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Why You Suck At Meeting Men

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Dating tips aren’t always right – some lead you in the wrong direction. Here’s the truth about why you’re bad with fellas and the dating tips you REALLY need!

Most women aren’t very good at meeting guys for many reasons, but the biggest is that girls are passive, and they wait for the man to do all the approaching.

Let’s get into reality right now.

Most Guys Are SCARED Of Girls!

95% of men walk around with fear. They’re absolutely terrified of meeting women.

So you’ve only got about 5% of men out there that actually know how to approach women.

The problem is, most of you women think that if a guy’s good at approaching, and comfortable talking to strangers, then you shouldn’t trust him. You tend to think that “he must be doing this all day.”

So, if only 5% of men actually approach women and you don’t trust 4% of them, then you only have 1% of the total population of men available to you.

Isn’t that crazy?

So how do we do change this so you can go out and meet 100% of the total population of men?

It’s simple.

Using Your Sexual Energy

You go and turn on your sexual energy. You stop being the prim, the proper and the prudent, and you let out the woman inside that disregards her inhibitions, and expresses herself courageously.

This is going to be fun, but it’s going to take some mental work on your part. You’re going to access that part of you that you may not have used since grade school: your imagination.

With every guy that you’re attracted to, imagine the best sex you’ve ever had in your entire life when talking to him.

That’s right.

Think about having the best orgasm you’ve ever had with a man. Close your eyes if you need to.

And then when you open up your eyes and you’re staring at a guy, talk to him from that “turned-on” perspective. Imagining that sexual state, and allowing yourself to feel it, is going to change the way you walk, talk and behave. He’s going to sense your sexuality and it’s going to be a huge turn-on. Trust me.

He’ll hang on your every word.

You’ll be in control.

You’ll be able to talk to a lot of men and find the guy that you’re supposed to be with.

You’ll find the one—a love that you need.

But you can’t go out and meet these great men if you stay passive and refuse to express your sexuality. You’re going to find boring, passive men, because that’s what your putting out into the world.

SO you want to meet the right man for you?

Be real, and take action.

Weird Flirting Games That WILL Get Her Attention!

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Flirting doesn’t have to be cliche – strange and off the wall flirting techniques are almost always more successful! A great way to trigger a flirtatious interaction is to engage women in a fun game. Games are great because you don’t need any specific situation to get the ball rolling.

Simply be creative and go with it. While this trigger can be used anywhere, it tends to get the best results in clubs and bars where women are already in a “pick up” environment. For example I wouldn’t use this technique on a woman you’ve just met at the supermarket.

“Who Would You ‘Do?'”

Step 1: Pick two guys that have very average looks (guys that a woman would never choose based only on physical looks), or find men who have really low self-esteem and poor body language.

Step 2: Tell the woman you’re playing a game and point out the two men.

Step 3: Say, “If you had to choose, which of those two guys would you have sex with?”

NOTE: A common response is “Can I say none?” Of course you say no, and ask again which would be her choice if she had to choose. It’s just the rules of the game.

Most men don’t understand why you would try and play match-maker with a woman you’re interested in and another man, because they don’t realize two very important things.

  1. You are proving you really don’t need her, projecting your independence as a masculine man.
  2. You’re having fun. All people want to have fun so make sure the woman associates fun with you. Tease, flirt and accuse all you want. You can do what you want, you’re a masculine man remember?

Predict Her Future

Ask for her hand and tell her something silly about her future. Say, “Do you want to know your future?” If she agrees, grab her hand and in a disappointing voice tell her that she’ll be one of those construction workers that hold a “stop/slow” sign 8 hours a day for the rest of her life.”

Alternatively, you can ask for her hand and then say, “Oh… no!” and give her hand back. After her curiosity has been stirred up, say things like, “I don’t think I can be seen with you anymore” then reveal her future if you want.

Pickup Lines Game

Step 1: Tell her how pathetic pick up lines are.

Women always agree with this statement and you quickly build trust.

Step 2: Start an exciting conversation about lame guys that have approached her.

From here you can ask the woman the worst pickup lines that have been used on her or her friends. This will transition into many funny, flirty and emotional conversations.

