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6 Places To Never Overlook When Giving An Erotic Massage

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Erotic massage can lead up to some great sex, but make sure you don’t miss any of THESE areas – or your erotic massage will flop before you ever have sex!

There are few things that feel better than a massage. It can be relaxing or invigorating, subtle or intimate, sensual or straightforward. Here are some unusual suggestions to share a massage with your partner that will prime her for the orgasm experience of her life.

As our skin is an organ, every little bit of it is covered in sensitive nerve endings and the same is true for your partner. Lest we not forget some of the more hidden away, less known or irregularly used areas begging to be touched, let’s discuss briefly where they are, and how to touch them to get your partner aroused and excited.

The Neck And Shoulders

There are few things better than a nice massage after a long day. Grab the massage oils and start rubbing her lightly, then increase your intensity as her muscles warm to your touch. Look for the cues that your partner is giving you, they’ll let you know if they want a harder or softer touch by the way they respond and move. Add some kisses up and down her spine, neck and shoulders, and you’ll add a romantic feel to the already relaxing benefits.

Ears

When kissing a woman’s neck and shoulders, throw in a little ear nibbling too. Gently lick inside the ear lobe but don’t go too crazy with your tongue. The key is finesse and a lightness of touch; you want her to shiver with pleasure, not recoil with wetness.

Hands And Fingers

A lot of people over look the hands and fingers but there are a lot of sensitive nerve endings in this part of the body. Massage each hand thoroughly with a bit of massage oil, taking special attention to rub each finger, as this feels very good. If you are feeling adventurous bring them up to your mouth and suck on each finger, or if she’s struggling to get in the mood, try massaging the soft flesh in between her index finger and thumb to magically melt away her headache or tension.

Feet

Massaging someone’s feet can be very intimate, depending on how you go about it. Maybe even grab a reflexology chart specifically made for lovers that you can attach to her feet such as the Sexy Love Sock – this way you know exactly where to rub to relax the corresponding body part. Just make sure to massage with enough pressure so that you don’t get her laughing and tensing up from being tickled.

Inside Of The Elbows/Back Of The Knees

These crooks aren’t touched very often, so why not give them a bit of attention too? Use the tips of your fingers to lightly scratch these areas, starting just before the bend and ending just after; it’s an easy way to give your partner goosebumps and in a way that few others will seek out and try.

The Face And Scalp

We’re not talking about the kinds of caresses that you give when you’re just about to kiss a woman. No, these are deeper strokes that relax a woman around her face and scalp. Try lying her down on her back, and putting your thumbs along the inner sides of her nose where it meets her eyebrows. Push lightly to see how much pressure she likes (it can hurt or throb at bit at first if she holds tension here) and then move your fingers just a hair out towards the edge of her eyebrows and repeat. Move along the entire eyebrow area in this manner. Some spots will be much more tender than others, so make sure she tells you how each one feels, and spend extra time anywhere it’s really sensitive.

Then, move behind her and fan your fingers over her hairline so that your thumbs are at the top of her head, your index fingers are almost together, and your pinkies are by her ears, then rub small, firm circles. Ever so slowly move your fingers as you rub towards the back of her head, and soon you’ll have a puddle of a woman at your feet. She’ll definitely be ready for sex after this!

Erotic Massage: Melt Her Tension With A Head And Face Rub

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Erotic massage gets a woman relaxed and ready for sex – but before you head down south, start with an erotic massage for up north for complete relaxation..

Women love attention around their head and face. Massaging these areas can be a delightful experience to your partner. It’s also a great way for you to connect in a sweet and intimate way. With you being so close to her ears and face, this proposes a great opportunity to whisper something sexy to her and then follow up with a few tender, loving kisses to her face as well.

Touching and stroking her delicately and softly along her neck, sides of her face and shoulders are very stimulating areas of arousal. As well, stroking her hair and top of her head will give her a sense of comfort.

