Foreplay – Page 11

3 Key Elements of Artful Teasing

Foreplay can be just as amazing as the sex itself if you do it right. Here are three tips you don’t want to miss out on if you want foreplay to be HOT!

How A Great Lover Seduces A Woman

This is how a great lover ensnares a woman: He dangles a PRIZE and tempts her with it. He tempts her and shows her how desirable the thing is. She mentally agrees. He then ups the ante and tempts her some more, showing more virtues for the prize. Now her lust is awakened. Now, she wants it. In fact, she may want it more than she’s willing to admit.

So she starts reaching for the now coveted prize, but at the perfect moment, her lover purposely hides it or brings it slightly out of reach. She almost got what she wanted, but not quite. Now, she lusts for it even more. She’s intrigued by her inability to get what she wanted, because from her experience, this doesn’t happen very often.

Then, the great lover stirs more desire by enticing her with the prize once again. And once again she pursues – and the game is really just beginning….

Artful teasing has 3 key elements:

The Prize
The Strategic Back-Off
The Payoff

The Prize

That’s you! It includes everything you do with your mouth, hands, penis and the rest of your body. Get this: You have sexual value. You have things to offer that no one in this entire universe, except you, can give.

You may not have a stunning bod or those gorgeous pecs, but there are wonderful, mind blowing things that only you can do to her. It’s your exclusive and personal brand of sex, the specific way your hand or tongue moves or the distinctive strength of your thrusts. Whether you already know it or not, you do have the goods to deliver, and she’s damn lucky to have you with her on any given night – I want you to get that.

It is really, really important that you don’t go inside that bedroom feeling the luckiest guy in the world – I don’t care how hot she is. Because the truth is, with the stuff you’re now learning, I’m thinking she’s the one who’ll be screaming “Ding! Ding! Ding!”

And as the prize, YOU ARE WORTH THE WAIT.

The Strategic Back-Off

This is the “Pull” element. The game of teasing isn’t played in a linear, straightforward fashion – there are breaks, pauses and reverses along the way. True, one needs to move forward, but just as important are times when one backs-off.

THOSE MOMENTS, WHEN YOU REVERSE OR PAUSE (and seemingly do nothing), ARE AS VITAL AS WHEN YOU’RE BUSY PROGRESSING TOWARDS SOMETHING.

For example, if you’re unzipping her dress, you might stop halfway and continue kissing. Or you can simply zip it up again. When she’s all naked and seems to think you’re heading down south, camp around the belly area, or even go back up. These add exciting unpredictability to your repertoire.

Learn the concept of Near-the-Spot teasing maneuvers. Play AROUND her happy areas, not ON them. Make her think you’re going somewhere on her body, but back-off at the last instant. She’ll soon salivate and whine for you to hit her moan zones.

The “Strategic Back-Off” not only buys you time to fuel a woman’s lust, it’s the explosive fuel that makes things interesting. You actually need to perform strategic back-offs even when she’s giving you all green lights. Because no matter how great your moves are, if you do them in predictable straight-line fashion, you rob them of their punch.

However, don’t be all over the place and become totally unpredictable to the point of being strange.

The Payoff

The teasing game works because a woman assumes there will be a big payoff in the end. This is what makes delayed gratification worth it. Great rewards are up ahead, as long as she doesn’t take shortcuts or drown the process. This may be in the form of an orgasm, a kiss, a sucking of her breasts, penetration etc. In the end, you’ve ALWAYS got to let her have it.

Your Man’s Top 3 Secret Erogenous Zones REVEALED!

By rochellestavi

Foreplay is just as important for a guy as it is a girl. Here are your guy’s three most hidden – yet powerful – hot spots! Don’t miss THESE during foreplay!

The Usual Erogenous Zones

We are all familiar with the usual erogenous zones that men have: lips, nipples, and penis. When you give your man a juicy kiss, you start to get his heart racing and his blood pumping. When you lick his nipples and suck on them, you start to get him hard and he begins wanting you more and more. When you stroke and rub his penis, that’s how you get him to climax and how you put a cherry on top of the evening. Even though these 3 spots on his body feel good when you touch them, they aren’t the only spots on his body that he wants stimulated.

Men are more in depth than we give them credit for and there are three top secret erogenous zones on his body that you probably have never explored before. You are missing out on giving your man some amazing foreplay, anticipation, and pleasure. If you don’t want to miss out on this for another moment, it’s time you learned just where to touch him and when to touch him.

