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5 Tricks To Lasting All Night Long

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Premature ejaculation affects a lot of guys. Tell me if this scenario sounds familiar: you’re in bed with a girl, you’re both enjoying yourselves, and you’re about to wow her with your next move when wham! You finish early. Your girl smiles and mumbles something, and you feel like a sexual failure.

This scene is all too common, but it thankfully can be avoided next time with just a few tweaks. Use the following tips next time you feel the need to push off that inevitable moment, and last all night.

Distract Yourself

Forget the usual advice to “think about baseball.” Or Margaret Thatcher naked. You don’t want to be scared off sex forever! It may seem counter-intuitive, but the best thing to distract yourself with is how sex feels, looks, even smells and tastes.

Instead of mindlessly pumping away toward the Big O, pay attention to other things, like how soft your partner’s skin is, the curve of her neck, or the pain of her nails dragging down your back. Notice the smell of her skin and the wetness between her thighs. When you become mindful, you can last longer and enjoy the sexual experience more. What could be better than that?

Concentrate On Her Pleasure

Instead of focusing on yourself, make it all about her. Choose positions that feel best for her (trust me, she’ll let you know when you’ve hit the right spot). Pay attention to her body’s cues, and you won’t be so hung up on your own.

Women are all about foreplay, so if you can make the foreplay last a long time it won’t matter if you finish shortly after the actual sex starts because in her head it started long before the actual penetration. Once she’s had a few orgasms, keep going, and try to get a new personal “high score.” Remember, a high percentage of women are multi-orgasmic, so challenge yourself to give her more than last time! Making the experience better for her is going to not only improve your stamina but will also improve your sexual reputation.

Change Sex Positions

This is the single easiest thing you can do to avoid premature ejaculation. If you feel yourself getting a bit too heated in one position, move to a completely different one. If you are in doggy style, move to missionary. The trick is to really change it up-moving from one variation of doggie to another isn’t going to cut it. Be careful not to change sex positions too frequently, as it is going to take her out of the mood and feel more like a distraction than anything else.

Wear A Condom

First of all, you should be practicing safe sex anyway, and for most of you, that means wearing a condom. However, if you are in a long term relationship, or you’ve both been tested and she’s on the pill, condoms might not seem like a necessity. If you’re having trouble lasting, though, that little prophylactic can be a lifesaver. We all know that condoms can dull sensation? In this case, a little dulling is exactly what you need. There are plenty of good brands out there now that feel almost like you’re not wearing anything, except that little extra something can keep you lasting much longer.

Change Your Masturbation Habits

If I were to tell you to stop masturbating altogether, and you were to actually listen, your next sexual encounter would probably be record for shortest time between start and finish. I won’t tell you to stop the self-love! I will, however, let you in on a secret. When you are young and just discovering masturbation, you tend to do it fast and furiously, which made sense back then because you were trying not to get caught. Nowadays you hopefully have more leisure but probably still use the vice-grip, carpal-tunnel inducing, furious shake technique you used at 14. Stop it!

Use your self-love time to retrain your body to sustain an erection. Use the start-stop technique of backing off when you feel an orgasm coming on. Doing that a few times will not only train your penis to stay hard without cumming, it will also make the inevitable payoff mind-blowingly better than your normal orgasm.

This technique also translates well to the bedroom. Slow down every time you’re on the verge and by the time you do climax the release will be incredible.

Being an amazing lover isn’t all about lasting longer in bed, but using these tricks to make yourself last longer can have the effect of making you a better lover. With just a few simple tweaks to your technique, you can improve your stamina, keep going all night long, and make yourself seem like a sex god in her eyes. It’s a win-win for both of you.

Overcoming Early Ejaculation And Making Sex Last Longer

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Premature ejaculation can happen to any guy – no matter whether they’re young or old. If you have premature ejaculation, you’re not alone. You probably feel some anxiety every time you have sex, worrying that you will blow it in double-quick time. While there are differing opinions on the definitions of premature ejaculation, it all boils down to the man ejaculating quicker than he or his partner wants.

