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How To Screw Up A First Date

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A first date is a one of the most important parts of the relationship. A first date is certainly not the end all for a relationship, but generally, a girl knows if the guy is somebody that they want to see again within the first ten minutes. However, there are times when a girl can easily screw up a first date. While this doesn’t typically happen as often as when a guy does it, it can still occur. Here are a few things that will instantly screw up a first date.

Being On Your Cell Phone

No guy likes a girl that is attached to her cell phone. If you go on a first date and you’re constantly texting or answering calls, you can kiss a second date good bye. All cell phones have a silent mode for a reason. If you have a high paying job that basically requires around the clock availability, make sure that the guy knows this.

Most guys are going to be very easy going if you tell them ahead of time. Guys want a girl that is considerate. When you expect him to accommodate your cell phone use without addressing the fact that it is rude, he will probably end the date halfway through. Leave your cell phone in the car if at all possible or turn the phone to silent before you walk into the restaurant.

Talking About Religion

Okay, you’re religious. There’s nothing wrong with that. In fact, there is a lot that is good about a girl that holds religion in high regard. However, your date might not be ready to talk about his walk with Christ just yet. Religion can have a way of turning friends to foes very quickly. If you have met a guy through church or another religious group then by all means bring up the subject.

This could even lead to a very interesting conversation. However, if you don’t know what religion he is or if he is even a part of a denomination, wait until you know him a little better before you bring up anything that has to do with your faith.

Getting Way Too Drunk On The First Date

One of the worst ways to screw up a first date and any potential for a future relationship is to have too much to drink. It doesn’t matter if you go to a restaurant, club or a bar. Watch your alcohol intake. No guy wants to be with a girl that can’t hold her liquor. When you drink you also make bad decisions. Add to the fact that you might actually like the guy, you could do something in the moment that will send him to the hills. Refrain from drinking in excess at all costs. Order one drink or two if you are feeling nervous and then stick to water for the rest of the evening. This is a great rule to follow when out on a first date.

Talking About Past Relationships

If you have ever been out with a guy or met a guy and couldn’t get him to stop talking about his ex, then you know what we’re talking about. Not only is this annoying on a human level, it will ruin any chance that you have in establishing a relationship with your date. Never bring up past relationships on a first date.

Your date might think that you’re still in love with your ex or that you’re just not completely over the relationship yet. One of the questions that could arise is “How long have you been single?” Go ahead and answer the question honestly, but do not get into the specifics of what happened. Reserve this for another time when you feel more comfortable with the guy and he feels more comfortable with you.

Bringing Up Your Biological Clock

Sure, you might have a plan for the next 5 years, but the last thing that you want to do is bring it up to the guy. Don’t ever start talking about kids or the family that you would like to have on a first date. That’s way beyond jumping the gun and it’s the last thing that you want to do with somebody that you could actually have a relationship with.

If you are older and already have children then you might talk about the children that you already have, but don’t bring up more that you would like to have in the future. When you are out on the date, keep to topics that don’t involve you making the guy a father and you should be okay.

5 Fun First Date Ideas You Can Suggest To Your Guy

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The first date can be nerve wracking and many guys just don’t know what to do. Give him a few clues with these fun and exciting first date ideas!

First dates can be filled with a lot of pressure. If you would like to relieve some of this pressure, but still get to know a guy that you’re interested in, there are a few fun first dates that you can suggest. The dinner and movie thing has been done to death and neither of you are really going to feel comfortable.

There are several first date ideas that you can use to break the ice without feeling the pressure. If you’re tired of going on uncomfortable first dates without actually getting to know the guy, use these the next time you meet somebody that might be special.

5 Super Fun First Date Ideas

1. Bowling

Bowling is typically something that you might not find yourself doing. However, this can a great fun first date for the both of you. First of all, it’s an activity so it takes the pressure off of constantly having to talk to each other. Secondly, it brings competition into the mix, which can build rapport and sexual tension.

