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6 Female Masturbation Secrets!

By michaelwebb

Female masturbation does exist – and it can be the key to unlocking a totally hot and ravishing sex life!

Female masturbation has existed since women were young girls squeezing stuff between their legs. While many still struggle with the conditioning that anything sexual is sinful, more and more women are admitting their needs and embracing the same. They jill off, pet the kitty or stroke the cat. If they’re not gonna get some from their man, they’ll settle with self-service.

Masturbation, as an invaluable spring of well-being, indeed, is the World’s Favorite Pastime. As George Carlin expressed it, “If God intended us not to masturbate, He would have made our arms shorter.”

It’s The Only Way Some Women Can Orgasm

It’s the only source of O’s for many women, keeping everybody sane, and making up for life’s numerous disappointments – horrible sex included. Petting the kitty affords Eve to settle and be less demanding during sex.

The ladies got everything to gain, considering it doesn’t cost a single penny. Besides being the orgasmic highway, it’s loads of pleasure & fun! They can do it anywhere, they don’t have to dress up for it or put on serious pounds of make-up. They can have it anytime. Most importantly, they have perfect control of the proceedings. They decide how long and how many they’ll get.

Unless she’s one of those ladies who never looked down there, a woman has been touching herself years before she even met you. She has been helping herself before she even got a shot at sex. And guess what, over the years, she has become really good at it – winning herself the easiest, fastest and most intense orgasms. She knows her body best.

Over time, women have perfected a personal process and a set of techniques to reach orgasm.

Of course she has. She knows the type of stimulation needed & the specific parts to be attended. Women know how to turn themselves on and push themselves off.

Masturbation is “practice sex” – an imitation of the real thing – note that to get off, the same organs are given the same type of stimulation. For example, men can’t get enough of blowjobs, handjobs and penetrations because these stimulate the penis in the same manner as jacking off.

So during sex, replicate her jilling moves, especially during manual stimulation. You won’t be able to do that until you know exactly how she does it — so ask her to give you a show. Remember that every time a woman touches herself in front of a man, she’s schooling him and giving him insider info on her O’s!

What To Look For

You may think, “All women masturbate the same way.” Not at all. That’s only the big picture. Go into details and discover that women treat themselves very uniquely. Pay close attention to how she tangos with her vulva, her clitoris in particular – she’s giving you a private lesson from years of personal experience. Here are six elements to consider:

General Types

Though the most common method is ‘hands-on’, the routes to Orgasmville are different. She could employ objects like dildos, vibrators, pillows, bed sheets, a spray of warm/cold water, bottles, vegetables and practically anything she can get her hands on. While most women do it while resting on their backs, there are also others who prefer to be on their stomachs. Still, there are those who never use hands but press their thighs in a familiar rhythm.

Watch for her leg positions. Are they spread, bent, raised or together?

Speed & Timing

During sex, a woman is usually under her handler’s mercy. In masturbation, she has perfect control of speed and rhythm. Find out the gear she’s most happy with. See how fast she works it and try to extricate a rhythm or beat. (Notice that she doesn’t operate in a single speed but sometimes speeds up and slows down.)

While nothing beats having her guiding hand over yours, as long as you’re looking, compare how you operated in the past. Were you too slow or too fast? How was your rhythm? Apply these lessons during intercourse as she’ll be needing speeds similar to the ones she’s shown you.

Type Of Stimulation

Faithfully clone her ways.

It’s unfair for women to be expected to climax with the type of stimulation some guys give. Why? Because it’s not only grossly insufficient, it’s all wrong! How can she be expected to cum with a method totally alien and perhaps even opposite to what she’s accustomed to?! (It’s like demanding from you ejaculation when all she’s doing is tapping your penis.)

During masturbation, a woman has perfect control of the stimulation she gets. So observe her hands, palms, fingers, everything. Pay close attention to the DIRECTIONS her hands go. Is it clockwise, counterclockwise, up-down, side-to-side? Look for patterns and combinations – she has them. See if there’s some pinching, squeezing, tapping, patting, tugging or pulling going on.