  • Talk about guys that have said funny lines
  • Strange stories that she can remember
  • Weird and pathetic guys that have approached her
  • Funny things guys have said

What To Talk About On The First Date

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The first date is pretty nerve wracking because often, you’re not sure what to say or how to keep the conversation going. Check out these easy first date tips!

Create A Simple Environment

Your first date with a woman should be in a quiet place where you can communicate one on one. This is the time to prove that you’re a catch. You need to project this by successfully flirting with her.

DON’T FORGET: Just because the woman has committed to a first date doesn’t mean she’ll become your girlfriend. Some guys “go weird” once women decide to have a first date. Realize that there’s a big different between getting a first date and a second date. You need to leave a darn good impression. The best dates for first dates are:

  •  Coffee shops
  • Bars / Lounges

Your first date is not a job interview. You don’t need to know all the demographics about your date, and she doesn’t need to know all that stuff about you either. Save that stuff for when she really likes you. When she bugs and begs you to answer this type of question, you’ll know she’s interested.

There are many interesting areas of conversation you should focus on; likewise there are also some topics you should never talk about during early dates.

Good Topics To Use

The best way to make a woman feel comfortable and close is to get her to share experiences and information about herself. Ask about her passions, dream-life, and what she wanted to be when she was a little girl. Talk about current TV shows, Hollywood gossip, and anything in the entertainment industry. Don’t forget to throw in some playful teasing behavior during the dates to keep the interaction interesting.

REMEMBER: If you get too caught up in facts you’ll certainly come across as boring. You’re in complete control over what you talk about, so make it interesting. If you do talk about factual stuff, spice it up with things like, “You’re such a dork,” “I’m watching you missy,” or “You know I have eyes in the back of my head. I can see everything.”

Deadly Topics

Politics, propaganda, religion and negative experiences such as deaths, ex-partners or the state of the world are all topics you want to stay away from. People associate the time they’ve had with someone to the feelings they experienced during their time together. If you’ve spoken excessively about topics that have no hope of being humorous, you’re in trouble.

If you find yourself moving into one of these directions just say, “Let’s talk about (insert new topic),” then quickly interject, using one of the topics above to save yourself from a depressing date. Don’t say, “Can we please change the subject,” just go ahead and talk about something more fun. You’re the leader, so make sure you guide the conversation in a positive direction.

The TRUTH You Need To Know About Stripper Girlfriends

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A stripper could make an excellent partner, right? Don’t assume before you date one – here is exactly what to be aware of before dating a stripper! Armed with this massive amount of knowledge, dating dancers—or just enjoying a lot of hot sex with them—is going to be within your grasp.

But before you start considering a serious relationship with that stunner you met last night at the club—or God forbid, marrying one of these women—I want to tell you that many of the negative cliches about strippers are true. While this may sound harsh and certainly not all exotic dancers fall into these stereotypes, you have to accept that when dating a stripper that more often than not the reality behind the fantasy is often more trouble than it’s worth. Again, I’m not saying that all strippers are this way, but if you hang out in this scene for a while, as I have, you’re going to notice similarities among many of them.

What Your Relationship Will Entail

Your relationship with a stripper will probably involve a lot of drama, dishonesty and a complete disregard for sobriety. You’ll have to contend with all the other guys (including her regular customers) who want to fuck your girlfriend and want to get you out of the picture. But then there’s the nights of wild partying, the incredible sex, and the awesome ego boost you get from having sex with a stripper!

This is their lifestyle. No matter what they might say, stripping is more than a job: it’s a lifestyle. These chicks are working all night long, six or seven nights a week, and drinking and possibly using drugs whenever they work. Nearly all strippers at least drink booze on a nightly basis, since it helps them loosen up, shed their inhibitions, and “bond” with customers. (No customer likes it when his stripper orders a $7 orange juice—he wants to think he’s getting her buzzed and making her more vulnerable to his “charms.”)

