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Hot Foreplay Buttons You DIDN’T Know About!

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Foreplay is so critical to the female orgasm. Check out these sweet triggers that will get her dripping wet – and you probably never knew they existed!

There are 101 things that you can do tonight that can make your woman’s blood boil a little hotter. A lot of men think immediately that this involves new and difficult sex positions or even the use of sexual aids but really, just having an idea of which pleasure buttons to hit is all it takes. Read on!

The Neck

While making out, make sure your lips and tongue give attention to your lover’s neck. Ok, a lot of men do that already and you’ve probably applied that technique yourself… but what about that soft and tender patch of skin in front of her ears?!? While kissing or licking this soft area, whisper something sweet or something lewd! Now that will get your girl going.

Lick Her Lips Like You’ll Lick Her….

Break away from kissing her just a bit and then lick her lips. While licking her lips oh so gently, whisper that you can’t wait to lick her down there too!

Tease Her More

Just when she’s wet and panting, glide your hand down there and caress her through her undies. And then say something with the word ‘soaking’ in your sentence.

Touch Yourself

Make your way to the bed and as she’s lying there, deliberately get off the bed and put some distance between the two of you. Now undress, making sure she sees exactly how turned on you are. You don’t need to engage in full-on masturbation but touching yourself once or twice to show how long you are for her is a good idea.

Playing With A Scarf

As she lays down naked in bed, run a silk tie or silk scarf all over her. Now ask her to turn around and this time, as the silk tie or scarf runs over her spine, follow it up with your hot tongue.

A Bed Dance

Instead of a striptease, why not ask your lover for a ‘bed dance’ instead? This is when she dances completely naked all over you as you like completely naked on your back. Have her sashay all over your face, chest, and yes, down there.

Hotter Oral Sex

While giving oral sex, place a pillow under her to elevate her mound. This will give you more access, and her, more pleasure.

Going For A “Drive”

While out on a weekend drive, pull over somewhere semi-secluded and then ask her to pleasure you or bend down and suck on her breasts.

A Little Twist On The “69”

Instead of the standard 69 position, why not place your manhood between her breasts instead while you guys in this position. Or why not do the ‘inverted 69’. This is when she sits on you but instead of using your mouth on your manhood. She sits up and uses her hands on you instead.

Get A Peek

This time, while she’s on top, ask her NOT to remove her clothes. Instead, lift up her t-shirt or lingerie every now and then so you can get a “peek” at what you’re doing down there.

Doggy Style, Lying Down

Take her from behind doggy style but instead of being on your knees, do this lying down. The pleasure will be more intense!

If It’s Not Rough, It Isn’t Fun

Don’t be shy to ‘rough each other up’ once in a while! So tonight, don’t go to your bedroom; don’t even lie down. Do it against a wall with your clothes still on and just about 10 minutes before somebody is due to visit you! The roughness, the wildness, and the thrill of being caught with your pants down – literally! – will make this the hottest sex ever!

Twist It Up

While she’s on the ‘woman on top’ position, ask her to SLOWLY turn around (face your feet instead). As she does this, stay as unmoving as you can in bed. This will enable you to feel every inch of her on your manhood as she twists and turns.

Get It On In The A.M.

Morning sex is so underrated! Tomorrow morning, why not engage in slow sensual sex OR take her rough over the bathroom sink as she tries to brush her teeth!

There’s lots of ways you can increase the hotness meter in your bedroom (or elsewhere) without having to engage in anything you may consider “taboo.” Just let your imagination run a little wild and just go with it! You can never anticipate what reaction you’ll get from your partner until you try.

Erotic Massage For Better Sex Review

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Erotic Massage For Better Sex is a guide that is designed to help a man learn how to give a woman an incredibly arousing, relaxing sexual massage. If you’ve ever “massaged” your partner before sex, you already know the power that just a few simple strokes have to relax both her mind and body. Foreplay and relaxation is essential for a woman to be able to reach orgasm, so prepping her before you get it on is well worth it.

If you want to take your massage skills to the next level and really learn how to turn her on – or if you’ve never tried it before and want to bring something new to the bedroom – Erotic Massage For Better Sex is right up your alley. There are tips, tricks and techniques that both the novice and the advanced masseuse can use.