Notice her applied PRESSURE. Some stroke minimally, others crave hard action. Again, different strokes for different folks, whatever works for her, works!

How often do her fingers venture inside the vagina? You might be in for a surprise. Blokes imagine that when women jill off, it’s all poke-poke-poke inside. I’m sorry to tell you that this doesn’t happen as often as we’d like to think. Some don’t even bother sliding fingers inside. After all, her clitoris is on the outside.

Specific Areas

Those who shove fingers or dildos oftentimes aim it somewhere specific. It could be at the G-spot or any of her sweet spots. Find out where these are.

Another thing, if she’s using one hand, observe what the other is doing. Is it sensually stroking her breasts? If so, observe carefully how she works them. Usually, when a woman touches herself, other areas besides the vulva gets attention.

The Environment

Environmental conditions are just as important. When women treat themselves, they usually prepare the mood by setting the environment to certain specifications. They set things right, for example, by initially taking a warm or cold shower, lighting candles, even dressing up! They prefer a certain time or day, a particular music, even props. These are her secrets, (she may not even be conscious of them.)

Conversely, guys don’t bother with this nonsense. Men do it who-knows-when and who-knows-where. Backrooms, dark alleys, wet pavements don’t make any difference, so long as they get their hands on johnny, it’s all good!

Psychological Conditions

Sex has two sides – physical and psychological. So far, we’ve dealt only with physical conditions, but just as important are the psychological ones.

What fantasies spur her? What thoughts does she focus on? Later on, it will be clearer to you how a woman’s thoughts and frame of mind affect her ability to cum. Suffice it is to say here, for now, that psychological pressures make reaching orgasm difficult for a girl.

So there it is, six things to look for when your girl schools you. It may sound complicated, but it’s really not that bad, especially when you see her with eyes closed, completely enjoying herself. Don’t you want to give her that same bliss?

Ask her to show you. As the Chinese saying goes, “He who asks is a fool for 5 minutes, but he who does not remains a fool forever.”

Filed Under: Masturbation Tagged With: clitoris, female masturbation, female orgasm, masturbation, orgasm

Top 10 Female Masturbation Tips

By loveandsex

Whether you only have time for a quick feel-good session with yourself, or whether you have all the time in the world, the following list provides a method for every woman to maximize her benefit from a beautiful masturbation experience. Right now, take a little look-see to find out which one(s) fit your personality and schedule.

Skin to Skin Contact

The Pattie Cake

With your pointer and middle fingers, gently pat your clitoris. Vary the pressure and the speed. Your little man in the boat will stand at attention. Your inner labia and clitoris will feel sticky sweet and warm up. The inside of your vagina will overflow with your love fluid. Directly before you come, push those same two fingers into your sticky sweetness. Rub the natural lubricant from inside of you onto your clitoris, and rub hard until you come.

The Sandwich Cookie

Imagine your first two fingers as the hard cookies that sandwich a creamy filling. Gently grip your clitoris between your first two fingers. Stroke your clitoris with your other hand. Vary the pressure and speed until you come.

The Open-Faced Sandwich

Use the palm of your outstretched hand, gently pat and then push down gently. Continue with this rhythm until you begin to feel hot. When you are almost to the end, just push and let go, push and let go, never letting your hand leave skin contact.

The Pulsing Pelvis

Begin touching yourself with your fingers how you like it the best. Start to softly contract your leg muscles in order for your pelvis to gently pulse in a rhythm reminiscent of lovemaking with a partner. Rock up and down, up and down, until you come.

Take a Dip

In the Pool

Spread your legs as far as you can while positioning yourself in front of one of the jets in your pool or hot tub. Stand far enough away from the jet so it is not uncomfortable for you, then move closer and closer until the stimulation is just the right amount to jet you into orgasm.