While the bowling alley isn’t exactly The Rainbow Room, there is usually beer and some form of food. Your date will probably not want to watch you shove nachos down your throat, but don’t be afraid to eat something or share something with him. Bowling alleys also have arcades. Don’t hide your inner child. Let him see you rock out on some Donky Kong.

2. Local Music

Do you have an open mic night or a local band night at one of the clubs in your city? This is the perfect first date idea because it involves getting out without the pressures of traditional dinners. Plus, while the bands are in-between acts you can talk. If you’re date is a music buff you might be able to learn a little something all the same.

Don’t go all out and invite the guy to a heavy metal show unless you know that he’s into that. Focus on something that might not even have electric acts. An acoustic act will be set in a venue that will allow you to talk. You can usually find these venues online or through local publications. You can also ask bartenders which night their open mic night is, as some bars do not openly advertise it.

3. Local Trails

Does your guy like to spend his time outdoors? If so, exploring some local trails together can be a great first date. Taking in the scenery and getting to know a potential boyfriend is the perfect combination. It’s not recommended to take him to hard trails unless he is an experienced hiker. You should always come prepared for any injuries that might occur while out in the wilderness. Almost every city or town has local trails or state parks near by. Check with your township for more information on where you can legally hike. The last thing that you want is to hike on private property and get the both of you a trespassing charge!

4. The Aquarium

Have you ever been to an aquarium? If the last time that you went to the aquarium was on a 7th grade field trip, it might be time to return. The aquarium is a very romantic setting that can help both you and your date appreciate sea life. Walking around the tanks also gives off another worldly feel, making it more romantic than a smoky bar or stuffy dinner at a restaurant you’ve been to one hundred times before. Try to pick a time or day that there won’t be a lot of people at the aquarium.

Sharing the experiences with your date on an off day is a great way to get solidarity. One of the best things about the aquarium is the fact that you can actually learn something together. All of the weird creatures that live in the sea can also lead to some interesting conversations.

5. Street Fairs

Street fairs are mostly conducted in the spring or summer, but there are several fall fairs that you can go to also. Street fairs are great because it gives you and your date a reason to mosey around to different booths. You can talk to local artists and craftsman and there is usually music. Another reason that you should go to a street fair is that it can easily lead to dinner afterward. Doing something that will break the ice before you really start to get to know each other can remove the majority of the pressure associated with first dates.

3 Weird Ways To Flirt With A Guy

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Flirting doesn’t always have to be by the book to be effective. Try these odd flirting techniques on the next man you’re interested in – they WORK!

Flirting with a guy can seem like an easy task, but there are a lot of things that you probably don’t know when it comes to the way his mind works. A man’s mind works so differently from a woman’s that it’s difficult sometimes to anticipate what he’s going to react positively to and what he’s going to react negatively to. It’s no secret that every guy enjoys hearing compliments and getting little touches, but there are several weird ways that you flirt with a guy and have him wrapped around your finger in no time.

Men tend to respond different to different women. Not all women can pull off these techniques at first, but with a little practice you might be able to master them all. Throwing out clichés and overly done techniques is a must.

Most men know the tricks of the trade so you will need to spice up your repertoire to land somebody that you really care about. Here are 3 weird ways to flirt with a guy.

1. Dress “Flirty” (This Isn’t What You Think)

While this isn’t going to be direct flirting, a lot of women believe that they have to be dressed up in order to flirt with a guy. Men don’t like high maintenance women. Most of the time, a decent top and a ratty pair of jeans is enough to get him interested in you.

Women think that they always have to be wearing the latest fashions to have a guy interested in them. The fact of the matter is that men love a girl that can look great even when she’s just come from the gym. Don’t think that just because you have your hair in a ponytail and your forehead is riddled with sweat that you can’t be flirty.

Men are drawn to women that aren’t obsessed with how they look in public. This doesn’t give you a pass to meet his parents in your gardening clothes, but have confidence in yourself even when you’re not dressed to hit the town. Guys find this endearing.

2. Touch Him First And Then Pull Back

Don’t be afraid to make the first move if you like a man. Even it’s just a quick touch on the arm, touching him first is a sure sign that you’re interested in him. Most guys will try to break the touch barrier first. However, if you touch him first you will easily show that you’re interested.

