Singles & Dating

Should You Date Someone Who Still Lives With Their Parents?

Should you date a person who still lives with their parents, or should you call the date off without getting to know them? What is the right thing to do?

You’ve met someone. You like them. They like you. You really hit it off. But there’s a small problem. They live at home. With their parents. And they aren’t in college anymore. Should you date them? Should you kick them to the curb?

What She Said About The Date:

Yes, but if it is a temporary living situation. Lots of men (and women) are forced to move back in with their parents for different reasons but that doesn’t mean that they are a loser. People get laid off, people get out of relationships and sometimes they need to shack up with mom and dad for a few weeks. Things happen, but if a guy lives at home and is adamant about getting out soon or knows it is only temporary then cut him some slack.

If you meet a great guy who happens to be in between jobs then that’s okay. The key is that he knows he needs to be constantly looking for a better job and has drive and passion. If this guy never left home (and he is over 21) then you should not date him! If he spends all day on the couch playing video games and has his mom dad his laundry you should not date him!! Your life is not a romantic comedy and he is not Matthew McConaughey. You should have the instinct to know if he is a loser or not and living at home should not be an immediate red flag. His way of handling it should be.

You can’t fault him for getting laid off or needing to be home to help an ailing parent. And he should talk about getting out there, on his own feet and actually do things that prove he is trying. Dating a guy who has had some financial problems but has passion is a lot better then dating a guy who has his own place but is a douche bag.

What He Said About The Date:

Yes, there was that movie where Matthew McConaughey got tons of sex while living at home, but that’s only because A) it’s a movie and B) he looks like Matthew McConaughey and he can get sex even if he had a strap on dildo attached to his chick. Which is reason 3,432,324,993,120 that ever man hates him and will kill him if they have a chance and think they can get away with it.

Does the fact that your partner lives with their parents make them a bad person? Well, they certainly aren’t a serial killer (that you know of) but it’s not a great sign either. Sure, things happen, but when you have to have wild hot, nasty, “knock stuff over” kind of sex, where are you going to go to have the intercourse exactly? In the car? At your place? In the park? Camping? You definitely want to take into account logistics of actually spending time together (and yes, having sex) when your date lives at home with the ‘rents.

There’s only so many times you can take your partner to the swingers club just so you can have sex without having to worry about waking your parents before it gets old. Sure, that’s at least six months to a year away, but it can and will happen.

Dating a partner who lives at home is like anything else, it can be a deal breaker, but if they’re the right person, then they’re the one? Who cares if they’re in their late 40’s, living at home and their mom is still doing their laundry and cutting the crust of their sandwiches? What’s wrong with that? Nothing, that’s what.

Dating a guy or girl just because they have money isn’t a great reason to date someone, but it tends to be a quite comfortable one. You don’t need money to have a good time and dating doesn’t require money, if you have ample amounts of creativity. So you shouldn’t just kick someone to the curb automatically for lack of funds. Give it a go, and see how it feels. You might really like this person. There’s no point in killing a relationship for no good reason.

You should always give them enough room to hang themselves or rope you in. Then, if you get to that point, where you know definitively how you feel about them and more importantly what kind of relationship you want from them, then you can make the call and go forward from there.

Winning Phone Flirting Techniques

By loveandsex

Flirting can be intimidating when you’re on the phone, because you can’t see the other person’s face or read their body language. Here’s how to pull it off.

Remember, flirting on the phone only allows you to use 45 percent of your potential flirting power, so the quicker you end the phone call and see the woman in person, the better.

The best strategy is to create a sense of occupied urgency. This is not manipulative, but rather a favorable situation to end the phone call and allow the attraction to grow by flirting with her in person.

Create A Sense Of Urgency When Flirting On The Phone

Let her know that you don’t have much time to talk because you’re busy. This way the conversation is short, sweet and to the point. Take control of the conversation and direct it towards your intention of seeing her again. Here’s an example of a phone conversation using the occupied and urgent technique:

John: Hey Sarah, how are things?

Sarah: Good.

John: Great, I’m glad I got hold of you. Listen, I don’t have long to talk. I’m just calling to see if you want to get together this Thursday at 5pm for coffee at ___.

Sarah: Sure.

John: Great, I’ll see you Thursday then. See ya Sarah.

Sarah: Bye.

Although this is a very simple conversation, it works. There is no need to talk for longer than a few minutes.

