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How To Slow Down Your Orgasm And Get More Stamina In Bed

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Premature ejaculation will make you kiss your sex life goodbye. Don’t let it control you! Delay your orgasm with these simple premature ejaculation tips!

The ability to control or slow down one’s orgasm and outlast a woman in bed is one of those skills that every hot-blooded, testosterone-driven man wants to learn. None of us are born with the innate ability to control our orgasm on command. In fact, for the purpose of efficient procreation, most of us are NOT predisposed to last very long. Premature ejaculation is very common, especially amongst healthy, fertile men in their 20’s to 40’s.

Even though Mother Nature has a humorous way to making men “come quickly” during sex, you can actually turn around this shortcoming and significantly improve your endurance in bed.

Achieving Quantum Shifts In Stamina With Your Most Powerful Sex Organ

No, I don’t mean a man’s penis. Your most powerful sex organ is not located in between your legs. Despite common perception, your brain – not your crown jewels – controls when you reach an orgasm.

Many men allow negative, self-defeating thoughts to flood their mind when they make love. For instance, they fear they will ejaculate too soon; they worry their partners will be disappointed with quick-fire sex, etc. Ironically such thoughts tend to have a self-fulfilling prophecy. They make premature ejaculation become a REAL problem.

“You Are What You Think”

In many cases, early ejaculation occurs or even worsens as a result of habitual negative thoughts. For example, when we ejaculate early, many guys start blaming themselves with thoughts such as: “I’m no good, I’m a total failure in bed” or “Nothing ever goes my way”. Our feelings follow what we think, and negative thoughts like these can keep us from fixing premature ejaculation and lasting longer.

The Converse Is Also True

Most men who are successful – especially those who are from humble beginnings – have one thing in common: they trust in the power of positive thinking. They don’t sweat the small stuff, and they believe in making incremental progress towards their goals.

The secret to success of any kind – including overcoming premature ejaculation – is to banish negative thoughts from your mind altogether and adopt a successful mindset.

It may take some time and effort, but practice this: Whenever you start to doubt about your own sexual endurance, banish that doubt from your mind, and meditate on your goal instead (e.g. lasting 10 minutes and giving her sensational orgasms).

Thinking positively does not mean you pretend that an early ejaculation won’t happen. It’s how you deal with it that counts. Don’t fear initial setbacks in your quest to last longer. Look upon them as learning experiences. You will only get better, and your sex life will transform, I promise!

How to Make Sex Last Longer and Give Women EXPLOSIVE Orgasms! (This is Embarrassingly Easy…)

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Premature ejaculation is no joke – it affects hundreds of thousands of guys of all different ages and races. It can wreak havoc on your sex life, because reaching orgasm too quickly isn’t satisfying for you or your partner. Most female partners of men who suffer from PE rarely have an orgasm during intercourse at all. They usually either have to have an orgasm first through oral sex or take matters into their own hands afterwards.

PE will destroy your sex life, destroy your ego and may even destroy your relationship. Women don’t want to be with a man who can’t last long enough in bed to give them an orgasm. They’re not going to stay in a relationship where they’re not sexually satisfied. So if you really want to have a healthy, happy relationship, you’re going to have to beat premature ejaculation once and for all.

Check out this FREE REPORT: How to end the embarrassment of premature ejaculation AND last longer in bed…

Premature Ejaculation IS NOT Your Fault!

If you’re like other guys, you may think that your PE is your own fault. You may feel like there’s something you’re doing wrong during sex, or there’s something wrong with you that is causing this.

That couldn’t be further from the truth! That is a huge myth that a lot of men who suffer from PE believe. But the truth is, it’s not your fault at all. Once you realize this, you can begin to cure your PE forever! Supplements, pills, creams and sprays are only going to temporarily fix your problem – and who wants to put a numbing spray on their penis so they can’t feel anything during sex anyways? The key is to find the ROOT of the problem so you can solve it for good.

What Pharmaceutical Companies Are TERRIFIED You’ll Find Out!

The makers of pills and creams that claim to help you last longer in bed are absolutely terrified that you’ll find out the information contained in Ejaculation By Command. They don’t want you to know how YOU can control your own orgasm NATURALLY, without anything at all! They want to keep selling you supplements and sprays so they keep making money.

The truth is, you don’t need ANY of these products!

So What Is The Absolute Best Way To Last Longer In Bed?

