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4 Things You Need Before Giving A Handjob

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A handjob seems easy enough to do, not always. If you want to give your guy the handjob of his life, be sure to have these handjob essentials before you start.

There are several things you need to do before getting started on your man’s member. While he doesn’t have to do as much grooming and freshening up for a handjob (think of it as a great way to please your man after he’s mowed the lawn), you may have to put in a little more effort on your part.

1. Groom Your Hands

Make sure your hands are soft and your nails are clipped. Nothing can be more frustrating than for a man to be quite aroused but having his penis get snagged by a hangnail mid-job. Generally, women have soft hands but if you notice any calluses or rough spots, you might want to take care of those first before beginning the massage.

Get some good lotion and let the lanolin soak in so your hands will the soft as an infants. Last but not least, be aware if you have any cuts or open sores on your hand. If you do and aren’t sure if your partner has a sexually transmitted disease (or if you know that he does), be sure to wear latex or vinyl gloves for the job. Gloves are also great if you do have calluses or rough spots on your hands and most guys love them (contrary to popular belief) because it gives the massage a slicker, more uniform feeling.

2. Use Lube!

Get some lube. No, lotion simply won’t do – it is too thick and gloppy! Think twice before using oil if you plan on having intercourse using a condom later (it can break down a condom quickly). Lube isn’t that expensive and works much better for the task at hand (no pun intended) – make sure you get the water based lubricant as well.

Have it ready by the bed (or venue of choice) so that when you begin, you can easily coat your hands and your partner’s penis with the substance. You can put it in a bucket of hot water or even a small crock pot so it stays warm throughout the handjob. You will most likely need to reapply throughout the massage. Slipperier/wetter is better!

There are now all sorts of “fantasy” lubes on the market now. You can get lube that warms, lube that cools, is flavored, is organic (no chemicals) or even desensitizes which is good if your man comes too quickly with your touch.

Note: IF YOU ARE GOING TO USE OIL – one recommendation is to use grape seed oil. It slides well and is all natural. You can pull it out of the cabinet in the kitchen for an impromptu handjob while dinner is simmering. Never use oil if you plan to use a condom later – the oil will degrade the condom and make it more susceptible to tearing or breakage.

3. Get Your Stuff Together

Have other items of interest ready. This goes without saying, really. If you plan on using gloves or condoms for added protection, have those ready to go (it helps to have the condom already unwrapped). If you want to use edible items or other props (such as feathers, etc.) you will want to get those out and set up next to the area in which you will be giving the genital massage.

Less time fumbling around with items that you’re going to use equates to a more enjoyable experience with your partner. Also make sure any toys you might be using are within reach.

4. Get Comfortable

Make your partner comfortable – and you too! This is actually a very important part regarding erotic massage that is often given very little or no thought. First of all, if your partner is not comfortable, his enjoyment will be hindered somewhat – making it more difficult for him to have an orgasm or the fantastic one you are planning to give.

If the woman is uncomfortable, she will tire of massaging her partner’s genitals more quickly and easily than if she were set up well and relaxed. So, unless you are wanting the handjob to be “risky” or “surprising” (like in his office or in the woods), find a comfortable place in which to give your partner the genital massage. You can also add extra comfort by propping either you or your partner (or both!) up on soft pillows.

Be sure to position yourself so that your hands and arms will not become tired easily. The bed is an obvious choice but also consider a sofa (one that is protected or cleans up easily) or an office chair that leans back. Most men do like to lounge back while they are masturbating or receiving handjobs as it is usually a comfortable position and allows for the thrusting of the hips.

Female Masturbation – 5 Shower Favorites!

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Female masturbation exists and the tub is one of the ladies’ preferred places because it’s so easy and private. Here are five ways women masturbate in the tub!

With A Detachable/Massage Showerhead

This is perhaps the easiest female masturbation techniques for the bathtub. A detachable showerhead is perfect, because it allows the girl to aim the stream of water wherever she wants it – either on her whole vulva or directly on the clitoris. A massage showerhead is even better, because it features several different pulsating patterns. A detachable massage showerhead is pretty much a water squirting vibrator.

