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3 Premature Ejaculation Misconceptions You Must Not Believe!

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Premature ejaculation is often misunderstood. Clear the air and learn the truth about PE with these three untruths!

Almost three quarters of men are affected by premature ejaculation at some stage in their lives. Unfortunately, a lack of understanding of this sexual dysfunction has led to the birth of several misconceptions regarding this condition. If you have been suffering from the embarrassing problem of early ejaculation, you need to familiarize yourself with these false notions FIRST, before you have any chance of turning the tables on PE.

1. Premature Ejaculation Is Caused By A Weakened Libido

In fact, the reverse is true! Ejaculating early is often the result of getting too excited too fast. If you have a super responsive pleasure system, you are more likely to suffer from PE – which usually happens to young men (especially those in their early 20’s) who have absolutely no problems with their libido. The problem arises when men are unable to exert control on their arousal at the right time. This is what causes the male sexual arousal to peak in a hurry, resulting in a premature ejaculation.

The best way for you to avoid PE is to exercise your pelvic muscles and gain superior control over your arousal.

2. Mental Manipulation Is A Wonderful Way To Prevent An Early Climax

Not true. Think about this for a moment: What is the purpose of having sex if you are going to avoid the pleasure by putting your mind somewhere else? There are a number of ‘experts’ who would advise you to think about other things during sex so that you can avoid a premature ejaculation. This is NOT the best solution, and hardly practical at all if you truly want to enjoy sex.

3. There Are Quick Fixes To Cure PE

There is NO quick fix that can secure a permanent solution to your problem. Although there are some pills, desensitizing sprays or climax control condoms that can give you an instant boost in staying power, these solutions are really more of a clutch than a real cure. You can try out all the so called libido boosters and enhancers but again, these are not permanent solutions. By and large, premature ejaculation can be permanently treated only through a combination of natural techniques such as Kegel exercises and mental arousal control.

Get yourself acquainted with these myths and misconceptions about premature ejaculation. That is the first important step towards banishing PE from the bedroom and achieving a respectable sexual stamina to boot!

How To Delay Ejaculation – Naturally!

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Premature ejaculation will ruin your sex life completely if you don’t get control over it. Learn how to wait as long as possible before ejaculation now!

Are you sick and tired of not lasting long enough during sex? Is delaying ejaculation becoming an arduous thing to do, one that causes you great embarrassment in front of your lover? There are many forms of sexual dysfunction that occur among men, and nothing is more debilitating than premature ejaculation. Yet the good news is also that premature ejaculation is the easiest to treat among all male sexual problems.

Indeed, you can completely cure PE using natural, practical methods without making embarrassing trips to the doctor. These are the key techniques and strategies:

1. Understand Your Ejaculatory Process And Sexual Responses

Without a proper understanding of how your body responds to sexual stimulation, you will never be able to control how soon you ejaculate during sex. Arousal control is key to keep PE in check. And before you can control your arousal, you have to understand how it works. In a nutshell, your body goes through 4 key stages of response during sex. The first stage involves “excitement” when your penis starts to fill with blood and becomes erect.

The second stage occurs when your penis is fully erect and you feel relaxed and under control. Stage 3 is when intense sensations begin to envelop your penis and you are about to “pop.” This leads into the final stage where ejaculation takes place. The arousal and erection fade away soon after.

2. Develop Mental Control

Much of a man’s inability to hold ejaculation stems from psychological or confidence-related issues. The very thoughts that run though your mind during sex will affect your sexual endurance. Some guys allow the sensations of intercourse to rule over their head and that is a quick and surefire way to blow early.

You must learn how to control your arousal right from the beginning. This can be achieved by focusing NOT on intercourse but on the entire sexual experience. This is a huge difference. To develop mental or arousal control, you need to focus on the ALL the sensations you experience and GIVE during sex, and not just focusing on how you feel in your own nether regions.

3. Regain Physical Control

Adding physical control to mental control will allow you to totally re-wire your ejaculatory triggers so that you can decide when you want to ejaculate. Training your ejaculatory muscles is critical to developing physical control. You see, your pelvic or perineal muscles control when you ejaculate. By strengthening the proper set of muscles, you are able to keep them relaxed at all times even with the most intense sexual stimulation.

There is no better time to start than now!

Many guys just lament that they can’t last long enough, and never make the effort to address this problem. Others resort to short-term tactics like desensitizing sprays and lube which don’t address the root causes. But if you are willing to put in the effort to understand how you body responds and develop both mental and physical control over your ejaculatory reflexes, you will be able to completely TRANSFORM your sex life and enjoy sex to the fullest!

Can You Use Masturbation To Control Premature Ejaculation?

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Masturbation is something every guy does, but will doing it the right way and at the right times help you control premature ejaculation? Find out now!

Controlling premature ejaculation without relying on aids such as desensitizers or creams is totally possible. All you need is to learn how your body reacts prior to ejaculation and keep the stimulation in check before it tips over the “point of no return.” And one of the best ways to achieve this is through masturbation. Although masturbation is often cited as a contributory factor to premature ejaculation, you can turn this around and use it to your advantage.

1. Simulate Sex

Simulate the action of intercourse by stroking your penis up and down. Allow the physical sensations of stimulation to manifest. Pay attention to how your body responds and feels as the excitement piles up. You may not be able to prevent yourself from ejaculating. That is OK. The key is to recognize the point when you ejaculate and the sensations that accompany this stage.

2. Train Yourself To Stop

Perform the same routine again. Once you have an erection, stop the stimulation altogether for 15 seconds. Pay attention to how your body feels when the sensations of excitement subside. Then continue masturbating again, stopping and continuing the movements until you feel you are close to a peak. As soon as you sense you are very close to orgasm, stop all stimulation again until you regain control once more.