Let me ask you a few simple questions…

  • Have you ever looked forward to a night of great sex, but as soon as the lovemaking began, you climaxed within seconds again?
  • Do you like having sex… but your inability to last is filling you full of anxiety… to the point where you’re actually beginning to dread sex?
  • Do you wish you could last longer and give her the pleasure you know she deserves?
  • Do you ever worry that your woman will cheat on you or leave you for another man who can satisfy her needs in bed… something you just can’t do right now?
  • Have you tried sprays and creams that promise to desensitize your penis… and delay your ejaculation… but you feel uncomfortable using it and telling her to wait 10 minutes so that it could start working?
  • Do you feel inadequate when you come too soon, and even though your woman says it’s okay, you still feel that she’s disappointed in you?
  • Do you get so embarrassed and so self-conscious about your performance that you find any excuse you can to avoid sex?
  • Are you desperate to find a way to end your premature ejaculation, but nothing seems to work. Do you feel you’re wasting the best sexual years of your life simply because you’re too afraid or too embarrassed to ask for help?

If you answered “YES!” to any or all of these, then I really want to stress to you…

You are NOT alone.

How would your life be different right now if you were able to last 20 or 30 minutes in bed? How about an hour?

Would you feel more confident? Would you feel more proud?

You wouldn’t feel so self-conscious or nervous because you’re afraid of climaxing too quickly.

Bottom line is as a man, you want to be able to please your woman. If you don’t feel confident in your abilities, it’s going to come through when you’re close to them.

So if you’re ready to finally say goodbye to the challenges, frustration, and anxiety that’s holding you back from living your life to the fullest, that can ALL change right now…

Here’s How To Enjoy The Kind Of Sex That You Once Only Dreamed About

Our good friend Lloyd Lester has created an amazing program called “Ejaculation By Command“.

Ejaculation By Command is a revolutionary product that will teach you, step by step, how to cure premature ejaculation forever and last longer in bed – so you and your partner can have a better, more satisfying sex life. Not only will you be able to control your orgasm long enough to give your girl a sheet soaking climax, you’ll enjoy your own orgasm that much more!

This is a PROVEN, successful way to cure PE naturally!

Even if you think beating PE is impossible, even if you have suffered from it for years, you can say goodbye to it FOREVER using the easy, successful tools in this book.

What You’ll Learn…

  • How to last at LEAST 20 minutes longer…TONIGHT! Guaranteed.
  • The #1 LIE that leads men to believe it’s their body that is the problem
  • A simple, 3-step formula that you can use every time you have sex, for the rest of your life!
  • How to end the shame, frustration, humiliation and insecurity that is caused by premature ejaculation
  • How to overcome mental barriers to sexual endurance in 9 simple steps
  • 4 powerful breathing strategies that will amplify your staying power and prolong your orgasm for as long as you want
  • How to outlast HER during sex
  • The single most powerful strategy that will drive any woman completely wild in bed and lets you into her orgasmic world of pleasure, even if you ejaculate too soon!

What People Are Saying About Ejaculation By Command…

“[This] has led to the best sex we’ve ever had (including the four extra times during the rest of that evening!)” – Blair C.

“What I like most about the program is that [it] clearly shows you the most effective methods for lasting longer in bed. I’m no longer embarrassed; I have more confidence during sex, and have more fun as well! I would recommend this product because it does EXACTLY what it says in the title!” – W. Leighton

“I like the fact that I can have long and great sex now with my wife. And we both look forward to free weekends to have sex with lots of variety. This book has changed my life. My sex life has improved tremendously and I’ve also become much more confident around women.” – Martin M.

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With these simple tricks, you can start by lasting 20 minutes longer TONIGHT! No going to the store and buying supplements or creams, no waiting for anything to come in the mail. Just download the program, start reading right now and give your partner the time of her life RIGHT AWAY!

Why should you have to wait for an incredible sex life, anyways?

Act Now and say goodbye to premature ejaculation for good!

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8 Ultimate PE Busters

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Premature ejaculation will make your sex life less than stellar. Get rid of PE forever with these eight easy but successful premature ejaculation busters!

1. Ladies First

Before busying with your thing, get busy with her. Before penetration, give her orgasms via oral or manual labor. So even though it’ll be a short and bumpy ride, at least she’s had her moments in the sun.