A massage showerhead that doesn’t detach is still a female masturbation fave, because a girl can still lie on the bottom of the tub underneath the water, and let the water pulsate on her vulva. She can angle her body any way she likes to get the sensations she desires.

Under The Bathtub Faucet

This works well for women who either have only a tub or can’t use their showerhead for female masturbation for one reason or another. A woman will scoot her bottom up all the way to the front of the tub, so she can place her vulva directly underneath the running tub faucet. This works better for smaller women or ladies who are more flexible, because the position required to get adequate stimulation to the clitoris can be quite difficult to get into.

With A Waterproof Sex Toy

Having a waterproof sex toy on hand is probably the easiest way to get off in the water. Female masturbation has endless possibilities when you use sex toys to reach orgasm. A waterproof sex toy can be used while standing in the water or submerged in the tub.

A few tips for buying sex toys for the tub:

  • Look for rechargeable ones that don’t require batteries. They are longer lasting and much easier to use.
  • Pay attention to whether it is “waterproof” or “splashproof.” “Splashproof” generally means that bodily fluids and some splashing won’t bother it, but it’s not really suitable for the tub. Don’t assume anything is waterproof just because it looks like it is – make sure the box or toy specs state that it is.
  • Invest in silicone lube. It works much, much better in the water and doesn’t rinse right off like water based lube does. Yeah, you’ll need soap and water to get it all the way off, but it lasts longer in a wet environment. Just make sure any sex toys you’re using with silicone lube aren’t also made out of silicone as this will degrade your toy more quickly.

Good, Old Fashioned Fingering

Some girls are incredibly discreet about their female masturbation habits. For this reason, many of them choose not to use any sex toys that could get them caught. This is also why the bathroom is such a great place for masturbation – you can do so under the ruse of washing up and usually no one will bother you.

Many women will simply use their fingers when masturbating in the bathroom. Fingers are readily available and covering up what you’re doing should someone walk in the bathroom is much easier since you don’t really have anything to hide anywhere.

Electric Toothbrushes, Shampoo Bottles, Etc.

Many ladies get creative when it comes to female masturbation in the bathroom. If they don’t have any sex toys on hand (which many girls don’t because they don’t want to spend the money or are afraid someone will find their stash), they can use a variety of things that are already in the bathroom.

For example, some girls use a spinning toothbrush on their clitoris instead of a vibrator. While a sex toy is much, much easier to use (and better) than a toothbrush, you can’t usually leave your sex toys out on the counter next to everyone else’s toothbrushes without getting caught. Slick shampoo bottles and even bars of soap can be used to slide around the clitoris during a bath.

Investing in a great sex toy to use in the bath is probably your best bet, but if you’re in a pinch, look around – you probably have something you can use. Just steer clear of razors of any kind (ouch!) and make sure you have another toothbrush on hand you can use if you end up getting yours “dirty.” In fact, buying a brand new one from the store so you can distinguish between the two is probably a really good idea.

8 Handjob Techniques That Will Turn His Knees To Jelly

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A handjob can be even more satisfying than a blowjob for a guy if you do it the right way. Check out these handjob moves that will leave your lover breathless!

1. Involve His Balls

Use any stroke that involves just one hand in combination with strokes that involve pulling, tugging, holding, cupping and lightly massaging your partner’s scrotum.

2. Start The Fire

Start at the base and pull gently upward while twisting (but not too hard) as if you were trying to start a fire with a stick of wood.

3. Thumb Massage

Hold your partner’s penis firmly in both hands and use your thumbs only to massage your partner’s shaft and head. You can do this in strokes or circles, depending on what your partner likes best.

