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Getting Her Back – For Good Review

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Getting Her Back For Good has helped many men reunite with their exes. If you want to get YOUR ex back, you’ll definitely want to read this!

Michael Webb, also known as the “Oprah Love Expert” and the “World’s Most Romantic Man,” brings yet another great guide to the table – Getting Her Back – For Good –  that shows men who have lost the loves of their lives get them back and never let them get away again. Michael has many other great titles on relationships, dating and sex, including 300 Creative Dates and Lick By Lick – How To Go Down On A Woman And Have Her Begging For More. Learning how to do the latter might not be too bad an idea if you’re really trying to win her back!

The Good

Getting Her Back – For Good is not a guide full of fluff that will get her attention, nor is it a book about tricks to use to win a girl back or ways to manipulate a woman into wanting to be with you again after breaking up with you. This book is designed to help men who really want to figure out what went wrong in their relationships and to fix the core issues that dissolved the partnership.

Getting Her Back – For Good has lots of great material in it, from start to finish. It is a long and bulky read, but totally worth it! The information gleaned from this guide will not only help you change yourself so that your ex will want you back, it will also help you to learn how to be a better partner if you end up moving on to a new relationship with someone else. Reading this guide is a win-win – you’re going to benefit a great deal from the deep self examination that this book has you go through.

The Bad

What is great about Getting Her Back – For Good can also be looked at from a different perspective – not everyone will want to hear what Michael has to say in this guide. In fact, it’s a little like “tough love.” Lots of guys make mistakes in a relationship and it can be very difficult for a man to look at himself in the mirror and really look at what he did to contribute to the problems in the relationship.

The words in this guide aren’t sugar coated – so if you’re looking for a “pick me up” book that will show you everything she did to mess up the partnership, then you’re barking up the wrong tree. You’re not going to feel any warm fuzzies when you read Getting Her Back – For Good. You’re going to examine every aspect of yourself and your relationship with a magnifying lens, and you’re going to learn how to strip away the facade and look at what’s really there.

The epiphanies that you’ll inevitably run into when you read this book aren’t comfortable ones and they’re not happy ones either. You’re going to realize your mistakes and if you’ve ever had difficulty admitting what you’ve done wrong, this book will be a difficult read. That said, there is nothing in this guide that isn’t absolute truth. The truth hurts, but taking a long, hard look at yourself and your issues is the first critical step to changing things to get your ex back permanently.

The Bottom Line

Getting Her Back – For Good isn’t your run of the mill “do this, this and this and you’ll have her back forever” type of guide. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. This guide requires you to have an open enough mind to look at what you’ve done wrong in the relationship and how you can become a better person with whom your ex will want to be with. Not every guy is going to want – or be able to – read this book.

It brings up some truths about men and how they behave in relationships that just aren’t easy to face. However, if you do read Getting Her Back – For Good, you will be better for it. If you take Michael’s advice and apply it to your own behavior and relationships, you stand a very good chance of getting the girl you want to be with back.

The Full Getting Her Back For Good Review

Getting Her Back – For Good has helped many men reunite with their exes. If you want to know what went wrong in YOUR relationship and get her back – read this! If you’re expecting a step by step guide that shows you how to dress better, comb your hair and get involved in volunteering to win your girlfriend or wife back, you’re going to be disappointed. However, if you TRULY want to dig deep, down to the root of the problems and solve them so you and your partner can have a happy, fulfilling long term relationship, this book is going to be your new best friend.

Here are some great things you’re going to learn in Getting Her Back – For Good:

  • The #1 SECRET that causes women to snap – and how to fix it
  • Why almost every breakup is the exact same
  • What a woman needs in a relationship and what she wants in a man
  • The RED FLAGS you missed that were telling you your relationship was headed downhill
  • What REAL intimacy is
  • What she really wants during sex
  • “Power Tools” that will help all relationships

What Was YOUR Breakup About?

Although Michael explains that the dynamics behind almost every breakup are the same, the “surface reasons” for the break up are usually never alike. For example, if you cheated on her or if she cheated on you, or if you two simply “grew apart.” Michael outlines each unique break up situation and tells you what SHE wants to hear. There’s also a great section on things that you can do to help get her back and things you absolutely shouldn’t do and avoid at all costs.

Overall, Getting Her Back – For Good is a great guide that will help men to understand where their relationships went wrong and how to fix them. It may not be an easy read and it may not be super fun to look at yourself in such a glaring light, but if you want your girl back, you’re going to have to buck up and see the truth. Even if you don’t end up getting your ex back, what you’ve learned from this guide will help keep you from making the same mistakes in the future in a different relationship.

Top 5 Reasons To Cheat

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Cheating shouldn’t happen in a relationship, but it does. What are some of the motives behind infidelity?

What She Said:

  1. Alienation of affection. If my partner cut me off physically and emotionally, I’d start thinking about looking elsewhere.
  2. Unhealthy/dangerous habits. If my partner seriously got into drugs and was resisting all help, it would ultimately be a deal-breaker.
  3. If he cheated on me first, I just might “have to” retaliate!
  4. Meeting someone with whom I had crazy, undeniable chemistry.
  5. Midlife crisis!