The Good

Erotic Massage For Better Sex is hands down the most complete, information packed guide on sexual massage out there. It starts off by teaching you how to perform a basic relaxing massage, then walks you through how to make it erotic once your partner is totally and completely relaxed. There are sections on setting the scene, warm up, technique and more, so you’re really learning how to give an incredible massage from point A to the very end.

If you truly want to become a master at sexual massage, this guide will help you learn step by step what to do, where to touch and how to touch to make your partner more relaxed and turned on than they ever have before.

The Bad

This is a complete guide to mastering the art of erotic massage. It’s not a quick read – it’s chock full of information you can use to not only give your partner a relaxing massage but to also move into a sexual massage and on to lovemaking. While this is generally where most men are headed when they get this guide, the amount of information contained within is often daunting at first. You can pick up a few quick tips if you skim through, but not near as much as if you sit down and really commit to learning the information.

Erotic Massage For Better Sex does include some pictures that help guide your hand placement and let you know exactly where you need to be and what you need to be doing, but not for every single technique. The descriptions for the techniques are found within the text, so you’ll need to really read through each section to learn hand placement as well as stroke direction and pressure. If you’re looking for a guide that will tell you how to relax and seduce a woman with an erotic massage, this is the one you want. Just don’t be surprised when you actually have to read!

The Bottom Line

If you want to know how to learn how to give an erotic massage and have your partner melt beneath your hands, Erotic Massage For Better Sex is definitely the guide you want to get. It includes extensive information about why massage is so essential to a woman’s relaxation and arousal, how to get started, specific techniques to use and how to use erotic massage to lead into sex.

It’s a pretty comprehensive guide, so it may take some time and commitment to soak up all the information within. With some practice and dedication to learning all of the tips and tricks in Erotic Massage For Better Sex, you’ll be an absolute master at the art of massage and your partner will be putty in your hands!

The Full Erotic Massage For Better Sex Review

Erotic Massage For Better Sex will teach you the ins and outs of sexual massage, so by the time you’re done reading it (really reading it), you’re going to be an absolute master at sensual touch!

What You’ll Learn Inside This Incredible Guide:

  • Why erotic massage is so powerful
  • How it helps you connect physically and emotionally to your lover
  • Why foreplay is like the game Monopoly – and how to use it to your advantage
  • The importance of approaching a massage without expectations
  • How to turn a relaxing massage into an erotic one once your partner is putty in your hands
  • Things to avoid that will turn her OFF automatically
  • Why being motivated to massage your lover (and being enthusiastic about doing it) is paramount to her pleasure

How To Prepare The Massage Environment

The section on how to prepare the environment ahead of time is probably one of the most useful sections in the entire guide. Erotic Massage For Better Sex will teach you how to set the stage for a romantic evening, including how to use lighting, scent, music and more to start seducing your lover as soon as she walks in the room. You’ll also learn about many different types of massage oils (and sexual lubes) so you can choose the right one for what you’re trying to accomplish.

Tips & Tricks

There is no shortage of tips & tricks in Erotic Massage For Better Sex. Here’s a sample of the different kinds of techniques you’ll learn when you read this guide, although the author encourages men to learn these techniques and then use them to develop their own custom strokes.

  • Specific hand movements to use to release tension and seduce
  • Exactly how to massage specific areas of your lover’s body including the back, neck, arms, breasts, legs, butt and inner thighs
  • How to work the face and scalp for maximum tension release
  • Stretching techniques to relax the body
  • Specifically how to massage the breasts and nipples to begin arousal
  • How to massage the vagina and clitoris to bring a woman to orgasm

Bonus Video: “The Ecstatic Touch – Sensual Relaxation Techniques To Get Her In the Mood For Sex”

Included with Erotic Massage For Better Sex is a great bonus video that will teach you more about massage and relaxation, so you will have even more tricks up your sleeve to get your lover in a randy mood. While the written guide is absolutely indispensable, seeing and hearing the information really takes it to the next level.

10 Foreplay Faux Pas To Avoid

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Foreplay can make or break sex – if you do it wrong, you might not be getting any at all. Here are some “don’ts” to keep in mind when getting hot and heavy.

Sometimes, in our quest for better foreplay and better sex, we tend to get a bit carried away – to the point that we do things that TURN OFF our partners. Some of these mistakes are not just overzealousness but due to myths propagated in adult films and magazines.

