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Anal Pleasure For Her Review

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Anal Pleasure For Her is a resource that is specifically designed for men, women and couples who are interested in anal sex. Anyone can read this book – whether you’re interested in anal play only for masturbation or with a partner, or you want to get into full blown anal penetration. This resource explores why many people are put off by anal sex, and how those things can be prevented so you and your lover have an enjoyable and pleasurable experience. If it’s got to do with sex and the backdoor, it’s in this book. And you should read it.

The Good

Anal Pleasure For Her is an indispensable guide when it comes to learning how to have anal sex safely and pleasurably. There’s not much about anal sex that isn’t discussed in the book. Gabrielle Moore is certainly not afraid to “go there” as many authors would be, and thank goodness there’s someone out there who isn’t! Now couples interested in making the foray into anal sex have an excellent resource they can refer to that will guide them through the process of trying and enjoying this activity from start to finish.

The Bad

There are a great deal of “don’ts” in Anal Pleasure For Her, which can come off as discouraging for guys who want to try anal play now. However, while inexperienced anal sex lovers might consider this a huge caveat (do you really want to read through a laundry list of things NOT to do during anal sex?), seasoned couples know that these “don’ts” are absolutely essential for a great anal sex experience!

So put on your grown up underwear and delve in head first. Read it twice. Take notes. Put them into action when you actually do get to have anal sex. Because if you fail to heed this comprehensive list of warnings because you didn’t want to be discouraged, you’re making a huge mistake.

One the whole, Anal Pleasure For Her is an excellent resource when it comes to all things anal. However, there were just a few issues here:

  • The book suggests that a female condom can be used during anal sex. It can, but it is much less preferable to a male latex condom. It’s also not safe. The rectum doesn’t have a “stopping point” like a vagina does, so things can get lost up there. It’s very easy for the female condom to ride up and get pushed into the anus during thrusting, especially since there will be lots and lots of lube. Do yourself a favor and don a rubber. It’s much easier.
  • Some of the anal sex positions are very “out there” and look like they could really only be done well by couples experienced with anal sex. Many of the positions will cause the penis to bend at an unnatural angle, or cause the woman to position herself in an uncomfortable way. Be wary of the “acrobatic” sex positions listed in Anal Pleasure For Her. Sometimes, when you’re trying anal for the first few times, traditional sex positions like missionary and doggie style are your best bet.

The Bottom Line

Anal Pleasure For Her is a must have guide if you have ever been interested in trying anal sex, whether you’re the giving partner or the receiving partner. Couples who want to try it for the first time together should really read this book together – it contains pretty much everything you need to know about anal sex, including what to do, what not to do and how to make it safe and pleasurable.

Additionally, many of the concepts presented in Anal Pleasure For Her can be adapted to other forms of lovemaking. Following many of the guidelines Gabrielle Moore discusses – such as knowing that it should never be a burden to pleasure your partner or to have patience with your lover when engaging in something new – are tips that will help make you better at sex on the whole. All in all, this is definitely a must read if you’re interested in anal pleasure (with or without penetration) of any kind.

The Full Anal Pleasure For Her Review

Anal sex has a bad rap for being painful, dirty and dangerous to your body. While these things can happen during anal sex, they are not simply caused by the activity itself – they are caused by someone who is really, really bad at it. Someone who hasn’t taken the time to learn how a woman’s backdoor is very different from a vagina. Thus, women have shared horror stories of the guy who put it in too quick or the time a man thought saliva was a good enough lubricant. Men have similar horror stories – tales of huge messes, paired with harsh criticisms against the women who failed to perform like porn stars do.

The truth is, anal sex can actually be very pleasurable indeed, and none of those things have to happen. There need be no pain or danger, nor should there be any mess if you prefer cleanliness. Every single thing that turns men, women and couples off of having anal sex can be prevented, reduced or eliminated by simply educating yourself and taking the proper measures.

And that’s primarily what Gabrielle Moore’s guide, Anal Pleasure For Her, is all about.

