here’s what it takes to have confidence when you’re getting it on. These sex tips are HOT!

When it comes to sex, nothing is bigger than confidence. Absolutely nothing. This trait alone will get you laid way more times than any god-like appearance.

He who feels he doesn’t belong in the same room or breathe the same air as a woman doesn’t deserve to get laid. She doesn’t want to be with a guy who fidgets like fish out of water, of course not! Insecurity is a turn-off worse than halitosis – it damns you by killing the mood and messing up your moves. A good lover doesn’t fluster his woman with any squirming or twitching, he comes to sex with no apologies, stands naked with self-worth intact, raw with confidence. He gets women thinking, “This guy knows what he is doing.”

Sex is something he desires, not fear – his confidence springing from a blend of knowledge and experience. He knows exactly what to do, and he’s done it many times – he exudes bewitching self-assurance.

How Confidence Manifests Itself

Imagine the bedroom is submerged in a swimming pool and the two of you are making love underwater. That’s how slow and smooth you should go – as if your body is moving through water. This says to a girl, “I have no nervous energy to dissipate because I am comfortable with the situation. You should be too.” It’s more relaxing than any nervous tick.

You can move faster as the sexual process unfolds, but never be in a hurry – that has always been the rookie mistake. Women don’t stay around with guys who act like someone’s chasing them, but they flock towards confidence. As I’ve said, the confident get laid way more than any ridiculously good-looking insecure guy.

What Sexual Confidence Really Is

Sexual confidence is simply knowing what you’re doing as a result of having (the right) sex tips and (the right) experience. That’s what it really boils down to. But these things won’t come knocking on your door, you’d have to grab them by the balls. That’s what you’re doing right now, you’re investing in the ‘knowledge’ part. As a result of the, you will know exactly what to do and will have the confidence leading your woman.

But sex is one of those things you master not by reading volumes, but by actually experiencing the dirty work for yourself. So go get some! Getting the right experience, I can only guarantee you one thing: you’re gonna have to pay your dues. You’ll commit mistakes – a lot of them. Now let me be completely clear. You can have one single partner your entire life and learn to be a masterful lover. You do NOT have to be with multiple women. In fact, that can be one of the biggest turn-offs to women – a guy who is “well used.”

You’ll crash, you’ll burn, you’ll be scratching your head in exasperation – well, maybe not that dramatic, you could simply be doing the moves and not getting the expected reaction. You waited for her to enter ecstasy, but she didn’t. She didn’t react at all.

What To Do When You Crash And Burn

How you handle situations like this will dictate if you will ever become great in bed. You need to be able to roll with the punches and not be bothered with disappointments. Don’t let them take you out of the moment and prevent your enjoyment of sex, don’t make a big deal out of it.

I have yet to meet a man who has gone on to become sexually confident but didn’t go through this journey of discovery. There may be shortcuts when it comes to sexual knowledge, but there are none when it comes to experience.

Honestly, this is the most exciting part of building sexual confidence – being in the trenches, learning and enjoying the process. As I’ve said, this is also the most decisive part, you could either get better over time, or your perfectionist and emotional tendencies could get the better of you and lead to a negative spiral where you get incompetent over time.

If I were you, I would just enjoy the process, NO PRESSURES.

Earning Your Red Wings – Should You Perform Oral Sex During Menstruation?

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Oral sex can be performed while a woman is on her period, but most guys avoid this. But is oral sex while she’s bleeding really all that bad?

Why Some Guys Don’t Do It (And Why Some Women Won’t Allow It)

Oral sex doesn’t have to be avoided during a woman’s cycle, although many folks aren’t terribly fond of it during this time of the month. Men and women alike are sensitized to how a woman tastes, smells and feels add to that the natural changes that occur during menstruation, and everything (good and bad) is magnified. However, if she uses a tampon, you can easily give her excellent orgasms during this time of the month provided that she’s interested. Some women’s libido goes through the roof at this time, whereas other women want nothing to do with sex when they are bleeding. But for those that are so inclined, there are a few ways to make it easier on both of you.

How To Make Oral Sex During Her Period Work

  • Before you get going, have your female partner put in a new tampon and then clean off the surrounding area with a wet washcloth. She can even tuck the string in so you don’t have any idea it’s even there.
  • As you would if you were performing cunnilingus without a tampon in, focus on rhythm and pressure throughout the event.
  • If you don’t want to lick down in her vagina area, that’s perfectly acceptable. You can give her just as much pleasure by licking around her clitoris.
  • You won’t be able to use your fingers completely as the tampon is in the way, but don’t worry too much about this. You can use your fingers to tease the outside of her vagina and her anal area.

Orgasm Time!

Most women will happily have an orgasm using the same techniques as you would during any other time of her cycle, it’s really just a matter of preference for both partners. As well, it should show that a woman can have a great orgasm without penetration or any sort of push-pull technique; that her clitoral network is really where the action is at, and that with proper clitoral manipulation, she’ll orgasm, and orgasm well.

