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HIS Secret Sex Zones: How to Make Him Beg for More

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Can you REALLY pleasure your man in bed? Sure, he reaches his climax and all but do you think he considers you a SEX GODDESS?

It may not take a lot to ensure that your boyfriend/husband/lover reaches a climax but the ‘intensity’ of that peak is what we’re talking about here. So ladies, to stand out from all the rest listen up because you’ll now learn how to truly treat him to mind-blowing sex. The secret? Knowing his secret sex zones.

That’s right, men – just like us women – have certain pleasure buttons too and if you know where they are and, more importantly, HOW to stimulate them then you’ll soon make him scream in bed.

So in the interest of ‘science’, I and couple more female friends, took it upon ourselves to experiment so that we can give you the low-down on male sex zones.

HIS Hot Zone # 1: Cremaster 101

You may be thinking we made up this name but seriously, there IS such a word as cremaster and it’s a muscle that covers the male testicles. This wonder muscle works pretty much like a bungee cord or rope and it pulls the testicles up (when they’re exposed to cold) and down (when they’re exposed to warmth). You can thus say that the purpose of cremaster is to ensure that the testicles are protected by regulating temperature.

How to master the cremaster: When your partner is just about to come, his testicles retreat. Think of it as a spring coiling tight before the big deployment! It’s of course the cremaster that’s making this ‘coiling’ possible. In contrast, lightly pulling down on his family jewels while making love helps delay ejaculation, thus extending pleasure. So, if you want him to be delirious without pleasure for a long time, make sure you are delaying the effects of the cremaster!

For instance, as you perform fellatio, make sure that you are gently pulling or tugging at his balls. Your tongue action on his member will make him want to explode, but your pulling action is preventing the cremaster from tightening and pulling the testicles up to the point that he reaches a climax. It’s sort of like finding the secret to lasting all night!

As you try the tip above, be sure that you’re not tugging too hard. Remember you want to delay his climax while providing pleasure. You want a deep moan out of him, not a shout of pain.

HIS Hot Zone # 2: The P-Spot

If we women have the G-spot (Gräfenberg spot), men have the P-spot or what is called the prostate, which is actually a gland that holds a fluid that gets ejected with semen as he climaxes. The prostate is just about the size of a walnut and it surrounds the urethra. And just like our g-spots, when the prostate is stimulated, he can be in for a very wild erotic ride.

How to master the P-spot: To stimulate his prostate, you need to know about the corpus cavernosa first. These tissues run over the length of the penis (from the pubic bone to the penis head) and are actually the ways by which blood pumps to the penis, making it erect.

So to cut the long story short, stimulate his penis and you, in effect, stimulate his P-spot. What’s the best way to do this, you ask?

Wrap your dainty hand around his penis and instead of making an up and down motion as you normally would, push your hand – gently! – towards him. The result? The corpus cavernosa tissues will go down and ‘cuddle’ the prostate.

HIS Hot Zone #3: Perineum

The perineum is that diamond-shaped area between his balls and back door. It feels slight hard to the touch but it’s jam-packed with nerve endings that can easily send him to erotic heaven!

How to master the perineum: You can stimulate the perineum anytime you wish since it’s pretty much located at an ‘accessible’ angle. However, what a lot of women forget is to stimulate it just when he’s about to come.

For instance, most men seem to prefer to be in the missionary position when they’re ready to explode. So, when you sense that he’s nearing his climax, simply reach down between his legs and press this diamond-shaped pleasure nub with the knuckle of your index finger. Why the knuckle? Well, it really is sensitive so you want to avoid scratching him there. You want him to shout in pleasure and not to shout (at you!) in annoyances or pain.

If on the other hand, you want to stimulate the perineum at the onset of lovemaking, think of it as his clitoris. By this, we mean you should make sure that you are applying various degrees and types of pleasure. (Isn’t it that our clitoris sort of becomes immune, if not even irritated, if it’s constantly treated to the exact same treatment or pressure?)

So be sure that you massage, draw lazy circles, press and ease away, and pretty much keep his perineum point on the edge as you stimulate him.