You don’t want to seem over eager so follow the touch up with a snide remark. Make fun of him a little bit. Don’t call him out on something that is going to hurt his feelings.

Make sure that you’re doing this in a playful nature. Making fun of something that will hurt his feelings will definitely leave you in an awkward place.

Touching him and then making fun of him is called the “Push/Pull” method. This is typically used in the pick-up artist community for flirting with girls, but it also works well with guys.

Guys love a girl that gives them a little sass. You want the guy to wonder if you’re just toying with him or if you’re actually interested. This is builds mystery and tension.

3. Open Up Easily & Don’t Be Guarded

One thing that women try to do is put mystery into their persona. While this can work for a while, the last thing that you want is to have a guy wondering whom he’s dating after three weeks of knowing you. An easy way remedy this is to be open about who you are from the start. While you might not want to tell him things about yourself that could potentially ruin the future of the relationship, you should be as open and honest as possible. Don’t be afraid to be an open book, but do be careful about the type of things you discuss when you haven’t really gotten to know each other.

Telling him about credit card debt or a one night stand three years before is not the kind of open that we’re talking about. Let him know that you’re not a “game player” and that you’re interested in him. Being forward about what you want is sexy and guys love this. You can play coy for a little while, but you should let him know that it’s going somewhere.

Teasing him and then telling him that you would like to get HIS phone number is a great way to keep him interested right off the bat. Men like mystery, but not at the expense of knowing where or not they can trust you. Keep this in mind the next time that you are flirting with a guy and they will be enamored with you.

5 Signs Your Man Is NO Good

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Relationship advice is necessary if you want to find out if you’re really with Mr. Right or not. Check out these five red flags that your fella needs the boot.

Men are dogs, pigs, whatever you want to call them. If you think that you have met prince charming but there are things that you know aren’t right, you should always follow your gut. For the most part, having a feeling that you’re getting played or the guy is hiding something will come to light with your suspicions being true.

This is not always the case, but women have an uncanny ability to feel out situations. There are ways that you can easily tell whether or not a guy is right for you. Here are the top 5 signs that your man is NO good.

1. You Always Pay

There are only two reasons that you always pay when you go out. The first reason is that he doesn’t have any money. The second reason is that he doesn’t want his wife or girlfriend to see the credit card or banking statement. Now, if your guy is in financial straits and you know about it, this can be something that you have to overlook.

Knowing about your man’s financial situation is an honesty that is admirable on his part. However, if he has chiseled out an image of success, he should be paying. Leave your guard up if you are constantly paying for yourself or for the both of you on every date.

2. He Doesn’t Stay Over

Having a casual affair can be a lot of fun. However, there is nothing casual about a relationship. If your man leaves after every romp in the sheets, there’s probably something going on. Even if you’re not having sex and he refuses to stay the night, you have to start looking out for yourself.

Guys that don’t stay the night have a reason to leave. This could be that he has a wife or girlfriend waiting for him at home or that he is just afraid to get intimate with you. If you are having sex and he is leaving, he is probably afraid of commitment and needs to be confronted. Let him know that you’re not looking for something casual and see how he responds.

3. He Doesn’t Talk About The Future

Guys that don’t talk about a future with you aren’t planning on a future with you. This is very simple. If he’s not talking about the future then he’s probably no good. Guys are a lot like girls in relationships. They don’t want to keep things stagnant. They want to have something to look forward to other than watching TV on a Friday night.

If your guy isn’t talking about future trips, holiday plans or meeting your parents, get rid of him. You want a guy that can see himself with you for a while barring no immediate infidelity or hiccups in the relationship.

4. He Isn’t Considerate

Has a guy ever blown you off last minute to go hang out with his friends? If he has then you know how infuriating and hurtful it can be. A guy that is not considerate of your feelings or your time is not somebody that you want to be with. If you find yourself waiting by the phone on a Friday or Saturday night wondering if you’re going to have a date, you might as well break it off now or have a very stern talk with him.