The Numbers Don’t Lie

It is not a stretch to say that early ejaculation is by FAR the most prevalent sexual problem affecting men. If men were asked if they have ever had at least one experience of having an orgasm too soon, almost all would have their hands raised up high. Statistics from universal sexual surveys consistently show that at least 30 to 40% of men replied that ejaculating early was an issue.

Getting Over Premature Ejaculation

Learning to effectively overcome PE will depend on its contributory factors. For most men who have to deal with this embarrassing event in their sex lives, the presence of stress and tension in one’s body is a leading cause of PE.

Ever noticed the tension you feel in your body during sex? This can be attributed to various factors, including holding your breath, tightening the muscles in your abs, or certain sex positions where you need to support your weight (e.g. missionary). All these result in muscular tension and increase the potential for an early orgasm.

The male orgasm is basically a series of muscular contractions that release muscular tension. One of the best ways to overcome premature ejaculation is to work on your muscle tension levels. Simple activities such as meditation, stretching, and even basic exercises are very effective ways to reduce the tension in the core abdominal and pelvic areas, and help you gain those crucial minutes during sex.

Other Proven Strategies For Longer-Lasting Sex

Here are 2 specific tips that many guys find useful in getting over premature ejaculation and lasting longer in bed. And I think you’ll find them extremely helpful too.

Bolster Your Ejaculatory Muscles

Your pelvic floor muscles regulate how long you last. If you don’t know where these are, stop your urine midstream and sense the muscle that contracts, somewhere in between your scrotum and anus. That is the muscle that controls both urination and ejaculation. Most men don’t know this, but you can actually strengthen this set of muscles so that you are able to extend your orgasm and even last all night in bed. Simple PC Contraction exercises or Kegel workouts will boost the strength of these muscles and enhance your ejaculatory control.

Focus On “Position Divergence”

The positioning and movement of your penis inside the vagina also affects how long you last. It is very common for guys to penetrate in the standard in and out motion. This type of movement increases the sensations on the penis glans and makes it more difficult to manage your arousal. Instead, try moving your member in a circular motion during intercourse and at the same time, rub your pubic area against hers. Not only will this enhance your stamina, it will stimulate her clitoris better and give her an orgasm sooner. It’s a win-win for the both of you, I’m sure!

Develop An “Ejaculatory Compass”

In many cases, premature ejaculation is a “habit” that has been unwittingly cultivated from young. You see, when most young men masturbate, they tend to use quick strokes to ejaculate quickly so that they can achieve satisfaction without getting caught. If you are used to this quick-fire approach to self-stimulation, you will become accustomed to it even when you are having sex with a partner.

The good news is, such negative habits can be reversed or “un-learned”… simply by allowing yourself MORE time during masturbation. Use this time to get in tune with your sexual arousal; learn how your body responds to stimulation and then associate those sensations to specific benchmarks along your arousal curve. This will help you pinpoint your ejaculatory threshold so that you can take specific steps (e.g. adjust your movements, switch positions, etc) during sex to last longer.

How To Increase Sexual Endurance Dramatically

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Premature ejaculation can happen to anyone. PE is a real problem that affects 25 to 40 percent of men, which typically means they ejaculate in under 2 minutes during sexual intercourse. For many men, the real issue is the inability to handle the intense arousal that comes with sexual stimulation.

So what can you do to get a grip on your arousal and massively increase your sexual stamina? Check out these easy tips to increase your endurance and last longer in bed.

Make Sex A “Connected Experience”

When it comes to lovemaking, women – even if they do not say it – prefer an intimate emotional connection, and not just physical intimacy. Your ability to warm her up with foreplay before starting intercourse will go a long way in satisfying her properly, as well as giving you the confidence needed to last longer.

To do this, you will need to focus on HER needs first. Make sure that you know where her hot spots are – the areas where she wants the most attention and likes to be touched. By learning all about her body and giving her lots of attention, she will not only find lovemaking more pleasurable, she will be able to achieve orgasm faster as well.

When you have the confidence in knowing her body and what she likes, it will make a big impact on your sex life. You will find that you have renewed confidence in yourself as a lover if you start by pleasing her BEFORE penetration.