His Back

Probably the biggest hot spot on his body that gets left untouched, a man’s back is jam packed with so many nerve endings that it is just begging to be touched. The beauty of this hot spot is that it is so versatile. You can both be rough with him and scratch his back or you can get a little gentler and give him soft kisses. His back can be stimulated via a massage and used as a tool in foreplay to get him aroused or you can dig your claws into his back when he is on top of you during sex.

No matter what form of stimulation you choose to use on him, just make sure that you are doing something to his back and touching it all over. Don’t just focus on his shoulders too. Make sure that you rub him all over and that you especially hit the most sensitive spot, that being the small of his back. You know how good it feels when your man’s lips trace along the small of your back so why not give him the same satisfaction as well? Of course it may feel a little less intense for him but it will be a touch and a feeling that lingers for a while to come.

His Thighs

This is one hot spot on his body that you do not want to miss but chances are you are always overlooking it. When we think about pleasing a man, we think about giving him rough stimulation and manhandling him. Naturally, men are built tough so when we do give them stimulation, it is usually a little rougher than usual. However, this mindset shouldn’t always be the case. There are spots on his body that he wants to be touched just like how you want to be touched there. His thighs are one of those spots that regularly gets ignored and that is because thighs have a feminine association. When we think of thighs being stimulated, we think of how men lick and bite a woman’s thighs before he goes down on her. Thighs are often thought of being only pleasurable when stimulated for women but you’d be surprised.

The next time you and your man are getting down and dirty, trace your nails down his thighs or better yet, dig your claws right into them. Since his thighs are very sensitive, you have to be a little rough with them or else you are going to make him laugh rather than get him hard. This may be a ticklish spot on his body but with your hands so close to his penis but yet so far away, he is going to love the anticipation that comes with you rubbing his thighs and teasing him.

His Buttocks

Now, let’s not get ahead of ourselves here. There is a big difference between his buttocks and his anus. We are not talking about rimming or fingering him or anything invasive. That is a whole different realm of stimulation and one that takes some serious conversation. Rather, when talking about his buttocks as being an erogenous zone, we are only focusing on the cheeks. Spanking a man, scratching his cheeks or even rubbing them are all forms of stimulation that really get him hot.

Most men don’t like it when women get too close to their behinds but if you do it in the right way, it is a massive erogenous zone that he probably never even knew he had. The best way to touch his buttocks to get him hot and heavy is to spank him during sex. While he is on top of you, this is a prime opportunity for you to really give it to him. You can even place your hands on his buttocks and drive him into you even more. This will really turn his crank. You can scratch at his buttocks and spank him to really up the ante.

There are plenty of other erogenous zones on your man’s body that are craving some stimulation so open your mind and your eyes and really get down to exploring all of the possibilities you never even knew existed.

Erotic Massage: Leading Up To An Amazing Breast Massage

By loveandsex

Erotic massage sets the stage for incredible sex. Don’t forget to rub your girl’s breasts when giving an erotic massage! Here’s how to do it.

Start With The Arms

With your lovers arms extended in front of her, lightly run your hands down her arms all the way to her fingertips. When you reach her hands, give a light squeeze of affection to let her know that you care. To her, it will create a similar and safe sensation like that of holding hands. You can even play with her fingers and hands a bit by caressing them gently. With a light grasp, and using your thumb, gently rub the palms of her hands, all the way down to her fingertips. This can induce an incredibly relaxing sensation, as we use our hands in just about everything we do in life, so massaging your partner’s hands can give her a considerable amount of pleasure. After a brief hand massage, run your hands back up her arms until you get to the sides of her upper torso.

Using your fingertips, lightly stroke the sides of her upper body and the soft delicate skin around the sides of her breasts, lightly grazing and teasing these areas.

Important Note!

Although the sides of the breasts can be very sensually arousing for women, they can also be a potential source of pain if too much pressure is applied to the area. This is especially true a few days before menstruation. So be sure not to apply pressure to the sides of the breasts. Simply stroke the tips of your fingers along the sides of them in a teasing fashion.

Continuing On The Upper Torso

Next, while using a bit more firm pressure, you can use a “pulling” movement with your hands (again using your fingertips) starting from the lower part of her sides (nearest to the surface she is laying on) and moving upwards (vertically) towards her back. Continue this movement all the way across (horizontally) the side of her body back and forth a few times. Repeat on the opposite side of her body as well. Just be sure not to push your fingers into the delicate tissue along the sides of her breasts when performing this particular maneuver.

Another nice move you can perform is to take the flat of your palms and run up them up the sides of her upper torso starting around her hips and then continuing up to the point just below her armpits, and then back down again (this will be done in a horizontal fashion). Perform this maneuver a few times up and down in a smooth and soft motion.