HIS Hot Zone #4: Lips

Well, what do you know, one of his erogenous zones is one of ours too: the lips. This is not surprisingly really. After all, the membranes that make up the lips are packed with nerve endings. So the next time you think that he’s not much of a kisser, give him a lip treat that will MAKE him want to be kissed over and over again.

How to master his lips: It’s soooo easy to kiss your partner on the lips that you probably just go ahead and plant a big wet one anytime you like. Well, this time, make him beg for it by kissing him everywhere… EXCEPT on the lips. And make him really anticipate it too by making sure you plant really wet, sloppy kisses elsewhere on his body. Make sure you apply various kisses too: wet ones, hard ones, quick ones, sucking ones, you get the idea.

All these moves will make him want you to kiss him full on the lips soon. And when you finally ‘give in’, make sure you do various things such as lining his lips with your tongue, and when they’re wet, exhale gently on them. This wet-cool technique will drive him WILD!

His Hot Zone #5: Nipples

Remember the times when you thought you were almost ‘coming’ because he’s soooo good licking, grazing and sucking your nipples? Well, guess what, you can apply the same delirious pleasure on him.

True, his nipples are not as ‘obvious’ as ours even when they’re hard and erect. However, those little nubs are still packed full of pleasure nerves that you can tap!

How to master his nipples: Start off by kissing, licking and breathing your hot breath on his nipples. That would make them erect enough! Now, as you go on your favorite woman-on-top position, give him a double sensory delight. By this, we mean make his eyes dance with delight as your bosom jiggles up and down in front of you as you ride him. While this is going on, reach out and draw lazy circles around his nipples! We guarantee, he won’t know to which pleasure he should focus on!

So there you have it; five secret sex zones for you to play with tonight. Enjoy!

How To Make Sex Over 40 GREAT! (Ladies Only)

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Sex tips specifically for women over forty can help older women have a super hot, satisfying orgasmic sex life! Sex tips for these women differ slightly than sex tips for younger women, because as the body ages, it is important to realize that sex can be different too. But that doesn’t mean you can’t have AWESOME sex! It could be better sex than you ever had!

Use Plenty Of Lubrication

A lot of couples assume that if they’re turned on, they don’t need additional lubrication during intercourse. Having plenty of lubrication, natural or otherwise, is essential for great sex for both younger couples and older ones, although, older women may find that they need a little more than they used to. This is not at all uncommon. In fact, every couple should have a bottle of good, water based lubricant in their nightstand drawer, because honestly, it just makes sex feel better!

When there’s less friction and more sensual gliding, things are going to feel better. This is especially true for older women, because as the body ages, the vagina can become drier and less supple. Using good quality lubricants like Pjur can help moisturize the tissues down there and make your genitals look and feel supple and young – not to mention, sex will feel better without the uncomfortable friction!

Have Lots Of Foreplay

When you’re younger, you can often jump right into sex without a lot of foreplay because sex is newer and more fun – it doesn’t take long for the body to get excited. But when you’ve been around the block a few times so to speak, just the idea of having sex isn’t enough to get a woman turned on. Women naturally require lots of foreplay before sex to get them aroused enough for sex to feel good, yet this is one of the sex tips that is most commonly ignored.

Don’t underestimate the power of foreplay and make sure that you engage in it as often as possible. Foreplay can start as soon as you wake up – lovingly caress your partner, tease them and whisper naughty things in their ear. You’ll both be thinking about sex all day and by the time you get home, it will be all you can do not to rip each other’s clothes off and get it on right then and there.

Invest In Good Quality Sex Toys

When you get older and more experienced with sex, you will naturally want to try new things and stretch your boundaries a little bit. Investing in some good quality sex toys can definitely spice up your sex life. Go shopping with your partner or alone and look for sex toys that you can use together as well as during masturbation. Let your partner get a masturbation sleeve to spice up his solo sessions, and get yourself a great little clitoral vibrator that you can use with him or on your own. When you’re over forty, you can afford to take some risks and experiment with new and fun sex toys!