With this grueling nightly routine, there’s little time for these chicks to get anything else done. They wake up in the afternoon and start getting ready to report back to the club. After a while, the thought of waking up at 8am and going to a “regular” job—and making a regular, taxed income—becomes totally unrealistic. Fundamentally, these women are lazy. If you’re an educated, career-minded guy, it will be impossible for you to relate to their daily routine and how little they get accomplished. And you’re kidding yourself if you think you’re going to start dating a hardcore pro and turn her into a productive member of society.

What Happens If You Want Her To Quit Dancing

If you start dating her and have her quit working, she’ll probably wake up in the afternoon and lounge around your house in her sweats. Or, maybe she’ll roll out with your credit card to do some shopping. But don’t think for a minute that she’s going to update her resume and use this opportunity to go after her dream job.

Many Strippers Will Lie

Just in order to be a stripper and mentally accept what they’re doing for a living, they have to lie to themselves. They tell themselves, “I’m only doing this for a limited amount of time—until I pay off my debts/straighten out my life/settle down with the right guy/etc.” They’ll constantly repeat this lie to their friends and family (or, lie about what they do for a living altogether).

If they’ve managed to con themselves, conning you is hardly going to be a stretch. Strippers who’ve been in “the game” for a while seem to develop an allergy to telling the truth. If you try to date a stripper, get ready to deal with a level of flakiness you’ve never encountered before. Phone calls will go unreturned for days. She’ll break appointments with you at the last minute, for ridiculous reasons. She’ll need to borrow money, even though you know she’s hauling down a ton of cash at the club. She’ll make up lies to cover her mistakes and inconsistent behavior, even though just telling you the truth would make things so much easier.

Many Of Them Are Single Mothers

You’ll also find that a lot of strippers, despite their seemingly flawless bodies, are single moms. The fathers of these kids are long gone (or serving prison sentences). Again, this is a result of being with some idiot ex-boyfriend, who got her pregnant and then split. I once had a relationship with a dancer who had a five-year-old daughter. Personally, if I’m dating a stripper, my rule is that I don’t even want to meet her kid. I’m sure her daughter was cute and sweet and wonderful, but I didn’t want to get involved—and I sure as hell wasn’t going to get on the hook financially.

I did this for the child’s sake, really. I figure the kid has enough issues to deal with, having a stripper for a mom and no father, without me coming into her life, forming a bond with her and acting like her surrogate father, and then bailing (just like her father did). I suppose if you get into a serious relationship with a stripper, you’re going to have to get involved with the child and be a father figure. You might actually find joy in that. I’ve known relationships like this that worked out. Personally, I’m not interested in marrying a stripper, and I know that each relationship is going to eventually fall apart. Therefore, I keep the kids out of the picture.

What To Do To Make It Work

If you do wind up getting into a relationship with a dancer, you’ve also got to be prepared to deal with how she makes her living. Jealousy often becomes a destructive factor. Only two types of men have no problem whatsoever being a stripper’s boyfriend. The first type of guy is confident enough in himself, and in the relationship, to know that her job is exactly that—a JOB. Usually, this type of guy has hung around enough strip clubs, and known enough dancers, to understand that it’s work to them and that the “flirting” with customers is an act.

(With my ex, when she went to work, we’d joke about her “going to the ATM machine.” She’d go to the club, milk the suckers for $1,000, then we’d meet up at a bar afterwards and have a great time.)

This type of guy also keeps his girlfriend’s lifestyle in check. He doesn’t accept her irresponsible flakiness. And she doesn’t work every night and sleep all day, because they both want to spend time together as a couple.

(For every 10 strippers that lead reckless fast-lane lifestyles, you’ll find one or two that actually have their heads straightened out and really are just working at the strip club on their way to other things.)

The second type of guy is letting his dancer girlfriend pay the bills. She brings home the bacon, so he’s in no position to complain about her job. He doesn’t want to lose his meal ticket. (Otherwise, how would be able to afford high-quality marijuana and equipment for his rock band?)

If you do wind up dating a dancer, always be in the first category!

Some Other Things To Keep In Mind

Another rule of dating dancers is that you shouldn’t hang around her club while she’s working. This can only create problems. She’s going to feel uncomfortable if you’re watching her flirt with other customers, which will hinder her ability to make money. No matter how cool you are with her, and what she does for a living, steer clear of the club while she’s working. Respect it as her work space.