Honestly, I had trouble coming up with five reasons why I would cheat. It’s not something I believe I would do – though each situation is unique, so no judgment if this is something you’ve chosen.

Cheating happens – there are a myriad of reasons why, as we’ve seen above. For myself, my choice would be to end my current relationship before embarking on something new – as much out of respect for my partner as for myself. Think about it: Would you want to be cheated on? Most likely the answer is “no” – so don’t put your partner in a situation you wouldn’t want to be in yourself, even if the love has faded.

Cheating is usually a sign that something is wrong with the relationship. Hello, obvious! Instead of heaping more drama on the problem (even if it feels good at the time), why not stop and attempt to fix what’s wrong? Your next lover should be willing to wait in the wings while you work on wrapping up your previous entanglement. A clean slate – what’s sexier than that?

What He Said:

  1. Chris Rock rule of LTRs: He said, “Show me the hottest girl on the planet, and I’ll show you a guy who’s tired of having sex with her.”  So you’re partner is great, but you just need some “strange ass.” Not better, or worse, just unfamiliar.
  2. You met your celebrity crush, and they are “good to go.” I don’t care how faithful a woman is, if she meets Brad Pitt or that dude from Twilight and he wants her, he’s going to have her. Plain and simple.
  3. Your partner ain’t handling their business any more. To quote the wise philosopher, Shaft “it’s my duty to please that booty.” If they are not meeting this requirement, you’re probably going to look for someone who will and you probably won’t feel too bad about it.
  4. You think you can get away with it. No, you KNOW you can get away with it. You’re in Vegas, or you’re away on business, on vacation, whatever. You know you will never come into contact with this person again, and even if they did, they can’t pin anything on you. They don’t know your cell number, name, etc. They can’t trace you. This sex act is like bigfoot: everyone knows it probably exists, but no credible evidence existing that can prove it.
  5. Cause you’re human. Monogamy is not natural. It’s not unrealistic, but it’s not how we were designed. You were designed to screw around and still have someone waiting for you at home. You feel entitled to do as nature intended you to.

Don’t Let Sharing A Bed Ruin Your Relationship – Or Your Sleep!

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A relationship involves sleeping in the same bed as your partner – but how will this affect your sleep schedule? And will it wreak havoc on your partnership?

While sharing a bed certainly has a romantic upside, it can wreak havoc on your sleep schedule. Talking to your partner about your issues, like being kept awake by snoring, can help you both solve your sleeping problems. Compromise in the name of catching a few more zzz’s will keep you both happier, at bedtime and beyond.

There was a time back in the ‘50s when you couldn’t show couples sharing a bed on TV. Think back to I Love Lucy, and you’ll recall that Lucy and Ricky had a pair of twin-sized beds in their master bedroom. It seems silly to think of a married couple not sharing a bed, yet anyone who’s ever slept next to a snorer or a blanket hog has probably fantasized about having such a sleeping arrangement.

Sleep Deprivation Means More Fights

Much as we’ve all enjoyed cuddling up under the covers with our significant other, we’ve also probably had at least a few nights where our shut eye quality suffered thanks to having a bed buddy. That might seem like a small sacrifice to make for love, but sleep deprivation is a pretty evil thing. If your partner is disrupting your shut eye night after night, you’re bound to be tired on a daily basis. If you’re tired all the time, you’re likely cranky, and you might find yourself snapping at your mate more often. Things that wouldn’t bother you a bit if you were rested might cause blowout fighting when you’re sleep deprived.

Lay Down The Ground Rules

So how can you get your much needed shut eye without reverting to separate beds? First and foremost, you and your partner need to discuss what, if any, problems you’re having. If you’re a light sleeper and your S.O. snores loudly or talks, talk to them about it. How bad and frequent is the snoring? Is it a once and awhile thing that you can use earplugs to block out? If it’s a little more frequent—say your mate has bad allergies and snores when he/she is stuffed up—try over-the-counter remedies.

Buy him or her a box of those nose strips that help open up your nasal passages so you can breathe easier and don’t snore as much. If the snoring is regular and violent sounding, your significant other might need to go to the doctor or even do a study. They might have a more serious problem like sleep apnea, which can be very dangerous. The doctor could help both your partner’s health and your sanity.

Other Relationship Problems From Sleeping In The Same Bed

Of course, there are other annoyances that can come from sharing a bed. If you’re lucky enough to be a heavy sleeper, you might not notice if your partner tosses and turns or hogs the covers all to his or herself. If you’re not a heavy sleeper, you might wake up every time your S.O. rolls over or pulls the blanket off you.

Make your mate aware of their habits in as polite a manner as possible. Then discuss possible solutions, like buying a better mattress that doesn’t magnify every move your partner makes. Maybe you simply need a bigger bed to put more distance between each other, or even just larger blankets so you’ve each got more to wrap up in.

Most of these problems are at their worst if you have the misfortune of being a light sleeper. If you are, one of the easiest ways to make sure you sleep through the night despite your partner is to go to bed before they do. Of course, you might not always be able to get to bed a little earlier than your S.O.