Share Your Fantasies

If you’ve never shared your sexual fantasies with your lover, now may be the time. You’re getting older, so there’s really no point in keeping everything to yourself and never getting to live out your fantasies. This works well when you’ve been in a long term relationship with someone for quite awhile, because you tend to get more comfortable with someone as you age and continue to have a relationship with them.

So instead of being shy and keeping all of your sexual fantasies to yourself, take a little risk and start to tell your lover what really turns you on. Take turns sharing with each other what new things you’d like to try, or different ways you’d like to do things. If you’re comfortable and safe in your relationship, revealing your innermost desires can really be a lot of fun!

The Fantasy Box

Even if you’re older and wiser, sharing your deepest sexual fantasies with your partner can be a little nerve wracking. Try a Fantasy Box. The Fantasy Box concept is an excellent way to introduce new and different things in your sex life in a fun, new way. Each of you write a few different fantasies that you’d like to try and put them on slips of paper. Put them in a special box, a hat or whatever you can find and mix them up. Pull one out and have a blast acting out the fantasy! This way, you both get to try each other’s fantasies without judgement.

5 Tricks To Keep Married Sex Hot – REVEALED!

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Sex tips aren’t just for newbies – even couples who have been having sex together for years can use a handful of sex tips to keep the temperature in the bedroom from plummeting. Here are five suggestions that will keep sex with your spouse as great as it was in the beginning!

Lavish Your Partner With Oral Sex

When you and your lover first got together, oral sex was most likely on the menu more often than it wasn’t – this is probably due in part to the fact that you most likely engaged in oral sex before you actually did the dirty, and also because it was new. As you and your spouse have aged and have gotten more comfortable with each other, you likely don’t shave every day or make sure your nether regions are groomed and presentable for oral sex. Therefore, going down on each other has probably taken a bit of a backseat in your marriage.

Bring that back by lavishing your partner with oral sex. Take a shower with your partner first, and make shaving or washing part of foreplay. Getting your spouse fresh, clean and smelling good for cunnilingus or fellatio is a turn on for both you and your lover! Once they’re ready, sit them down and pitch your tent between their legs – yeah, you’re going to be camping out there for awhile. This is what is meant by lavish – lick every single nook and cranny, slowly as though you never want it to end. Be enthusiastic and never give your partner the idea that you’d rather be doing something else. It’s likely they’ll return the favor – and it will be mind blowing!

Go Super Slow (Make Sure The Kids Are In Bed)

Make sure the kids are in bed – or call a babysitter and head to a hotel for a night of long, drawn out sex. Married couples are often overwhelmed with daily life such as work, kids, bills and other day to day stresses that they’re lucky if they get to squeeze in a quickie here and there. If you want to heat your sex life back up though, you’re going to need to make time to enjoy your partner sexually.

On your night “off” so to speak, plan for a romantic evening with dinner, dessert, candles, romance – the whole nine yards. Once you get to foreplay and sex, don’t speed it up – keep going slow and don’t be in a rush to get to the finish line. Enjoy each and every moment like it was “new” – just like when you and your spouse were first together. So what if you’re not checking your phone for a few hours? It’s totally worth it.

Try New Sex Toys

This doesn’t necessarily mean introduce more vibrators or dildos into your sex life – because you probably have already had your fair share of those. You’ve done vaginal penetration, you’ve vibrated the clitoris – it’s time to find something really, really new to do! If you’ve never tried anal sex, buy a teeny-tiny butt plug or anal vibrator that allows you to experiment with anal sensations without committing to full on anal sex. Never tried bondage before? Grab an Under The Bed Restraint that slips under your bed (and is easily hidden when not in use). Let go of your inhibitions and explore things that turn you on that you’ve never tried before.

Try All Natural Sexual Enhancers

There are plenty of libido enhancers on the market and a lot of them don’t work worth a damn. However, there are some great products out there that will definitely heighten the sensations experienced during sex – and we’re not talking Viagra here. Sensitivity gels and creams work well, as do tingling and sensation intensifying lubes. One of the better sexual enhancers on the market these days are Penthouse Performance & Pleasure Shots – one for guys and one for gals. Like a little energy drink, you chug it and in about thirty minutes, everything feels amazing!