Cleanliness Is Next To Godliness

Take a shower and be properly groomed. I’m not talking about going to a salon here. Just ensure that your breath and body are clean. Also, if you’re planning to do some ‘poking’, ensure that you cut your nails down. Nothing hurts more than long nails, or can be more disgusting (in case you poke into something and er… take out something with your nails! Yuck!)

The Sound Of Music

Put on some music. Foreplay can be a very embarrassingly noisy event (wet slapping noises, an escaped fart or two, etc.). To hide these sounds, drown them out with a bit of sexy music.

Don’t Overdo It

Don’t OVER-tongue him/her. Don’t ram your tongue into your partner’s eardrums or throat when kissing. It can be a complete turn off if he/she feels the need to tilt his/her head (from having clogged ears) or feels the need to gag.

Don’t Embarrass Your Lover

Don’t embarrass him/her. I once advised a client to ‘start foreplay early during the day’ and mentioned some of my ‘foreplay techniques’ like rubbing against each other, dry humping, footsie playing, etc. Well, I guess my client got carried away as she tried footsie playing with him during a business dinner. She thought she was being ‘naughty’, he thought it was annoying. Moral lesson? Know WHEN to make your moves.

Nipple Play

Don’t twirl, tweak and twist her nipples hard. No. Despite what you often see in porn films, she really doesn’t like it if you play too roughly with her nipples. They need to be caressed, not manhandled.

Be Aware Of Body Image Issues

Don’t be the one to request to turn the lights off. Almost all women have body image issues. So don’t do her a favor by asking to have the lights off. In contrast, she’ll immediately think you find her body offensive in some way. If she’s not exactly the ‘cover girl’ type, don’t over compliment her either because she’ll know you’re lying. Instead, just tell her you prefer women with ‘curves.’

When To Stimulate The G-Spot

Don’t go for g-spot stimulation if you don’t know what the hell you’re doing! Sure, g-spot stimulation can bring her almost sexual nirvana but it can be painful for her if you don’t know what you’re doing. I’m not saying don’t attempt it. Rather, be very attuned to how she responds to your fingers.

Don’t Ask A Man To Wear A Thong!

Don’t ask him to wear a thong. Ladies, despite what you hear about the ‘metrosexual man,’ don’t ask him to put on a thong. It really does turn most men OFF.

Don’t Smother Him

He’s given you oral sex and boy do you love it! You’re delirious with pleasure and because of this you… try to squeeze your thighs shut and/or start to grab his hair and knead his face against your crotch. Well, let’s see what you’re REALLY doing to him hear. With the first one, you’re like a praying mantis trying to squeeze and rip his head off. With the second one, you’re making it hard for him to breathe! Ease up girls. Show your appreciation the RIGHT way and he’s bound to lick you to the ends of the earth again.

He’s Not A Mind Reader!

Don’t expect him to read your mind. One of the worse things you can do during foreplay is to expect him to know exactly what you want to happen. With this attitude, you’re really setting yourself (and him) for a disaster. Let him know that you like what he’s doing to you, or better yet, TELL him EXACTLY what you want done. He’ll appreciate it and you get what you want. Win-win!

Increasing Sexual Tension

Foreplay is all about increasing sexual tension in a way that is pleasurable for you and your partner in more than just the sexual sense. It should be in an atmosphere of comfort and trust, and maybe even with a hint of sexual danger, and not be forced or selfish in any way.

Think about this the next time you engage in foreplay with your partner and you’re bound to have a great and sexually thrilling time!

3 Foreplay Strategies That Will Leave Her Breathless

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Foreplay is the #1 thing that women need to have great sex. Learn these three foreplay techniques that will make her putty in your hands.

Women seem to have an amount of sexual self control that men just can’t wrap their minds around. They can tease and play to the point where you are sporting some serious blue balls, and she hasn’t even gotten wet. Guess what, you can beat her at her own game. You just need a good game plan. Here’s a quick guideline to driving her mad for you.

The Prize

Guess what, buddy, you are the prize, and you probably never hear that. Women’s magazines are inundated with advice about how to love yourself. It’s practically all Oprah talks about. However, men don’t often get the same encouragement. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t hear it. You have something to offer. Sex with you is unlike sex she has had or will have with anyone else. Keep this in your mind on the way to the bedroom. There is nothing more arousing than confidence. If you’re unsure or apologetic, she will sense it, and it will make everyone uncomfortable.