For an added relaxing and sensual effect, as you are coming down her sides from top to bottom, begin moving your hands slightly under the front-side of her body so that your hands are now in between her skin and the surface she is laying on (your hands will now be facing upward). Essentially what you are doing here is “wedging” your hand under the weight of her body. The sensation to her as you move around under her like this is very pleasant and gives a great sensual effect, plus it will relax and soothe her muscles in a very pleasant way.

Also, when doing this move, a natural continuing stroke while you still have your hand “wedged” underneath the top half of her body would be to follow down along her sides under her hips, and then down under her upper legs all the way to her feet. This particular maneuver will begin to prime your lover for the more sensual stage of the massage.

The Blissful Face-Down Belly Wave

This move is another one you can use while your partner is laying face down. It’s similar in nature to the one above where you “wedge” your hands in between her skin and the surface she is lying on, but this time what you will want to do is insert your flattened hands (palms facing upward) underneath her entire belly area as shown in the picture below.

Starting from one side of her body, begin slowly sliding your hands under her belly all the way to the opposite side of her torso from the direction you are facing her. Now move your hands back and forth away from and towards yourself in a gentle, rhythmic, and wave-like motion. Repeat this maneuver three or four times. For this move, it is especially important to use enough oil or lubricant on your hands to allow maximum glide and reduce friction—smooth is the rule!

What will happen as you continue this movement is that it will create a very pleasant and gentle rocking motion. The result will be a movement that soothes and relaxes your partner’s entire belly area and stomach muscles. It’s also very sexy to her for you to have your hands underneath her like this. The weight of her body pressing down upon hands, along with their movement over her stomach, produces a very sensual effect that she is sure to enjoy.

After finishing the belly-wave technique, continue massaging her upper and lower back, shoulders, neck and arms for as long as you and she desire. The main idea at this point is to soothe, relax, and de-stress your partner to the point where she feels completely relaxed and at ease with you. From here, you can now move in the direction of more sensual, sexual, and erotic destinations on her body.

Important Note!

Whenever transitioning from one location on the body to another, add more oil to the new area of skin you are going to be massaging. And again, remember to warm the oil by rubbing it between your hands a few times first before applying it to her body.

Why Teasing Is CRUCIAL!

By loveandsex

Foreplay is critical if you’re going to have amazing sex and even better orgasms. Here’s why you DON’T want to miss out on incredible foreplay.

Most Guys Don’t Tease

That’s a huge mistake right there.

At times, many get overly anxious to make things happen – compelled by the need to impress. Compound this with ultra-high levels of horny and you have a cowboy ready to mount a girl the first chance he gets, (even before the condom has warmed on his thing) – somehow fearing if he wastes precious time, she might change her mind and flee.

Don’t get me wrong, women love to be mounted – when they’re ready. They beg for it – when they’re more than ready. When you hear, “For goodnessakes put it in! You’re killing me,” you know she’s not going anywhere. But jumping the gun can be the dumbest thing one can do. You’re communicating all the wrong things – proving your haste to get off and a bankrupt imagination. A person with nothing better to offer but old run-of-the-mill sex. It’s like shooting yourself in the foot 3 freakin’ times!

In this article, we’ll try to divert sexual focus by learning how to TEASE.

What Is Push And Pull?

Teasing brings into play the power of the Push and the Pull – that art of going forwards and backwards, (and a few sidesteps along the way.) It’s what keeps women on their toes, the power that keeps their hearts pumping as consequence of unpredictability, saving you from ho-hum encounters so prevalent today.

And if you want great sex, YOU HAVE GOT TO DO IT, YOU HAVE GOT TO TEASE – there’s just no way around it. You have to make your girl think: I wonder what’s coming up next?

Women want, wish and love to be teased.

They love it more than they care to admit. It gets their juices flowing and makes sex more interesting, challenging and exciting. Because for many, especially the hotties, sex has just been too easy. Give a guy a go signal, and before she knows it, his sweaty carcass is already performing contortions on top of her. A guy who gets teasing is hard to come by.

Do You Think Foreplay Is Easy?

And if you think it’s easy, you’ve got another thing coming. When you’re getting red-hot by the second, and you just want to unleash the moves and put on a show, teasing could very well be the last thing on your mind. There are guys who’ve never even done it! It’s a totally alien concept, for teasing entails going back a phase, toning down and avoiding the stuff one loves the most. Which is never easy for the goal-oriented fellows. They want to kiss those luscious reds, tear her bra and mash those perky breasts. They want to wreck her thing, pound it hard and show her who’s boss. But while teasing agrees on all these scintillating affairs, it says, “NOT YET!”