Find A New Sex Position Or Two

One mistake that married couples often make when trying to spice up their sex life is bringing in tons of new sex positions – and it’s difficult to get really good at one or two if you’re just trying as many as you can. Instead, pick one or two new sex positions that give you and your partner new sensations and work on mastering them. After a few tries, the sex position will still be “new” enough to bring the heat, but you’ll have practiced it enough to know exactly what to do to make it feel incredible.

21 Short & Sweet Sex Tips You CAN’T Miss!

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Sex tips come in all forms – lengthy, detailed and more. But THESE sex tips are easily digestible, so you don’t want to miss out on these sexy little jewels!

If You Have Trouble Reaching Orgasm

Masturbate before sex first, but don’t let yourself reach climax. Then, when you and your partner start getting it on, you’ll zoom to the peak in no time.

If You’ve Never Had An Orgasm

Masturbate. Enough said.

Use Your PC Muscles During Sex

Girls, squeeze his penis with your vaginal muscles as he’s thrusting. Do this one the “out” stroke and it will be easier on you, do this on the “in” stroke and you’ll feel super tight to him.

Don’t Neglect Your Nipples

Either have your partner pinch, lick and suck on them or do it yourself. This works especially well if you’re on the edge but just can’t seem to tip over.

Act Out Your Fantasies

There are lots of ways to act out your fantasies, even if you can’t go all out. Get a few inexpensive props and let your imagination run WILD!

Do The Opposite Of What You Usually Do

Most people start having sex slowly, and work up to a faster and faster pace. Mix things up by turning it around so you’re starting out super fast and slowing down as you get closer and closer to orgasm. This will drive you both absolutely crazy!

Talk Dirty

If you don’t already do this, start. It makes a huge difference in how hot and naughty your sex life feels.

Use Pillows

Invest in some really good, fluffy yet sturdy pillows. Use them to help you reach different angles during sex by propping various body parts up with pillows. Get creative with this!

Bring The Edibles To The Bedroom

You know, the sexy ones. Cherries, whipped cream, caramel, chocolate sauce…you get the idea! Have your lover for dessert!

Try Sixty-Nine

If you’ve never had simultaneous oral sex before, now is the time to try. Once you get going and get lost in the moment, it will be hard to tell who stops and starts where and who is doing what!

Show Your Partner What You Like

Are you shy? Get over it! Display your masturbatory habits to your partner so they can see what you like and re-enact it.

Forget Missionary

Sure, it’s great and all but work some other sex positions in there too. Girl on top helps a woman reach orgasm faster, while doggy style feels absolutely naughty.

Never Underestimate The Power Of The Wet T-Shirt

Don a white t-shirt and undies, and step in the shower. If you’d rather not get the house soaked, make sure he’s in the shower when you get in.

Engage In PDA

Not the romantic kind, unless it’s that kind of event. We’re talking about the nasty, naughty, get-a-room kind of PDA here.

Try On Lingerie Together

Visit a lingerie store and try on your favorites together. This is especially fun if you don’t have the money to buy anything but still want the experience of seeing each other in your sexiest skivvies. Bonus points if you actually end up getting it on in the dressing room.

Give Your Partner Only Oral Sex, All Night Long

Forget about yourself for a night, and give your lover hours and hours of oral sex. Make the night all about THEM. Can’t stand the torture? Masturbate yourself while you go down on them. They’ll love it!

Be A Show Off

Walk around the house naked. Do the dishes naked. Better yet, next time you lie down for your partner, spread your legs wide and let them get the best view imaginable. They will love the fact that you’re not even a tiny bit shy in front of them (but only them).

Look Mom, No Hands!

Give your partner oral sex with your hands held (or tied) behind your back. The feeling of only your mouth will drive them absolutely insane!

Sex Games

Sex games are severely underrated. Find a brand new sex game that you’ve never tried and do it TONIGHT!