Erotic Massage On The Scalp

Run your fingers through her hair with your fingers spread, slowly and delicately slip them through her hair while applying a slight pressure downward to her scalp. As you do this, you can also move your fingers around in small circular motions onto her scalp. The sensation is one of the best you can create while giving her an erotic massage. It is rare to do this one without lots of very pleasurable moaning and groaning going on. Use your thumbs here as well as you will be able to apply a bit more pressure with them.

The neck muscles in the back of your partner’s head where they connect to her skull are also very good points to massage. They tend to be very major stress holding points and giving them a good rub will help her to relax and release any tension she has in that area. With your hand facing up, walk your fingers way down the back of her head until you feel where her neck muscles meet her head. Then, begin pulling your fingertips towards you in a “come here” motion while stroking these muscles up and down. The closer you massage to the connection points the better. You can even stop along the way and just hold pressure there for ten seconds or so and then continue on.

Erotic Massage On The Face

After massaging her scalp, lets move up to her face and temples. Located on the sides of her face directly behind her eyes and just over her cheekbones you will find her temples. Applying a very light pressure with your fingertips, make slow soft circular motions to these areas. Your movements should reach as far back as the fronts of her ears, up to her the sides of her forehead, and down to her cheekbones. Vary the sizes of your circles from the center outward from small to large and then back in again. This will ensure that every area of possible tension is addressed.

Now, taking the flat part of your downward turned and closed fingers, move up to her forehead. Starting from the center of her forehead with your fingertips from each hand touching each other, begin pulling them away from each other across the skin of her forehead until you reach down to just above her temples, then place your fingertips back together over her forehead again and repeat a few more times. Light pressure is the key here, especially on a woman’s face, as you don’t want to overstretch her skin or muscles.

From her forehead, move down to her cheeks. Again with the flat part of your closed fingertips, make slow soft circular motions over the skin and muscle. Do this a few times. The best direction is to start your motions inward towards her nose at the top of the cheek, and then outward towards the sides of her face at the bottom of the cheek.

Be sure to spend 5-10 minutes massaging your lover’s scalp and face. When done, you’ll want to move your attention to the rest of her front side—starting with her belly and then moving on to her breasts.

Erotic Massage: How To Take It To The Next Level

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Erotic massage is an excellent prelude to sex, but here’s how to go from just erotic massage to something much, much more!

Whether it’s before or after your lover has experience an orgasm (or two), there will come a point when she will be very receptive to your penetrating her vagina with your hard penis—and believe me when I say, it will be very hard at this point!

She’ll Want To Engage In Sex

Although you can expect her to pull you into her and gyrate around until you experience the same orgasmic pleasure, keep in mind that this might not be all she’s willing to do. Being in a highly sexually aroused state, she may want to take you in her mouth or use the oil to give you the best handjob you’ve ever had.

How you get your pleasure at this point isn’t what’s important. What’s most important is that through the art of sensual and erotic massage, you were able to meet both the emotional and sexual needs of your partner and provide her with a highly intimate experience that will surely make her long for more of the same.

Don’t Focus Only On One Area – Involve All Her Erogenous Zones

When you continue on to lovemaking, keep in mind that while there are fairly obvious pleasure zones, women have other body parts that are very sensitive to caresses, strokes and kisses that can increase their desire for sex and intensify their orgasms. These areas vary from woman to woman, but it’s definitely worth paying attention to the ears, neck, back, arms and other less obvious places to see what she likes. When you find those magic spots, spend some extra time stimulating those areas both during and after your massage. Don’t just focus strictly on her vagina to keep her going. Pay attention to her entire body. This will help to intensify her desire for sex and provide a more intense love making session.

Be sure to spend adequate time playing with your lover’s breasts, as well. If you’re lady is a size DD, paying attention to her breasts probably isn’t a problem for you. But if your woman has small breasts, you might be like some men and bypass them on your way to what you might perceive as what matters most—her vagina. For most women, however, both big breasted and small, their breasts are highly erotic zones and a vital part when it comes to stimulating her sexually.

