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How To REALLY Impress A Guy

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Dating tips for women aren’t something girls automatically “know.” Don’t bomb your next date – check out these tricks to really make an impression!

Knowing how to really impress a guy is one of the most important aspects of being a woman. When you meet a guy that you want, it’s fairly easy to fall into the trap of playing coy or hard to get. While these methods can work on some men, it’s not foul proof. Impressing a guy doesn’t take games or seduction methods. In fact, it’s really not that hard.

There are a several qualities that men find very impressive in all women, no matter what you look like. Here are some of the most desired qualities that will really impress a guy.

1. Have A Great Outlook On Life

Your outlook on life should always be positive. It doesn’t matter if you’re a liberal or a conservative, a positive outlook on life can a very long way with men. Even if you’re not the bubbly type that is always smiling, being content with yourself and where you going over the next 4-5 years can be enough to impress him.

Nobody wants to date a downer. Keep this in mind the next time that you meet a guy that you really like. He wants to be inspired by you and the only he can do that is if you have positivity and know what you would like out of your time on the planet.

2. Look Great (Yes, This Is One Of The Essential Dating Tips!)

No, you don’t have to look like a supermodel to impress a guy. The typical girl goes out of her way to look her best all times. This usually does not work. Guys that see a girl dressed to the 9s every time they step out of the house assume they are high maintenance. While there is a time and a place for getting dressed up, guys generally want a girl that can toss on a pair of jeans and still look great. This may take some shopping.

No girl is going to look sexy in a pair of ragged Wranglers, but you also don’t want to use your $200 jeans for yard work. Find clothing that is not very fancy or expensive, but still accentuates your best attributes. Once this is accomplished he’s going to wonder why you’re the only one that can turn him on by dusting.

3. Be Honest

Have you ever watched a TV show and wondered, “Why didn’t she just tell him that from the start?” Lies have a way of surfacing. No matter how small or how big, there will come a time and place when your honesty is going to be tested. No guy wants to be with a girl that he can’t trust.

Open up to the guy from the moment that you meet him and he will appreciate it. A relationship built on trust and transparency can always be mended. One of the biggest fears of a guy is that the girl he is seeing isn’t being honest with him. Good or bad, always tell the truth and he will be extremely impressed right from the start.

4. Handle Stress Well

There are a lot of women that curl up into the fetal position every time they get stressed out. Guys love a strong woman that is good at problem solving and won’t freak out every time there is a bump in the road. Guys notice how the girls they are with handle stress. Whether you avoid it or tackle it head on, be sure that he’s watching.

He wants to make sure that you’re not going to have a total mental breakdown the next time that a restaurant forgets your reservation. Being easy going is one of the best qualities that you can have when dating. While you don’t want to float through the relationship, you also don’t want to be dram queen.

5. Be Independent

Being independent is a quality that every guy wants from a girl. Yes, traditionally it is the man’s job to bring home the bacon. However, we’re living in revolutionary times. Women are CEO’s, business owners and are even running as the president. We can’t have it both ways. We either want to be taken care of, which releases our power over the relationship or leads to guilt, or we have to be considered an equal. You never want the guy calling all the shots.

If you have plans with your girlfriends, stick to them. Never cancel plans because a guy wants you to. If you would rather hang out with him over your friends, then make that clear, but don’t do it just because he wants you to. Being independent shows that you’re not going to cater to his every whim and allows you to be your own woman.

11 Signs You Are Dating The Wrong Guy

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Dating can be complicated, but there are definitely some clear signs that the guy you’re dating should be kicked to the curb. Here are eleven of them.

So you’re dating this guy and things seems great but not that great. If its the beginning of the relationship, maybe you are holding out to see how things pan out, see if they get better. Or maybe you’ve been dating the same guy for a few years and things are not as great as they used to be. How do you know if this relationship is in fact a good thing or if you two are just wasting your time?

What She Said About Dating The Wrong Guy:

1. You Don’t Look Forward To Being With Him

Whether this is a long term relationship or you’re dating a new guy, if you aren’t excited to hang out with this guy then you are defiantly with the wrong person. In the beginning of relationships everything should be exciting and you should be psyched to see him. If this is a long term relationship you should be looking forward to spending time with your man and still get a little giddy thinking about him. If these feelings are not there and you find yourself wishing you were hanging out with your friends, yourself of another guy then that is a huge sign that you are dating the wrong person. If this is a new relationship and you dread another date, or hanging with him then you are dating the wrong guy.