2. Go To Your “Happy Place”

Take deep, full breaths. Proper breathing is central to your sex life, as every physical activity needs to be attended by sufficient air. Taking deep breaths relaxes you and allows your body to handle excitement.

Ejaculation issues usually fester the highly excitable men who are extra-sensitive to stimulation. The best handling of this is by having generous amounts of oxygen in the body, especially the head.

3. Slow Down

You’re unlikely to reach orgasm if speed is significantly slower than what you’re used to. So stop thrusting like crazy and go for deeper, slower thrusts — look for sexual positions that minimize pelvic & hip movement. These regulate the frequency of penetration.

By slowing down and taking your time, you not only delay ejaculation, you build tension – thereby making your climax many times sweeter. It’s the sexual investment for a richer and creamier blow. We tease ourselves for this very reason. It’s not only for the woman’s sake, it’s so when we finally decide to let loose, it will be four times better!

4. Stop Thrusting And Do Something Else

If slowing down is good, stopping completely is even better. (Don’t worry, your partner won’t lose her arousal.) Once you begin thrusting, there’s no rule that says you have to pump all the way to ejaculation. No shame in backing off and teasing yourselves in the process.

Get busy with kissing and other stuff instead. This stalls or even reverses your progress towards inevitability, creating more ANTICIPATION. Woman on top is a good position which will please her greatly while reducing the friction for you.

5. Spread Your Legs

This minimizes the tension and pressure in your genitals and groin area – which automatically buys you time.

6. Use A Condom

For safer sex, always use a condom. But beyond that, the protective sheath results in decreased sensitivity for your jimmy – saving it from getting overly excited.

7. The Squeeze Technique

When you’re nearing inevitability, pull out and squeeze the head of your penis. This forces blood out the genitals, relieving some of the built up pressure – inadvertently, it also forces you to stop penetrating. Repeat this technique several times before finally spraying.

8. Do Not Memorize Batting Averages!

Others say that a slideshow of anything gross can make that cum retreat back up. Distracting yourself with the picture of the cafeteria lady dancing to the tune of Macarena will definitely help. But how fun would that really be? You’re there with this amazing woman, and you’re busying with that?!

Forget the cafeteria lady, don’t memorize batting averages! We have sex for the joy it brings, not for a degree in sports broadcasting! Running rotten pictures in your head as a way to delay ejaculation is superficial. You can’t call it teasing, you’re merely castigating yourself.

Sex, as a moment by moment experience, is supposed to be experienced fully. In fact, the opposite of numbing yourself, AWARENESS, is key. Be aware, and therefore, regulate the stimulation you give yourself.

Close your eyes, feel how wonderful it is to be inside a woman’s vagina. Keep your breaths full. And remember to back off, slow down or do something else when you approach dangerous grounds.

When you absolutely cannot hold off any longer – LET IT LOOSE – you can’t delay it forever! There’s a difference between teasing and torture too, you know. Last as long as you can, blow your load of semen and don’t worry about it. If she’s already had an orgasm or two before you, she’s probably tired and going to be glad you’re done.

Top 5 Reasons You Can’t Get It Up

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Erectile dysfunction (ED) is a term to describe a state of impotency.

Yikes.

But ED is actually very common, and often only temporary. Most guys out there will be able to remember one drunken night that they couldn’t quite make it happen. In fact anything from one too many hamburgers, to ill health, to how stressed you’re feeling about your job can have an effect on your ability to get it up.

Here are some of the most common reasons why ED may happen to you:

1. Reduced Blood Flow To The Penis

Hands down the most common cause of ED in over 40s is that not enough blood is flowing to your penis to make it hard. This is caused by a narrowing of the arteries which is a natural part of getting older. However, you may want to eliminate the environmental factors that can make it worse.

2. Smoking And Poor Diet

Yep these are the two things you think of straight away as a cause of bad health and poor circulation. Smoking and high cholesterol foods (that would be your favourite pizza) constrict and clog the arteries respectively. The result? Crappy erections. The penis is no different to any other area of your body. For your penis to be fit, you have to be fit too.

3. Lack Of Exercise

Remember sex is a cardiovascular activity, which puts it in the same bracket as running! So if you think you’d collapse after two minutes on the treadmill, the chances of you getting a high quality erection are slim. The more physically fit you are, the more efficiently your heart pumps blood, the stronger your erections will be.

There are other physical causes of ED: like Multiple Sclerosis, cycling, and a lack of testosterone.