Go Deep

The best sex positions for the deepest penetration vary from couple to couple based on both individuals’ body types. Experiment with different sex positions until you find the one that allows you to have the deepest possible penetration!

Don’t Be Afraid To Scream!

Unless you’re going to get kicked out of your place, don’t be afraid to let a guttural moan or scream out every now and then. The animalistic sound is incredible!

6 Things You DIDN’T Know About Semen

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Sex and semen go hand in hand – you usually can’t have one without the other. It IS possible for men to have an orgasm without ejaculation (that’s another topic entirely), but most of the time, men release semen when they reach climax. If you have sex, you’re going to have to deal with semen and if you dealing with semen, it’s usually because you had sex first. A lot of women are grossed out by a man’s ejaculate, while other women – namely in porn videos – seem to absolutely love it (or they could just be getting paid to love it). Semen has bad rap for a nasty taste and a weird texture, but there are actually some benefits that sperm have to offer that you probably didn’t know about!

Women Can Be Allergic To Semen

Yes, you read that right. About 5% of women are actually allergic to semen, making having sex (and possibly getting pregnant) a little bit more difficult for them than the average woman. Fortunately though, the allergic reactions aren’t usually severe and may just be more uncomfortable for the woman than anything else.

Women who are allergic to sperm can avoid reactions by using a condom during intercourse. Even women with latex allergies can use polyurethane condoms. Since an allergic reaction to sperm probably isn’t going to be that severe, precautions that are taken are more for the woman’s comfort than anything else.

Giving Head Can Make A Woman’s Pregnancy Easier

Believe it or not, if a woman gives her partner oral sex (and presumably swallows) regularly before getting pregnant by her partner, she will have an easier pregnancy and less problems with high blood pressure, pre-eclampsia and eclampsia. This is because her body has been given plenty of time to get used to the foreign DNA in the man’s sperm, so the mother’s body is less likely to reject the pregnancy!

It Can Make A Woman Feel Happier

There’s a reason that women feel elated after having sex with their partners, and it’s not always because he gave her an incredible, earth shaking orgasm. In fact, just the simple deposit of semen into her vaginal canal can boost a girl’s mood and make her feel happier and have a greater sense of well being.

This is due to the variety of hormones that are present in ejaculatory fluid, including testosterone, estrogen, prolactin and lots of different prostaglandins. A study at the University Of New York showed that women in relationships where condoms were always used were more likely to suffer from depression and anxiety than women in relationships where condoms were never used. Notably, women in abstinent relationships scored the highest on the scale as being the most likely to suffer from mood problems.

Of course, make sure that you are with a monogamous partner and you’ve both been tested for and are clear of STD’s before deciding to go condom-free!

A Man Will Never Run Out Of Ejaculatory Fluid

No matter how often a man has sex or masturbates, he will never run out of ejaculatory fluid. Studies have shown that a man only requires fifteen minutes (and in some cases less) to completely re-up his supply of sperm after ejaculating. This further proves that men are able to experience multiple orgasms! Men are less likely to ejaculate again during the second orgasm, however, it is possible since a man can completely replenish his ejaculatory fluid in very little time.

Semen Can Promote Tooth Decay

There are components in ejaculatory fluid that attract acid-loving bacteria and after fellatio, these bacteria can hang out in your mouth and go to work on your gums and teeth. This can promote cavities, tooth decay and gum disease, but don’t stress out too much about it. Giving your man head isn’t going to cause you to have dentures anytime soon. Just simply make sure you brush your teeth or rinse your mouth with a good mouthwash after you’re finished. But let’s face it – that’s probably already something you do after fellatio anyways.

Ejaculatory Fluid Is Nutritious

You might have heard that ejaculatory fluid has a lot of protein in it, but it also packs quite a punch with other vitamins as well. Here’s a breakdown of how just one teaspoon of semen can be considered a super food.

  • It’s low in fat at only 5-7 calories per serving!
  • Has about as much Vitamin C as an entire orange
  • Contains calcium, magnesium, potassium, vitamin B12 and zinc

So should you just start giving your partner more oral sex instead of taking your vitamins? Probably not – unless you want to start drinking it by the glass.