Don’t underestimate the need to know every gritty detail about anal sex – even learning about the anus’ anatomy and what kind of enemas to use are important. While men may be too eager to simply “stick it in” and feel the insanely pleasurable tightness that only an anus can provide, if you’re not grown up enough to read about all the “butt stuff,” then you’re not grown up enough to do any of it. Period.

Some of the things you’ll learn in Anal Pleasure For Her are:

  • Why communication is absolutely essential for great anal sex!
  • When not to have do it – for example, if your partner is on blood thinners or has a heart condition.
  • Different positions to try (although starting with missionary or doggie style is often the easiest and most comfortable way to try anal sex for the first several times)
  • What to do and say (and what not to do and say) afterwards to make a woman feel good – and want to do it again.
  • Signs that you “wowed” her and signs that you “bummed” her.
  • How to incorporate sex toys – this section is especially great for beginners, because often, smaller sex toys designed specifically for anal insertion are the perfect tool to use to get a woman introduced to anal play during other sexual activities such as masturbation, oral sex or intercourse.
  • Injuries caused by anal sex and how to avoid them
  • Common STD’s that are spread through anal sex and how to prevent them
  • How to actually do it the first time, step by step
  • Anal fingering and analingus tips
  • Example scenarios you can follow to get a woman ready for anal penetration
  • Why many women aren’t into it at all
  • How to discuss her fears with her and ease them before you ever slide between the sheets.

Make Her Beg For Anal Sex!

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Anal sex is something that women hate, but only do because it makes men happy right?

Wrong!

Tons of women love anal sex. And when you know what you’re doing, they may even request it more than traditional vaginal sex.

Here’s exactly what you’ll need to know in order to get her to beg for anal sex anytime you want.

Lube Is Your Best Friend

Anal sex can be painful to women, and the skin around the anus is exceptionally thin and can tear easily. A good quality oil or water based lube is an absolute must if you are going to go down the Hershey Highway.

Don’t worry if you are using too much lube. It’s better to use half the bottle and ensure that she is comfortable, than to have her jump up in paid and end the sex all together, simply because you were being cheap with the lube.

Start Small At First

Before getting carried away with anal sex, it’s important for her anus to become relaxed and loosened up enough to comfortably fit your cock.

Your best options would be to either use your finger (coating in lube of course) or to use small anal sex toys. Just about every sex store in the world should carry an anal sex starter kit, and these are perfect to help you get things going on the right path.

These kits include toys that start off as tiny as your pinky finger, and get larger and larger in size. This will allow you to gently help her to loosen up enough, so that she will feel nothing but pleasure when it’s time for you to insert your cock.

Sh!t Happens

Listen, there is a good chance that things might get pretty messy during anal sex. In adult films, what you don’t realize is that women usually use at least 1-2 enemas before they ever start shooting an anal sex scene.

In real life however, things can and (most likely) will get messy from time to time.

The best advice I can give you is “low lights and baby wipes!” Make sure to keep the lights down low. Candles are perfect in this case. And also remember to have a supply of baby wipes near your bed. Keep in mind, that if the idea of a tiny bit of fecal matter bothers you, then anal sex might not be for you.

Remember The After Care

After the sex is over, don’t just roll over and go to sleep (or ask her to make you a sandwich). Instead, help her to get cleaned up, or even join her in the shower. Let her know how much you enjoyed the sex, and how much you appreciate her letting you put it in her back door.

If you skip the after care, then prepare for her to never allow you to get really dirty with her again.

How Much Anal Sex Is Too Much?

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Anal sex requires some gentleness to begin with – you’ve really got to be aware of how hard you’re going, how fast you’re going and how much lube you’re using (probably not enough!) If you follow all of the anal sex “rules,” you should be pretty safe – but what if you’re doing it pretty much non-stop? Sure, you’re observing all of the precautions, but how can you tell if you’ve gone overboard with the backdoor action?

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Taking Precautions With Anal Sex

If you’ve read anything about anal sex at all, you probably already know that you have to take precautions. It’s not at all like vaginal sex. The anus doesn’t lubricate itself, so you want to make sure to use plenty of lube when you do engage in the backdoor fun. Also, going slow, communicating and working your way up in size (do not start with a giant dildo) is in order when it comes to anal sex. The tissue of the anus is very tender and thin, and can tear easily, so always be gentle and slow!