How To Play With Her Breasts

Explore her breasts by sucking, licking, stroking, nibbling, and gently squeezing them. Although the nipples and areola (the pinkish-brown circles around her nipples) are known to be sensitive, so are the undersides of her breasts just under the areola. Some women don’t feel a thing when their nipples are touched. But stroke or lick just under her areola and, zing, the nipples instantly harden. Be sure to use your fingers, tongue, lips, hand, and even the head of your hardened penis to explore and stimulate her breasts.

Some women enjoy having their nipples pinched, bitten or flicked. However, this depends on your lady’s personality, mood, where she is in her menstrual cycle, as well as how many glasses of wine she’s had! There might be times when just the pads of your fingertips feel to rough. Other times, she might beg you to bite her nipples harder and harder. There’s really no way to tell what she’s going to be up for from one day to the next, so be sure to ask her what feels good.

7 Foreplay Tips That Will Bring Your Lover To The Edge

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Foreplay can often be more satisfying than the sex itself, because it’s the anticipation that is sweeter than relief. These tricks will drive your partner wild!

Slow, Deep Kissing

No, not the slobbery kind. Making out is a heavily underrated foreplay technique, because it is usually seen as what people do when they’re not sexually active. The truth is, deep and slow kissing is a huge turn on even when you know you’re going to have sex later! Keep your saliva in check, but don’t be afraid to slowly explore your partner’s entire mouth. Nibble their lips and kiss them softly on the mouth before engaging in tongue again. Enjoy it and convey to your partner that you are enjoying it and aren’t in any rush at all.

Rubbing Your Hands All Over Their Body

This may seem cliche, but most people don’t do this correctly during foreplay. Having your partner rub their hands all over your body can be extremely thrilling – but most of the time, the touch isn’t soft enough to really send chills down your spine. When you go to rub your hands all over their body, don’t use your entire palm. Instead, use only your fingertips and touch your partner only as hard as you might touch a laptop track pad. This soft touch is what will ignite the nerves in your partner’s skin!

Kissing Their Body

You’ll want to take your mouth along the trails that you made with your hands, but again, remember to do this softly. A nibble and a lick here and there is nice during foreplay, but try to use only your lips when you do this. The softness and warmth of your lips without wetness is extremely enticing. Don’t leave any part of their body uncovered by your mouth – go all the way down their legs and back up again, over their tummy and chest, and back up to their neck, chin and arms. You can even use this as a “body mapping” technique by paying attention to which spots they seems to enjoy the most.

Breath Play

When you’re kissing your partner’s entire body is a great time to engage in breath play. Breathe hot air against the area you just kissed, or lick the area and breathe cool air on it to send an icy shiver down your partner’s spine. Breath play is especially effective around the neck area and ear area, and when you’re kissing.

Oral Sex

Oral sex is an essential part of foreplay because it not only conveys a lot of emotion (which is necessary for women), it also creates immense pleasure for both girls and guys. Make sure that your foreplay routine never, ever skips over oral sex. Depending on what you and your partner want to do, you can use oral sex as a tease (don’t bring your partner to orgasm) or you can use it to give your partner an orgasm to prep them for multiples later (this is usually done with women and can make sex absolutely explosive!)

Teasing Penetration

Teasing penetration is an intense form of foreplay that is just as hot for the guy as it is the girl. After you’ve done oral sex, kissing and touching and you’re ready for sex – but not quite ready to give in to the anticipation yet – teasing penetration will keep the fires burning but satisfy your need to be closer to each other. During teasing penetration, the male partner will enter the female’s vagina, but only a little at a time. Short, light thrusts that only put the head in are incredible for both him and her, and either partner can control this. If she wants to tease him, she can hold his hips to prevent him from going in further and if he wants to tease her, he can simply pull out. This form of teasing will almost always end in sex because at some point, the need and desire overwhelms both the man and woman!