3. Get Close 3 Times

You may find yourself losing the erection when you discontinue the stimulation. Don’t worry. Just resume the stimulation again. Get yourself close to climaxing three times, and allow yourself to ejaculate on the forth time. This exercise may take some getting used to at first, but with some practice, you will notice 2 things happening between the stops: First, you will regain control much sooner; second, you will improve the time you take for the stimulation to reach a peak.

4. Get Close 6 Times

Increase the number of times that you stop the stimulation just to the “point of no return” from three to six. Once you can achieve this milestone, perform this routine daily.

5. Start Using Lube

Increase the challenge by using a lubricant to simulate penetration. Perform the same routine, that is, stopping three times before ejaculation and then increasing this to six times in between stops. If you have a partner, you can get her involved in this exercise.

This is an extremely useful exercise to improve your time to ejaculation. Of course, like all things worth doing, practice makes perfect. Don’t be discouraged if you ejaculate too soon on the first few attempts. With enough practice, your body will be able to endure increased levels of stimulation during masturbation, which of course you can carry over to the actual lovemaking!

How To Naturally Last Longer In Bed And Give Your Woman The Best Sex EVER!

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Premature ejaculation can make sex terrible for both you and your lover. Here’s how you can last longer in bed NATURALLY, and give your girl amazing sex!

Let’s face it. When it comes to sex, one of the worst things that can happen to a man is not being able to last long enough to fulfill their female partners. The simple truth is that over 70% of women are unable to achieve an orgasm during intercourse. Unfortunately, a lot of the blame is placed squarely on the man’s shoulders. But there is also another truth about lasting longer and giving a woman an orgasm. Curious to know what it is?

Lasting Longer Is NOT The Key To Great Sex

Despite conventional wisdom, that is true. You see, for the vast majority of women, how you bring them to an orgasm is much more important than the end climax. Many guys want to improve their sexual stamina thinking that is the only way to satisfy a woman. It is great to have an exceptional stamina. But the thing is, most women are not able to have penetrative sex for more than 15 minutes without feeling uncomfortable or even painful, due to the vagina drying up from the constant thrusting.

What women want is really simple – proper foreplay and an emotional connection during lovemaking. Many women like oral sex, so it pays to incorporate this into your sexual routine before heading into intercourse.

Why? Well, your tongue has the strongest muscle in the human body. It can easily provide the stimulus to bring her to an amazing orgasm through clitoral stimulation using just the tongue. In addition, having an orgasm BEFORE intercourse can make her multi-orgasmic during actual sex!

So Is Stamina No Longer Important?

It is still vital in a sexual relationship. You just need to last as long as it is required to bring her to a climax FIRST. Most women need about 10-15 minutes on average to climax, so it’s great to be able to last at least that amount of time.

But more importantly, pay attention to HER needs first. Do whatever you can to bring her to an erotic boil. Adequate amounts of foreplay, oral sex or even verbal seduction can get her aroused and prime her for an easier (and faster) orgasm during intercourse.

Something “magical” happens when you are able to satisfy her first. You see, for most men, the inability to last during sex arises from “performance pressure”. But once you have given her an orgasm BEFORE intercourse – for example, through oral sex – you will no longer feel the pressure to perform. And ironically, that will naturally help you last longer and give her the wildest time in bed imaginable!

The Truth About How Long You REALLY Need To Last In Bed!

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Premature ejaculation is surrounded by many myths. Most guys think that they need to have marathon sex to be any good – but is it really true? Find out now!

For many men, sexual endurance and self-confidence go hand in hand in the bedroom. If you are not lasting long enough, your sense of self worth and confidence are likely to plummet.

But first – exactly how long is long enough?

How Long Should Sex Really Last?

There is something about adult movies that gives men the misconception that sex should last for an hour or more. But the simple truth is, you only need to last as long as a YouTube clip!

While the debate about ideal sexual stamina has been ongoing for as long as mankind, sexual therapists have in recent years suggest that intercourse that lasts from 3 to 7 minutes is satisfactory. Anything from 7 to 13 minutes is considered desirable – not including the time reserved for foreplay.

Sounds surprising? Well it shouldn’t be. Considering that most women need about 7 to 15 minutes of sexual stimulation to reach an orgasm, the suggested duration for “desirable” sex sounds logical.

Here’s the simple truth – great sex does NOT involve a stopwatch. Many men are so preoccupied about not wanting to climax too soon, that they ended up doing exactly what they fear most! Sexual anxiety will almost always impair your performance in bed!

Don’t Focus On The “Magic” Number

For a woman, great sex involves a slow, titillating build-up that envelopes both her mind and body. Use this to your advantage. Don’t view sex in terms of duration. View it in terms of quality. Such a mindset will do a whole lot of good to your confidence in bed.

You see, of all the “instruments” you can use to stimulate and arouse a woman sexually – your fingers, tongue and penis – the last one is ironically the one you have the least amount of control over.

Accelerate Her Sexual Anticipation

So, use your fingers and tongue to heighten her anticipation and arousal FIRST. Give her sensual hot spots some tender, loving attention. And I don’t just mean the obvious places. A woman is incredibly blessed with many erogenous areas on her body. The nape of her neck, her ear lobes, the underside of her arms are all great places to start with.

When a woman is sufficiently aroused before penetration, it actually lowers her threshold for orgasm, reducing the turnaround time for her to reach a climax during intercourse. And when that happens, your confidence will soar, performance anxiety will take a backseat, and you will naturally last longer too!