2. When You Are With Him You Still Feel Lonely

This usually can happen in long term relationships. After a while you guys get into a groove where you are hanging out (or living together) and can be sitting right next to the guy and feel like you two are miles away. Its a weird phenomenon but it happens when so much is left unsaid and so many touches are left un-felt If you start to feel constantly (like every time you are together) emotionally far from your guy, its a pretty good sign he is not the one.

3. You Cheat On Him

Red flag, sirens, alarms, cow bells, punch in the face!! Any sex outside of your relationship sex is a sure sign that you are with the wrong person! I’m not going to get into the moral ramifications of cheating, nor the right and wrong of it. I’m just saying there is nothing wrong with being attracted to other guys, I’m just saying that if you find yourself not only attracted to but then acting on that attraction with another guy then you are definitely not getting what you want from your man and he is not the right one for you.

4. Your Friends And Family Say You Should End It

These are the closest people in your life, they know you the best. If they think you could do better or are dating the wrong guy, listen to them. Always go with what you feel is right but don’t ignore the people that love you if they think you are wasting your time. In relationships we can wear rose colored glasses and sometimes it takes an outsider to see something we didn’t see. So listen to the people that care about you.

5. You Are More Friends Than Lovers

Sex is the glue that separates men and women from being friends or lovers. So if you are in a relationship and the passion has died then you are with the wrong person. Yes passion and sex can ebb and flow but if there is a huge lack of sex or libido and you are not happy about that then you are with the wrong person.

6. What You Once Loved Is Now Annoying

Maybe it’s the way he drinks a beer or the way he eats corn on the cob, there was a time when his little quirks and mannerism used to be so adorable to you and now they annoy the hell out of you. You once loved how he would snore in his sleep or maybe leave his coffee on the table half drank but now you are so angered by this and annoyed. It’s impossible to love everything that they do but if you are finding your self fed up with his mannerisms then you need to end it.

What He Said About Dating The Wrong Guy:

7. You Don’t Appreciate Him & He Doesn’t Appreciate You

Taking someone for granted isn’t a good sign, but if you’re looking for signs that you should break up with your boyfriend, this has to be at the top of the list. Look, relationships have seasons, or cycles. You may want to rip his clothes off for a while, then not be sexual for while. Things go up and down, but if there’s more down than up, that’s a sign that either one or both of you don’t appreciate each other.

8. You’re Still In A Relationship But Have Stopped Dating

One of the big pitfalls for any long term relationship is getting too comfortable or getting stuck in the status quo. When you first start dating, everything is amazing and electric. Part of that is the new-ness of the relationship, and while the spark may fade a bit, it shouldn’t burn out. No matter how long you are together, you never ever stop dating. If you do, that’s when problems start. If you’re in a relationship with a guy, but not dating him, you may have a breakup sign and it’s one of the big ones.

9. You Don’t Want To Have Sex

Let’s face it. One of the main benefits to being in a relationship is the constant access to booty. Yes, companionship is great, but that’s what pets are for. You don’t just want companionship, you want some ass too. What’s the point without the intercourse? Not so much. If you could be getting laid and you don’t want to do the guy you’re with, that’s a red flag meaning it’s time to think about ending it.

10. The Things You Used To Like Piss You Off 

Everyone’s got their little idiosyncrasies  That’s just how we are. You know you’re into someone when you see a person’s little ticks and not only do they not bother you, you think they’re cute. When you find yourself suddenly pissed off or annoyed by them, then you’ve got yourself a sign it’s time to breakup. Everyone goes through phases, but if you find yourself consistently annoyed by these things and you just can’t stand them anymore, that’s a sign. Not a good one either.

11. You Try Sabotaging The Relationship

Ever find yourself picking fights with your partner for no reason? Ever ask “Why did I yell at him for that?” That means some part of you want to breakup with them and your subconscious is trying to get your attention. It’s saying “Hey! Get us out of here! You know you want to!” You may or may not be ready or willing to listen to your inner voice, but you should.

The main thing to remember about all these “signs” is that you need to listen to your gut and your heart. You know if you are not happy, you know if you are settling, you know if he is not the one for you. No list is going to give you the answer you already know. Now it’s up to you to do something about it.

Top 5 Reasons Pick Up Lines Don’t Work

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Pick up lines aren’t all they’re cracked up to be. Here’s why they almost always will cause you to fail at getting a girl!

Pick up lines are some of the worst methods getting a girl’s attention. When you use a line you show that you’re not only desperate, but also highly unoriginal. They are played out and make you come off as a tool. If you have ever thought about using a line, get it out of your head immediately. Here are the top 5 reasons they just don’t work.