The Strategic Back-Off

So you are at the point where you are definitely going to have sex. A man’s first instinct is to get in there, and get the job done. Yes, this is fun. For you. For around three and a half minutes. However, you can make it better. For the both of you. Instead of ripping her clothes off and diving in penis first, ease into it. Pull the straps of her dress down, and kiss her shoulders. Then push her straps back up, and kiss her mouth. If you’re about to head downstairs, pause to nibble around her belly and inner thighs. A woman’s sexual experience is multi-sensory. Every touch, caress, and kiss sends shocks through her body. You can drive her to near insanity.  Isn’t it more fun for her to beg for sex?

The Payoff

The Payoff is really, really good sex. It’s not just good sex for her, but for you, as well. When you tease her, you are teasing yourself. You may want to lick her lips or suck her breast more than anything, but if you wait until the point where you just can’t hold off anymore, the taste of her mouth and her breasts is even sweeter. If you’re running your lips across her inner thigh, savoring her flesh before you pleasure her, then your own sexual energy builds and builds. The more it builds, the more it releases, giving you a more intense, satisfying orgasm.

Why Foreplay Is Critical!

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Foreplay is a critical first step for women, and men often overlook it. Men tend to approach sex in the wrong way. They think that the harder they penetrate, the harder she’ll orgasm. Unfortunately for women, this doesn’t work. Did you know the best way to make a woman orgasm is to not even put your penis inside her?

That’s right, good old third base is a home run for the ladies. The vagina has very few nerve endings past the opening, and hitting the g-spot through penetration is more about lucking out than mastering technique.

Fingering Her To A Frenzy

The male species often thinks that third base is a means to prepare her for his throbbing member, which is why the women they’re with tend not to respond with the screaming orgasm of which they are capable. If you re-program yourself to thinking about fingering as part of “having sex,” then you’ll be able to satisfy her on new levels. She will certainly thank you for it!

Mental Foreplay First

Before you make the journey into the bush, you have to start with foreplay first. Women don’t have the ability to dive right into sex the way men do. She needs a bit of a build up. This starts from the moment you hope to have sex with her later. Every small touch, glance, and kiss throughout the night draws her closer to you. It will be very difficult to get her started if you’ve been acting like she’s a stranger for the past several hours. She doesn’t have to feel completely in love with you, but she does need to feel some sort of connection.

Making Out

When you’re finally alone, never underestimate the power of a good make out session. Remember when you were a teenager and making out was so much fun? It’s because you didn’t really know what was going to come next. You hadn’t gotten to home base yet, or even third base, so the excitement of possibly getting to see her breasts or touch her vagina was almost too much to bear. Re-create that feeling all over again by not rushing a great make out session. Take your time and make her feel like you’ve got nothing else better to do than kiss her all night long.

Eventually, the make out session will lead to more than just kissing – but don’t try to force it.  Start with gentle kisses that escalate into tongue tangling passion, and her nether regions will be begging for some attention once you get there. Do to her mouth what you plan on doing to her clitoris during oral sex – she’ll get the hint and it will turn her on even more to get a “preview” of what your tongue can do for her.

Fondling Her

In the midst of your good old fashioned make-out, put your hands other places, and I don’t mean breasts alone. You should stroke her back, her sides, her hair, and her breasts. Touch her softly and don’t rush it. Don’t manhandle her or grab her! You should be using your fingers to stroke her in sensitive places like her neck or the crease of her elbow, and you shouldn’t be touching any harder than you would touch the track pad on your laptop.

Once you’ve gotten her turned on enough, play with her nipples for a while, and then move elsewhere. Go back, move away, and repeat. Once you feel her breath quicken and her grip tighten, and you’re sure that she’s ready for you to make the next move, don’t leave her hanging! Get down there and touch away.

Don’t Assault Her

It is best to not go into full on assault mode. If you start fingering her right away before she’s really good and wet, it will hurt. Some women may get wet just from the kissing and touching, but some won’t. Don’t be afraid to have a good lube on hand. A dab of lube or more can make all the difference between pleasure and pain!

Start by massaging the outer parts of her vulva, and her inner thighs. If you just graze the clitoris now and again, it will send shock waves through her body. When it’s time, zero in on the sweet spot, and don’t move until she has had at least one mind-blowing climax. You can also give her oral sex – it’s probably a woman’s favorite way to get off and makes her more prone to having multiple orgasms!