Not only that, but by prolonging the prelude to intercourse and focusing on satisfying your partner’s needs first, you also slow down your own path to arousal and significantly increase your sexual endurance.

“Capricious Maneuvering”

This has worked very well for most men and is one of the simplest ways to delay an impending orgasm. Most men tend to orgasm early due to their inability to control their sexual arousal, and this technique will help you in that respect.

When you become too excited during sex and realize an orgasm is approaching, simply withdraw your penis and change to a position that is less stimulating for you.

For instance, switch to one where both of you are sitting down and you’re not getting as much friction on your penis. This helps to reduce the speed of penetration and gives you better control. Another great sex position is to simply lie down on your sides facing each either.

If you still find it hard to delay an ejaculation, withdraw your penis and stop penetration completely. This is the perfect time to continue pleasing her with your fingers or give her oral sex. Just make sure you do this a few minutes before you’re actually ready to climax. If you wait just until the brink of orgasm to withdraw, you will likely still have an orgasm – only it won’t be very good at all.

Most women find it much easier to achieve an orgasm through oral sex, so if you can give her one before resuming intercourse, it will satisfy her a lot better. Not only that, it will make it easier for her to achieve successive climaxes during intercourse, and also gives you that much needed confidence to keep going until the finishing line!

Relax And Have Fun

As you practice controlling your orgasm, you will feel more and more confident with your ability to last longer in bed. Even if you still have trouble controlling when you climax, if you’ve learned to please your partner sexually before penetration, she will still be satisfied even though you haven’t lasted very long during intercourse. The most important thing is to relax and remember that sex is all about having fun. If you put too much pressure on yourself not to ejaculate too early, it is likely going to backfire.

Losing My Erection – Help!

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Erectile dysfunction affects a lot of men, all over the world. But that doesn’t mean that these men and their partners have to suffer with unsatisfying sex lives. There are ways to get around erectile dysfunction, depending on what the cause is. Here’s how to find out what is causing your problems with getting and keeping erections – and how to get rid of them so you and your partner can have better sex!

Hey Dan and Jenn – I have a problem! Whenever I attempt to have sex with my girlfriend, I always lose my erection. It’s very embarrassing for me and her because she thinks its because im not attracted to her. What is the reason for this?!!!

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Physical Causes For Erectile Dysfunction

First, it’s important to consider and rule out physical things that may be responsible for or are contributing to your inability to get an erection. There are many physical causes for ED, including but not limited to:

  • Overweight
  • Inactive
  • Diabetes
  • Heart Disease

Generally speaking, the healthier and more active you are, the less likely you are to have erection problems. If you aren’t in good health or live a sedentary lifestyle, there is more of a chance that you will experience the inability to get or maintain an erection at some point. The same applies if you use recreational drugs or abuse alcohol. If the latter applies to you, start eliminating things in your life that might be contributing to your ED, one at a time.

If you drink excessively or smoke, quit. If you’re not active, start taking short walks around your home or office and make a commitment to eating more nutritionally rich foods. If your body is healthy and has what it needs, it is more likely that it will perform well in all areas of your life, including sex.

When To See The Doctor

If you live an active lifestyle, are healthy and don’t use any recreational drugs or overdo it on the alcohol and are still experiencing erectile dysfunction, it’s time to make an appointment with your doctor. Your doctor can help rule out more serious problems that could be responsible.

Emotional Causes For Erectile Dysfunction

There are just as many, if not more, emotional reasons for erectile dysfunction as there are physical. Stress from work or your family is a huge reason you may be experiencing ED, and other factors such as depression and anxiety can contribute as well. Stress, depression and anxiety can cause all kinds of problems in your life, including ED or even trouble reaching orgasm.

Even if anxiety or depression isn’t the cause of your erection problems, the medications for these issues (and other medications as well) can also contribute to impotency and orgasm problems.

How To Trace It Back To The Root

Although there are dozens of different things that can cause or contribute to ED, you can most likely find your answer by thinking about what you started doing differently when you started experiencing erection problems. Did you just start a new medication? Did you lose your job or did a close friend or family member pass away? Thinking back to what was going on in your life at the time is probably the biggest indicator of the true cause of your impotency.