Make Sure You’re Relaxed And Aroused

A vagina can often be penetrated at any time – lube or no lube. There have been countless women who have succumbed to their partner’s wishes for a “quickie” and got it on without being relaxed or aroused – but the sex still took place, right? Not so with anal sex. The receiving partner must be relaxed and aroused for this to work properly! If the anus is not relaxed, it is going to be much, much more difficult for anything to be inserted – if it is possible at all.

Also, lube is not optional for anal sex! You may think it is for vaginal sex (and in some cases it is, but lube is always handy), but it is absolutely MANDATORY for backdoor action! Use a good, thick lube that doesn’t get sticky or dry out easily.

Starting With Sex Toys

A lot of people like to start anal play by using sex toys. This is because they can start small and work their way up (often, starting with just the fingers or a penis is too much at first) – and that’s a good thing. You can start with a tiny butt plug (they make ones that are really small) and graduate to larger objects as you become accustomed to the feeling. Always make sure that your anal sex toys have a flared or ring style base, or they can get lost in there!

When To Stop

It’s not hard to tell when you’ve had enough anal sex – in fact, knowing when to put the brakes on things is relatively easy. If you experience pain at all, it’s time to stop! Plain and simple. There’s no grey areas here – if it hurts at all, find something else to do! Other reasons to stop may be if you notice any bleeding, or if you just feel like something isn’t right. Listen to your body and when it tells you that it’s had enough, you should know it!

The “amount” of anal sex that crosses the line varies from person to person. One person may not be able to tolerate as much as another, so only you will know what the right “amount” is for you. Again, let your body guide you. If you feel discomfort, pain or just want to stop, go ahead and stop!

A Note On Desensitizing Lubes

Never use a desensitizing lube on your anus during any type of anal play. This actually “numbs” the area from feeling pain – which can seem like a good thing, but it’s not. If you’re not aware of any pain during anal sex, it’s likely something could go very wrong and you wouldn’t be aware of it until later. Pain is your body’s way of saying “Stop!”

Symptoms Of Anal Sex That Is Too Intense

If you’re having anal sex that is too intense or goes overboard, you may notice these things:

  • If you’ve been using big sex toys, such as a large butt plug (or your partner has a really big penis), you may notice that your anus stretches and it becomes more and more difficult to control your bowel movements
  • Pain or discomfort that goes beyond just when you’re having anal sex
  • Bleeding or hemorrhoids

Communicating With Your Partner

Communication is essential for successful anal sex. You want to be in constant communication about what feels good, and more specifically, what doesn’t. If something hurts, don’t be tempted to just “endure it” or “push through it” just because your partner enjoys it. And if you’re the giving partner, you definitely want to be asking your lover if everything is going okay on a regular basis.

How To Surprise Your Man With Anal Sex And Make His Knees Weak!

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Anal sex isn’t something you and your guy have tried, although he probably wants to. Amaze him with it, and you’ll be fulfilling his deepest fantasies.

Are You Ready For Anal Sex?

You’ve thought about trying it with your guy, but aren’t sure how you feel about it. So before you do this for him, think about how anal sex will affect you. Are you scared it will hurt? Are you nervous about making a mess? Calm your fears by reading about things you can do to make your adventure to the backdoor safer and more comfortable for you.

Getting Ready

Start by masturbating with anal play a few times before trying it with your guy. Doing it alone for the first few times will not only help you get a leg up on the game before you’re expected to perform, it will also help you find out if this is really your cup of tea (and it may not be).

If you’ve never experimented with anal play before, don’t do any insertion at first. While you’re using your vibrator or your hand to massage your clitoris during masturbation, gently lay one finger next to your anus. Lightly rub it if it arouses you. Try different movements and see what feels best. Since you’re alone, you’re not worrying about what your partner is thinking or scared it will hurt. You’re in control here, so take advantage of it.