Backing Off From Orgasm

If you haven’t completely lost all your senses yet in a cloud of bliss and passion from all the foreplay, you may still want to prolong the actual finale. Tease your partner by reducing the amount of stimulation (whatever it is at this point) when you feel they are close to orgasm – you will also want to do this when you feel like you’re getting close to orgasm. Resume kissing or teasing, until you’re both cooled off enough to continue without reaching orgasm immediately. This time frame will get more narrow as you continue – eventually when you resume sexual activity you’ll blow immediately, or you’ll just get to the point where you’re completely powerless to stop it.

Erotic Massage: How To Please Your Girl Both Emotionally And Sexually

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Erotic massage is like a session of extended foreplay. And what do women say they wish men would do more of? FOREPLAY! Open your girl up with erotic massage.

Erotic massage is a fabulous way to open doors in your relationship. Taking the time to explore your partner’s body can help you learn what makes your partner more relaxed, excited, turned on and so on. By incorporating erotic massage into your relationship, not only will you be able to use it as a way to meet your partner’s innate need for affection, you will also meet her need for foreplay.

What Women Need To Be Happy

But women need a lot more than just “good” sex to feel happy. For a woman, sex equates to emotional intimacy. If a woman does not feel emotionally connected with her partner, then she will not want to have sex with him. For example, many men can have an argument with their wives, yet still jump into the sack even with unresolved feelings. But women are much different. If a woman is upset with her man due to an argument or any other reason, the last thing she will want to do is have sex with him.

If you are nodding your head in agreement right now, then good for you! At least you recognize the difference between males and females in this respect. But how much you understand may be an entirely different story.

Giving Her A Lot Of Attention

Think about it. In the beginning of your relationship with your woman, you gave her A LOT of attention. She was all you could think about. All you wanted to do with your time. She was the only woman that captured your interest. You dated her, maybe even surprised her with flowers and small gifts for no reason. You commented quite frequently how hot she was and how much she turned you on. But as time went on, she became less of a focal point for you. You found yourself wanting to spend more time with your friends or at work. Maybe now you have a few drinks with your buddies on Fridays or get together on the weekends to watch football. Now you only buy your lady flowers and gifts on special occasions. You still find her incredibly attractive, but you don’t tell her anywhere near as much as you did early on in your relationship—maybe only when you are looking to have sex with her.

This is why sensual and erotic massage is so important. It can help move you out of this sort of rut with your partner and give you a way to show her just how important she is to you. Women need this reassurance from their mates. Without it, they can never be truly happy. By taking time out of your busy life to stop and totally devote yourself to your partner by giving her a sensuous massage, you will please her both emotionally and sexually in a way like never before.

It’s important to keep in mind that sexual desire in a woman begins with sexual arousal. One of the best ways to go about creating sexual arousal within your partner is to satisfy her need for affection and emotional intimacy.

Creating Sexual Arousal Through Erotic Massage

Erotic massage is great for creating sexual arousal in a woman. This is especially achieved through the sexual tension and anticipation it promotes. For women, the thrill and anticipation of sex is what makes the actual act of sex so much better. Through erotic massage, you can create sexual tension by engaging your woman both physically and mentally. The mental and emotional part of the massage is just as important as the physical part. You cannot achieve the ultimate state of sexual arousal or even orgasm if one of those two important components is missing.

Reconnect With Her

Reconnecting with your woman on an emotional level is one of the keys to sexually pleasing your woman. So don’t look at this part of the process of erotic massage as insignificant. It is actually the most significant part of all. It’s like the key that turns an engine on. Without it, you’re not going to go very far. Also keep in mind that women are not carbon copies. No two women are alike. This is why it’s important to find out exactly what your lover likes and doesn’t like as you perform the massage. You can’t use intuition or tricks to get the job done. You have to make a sincere effort and pay attention to your lover and her responses. Erotic massage is not about tricking your woman into sex. It’s about sexually arousing your lady so that she “wants” to have sex.