Keeping the phone conversation short shows you have a life and other things to do. Men who linger on the phone until the woman gets bored project that they have nothing better to do than talk all day. And, these women might be doing important things and find you annoying because you’ve kept them from their activities.

Even if the flirting during the first encounter went really well and the woman was attracted to you, by lingering on the phone without flirting you run the risk of her thinking that you faked the first encounter and communicating that it wasn’t the real you.

Of course most conversations won’t be this short, but keep them as close to this guideline as possible. If she starts asking you about your day you can comment, but don’t get into details because before you know it you’ve just used all your “Mr. Interesting” ideas on the phone, rather than during the actual date.

If you want to build some emotion on the phone with flirting, that’s fine. If you decide to talk a little longer, just make sure you end the conversation at the peak of your emotionally intense flirting, and not when you run out of things to say and it dies down.

Woman’s Phone Call Interpretation

HE JUST: Called, invited me on a date and hung up.

SHE INTERPRETS THIS AS: He’s confident, independent, directed and has a life. He’s got other things to do than just talk to me, and even though I wanted him to talk to me longer I respect him more and feel even more attracted to him now.

RESULT: She’s attracted.

Text Messaging

RULE: Never set up dates by text message.

Even if she already shows interest from the message, only send one text message. It saves lots of time. Here’s an example of a back and forth text message battle.

YOU: I’m free Tuesday and Wednesday.

HER: Sorry I’ve already got plans then.

YOU: Ok… What about Monday night next week?

HER: No, but I can do Monday day.

Can you see how frustrating this would be? If she delays before replying to each and every message, this could be a long pointless process. The man would get paranoid and start thinking that the woman is making up excuses not to see him.

This assumption could be completely unfounded, but it is difficult to be sure without hearing her voice. Because you’re limited to words, women can often misinterpret what you’re saying. You might ruin a perfectly good dating opportunity by a stupid misunderstanding.

How To Have A Bad First Date

By dicksinthecity

A bad first date will ensure you never see the person you went out with again. Follow this sage advice for a really terrible, awkward first date!

You made a mistake. This person seemed great online, or when you met them at a bar, or maybe your friends tried setting you up with someone who is “totally right for you” only for you to find out that they’re totally wrong for you. You could just end the date, but you don’t want to. You’d rather just make the first date so bad that they never want to see you again. How do you have a bad first date?

Here’s how:

What She Said About A Bad First Date:

I can’t really imagine why someone would want to have a bad first date unless you wanted to re-enact the movie, “How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days.” Therefore my first question would be, why did you watch that movie? Sorry, I digress. Anyway, there are some pretty funny/crazy/sad things that girls can do that would make a first date terrible.

One thing to do is completely and utterly emasculate the guy. Offer to drive and pick him up at his place. Open the car door and all other doors for him. Call him nicknames like “little man” or “babydoll” or “shorty.” Basically put him in the role of girl or less of a man on the date and control everything! Along the lines of emasculating him, you can continue to act like a dude, a rough asshole dude. Pee in front of him, like outside in public. Burp and scratch yourself. Smell your arm pits and ask him to smell them. Call your guy friends when you are on the date and ask them what they are up too and don’t forget to tell your guy friend that you are on a date with a hot piece of ass.

All of the above would guarantee for a bad first date because you are not only being rude, you are also switching genders on the guy. The icing on the cake would be, after acting so macho say you got the bill but then “forget” your wallet and make him pay. Another fun way to have a bad first date is just act like a crazy bitch one second and a sweetheart the next. Go bi-polar on him and he will have no idea what to do. This could (and should) include crying over a menu item or laughing over something that would be sad. You should definitely talk about ex boyfriends too and how you think they were crazy.

And sprinkle in stories during conversations about how you would follow them or watch them while they slept or anything stalker like. You can be super demanding one second and then act like you don’t care they next. Be so many different highs and lows with your emotions that they guy has as nervous break down because of you.

And lastly, if you want to have a really really bad date, talk about your booty call person. Tell the guy all about this other guy you’ve been sleeping with and how you are waiting for him to call you. Then keep your phone near by and constantly check it and get frustrated if your booty call hasn’t called yet.

There you go. It still blows my mind why anyone would want to have a bad first date but different strokes for different folks I guess. All the ideas that I have written about above should be pretty sure-fire ways to never have another date with this guy and maybe get a restraining order. Feel free to do the opposite of these ideas if you want to have a good date.