4. Stimulate The P-Spot

Utilize the above technique (one-handed stroke combined with the other hand massaging another area) on the perineum. This will create delightful sensations between his “G-spot” and his penis. This move will bring your partner to orgasm quickly and it is a great move to use while he finishes off. If your partner enjoys this move, you can use it as the core of your genital massage.

5. Squeeze The Lemon

With a well lubed hand, cup your hand on top of his penis head and twist like you were squeezing a lemon on an old fashioned juicer.

6. Play With His Foreskin If He’s Uncircumcised

If your partner is uncircumcised, have fun with his foreskin. Massage it, pull it gently and twist it around to create a variety of sensations. Ask him to play with it in front of you so you can see what he likes to do with it.

7. Side To Side

While sitting in front of him on the bed – put both of your hands out as if you are going to “clap” and place one on each side of his penis – this side to side flat palmed action will be a different sensation and allows you both full view of his rock hard penis. It’s different for him from the way he would normally pleasure himself with his own hand.

8. Dry Massage

For a different approach, try a dry massage. Your partner may find this uncomfortable, however, especially if the skin around his penis is very tight and does not allow for much movement. This only works with light touches. When stroking his penis in a dry massage, just hold the skin tight enough so when you move your hand up and down the skin does not move but rather the inside of the penis moves. Men don’t always have the luxury of having lube on hand when they masturbate and they do just fine with a dry jerk off. It just takes a gentler touch.

How To Give Him A Handjob That Will Trump All Handjobs

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Handjobs are like snowflakes, no two are alike. But how do you give a really, really special handjob? You know, the kind: the ones that are hot, sexy, and stand the test of time. Truly earth shattering and amazing handjobs. We have your tips and tricks to best handle the dicks.

What “She Said” About Giving A Great Handjob

Monkey See. Monkey Do.

There is something so magical about handjobs! Maybe its the remembrance of prom dances of the past or the thrill of discovering yourself.

But giving a good hand job is an art form that any woman should do her best to master. The key to giving him a hand job that will trump all hand jobs is to cater it to what he likes and of course lube!

The best way to cater to what he likes is to pay attention to what he does when he plays with himself. If you have not gotten to the level of masturbating in front of each other, have no fear! You can ask him while making out how he likes to pleasure himself (maybe don’t use those exact words though). A simple”show me” or “i think it’s so hot to watch you play with yourself”. Then as he starts jerking off, pay attention! Watch his grip, speed and pace. Then when you feel like you can take over, grab hold of his cock and let him sit back and relax.

Another way to give him a handjob that will trump all handjobs is remember to be gentle!

Yes it’s called jerking off but pay attention to what he likes. Listen to his moans! You can also straight up and ask him if he likes what you are doing, if he wants you to switch it up or change your pace. And while you are so close to his ear, you might as well let out some moans of your own and let him know how much you enjoy pleasuring him.

Maintain Eye Contact

Once you have him in hand, keep maintaining eye contact with him. This can intensify things for him and be super hot. Of course you do not want to stare at him the whole time, mix it up! Make out with him kiss his neck and chest.

Lube It Up

Another way to give him a handjob that will trump all handjobs is lube! Lube is the best invention since the hand job was invented. And I am not talking about regular lotion here. I mean really good, slick, moist, wet lube! Lube that has only one purpose and it is for sex and handjobs.

You can find lube everywhere from sex shops to target! KY has some great lube if you are shy, or specific sex store sell lubes for different appetites if you are daring. Regardless, once you have the lube use it! Let it slide all over your hands as you wrap them around his member. I guarantee he will be in paradise.

Enthusiasm

And lastly, the number one thing that will make you the best at giving him a hand job is your enthusiasm! BE excited to get him off and tell him how much you like it and of course let him know he is a god with a penis like you have never laid hands on!

What “He Said” About Giving A Great Handjob

Focus

The most important key to giving a great handjob is focus. You need to care about nothing else on earth except giving the best handjob on record. You need to do it like the fate of the world depends on it. You need to work that cock like it’s the first time you’ve ever had your hands on it, and that you’re finally getting your hands on it after a long, long wait.