Is It Her?

If you’ve exhausted all of your other options and you’re still having problems with impotency, consider the possibility that your partner may actually be the cause of your issues. For example, if you’re currently having relationship problems or if you caught her cheating on you in the past, your subconscious may be recoiling from her during sex and this may be causing you to have problems getting or keeping an erection during sex with her.

Basically, any unresolved issue you have with your partner may manifest itself as stress and carry over to the bedroom. You may also be suffering from performance anxiety – if you’re trying desperately to please her and are worried that your performance isn’t going to measure up, you’re not going to be able to maintain a rock hard erection.

Relax And Have Fun

If you’re healthy, active and aren’t having any relationship problems with your partner, just relax a little and remember that sex is all about having fun and having a great time with someone you care about and who cares about you. If you stress out too much about it, you’re going to make your issue worse instead of better! Relax and have fun!

How To Stop Ejaculating So Fast During Sex

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Is premature ejaculation making your sex life lousy because you cannot seem to stop ejaculating so fast during sex? Do you feel frustrated, embarrassed and depressed because you are unable to satisfy your partner sexually?

If it’s a one-stand stand, you can forget about the embarrassment of premature ejaculation (PE) and move on. But for men who are married or in a long-term committed relationship, the double whammy of having to deal with PE and the potential fallout in his relationship can be overbearing.

The Law Of Large Numbers

You are NOT suffering from premature ejaculation alone. Millions of men just like you have to put up with the embarrassment of having an orgasm too quickly during sex. It’s just that guys don’t usually talk about such things, and most don’t know how to deal with it properly.

Beware Of The “Trappings” On Offer

In their quest for a “quick fix” for their PE problem, many men choose to seek out products on the market that claim to help them last longer. You are probably well aware of stuff such as desensitizing lube, gels or in general – anesthetics that you can apply on your penis glans to help you last longer when you make out.

These products work to a certain extent, by reducing your level of sensitivity to stimulation. The downside is that these solutions are NOT permanent cures. Without relying on these products, you will be back to your usual short-lived stamina. This means you have to whip out that bottle of spray or that tube of gel every time you plan to have sex.

While there are many proven techniques and methods to deal with the problem of premature ejaculation. But too many men focus on these specific techniques instead of the ONE important fundamental that is holding them back from achieving the sensational stamina they yearn for. Let’s take a look at this vital fundamental.

Setting Realistic Goals

“I want to lose 10 pounds in a week!” Realistic? No. Safe? No.

“I want to run a triathlon, six weeks from now… but I’ve never ran one before.” Realistic? No. Smart? No.

Such goals will ultimately set you up for failure and disappointment, and perhaps even serious health impairment.

Setting realistic goals is the first important step towards achieving any self-improvement endeavor, and that includes overcoming premature ejaculation. Start by KNOWING your current benchmark. How long can you last right now? Based on this yardstick, set a number of short-term goals while you work towards the ultimate goal.

Take for instance, you want to be able to last 15 minutes during sexual intercourse. If you’re lasting just one minute now, your end goal may be way off; you may end up losing motivation and getting frustrated. Instead, try setting weekly goals of adding 2 minutes to your stamina, by working on specific, natural techniques that help improve your ejaculatory control.

Sounds easy and straightforward? It does…

But if you stay committed and work on your ejaculatory control every week for 8 weeks, you will have surpassed your original goal by going at least 16 minutes! That new benchmark will become PERMANENT. And your wife or long-term partner will be very thankful for it, I promise!

Permanent Solutions For Lasting Longer

The best way to overcome premature ejaculation is to first understand what causes it in the first place. For the vast majority of men, all they need is to simply re-train how their mind and body react during sexual stimulation. By practicing simple cognitive techniques and exercises to re-condition the ejaculatory reflex (usually through masturbation), you can increase the threshold or tipping point where ejaculation is imminent.

Many sexual therapists also recommend natural training and reconditioning as the first important step towards ridding yourself of premature ejaculation and lasting longer for your female partner.