1. They’re Generic

“Come here often?” The line doesn’t work primarily because it’s too generic. The fact that you’re using it on a girl that you don’t know shows that you don’t really care about her or have anything original to say. This shows her that you’re not a guy that separates himself from the pack. When you use an original “Hello” or “How are you” you don’t come off as a guy who bombards women at every bar with the same line. “How are you” and “Hello” are pretty common for every day conversation so this gives you a non-threatening way of approaching women.

2. They’re Needy

There is nothing more pathetic than a guy who is desperate. When you use pick up lines, you come off as a guy who only wants to have sex. This can be problematic for a guy who really does want to get to know a girl. When you use a line like “great dress, but it would look better on my bedroom floor,” you sound like a guy who is desperate for sex. Women want a guy that has options. When you use a line you look like you would just say the line to any girl that walks by. Avoid using pick up lines so you don’t look needy.

3. They’re Unoriginal

You know when you walk into a bar or a club and you see every guy or girl dressed the same? How many times do you think a girl has been given a pick up line and actually followed through on it? Women are hit on by guys every day and most guys stick with pick up lines because they are familiar. So when a girl hears you say something that she has heard a couple of hours before, she’s going to be even more put off by you. Pick up lines have been around forever. Chances are, she’s heard it and it’s not going to make her laugh or feel attracted to you.

4. They’re Creepy

How would you feel if some guy walked up to you and said that one about the angel falling from heaven? I would definitely be creeped out. This is exactly how women feel when some stranger walks up to her and delivers a line. Creeping a girl out is not the way to get a phone number. You want to build comfort and rapport with the girl in order to take a relationship to the next level. When you use a  line, you’re going to creep her out and you will probably see it on her face.

5. They’re Not Funny

The fact of the matter is that pick up lines aren’t that funny. They can even be offensive to a lot of women. Do you think that you’re going to get her phone number after offending her? Probably not. It’s best to use a simple opener when approaching women. A pick up line can leave a bad taste in her mouth and leave you feeling like an idiot. If you think that it’s funny, stop yourself anyway.

Pick up lines are usually seen on TV or in movies, but think about the guy that is saying them. Is he the hero of the film or show? More than likely he’s the creep that nobody wants around. Pick lines are generic and will never come off as appealing to women. They have the ability to ruin a situation that could have become favorable with just a simple opener. Some pick up lines even have the ability to offend the girl and send her on her way after the first sentence is spoken.

Even if you do have a hilarious pick up line, she might not get the joke. This could leave you explaining why it’s funny and explaining a joke effectively creates an awkward situation. It’s best to leave you pick up lines at the door when you’re out approaching women. Use an environmental opener or mention something about her clothing to get a conversation started properly.

How To Date Two Women At Once (Part 2)

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Dating two women at once isn’t all that hard, but guys always screw it up. When you have two women on the hook and you just can’t decide which one is the winner, there are a few things that you have to do to make sure that you do not get caught. Some guys can’t even get on date so if you’re lucky enough to be dating two women at once, it’s your responsibility to keep it going as long as you can.

By following a few very simple rules you should be able to have your fun without either of the women knowing any differently. Here are some basic rules for how to date two women at once.

Separate The City

The number one thing that you have to do when you are dating two women at once is to separate the city that you live in. Make it a point to only take one woman on side of the city and to only take the other woman on the other side of the city. This can make sure that you will almost never run into the other woman while you’re on a date with the other.

Separating the city will also keep your having an embarrassing moment of running into friends or family members when you’re on a date. This can be difficult if you’re dating a free spirited kind of girl, but try your best keep the two women and their locales separated.

Audit Your Home Frequently

Dating two women at once can wreak havoc on your home. Middle of the night romps can easily lead to underwear and other evidence tossed about your bedroom, kitchen or even your living room. Most guys that are dating two women at once get caught because they were too lazy to pick up after one of the women.

If you want to avoid this, audit your home. Make a mental note of everything that your girls bring over. Lipstick, toothbrushes, hair ties and jewelry are dead giveaways. Try to spend a few minutes right before your date leaves to make sure that they have everything they came over with. An innocent flick of the hair can lead to a big argument if your other girlfriend finds a hairpin under the couch.

Turn Off Your Phone When You’re With One Of Them

We live in a digital age and the number one reason that men get caught dating two women is because they went to the bathroom and left their phone on the coffee table. While you’re taking care of nature, a text message rolls in and you have to explain what it was and who it came from.