And that’s not easy. Delaying the stuff you absolutely crave, is no joke, it is the horny man’s Everest – for why wait and delay the inevitable? But when it works, it works! And your bed will never be the same.

Why Taking Your Time Is Oh, So Sweet

In this fast-paced, grab-life-by-the-horns society, waiting and delays are often maligned and vilified. Waiting is inefficient; delays are considered a waste of time. The world of instant noodles and instant coffee has robbed us of the luxury of planting coffee beans and making our own fresh brew.

But I hope it will hit you really hard, that when it comes to wondrous sex, YOU CAN’T AFFORD NOT TO WAIT, DELAY, and CREATE ANTICIPATIONS & EXPECTATIONS. Get a sexual reprogramming and embrace the virtues of delayed gratification, for unless you turn your mind in that direction, you’ll struggle every time you get an erection.

Waiting and delays may be terrible for government offices and the fast food industry, but in the world of sex, they are the stuff of legends. This thing could change the way you experience an erotic rendezvous.

5 Red Hot Tips To Get Him Hard In SECONDS!

By rochellestavi

Foreplay isn’t just for girls – it’s an essential component in giving a man a ROCK hard erection! Use these mammoth-hard-on inducing foreplay tips TONIGHT!

Before you and your man are going to ravage each other beneath the sheets, in the kitchen, in the shower or wherever you both end up getting naughty, you have to get your man in the mood and ready to go. Foreplay is crucial to how your sex session will play out that night and if you want to make it a memorable one for your man, you better make sure he is ready and raring to go.

How Much Is Enough?

A lot of women assume that just stroking your man a few times and kissing him passionately is going to be enough. It might be enough for him physically to get aroused but women often forget that men need that mental stimulation as well. Not only does getting him aroused mentally help with his stamina and arousal, but it also helps to give him a mind blowing orgasm at the end of it.

Slow And Steady

Pacing is key when it comes to pleasing your man in the bedroom. If you move too fast, you run the risk of slipping up and causing him some pain. Not only that, but if you move too fast, you can also cause his stamina to become effected in a negative way, making sex a less than enjoyable experience for you.

With the right pacing, starting off slow and gradually increasing stimulation, you are on the right path to getting him rock hard and ready for far more fun. This also plays an important role in any stimulation you choose. Whether you are touching him, talking to him, rubbing him, or licking him, you always want to start off slow and end strong.

Confidence Is Key

You can’t expect your man to be drooling over you and begging for more if you don’t believe that you are capable of doing just that. Without confidence, you are like a deer in headlights in the bedroom and that surely isn’t going to get your man rock hard in a matter of seconds.

If you really want to get him going and wanting you bad, you need to believe in yourself and your sexuality. Most men would agree that the sexiest quality about a woman is her confidence. The more a woman knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to get it, the more a man loves her. Men love women who aren’t afraid to have the power and to work it to their advantage.

Go Down On Him

A lot of women assume that once you go down on a man, you had better finish or else you aren’t giving him the total satisfaction that he is craving. This is incorrect. Of course, if you are using oral sex as the main event for the evening and the only stimulation that you plan on giving him, naturally you will want to make sure that he has an orgasm.

However, if you plan on doing way more to him over the course of the night, you can most definitely use a blowjob as precursor to sex. Feeling your warm lips all over his most sensitive area will easily get him rock hard in seconds. Plus, this is an unconventional way of getting your man going for foreplay. His whole idea of foreplay might change just because of this.

Make His Fantasies Come True

Every man would be lying if he didn’t say that he had a fantasy of having his own private striptease show. Men like going to see women strip for a reason – it turns them on. Maybe he isn’t looking to get pleasure from a stripper but guaranteed that woman up on stage is making him feel something between his legs. If you really want to surprise him and get him going in seconds, getting in touch with your inner bad girl and putting on a secret strip show for him is just what the doctor ordered.

Dirty Talk

You’d be surprised to know how useful your voice can be in the bedroom. Too many women refrain from being vocal in the bedroom and that is a true shame. You can easily get your man aroused in seconds just from whispering something sexy and seductive into his ear. Pressing your body against him, and saying something along the lines of “I can’t wait to taste you later” will surely get him going.

Having confidence will help in this tip but once you can hone in on your sexual confidence, you can use your voice to do all sorts of things to him. Remember how much men love women who are unafraid to say what they want and to get it so be that woman for him and he will have something waiting for you underneath those pants.