This is rarer though than psychological factors like stress: which are in fact the most common cause of ED.

4. Stress

Yep that same feeling of ‘headache’ caused by your boss setting you an unreasonable deadline, or worrying about your parents’ ill health, can be the same psychological burden that stops you from performing. ED that sets on suddenly is usually due to stress. So if you’re having a tough time personally, as well as professionally; often fixing what’s going on in the work place will help fix what’s not happening in the bedroom.

5. Anxiety

Erectile dysfunction pretty much sums up the saying ‘negative cycle.’ If you have ED once then it can quickly become a repeat offender: because not having the erections you want is stressful. Best way forward is to take the pressure off. Enjoy non-penetrative activities with your partner, don’t focus on your erection and you can break the cycle.

So while the bad news is that ED is pretty common, particularly as you age; it is also often temporary. Making sure you have good health, a happy head and positive relationships will do a lot to counterbalance the most common causes of ED.

Is Porn Responsible For Erectile Dysfunction?

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Porn is pretty much everywhere and most guys use it. Since men are visual creatures and usually need to SEE something arousing to be able to get off, most people don’t bat an eye at adult movies anymore. But could porn be the culprit for men who experience erectile dysfunction?

The Prevalence Of Porn

Yes, adult movies really are everywhere, and they’re in every flavor that one could imagine. You can find porn on the Internet easily, with just the few clicks of your mouse. You can find photos or videos of just about anything you might desire, and if you’ve got the money, you can watch live webcam performances of your favorite stars or video chat with live, hot naked women.

But it’s not just the nudity that’s everywhere – what has changed in the porn industry over the years is the need to continually push buttons and push boundaries. What’s new? What’s exciting? What hasn’t been done before? Adult film stars and producers want to get noticed, and the best way to do that isn’t flashing your breasts – that’s been way overdone. The best way to get noticed is to do something that makes people do a double take. “Did they really just do that? Let’s watch!”

What Does Pushing The Envelope Mean For Men?

For many men, the tasteful nude spreads in Playboy just doesn’t do it anymore. But neither does some of the more risque stuff. Many men are so bored by “just naked women” or “just sex” or “just anal sex” that they continually look for new things to become aroused by. Since the adult entertainment industry basically caters to these desires, it’s a recipe for disaster.

So instead of browsing through tastefully done photos of gorgeous naked women, men are looking for more extreme forms of sexual gratification, including hardcore sex, rough anal sex, golden showers and more. Since men get desensitized to seeing such extreme things on screen, what happens is that it becomes more and more difficult to become aroused through normal nudity or normal sex.

Does It Really Cause Erectile Dysfunction?

Yep. For example, say a man is used to masturbating while watching really rough BDSM or domination. This is what arouses him, and he is always looking for something that he hasn’t seen before. So when he goes to have sex with his wife, what happens? He’s looking at a normal, naked woman and unfortunately, it does nothing to turn him on since he’s so accustomed to being aroused by porn that pushes the envelope.

So he can’t get it up. And she gets frustrated, thinking it is her fault.

In reality, the man has trained himself to sexually respond only to certain things, and the specifics differ from guy to guy. But the concept is the same – if a man masturbates regularly to intense porn, he will most likely have difficulty becoming aroused by normal sex with his partner, resulting in difficulty achieving an erection.

What To Do About It

If you find that you struggle with erectile dysfunction and suspect it may be due to porn, you can take control of your sex life again if you want to have satisfying sex with your partner.

Start by weaning yourself off the most extreme stuff. Take a few minutes to analyze the type of porn you watch at present – what kind of things does it feature? What is it that turns you on the most? Whatever that is, take it down a notch. For example, if you’re currently watching porn that features heavy BDSM, try going down a notch to something that features bondage only. Then you can downgrade to light bondage and so on. In theory, this does not sound difficult to do. The real challenge is avoiding the temptation to watch what you normally do.

Think of it as training yourself to enjoy porn that is much closer to the realistic sexual experiences that you have with a partner, instead of only being able to enjoy things that are only attainable through porn.

When you accomplish this, you will be more satisfied during your sexual encounters with your partner. You will enjoy regular intercourse much, much more than masturbation and masturbation will simply become a “quick necessity” rather than a go-to for the satisfaction of your sexual fantasies. In short, your sex life with your lover will become much, much better and you won’t be in danger of experiencing erectile dysfunction during normal intercourse!