With Your Shower Head

Use your handheld shower head to masturbate. Actually take the shower head off of its hook and press it on your clitoris. Rub softly. Rub firmly. Alternate between the two extremes, or find a middle ground. Always synchronize your motions to escalate the masturbation experience.

In Your Bathtub

Get into your dry bathtub and sit directly underneath the faucet. Make sure the faucet is aimed directly at your clitoris. Turn the water on warm and let the flow of water hit your clitoris. Use your elbows to hold up your upper body and stick your hands underneath your butt. Right before your orgasm, turn the water temperature to hot … a comfortable hot … and let yourself come.

Common Toys

Dig the Shovel

You can use whatever object turns you on. Pick out a vibrator or anything you like. Mimicking a gently digging motion, use the toy to play with your clitoris. Slide your toy down your clitoris, across your clitoris, and upward, removing the object entirely from your body. Repeat until you reach orgasm.

It’s Electric

When using an electric toothbrush to stimulate your clitoris, simply use it as if it were a vibrator. Touch softly at first, and then as you get more excited, get into a rhythm of hard, soft, or medium pressure. Go up, down, all around, in little circles. Find the motion that suits you the best.

A Play Station

Use a Metal Gear Solid CD on your Sony Playstation, and grab the vibrating controller. Follow the same instructions for the electric toothbrush and the rest is easy. Find yourself. You’ll figure out what to do.

If you have already tried all of the above masturbation tips for women, try adding your own personalized touch on variations to these techniques. If this still isn’t doing it for you, stay tuned for the next set of tips from the professionals.

If you follow the previous tips, you too will experience the self-satisfying beauty of climactic joy through masturbation. When you find something new that works for you, you can share your little secret with your partner.

Filed Under: Masturbation Tagged With: female masturbation, how to masturbate, masturbation, sex tips

Hot Sex Positions For A Handjob

By michaelwebb

A handjob can actually be a sexy thing to give to your partner. Here are some fun sex positions to try when you want to give your partner some manual love.

It’s important to find a comfortable place for both you and your partner before embarking on a handjob. How do you know what is the right position? Experiment! You and your partner should work with different positions until you both find something comfortable.

Facing Each Other

He’ll love to see the look on your face as you play with his cock. Look at his member like you are actually in love with it, that it is beautiful and wonderful (it really is one of the most amazing parts of the anatomy). You enjoying the sight and feel of his penis will be a huge turn on for him.

Traditional Kneeling

Kneel in front of your partner while he is sitting in a chair or on the edge of the bed (like fellatio).

The “Movie Theater” Handjob

Sit side by side on the couch or the bed (or other surface). If you reach over while he’s watching TV or a movie and jerk him off it will be one of his fantasies coming true.

Relaxation To The Max

Sit in between your partner’s legs while he is lying down. This is great for him as he can completely relax.

Backwards Handjob

Sit beside your partner but lean over in a way that you are facing his feet

Doggy Style

You can be either under him while he is in the position – or to the side of him. Or have him spread his legs wide in this position and you can be behind him and grab his goodies from between his legs. It is a great angle for you to touch and tease and play with his ball sac – which is extremely erotic for almost all men.

On Your Knees

Kneel while your partner is standing. This position is often used in combination with a blowjob but it can be used solely for a handjob.

Lying Down

Lie beside your partner. If you undress, he’ll be able to play with your breasts and you can even kiss while you stroke.

Road Job

Try this while driving down the road (the recipient should NOT be the one behind the wheel!) or in your car at the drive in theater. Splurge for a limo with a privacy screen and make another fantasy come true.

Fun In The Tub

Have him sit on the edge of the bathtub – feet in the water, while you are in the tub stroking him like a mermaid.

Extra Hands

Stand with your partner facing away from you (this is particularly fun if you slip up behind him, rubbing on him, then reach around and unzip his pants — never let him turn around — but work him to where he looks down and only sees your hand while the rest of your body is pressed into his). He will have a free hand to reach around and explore between your legs without actually “seeing” you.