Setting some ground rules can help, such as asking her to come home directly after her shift and holding her to it. In Las Vegas, however, the strip clubs stay open 24 hours. Her shift might technically end at 1am, but if she’s with a customer who’s shelling out for dance after dance, she’s going to stay with him until he’s ready to leave (or until his money runs out, whichever comes first). It’s part of dancer protocol: as long as the customer is spending money, it’s inappropriate for them to “clock out” and tell the customer they’re going home.

If this becomes a serious problem for you, just end the relationship and move on the next.

Weird Ways To Tease A Woman And Get Her Interested In You

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Flirting doesn’t have to be intimidating when you use these unconventional ways to get a girl’s attention! You’ll make an impression right off the bat!

Teasing women about their beauty is the most powerful way to lower their initial defenses and attract them. You’ve only got two minutes to impress a woman and make yourself stand out as somebody unique.

Understand that these beautiful women only want men with high standards.

How To Use This Strange Teasing Method To Your Advantage

OBJECTIVE: To show the woman you’re not easily impressed by “physical beauty” like other guys. You have higher standards.

By teasing the woman you’re making her compete in order to try to meet your standards. Teasing tells the woman she’s failing to reach your high standards and needs to work harder. Understand that these comments work best on “super hot” (over-confident) women.

Naturally, these are the women most guys are attracted to. If a woman is “cute,” but not “super attractive,” tone down your comments and engage her in competitive conversation instead. The more over-confident the woman is, the more you can tease her.

WARNING: Once you’ve used a teasing comment and it’s worked well, she’s going to try and regain her power. She’ll do everything possible to test you, so make sure you don’t give in to her.

Things To Say

  • Nice hair. What made you go with a 60’s style?
  • Ha. That walk is hilarious. Do it again!
  • You like cappuccino’s? (weird look) Na, that’s cool.

Imply she’s short, has no fashion sense, has a funny quirk, etc. Once you find something that gets a great reaction, keep using it. Tease her about her:

  • Hair
  • Clothes
  • Shoes
  • Accessories
  • Walk
  • Mannerisms
  • Dorkiness

The “Where Did You Go?” Flirting Technique

Here’s a great example you can do with just about any woman. After talking for some time you can walk up to her and look over her head as if you’re looking for something. You can then say, “Where did you go?”

Don’t stand too close just close enough to get the point across. You’ll usually get a playful hit for this one because it implies that she’s short. If you’re the same height or just a little bit shorter, stand on your toes to add some extra height. Being the same height can actually make this technique work better because it’s sarcastic humor. You’re saying she’s short even though she’s clearly level with your height.

Woman’s Teasing Interpretation

SHE THINKS FIRST: “I’m short and he is laughing about it.”

SHE INTERPRETS THIS AS: He doesn’t only want me for my looks! He’s different than most guys. I want to get to the bottom of this and see what he’s really like! Is he faking?

RESULT: She’s interested.

Re-active Teasing

While this form of teasing is slightly more difficult, it usually more effective because of its “natural conversation” feel. So here’s what you do:

Ask the woman something about her day, what have you been up to? Where do you work? Where have you been shopping? What’s in the shopping bag? Where’d you get that necklace? Anything!

The idea of teasing is that you want to DISAGREE on something with the woman. Thus, creating sexual tension.

DISAGREE on her looks

Say her clothes aren’t cool.

DISAGREE on her opinion of something.

Side note: A great way to tease women at pick-up bars is to joke to your buddy that the woman is too drunk, even if she’s not. Or, accuse her of becoming as insecure as a man who goes around trying to get lucky with his “confidence-in-a-can,” and tell her it’s not going to work with you.

In conclusion, there’s a difference between a woman being seriously upset, and just playing around and being “fake upset.” When they playfully hit you and have a half smile on their face, they like it, no matter what they say!

FACT: Women mean what they do, not what they say.

When she starts laughing, acting natural, fun, and genuinely smiling, then you know you’ve spoken long enough. You no longer need to speak to the woman.