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Erotic Massage: How To Give A Spine Tingling Foot Massage

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Erotic massage doesn’t mean you automatically start with your lover’s no-no parts – you have to get a girl worked up to that first! Start with a killer foot rub.

A Foot Massage Can Be Just As Awesome As An Erotic Massage

If you’ve never experienced the delight of a foot massage, then you’ll need to ask for one from your partner one day. Of all the areas on a woman’s body where she likes to be touched, feet are definitely one of the most popular. Why do you think women spend so much money on pedicures? Yes, they like the way their toenails look all trimmed and polished, but the part they enjoy most is the foot massage that accompanies the pedicure.

So, your partner’s feet are a terrific area to focus on for a while during foreplay. It’s also a great place where you can get a bit “suggestive” with your fingers in ways that will trigger more intimate thoughts and sexual desire.

The foot is full of sensory receptive nerve endings, and learning how touch and rub those areas can send your lover into sensual heaven. In performing a foot massage, have your lover lie either face down or face up—either way works well.

For the purpose of this example, you will perform the massage with your partner lying face up, since she is already lying in this position.

How To Start The Erotic Massage – On Her Tootsies

Starting with her leg bent up slightly, cradle her foot in the palm of both of your hands. Next, using your thumbs, apply a light but firm pressure into the arch of her foot near her heel, then work your way down towards her toes as if your thumbs are “walking” their way down. Be sure to apply pressure onto one thumb and then release as you are beginning to apply pressure onto the opposite thumb.

An alternative option is to walk your way down her foot using pressure from both thumbs at the same time. Either way works fine, and once you try the two different techniques, you will figure out which one suits you best.

Another effective move is to place one of your thumbs in the arch of her foot and glide it all the way up from her toe pads until you reach her heel, all in one continuous stroke. You can start at one side of her foot, such as the right, and then with each upward stroke, move a bit more to the left or until you reach the opposite side of the foot that you started at. Remember to apply a firm pressure but not too hard. Communicate with your woman and see how much pressure she would prefer. This is a great way to find out what she likes.

More Squeal-Inducing Strokes

Now that you know how to use your thumbs on her arch, you can apply the same type of strokes onto the heel of her foot. The heel itself is usually pretty thick skinned and tough, so you’ll probably want to apply a bit more pressure with your thumbs. Using the same basic technique as you did on her arch, walk your thumbs across form side to side and up and down her heel, covering the entire area.

On her toe pads you can do the same as above but with a slightly lighter pressure. Walk your thumbs over her pads alternating with both thumbs and move up and down and from one side of her foot across to the other, stopping at each pad for a little individual attention.

An erotic massage is about providing your partner with pleasure. You should not expect anything from return from your partner. Your goal is to provide your partner with a pleasurable experience. When you do this, your partner will sense your ease and comfort, as well as your meaningful intentions. This will encourage her to relax and open herself to you during the erotic massage, so you can get to the good part – giving her an orgasm!

Erotic Massage: How To Give A Killer Butt Massage

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Erotic massage relaxes your lover, getting them ready for sex. You don’t want to neglect the neck – here are the erotic massage techniques you want to use.

The first goal of the erotic massage is to relax your partner. Taking adequate time to apply the following relaxing and stress-reducing massage techniques will help melt away any apprehension your partner may have and encourage her to let go and to trust you. You will want to begin with your lover lying face down on the massage table with her backside exposed to you. Next, take the towel or fabric and gently drape it over her buttocks. This will help make her feel more comfortable about lying naked in front of you.

Next, apply about a teaspoon of warmed massage oil onto one hand and rub it briskly between both of your hands until the oil is warm. Once your hands are primed with oil, you are ready to begin the massage, starting your partner’s back.

Back Techniques

With the flat of your hands facing downward and using long, slow soothing strokes, apply a delicate pressure and move your hands back and forth and up and down the entire area of her back. If you feel too much friction on her skin during your rubbing motions, apply a bit more oil.

When stroking your partner, it’s good to use directional movements. Start at a particular spot on her back and end at another spot. An example of this would be to start at the base of her lower back just above her buttocks, then move up in a long slow stroke to her shoulders, and then down the sides of her arms all the way to her hands. Using both of your hands one on each side of her body simultaneously to do this gives a great effect, but you can as well do it using one hand. After finishing a stroke such as this, you can then repeat it in reverse by starting from her hands up to her shoulders and then back down to the base of her lower back. Or, start by following in reverse and then continue a transition to another area of her body.