When you can, however, try to give yourself time enough to get to the point of deep sleep before your mate comes to bed. If you’re really out of it by the time they start snoring or kicking around, you’ll be less likely to notice it. Another option is to have sex before you hit the hay. If you both get a really good orgasm, it’s likely you’ll both be out like a light.

Of course, if none of these ideas work, you may very well have to resort to sleeping Lucy-and-Ricky-style. That, or you might want to invest in some good sleeping pills.

Relationship Advice: Help! I’m Addicted To Drama!

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A relationship should be a safe zone for you – but what if it’s not? What if your relationship is nothing but fighting? What if YOU’RE the one starting it?

My boyfriend and I are in an endless cycle of fighting and making up. My friends say I should dump him, but I’m addicted to the push/pull. I want to note that our fighting doesn’t include anything physical – we’re just into arguing. What should I do?

What She Said:

The big question here is: Are you happy? Only you can make that call, but a constant cycle of fighting and making up sounds pretty exhausting to me. It also sounds like it might be tiring your friends out as well, if they’re so well-versed on the subject that they’re to the point of offering opinions on your relationship.

We’ve all had those relationships that weren’t quite a match, yet were hard to let go of nonetheless. Nothing to be ashamed of there, that’s how you learn! You have to ask yourself what you want for the long term – is the tension of wondering when the next fight will happen really beneficial to your quality of life? Some people do get off on arguing because of the popular assumption that it leads to hot makeup sex. If that’s your trip, you might want to find another (healthier) way to rev up the engines.

The push and pull can be quite seductive. By engaging in this behavior, the two of you are constantly stirring up a fight in order to ultimately confirm that you do want each other. But I have a secret – there is an easier way. Think about how life would be with someone who loved you unconditionally, someone who told you how he felt without a fight. That reality exists and it’s a lot of fun. Now there’s something to think about!

What He Said:

What is it with chicks and fighting? I know, guys date crazy chicks too, but I think it’s different for women. Ever watch a soap opera? Ever see ANY happy well adjusted people on those shows? Hell no! Everyone on those shows are bat-shit crazy and are producing tons of tension. I think women like the unpredictability of it.

It doesn’t matter what we think you should do. You’ve already made your decision. You like the adrenaline rush from a fight. Why? I have no clue. But you like it, so you might as well just get used to everyone saying you’re in a dead end, soul crushing relationship for a simple reason: you are in a dead end, soul crushing relationship, but apparently you’re into that thing for some damn reason. So since you don’t seem interested in coming to your senses and finding a guy who worships, loves, cherishes and adores you (because really, who need that anyway?) you’re going to be stuck in this rut no matter who you date. Different dick, same story.

My Wife Spends More Time With Her Friends Than Me!

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Marriage is a partnership between two great friends – but what happens when your marriage gets less time than her best girls do?

My wife seems to be way more interested in the well being of her girlfriends over me. It’s kind of to the point where I’m wondering if she’s more interested sexually, given the amount of time she spends with them. What gives?

What She Said:

Have you reached out to your wife lately? It sounds like she might be taking solace in the company of her girlfriends. It is possible to feel lonely, even in a marriage. You’ve mentioned that she doesn’t seem very interested in your well being. Have you flipped the script and asked yourself if you’ve shown interest in her happiness as of late? If you said “no,” that might be the answer to your question.

Bring In The Romance

Of course the responsibility is not all on you. You obviously have a valid concern, regardless of the cause. You’re feeling alienated by your wife, and that’s not good. Given that you’ve included sex in the mix, I’m assuming that intimacy with your partner is not up to par. Have you tried a little romance? A fun date night might be a good start to getting things going again.

Communication is key, especially in this situation. You need to sit down and have an honest talk with your wife, ASAP. You’re going to have to be blunt and let her know your concerns. If she let’s you know everything is fine, but she’s also been feeling the distance, be sure to start scheduling time together. Make your marriage a priority again. If she reveals that she does indeed have sexual feelings for women, it’s time to let her go. You’ll both be happier in the long run being who you truly are. Good luck!

What He Said:

Unless your wife has always been like this something changed. It didn’t just happen. She may not be happy at work, or something. Most likely in these situations, it’s that the guy she’s with started phoning it in.

Think back to a time in the relationship when things were working like you wanted them to. Compare that to now. Are you spending as much time with her? Are one or both of you more stressed out? Are you doing the same things for her now as you were then? My guess is probably not.

Decoding A Woman’s Desire For Sex

So, start doing them. Try and do them without the expectation of the sex. She’s out of the mood and been that way for a while. She may have to readjust to the new attention, but it will happen. Ironically, she will want to have sex with you right after she comes to the conclusion that you’re not giving her this attention because you want to get laid. Women are sneaky like that. Once she feels that you’re giving her this added attention because you legitimately care about her and want to shower her with it, that’s when the booty usually picks up.

Again, I know. It doesn’t make sense, and it’s counterintuitive. But that’s the way it works. Just try it. Give it like a month. Or two weeks at least. If it doesn’t work, punch me. I know it will work, which is why I can say that. Just try it. You have nothing to lose.