Turn your phone off while you’re at one of the girl’s houses. If the other girl calls you and can’t get ahold of you, tell her that your phone died. You might even want to invest in a burner phone for one girl and leave it at home. Guys love to keep sexy texts, but this could get you in trouble.

‘Separate the two worlds by taking control of your phone. At a minimum, take a few minutes to clear those calls and texts from your history.

Clear Your Browser History

As stated before, we live a digital world. At some point or another, one of the girls is going to ask to use your computer to show you a video or check her email. So what would you do if she jumped on your laptop and the first thing that popped was your email?

Clear your browser history that you aren’t automatically logged into your email when she gets on your computer. This is the best way to keep your secret a secret. Men all over the world have been busted because they forgot to click that small button that says “logout.” Don’t be the next victim.

Keep Your Stories Straight

As much as you might not want to do it, at some point, you’re going to be forced to lie to one of the girls. If you’re going to have to lie, make sure that you don’t get caught. One lie can lead to another, which can lead to another and so on and so on.

Get your stories straight so that you aren’t stuck in the “uhhhh” moment. Write everything down if you have to, but don’t get caught. If you do get caught the girl is going to start questioning everything about you and everything that you have told her. Small lies are okay to a point, but big lies will always get you in trouble.

4 Red Flags That Tell You You’re Dating Mrs. WRONG

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As guys its not very hard to get blinded by the beauty of a woman we’re dating. We like to feel good about ourselves and having a pretty girl on our arm is one of the biggest confidence boosters out there. Because of this, it’s not hard to see why so many guys put up with the games and pitfalls of women just to keep them around.

If you feel like you’re dating Mrs. Wrong then it’s time to open your eyes and break it off before you get too attached. Dating the wrong woman, and the eventual breakup, is enough to shake any guys confidence. By taking control you can soothe this pain and avoid the downsides of dating these types of women.

Here are 5 red flags that tell you you’re dating Mrs. Wrong.

She Still Talk To Her Exes

Okay, so there are a lot of women that still talk to their exes. They might be friends or they might just keep in touch via Facebook. But if you find that she’s spending more time on the phone with her ex than you, it’s time to top dating her.

Girls that still keep in touch with their exes on a regular basis are trouble. They either haven’t gotten over him or they are still in love with him. Very rarely is it at all innocent. Make it a point to tell her how uncomfortable it makes you that she still talks to her exes. If she doesn’t stop, call it quits immediately. She either doesn’t care about you enough to forgo her previous relationship or she doesn’t care how it makes you feel. Either way, she’s no good.

She Never Pays

It’s generally accepted that men should pay on a date, but if she’s never paying you should raise your eyebrows. Women that never pay for their own meals have entitlement issues. They usually come from families where they are catered to and spoiled or they think that they are hot enough for guys to be lucky enough to pay for everything they do.

This isn’t to say that you shouldn’t take your girl out for dinner and be the gentleman, but if she just stands there waiting for you to pay every time, it’s probably time to find somebody else. There are more than enough guys that willing to be a sugar daddy. Don’t drain your own wallet for a girl because she could leave you once the money train runs out.

You Never Know Where She Is

This is one red flag that guys usually get very quickly. If you never know where the girl you’re dating is – changes are its not good. On the off chance that she’s hiding the fact that she volunteers a soup kitchen (which has never and will never happen), she’s probably up to something.

The most common excuses are that she’s working late, she’s going out with the girls, or that she needs some alone time.

These can seem perfectly fine until the facts start to come apart at the seams. It’s not hard to pick up on when a girl is lying to you or when she’s nervous. If you think that she’s lying, more than likely she is. Don’t get played and don’t give into gullibility.

If it feels wrong then you need to move on and stop dating her.  Most guys will launch their investigations, but you really don’t have to. The feeling of dishonesty is more than enough to break things off. If you don’t, you’re just setting yourself up for trust issues down the road.

She Hangs Out With A Lot Of Guys

“I just get along with guys better than girls.” Have you ever heard this statement? Run! Run! Run! This is a huge red flag.

Girls that hang around with a lot of guys are always looking for attention. If your attention isn’t enough for her then you need to move on. As stated before, this can be a big trust issue down the road and you should avoid these women at all costs. You will always have something in the back of your mind telling you that something isn’t right and you should listen to it. This is gong to save you a lot of time and a lot of heartache.

When a girl hangs around a lot of guys she is always comparing you to them. Don’t put up with this childlike competition. Get rid of her and move on to a girl that relate to her own gender.