Remember that any suggestions in this book are only to give you ideas on how to get started as a great giver of sensual touch massage. By getting a good idea of what to do through these practices, you will become more confident and be more capable of creating your own strokes and techniques. The main rule here is that whatever you try on her, if you notice that she is enjoying it, expand on those moves and techniques using your own intuition and guidance. In short, be creative! That’s the fun part of the exploring your partner through massage. The more you explore, the more you will learn and the more fun you and your partner will have.

Shoulders And Neck

The neck and shoulders are typically very stressful areas. Most people hold a majority of the tension in their neck and shoulder regions. Women especially carry their stress in these locations. So massaging these areas makes for a great opportunity to relax and soothe your partner with your masterful hands. Learn how to massage these areas well and she’ll be putty in your hands – this is what makes this area such a great place to start!

Standing or kneeling beside her on either side, start your stroke from the outside edges of her upper shoulders where her arms connect and move up towards her neck. You can use both hands simultaneously to do this or just one hand and shoulder side at a time. Continue this stroke a few times up to her neck and then back down again to the outer edges of her shoulders. Using the ends of your fingers and thumbs works well for this move versus the entire palm of your hand. Circular strokes are also effective.

If you want to apply a bit more pressure on her shoulder muscles, you can lightly grab (like a light pinch) and knead them between your thumb and fingers. This works well when using both hands together, with one hand on each side of her shoulders. And remember, if she expresses any kind of pain while you are doing this or any other massage techniques on her, back off the pressure or move to another location.

Remember to keep an eye on her facial expressions and body language, as well as any verbal moans or groans. Be sure to check win with her from time to time throughout the beginning phase of the massage so that you can get a better understanding of what feels good to her and what doesn’t.

Now on up into her neck. Again using the ends of your fingers flat against her neck, rub gently up the sides of her neck starting from bottom to top. The lower point of the neck muscle you are massaging here starts around the base of the shoulders, and the highest point is where the muscle connects with the back of her head. These muscles tend to hold quite a bit of tension and stress, so it’s important to spend some extra time in this area.

Another effective technique for massing the back of the neck is to lightly grasp the muscles between your thumb and fingers as shown in the picture below. With an in-and-out kneading motion (grasping and releasing), work your way up and down her neck. This technique will feel especially good to her as you can really work those muscles deeply to release the tightness and tension. The amount of pressure you use depends on what she personally likes. The best way to find out is to ask her how it is. Is it too much? Is it too little? Good communication is essential when giving massage.

As mentioned previously, women tend to contain a lot of their stress in their shoulders and neck, and the more relaxed you can get her by massaging these areas, the better off the rest of the massage will go due to her being able to relax and release her tension. If she expresses a lot of pleasure and relief by massaging these areas, by all means continue for a good amount of time before you move on. Ten to fifteen minutes should do well.

Erotic Massage: How To Give A Great Genital Massage

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Erotic massage should eventually lead you down to the land in between your partner’s legs. Here’s how to make her squeal with erotic massage “down there.”

At this point, your lover should be ready for some direct stimulation of her vagina and clitoris. In fact, many women are so ripe at this stage of the massage that they achieve orgasm very easily and very quickly.

The Right Lube For Erotic Massage Down South

Important note! As mentioned, when working directly in the area of the vagina, be sure not to use oil. It’s okay if there is a little oil on the outside of her vagina from when you placed your hand on top of it just before this point. Just don’t use it as a lubricant on the inside of the vagina or within the vaginal folds. Instead, use a lubricant made just for sex, such as Sylk, Astroglide, or Glyde. K-Y jelly will work, but it tends to be thicker than the other lubricants mentioned and doesn’t glide as easily. Be sure to prepare ahead of time by having a damp towel nearby. Use this to remove oil from your hands before warming the lubricant between your fingers.

How To Get Started

You’ll want to be the focus on her intimate zone by gently stroking her pubic hair over the outer portions of her vagina. Be sure to use very soft and gentle motions. Next, gently stroke and tap her outer vaginal lips with your fingers, making sure to keep a consistent and regular rhythm.