What He Said About A Bad First Date:

Nothing will endear you to a woman faster than calling her a c*nt. That right there is a guaranteed panty dropper. You can also call her fat (always a good one), spend the evening checking out women in the bar who are hotter than she is (and making it obvious so she really gets the point), or tell her that you plan on quitting your job and living off her and then sucking her dry mentally, physically and financially. Also, make sure to tell her you are incredibly bad at sex. Or that you have a small penis. That always goes well. You’re guaranteed a bad first date if you follow my plan. You’re welcome?

Ladies, if you want to have a bad first date, tell him you’re saving yourself till marriage, that you have a STD (or two or three) and you want to make sure he has it too, so you can do it bareback. Also mention you have issues, and a fetish for credit card fraud and identity theft. And that you’re more obnoxious and nitpicky than a Jewish mother. If all else fails, throw in religion, sex, and politics.

Should You Schedule A Date Night?

By loveandsex

A date night could easily be the missing ingredient to your relationship. So many men and women find themselves distanced from their partners after a long week. Most of the time couples deal with a stressful week by unwinding in front of the television or heading out with friends. This is normal, especially when you’re in a long term relationship, but it’s not necessarily a good thing.

While sitting in front of the TV might be relaxing for some, this doesn’t exactly help out the relationship. A date night can be a welcome surprise and bring that spark back between the two of you. There are several reasons that you might need to schedule a date night. Some couples believe that having to schedule a date night means that there is a problem in the relationship. However, this is not necessarily true. Here are a few reasons that you should actively schedule a date night.

You’re On The Books

A date night will put something on the books. It shows your guy that you are committed to spending time with him and it shows you that he is committed to spending time with you. When you put something on the books you have made the commitment and you should not back out of it. Some people make empty promises to their partners in the vein of “Yeah, we’ll head to dinner some time this week or something.” This kind of phrasing and ambiguousness doesn’t really put confidence into the relationship. Scheduling a date night will lock them down without dispute, giving both a time and place to spend some much needed quality time together.

Work Schedules

There are instances where people have very demanding jobs. This is becoming more and more of an issue, because people are working long hours simply to make ends meet and pay the bills. Just because you have a demanding job doesn’t mean that you can’t have a great relationship. You don’t have to sacrifice one for the other. In the event that you do have a demanding job, scheduling a date night might be needed. There are times when jobs require insane amounts of overtime.

If you or your partner has a demanding job then you should consider scheduling a date night so you do not schedule anything in its place by accident. Just because you have to schedule a date night doesn’t mean that you don’t care about the relationship. It simply means that you have other obligations and responsibilities that must be tended to.

You Have Something To Look Forward To

The day to day activities of life can easily make it mundane. Monday turns to Tuesday, which turns to Wednesday and you’re doing the same thing over and over again. When you schedule a date night with your partner, you have something to look forward to. You have something that will make your week go by a little faster and you can put up with some of the monotony until you reach the coveted night. Consider date ideas and think about what you want to do or what you want to eat. These can help you get excited about the date and forget about the pressures of work and family if for just a second.

Reservations

If you’re taking your partner to a romantic, high end restaurant, scheduling a date night is essential. Some restaurants require reservations up to a week in advance depending on how popular they are. If you schedule a date night then you can get a reservation way before the good times fill up. Getting into a trendy restaurant the day of can be a challenge.

Even if you can get a reservation it might not be at the time that you want. If you are going to a movie, a play or you have another event planned, having a reservation at the best time possible will work to your advantage.

A Date Night Can Breathe New Life Into A Relationship

Remember back to the time that you first started dating your partner? Do you remember how it felt to get dressed up and go out on the town? How he or she made you feel special because you had then on your arm? You can still have that feeling when you schedule a date night with your partner.

Schedule a date night and then go out and buy a new dress or dress shirt for the occasion. Watch how your partner’s eyes light up when they see you in your new outfit. Whether you have been working too hard or the relationship has felt a little distant lately, having a date night can easily bring the two of you back together again.

How To Create Attraction Online

By davem

Online dating is sometimes more difficult than it looks. Use these simple techniques to create attraction and have online dating success!

Have you ever seen an ugly guy or a big, fat guy with a gorgeous woman? First reaction: He’s got money; that’s why she’s with him. But, there’s always an occasion where a woman is with the guy because she feels that attraction. The next question is: How does a guy create attraction? There are many different ways. You can use humor, you can tease her, be a challenge she can’t resist, take control and act as the leader, be charming and conﬁdent—there are so many different things.