Patience And Variety

The other thing is patience, you need to make him ride the wave of pleasure with your handjob. Give it to him fast, then slow, get him on the verge of coming, then back off, vary speeds from kind of fast to super slow to really fast to you know.=

Eye Contact Is Key

Keep eye contact while giving the handjob at all costs. You don’t need to do anything with your eyes except devour him. He needs to feel wanted. You have to have him, and you love worshipping his cock. You are the goddess who is the center of his universe and you love worshipping at the altar of his member. That dick is your key to heaven and you’re going to make sure you get there.

That shit is hot. So is spitting on it. But that’s another story, a porn story…

Masturbation – 3 Ways To Make It Feel More Like A Vagina

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If guys masturbate often (and they do) it’s not at all unusual for the same masturbation techniques to get boring. You’d like to create some different feelings, perhaps try to recreate the feeling of a vagina or just all out make your orgasms through masturbationbetter than you’ve ever had before. Here are some great things to try if you want to spice up your masturbation routine and create vagina-like sensations with using sex toys or some things you have at home!

Question: Recently, masturbating has been getting very boring for me. What are some ways I can get the feeling of a vagina to my penis while masturbating (without any sex toys)?

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Using Enough Lube

Some men masturbate without lube, and others don’t use enough. If you’re masturbating with out lube, it’s time to go get you a bottle stat! The right sexual lubricant – and enough of it – will make masturbation feel so much better than if you’re not using lube at all. Lube the single most important component of male masturbation and if you want to recreate the feeling of a warm, wet vagina, lube is going to be your best friend. In fact, a generous amount of lube may be all you need to take your masturbation to the next level! For male masturbation, silicone lube is probably your best bet, although water based lubricant is great and works well for just about anything. Silicone lube does last a little bit longer and is slightly more difficult to wash off, but that’s not usually an issue because the penis is so easy to clean.

Using Different Hand Techniques

Try using both hands when you masturbate instead of just one, or grip your penis with one hand and lay face down on the bed, thrusting into your hand as you would if you were thrusting into a woman’s vagina. The latter, with a good amount of lube, can feel warm and wet, just like a vagina. By using your body to move your penis in and out of your hand (instead of the other way around) you’re recreating the feeling of having sex rather than just masturbating. Don’t be afraid to try different hand techniques when masturbating because even the simplest change in how you hold your hand, how tight you grip it or which fingers you’re using can make all the difference in the world!

Using A Condom And A Warm Towel

Another trick to recreate the feeling of a vagina during masturbation without using sex toys is to use a condom, lube and a warm (not hot) towel. Squirt a generous amount of lube in the condom and then put the condom on your penis. Using a condom that is a little larger than your penis may benefit you here, although you would want to switch to properly fitting condoms when you have sex. You can also use a female condom if you like. Wrap a warm towel around your penis after you put the condom on, and grip the warm towel and move it back and forth when you masturbate. This is a great way to recreate the “warm, wet” feeling of a vagina. There are lots of other homemade sex toys that men have tried, such as using an empty paper towel or toilet paper roll or other items found around the house. Talk about ouch! That’s why many men choose to use male sex toys for masturbation instead of using items found around the house – it just works so much better!

Masturbating With Sex Toys

Sex toys are often used for female masturbation, but there are lots of sex toys for boys that are available too! Male masturbators are often made from soft, squishy silicone that is formed into a sleeve that slips over the penis. With a good amount of lube, the silicone sleeves create multiple sensations during masturbation. Many male masturbators are smooth and squishy, while others have textured or ribbed insides for his pleasure. If you’ve never tried using a sex toy for masturbation, you might want to consider it. There’s nothing embarassing about using the right sex toy for what you want to do, and male masturbators can take your orgasms to the next level. Most sex toys for boys are inexpensive and easy to use, even if you’ve never used one before. Many men who use a male masturbator have never gone back to regular masturbation with their hand because the sex toy just feels so good!