A Note About Safe Sex

If you are practicing safe sex with your partner, you may want to avoid performing oral sex during your partner’s menstrual cycle, even when using a dental dam and tampon. The risk for STD or HIV transmission is much higher when there is blood present, and dental dams have a tendency to move around a lot during normal use, unless you’re holding them in place the whole time (which prevents you from using your hands and fingers to pleasure your partner).

What Makes A Great Lover?

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Do sex tips make a man good in bed? Or are some men naturally great, while others have to study sex tips constantly? What is it that makes a guy incredible?

Everybody wants to be like him, but who exactly is he? How does he THINK & MOVE?

What A Great Lover Is

Unfortunately, Great Lovers (GL’s) do not wear nametags. This is for personal protection against droves of women who wish to camp on their beds. One can’t spot GL’s by eye inspection, and you may have been in the presence of one in the past, but never knew about it. Don’t be deceived with what you see. Don’t look for great bods and gorgeous pecs, for GL’s are rarely these.

In fact, let go of all your physical biases. GL’s can be short, fat, trimmed or thin. Physical attributes have little bearing on this regard.

It’s their sexual programming that makes them gold. They are Great Lovers because of how they THINK, not because of how they look. Thoughts – the software of actions. We are moved by our thoughts, we move according to our thoughts.

How They Think & Move Differently Than Other Guys

How do they move? Great Lovers are never in a hurry, they are living for the MOMENT. The past is gone, the future is none, the PRESENT is all there is.

He’s the gentlest of all. There’s silent confidence blanketing the man with no performance anxieties, no pressure to blow the mind of any woman and make her scream to the high heavens. He’s in no mission to impress anybody, which is a major turn-on by the way. He’s confident, but not arrogant. He doesn’t assume knowledge of everything, but is eager to learn.

Others assert authority, power and domination, GL’s simply assume these.

Are they push-overs? Certainly not. They simply GET IT.

They Understand The Psychology Behind Sex

While most men go for the raw hump, GL’s realize that emotions are the most powerful tools in their arsenal. It doesn’t matter if it’s in the context of an intimate relationship or a one-night stand, when a girl is on his bed, she bathes in EMOTIONS. GL’s make women F-E-E-L.

Technique-wise, GL’s are known for their legendary TRANSITIONS from the SENSUAL to the SEXUAL. They’re so smooth, women can’t draw the line between foreplay, play and afterplay. Everything flows and they don’t strain towards making things happen. A GL transitions a girl into every gut wrenching position, without her realizing it. They don’t flip and pounce.

The sex lasts longer, not because he’s able to delay ejaculation, but because he knows other stuff besides thrust and hip movements.

Now, compare that to the workings of a gorgeous yet crude boy. If you’re a woman, who would you lay? Are you still wondering why GL’s won’t have to whine for sex? They rarely have one-night stands because their woman responds in hand and gives him no reason to go elsewhere.

Are they perfect lovers? Of course not! What makes them so great is their ability to positively differentiate themselves from 95% of guys who make love the exact same way.

5 Seduction Tips Women Need To Be On Guard For

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Seduction can be one of the most exciting and embarrassing moments in a woman’s life. Being put under the spell of Mr. Wrong can leave you wondering why you were ever attracted to him in the first place. As women, guys approach us on a daily basis. It doesn’t matter if we’re in a supermarket, a bowling ally or on the street guys try to run their game constantly. If you’re tired of falling for the same seduction tricks, there are a few things that you can watch out for. Here is a short list of some things you didn’t know about seduction.

1. Some Guys Really Do Just Want To Know The Time

Not all approaches are part of the seduction game. Men do approach women that they are attracted to, but a guy that needs the time could also just need to know what time it is. Brushing off every guy that tries to approach you is not the way to go through life. If a guy walks up and tries to ask you a question about a product then be aware that he might just need to know if the product works. When he starts to transition the conversation into where you work, if you’re single or any other personal information be on the lookout for seduction.

2. Speaking Of Time, If He Doesn’t Seem To Have Enough Of It…

A time constraint is one of the most widely used aspects of seduction. The basic concept makes the guy seem limited during his approach. This is the same concept that Internet marketers use to get you to buy a product. They say something like “I can only talk for a second,” which is reminiscent of “for a limited time only.” If a guy tries to pulls this on you, have your guard up. The reason that so many guys use this is because it does work. This is a universal game. What works on you will also work on other women.

3. He Seems More Interested In Your Friends

One of the biggest signs that a guy is seducing you is that he ignores you and goes for your friend. This is a tactic that has gotten a lot of women. What it does is it gets you thinking “Why isn’t he talking to me?” You feel a little rejected so you start vying for his attention instead of him vying for your attention. This is a good method for picking up women and if you look at any nightclub or bar after 11pm you will probably see it. Once the conversation has died a little he will start to talk to you and you will feel special. This is a fake feeling that he has crafted.