Conﬁdence

Get a list of pick up lines right now and you’ll see some that are so re-hashed that you KNOW girls have heard them all before. But you know what? Some guys still make these lines work for them. In fact, some guys can simply say “hello” and they get the women’s attention. It’s not what you say, but how you say it.

Conﬁdence shows in the way you walk, the tone of voice you use and taking control of the situation. In other words, instead of letting her decide where you’re going to go, take control and you make the plans.

Humor

Another concept is humor. Women love funny men. Be funny, make jokes. When I’m with a girl, I always like to people watch. Women love doing this and you can always people watch and make funny comments about what other people are wearing, how they’re walking or their voices and stuff like that, just between you two.

Remember to keep it light, so that she knows you’re kidding. And most important of all, don’t get all piqued when she turns the tables on you and puts you at the receiving end of a joke. The best part of being funny is you draw out the funny side of the girl. When you’re laughing together, acting silly and exchanging pokes, you can bet she can feel the connection (and the attraction for you).

Personality

One thing about a guy that will make a woman turn her head regardless of how he looks is his personality. And “personality” has something to do with the way you set yourself apart from other men. When women ﬁnd a man who has a great personality, they usually say he’s down-to-earth and easy to talk to. What does these mean?

Being down-to-earth simply means you’re not walking on eggshells around her, you’re not making her feel awkward by being awkward, and you’re not making it seem like you’re desperate to have her to like you back. At the same time, your whole demeanor will tell her that even if you are in like with her, you won’t put up with BS. If she’s acting in a way that does not seem right to you, make it clear that you’re walking out (with a smile and a wave, of course).

This kind of attitude drives girls nuts with attraction. A part of their brain panics at the thought of losing an awesome guy to another girl who’s less bitchy, more affectionate and more attentive towards him.

Be A Challenge

Another thing to avoid is kissing her ass. I hate to say it, but women throw out tests. You’ve got to have conﬁdence and bust on them. That’s the perfect time to tease a woman. If a woman says, “Do these pants make my ass look big,” I might turn around and look and say, “Wow, really big. Whoa,” and smile because she knows you’re not being serious.

On the Internet, I might throw out something like, “Listen, I understand you’re not really attractive, guys can’t stand looking at you, they’re completely repulsed by looking at you, you’re not intelligent and you can’t carry on a conversation, so why are you on the Internet?” I’ll say it in a bit of a humorous way. It’s great because they know that I’m teasing them and I’m not kissing their ass. I’m not going to ask them all the time, “Are you okay? What do you need? Do you need anything?” No, I’m the guy. I’m the prize. She’s hanging around me. I don’t have to bend over backwards for her.

If the girl has a lot of spunk in her (and you can bet the prettiest ones out there have a lot of this), you’re almost guaranteed that she will take the bait.You’re someone she sees as a challenge, and in her head she secretly thinks it’s cute that you’re provoking her by teasing her.

Being Attractive Is Not All That When It Comes To Online Dating

Let’s face it, in online dating, being attractive is cheap. Why? Because you have a photo and a bunch of text describing yourself on your profile, and people judge you based on that. Or rather, they form an impression inside their head based on what they see. Now, we all know that you’re not going to put up a photo that doesn’t look good, right? Exactly.

The thing is, no matter how closely you resemble your photo, you will still look slightly different ofﬂine. She will either notice this or she will ignore it completely. It’s easy to ﬁgure out why women would love to go out with you regardless if you’ve gained weight since you took your bio photo or how much thinner your hair is.

On the other hand, if she sees you as a wimp, a bootlicker, a bore and a guy who’s always trying to impress her, you’d have wasted all the cash you spent on your skin (and hair) because she won’t be able to look past your bad personality or your desperation to really appreciate your looks.

For guys, we’re a little bit different. We’re more visual. They asked guys the same question and they guys all answered a body part, whether it’s breasts, legs,butt… So you see, women don’t place as high a value on looks as you might think they do, so if you’re not great looking, don’t worry.

They want somebody who’s funny, who’s a little bit cocky, who’s charming, who’s conﬁdent, who has a sense of humor, who’s a little bit of a challenge and who can put them in their place if needed. That’s the kind of stuff that women want.