To stimulate her clitoris, gently spread her legs apart and place your hand between her thighs in the form of a fist. Apply the knuckles of your first two fingers to the outer lips of her vagina and knead them around her clitoris, moving forward and backward as you massage. Make sure you’re not pinching her skin. You should be gently kneading. Working your way downward, massage the entire labia with a slightly firm but gentle pressure. Make your way toward her anus and then lift your knuckles and start from the top again. You can also use your first finger and thumb if it feels more comfortable.

Better known as the “bread and butter” or “two-finger” stoke, this technique is one of the easiest ways to give a woman pleasure. Place your thumb and index finger comfortably just under the hood of the clitoris (just inside the lips). Gently rotate your fingers around the top of her clitoris and then move your fingers in a downward direction.

Things To Keep In Mind

Be sure to massage and roll evenly, rubbing up and down on either side of the vagina, settling into an even rhythm. When she opens her legs wider, raises or pelvis, or pushes against your hand, that is your signal that she is ready for more direct stimulation of her clitoris.

When massaging the vagina and clitoral area, it’s helpful if you imagine the face of a clock, with the portion just above the hood of the clitoris being the 12 o’clock position and the lowest point near the vaginal opening being the 6 o’clock position. Pay attention to what she tells you feels good and make a mental note of the location in terms of the clock position (9 o’clock, 3 o’clock, etc.) for the next time around.

Circular Strokes

Now, take the tip of your finger and move it around her clitoris in a circular motion. Slowly move down the entire length of her vagina, alternating between bigger circles, stroking, and teasing caresses with your fingers. Next, move back to her clitoris and circle over it with the tips of your fingers. Be gentle when doing this, as every woman is different when it comes to clitoral stimulation. Some women don’t like it. So keep checking with her on what feels best using the clock as your guide. If she enjoys what you’re doing, attempt to “pull” the clitoris between your two fingers through the hood. Although it’s not possible to grip the clitoris itself, the sensation the pulling motion creates is fabulous!

Fingering And G-Spot Stimulation

Next, you’re going to apply a stroke that works both the clitoris and the G-spot at the same time. If done correctly, it will bring your lady to orgasm.

After ensuring her vagina is well lubricated, insert one or two fingers, curving them upward so that you’re working on the vaginal wall closest to her stomach. Hold your finger motionless for a few seconds so that she has time to relax and get comfortable, then being feeling for her G-spot.

The G-spot feels like a small, spongy lump. When a woman is aroused, the area will engorge with blood and become much more sensitive to the touch. After you’ve found her G-spot, move your finger in a “come here” motion, as if telling someone to come over to you with your finger. Don’t apply constant or hard pressure. All she needs is a gentle stroking motion to experience intense pleasure. You can also try a zig-zag motion from time to time so that your finger avoids focusing too much on the same area as it passes over the G-spot.

With your other hand, continue circling her clitoris with your thumb, finger, or the flat surface of a vibrator. When you sense she’s about to orgasm, move back and forth over the clitoris.

Don’t Overwork The Clitoris

An important thing to know about the clitoris is that it is very sensitive. Even when thoroughly lubricated, it is extremely sensitive. If your touch is too direct, too rough, or if you spend too much time stimulating the clitoris or even apply the stimulation too soon, it will become oversensitive. This will result in discomfort or pain, as well as a loss in sensation and inability to achieve an orgasm. So when it come to focusing exclusively on the clitoris, be sure to do so only when you know your lady is close to reaching climax. As soon as she does, back off from the clitoris until her sensitivity lessens.

Foreplay – Why You Never Want To Skip It, Ever

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Foreplay is something that you should always do, every single time you have sex. Here’s why foreplay is absolutely essential to great sex.

Foreplay is often understood as the set of activities done before actual intercourse. The typical menu includes kissing, caressing, getting & giving head, touching, groping, hugging, fingering etc. Men feel like dogs if they don’t engage in it, and they’ve heard or read somewhere that plenty of it makes them a great lay – so they sign up. Foreplay makes gentlemen out of horny boys.

Doesn’t matter if you’re a newbie or an expert, foreplay works like a charm – definitely gets a woman going.

A guy only falls short when he thinks of it merely as a ploy to get his woman worked up and pre-heat her ovens. If he sees foreplay simply as a preliminary, he will effectively dismiss it the moment he considers her ready to receive him. That’s how a goal-oriented person behaves! When the goal is struck, one moves on to other things.