Beginning With Insertion

If you’ve made it this far and enjoy light anal stimulation while you’re masturbating, you’re ready to graduate to insertion. Start with your finger or a small butt plug and remember to use lots of lube. It will likely feel odd at first, so give your body time to relax and adjust. Another benefit to being alone is you have the freedom to react however you like, without being concerned about your partner’s thoughts and feelings about how you react.

Massage your anus with your finger or your sex toy, and allow the sphincter muscles to relax. This may take several minutes, so continue pleasuring yourself in other ways – this will help you relax even more. As you get continue to masturbate with anal play, you’re going to get more used to it – so when you finally do introduce it to your lover, he’ll be impressed how well you know your way around things!

Anal Sex With Your Partner

Tonight is the big night. You’re ready to surprise your lover with your new found passion for anal sex. Spend a few minutes by yourself first, with your favorite vibrator and a bottle of lube. Get yourself warmed up and work on relaxing your sphincter muscles.

After you’ve had plenty of foreplay and warm up time, let him penetrate your vagina a few times. Get your fill of it now, because you won’t want to switch back to vaginal sex after anal sex unless he’s wearing a condom (which is actually a very good idea for anal sex anyways) or he washes up first.

What you’re going to do is actually slip his penis in your anus without ever telling him you’re going to do it. This is, however, assuming that you’ve already confirmed with your partner that he’s into anal sex and is willing to try it. Don’t ever do this if your lover hasn’t consented first!

Make sure you’re either very wet or you’ve used a lot of lube. Part of the reason you massaged your anus before having sex with your partner is that you want to be ready for him to go right in – you want it to be a smooth transition and you want him to slide in easily, without effort. Make him believe you’re a pro! He’ll be shocked, and you’ll likely hear him gasp for air because of how tight you are – he wasn’t expecting it!

Tell Him How Much You Like It

So many guys finally get their girlfriends to try anal sex, only to be disappointed to end up with her shrinking away from him in pain. This is most likely due to men who fail to give their gals enough foreplay and warm up time, but c’est la vie. Show your guy how much you love it by grinding against him (if you can’t do this, you haven’t had enough time to relax) and tell him where and how to do it to turn you on. He’ll love that you suddenly turned into an anal sex pro seemingly overnight!

4 Things You Need To Know About Anal Sex

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Ah, anal sex. Depending on the person, it is the greatest fantasy or the worst turn-off. Some women run in fear at the thought, while some practically beg for it. There are men who will do anything to get in the backdoor, and others who couldn’t imagine putting it in the poop shoot (FYI, not even all gay men like anal). If you’re one that wants to see what all the fuss is about, here is a step-by-step guide to making it a pleasurable, or at least tolerable, experience for both. Warning: this is a high-risk activity.

Use Plenty Of Lube

Unlike the vagina, the anus does not produce its own lubrication. Use a water based lubricant. You can get something flavored if you want to put it on her before you stick your tongue in there. However, never, EVER attempt anal sex without lubrication. It will cause tearing in her anus, not to mention a lot of pain.

Relaxation Is Key!

Have her take some deep breaths. Perhaps you can give her a massage first to loosen her up. If she is a little ball of tension, it causes the sphincter to tighten. If that’s tight, you’ll never get in. Engaging in some oral sex or other foreplay to get her turned on is one of the best ways to get her to relax.

Warm Her Up First

Slip a finger in. Start small, especially if this is her first time. Meaning, use your pinky. Once you’re all lubed up, glide it in and out slowly and gently to get her used to insertion. Next try your ring finger. Really work it out. Insert it, swivel around, tickle. The more time you can spend the better. If she can’t handle your finger, she sure as hell won’t be able to handle your penis. That is, and I hope for your sake, if your penis is larger than your digits.

Go Slow

Now you’re ready. Don’t go jabbing your member straight into the no-no hole. You will be immediately kicked out of bed, maybe forever. Particularly amongst anal virgins, this needs to be gradual. Tease the anus a bit, and then slide in just the head. Pull out, and then slide it in a little deeper. Keep doing it until you can comfortable get it all the way in. Don’t add speed or pressure until she is ready for it. Well, now you can take it from here.