Women love this position because it can also be used with the surprise “sneak into the shower and give him a handjob when he least expects it” act. Soap or shampoo on your hands will feel amazing to him when you try this move. Although if soap or shampoo get inside his penis it can burn like the dickens, and will continue every time he pees for the next few days. So, if you use soap or shampoo just stay away from his penis head. He’ll love the slippery suds on his shaft, balls and between his legs. A safer alternative is silicone lube.

This is probably one of the best positions for bringing your guy to orgasm because if you are behind him your strokes and motions will be closer to how he has stroked himself to orgasm over the years. Guys who frequently masturbate actually train their penis to come more easily with particular strokes or patterns.

How To Tell If He’s Enjoying It

As long as you and your partner keep an open mind and keep the lines of communication open, you are likely to find several genital massage positions that work well for you. Just make sure to communicate! If something is not working for either you or your partner, it is important that you speak up about it and let the other know immediately! As long as you do so in a kind and gentle manner, no one will get offended by it. This applies to all aspects of giving a handjob (not just the positioning).

Just because he is not having an orgasm in a certain handjob position does not mean he is not thoroughly enjoying it. In fact, learn what positions and techniques feel great to him but do not take him over the top. You’ll want to use those when it is your desire to give him an extended hand job or if you are using a hand job as foreplay and want to climax with intercourse.

Filed Under: Masturbation Tagged With: foreplay, handjob, masturbation, sex positions, sex tips

9 Smokin’ Hot Handjob Techniques

By loveandsex

A great handjob or blowjob has three elements. Its WET, its WARM and it has good suction/friction.

When beginning a genital massage it is typically best to start with lighter, irregular strokes – like teasing. Do a wide variety to touches and strokes early on. Be quite playful. As you go further and further into the genital massage, stick with two or three main strokes that your partner really enjoys but do mix them up until you are ready for the big finale.

Eventually you will want to develop a good rhythm that your partner can get into – that is the key to bringing your partner to orgasm with a genital massage. When your partner is arriving at an orgasm, it is very important that you don’t vary your technique at all! Moving even slightly into a different hand position can bring your partner back down from the brink and cause you to have to start bringing him back up again. If your partner is close to having an orgasm, the same stroke over and over will push him over the edge! You know how it works with rubbing your clitoris! Not much difference here.

1. Use More Lube Than You Think You Need

Use an excessive amount of lube if you know he can get cleaned up afterwards. If you are at his office in the high rise you can’t be quite as liberal with the slick stuff. Lots of lube will give him a super-sexy, ultra-slippery feeling all over his scrotum, penis and perineum. You can probably never use too much lube, the slicker the better.

2. Tickle Him First

Begin by just using the tips of your fingers. Let them float all around your partner’s penis, pressing lightly and then moving into a firmer press.

3. Use Your Palms

Roll the shaft of his penis in between your palms. You can do this lightly or harder if your partner likes more stimulation. Some guys like it if you shake his member gently and then toss it back and forth between your hands (open-palmed). Obviously you do that more when it is still a bit soft.

4. Stroke With Both Hands

Take one hand and wrap it around his shaft, pulling towards the head. As you’re finishing the stroke with that hand, begin a new stroke with the other hand. Be careful not to pull too hard, however, because anything more than a gentle to a medium pull can give your partner the uncomfortable sensation that he is being “milked” or that you are rubbing his skin raw.

5. The Big “O”

Do a reverse of the technique above. Make an “O” with your hand and put it on the top of his penis and push it down so the head pokes through. As you are moving your hand down take your other hand and do that same. Then take the bottom hand and move it on top. Do this in smooth succession like he is entering an endless vagina.

6. Stimulate His Head

Hold the base of the shaft firmly with one hand while rubbing your palm on the head. This traps blood at the head, making it more sensitive to whatever you’re stroke you’re using on the head.