Why Women Love It

Because it largely embodies what women, the XX gender, are all about.

They want it far, far more than any other part of the program, yes, even penetration. Not because they need extra ticks to heat up, but because it is in foreplay that their physical and emotional needs are met.

She wants to feel needed, wanted and appreciated. Kissing, caressing and gazing into her eyes accomplish exactly that. It makes her gasp, “Wow, he thinks more of me than just a vagina on heels!” It’s the most personal part of the act, and probably the only time her presence is being fully recognized. (Because when the pumping begins, men often fly off to their own worlds and forget about their partners.)

But foreplay bridges the emotional and the physical. To her, it captures the essence of the phrase: Being with a man.

And something very interesting happens during foreplay. Eve not only senses the touch, the physical connection, but the emotional underpinnings as well. For example, when you kiss her, she doesn’t just feel the lips touching, she relishes the emotional bond. (This connection is what women fuss about.)

In addition to this, it is especially designed for the senses. The sensual bombardment is so remarkable, and the potential for pleasure so high, that it rivals the ecstasy of an orgasm. Being multi-sensory, significantly fascinated by process and details, women relish every drop of the stuff going on. The smell of candles, the sound of lip-locks, the caress of your fingers, the slow and steady build-up of sexual heat – women are sucker for these.

Not that sensual bliss is solely found in foreplay, but tastefully done, it can be like one long orgasm.

The Grossly Underplayed Card

In a committed relationship, there are certain physical accesses and privileges that only YOU, her partner, can avail of.

Foreplay is one.

No one else is licensed to connect with her in the manner that you are encouraged to. Not even her long time girlfriend can do that to her body, as society limits them to hugs & kisses. Only you are tolerated to caress her breasts, lick her body or slip your fingers without a lawsuit. Nobody else has that privilege of ravishing and indulging her.

Only you. Hands, tongue, any part of you, can mesh with hers – without apologies and without restraint.

Unfortunately, this is an underused card. Men take foreplay for granted, not understanding their total franchise of her body, mistaking kisses and caresses as means to an end.

The irony, is that out of the many uncontrollable emotional forces operating inside your woman’s body, one of the most potent is the yearning to be kissed & touched. She’s dying to be kissed and craving to be touched. She wants the warmth of another person. In a committed relationship, the source of all that (and more), is you. The only one who can fill such an unimaginable need.

Think about that for a moment.

Foreplay Tips – 3 Phenomenal Ways To Give Women Extended Orgasms!

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Foreplay is a great way to make sure that your partner is satisfied during sex. These three foreplay suggestions will help you get your girl hotter than ever!

When it comes to sex, many men tend to do away with foreplay and get into the act of intercourse right away. While that may fulfill your sexual desires, the same cannot be said of your woman. If you truly want to add some zest into your sex life and make sure she enjoys every moment of lovemaking with you, you should never skim on this important aspect of lovemaking. Keep reading for three essential foreplay tips that will surely light her passion and keeping her orgasmic engine revving wildly!

Bring On The Adult Books

There is something about adult literature that porn movies can never match up: it allows your partner to use her own erotic imagination to visualize what goes on in those story lines. Believe me, this is far more powerful than popping that adult movie into the DVD player. So grab one of those adult books and read them to her and watch as her vivid imagination goes wild!

Bring On The Big Sex Toys

Sex toys are doing a thriving business these days and they play a far more essential role in your sex lives than you would probably imagine. Vibrators and dildos will help you learn more about her body and what turns her on the most. For instance, different women prefer different speed, intensity and even angles of penetration. By learning what she likes best when using these toys, you can mimic or replicate the same movements on her when making love so that she receives maximum pleasure from you. Well, sex toys are not just for ladies. For example, the penis ring is a great aid to help men last longer in bed and give her a more sensational experience to boot!

Talk Dirty – With A Difference!

How about engaging in a sexy conversation through phone? Many couples who are a little too inhibited in bed find themselves far more liberated when they talk dirty though the phone. It can take the shyness off her when she cannot see you face to face. By engaging in phone sex, you can really get her to loosen up herself, and with the help of a little dose of alcohol, you may even spice up the conversation! And you don’t have to be far apart to engage in phone sex. Call her at home while you are just in the next room!