You want a guy that is going to make plans with you ahead of time, stick with them and follow through. Never stay with a guy that takes you or your time for granted. Eventually you’re going to get tired of it and break the relationship off.

5. He Has No Ambition

A man without ambition is a man that you’re never going to respect. Traditionally, a guy is supposed to take care of the family. While there are different rules now that women have become liberated, a man should still want to be able to provide for his wife and children. If you find yourself with a guy that has no ambition, you can rest assured that he does not love you enough to provide the type of life he believes you deserve.

No guy should be held to the standard of becoming the next billionaire on Wall Street or a real estate tycoon, however, a life of never having to worry about bills being paid is something that everybody should strive for. If your guy is not trying to provide for you and an upcoming family, he’s not the kind of guy that will go the distance.

5 Secrets For A Blissful Relationship

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Relationship advice can help couples from all walks of live achieve a happy and satisfying union. Check out these five tips for love that is stress free!

Having a good partnership with your lover may seem impossible that point’s and easy at other points. There are a lot of struggles that couples go through, ranging from the financial disputes sexual expectations and other aspects of the relationship. However, great relationship advice will ensure you’re happy the majority of the time. Many people believe that having a marriage is very simple.

The fact of the matter is that it takes work and it will not happen overnight. If you are looking for a quick shot of intimacy, then you are in for a rude awakening. There are going to be bumps in the road, but you can combat this with love and understanding of your partner.

1. Have Trust

Trust is the foundation for all unions. This is perhaps the best relationship advice you’ll ever get! If you find that the trust has been broken,, everything will have to be mended from scratch. Trust is not something that comes easily. This has to be earned and that takes time. However, trust can be broken in a matter of seconds.

The trust that you build with your partner should be based on the respect that you have for each other. Within a marriage can easily be established through the commitments that you have made with the vow of being there for each other for a life time. For a less than long term relationship, it is important to remember the golden rule.

2. Create Financial Comfort

No, you don’t have to have Warren Buffet’s bank account, but being financially comfortable can take a lot of the trouble out of a marriage. One of the biggest sources for fights and lost sleep is money, or the lack there of. If you would like to have a great union with your spouse, work on becoming financially secure and staying that way.

Not having to worry about how a bill is going to be paid or how you can afford to go on a vacation once a year take away the majority of the pressures. No, money is not everything, but it can start a lot of fights when it’s not in order.

3. Do The Unexpected

Everybody loves surprises. If you feel that you’ve been losing intimacy with your partner, do something even though the both of you could benefit from. Surprising your partner with a weekend getaway or taking them to their favorite restaurant after a busy day at the office can go a long way.

Once you have done something for your partner, they will be more likely to do something for you. This is not a method for you to get something that you want, this is merely an icebreaker to putting your union back on the path that it has strayed from.

4. Spend Time With Your Friends

Even though you want things to be as good as possible, spending time with other people can also benefit you and your partner. Have you ever heard the phrase “absence makes the heart grow fonder?” This phrase sums up a great deal of what couples tend to fall into when they first get married or have been together for a very long time.

Spending all of your time together can make the both of you feel cut off from the rest of the world. There is no need to smother your partner or be smothered to try to force things to work. Spend time with family, friends or coworkers to give the both of you break every now and then.

5. Deal With Conflict As It Comes

Conflict is always going to be there. Whether you want to go see a movie that your partner doesn’t want to see where you are upset that they stayed out all night, problems are going to spring up any time. How you handle these problems is going to be indicative of how well your relationship will be in the future. Dealing with conflict with proper way can leave you both feeling good about yourselves. When conflict does arise, deal with it head on. Don’t beat around the bush and do not avoid it.

Conflict can actually improve your relationship. When there is a small problem and you deal with it effectively, you are essentially preparing yourself for when larger conflict occurs between the two of you. Learning how to deal with conflict the proper way according to how your partner deals with stress and anger is a part of life. Talk to them openly and with honesty about the conflict to build a future on a solid foundation.