4. “Bouncing”

Another method of seduction is called “bouncing.” Bouncing basically involves getting you away from your friends. This is the sign of an experienced expert. He will basically tell you something like “Let’s go to this place for a quick drink.” He is trying to bounce you away from your friends. Seduction is all about putting you a place that you might not feel very comfortable in. If you have never been to a club, bar or restaurant then the most comfortable thing that you have there is him. Be on the look out for this seduction technique when a guy tries it and you won’t get played.

5. He Knows Everything

Does the guy you are talking to seem to have an answer for everything? Is he leading the conversation and saying all the right things? Does it seem too good to be true? If you answered yes to any of these questions then you are probably the prize in a seduction technique. Routines are a way for guys to get enough confidence to talk to you. The reason that they have an answer for everything is because they have done the routine hundreds if not thousands of times. You should start to pick up on his routine throughout the conversation. If you do pick up on it, give a short answer to end the conversation and watch him squirm.

Getting played through a seduction technique is not something that any girl wants to go through. Knowing the signs of seduction is the best way to avoid being a victim in a guy’s routine. Seduction can be fun when you know that you’re being seduced, Making him work for it and then shutting the whole situation down can bruise even the most experienced seduction expert. Take these signs into consideration the next time that you think you’re being seduced.

Advanced Oral Sex Techniques That Will Drive Her WILD!

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Oral sex can be good at a beginner’s level, but it can be INCREDIBLE if you use these super hot advanced oral sex tips and tricks.

When you’ve mastered all of the “beginner” oral sex tips, it’s time to create your own routines, learn even more tricks, and improvise as needed. Here are some ideas to get you started, but feel free to adapt them to your own needs, wants and desires.

The Tease

This is a fun routine where no fingers are used at all. Only your tongue coaxes the climax out of your partner. It won’t be a full, heavy climax like when you play with her g-spot, but it will be exquisite nonetheless, and leave her panting for more.

  • Do not use your fingers inside of her at any time. Instead, use your hands to move her around or underneath you, and to position her at a different angle so that you can play with her vulva unpredictably and in ways you normally couldn’t if your hands were inside of her.
  • Use her legs so she can push against you; try having her in a partial split, or with one or both legs up around your shoulders. These positions also open her up more so that you can penetrate her vagina with your tongue.
  • Tease is the name of this routine, and for good reason: you want to keep most of your licking along the surface of her vulva, teasing out her clitoris and only occasionally touching it directly with a light flick.

Prolonged Pleasure

Multiple orgasms, and/or Tantric sex are mentioned in many Eastern sexual practice texts. Their premise sounds simple: men are trained to postpone their sexual release, while a woman’s pleasure is at the forefront of the experience. Both partners are encouraged to get to the brink of orgasm but then stop with the idea that when they do fall over the edge, it will be an incredible, connecting release like no other.

As women can have multiple orgasms in ways that men are rarely able to emulate, the differentiation between the pre-orgasm phase and orgasm phase aren’t important with this routine. Instead, the focus is on giving her the ultimate pleasure, so that she can ride out an even longer climax when it does occur. Therefore, your focus here should be to keep her in the pre-orgasm phase as long as possible without actually pushing her over the edge into release.

  • Use whichever routine or techniques you enjoy to bring your partner to the pre-orgasm phase. For some playful fun, you may want to introduce a bit of light bondage if she’s up for it, because it’ll make your work easier to keep her from making herself cum. Many women find this process so exquisite that they don’t want to wait to orgasm and will take matters into their own hands. Having said that, don’t tie her up if she’s not willing, and create some sort of ‘safe word’ so that she can yell it out in the heat of the moment so you know she needs to be released immediately. Try for some words that neither of you would accidentally say during a lovemaking session.
  • When you notice that she’s in the pre-orgasm phase, pull back on whatever it is you are doing. Stop pressing so firmly, don’t lick as heartily, or stop altogether. See if moving back still propels her forward. If it does, stop completely for several seconds before starting again, even more lightly than before.

Fingering

To engage in fingering, you’ll want to lie next to each other on your backs with your arm across her abdomen. Put your hand by her vulva; if it hurts or you find the position uncomfortable, move so that your arm is supported by her body. This way you can manipulate her manually without fear of getting tired or having a sore hand, plus it allows you to give her the kind of stimulation she requires to orgasm.

The process of finger play has several aspects to it:

  • Where the two of you lie next to each other, your hand rests on her pubic bone and you fingers drop down to play with her. One finger parts her lips and traces the outlines of her labia and thighs.
  • The same finger then plays with her vagina lightly using the “come here” stroke.
  • Move your whole hand in unison, making small, circular movements that apply pressure to both the g-spot and clitoris.
  • Take your hand out of her vagina, and lay your palm flat against her vulva. Let her press up against you and use her tension to arouse herself. If your hand is getting sore, this is a great technique to give it a bit of a break and let her do some of the work, which isn’t rude, but rather, just what her body needs to build towards climax.

As you lie next to her, change it up between these three techniques, using each one as you feel she wants or needs it. If you like, and if you want a different angle to play with, have her roll over onto her belly while you play with her that way.

Whatever you choose to do, do it slowly and carefully. Build up to a climax like a good story builds to a grand finale.