7. Twist It Up

Give a long stroke from the base all the way to the tip of the head in a twisting motion. You can twist up the entire penis or save the twisting until you reach the head for a varied effect. Put both hands on your partner’s member, one at the base and the other at the head. Use the above technique, but twist with both hands at the same time. You can also twist in different directions to spice up the move.

8. Different Strokes For Different Folks

Try using different strokes with your partner’s shaft pointed in different directions. This causes blood to flow in different areas, making him more sensitive to your movements.

9. Give Him A Ring

Make your thumb and forefinger form a ring around the base of your partner’s penis. Move this ring up and down the shaft in long strokes. You can do this gently or in a more firm fashion depending on the stage of genital massage your partner is in.

Filed Under: Masturbation Tagged With: better sex, foreplay, handjob, masturbation, sex tips

How to Finger A Girl

By leejenkins

There’s a real, hot sexiness to being able to bring your woman to a climax by just using your fingers.

Consider the fact that her body is – literally – under the command of your fingers and that you are able to WATCH her intently as you bring her to writhing pleasure.

Now, isn’t that sexy and hot?

Here are some tips on how to finger a girl:

Pre-Fingering Foreplay

Surprisingly, not all women like to be fingered by their lovers. This can be due to many reasons such as issues about hygiene, trust and may be even fear.

If your partner has some of these issues, it may be wise to pre-discuss the topic of fingering beforehand just to ensure that she’s at least open to the idea of it happening. Otherwise, you can slowly introduce fingering as you make love.

But before that, here’s rule No. 1: engage in foreplay! Foreplay ensures that you and your partner are in the right sexual frame of mind and body needs, making her just possibly a bit more open to being fingered.

Explore The Landscape Gently

If this is your first time to finger her, then ensure that you do everything you can to avoid any hang ups. For instance, ensure that your nails are cut and that your hands are clean (takes care of the issue of hygiene).

But more importantly, be gentle in your finger exploration. A woman’s body is all warmness and softness, right? As such, don’t go in there like an excited teenager. Instead, be respectful of her body as you go in and explore.

Also, using your fingers to simulate a woman’s genitals is not just about insertion. Be sure you pay attention to her labia (genital lips) and clitoris too.

Experiment With Different Textures, Pressures, And Movements

Not all parts of a woman’s genital area can be stimulated in the exact same way. For instance, a lot of women like their labia to be gently caressed, their clitoris to be rubbed and their G-spots to be tapped.

Now – again – not all women are the same so find the right combination that your lover finds the most sexually stimulating. And of course, as you try all these different sexual stimulation combos, don’t forget to pay attention to her! Moaning is good, jerking is not.

Time Is Of No Consequence

Don’t go about fingering your woman with a certain time frame in mind. You may ‘hit the jackpot’ right away, maybe not. Just give both yourselves time to get used to the different sensations. This is actually one of those times when the journey is as good as the destination.

How To Deal With Fingering Fatigue

In the course of your exploration, you might find yourself getting a tad tired but don’t give up and especially, don’t just stop and leave your lover in the cold! If you’re feeling a bit tired, try any of these: switch hands if you can, stop finger stimulation and go oral for a few minutes, stop finger stimulation and use a sex toy for a while, and others.

More Tips on How To Finger A Girl

  1. Lube, anyone? Finger stimulation works best if your partner is really wet. If not, ensure you have a healthy backup of lube ready for use.
  2. Learn and be a voyeur at the same time. Not sure how to please her down there? If so, ask her to masturbate in front of you so that you learn how to pleasure her exactly the way she wants it.
  3. Learn when to stop. As you become more and more enthralled about bringing your lover to an orgasm just by using your fingers, it’s equally important to know when to stop trying. Too much friction can actually numb her genitals and when that occurs, reaching a climax is almost next to impossible so better stop now… and start again another day.
  4. Learn effective fingering techniques! Head over to the link below to learn 2 step-by-step “Advanced Fingering Techniques” to bring your lover to multiple escalating orgasms.

Filed Under: Masturbation Tagged With: fingering, how to finger a girl, how to masturbate, masturbation, sex tips

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